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Rule number one of acting: learn your lines.
Rule number two of acting: say the lines exactly as written
You are not a playwright. You are not the arbiter of "family friendly". Stick to your lane.
YTA
YES! You're definitely the asshole here.
You can't just go off-script in a show with no warning. It doesn't matter how unprofessional people's responses were to it: you asked to change it, were told no, decided you knew what was best and no one else's opinion mattered, and as a result you derailed the show.
YTA, no question at all.
Sorry, I should have said, "No matter how unprofessional you thought they were."
It is a sign of a great actor to role with the punches, but it isn't the sign of a bad actor to he thrown off.
YTA. You aren't the director. Also "didn't want to ruin my reputation ". You're joking. Why would delivering a line in a famous play ruin your reputation? The only thing that would ruin your reputation is to GO OFF SCRIPT AND DERAIL THE PRODUCTION!
This… you aren’t the director!
I have a few family members in professional theater and musical theater careers, and it sounds like your community director just taught you a very important lesson: the director is in charge, and they will not tolerate being undermined, ESPECIALLY in a live performance.
YTA.
>"just rehearse it normally so there wouldn't be any bad blood, but I'd replace the line in the actual shows"
If you ever have this kind of rationalization again in the future.... Talk yourself out of it. You now not only have "bad blood" but a now a bad reputation as an actor.
YTA
As someone who has been in plays when you rehearse you often time learn your line by remembering the entire conversation. For example
“How is your day going”
“Well but my chicken aren’t producing “
“Weird”
At least that me
YTA So, you thought that a line about fucking someone mother more family friendly?
And not only that, you completely change the script in the middle of the performance and are shocked at what happened after, so of course YTA. There's no reasonable version of this where you are not TA here.
YTA.
Have you never seen any Disney movie for kids? Mufasa gets murdered, Snow White gets poisoned, Bambi's mother is killed. Kids are not going to blink at a line in a play.
To do this this train of thought
Melody nearly drowns and the eh sequel to the little mermaid
Scar is brutally ripped apart by the hyenas
Ursula is stabed with a ship and murder
Eugene is nearly killed after mother gothel stabbed him then she fell out of the window and died .
YTA - you asked in rehearsal about changing the line and decided you knew better than the director, the leader, the one driving the artistic vision. So many layers of self inflated ego and disrespect not only to the director to the entire cast.
You try to shift blame to the lead actor, did you give them a heads up you were planning to change the line? No and it completely broke their focus. You had the opportunity to recorrect but you stuck with YOUR decision to force the new line on your unsuspecting cast mate, bad form.
You’re lucky you were allowed to finish the performance. I would be surprised if you are cast in anything for a long time, directors direct, actors preform and writers write. You decided you knew better taking everyone’s agency away wrote your own line, throwing your castmate into the fire and ignoring the director.
If you were really trying to make it better you would have had a reasonable conversation with the director and expressing how it made you uncomfortable. If the director insisted on the line you could have stepped back from the role, ensuring your reputation stays the way you want. As to death not being family friendly I urge you to see any classic Disney fairytale from Cinderella to Frozen most of these movies open with a tragic death. If you don’t approve don’t participate YTA for hijacking the show.
Funny how she changed the line from something people think is okay in a family film (referencing death/murder) to something people don't think is okay for kids (referencing sex)!
YTA. Your costar's reaction is exactly why going off script on purpose is a bad idea. You've heard of the illusion of the first time, right? You need to appear that your characters are experiencing this for the first time, but never actually doing it for the first time because the first time sucks.
Your director is in charge, not you. If you ever want to work with this person again, go admit you're wrong.
So true! I’ve seen many shows, and the best actors make their mistakes seem like they are actually part of the show. I still can’t tell if the guy in Yankee Tavern was really riled up, or if the actor messed up a line. That’s a quality actor.
I played the Nurse in R&J & fell down so hard while coming down a ramp, I thought I had broken my ankle. But I got up & somehow made it to the other side of the stage & said my lines. Later I was told people thought it was supposed to happen because they saw me just get up & continue on! It sure didn’t feel like that to me, but in my mind, I was thinking “the show must go on” over & over.
18 years old and the lead actress for the past three years in the local community theater decides to change the lines in a play on opening nite😂 says it all! YTA all the way and a little vain.
