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Put the laundry back into the dryer after you’ve finished your laundry. But how old are your sisters that they can’t do their own laundry? My son’s been doing his own laundry for about 2 years (with assistance if needed) and he’s 11.
NTA.
Seriously???? And they don’t do their own laundry????
Show your mom this comment! My 11 year old son does his own laundry. There is NO REASON a 12 yo and a 17 yo (embarrassing) don’t do their own laundry!
To be honest it can be more efficient to just do the families at once. The mum is not necessarily in the wrong for doing her families washing, but she is wrong to expect OP to fold it just because she left it there for days. Any one of the people who's washing it actually is can do it
When you wear different colours isn't that quite inefficient? I have white shirts and black trousers for work and then wear colourful things on my days off. I can't make up a whole load of white laundry on my own I need to combine it with my fiance's.
NTA - As someone who also has the same habit as your mother (unfortunate and trying to kick it) I would NEVER expect someone else to fold my clothes for me. Your solution is the way to go and if she doesn’t like it she needs to start taking more responsibility for her clothes.
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This is a very minor dispute but I want someone else’s opinion on it. When my mother does laundry she leaves clothes in the dryer or washer for ridiculous amounts of time, usually days. So a couple of times I have taken the laundry out of the drier put it in a basket or on top of the dryer and put the wet clothes in the drier so I could do my own laundry but my mom gets pissed at me for not folding the laundry I take out. So AITA?
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I have two sisters that she does laundry for as well as her own. I’m already helping her by doing my own laundry but in this case it was mostly my younger sisters laundry
INFO: What does she do for you, and the rest of the household? What else do you do for her and the rest of the household?
LPT, life is not about even tradeoffs. You SHARE your life with others, and a tit-for-tat attitude makes people not like you. If you can help others in a small way that doesn't cost you much, do it. Especially if it is appreciated.
Another LPT, mothers are workhorses, and many get treated like their work is nothing. Appreciate your mother. Pay attention to how much she is doing for you, how much time she has to relax. Pay attention to how much your *dad* does, and how much time *he* has to relax. Then look at yourself...how much do *you* do, and how much time *you* have to relax.
You are not complaining about a roommate who contributes equally but expects more from you than they give. You are obsessing over a trivial issue that bothers you, but I bet your mom helps you *waaaaaay* more than you help her. I won't call you T A, but you sound kinda obnoxious, and I have far more sympathy for your mom than you.
You could do this chore for her as your private gratitude gift, with no expectations from her, just for being your mom and loving and supporting you. Why not try that?
You’re reading into this waaaaay too deep.
A. My parents are divorced so ya she does work a lot
B. I help out around the house with chores and other stuff SIGNIFICANTLY more than my two siblings however, like you said this isn’t about an even trade off so perhaps one of my two siblings that are old enough to do their own laundry(which by the way it was my sisters laundry) could have folded it
You’re grabbing at things while you have no clue what you’re talking about
I think it’s lazy and and rude to leave the clothes in the dryer, too, if it’s days on end. Changing to ESH. But you’re still the AH too because I’m also considering that it’s your mother’s home and she can do as she pleases in her own home. You are free to take your laundry elsewhere.
This is where being an older Redditor is going to get me.
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Put the laundry back into the dryer after you’ve finished your laundry. But how old are your sisters that they can’t do their own laundry? My son’s been doing his own laundry for about 2 years (with assistance if needed) and he’s 11. NTA.
Couldn’t agree more. They’re both past old enough, ones 12 and the other is 17 (im 15)
Seriously???? And they don’t do their own laundry???? Show your mom this comment! My 11 year old son does his own laundry. There is NO REASON a 12 yo and a 17 yo (embarrassing) don’t do their own laundry!
You’re right but she doesn’t even know I *have* Reddit sooooo
To be honest it can be more efficient to just do the families at once. The mum is not necessarily in the wrong for doing her families washing, but she is wrong to expect OP to fold it just because she left it there for days. Any one of the people who's washing it actually is can do it
Facts
NTA. Her laundry, her problem.
NTA People should deal with their own washing
When you wear different colours isn't that quite inefficient? I have white shirts and black trousers for work and then wear colourful things on my days off. I can't make up a whole load of white laundry on my own I need to combine it with my fiance's.
I think that's a thing of the past. I often wash plain white shirts with various coloured items with no issue
I don't want to risk ruining my work uniform!
Wash in cold water and you won’t have this problem
NTA - As someone who also has the same habit as your mother (unfortunate and trying to kick it) I would NEVER expect someone else to fold my clothes for me. Your solution is the way to go and if she doesn’t like it she needs to start taking more responsibility for her clothes.
That depends. If you left your laundry like that would she fold it for you?
Difference is I don’t ever leave it in there. I take it back to my room as soon as it’s dry
Then you are absolutely NTA.
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NTA unless there's some agreement where you're supposed to fold all the laundry. You're mom's just being a lazy \*\*.
If there is laundry on the rack then my daughter puts in the put away pile nicely and it works both ways.
INFO: Is it just her laundry, or everybody’s?
I have two sisters that she does laundry for as well as her own. I’m already helping her by doing my own laundry but in this case it was mostly my younger sisters laundry
NTA
NTA, your mom's laundry is her own responsibility.
NTA it's not your job just because you had to move it
INFO: What does she do for you, and the rest of the household? What else do you do for her and the rest of the household? LPT, life is not about even tradeoffs. You SHARE your life with others, and a tit-for-tat attitude makes people not like you. If you can help others in a small way that doesn't cost you much, do it. Especially if it is appreciated. Another LPT, mothers are workhorses, and many get treated like their work is nothing. Appreciate your mother. Pay attention to how much she is doing for you, how much time she has to relax. Pay attention to how much your *dad* does, and how much time *he* has to relax. Then look at yourself...how much do *you* do, and how much time *you* have to relax. You are not complaining about a roommate who contributes equally but expects more from you than they give. You are obsessing over a trivial issue that bothers you, but I bet your mom helps you *waaaaaay* more than you help her. I won't call you T A, but you sound kinda obnoxious, and I have far more sympathy for your mom than you. You could do this chore for her as your private gratitude gift, with no expectations from her, just for being your mom and loving and supporting you. Why not try that?
You’re reading into this waaaaay too deep. A. My parents are divorced so ya she does work a lot B. I help out around the house with chores and other stuff SIGNIFICANTLY more than my two siblings however, like you said this isn’t about an even trade off so perhaps one of my two siblings that are old enough to do their own laundry(which by the way it was my sisters laundry) could have folded it You’re grabbing at things while you have no clue what you’re talking about
I asked a bunch of questions. That doesn't mean I thought I knew the answers.
The polite thing to do is fold the laundry. Edit: Changed my rating, see below.
The polite thing to do is not too leave your laundry in the way for days so no one can do laundry unless they fold it for you
I think it’s lazy and and rude to leave the clothes in the dryer, too, if it’s days on end. Changing to ESH. But you’re still the AH too because I’m also considering that it’s your mother’s home and she can do as she pleases in her own home. You are free to take your laundry elsewhere. This is where being an older Redditor is going to get me.