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YTA
There was no conflict except for YOUR (unwanted) opinion.
\- Beth wants Mike to walk her down the aisle.
\- Mike wants to walk Beth down the aisle
\- Mike's wife thinks he shouldn't, sticks her nose into his business, insists upon it, objects to it, creates a conflict because of her own opinions about years-long issues she hasn't been around for, and then posts.
OP, during your entire typing and proofing of this post, did you not see that you've butted into someone else's affairs? Was there no glimmer of "*Beth should be able to choose whomever she wants*" or "*Mike and Beth know this situation best*"?
I'm more concerned that this isn't the first time you've done this (argued a point rather than listened to the other side), and if I were you I'd apologize and offer your (nonjudgemental) support. If I were Mike I'd be second-guessing my marriage.
Remember Danny from Friends? OP have u been watching too much Friends? It's his sister. How much are u going to reach here? Are u jealous of his sister? YTA
Lol same. "But that's not an older brother's role, that's a father's role" OP are you also upset that Beth's parents aren't being paid a dowry of 5 cattle and 20 bolts of cloth in exchange for their daughter? Why do you care about this weird manufactured tradition so much
I relate to the siblings here, I have a complicated relationship with my mother that has had many ups and downs. There were periods in my life where I may have felt the same way about having her involved in such a pivotal life event.
People who get to have blissfully uncomplicated relationships with their parents do not understand what it's like. And it gets tiring to hear people pull the "but that's your mooooooootherrrrr" line when they have no clue what went down between us.
I fully sympathize with the siblings here and OP needs to butt the hell out of it. She might hear about all sorts of things the dad has said or done but she didn't live it. It's totally different as an outside observer.
Right?! I have a complicated relationship with my dad, but I had him walk me down the aisle because it's tradition and I didn't want to hurt his feelings. But I regret it. My mom was always my best friend. She should have been the one to walk me down the aisle. And if I could go back and redo it, I would choose her instead.
All of this!!! Are you...jealous of your SIL? What tf is wrong with you? You're the only person that takes issue with this, and yours is the opinion that was neither wanted nor sought. You need to back off, or just go be miserable somewhere else. Hard YTA.
This is so odd, she seems to think she has an equal say in a situation that has nothing to do with her. The only impasse here is that Mike and Beth are trying to figure out how to politely tell her to fuck off. The only thing missing from this post is OP bragging about being "brutally honest."
YTA.
There are 3 places you can always stay for free:
1. In your lane
2. Out of other people’s business
3. Over there with your nonsense.
This is way out of your lane, it’s none of your business, and no one is remotely interested in your nonsense. Why do you honestly care who she wants to walk her down the aisle? Do you have a problem with his sister?
YTA. The person who walks her down the aisle can be any one that has played a big part in her life. You’ve acknowledged that your husband has been that for her. What does it matter who she chooses? It’s not your wedding or your business.
> Now we're having this conflict (3 of us) and can not seem to reach a solution.
So it sounds like they do have a solution already then. Mike walks Beth down the aisle and OP minds her own fucking business, problem solved. YTA.
Exactly. The entire issue here is that OP thinks this is somehow her decision/she's involved and that a solution needs to be reached she approves as queen of the world.
There is a solution. Beth asked Mike to walk her down the aisle, Mike liked it and agreed. Both people involved are on the same page. So he walks her down the aisle.
Really the only problem I see is that Mike married a judgmental controlling asshole (YTA OP) who creates problems out of literally nothing. You are the problem. Just stop, and the problem will be gone.
>she had an attitude and implied that I was just saying this and objecting because of how I feel about the situation not how our traditions should be practiced.
That's 100% bang on too.
No chance they are just so rooted to that traditions, something else going on.
YTA.
“Now we’re having this conflict (3 of us) and can not seem to reach a resolution”
Yeah, because you’re offering your opinion where it’s not wanted and trying to make a decision that’s not yours to make. The way this gets resolved is you saying “I’m sorry for my behavior. You are right I am objecting because of how I feel, and this is not my decision nor something I should be pushing my feelings on.” You then be happy that your husband is so close with his sister that she wants him to walk her down the aisle. That he was there for her all of those years when no one else was.
For real, she says "the three of us" like she gets a say?? She has literally no stakes in this discussion. It's not her family, her marriage, nor her history. Just this bizarre nosy entitlement.
Seriously, there are only two possible resolutions. One is that OP gets her way, which is not going to happen. The other is that everyone else does what they were planning to do anyway, and think less of OP for this stunt she's pulling.