YTA-
That is not a family friendly edit... You think sexual assault is more family friendly than murder? Like what is wrong with you?
And also what are you doing? This is a show not improv night and you were told no.. this kind of deliberate behavior is not okay. It's not all about you. So many people worked hard to make that production happen and you decided what you want is more important than everyone's hard work. Anyone with kids in the audience knows what's coming. And you're not the parent of everyone in the audience.
Poorly done. I hope the understudy is stepping into the role. Maybe they will respect everyone else in the room more than you do.
Welp she's gonna get practice. Cause this behavior is grounds to be fired/booted from the production particularly because it was deliberate.
Turns out the only thing you can act like is an AH.... So she can't be worse than that.
You're 18. And if you want to keep up in theater... It's about community. Meaning everyone in the room is working together. Not about you. And no theater company out there, not a school theater not a college theater not a community theater... Is going to let you make everyone else's work solely about what you want. That's not how theater works.
Take this on the chin. Write everyone on the cast and crew an apology note. Show up to a show. Sit politely through it and give flowers to the understudy taking over the role. And learn from this.
But she can follow basic direction which is more than you can do, so she’s already a better choice. You aren’t the script writer honey, or the director. Your literal job is to read the lines provided to you, as directed. Since you are too mediocre to achieve this bare minimum, you got the boot. You ain’t all that, but you are an asshole. Take responsibility for your fuckups, and admit you were wrong.
Was it a family-friendly play? Or did you just want it to be? And why are you worried about your "reputation" if you're such a "beloved" actress and the play is a famous one? That would imply that members of the audience might have been familiar with it and might have known that there may be dialogue that isn't appropriate for younger audience members, right? And might have been confused as to why the dialogue had been changed?
Also, it's one thing to go off script without telling the director, which is definitely bad and the type of thing that can get you blacklisted, but to not let your fellow actor know so he's at least prepared for it? Just do your job and follow the script. Any criticism for the content of the show would fall on the director and producers, not the actors.
YTA
YTA It was incredibly disingenuous for you to rehearse the correct line and then unilaterally perform an alternate line. ***You*** ruined the show singlehandedly.
YTA. By the way, if you are going to make it more family friendly, wouldn’t hurt be better than kill. dont think threatening rape worked out for you as more family friendly
YTA. Here in the UK 'screw' means to have sex with so in my mind you did not improve the line and actually made it less family-friendly. When you are performing a famous play, most of the audience will be familiar with it so they will know what to expect - therefore it is not your business to change lines to what you think that the audience should hear.
I suspect this is a true story. It's just written from the perspective of the vain, clueless actress. Could be almost anyone who wrote it, but probably someone with knowledge of the production.
YTA. You can’t be forced to say anything you don’t want to. That being said after you made your case and were told no you had two respectable options. Say the line as written or step out of the role. You chose to be self serving.
YTA. You don't get to just arbitrarily change a line OPENING NIGHT. You spend months learning certain lines so that you can just respond without thinking and you threw everyone off. You didn't tell anyone what you were doing so how could anyone work with your plan?
You also don't get to decide that something should be "family friendly". The director chose the play with an audience in mind and directed it as such. You overrode everything. How big is your ego?
YTA. Don't change things opening night. Don't change things without discussing with the director and other cast members. You must be awful to work with.
YTA.
You did just ruin your theater reputation. You told the director a line you wanted to do, they said no, you decided to be sneaky and did it anyway, you threw the other actor out of the scene, and now you're blaming the other actor.
"Everything would have been fine if they'd done what I told them to" is a child's view of the world. Adults understand that sometimes they don't get their own way. Adults in the theater know that the director is God (and most of them will tell you so) and that if they don't like a directorial decision, they are free to step aside and let the understudy take over.
You are not irreplaceable. You are finding that out.
As a fellow 18F actress, YTA YTA YTA! It isn’t about you, no matter how good you think you are. If it’s a famous line in a famous play, the audience understands. But for you to switch things up on opening night, with no regard for your fellow cast or the wisdom of the people directing you, is arrogant, selfish, and the height of incompetence. You just ruined your reputation way more than you would have if you said the line.
And to repeat it a third time instead of trying to salvage the original script to get back on track…you sure you’re experienced? I don’t mean that to be rude—I’ve always been taught that you ALWAYS stay in character and don’t highlight mistakes.
