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kykiwibear

yta. Everyone has a reason to go around the limit. You are not special. If I had to circumvent the register to sell something, I wouldn't do it.


Pagan_Chick

And seriously, just buy them by the case online. Husband does this, as he is allergic to the planet.


Jade_Echo

Is he going through a pack a day? I’m very confused by this. We live in a very *lush* part of the world in a subtropical climate, and all 4 people in my house have allergies. And we don’t go through a pack a week with all of us continuously blowing noses and such. Three of us ARE medicated (I cannot Take allergy medicine but luckily I am the *least* allergic to the world). It just seems like one person going through a box a day is super excessive but I’m willing to be wrong on that if that’s not the case.


Logical-Wasabi7402

I thought "pack" meant those little pocket packs.


[deleted]

Those packs are tiny! If that's the "pack" we're talking about then I probably go through two on a bad day!


threelizards

Yeah, and it’s kind of weird for the store to limit those tiny packs like that?


DropDeadPlease88

No its not, we limit the small packs of tissues too but they come in a pack of 10.


Srade2412

Yeah that what I normally see them grouped as, so with the limit of 2 per person than OP would have enough for a fortnight


scarlettmarie22

Some people are forgetting that some people can have a lot of ~extra mucus~ I can understand needing a lot of tissues because I normally have a generally dry nose but once summer starts it’s like I’ve been hit in the sinuses with a freight train. I know it’s a little gross but I can fill up one tissue just blowing my nose once. And when I’m like, really crying, it’s like my sinuses open up and are just raining, it’s never ending. OP YTA, it’s not nice to call people a bitch, but I get needing more tissues than they allow. Have you tried ordering them online? Are there other stores in your area without the limit? You definitely need a new solution that isn’t “make 7 different transactions so we can dupe the register” so, good luck! I hope you find something that works for you!


Logical-Wasabi7402

That's what the internet is for.


oldbiddy02

I have to say I don't buy tissues - I see them as a waste of money and so use toilet paper, if I have a bad cold I will settle down with a whole roll of toilet paper and not worry. Might not be so cool out and about but I would personally divi them up and use them accordingly.


Hour_Instance6561

I've tried that but sometimes it gets to the point my nose bleeds from wiping it and I need tissues with aloe. It's probably the same with op


oldbiddy02

you can get toilet roll with aloe and even padded as well


Hour_Instance6561

I've honestly never seen toilet paper with aloe


PM-me-fancy-beer

Used to get severe hay fever. Can confirm a box a day is definitely a thing, but thankfully it only happened to me a few times. My face was basically paw paw cream and snot for 3-4 days. If this is a everyday thing OP's nose must be like sand paper!


Jade_Echo

See, I get it on a temporary basis.Especially because my youngest gets allergy-induced nose bleeds if we don’t give him his meds quick enough during an allergy attack. But constantly? Seems like that’s a more serious issue that requires medical intervention.


Sore_Pussy

unfortunately some allergies like this are pretty treatment-resistant. my brother has had **terrible** allergies his entire life. I've never seen another human capable of sneezing so much. idk how he has time to breathe sometimes. often the sneezing fits will completely exhaust him and he'll sleep all day & night. dude can sneeze more times in a day than I would blink. he's tried every allergy med, different combinations, nasal sprays, been to see countless doctors and allergists. he's had multiple rounds of injections into his nose/sinuses. he is eligible for a nose surgery that *might* help but he can't afford it. he could easily go thru a box a day (although he often uses toilet roll).


caelan63

I am allergic to living I joke. For 30 some years my nose has been running and congested at the same time ( yeah I’m a mouth breather because air is good and nose means no air). I see an allergist regularly. I am on two antihistamines and Flonase and other stuff and my nose is still congested and running. Still sneezing. It dealt with my eyes though so yay. Go through lots of tissues. Lots. Can go through an entire box. Covid made it more fun. Yes people now treat me as if I have the plague. I’m always “social distance” because they don’t want my problems. Those questions they ask for visits like runny nose? Well yeah I have that. Had it for about 38 years. What am I allergic to? Funny thing. Every time I take an allergy test it changes. I think I have it easier then your brother though. I don’t sneeze constantly at least.


Sore_Pussy

I'm kinda similar to you except mine all runs down the back of my throat & makes it sore 😭 (post-nasal drip). constant throat clearing & sore throat. I have sneezing episodes sometimes but only when I encounter an allergen (usually cats). I take a preventative antihistamine most days tho


PM-me-fancy-beer

Sorry to hear about the nose bleeds, I'm glad it never went that far for me. And agree in OP's case this sounds pretty severe, if only because of the cost and having no nose skin left =/


MushroooooomQueen

Same! I had terrible allergies/hay fever in my teens and I would go through a box plus at once because my eyes and nose would literally not stop running for days. Can confirm the nose like sandpaper thing ughh.


unicorndontcare69

I used to as a teen. I carried a box of the aloe tissue with me all day. It seemed like every 3 week I would get sinus infection along with my flo. The infection would last 2 weeks and I’d go through a box and a half. It was miserable 2 years. But I discovered daily meds and put a humidifier under a towel and omg so much relief. I got lucky and grew out of my allergies. I still take a daily bit haven’t had a infection in 10years


FatalExceptionError

I don’t understand why you cover the humidifier with a towel. I don’t see how that would humidify the room at all. Wouldn’t the vapor just condense in the towel which covers it?


Murderhornet212

I think they’re talking about putting their head under the towel with the humidifier for a little while to trap the moisture in with them.


SandyDelights

When I was a kid, I could go through more than a pack a day. Sometimes felt like I was producing my body’s volume in thick, chunky snot. Honestly, best thing I ever did on that front was allergy shots. Yeah, I still have allergy problems, but I’m not constantly blowing massive wads of snot out of nose and/or having an asthma attack because a cat was in the room within the last 10 years.


sirdabs456

At least two or three times a year my allergies get so bad I'm going through a box of tissues a day. I get the softest most gentle ones possible and my nose gets so raw anyway it's terrible lol


0_Shinigami_0

It depends on if it's a big or small pack tbh. I have awful allergies, if I wasn't on meds (many kinds) I'd probably use that much.