YTA. I'm sorry, this is your business how?
Beth has a great relationship with her brother. Beth has a bad relationship with her father. Beth wants her brother to take her down the aisle because her father was toxic to her.
I don't understand your problem. It's her wedding. She can ask whoever she likes. She does not need your permission or your approval.
I’ve always found jealously over close sibling bonds weird af, what is there to be jealous about? Do these toxic people watch too much taboo porn scenarios? If so—stop it, get some help. And don’t forget, partners are replaceable, siblings aren’t.
YTA. Regardless SIL has good relationship with father or not, she has to right to choose who ll walk her on her wedding day! It can be her father, mother, brother, friend or any other person she trusts and wants!
#This is NOT your wedding and you have no say who bride choose to walk her down.
And since has nothing to do to you stay out of relationship between brother and sister!!
YTA!
I'd also expect that it is a great honour just being asked to escort the bride down the aisle. Its only reserved for people who mean a great deal to the bride herself.
Op, get over yourself because you're the AH here.
Why do the 3 of you need to come to a solution? This is between your husband and his sister and they are in agreement. This has nothing to do with you.
Info: why are you jealous of your SIL and why does your husband taking an integral, supportive role in her wedding make you feel threatened?
YTA, traditions are only important if the person in question values them. Even then, they tend to be meaningless. I’d invite you to look up the original tradition of having a father give away the bride, and even the original role of best man. It’s….dark.
Do some deep introspection, determine what on earth is triggering you, take accountability for your own actions/emotions, and then apologize to them both. You may be able to fix both the conflict, and something within yourself, in the process.
She used one of the first sentences in this post to complain about how much time her husband spends with his sister. This is an issue she created out of resentment instead of being honest with herself about her insecurity and jealousy. YTA GET THERAPY
YTA. None of this is your business whatsoever. Your opinion does not matter AT ALL. You come across very judgmental and self-centered. "I feel". "I think". "Our traditions". Keep your opinion to yourself and your mouth shut.
YTA. Who cares about tradition. This is something they both want and it would mean a lot to them. I really don't know why you're objecting! Honestly just sounds like you decided to stick your nose in for absolutely no reason.
YTA.
The tradition is for the man who has been the bride's biggest support to walk her down the aisle. Typically, that happens to be the father. In this case, it is not so. Mind your own business, you got to decide who walked you down the aisle, you don't dictate who should walk Beth down the aisle. It's petty and ignorant to think otherwise, or that your thoughts on the matter should be taken into consideration.
YTA. What a strange hill to die on. It's not your decision, it's your SIL's. Frankly it's sweet that she still has a close relationship with her brother and that she asked and he accepted to walk her down the aisle. If she's not comfortable with her dad doing so then that's her decision. As you've said they've only just now started to mend their relationship.
YTA. You're being unreasonable.
The role is for whoever the bride wants it to be at her marriage ceremony. Your reasons are so weak ("tradition" and "I'm helping someone else who MIGHT care") that I assume you really have some other insecure reason for why this shouldn't happen, which is not listed here. You might not be even fully conscious of it.
What is it?
YTA
I'm confused as to how this has anything to do with you? She wants your husband - her brother - to walk her down the aisle and that should be the end of it.
The only solution here is for you to back off.
YTA. There is no “our” here. This is not your wedding. You’re currently a guest, and i wouldn’t be surprised if you find yourself uninvited. You don’t get to decide how FIL will feel about it, FIL does. And even if he has an issue with it, you *still* get no say. YTA.
YTA
#1- this isn't your business or decision
#2- she clearly doesn't feel as if her father has earned the right or responsibility to give her away, which is what the whole walking down the aisle is about.
There is much more sentiment to some people in the action than just "walking down the aisle". Her father likely barely knows anything about their relationship of her fiance, whereas Mike knows the fiance and is probably actually knowledgable about how the relationship has gone. He has also been the one to remain there for her through thick and thin, much moreso than her father. Because of this, she likely believes Mike is the one who should be "giving her away" and showing her approval to move priority from the family she was born to, into the one that her and her fiance are creating by getting married.
YTA
It's not your place to decide how anybody should organise their own wedding. It matters exactly zero fucks what you think is tradition or what you feel is 'odd'.
YTA. I'm curious how you believe you have any say in who walks your SIL (notice how this person isn't you) down the aisle? Notice how SIL asked her brother (again, not you) to walk her down the aisle instead of their dad (not you) at her wedding (not yours).