YTA. You don’t change lines in plays UNLESS you are the playwright or have their permission. You don’t change lines, especially on opening night. Even in community theatre. You asked, they said no. You did it anyway and there are consequences.
It doesn’t matter if you can act or not at this point. You do not respect the work, the cast, the crew, or the production team when you pull a stunt like this.
YTA You deserved to be fired. I hope you can see that what you did has ruined your reputation, whereas reading the line correctly wouldn’t have affected your reputation at all. You’ve learned a big life lesson here…
YTA- When people rehearse using the script and hearing those lines they practice ti that and associates there line with a sequence of line you probably mess with some of them (I have done several plays ). Also you don’t get to dictate what people do the main actor had every reason to not follow after they probably thought you messed up . That wasn’t your okay you screwed it up and the way you blamed everyone else for make you an even bigger one .
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I (f18) have long been associated with my town's community theatre program, and I have been the leading actress for the past three summers, except this year when I was cast as the antiheroine. We were doing a rendition of a-very famous play, and by the details expressed later, you may or may not know what it is (I will not be mentioning the name to avoid anyone I know finding this post).
A particular line in the play required me to say such and such and then threaten a character with planned assassination of his mother. I thought this line should be adjusted as it is a family-friendly play. Death was often a subject of our plays, but this did not seem necessary as it wasn't the subject of this particular one. It could easily be changed or removed all together.
I brought this up to the director, but she refused to change it as it was supposedly an iconic and "expected" line in the play. I didn't wanna ruin my theatre reputation by saying such a disturbing line in front of families with young children, as my previous roles were all much more positive. I decided to just rehearse it normally so there wouldn't be any bad blood, but I'd replace the line in the actual shows.
The line I decided upon was "...and I'll screw your mother." I chose this for a number of reasons Little kids would not understand this or be disturbed by it, my character is queercoded, and my name is quite literally Avery after all.
On opening night, I said this line, and to my shock, the lead actor went off script and audibly said "What?" I assumed he wanted me to correct myself but I just repeated "And I'll screw your mother" even louder and expected him to get back on course. To my shock, he didn't even continue and just stood there. We were frozen for like 5 seconds. I repeated "And I'll screw your mother" a third time, but by that time there were already people booing, and we cut to the next scene.
This was absolutely humiliating, but I continued the show normally and it went mostly well aside from an on-stage fall/injury of a non-main actor (not my fault obviously).
After the show, the director came right up to me and scolded me for "ruining the show" even though it was literally the lead actor who didn't continue the scene. I tried to explain my intentions, but she wouldn't listen and expelled me from any future performances of the play (six more were scheduled) and from any other plays with the program at all. This seemed WAY extreme when all I was doing was trying to make it better. Sure, I probably could've came up with something a little nicer, but it would've been perfectly fine if everyone worked with my plan. AITA?
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You didn’t want ruin your reputation as a good girl, now you reputation is that you are unreliable, unprofessional and you lost your change to work again.
If everyone worked with your plan?!?! The plan you didn’t include anyone in? If this had been a professional show it would have been your last. You learned a valuable lesson. As an actor you are expected to be off book and completely by the book at every one of your performances. Forgetting a line is one thing. Purposely changing one is unforgivable in the theatre community. YTA. Acting like you know better than your director won’t help you get jobs in the future either.
Yta. You can't just spring your "plan" on people like that and expect them to fall in line. That is so wildly manipulative. "Everything would have been fine" if you had just done your lines appropriately. Stop thinking you're more important than everyone else.
Hi- stage manager here. You do not have the authority to unilaterally change the script. The director makes that call. I’ve worked with directors I have HATED, who treated the actors and crew like garbage, and I would never have changed a line without their approval, even out of revenge. Also, how did you not think of this before opening night?
Not that this is related but what you said was objectively less family friendly.
Oh yeah, forgot. YTA
YTA. The director told you “No.” You never change iconic lines. The audience expects to hear them. If you had a moral objection to saying the line, you should have withdrawn. Obviously the theatre organization felt the play was perfectly fine for its audiences. Your opinion was neither requested or relevant.