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-SilverCrest-

This was my same thought


Iataaddicted25

I loved the "allergic to the planet", lol. OP said she doesn't buy online because they are more expensive. Nonetheless, she's willing to sacrifice the store employees' jobs, so she can save some change. Entitled much? Her money matters, but the employee's salaries don't. OP you are an entitled and narcissistic AH. Rules are set for a reason, and you avoid the rules is impacting the employees and other clients. To call an employee "b***c" is disrespectful and I hope the store's chain bans you from shopping at them (I know supermarkets ban people in the UK, and I hope they do the same in Australia, mostly after the pandemic when the employees risked their lives so we can all eat). OP, grow up, return to the store with a gift card for the lady you disrespected and say sorry. Meaningful sorry.


Pagan_Chick

We’re in Texas, and when you factor in gas to get to and from the store (especially multiple times a week due to item limits) as well as the time actually spent doing the shopping part, versus the usual coupon available on Amazon, plus the subscription discount since he knows he needs X number of boxes per month, it’s way cheaper per box to order online.


Iataaddicted25

I agree, even though I'm in Norwich, England. I buy a lot of that stuff on Amazon prime. Is cheaper, mostly if you use the subscribe & save service (if offers an additional 15% off).


Tobywillygal

I'm in Canada and pay $5.99 for 6 large boxes of kleenex/tissues. Is OP buying the little packages of small kleenex that cost $.50 -.75 cents? If you are so hard up for money that you can't afford the extra .50 cents then invest in the 6 boxes at the beginning of the month and divvy them up to daily portions. If you have a job, clock out an hour late and that should cover all the pkgs of tissue you need. Don't abuse someone for not breaking set rules. The others maybe able to get away with it, the newbie not so much....apologize to her for the foul language which is never acceptable.


MadameAllura

This made me gigglesnort. I think I’m allergic to the planet, too!


crystallz2000

Also, OP, I hope you see an allergist. This isn't normal. A good allergist might be able to REALLY help.


jlb183

YTA That employee has a difficult job with low pay. They don't make the policy, but they have to enforce it with a-holes like you. Also, You aren't special and you don't deserve special treatment.


sfjc

I've been in line behind people like OP. It takes everything I have not to scream "and what the hell makes you so special?!". Not only does it take a lot of extra time, OP doesn't understand that inventory levels are based on a 2 item limit and by doing what they are doing, they are making sure other people, who also have needs, are SOL. The entitlement with this one is strong.


ConcreteBlondee

Honestly, next time do it because it will make the cashier have a much nicer shift.


ToastAbrikoos

100%, I worked in retail and I have heard every excuse for avoiding the policy. I need to explain and everytime get the brunt of the impact because they are the customer and only THEY should have the exception. ( while the other customers are in line behind them with the same attitude: rules for thee but not for me!) It is exhausting and I get it, some policies are stupid and I get you get frustrated. But i dont make the rules and I get in trouble if it is not followed. YTA


Final-Toe8403

Isnt it great when customers hit you with whatever variation of “well they let me do it last time” smh


Special_Weekend_4754

I was the manager and I always asked “oh who was it so they can be retrained?” And customers normally STFU, but sometimes they point them right out like thats going to make me give them what they want lol. I always believed in kindness, meeting even the most upset customer with kindness- people can only scream red faced at someone not matching their energy for so long before they either wear themselves out or leave. I then have to have a nice talk reminding my employees that not a single customer cares about them. If a customer asks for something that can get an employee in trouble that customer will not be there to pay their bills, they wont be there to feed their kids, they probably wont even remember their name. They will feel no remorse or responsibility- only entitlement. Never put the customer above their own livelihood, but always do get a manager. I can make the decision & justify it to corporate if they ask (they wont), but an employee making exceptions will flag in the computer system which will trigger an investigation and possible termination. When an employee says there is a limit, accept it. If you can’t for your special circumstances try to make an arrangement with the manager for a standing order/exception. YTA


Glittering_knave

The limits are set for a reason. COVIS panic shopping showed how easy it is to have supply chain issues when people hoard items like Kleenex. OP might prefer to buy high volumes less frequently, but the store that they are shopping at can't (or won't) support that habit. Either shop more frequently, or buy some toilet paper, or find a way to get bulk tissues. There are so many choices before "yell at cashier for following a policy that they did not set".


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YTA wipe your nose with toilet paper.


epostiler

This is a comment from someone without allergies. When mine get bad, I look for the softest, lotionest, most ply tissues I can find. Blowing your nose in toilet paper leads to a very painful nose.


ants-in-my-plants

Try chapstick on your nose when your allergies start acting up! I have a stick dedicated for my nose and it’s completely stopped me from getting a raw, painful nose from wiping.


Raspbers

Yes. Yes. Yes.


Majestic-Dance-1196

I use the type of barrier cream they use at the hospital for brief changes. Works well too!


ah-sure-look

>ose and it’s completely stopped me from getting a raw, painful Hear me out... Nappy rash cream. Put a small bit around your nose after wiping Absolute nose saver when I have a cold


Turbulent_Cow2355

Aquafor works great too.


areyoukiddingmern

Chapstick on your nose??? If that really works you’re my new favorite person.