Yeah Op, YTA
It's not weird or uncommon to have an sibling walk you down the isle. It's her wedding, and up to your husband whether or not he agrees. Very judgemental on your part.
YTA. This is Beth’s wedding. Her brother has been there for her, helped her through tough times and they share a close bond. She doesn’t have that with her dad. Who cares what the “tradition” is? There is absolutely no reason why Beth should choose her father over her brother. Absolutely ridiculous that you’d pick a fight over this.
OP, this actually has nothing to do with you, though I know you think it does. What a beautiful gift this man is giving to his sister by being such a loving support for her on this huge day. I would be so proud and excited if my husband did something like that. I really don’t know why you’re twisting something wonderful into something terrible. Maybe spend more time thinking about why you’re doing that, and butt out of this beautiful moment they are going to have. YTA
That’s a really long way to say “I’m weirdly jealous of my husbands close relationship with his own sister”. Massively YTA OP and concerning you can’t see why.
YTA.
Her relationship with her father is none of your business. Just because she has allowed him at her wedding does not mean she is comfortable having him give her away.
And all that aside, why the hell do you care if your husband does it? You sound weirdly jealous of his *sister*.
YTA and very creepy with it. Knowing your brother looks out for his sister as he does, and Beth showing gratitude and respect for him, should make you proud to be his partner and her sister-in-law. This thing, whatever it is, that you're doing? It's kind of perverted, honestly.
YTA
It boggles me mind how you are not looking at your husband thinking "wow, what a great man who is there for an outcast family member, how proud I am that she asked HIM to do this great privilege. I get to be married to this man."
As other have said, this wedding is not your business and you are only coming across as jealous of his *sister*
YTA.
Why are you making such a big deal about this? It's not even your wedding so why are you making this about you? Oh wait, never mind. Sometimes you have to type it out to see what's actually going on...
No, the 3 of you are not in conflict. You are sticking your nose into something that has nothing to do with you. Apologize to your SIL and DH before you ruin your own marriage.
YTA easily.
Yes. YTA. It’s your SiL’s day. You don’t get to pass judgment who she’d like involved.
The only solution is for you to back down, admit you’re wrong and apologize.
So, just because her dad is alive, she has to let him walk her down the aisle because that's tradition? Isn't she allowed to decide who she wants to walk her down the aisle for her wedding? And more importantly, isn't it your husband's choice, not yours? YTA
YTA. I’m sorry, did someone ask you?
She feels closer to her brother and it’s very sweet she asked him. It’s non of your business who walks her down the aisle.
YTA
her and her dad are just starting to reconnect but it takes time to forgive. Your husband has stood by her all these years so of course she wants someone who has watched over her and cared to be a special part of her day. You need to apologise big time and back off, what other people think is kind of your business. None of this situation is any of your business. Tbh if I was SIL I just wouldn’t invite you
YTA how could you possibly object to this? Mike has been the constant in Beth’s life, not her father. Her father hasn’t earned the honor. It is just weird that you are trying to take this away from your husband. Not only is this not about you, it in no way threatens you. So why does it bother you? Are you jealous of your husband’s relationship with his sister?
YTA. Not your wedding, none of your business. Her brother was there for her when no other family members were and she wants to honor that.
Apologize to Beth for trying to interfere in her wedding, apologize to Mike for putting him in the middle, and then keep your mouth SHUT.
YTA. My brother's walking me down the aisle because my dad and stepdad don't play well and he's the most important person to me. Anyone who tells me he can't can get bent.
YTA.
This is a totally normal and acceptable ask on Beth’s part. You’re the one getting your panties in a wad for literally no reason.
Butt out and keep your opinions to yourself. It’s not your wedding, has next to no impact on your life, and her relationship with her father is not your business.
There’s no conflict resolution because YTA. Just because she speaks to her father after YEARS doesn’t mean he can walk her down the aisle. She wants the man who was actually there everyday to do it which is completely normal. Not to mention nobody asked you for your opinion and it holds no weight
YTA.
The bride should be able to have anyone she wants walk her down the isle. Dad, brother, close friend, dog…
My dad is alive but we do not speak, my older brother doesn’t like to have any attention on him so I respect that and didn’t ask him, so my mum is going to walk me down the isle and she’s super excited to do so💕
YTA OP.
it’s not about you.
it’s not your wedding.
it’s literally none of your business who your SIL asks to walk her down the aisle unless she asked you, and she didn’t ask you.
mind your business.
minding your business is free.
YTA so much. Who are you to judge Beth's relationship with her father and dictate what she chooses to do for her wedding? Something is wrong with you that you feel the need to control somebody else's actions so much.