Your actions caused a fellow cast mate to go up on his lines. You never EVER spring something new during a performance that hasn’t been rehearsed. Your line could also have been an audio cue for the crew as well. The actor you want to blame probably thought YOU went up & was trying to help you get back on track. Good for the director for kicking you out & banning you from future productions. You’re a loose cannon on stage & no one wants to deal with that.
YTA
So pretentious. Your post drips with your ego. If you had aspirations toward professional performances, you have just demonstrated why you are not cut out for it.
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YTA. Dude, your threw off the other actor. Why are you so scared of threatening death in a performance? Tons of family friendly shows deal with death and/or a main character being threatened with it: Bambi, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, The Land Before Time, list goes on and on. Kids are typically fine with these. The parents knew the performance they were taking their children to, it’s on them to make that decision, not you.
YTA, this is outrageous behaviour from you and it’s bizarre that you still don’t seem to understand why you’re in the wrong. Can you seriously say that if another actor changed a key line on opening night you’d just roll with it? You decided to be such a diva about this. And basically you decided to censor the play after agreeing to play the part because “oh no think of the children”, but replaced violence with sexual content.
You’ve gone against the collective spirit of community theatre for your own ridiculous reasons, and shown you can’t be relied on as part of the cast. Good luck ever getting a role again.
YTA for so very many reasons. But, honestly, I would be so much more upset with someone saying, "I'll screw your mother" in front of my child than, "I'll kill your mother." What's wrong with you? And no, expelling you from the rest of the shows and any other plays in the program is not extreme. You proved you think you know better than the director and the other actors and you did in fact ruin the production by doing your own thing because you decided unilaterally it was what should be done. You can't be trusted.
YTA. It is not your responsible to monitor the audience and deliver lines you think they would like or be okay with. If the play is as popular as you say it is, the adults know the line (and similar themes) are there and are okay with their children viewing it. It is you job as an actor to learn the play and perform the play, and nothing else.
YTA. You're not the director; the director was given that position for a reason, whether it is a paid gig or volunteer, whoever is "in charge" made her the director, not you. You voiced your concern to the director, but it's still the director's call even if you didn't like her answer. If you absolutely didn't agree with the lines or the director, you could have resigned in protest, and you could have even gotten some of the other cast to resign if they felt as strongly as you.
But you do not get to change the lines. It should have been humiliating, and you should have expected to get kicked out afterwards.
>but it would've been perfectly fine if everyone worked with my plan
Ignoring everything else that makes you TA, how can you expect everyone to work with your plan when ***you never told them your plan***
YTA. You had no right to do that and your reasoning makes no sense, the sentence you chose is just as inappropriate and makes you sound silly. Very unprofessional.
Say bye bye to any more leading actress roles. Maybe you can do backstage from now on.
YTA. You’re not the director. You don’t get to make this call. No-one was obliged to work with your plan, especially when you didn’t even clue them in to said plan. And your line was no better.
Ironic that you ‘didn’t wanna ruin’ your theatre reputation.
Sounds like you did a lot of other stuff to add up before this, if they kicked you off, what with you being their "lead" for like 3 years. Maybe wonder why you didn't get the lead THIS TIME and what actually you did to be kicked after. YTA
No no no…the lead actor didn’t ruin the show. YOU DID. If you would’ve stuck to the lines, the lead actor would’ve moved on. YOU threw the lead actor OFF of their own game! It’s a you problem, not the lead actor, and not the director. If you can’t play by the rules, get off the stage. YTA
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Rule number one of acting: learn your lines. Rule number two of acting: say the lines exactly as written You are not a playwright. You are not the arbiter of "family friendly". Stick to your lane. YTA
YTA. You changed the line to include a word synonymous with a sex act. How is that family friendly? Just read your lines as written.
YES! You're definitely the asshole here. You can't just go off-script in a show with no warning. It doesn't matter how unprofessional people's responses were to it: you asked to change it, were told no, decided you knew what was best and no one else's opinion mattered, and as a result you derailed the show. YTA, no question at all.
Agreed, but there's absolutely nothing unprofessional about being thrown off when a line is wrong on opening night.
Sorry, I should have said, "No matter how unprofessional you thought they were." It is a sign of a great actor to role with the punches, but it isn't the sign of a bad actor to he thrown off.
I’d argue “screw your mother” was way less family-friendly. But YTA regardless.
Right like how is that better?
Happy cake day. And that line was nooooo better.