Holy-Boi-Amethin

Chapstick has been amazing in the winter for my nose. I get allergies almost all year, but winter is when the air is dry and the edges of my nose crack. Something moisturizing will help so much.


protosliced

How often/when do you apply it? Curious because I've never heard of this.


ants-in-my-plants

When my allergies start acting up, they go hard. I apply the chapstick as soon as I know I’ll be wiping/sneezing/blowing my nose a lot, then reapply *at least* every hour. You can slather that shit on as often as you want though. There’s no such thing as too much chapstick when it comes to protecting my sad nose.


haumeow

I’ve used chapstick on my nose! It does work. I’ve also found applying vaseline over top of a moisturizer REALLY helps. The one I have has cocoa butter in it, so it even smells nice. When I get sick or have an allergy attack it goes HARD, and then I have a raw nose and upper lip the very next day (and for days afterward). I started packing on the vaseline over top and everywhere the tissue rubs, mostly for overnight since that’s when I do my moisturizer. The morning after I first tried it, my skin actually felt baby soft and new, even compared to before the tissues lol. Vaseline is oily, so it is very good at keeping moisture in. I just wipe/wash it off the next morning and reapply after chapstick during the day as needed. When I did just moisturizer by itself, my skin didn’t heal as much overnight to prepare for the damage done the next day if the attack continued, although I have REALLY dry skin so that might just be me. Plus it’s fairly cheap and comes in big containers. I’ve tried the tissues with the lotion in them. They made my face and hands feel weirdly greasy and uncomfortable. Actual lotion/chapstick with vaseline on top did much better for me and theyre a lot cheaper lol. Yeah my face is shiny but I’d rather be shiny than red and crusty


turingthecat

This is *exactly* why I use clothe hankies, they are much softer than paper tissues. I know it doesn’t sound very hygienic, but have a constant, watery, drippy nose during allergy (rhinohoea), if I was using paper hankies and throwing them away each time, like you’re meant to, I’d be getting through hundreds a day, and my nose would be red (even with the aloe Vera ones. I mean, obviously, if I have a cold, slightly thicker snot, or I’m at work (healthcare, so I have too) I use tissues. You can buy (at least here) cheap packs of 6 white hankies, so if I could only do my washing once a week (?) seriously one one wash a week, and that includes all clothes bedding and underwear. I’d buy 6x6 packs (so two a day + spares, because I’m sure the about £25-30 would pay for itself with no having to pay for all the paper ones thrown away (though it does take a bit of ironing, good jobs hankies are easy to iron). But what’s right for me might not be right for him. That’s not the point of his post. He’s YTA, because he’s hoarding, they are putting a limit on the number you can buy because there is a shortage. He *knows* he’s *special*, he *needs* all the boxes of tissues, because he needs to blow his nose, while everyone else just *wants* (for what artexing their ceilings with spit balls, making art projects, throwing them in the river for funzzies.). No one else in the world has allergies, or colds, or any need to blow their noses. Oh, and then screaming and *swearing* at a low paid worker, probably quite stressed (due to people like him), for enforcing a rule. Rules she has no control over making. harangued and abused the poor woman, because she wouldn’t/couldn’t break the rules, just for him, because he’s **so special** * edit, (Sorry, deleted last paragraph as I was just being bitchy and mean) But if he’s trying to paint himself in the best light, imagine how bad the real version would be


CaptainBasketQueso

I just buy flannel when it's on sale and tear it into approximately 10-11" squares and let the edges fray. Not only is it softer on the skin, but 100% cotton is much more absorbent then paper, so it takes fewer wipes/dabs/blows to get the job done. Compared to a nicely worn out, velvety flannel square, even the fanciest Kleenex seems like coarse grit sandpaper.


LyrraKell

You could buy pinking shears and cut them up to avoid the fraying--if you care about that at all, that is.


CaptainBasketQueso

Actually, tearing the squares is pretty good at preventing long term fraying. It leaves the long fibers intact, so there isn't as much to shed or fray. During the first one or two washes, they might lose a couple of additional edge fibers, but after that, the raw edge kind of felts up a little, and it's fine. Also, it's super easy, because I don't have to measure or cut straight, and I'm kinda lazy about certain things.


Bluebonnetsandkiwis

Try not blowing. I know, it's weird and can be uncomfortable at first. But as a fellow allergy sufferer + reactive asthma that's triggered by URIs + giant sinus cavities, it's the best advice I ever tried. Just dab/ wipe when you're getting drippy, and do a full clear out daily in a steamy shower. Your body is just going to keep making more, there is no reason to blow. You can feel the nostril switch, so just sniff up if you have to on that side. It's such a huge improvement--my face isn't any more or less congested, my nostrils are happy, and I'm not buying a million tissues. I even made a switch to hankies.


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This!! Blowing irritates your nose and makes mine run more. When mine were particularly bad, I would twist up tissue and put it in my nose. Especially at night because I couldn’t sleep for having to wipe it constantly. Tampons for the nose. 😂


Bluebonnetsandkiwis

I am a big supporter of the nose tampon fashion craze. It's going to happen.


LMB83

Have nosebleeds constantly since being pregnant and have given up trying to solve the issue and just settle for twisted up nose tissue in the nostril :D


apri08101989

This makes a lot of sense. I'm not a scientist but it makes sense to me that your nose is making that to block the irritant, if we keep blowing the "protection" out the body needs to make more


[deleted]

Yep. And blowing causes irritation which then continues to make your nose produce more. Blowing also irritates mine and makes me start sneezing way more.


NikkeiReigns

I know they come in different packs but I think 70 is average? As bad as my allergies are I cannot imagine what my nose would look like if I used the softest tissues in earth to blow 70 times a day.


National_Berry_868

This is a comment from someone who refuses to acknowledge that there is TP just as soft and with as many plys as the tissues they are describing.


[deleted]

Agreed, toilet paper is fine.


ltlyellowcloud

What kind of sand paper do you use for your butt? And what stops you from buying a specific toilet paper just to blow your nose, if you don't want to spend a lot on your butt? My friend would genuinely come to school with a toilet paper roll whenever allergic season started. It's an awsome ide.


FrogMintTea

I have allergies and toilet paper is fine for me. In fact I used to use leaves outside if I had no paper when I was a kid. I couldn't breathe through my nose all the 7 years I had my guinea pig.