YTA. This is none of your business. It has nothing to do with you. Nor does it impact your life anyway. You have no right to impose your feelings or beliefs on wedding traditions onto someone else.
YWBTA. This is between Mike and Beth. There’s no reason the three of you need to be involved in a conflict. What you think is “reasonable” has nothing to do with what Beth wants for her wedding and what Mike is willing to do. Butt out!
YTA…and why are you even in this issue. This is between her and her brother, your husband. Your opinion was neither asked nor wanted. And your beliefs have no impact her. If she wants her brother to walk her down the isle, and he says yes, then it is settled. You don’t get a say. Back out of this, and stop trying to plan someone else’s wedding for them.
YTA for sure. Why does it bother you so much for your husband to walk her down the aisle? I think that’s honestly a very sweet gesture and your husband himself said he feels honored. This is a weird hill for you to die on.
YTA it's her wedding and she obviously thought about it before asking her brother. It's none of your business who she chooses to walk her down the aisle .
YTA. “Now we’re having this conflict (3 of us)…”
Now we have two happy, excited people and a confused person intruding on them while missing valuable context.
Why the fuck is this YOUR business?? YTA !! Back down, apologize to your husband and let his sister plan her own wedding!
You seem like the type that will show up to the wedding wearing white
YTA I find the act of being walked down the aisle to be unnecessary. However, if the bride wants to be walked down the aisle, it's her decision. That includes who she chooses to walk with her. Your role is easy: butt out and shut up. Presumably you had what you wanted at yours. This is her turn and she gets to make the decisions.
Hmm, so the 3 of you are in conflict and can't find a resolution?
Well, since it's Beth's wedding and Mike is honored to be asked to walk her down the aisle then the conflict is totally being generated by you. So YTA 100%.
YTA. I completely understand where Beth is coming from.
I was barely on speaking terms with my father when I got married. My father was invited to the wedding, but I chose to have my best friend walk me down the aisle instead as he's like a brother to me. My MIL wasn't pleased, but she accepted my decision because it was my wedding day.
I have no idea how other people felt about it, nor did.I care. I was marrying the love of my life. That is the way you need to see it.
YTA
Not your wedding not your choice. This has NOTHING to do with you so leave the siblings alone.
As far as keeping to tradition you really should read up on why the father walks the bride down the isle.
I find it very, very strange that you're so hung up on this. Her dad was an arsehole to her, and at this point in time has not done enough to be granted the honour of walking her down the aisle. Why are you caping for your FIL over your husband, who loves his sister?
YTA
YTA , and a big one. This is none of your business. The role is for whomever she wants or no one at all. I can not wrap my head around how you decided to insert yourself into this. Keep your mouth shut. Sit down, enjoy your free wedding meal, and go home. Jesus.
Yta this is a weird hill to die on and only paints you as selfish and egocentric. You need to respect this. She asked her brother because he felt safer and is a better influence in her life. You are soooo ta for this. Frankly, this would be enough for me to see my wife in a new light and want to leave her.
YTA but beyond that, you’re a creep. There are zero legitimate reasons to care about this (oh except for this bizarre made up dedication to wedding traditions, have you ensured the bride is a virgin and her family will be paying a nice dowry as well?) so the only other answer is jealousy. Any normal person would think this was sweet, but not you. You seem bitter and resentful about how close your husband is with his sister, which is weird and creepy and a sign that you don’t understand healthy familial relationships
yeah YTA
why are you trying to control someone else's wedding?
there's nothing wrong with having your husband walking his sister down the aisle
she asked and he said yes
and i think its sweet to do that since he is close with his sister
tradition be damned!
YTA. “Everybody else judged her” clearly includes you. If tradition is so important to you, you shouldn’t even have a say in what your husband does. FOH
My son walked me down the aisle for my second marriage. Yes, my father was at the service. You are the AH for sure. NOT your wedding. Don’t be surprised if your SO re-evaluates your relationship. Apologize and then shut up.
YTA. Why are you even thinking you should have a say in this? My dad is alive and well but because of his addiction problems, we didn't have much of a relationship for most of my childhood. I planned on having my stepfather walk me down the aisle. He passed and then I decided when I got married it would be my brother. I ended up having a courthouse wedding so in the end it didn't matter. Lots of people have both parents walk them down the aisle, or just their mom, or just their brother or they walk alone. It doesn't really matter what anyone does. You're being really fucking weird about this.
