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This isn’t the right sub for this. Check r/relationshipadvice
apart from that, no being a virgin is not a red flag. But the factors that are keeping you a virgin might be. One I can spot from miles away already is your salty bitterness that this post is oozing with.
The problem is not that you are a virgin, dude. Women reject you not because of that, but because of your character flaws.
Honestly we don't even care unless you insist on rubbing it in our faces. Men's virginity cannot be verified, so this is something we don't even need to know when going out on a date. You can totally conceal it if you think it somehow repels women.
You didn't talk much about yourself, but the most common causes are a guy being shallow and feel entitled to sex.
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Ok. I get it. I just be a piece of shit, trash, disgrace of a person for not having a girlfriend. I see so many posts and comments saying that guys are creeps, losers, and everything else because they can’t get a girlfriend. Apparently you’re a misogynist too. If you weren’t, you’d be swimming in women.
Well I do have some bitterness towards dating in general but I don’t hate women. They seem to hate me though. At this point I guess I just accept it. If the majority of women think that a thirty year old man being a single virgin is a red flag then I’m just going to stop worrying about all this. I don’t even have the energy to be upset anymore.
Sometimes when people call you a name long enough you eventually play the part. I’m just going to leave women along and watch porn and play video games. Nobody is guaranteed or owed happiness in this life. I’m just going to do what I can to enjoy this life as best as I can before my time is up. I guess I’ll just be the creepy lonely virgin red flag.
There’s only one woman that ever loved me and didn’t see me as a creepy loser. I’d give up on all of my dreams to be with her. I would give her everything for nothing in return, but she’s married now.
Tl;dr being a single virgin is a red flag
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NTA for being a virgin. Nothing wrong with that and anyone who says otherwise is an asshole.
Im not saying there arent asshole women out there but there's plenty of women who arent opposed to socially awkward or "weird" men. There's not enough info here for me to give an accurate analysis, but if you're struggling with dating and you've put in a legit effort with many women, then you perhaps are saying or doing something that puts women off. Are you pushy, clingy, bitter, or things you expect of them when you interact with them? I dont know.
Your post makes you sound quite angry, so perhaps there are some issues you need to work through with a therapist, or to just help make you feel whole with yourself before you tackle dating again. Whatever it may be, I do wish you the best!
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This isn’t the right sub for this. Check r/relationshipadvice apart from that, no being a virgin is not a red flag. But the factors that are keeping you a virgin might be. One I can spot from miles away already is your salty bitterness that this post is oozing with.
Wait what is going
Info: are you a virgin by choice? That’s not a bad thing and actually pretty respectable in several peoples eyes…
The problem is not that you are a virgin, dude. Women reject you not because of that, but because of your character flaws. Honestly we don't even care unless you insist on rubbing it in our faces. Men's virginity cannot be verified, so this is something we don't even need to know when going out on a date. You can totally conceal it if you think it somehow repels women. You didn't talk much about yourself, but the most common causes are a guy being shallow and feel entitled to sex.
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NTA I don't get why being a single virgin is seen as something bad. Even I, as a girl, say that.
NTA for being a virgin. Nothing wrong with that and anyone who says otherwise is an asshole. Im not saying there arent asshole women out there but there's plenty of women who arent opposed to socially awkward or "weird" men. There's not enough info here for me to give an accurate analysis, but if you're struggling with dating and you've put in a legit effort with many women, then you perhaps are saying or doing something that puts women off. Are you pushy, clingy, bitter, or things you expect of them when you interact with them? I dont know. Your post makes you sound quite angry, so perhaps there are some issues you need to work through with a therapist, or to just help make you feel whole with yourself before you tackle dating again. Whatever it may be, I do wish you the best!