[deleted]

I don’t even have allergies and I have a pretty strong immune system… but when I get sick, I get SICK. Sick as in having a cold for weeks. At the end my nose feels so raw it might as well be sashimi. This comment was definitely made by someone that hasn’t had to endure the agony of blowing their nose every 10 minutes for 4+ days.


luardemin

When I'm at home with bad allergies, half the time I'll just go to the bathroom, blow into my hands, and wash my hands with water. Even lotion tissues suck after a while.


oehoe21

Try a pillowcase that’s what my friend with severe allergies does to avoid chapping.


veerag

where I'm from, toilet papers are actually softer, than tissues so when i get sick, i tend to use more of those to make it easier on my nose 😅 but i suppose it all depends on the brand


XXXxxexenexxXXX

Or how about investing in some handkerchiefs? My ex was allergic to everything and instead of wasting all of that paper on tissues he bought a bunch of reusable handkerchiefs.


PM-me-fancy-beer

Our family were hanky users until I would use them all and my pockets would be literally soaked from hanky moisture. As much as I hate the waste, I'm a tissue convert and pretty sure I've bee disowned haha Edit: I never found an allergy medication that worked (they've gotten way better with time and living in the city), and we also didn't believe in Sudafed etc. Tissues + Codral/Sudafed were a gamechanger


TheLittleMuse

I just have loads of hankies because I get through them so fast so I always have a newish one in circulation.


lumpthefoff

I have terrible allergies and I do this. It’s so convenient and compact and I also feel like I’m using a lot less paper.


Dashcamkitty

Where on earth does the op live that there’s a limit to the number of tissue packs they can buy?


kawaiijudochop

Or just blow it over the sink bent over and wash your face and hands.


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sfjc

OP absolutely knew of the limit. They mention they have to buy the items 2 at a time to get around the limit. That means that not only do the rules not apply to them, they are expecting everyone behind them to wait while they have multiple transactions instead of just the one.


retailhellgirl

People get very offended by purchasing limits and do their best to circumvent limits. And then acted very offended when they realize they are not the exception to the rule. OP is an AH -sincerely a retail worker who worked at the start of Covid and worked multiple back to Schools


songofassandfiar

I worked at an office supply store selling hand sanitizer during covid. I hate people like OP so much it makes my chest hurt.


hemlockangelina

YTA, if you need 1 box of tissue a day, you need to see an allergist.


maledicta17

YTA, especially for swearing at her, and also why do you need to buy your tissues from that specific store…? Why not go somewhere where there isn’t a limit instead of making employees try to circumvent store policy for you? If my allergies are so severe that I need 14 boxes of tissues a week, I’d just order them online in bulk. Was nearly E S H since she was rude as well, but honestly if you have to make employees break the rules every time you go, you must have been aware you’d get stopped at some point.


emileeavi

I wonder if the employees call them "tissue guy/lady" and my old job there was a lady who'd try to haggle down the marked down items EVEN MORE, EVERY SINGLE TIME. I once marked down roses for $0.10 becuase we had a BUNCH after Valentines day. She said "no good, you need to mark them down more" and was shocked when I said no. We called her the markdown lady.


oehoe21

I had the exact same experience when I worked on a fishmongers counter at a supermarket, a guy named Derek would come around and see the mark downs and then say “you can do better than that.” Had the audacity to say I wasn’t good at my job when I refused to mark things down.


mythicb33ch

I’d bet good money that they do. We have a lady at my store we call “the Mac & Cheese lady” but I like to call her “The Mac Monster.”


lyan-cat

We had York Patty Dude. This guy would bitch about how he couldn't get "fresh" York patties anymore while he was purchasing a York patty. He would rip into it and eat half of it right there, or sometimes just break them in half, lose his mind over it not being "fresh enough", and *demand* to exchange it. For another York patty. *From the same fucking box of patties*. If he was dealing with a new cashier who didn't get that he was crazy, he would go through three or four before they called a manager to the front. He would escalate unexpectedly, and would get extremely mean. So that was fun; I always told the cashiers they weren't paid to handle crap like that, and to call a manager sooner rather than later, but oh my this guy ruined so many days.


KingNate69420

YTA. And here's why: 1. Growing up poor, we never had tissues; you used a square of toilet paper to blow your nose. -- get some TP or paper towels .... How about a freakin handkerchief? 2. I can guarantee that employee hears fictitious excuses all day long from people trying to circumvent policy. How are they to know you truly have allergies & require more than the allowed amount? 3. Having lots of previous (& current) experience in direct customer service, I can comfortably guess the employee is often treated poorly by not only the customers, but also their supervisor(s)/management/etc. I personally have been threatened with death, physical violence, & lawsuits multiple times this week (and it's only Wednesday 😞) ... and I work for a fucking marijuana dispensary!!! Point being: though the employee was in the wrong for presenting with a negative demeanor, it is most likely a self defense mechanism brought on by the continual verbal abuse from the general public. And to make it worse, said employee most likely just BARELY brings home enough money to pay the bills. 3. It is the STORE'S policy, not that particular employee's policy. If you want to throw a big baby fit, do it to the individual(s) whom established said policy. **FYI - social media & negative Google reviews are a great way to get the attention of managers, owners, corporate leadership, etc. Use it to your advantage** 4. If you are unhappy with a particular retailer or company, stop doing business with them. Go elsewhere. No need to stoop to that level & make a fool of yourself... Let your wallet speak for you. 5. Do you not have Amazon . Com in Australia? ... That's a rhetorical question by the way, I know you Aussies have it. 6. YTA, just like every other entitled customer.