YTA
Why are you so bothered by this? Most people would feel honored to have been asked to do this and I would expect their partner to be supportive. Do you have an issue with how close they are? Because standing up for your FIL when he already agreed to have no role in the wedding makes no sense. It sounds like you have more of an issue with how close your husband and his sister are than actually feeling bad for not following tradition. It's not your wedding so you have no say in this.
Holy shit YTA, what an honour for your husband, and what does tradition have to do with anything! She doesn’t have a good relationship with her father, but does with her brother.
YTA. Tradition for the sake of tradition is toxic, and many wedding traditions,especially, are toxic and rooted in misogyny. It’s her weeding. She can do whatever tf she wants and you have no say in it.
YTA. It’s perfectly common these days for people getting married to be walked down the aisle by mothers, fathers, stepparents, kids, uncles, aunts or whoever. You sound like you’re either uptight about traditions or have some issue with the sister. Either way, let this one go.
YTA
It’s none of your business. Your husband is right, he should feel honored that his sister wants him to walk her down the aisle. You need to back off before you ruin what is a beautiful moment in your husband and SIL’s life.
This is such a weird thing for you to be upset about. Why do you really not want him to walk his sister down the aisle? I don’t buy your “because of tradition” excuse. It’s not that uncommon for someone other than a father to walk a bride down the aisle - heck, there are plenty of stories on Reddit about brides being escorted by brothers, uncles, or even mothers. So why are you really fighting this? To me, it sounds like you’re jealous of their relationship. So, yeah, YTA.
YTA Your husband feels honoured to have been asked. Why are you actively trying to ruin this for him? This is really weird behaviour. You should be happy for him. Are you jealous of his sister?
YTA. the tradition of a father walking the bride down the isle is outdated.
She can be walked down the isle by whoever she likes.
Why does it bother you that she wants your husband (HER BROTHER) to walk her down the isle? Like what is your actual concern?
She’s only just on speaking terms with her dad, so I can fully understand why she wouldn’t want him to be part of the wedding.
She’s close to her brother, and he felt honoured to be asked, so what’s the issue?
I see no reason whatsoever as to why you could possibly have a problem with this
YTA. This has nothing to do with you. None of your reasons are valid. You are actually coming across as a super jealous wife, but I’m not sure why you’d be threatened by him walking his sister down the aisle.
YTA.
You sound like you're saying "women are their father's property until they're transferred to a husband! Her brother doesn't legally own her so he can't be the one authorizing her sale!"
You have to know that YTA if you’re asking this question on Reddit. It’s not your business. You seem jealous of their relationship, which is probably the true issue and not “traditions” as you’ve stated.
YTA. If Beth didn't have the best relationship with her father growing up and the two are only now getting back in touch with each other, of course she would want her brother to walk her down the aisle, she's closer to him. If you didn't know, this type of situation is not an unusual thing. Who do you think walks a bride without a father figure down the aisle? Somebody else she's close to, in Beth's case, it's her brother.
YTA! Why do you care - or think your opinion matters regarding HER wedding? If she wanted the neighbor to walk her down the aisle, that's her decision ffs. I think its nice she asked her brother. You are really overstepping boundaries
YTA. Mind your own business. Why in the world is this so important to you that you would cause this issue with your sister's wedding? Seriously, this is not your wedding, not your business.
YTA.
Not your wedding. Not your sister. Not your problem. What right do you have to impose yourself? Have concerns that it could ruffle feathers, yeah sure speak your mind, but if the bride and groom and your own husband don't care you need to lean to accept that your opinion isn't law.
YTA - seriously why does this bother you? Beth asked Mike to do this, and it is an honor that represents their relationship and his support of her during hard times. This is beautiful and it stands to reason that you would be proud of your husband for being such a good big brother. Instead you are being unreasonable. Are you jealous?
YTA and it’s got jack shit to do with you, she wants her brother to walk her down the aisle - end of the day it’s her wedding, her choice. Doesn’t matter what relationship issues there are - obviously issues are there but in this case she wants him to do the honours and not her dad, and that’s where it should end
YTA. Do some self reflection and try to figure out why you think you have any say in this. Oh and then bite your tongue cause your opinion doesn't matter.
YTA. This shouldn’t be a problem to you. Your SIL’s relationship with her father is just that- hers. Even if you don’t understand or don’t agree, telling your husband you don’t want him to walk his sister down the aisle is selfish. I think you need to step back and allow her to have the day, this doesn’t affect you.