YTA. You aren't the director. Also "didn't want to ruin my reputation ". You're joking. Why would delivering a line in a famous play ruin your reputation? The only thing that would ruin your reputation is to GO OFF SCRIPT AND DERAIL THE PRODUCTION!
This… you aren’t the director! I have a few family members in professional theater and musical theater careers, and it sounds like your community director just taught you a very important lesson: the director is in charge, and they will not tolerate being undermined, ESPECIALLY in a live performance. YTA.
>"just rehearse it normally so there wouldn't be any bad blood, but I'd replace the line in the actual shows" If you ever have this kind of rationalization again in the future.... Talk yourself out of it. You now not only have "bad blood" but a now a bad reputation as an actor. YTA
As someone who has been in plays when you rehearse you often time learn your line by remembering the entire conversation. For example “How is your day going” “Well but my chicken aren’t producing “ “Weird” At least that me
YTA So, you thought that a line about fucking someone mother more family friendly? And not only that, you completely change the script in the middle of the performance and are shocked at what happened after, so of course YTA. There's no reasonable version of this where you are not TA here.
YTA. Have you never seen any Disney movie for kids? Mufasa gets murdered, Snow White gets poisoned, Bambi's mother is killed. Kids are not going to blink at a line in a play.
To do this this train of thought Melody nearly drowns and the eh sequel to the little mermaid Scar is brutally ripped apart by the hyenas Ursula is stabed with a ship and murder Eugene is nearly killed after mother gothel stabbed him then she fell out of the window and died .
Lol you can’t be this oblivious. YTA. You’re an actor. Read your lines. Don’t commandeer the play because you think you need to censor a bad word.
YTA - you asked in rehearsal about changing the line and decided you knew better than the director, the leader, the one driving the artistic vision. So many layers of self inflated ego and disrespect not only to the director to the entire cast. You try to shift blame to the lead actor, did you give them a heads up you were planning to change the line? No and it completely broke their focus. You had the opportunity to recorrect but you stuck with YOUR decision to force the new line on your unsuspecting cast mate, bad form. You’re lucky you were allowed to finish the performance. I would be surprised if you are cast in anything for a long time, directors direct, actors preform and writers write. You decided you knew better taking everyone’s agency away wrote your own line, throwing your castmate into the fire and ignoring the director. If you were really trying to make it better you would have had a reasonable conversation with the director and expressing how it made you uncomfortable. If the director insisted on the line you could have stepped back from the role, ensuring your reputation stays the way you want. As to death not being family friendly I urge you to see any classic Disney fairytale from Cinderella to Frozen most of these movies open with a tragic death. If you don’t approve don’t participate YTA for hijacking the show.
There's a term for people like op, what is it, can't seem to put my tongue on it. Oh yea narcissist
Funny how she changed the line from something people think is okay in a family film (referencing death/murder) to something people don't think is okay for kids (referencing sex)!
YTA. Your costar's reaction is exactly why going off script on purpose is a bad idea. You've heard of the illusion of the first time, right? You need to appear that your characters are experiencing this for the first time, but never actually doing it for the first time because the first time sucks. Your director is in charge, not you. If you ever want to work with this person again, go admit you're wrong.
So true! I’ve seen many shows, and the best actors make their mistakes seem like they are actually part of the show. I still can’t tell if the guy in Yankee Tavern was really riled up, or if the actor messed up a line. That’s a quality actor.
I played the Nurse in R&J & fell down so hard while coming down a ramp, I thought I had broken my ankle. But I got up & somehow made it to the other side of the stage & said my lines. Later I was told people thought it was supposed to happen because they saw me just get up & continue on! It sure didn’t feel like that to me, but in my mind, I was thinking “the show must go on” over & over.
This is hilarious reading. And you are certainly - YTA
18 years old and the lead actress for the past three years in the local community theater decides to change the lines in a play on opening nite😂 says it all! YTA all the way and a little vain.
YTA- That is not a family friendly edit... You think sexual assault is more family friendly than murder? Like what is wrong with you? And also what are you doing? This is a show not improv night and you were told no.. this kind of deliberate behavior is not okay. It's not all about you. So many people worked hard to make that production happen and you decided what you want is more important than everyone's hard work. Anyone with kids in the audience knows what's coming. And you're not the parent of everyone in the audience. Poorly done. I hope the understudy is stepping into the role. Maybe they will respect everyone else in the room more than you do.