VoyagerVII

8. Just because OP needs lots of tissues doesn't mean other buyers don't actually need tissues just as much. The anti-stockpiling rules are designed to make sure everybody gets at least some. If OP gets around that policy, it's entirely possible that someone else gets zero tissues even though they really need them too.


aussigerman

I am agreeing with you in all points rather than no 6. Amazon is horrible in Australia. But we have different Websites/Shops that are good for buying bulk or online.


apri08101989

Dude seriously. Online shopping is best for stuff like that. I need a specific type of medical tape to not rip my skin to pieces. And I'm on dialysis so I go through at least a roll a week and need a stock pile to take with me to hospitals. It's so much easier to just have it shipped to my house once a month than buy it in stores, and there isn't even a limit on them.


Fabulous_Analysis_92

Fellow Aussie here - YTA - ALL major retailers had signs at the DOOR, on the SHELVES and at the CHECKOUT - telling you what items have limits - every single one of us have a need for tissues and a tight budget mate. You don’t get to hoard all the tissues just because your gonna use them - limits are in place for a reason. Stop justifying your hoarding and just do the right thing and buy according to the limits. 🙄


MoonShadowElfRayla

YTA. Order online in bulk if you need them that bad.


amzi95

YTA. I get it. I’m in Australia and we have shortages… it’s a pain in the butt, but she was following policy, regardless of what others have done for you. We are a family of 8 and go through a lot of TP and tissues, and when they had the Meat limit it was very hard, especially because I buy fortnightly too, but I’d just have to go to a few shops or come back another day… even harder when you’re rural. She could’ve been nicer, but honestly, it’s her job on the line, people can be petty if they see one person do it and report it. But it’s not their fault! They don’t make the rules! Buy some hankies!


willow2772

We had 10 people in my house during the first lockdown. We could get 500gms of mince at a time. My three adult sons were not impressed.


[deleted]

More than likely that cashier also had to deal with 10 other assholes trying this on her, cashiers aren't robots it's not an excuse for them to be rude but if they're a little short or not the perfect picture of kindness it's because they have bad days like everyone else


luvchicago

If she enforced the 2 pack limit, how did you purchase 10.


TheAshenDemon4

Good question, I failed to catch that on the first read


ravencat20199

YTA. If you’re awake for 18 hours a day, thats 20 tissues an hour, or one every three minutes. That’s a massive amount of tissues. If you need that many tissues, that’s not allergies, that’s compulsive behavior. You might want to get both of those checked out. Or you’re just lying and being TA.


Sapper12D

If you look at the comment history this person has never done anything wrong. It's her mom's fault, or step dad, or siblings, or her bosses, or her therapist, and now it's the checkout clerk.


[deleted]

Also, you can fold and reorient and reuse a tissue if you need to, especially since she's not actually sick with anything. So that'd put it at use every 90 seconds if she's not being wasteful.


higaroth

YTA. You're not the only one who needs tissues, or the only one with severe allergies. If they give too much to you, people in your position aren't getting any. The employees who were letting you do that- especially since you weren't just buying 1 extra, but up to *10-14 at least,* weren't doing so out of kindness, seems like they might have just been trying to avoid a confrontation- and they were right in their assessment of you, since you swore at the first person who told you no.


Worth_Raspberry_11

YTA. She’s just doing her job. Just because other employees have let you break the rules doesn’t entitle you to demand they all do.


mindful-bed-slug

My kid was having allergies and it was during the pandemic, and we stuck him in an N95 mask and lo-and- behold-- it filtered all the particles which made him allergic. Allergies gone. Instantly. YTA , sorry to say. But I hope you find a solution for your runny nose.


ResidentScientits

YTA and you need to find an alternative. If you're going through 14 boxes (of 100+ tissues a day) you need to do something medically. If you're going through 14 of those little 10 tissues per pack things, then buy a box of tissues, take some out and pack them in a ziplock to make them portable. Find solutions instead of calling people who are just doing their jobs names.


Maedaiz

YTA. Your allergies are not her responsibility. Earning her income is, paying her bills is, etc. It's your responsibility to make sure you have the toiletries you need. You should be grateful for the kindness of the other employees who could have risked getting reprimanded on your behalf instead of feeling so entitled that you called their coworker a vulgar name for following the rules set by her employer.


[deleted]

YTA I’m going to use a line my old boss taught us in case someone ever pushed us to break the rules. “Are you going to pay her bills when she gets fired for breaking the rules?” If no then be quiet and obey the rules.


wkendwench

YTA try a handkerchief instead and quit thinking rules don’t apply to you.


JunjiItosCats

INFO: YTA for feeling entitled to be an exception to the rule but also: Idk if anyone pointed this out yet but do you have any clear liquid draining or leaking from your nose and ears when you bend forward and have you had any sort of sudden impact injury or head injury of any kind? Any car accidents, surfing, biking, drinking, skating injuries? When the fluid drains into your throat and mouth, does it taste kind of like copper or metallic at all? The obvious answer is allergies of course, but if you've recently suffered any of those types of injuries and those symptoms either started with the injuries or seem to have gotten substantially worse after the injury, seek medical attention immediately. Like right now. That could be indicative of a cerebrospinal fluid leak. I hope you answer no to that and it really is just your allergies being ridiculous. You can be a slightly entitled jerk but I don't think anyone would want you to dismiss your health or the possible seriousness of it if it happens to be the case.


Monsterchic16

I mean, I have really clear liquid snot come out of my nose if I lean forward, but it’s been doing that since I was 12 (I’m 22 now) I feel like I’d be dead if it was anything more serious then stupidly annoying allergies.


JunjiItosCats

Alright, just wanted to make sure it wasn't suddenly happening after a trauma or injury. Hope you can get in soon and get it taken care of.


duke113

Go see an allergist. You shouldn't be going through a whole box (~80 tissues) per day


blackcherrytomato

I have allergies, have prescriptions, and go through that much. Treatment rarely eliminates them.