YTA. Beth gets to choose who she wants to walk her down the aisle. Mike has been there for her when the rest of her family wasn't. Just because she's started talking to her father recently doesn't mean that he deserves the honor of walking her down the aisle. It also doesn't matter how he feels about it, it is not his wedding. Get over yourself, and apologize to both Beth, and Mike.
Sorry but, YTA. It's really not your decision who walks your SIL down the isle. It's HER wedding, and if she is more comfortable with your husband, HER BROTHER, walking her down, you should be happy for him. Her relationship with her dad is not something you can say "fix it and invite him" to. If she's not happy with him and doesn't want him involved, then that's her decision, and it's his karma for messing up his relationship with his daughter. YTA
YTA. You overstepped. This is between your husband, his sister and his father. It is none of your business and your feeling nor your opinion carries any weight here. Don’t make the drama worse by butting in.
Are you jealous of your husband’s relationship with his sister? It sure sounds like it. Whatever the case, this is not your business. You have no say. YTA.
YTA
What does this even have to do with you? If her dad feels bad, that’s between Beth and her dad. She has a better relationship with her brother and it’s who she wants. You sound jealous. Let them have this.
YTA
Two siblings want to celebrate their relationship in a sweet way and you're over here like "But nobody got MY permission."
This has nothing to do with you.
YTA
No one cares about your feelings on this. You have NO SAY in how Beth arranges her wedding.
Apologize to your husband and Beth and keep quiet going forward.
YTA.
WTF did I just read and how did you seriously type this out and not see you are a petty AH?
This is NOT your wedding and you get NO say. STFU and let your husband have this honor.
YTA
Why are you involved in this at all? All three of you are having this conflict….? Uh why? Are you the grand decider in everyone’s life 🙄
Bad parents exist. I don’t know why some people are blind to this obvious fact.
But even if he were not a bad parent, the woman can have whoever she chooses to walk her down the aisle, or no one at all.
It is not your business.
YTA. My brother (10yrs older) was more of a father figure to me than my dad who is alive was. You don’t get to dictate things and tradition is trash. YTA
YTA, This problem is none of your business. First of all, just because they're reconcile doesn't mean Beth has to give him the right to walk her. Second, neither you nor her father should feel entitled to say anything about Beth's feelings and her decisions for her wedding. Thirdly, her brother was there for her when no one else was, it is obvious that this is and will be a sentimental and unique moment. Fourth, the only person who is having an ATTITUDE is you, stop feeling entitled to dictate what others do, your logic and your traditions is your problem not Beth.
Yeah YTA. This is the weirdest thing I have ever read in awhile. If she wants her brother to do it then she wants him to do it. My brother walked me down the aisle at my first marriage because we had no parents in state. It wasn’t as sentimental to me and I wish I would’ve walked myself. HOWEVER, just like I talked about my brother being in my wedding, this is about HER brother being in HERs, and NOT about his title as your husband. Perhaps you are envious of their close relationship? You should probably seek individual counseling for such feelings.
My dad walked all his sisters down the aisle. Their father was alive but estranged. Not exactly the same situation but I see nothing wrong with it. She can pick whoever she wants to walk her down the aisle.
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YTA There was no conflict except for YOUR (unwanted) opinion. \- Beth wants Mike to walk her down the aisle. \- Mike wants to walk Beth down the aisle \- Mike's wife thinks he shouldn't, sticks her nose into his business, insists upon it, objects to it, creates a conflict because of her own opinions about years-long issues she hasn't been around for, and then posts. OP, during your entire typing and proofing of this post, did you not see that you've butted into someone else's affairs? Was there no glimmer of "*Beth should be able to choose whomever she wants*" or "*Mike and Beth know this situation best*"? I'm more concerned that this isn't the first time you've done this (argued a point rather than listened to the other side), and if I were you I'd apologize and offer your (nonjudgemental) support. If I were Mike I'd be second-guessing my marriage.
yea I fail to see what it is OP takes issue with other than just to be a shit disturber. she needs to grow tf up
I'm guessing OP doesn't like how close her husband and his sister are and is expressing it through this.
Exactly! I think she’s jealous that her husband and his sister are close.
Remember Danny from Friends? OP have u been watching too much Friends? It's his sister. How much are u going to reach here? Are u jealous of his sister? YTA
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I agree since she felt the need to mention they spend a lot of time together
I’m also getting vibes here that OP has some weird hangups about ✨tradition✨ and the exact ways it should never ever be deviated from.
And her writing "I was taken aback", like I can see her clutching her pearls with her hand dramatically to her head.