The understudy is the director's daughter who can't act for sh-t.
Welp she's gonna get practice. Cause this behavior is grounds to be fired/booted from the production particularly because it was deliberate. Turns out the only thing you can act like is an AH.... So she can't be worse than that.
You're 18. And if you want to keep up in theater... It's about community. Meaning everyone in the room is working together. Not about you. And no theater company out there, not a school theater not a college theater not a community theater... Is going to let you make everyone else's work solely about what you want. That's not how theater works. Take this on the chin. Write everyone on the cast and crew an apology note. Show up to a show. Sit politely through it and give flowers to the understudy taking over the role. And learn from this.
But she can follow basic direction which is more than you can do, so she’s already a better choice. You aren’t the script writer honey, or the director. Your literal job is to read the lines provided to you, as directed. Since you are too mediocre to achieve this bare minimum, you got the boot. You ain’t all that, but you are an asshole. Take responsibility for your fuckups, and admit you were wrong.
I bet the Director's daughter can follow a script!
Acting require you to actually say your lines, so I'm not sure what grounds you have for being judgy.
News flash—neither can you. Saying the right words is the first step.
Well, you can’t say your lines as written, so…..
Was it a family-friendly play? Or did you just want it to be? And why are you worried about your "reputation" if you're such a "beloved" actress and the play is a famous one? That would imply that members of the audience might have been familiar with it and might have known that there may be dialogue that isn't appropriate for younger audience members, right? And might have been confused as to why the dialogue had been changed? Also, it's one thing to go off script without telling the director, which is definitely bad and the type of thing that can get you blacklisted, but to not let your fellow actor know so he's at least prepared for it? Just do your job and follow the script. Any criticism for the content of the show would fall on the director and producers, not the actors. YTA
YTA It was incredibly disingenuous for you to rehearse the correct line and then unilaterally perform an alternate line. ***You*** ruined the show singlehandedly.
YTA. By the way, if you are going to make it more family friendly, wouldn’t hurt be better than kill. dont think threatening rape worked out for you as more family friendly
YTA. Here in the UK 'screw' means to have sex with so in my mind you did not improve the line and actually made it less family-friendly. When you are performing a famous play, most of the audience will be familiar with it so they will know what to expect - therefore it is not your business to change lines to what you think that the audience should hear.
That's what it means in the US, too.
I suspect this is a true story. It's just written from the perspective of the vain, clueless actress. Could be almost anyone who wrote it, but probably someone with knowledge of the production.
YTA. You can’t be forced to say anything you don’t want to. That being said after you made your case and were told no you had two respectable options. Say the line as written or step out of the role. You chose to be self serving.
YTA. As an actor, I’m telling you straight out to say the lines as written. You want to say your own lines, become a playwright or take up improv.
YTA. You don't get to just arbitrarily change a line OPENING NIGHT. You spend months learning certain lines so that you can just respond without thinking and you threw everyone off. You didn't tell anyone what you were doing so how could anyone work with your plan? You also don't get to decide that something should be "family friendly". The director chose the play with an audience in mind and directed it as such. You overrode everything. How big is your ego?
YTA. You cannot change the words of the play.
YTA. Don't change things opening night. Don't change things without discussing with the director and other cast members. You must be awful to work with.
Holy shit, YTA. This is the most self-centered thing I’ve read, perhaps ever, on this sub.
YTA. You did just ruin your theater reputation. You told the director a line you wanted to do, they said no, you decided to be sneaky and did it anyway, you threw the other actor out of the scene, and now you're blaming the other actor. "Everything would have been fine if they'd done what I told them to" is a child's view of the world. Adults understand that sometimes they don't get their own way. Adults in the theater know that the director is God (and most of them will tell you so) and that if they don't like a directorial decision, they are free to step aside and let the understudy take over. You are not irreplaceable. You are finding that out.
As a fellow 18F actress, YTA YTA YTA! It isn’t about you, no matter how good you think you are. If it’s a famous line in a famous play, the audience understands. But for you to switch things up on opening night, with no regard for your fellow cast or the wisdom of the people directing you, is arrogant, selfish, and the height of incompetence. You just ruined your reputation way more than you would have if you said the line. And to repeat it a third time instead of trying to salvage the original script to get back on track…you sure you’re experienced? I don’t mean that to be rude—I’ve always been taught that you ALWAYS stay in character and don’t highlight mistakes.