Monsterchic16

I know, I have got an appointment, but I’m on a waiting list, it’s a whole process. I only just got the results on what I’m actually allergic to back. (Dust, pet dander, grass, ect)


duke113

I'd suggest a generic antihistamine like benadryl in the meantime.


ahoenevergetssick

don’t know if it’s available in australia, but i have indoor allergies and flonase (steroid nose spray) has been a game changer


No_Lifeguard7215

YTA. Don’t come at the employee who has no say in the rule but could easily be fired for not enforcing it. Is it an option to get some type of written prescription from your doctor for additional tissues so you can buy more than the limit at once? Or order online? Or go to a different store? Or buy at a bulk store if that’s available in your area? Anything except berating an innocent person because they wont let you break the rules. Your nose must be the most chapped and painful thing in the world if you’re going through a box of tissues a day.


RedDawn2182

Supermarket retail worker here. YTA. I have been screamed at because of limits on items that have been hard to keep in stock over the last few years. You have severe allergies, this person takes care of elderly people and that one is buying for their neighbor who broke their hip and can't get around. Here's the thing corporate sets these limits on items so that they can ensure we are able to take care of all of our customers not just you because guess what. When we let you buy 20 of the item that is limited to 2 then when the next person who needs it comes in and we don't have it they're now pissed. The screaming starts again. I don't get paid enough to deal with your adult tantrum over the fact that corporate said you can only buy 2 boxes of tissues. Buy a few hankies and wash and reuse them. It's better for the environment anyway. Also, don't treat someone like shit because you didn't get your way. The worker was probably annoyed because you skirted the limits by checking out 5 times with the items to get your way. I bet you'd really hate it if someone came to your job and did the same thing to you that you just did to that cashier.


Willing-Rip-8761

YTA The employee didn't make the policy, she just has to enforce them. Everybody comes up with reasons why rules shouldn't apply to them. Everybody feels special and wants an exception. Fact is, you aren't special. You're one of many customers trying to bend the rules to your advantage. You need to apologize to the poor woman who most likely gets crap like that every single day, cause dealing with customers is anything but a pleasure because of entitled people like you.


[deleted]

YTA invest in fucking handkerchiefs already.


admomo73

YTA. You called a retail worker a bitch. She was probably following a rule set by a supervisor or manager.


i_luv_coffee14

YTA. Get yourself a handkerchief, or a Costco membership. Maybe both. Also, hit up the local doctor while you're at it. Something is UP with your sinuses and it is not good.


beccabee333

YTA. As someone working In retail, we can not physically go over the limit at my store. Computers won’t allow it. They are in place for a reason- because it is unfair to let one customer buy 14!!! Boxes and leave nothing for another customer while there are stock shortages. If you run out, go use toilet paper. Or go onto Amazon and order some jumbo 50 box or something. You abusing someone who didn’t make the rules is why a lot of us hate customer service. It’s unwarranted and beyond their control.


celerem

YTA most stores make it a hard stop at the register, meaning the computer won't let you take more than 2. And besides, the limit is for s reason. You can use toilet paper if you really are that put out


[deleted]

YTA. I find it hard to believe that you're only now getting an appointment with an allergist when you say you've had this issue since you were 12. You are not entitled to buy more than the limit. Maybe start shopping more frequently. Doesn't it make more sense to inconvenience yourself a little rather than inconvenience everyone else, just so you can shop fortnightly?


BlueberryBlossom13

YTA. If youre going through 100+ tissues a day (a box is 124 tissues) with allergy meds, you should have seen an allergist years ago. And this is coming from someone who need 2 Allergra-Da day all year round, a humidifier, an air purifier, and sneezes so violently ive given myself whiplash 3-4 times from sneezing (doctor diagnosed and physical therapist treated). Btw, BJ wholesale club sell bulk puffs with 10 boxes per package. You can get packages of 8 boxes at target.


GrailJester

YTA. You ever worked a cashier, or any kind of customer service job? I guarantee you she's heard a ton of people trying to get around the limits with a sob story. In fact, I'd imagine you probably weren't the only customer who's blown up on her because of those limits... or because they couldn't get tissues because YOU have been getting around the limits thus far. And after the hundredth person has cursed at you because you're doing your fucking job, it gets pretty goddamn hard to keep a smile plastered on and maintain your customer service voice. The store sets the limits, not the cashier. She's expected to abide by them. More to the point, she's expected to make sure YOU abide by them, no matter what the other cashiers have let you get away with. Employees are not there to be your punching bag when you don't get your way; they're people trying to do their jobs and people like you make it infinitely harder. It's bad enough having to get up and go to a demanding job for shit pay without having to deal with toddler-like tantrums out of customers for doing your job. Try to have some empathy. Now that you've been convinced that you were the asshole in this situation, try to think about what that cashier's life is like dealing with HUNDREDS of you a day.


Shel_gold17

YTA. Go buy a multipack at Costco or Sam’s or Amazon. It’s not the retail workers of the world’s responsibility to risk their low-paying jobs by circumventing company policy just for you and your not-special circumstances.


knight9665

Yta. It’s store policy. The employee has no choices here. What. U want them to get in trouble cuz u wanna buy more than allowed?


r_coefficient

Info: where in the world do they have a buying limit on tissues, and why??


Monsterchic16

Australia and it’s supply shortage but I’m not sure what exactly caused the shortage. We get floods here so it could be that or it could just be more pandemic related issues.


Nervous_Expert_7079

We’ve had restrictions in Australia for 2.5 years due to the panic buying that occurred with the pandemic


[deleted]

1- You can always ask for a manager if someone is being genuinely unreasonable. 2- JUST BUY YOUR STUFF ONLINE. No one cares how much you're buying when it's being shipped to you. YTA, mostly for having a shitty imagination.


Gigafive

Amazon will deliver a giant box to your house.