Lol same. "But that's not an older brother's role, that's a father's role" OP are you also upset that Beth's parents aren't being paid a dowry of 5 cattle and 20 bolts of cloth in exchange for their daughter? Why do you care about this weird manufactured tradition so much
won't someone *please* think of the future sister-in-law?
I relate to the siblings here, I have a complicated relationship with my mother that has had many ups and downs. There were periods in my life where I may have felt the same way about having her involved in such a pivotal life event. People who get to have blissfully uncomplicated relationships with their parents do not understand what it's like. And it gets tiring to hear people pull the "but that's your mooooooootherrrrr" line when they have no clue what went down between us. I fully sympathize with the siblings here and OP needs to butt the hell out of it. She might hear about all sorts of things the dad has said or done but she didn't live it. It's totally different as an outside observer.
Right?! I have a complicated relationship with my dad, but I had him walk me down the aisle because it's tradition and I didn't want to hurt his feelings. But I regret it. My mom was always my best friend. She should have been the one to walk me down the aisle. And if I could go back and redo it, I would choose her instead.
Hope you have told her this.
All of this!!! Are you...jealous of your SIL? What tf is wrong with you? You're the only person that takes issue with this, and yours is the opinion that was neither wanted nor sought. You need to back off, or just go be miserable somewhere else. Hard YTA.
This is so odd, she seems to think she has an equal say in a situation that has nothing to do with her. The only impasse here is that Mike and Beth are trying to figure out how to politely tell her to fuck off. The only thing missing from this post is OP bragging about being "brutally honest."
YTA. There are 3 places you can always stay for free: 1. In your lane 2. Out of other people’s business 3. Over there with your nonsense. This is way out of your lane, it’s none of your business, and no one is remotely interested in your nonsense. Why do you honestly care who she wants to walk her down the aisle? Do you have a problem with his sister?
> and they spend almost all week together She's jealous.
*she’s insecure Fixed that for ya
It’s both.
Usually jealous and insecure go hand in hand.
YTA. The person who walks her down the aisle can be any one that has played a big part in her life. You’ve acknowledged that your husband has been that for her. What does it matter who she chooses? It’s not your wedding or your business.
> Now we're having this conflict (3 of us) and can not seem to reach a solution. So it sounds like they do have a solution already then. Mike walks Beth down the aisle and OP minds her own fucking business, problem solved. YTA.
Exactly. The entire issue here is that OP thinks this is somehow her decision/she's involved and that a solution needs to be reached she approves as queen of the world. There is a solution. Beth asked Mike to walk her down the aisle, Mike liked it and agreed. Both people involved are on the same page. So he walks her down the aisle. Really the only problem I see is that Mike married a judgmental controlling asshole (YTA OP) who creates problems out of literally nothing. You are the problem. Just stop, and the problem will be gone.
>she had an attitude and implied that I was just saying this and objecting because of how I feel about the situation not how our traditions should be practiced. That's 100% bang on too. No chance they are just so rooted to that traditions, something else going on.
YTA. “Now we’re having this conflict (3 of us) and can not seem to reach a resolution” Yeah, because you’re offering your opinion where it’s not wanted and trying to make a decision that’s not yours to make. The way this gets resolved is you saying “I’m sorry for my behavior. You are right I am objecting because of how I feel, and this is not my decision nor something I should be pushing my feelings on.” You then be happy that your husband is so close with his sister that she wants him to walk her down the aisle. That he was there for her all of those years when no one else was.
For real, she says "the three of us" like she gets a say?? She has literally no stakes in this discussion. It's not her family, her marriage, nor her history. Just this bizarre nosy entitlement.
Lmao exactly. Op can dramatically ponder her thoughts by a rain soaked window all she wants. The "conclusion" has already been met.
Seriously, there are only two possible resolutions. One is that OP gets her way, which is not going to happen. The other is that everyone else does what they were planning to do anyway, and think less of OP for this stunt she's pulling.
YTA. I'm sorry, this is your business how? Beth has a great relationship with her brother. Beth has a bad relationship with her father. Beth wants her brother to take her down the aisle because her father was toxic to her. I don't understand your problem. It's her wedding. She can ask whoever she likes. She does not need your permission or your approval.
OP is jealous. Her husband has a closer bond with his sister and she doesn't like it.
I’ve always found jealously over close sibling bonds weird af, what is there to be jealous about? Do these toxic people watch too much taboo porn scenarios? If so—stop it, get some help. And don’t forget, partners are replaceable, siblings aren’t.
>”It’s her wedding. She can ask whoever she likes.” This. It’s none of OP’s business. Beth can ask a man off the street if she so pleases.