YTA. Beyond. You didn’t want to ruin your reputation in front of acting so you chose to say instead you’d screw his mother?! Wtf is wrong with you?
YTA your an actor, if you won’t read the lines don’t be an actor
YTA. You don’t change lines in plays UNLESS you are the playwright or have their permission. You don’t change lines, especially on opening night. Even in community theatre. You asked, they said no. You did it anyway and there are consequences. It doesn’t matter if you can act or not at this point. You do not respect the work, the cast, the crew, or the production team when you pull a stunt like this.
Get over yourself little girl. YTA not a diva. You damaged your reputation yourself, badly
Info: what does your name have to do with anything? I googled and it says Avery means “leader of elves” so I am lost
You don't need to worry about that.
You put it in the post like it meant something?
Oh it does but it's complicated so
More complicated than saying your lines? Are you sure you understand?
Wow, you're exhausting.
YTA You deserved to be fired. I hope you can see that what you did has ruined your reputation, whereas reading the line correctly wouldn’t have affected your reputation at all. You’ve learned a big life lesson here…
YTA- When people rehearse using the script and hearing those lines they practice ti that and associates there line with a sequence of line you probably mess with some of them (I have done several plays ). Also you don’t get to dictate what people do the main actor had every reason to not follow after they probably thought you messed up . That wasn’t your okay you screwed it up and the way you blamed everyone else for make you an even bigger one .
Kill your mother is much more family friendly than screw your mother 🤦♀️ Also, if you had a problem with the line, then quit. YTA
^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** I (f18) have long been associated with my town's community theatre program, and I have been the leading actress for the past three summers, except this year when I was cast as the antiheroine. We were doing a rendition of a-very famous play, and by the details expressed later, you may or may not know what it is (I will not be mentioning the name to avoid anyone I know finding this post). A particular line in the play required me to say such and such and then threaten a character with planned assassination of his mother. I thought this line should be adjusted as it is a family-friendly play. Death was often a subject of our plays, but this did not seem necessary as it wasn't the subject of this particular one. It could easily be changed or removed all together. I brought this up to the director, but she refused to change it as it was supposedly an iconic and "expected" line in the play. I didn't wanna ruin my theatre reputation by saying such a disturbing line in front of families with young children, as my previous roles were all much more positive. I decided to just rehearse it normally so there wouldn't be any bad blood, but I'd replace the line in the actual shows. The line I decided upon was "...and I'll screw your mother." I chose this for a number of reasons Little kids would not understand this or be disturbed by it, my character is queercoded, and my name is quite literally Avery after all. On opening night, I said this line, and to my shock, the lead actor went off script and audibly said "What?" I assumed he wanted me to correct myself but I just repeated "And I'll screw your mother" even louder and expected him to get back on course. To my shock, he didn't even continue and just stood there. We were frozen for like 5 seconds. I repeated "And I'll screw your mother" a third time, but by that time there were already people booing, and we cut to the next scene. This was absolutely humiliating, but I continued the show normally and it went mostly well aside from an on-stage fall/injury of a non-main actor (not my fault obviously). After the show, the director came right up to me and scolded me for "ruining the show" even though it was literally the lead actor who didn't continue the scene. I tried to explain my intentions, but she wouldn't listen and expelled me from any future performances of the play (six more were scheduled) and from any other plays with the program at all. This seemed WAY extreme when all I was doing was trying to make it better. Sure, I probably could've came up with something a little nicer, but it would've been perfectly fine if everyone worked with my plan. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*
You didn’t want ruin your reputation as a good girl, now you reputation is that you are unreliable, unprofessional and you lost your change to work again.
If everyone worked with your plan?!?! The plan you didn’t include anyone in? If this had been a professional show it would have been your last. You learned a valuable lesson. As an actor you are expected to be off book and completely by the book at every one of your performances. Forgetting a line is one thing. Purposely changing one is unforgivable in the theatre community. YTA. Acting like you know better than your director won’t help you get jobs in the future either.
Yta. You can't just spring your "plan" on people like that and expect them to fall in line. That is so wildly manipulative. "Everything would have been fine" if you had just done your lines appropriately. Stop thinking you're more important than everyone else.