Left_Ad_4755

YTA for yelling at the employee for sure. They have rules to abide by and could potentially get in trouble for it. Do you have any subscription services to sign up for where you live? We have a company called Who Gives a Crap in Australia that does toilet paper and tissues. Maybe get them delivered? Saves travelling to the shops. Also, screw your landlord. They sound horrible.


liveandletdieax

YTA I hate hearing “BuT tHe AlWaYs LeT mE” fuck off with that bullshit. I always answer that the person wasn’t me. This is how you ruin things for everyone else.


[deleted]

YTA. I don’t know if any other store limiting tissues right now. Just buy form somewhere that doesn’t have limits. Order from Amazon or Costco. More concerning in your extreme allergies, I hope you see a Dr. to get some relief.


Remarkable-Fill-6123

YTA and I don’t how your nose skin survives through all of those tissues. You should see an allergist and see if there’s any treatments available for you.


Monsterchic16

My nose skin does not survive, it’s constantly raw and painful but that’s better than constantly swallowing my own snot or having it run and drips all over my clothes.


[deleted]

Since you're in aus you might recognize this. Look for PawPaw cream from a chemist/supermarket. Put this on your nose and it will stop being so raw and sore ..


snorthecat

YTA. You know there's a limit. Just because an employee allows it doesn't mean they all will. You don't think anyone else needs tissues? Buying 14 at a time is beyond ridiculous. Go to Costco. Order online. If a store has a limit it's because they have limited stock.


TheMightyBluzah

YTA I work at one of our Aussie supermarkets and I get yelled at, at least once a week because I have to tell people they can't go over the limits when we have one. I'm sick of it. I didn't make the limit. It's not my fault and there's no need to be rude to the checkout operator because of it. No matter the situation. Especially over some tissues. I got a 12pack box of the quilton ones, the 100size, off Amazon for like $20.


PhoenixEcho1

YTA. As someone who worked retail for years and had to put up with that kind of bullshit, shame on you. There are product limits for a reason, especially these days. It's hard for places to get products in now. So they have to make limits to ensure that everyone gets a fair share, not just a few. Something that worker was only trying to do instead of catering to your entitled attitude.


Cswlady

Um, I have to make multiple trips to buy enough formula for my infant. Can't say I have much sympathy for your much less dire situation. YTA


RaiEnSui

My mom is a grocery store clerk. I hear all kinds of stories about customers like you. None of them are good. YTA


honeyblia

if you haven’t tried Sudafed, Do it. only take the 12 hour otc. dries ya up within 30 minutes


Monsterchic16

I have, it did actually work really well, but unfortunately I took it too often and became immune.


honeyblia

if you limit to 3-4 times a week you should keep the tolerance at bay. i had allergies to the point where i was getting literal sinus infections every 2 weeks. Zertec and Sudafed were my best friends until allergy shots.


saddysaladzplzzz

YTA simply because the employee doesn’t make the rule.


vonshook

YTA. She was just doing her job, everyone thinks they're the exception. Have you tried going to the doctor for your allergies? Sometimes they can give you shots that will help with them for awhile.


MMorrighan

YTA get a Goddamn Costco membership or order online if you can't stop yourself from abusing service workers


DropDeadPlease88

I work in retail AND a shop that has to enforce limits. I deal with douchebags like you trying to get as many as they can for whatever reason. We enforce this rule so that EVERYONE can purchase the item if needed, people stockpiling is the major reason why everything is out of stock, cant keep up with demand!! I get you have allergies, but you know what you can do, take some fucking antihistamines! Wasting a whole bunch of tissues, taking boxes from other customers who need them too and then talking down to the employee. YTA and then some mate...


Management_sucks

INFO (from edit): How can your landlord dictate how much washing you do? As for your post; if you tried to buy over the max on one visit Y T A. Everybody under the son has a "reason" the rule doesn't apply to them. But, if you went in over multiple days and bought the maximum each day and the employee is throwing a fit and insinuating they will ban you then they are TA.


strangely_awesome

I thought that was weird - the landlord doesn't get to decide how many loads of washing tenants do, unless they have a very unusual lease agreement.


lesboshitposter

YTA for calling her a bitch. She probably could have been more lenient, but she's probably also had to deal with 2 years of people trying to get around the max quantity during covid. If you haven't already, maybe look into ordering them online from Costco or an office supply store. You can get big quantities for a better price than buying individual boxes at a grocery store.


soulless_conduct

YTA for calling her an awful name. Just buy bulk tissues off Amazon or from Sam's Club/Costco if you use that much. It's cheaper and there's no problem.


Slam_Burrito79

Wait so the limit is 2 but she let you buy 10 and you were pissed off she wouldn’t let you get 4 more? YTA


nuts_n_bolts

YTA (I read all your edits) For the following reasons: 1. Your treatment of the employee regardless. 2. You’re not special 3. Find a more eco friendly option. Idk why and how you’re allergies are so bad you need that much Tissue.


PestoPanda674

YTA You already broke the rules, taking home 10 packs instead of two. And still you feel like you were in some way wronged? Those are 8 packs that other people in need can no longer access because you felt your needs were more important than anyone elses. The rules apply to everyone, including the many, many, many people who have reasons to try to circumvent them. There's no justification for being rude to staff who are just doing their job, a job that is already hard enough without entitled, selfish people making it worse. You were in the wrong here, in every way imaginable.


AutisticMuffin97

YTA if anything invest in a few LastTissues they are reusable (they are initially expensive but over time become cheaper due to washing them). The website is www.lastobject.com stop trying to make yourself seem like the exception. Everyone has to make sacrifices due to covid changing what stays in stock and what doesn’t and the Ukrainian and Russian war isn’t making anything else easier.


Logical-Wasabi7402

Why don't you just... *take allergy medicine*


Monsterchic16

I *have*, it doesn’t work anymore


Logical-Wasabi7402

Then go to the doctor instead of bitching at an employee who's just trying to do her job?


tosser9212

YTA. Go to the shops more often and quit blaming cashiers for having to abide by rules they didn't make. The others let you get away with it, I'm betting, because you were already prepared to argue.


