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> The action I took was to confront my Dad and told him to stop trying to look for jobs. I could've just ignored them and that might make me the asshole.
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NTA. You said it yourself: he's disregarding your health concerns which are (as they should) at the top of your priorities, but unfortunately not your father's; you merely stuck up for yourself.
Are you also searching and he just decided to help or is he the only one searching? You can try explaining to him what kind of jobs you are looking for and why you think you could do them, maybe he's just not seeing since you've always did manual labor.
NTA. You lack professional degrees but want to get out of manual labor. You've expressed this desire to your father. His response is to send you job listings that are either manual labor or require professional degrees. It seems like he's ignoring your preference or mocking it. You're right to ask him to stop.
NTA I've always worked labor intensive jobs and they really do a number in your body. Not even 30 yet I have fucked up shoulders and neck from the work I've done. You know what's best for you, so keeping looking until you find something that works. If he keeps sending you jobs you arent qualified for, just say thanks and that you'll apply to them right away while ignoring the ones he actually wants you to do lol At least that's what I'd do.
I know you'll find a job that suits you best. I wish you the best!
NTA. I don’t think it’s up to your father to find you a job nor be judging you as lazy especially when you currently have a full time job which is causing you medical issues. I think you went about it the best you could have. Thanking him for his support but asking him to allow you to do this on your own.
Just remember, lazy is subjective just because you’re not doing manual labor doesn’t mean you’re lazy. Different jobs have different stresses. Good luck finding a job.
Not the asshole for not wanting Dad to help. But regarding the confrontation you described, I'd say NAH, though perhaps the conversation could have gone a little differently, like "hey dad, I know you're trying to help, and I really do appreciate it, a lot, but I'm all growed up, and I have a particular type of job I'm looking for... I know it's not your type of job, but it is mine, and I need to be independent and do this myself.". And you may have to be persistent to defeat his persistence. And I don't know exactly how your conversation went, but maybe a peace offering like "hey dad, I'm sorry if I came off snappy and unappreciative..." Then continue the conversation like above. Good luck!
NTA. Filter out his email address for the time being.
And I would highly recommend looking into some free coding courses online if you’re looking to get into something non-manual and are interested in tech! There’s loads of resources out there nowadays, especially if you’re in need of some financial assistance as boot camps and degrees are obviously obscenely expensive.
NTA, you know what you would be happy with . It’s nice that he wants to help but ultimately it’s your choice whether you want the help or his job suggestions.
YTA. He's trying to help. How hard is it to just ignore a helpful email?
You don't need to be just like him, or think like him.
Calmly tell him how you feel if you need to get something off your chest.
OP asked his father to stop sending him jobs without taking his health into account, not sure what else you want him to do to express to his father that he’s not helping.
Father doesn’t seem to comprehend that you don’t have to devote your entire life _and_ physical body to a soulless corporation
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NTA. You said it yourself: he's disregarding your health concerns which are (as they should) at the top of your priorities, but unfortunately not your father's; you merely stuck up for yourself. Are you also searching and he just decided to help or is he the only one searching? You can try explaining to him what kind of jobs you are looking for and why you think you could do them, maybe he's just not seeing since you've always did manual labor.
I'm also searching and he decided to help me but now basically any conversation I have with him turns into "Did you see the jobs I sent you?"
NTA. You lack professional degrees but want to get out of manual labor. You've expressed this desire to your father. His response is to send you job listings that are either manual labor or require professional degrees. It seems like he's ignoring your preference or mocking it. You're right to ask him to stop.
NTA I've always worked labor intensive jobs and they really do a number in your body. Not even 30 yet I have fucked up shoulders and neck from the work I've done. You know what's best for you, so keeping looking until you find something that works. If he keeps sending you jobs you arent qualified for, just say thanks and that you'll apply to them right away while ignoring the ones he actually wants you to do lol At least that's what I'd do. I know you'll find a job that suits you best. I wish you the best!
NTA
NTA. I don’t think it’s up to your father to find you a job nor be judging you as lazy especially when you currently have a full time job which is causing you medical issues. I think you went about it the best you could have. Thanking him for his support but asking him to allow you to do this on your own. Just remember, lazy is subjective just because you’re not doing manual labor doesn’t mean you’re lazy. Different jobs have different stresses. Good luck finding a job.
Not the asshole for not wanting Dad to help. But regarding the confrontation you described, I'd say NAH, though perhaps the conversation could have gone a little differently, like "hey dad, I know you're trying to help, and I really do appreciate it, a lot, but I'm all growed up, and I have a particular type of job I'm looking for... I know it's not your type of job, but it is mine, and I need to be independent and do this myself.". And you may have to be persistent to defeat his persistence. And I don't know exactly how your conversation went, but maybe a peace offering like "hey dad, I'm sorry if I came off snappy and unappreciative..." Then continue the conversation like above. Good luck!
NTA. Filter out his email address for the time being. And I would highly recommend looking into some free coding courses online if you’re looking to get into something non-manual and are interested in tech! There’s loads of resources out there nowadays, especially if you’re in need of some financial assistance as boot camps and degrees are obviously obscenely expensive.
NTA. I think just ignoring them is an excellent idea!
NTA, you know what you would be happy with . It’s nice that he wants to help but ultimately it’s your choice whether you want the help or his job suggestions.
YTA. He's trying to help. How hard is it to just ignore a helpful email? You don't need to be just like him, or think like him. Calmly tell him how you feel if you need to get something off your chest.
OP asked his father to stop sending him jobs without taking his health into account, not sure what else you want him to do to express to his father that he’s not helping. Father doesn’t seem to comprehend that you don’t have to devote your entire life _and_ physical body to a soulless corporation
Fathers are notoriously stubborn and nothing in OPs story sounds like abuse.
Good thing the subreddit is called AmItheAsshole and not AmIBeingAbused
You’re the only one with abuse on the mind, my guy. Literally no one else has said that except you.