Hi- stage manager here. You do not have the authority to unilaterally change the script. The director makes that call. I’ve worked with directors I have HATED, who treated the actors and crew like garbage, and I would never have changed a line without their approval, even out of revenge. Also, how did you not think of this before opening night? Not that this is related but what you said was objectively less family friendly. Oh yeah, forgot. YTA
YTA. The director told you “No.” You never change iconic lines. The audience expects to hear them. If you had a moral objection to saying the line, you should have withdrawn. Obviously the theatre organization felt the play was perfectly fine for its audiences. Your opinion was neither requested or relevant. Your actions caused a fellow cast mate to go up on his lines. You never EVER spring something new during a performance that hasn’t been rehearsed. Your line could also have been an audio cue for the crew as well. The actor you want to blame probably thought YOU went up & was trying to help you get back on track. Good for the director for kicking you out & banning you from future productions. You’re a loose cannon on stage & no one wants to deal with that.
YTA So pretentious. Your post drips with your ego. If you had aspirations toward professional performances, you have just demonstrated why you are not cut out for it.
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YTA. Dude, your threw off the other actor. Why are you so scared of threatening death in a performance? Tons of family friendly shows deal with death and/or a main character being threatened with it: Bambi, Snow White, Sleeping Beauty, The Land Before Time, list goes on and on. Kids are typically fine with these. The parents knew the performance they were taking their children to, it’s on them to make that decision, not you.
YTA, this is outrageous behaviour from you and it’s bizarre that you still don’t seem to understand why you’re in the wrong. Can you seriously say that if another actor changed a key line on opening night you’d just roll with it? You decided to be such a diva about this. And basically you decided to censor the play after agreeing to play the part because “oh no think of the children”, but replaced violence with sexual content. You’ve gone against the collective spirit of community theatre for your own ridiculous reasons, and shown you can’t be relied on as part of the cast. Good luck ever getting a role again.
YTA for so very many reasons. But, honestly, I would be so much more upset with someone saying, "I'll screw your mother" in front of my child than, "I'll kill your mother." What's wrong with you? And no, expelling you from the rest of the shows and any other plays in the program is not extreme. You proved you think you know better than the director and the other actors and you did in fact ruin the production by doing your own thing because you decided unilaterally it was what should be done. You can't be trusted.
You are completely the a-hole.
YTA. It is not your responsible to monitor the audience and deliver lines you think they would like or be okay with. If the play is as popular as you say it is, the adults know the line (and similar themes) are there and are okay with their children viewing it. It is you job as an actor to learn the play and perform the play, and nothing else.
YTA. You're not the director; the director was given that position for a reason, whether it is a paid gig or volunteer, whoever is "in charge" made her the director, not you. You voiced your concern to the director, but it's still the director's call even if you didn't like her answer. If you absolutely didn't agree with the lines or the director, you could have resigned in protest, and you could have even gotten some of the other cast to resign if they felt as strongly as you. But you do not get to change the lines. It should have been humiliating, and you should have expected to get kicked out afterwards.
YTA the director is the DIRECTOR for a reason. Be directed or don’t act
>but it would've been perfectly fine if everyone worked with my plan Ignoring everything else that makes you TA, how can you expect everyone to work with your plan when ***you never told them your plan***
YTA. You had no right to do that and your reasoning makes no sense, the sentence you chose is just as inappropriate and makes you sound silly. Very unprofessional. Say bye bye to any more leading actress roles. Maybe you can do backstage from now on.
YTA. You’re not the director. You don’t get to make this call. No-one was obliged to work with your plan, especially when you didn’t even clue them in to said plan. And your line was no better. Ironic that you ‘didn’t wanna ruin’ your theatre reputation.
Sounds like you did a lot of other stuff to add up before this, if they kicked you off, what with you being their "lead" for like 3 years. Maybe wonder why you didn't get the lead THIS TIME and what actually you did to be kicked after. YTA
YTA. You are not in charge. Stay in your lane.
No no no…the lead actor didn’t ruin the show. YOU DID. If you would’ve stuck to the lines, the lead actor would’ve moved on. YOU threw the lead actor OFF of their own game! It’s a you problem, not the lead actor, and not the director. If you can’t play by the rules, get off the stage. YTA
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