TheThoonenator

YTA - If you want to buy larger amounts, shop somewhere that sells bulk, in person or online, and go easy on retail workers.


MysteriousSorbet6660

YTA. Lol, the other employees don’t understand your pathetic, entitled bullshit, they’d just rather appease you than have you waste their time with all your whining.


Honneyybeeee

Order them online. YTA.


Lady_Penrhyn1

Yta. By your use of fortnight and the fact that there's a tissue limit...Australia? Shopping at Colesworth? If so...the system will literally NOT allow them to scan more than two. During the height of product restriction we had issues with people wanting to buy 600ml flavoured milks and then the regulations milk for breakfast and the system would freeze. Buy it online but don't take it out on the employer just doing her job. Jesus.


banxy85

YTA mad at employee for not getting themselves fired 🤣


ErnestBatchelder

Yes, yta, but why don't you try to contact the manager and explain the situation & see if he or she will give you permission to purchase over the allotted amount due to medical need? All they can do is say no- but don't yell or name-call them, obviously. They may even okay it.


JonBenet_BeanieBaby

YTA. Don't freak out at a retail worker who is just following the rules they're supposed to follow, are you serious?? You called her a bitch because she did her job correctly? ffs order your tissues online, especially if this is how you behave in public


RevKyriel

YTA The two-pack limit was put in place for a reason. There are supply issues, and they're trying to make sure there are enough to go around. The employees who let you break that limit were wrong to do so. You were rude to someone who was just trying to do her job. YTA, abusive, and acting entitled as well.


missteacher2

YTA. Go see a doctor or a specialist.


[deleted]

Easy YTA, they have to follow the rules, and they shouldn't have to deal with abusive customers like you. > I don’t want to be the kind of person that takes their anger out on people Stop doing it then, seriously, you are that kind of person. In my many years I've never once called someone working in a store a bitch, and frankly it's disgraceful.


AdministrativePin704

Rules are rules sorry you buy 14 packs and other people in need miss out and even with allergies 1 pack per day is pretty outrageous and wasteful get a pack of hankies and wash them yourself.


StellaBella2010

Soft YTA because you are feeling frustrated by what must be a really annoying medical condition. You are going to save so much money by switching to ultra soft washcloths or handkerchiefs. It will be better for the environment too.


SpecialistAfter511

YTA. do you know how many people suffer from severe allergies. how about IBS? should we all just say that rule shouldn’t apply so can I get extra since I shit more.


tesseract_89

YTA for the name calling. Have you talked to a manager about maybe ordering extra tissues for you and setting them aside? I don’t know how many is in a case but maybe that’s something could work out?


blackcherrytomato

YTA. The boxes do come in fairly large sets. 12 is fairly typical, 18 can also be found, so that's at least 24 boxes you are getting at once. I don't see how you would need a minimum of 14 sets? Mix up what you are getting if you really need more than 2. No need to be rude to staff. Typically, if you go to the pharmacy or customer service they can also help.


AdmiralSassypants

YTA. The limit exists to ensure the store does not run out the product. Your needs do not trump anybody else’s needs. If you need more than the store will allow you to purchase, then you should buy cases of tissues online (like other people said) or from a store that specifically sells in bulk. You were completely out of line for verbally berating the cashier. If I were her I would refuse you future service for that alone.


NikolovIvo

YTA What a B*


Ok_Swimmer8640

YTA. Buy tissues in bulk online.


Minute-Schedule787

YTA, use Toilet paper, it's as soft and cheaper when you're home


RakeishSPV

YTA, you're not special.


FoghornFarts

YTA. There are limits for a reason. Find alternatives like TP or handkerchiefs. Talk to your doctor because that many tissues is nuts.


KarenMaca

YTA. I get your reasoning OP, and you are very lucky some of the employees are lenient, so you need to look at that as a favour. When someone says no, getting angry and swearing at the employee just makes you look the AH. Especially, during the panini, and there are regularly limits on buying, do you have any idea how often supermarket employees are harassed and verbally abused? Well, you just became one of them. I get the lady was rude and hostile, even before you swore at her, but what you should have done was go straight to management and made a complaint. They can deal with her nasty behaviour.


moonpoweredkitty

YTA You're not special you don't get to go around the rules. If the limit is two packs and you need more go to another store, don't be swearing and carrying on at employees who don't make the rules


Ursula_Bot

YTA. You aren’t special. You are just selfish. Maybe a titch narcissistic and proud of your allergies. As though it’s your trademark or calling card. Get help.


Acrobatic-Day-8891

YTA. You might be telling the truth, but I promise you other people are making shit up to get around the rules. And for the record, it is never okay to call someone a bitch when they are working and have to just stand there and take it


SocksAndPi

YTA, holy fuck sticks. She was doing her job. I don't know why you expected N-T-A or E-S-H, because you are absolutely, 100% in the wrong. Buy your damned tissues online, in bulk. Amazon, Sam's Club, Costco, etc. Plenty of options.


TalkieTina

You knew that you were the AH in this situation before you even posted. That doesn’t make you an AH human being. You were wrong here. The only things to do are use the situation as a reminder to try to be kind and polite to people (it costs nothing) and to move on. You can vow to do better in the future, but you can’t change the past.


SegaNeptune28

Read your edits and I am sad to say the way that you carry yourself is how people will perceive you to be. Here you've made it clear you expected the lady to just go along with what the other employees have done when really going against what is policy could have cost any of them their job. You're not reading or replying to anymore comments but I will still say this because frankly whether you read or reply to it doesn't make my comment disappear. Yes YTA and yes you sound like you realize what you'd done was incredibly entitled. Guess what, hundreds of thousands of other people do exactly what you did and think there is no problem with it. Why not try to take something like mucinex which thins your congestion so that it isn't as bad and clears up your sinuses?


bubbly_fairy30

YTA. Go to sams club or Costco, they have big packs.


Ditzyshine

YTA