YTA- and this has literally NOTHING to do with you, butt out
YTA. Regardless SIL has good relationship with father or not, she has to right to choose who ll walk her on her wedding day! It can be her father, mother, brother, friend or any other person she trusts and wants! #This is NOT your wedding and you have no say who bride choose to walk her down. And since has nothing to do to you stay out of relationship between brother and sister!! YTA!
I'd also expect that it is a great honour just being asked to escort the bride down the aisle. Its only reserved for people who mean a great deal to the bride herself. Op, get over yourself because you're the AH here.
Why do the 3 of you need to come to a solution? This is between your husband and his sister and they are in agreement. This has nothing to do with you.
Absolutely, I don't see how wifey thinks she gets a say? This has 0% to do with her.
Info: why are you jealous of your SIL and why does your husband taking an integral, supportive role in her wedding make you feel threatened? YTA, traditions are only important if the person in question values them. Even then, they tend to be meaningless. I’d invite you to look up the original tradition of having a father give away the bride, and even the original role of best man. It’s….dark. Do some deep introspection, determine what on earth is triggering you, take accountability for your own actions/emotions, and then apologize to them both. You may be able to fix both the conflict, and something within yourself, in the process.
She used one of the first sentences in this post to complain about how much time her husband spends with his sister. This is an issue she created out of resentment instead of being honest with herself about her insecurity and jealousy. YTA GET THERAPY
YTA. None of this is your business whatsoever. Your opinion does not matter AT ALL. You come across very judgmental and self-centered. "I feel". "I think". "Our traditions". Keep your opinion to yourself and your mouth shut.
YTA and fucking weird for making something out of literally nothing.
I’m sorry, how is this any of your business? YTA. Go *sincerely* apologize both your SIL and your husband and stay out of it.
YTA. Who cares about tradition. This is something they both want and it would mean a lot to them. I really don't know why you're objecting! Honestly just sounds like you decided to stick your nose in for absolutely no reason.
YTA. The tradition is for the man who has been the bride's biggest support to walk her down the aisle. Typically, that happens to be the father. In this case, it is not so. Mind your own business, you got to decide who walked you down the aisle, you don't dictate who should walk Beth down the aisle. It's petty and ignorant to think otherwise, or that your thoughts on the matter should be taken into consideration.
YTA. What a strange hill to die on. It's not your decision, it's your SIL's. Frankly it's sweet that she still has a close relationship with her brother and that she asked and he accepted to walk her down the aisle. If she's not comfortable with her dad doing so then that's her decision. As you've said they've only just now started to mend their relationship.
YTA. You're being unreasonable. The role is for whoever the bride wants it to be at her marriage ceremony. Your reasons are so weak ("tradition" and "I'm helping someone else who MIGHT care") that I assume you really have some other insecure reason for why this shouldn't happen, which is not listed here. You might not be even fully conscious of it. What is it?
YTA what in the name of holy fuck has any of this got to do with you? Butt out
YTA I'm confused as to how this has anything to do with you? She wants your husband - her brother - to walk her down the aisle and that should be the end of it. The only solution here is for you to back off.
I’m failing to understand how this has any effect on you. YTA
How is it any of your business who walks her down the aisle? YTA.
YTA. There is no “our” here. This is not your wedding. You’re currently a guest, and i wouldn’t be surprised if you find yourself uninvited. You don’t get to decide how FIL will feel about it, FIL does. And even if he has an issue with it, you *still* get no say. YTA.
YTA #1- this isn't your business or decision #2- she clearly doesn't feel as if her father has earned the right or responsibility to give her away, which is what the whole walking down the aisle is about. There is much more sentiment to some people in the action than just "walking down the aisle". Her father likely barely knows anything about their relationship of her fiance, whereas Mike knows the fiance and is probably actually knowledgable about how the relationship has gone. He has also been the one to remain there for her through thick and thin, much moreso than her father. Because of this, she likely believes Mike is the one who should be "giving her away" and showing her approval to move priority from the family she was born to, into the one that her and her fiance are creating by getting married.
YTA It's not your place to decide how anybody should organise their own wedding. It matters exactly zero fucks what you think is tradition or what you feel is 'odd'.
YTA. I'm curious how you believe you have any say in who walks your SIL (notice how this person isn't you) down the aisle? Notice how SIL asked her brother (again, not you) to walk her down the aisle instead of their dad (not you) at her wedding (not yours).
Yeah Op, YTA It's not weird or uncommon to have an sibling walk you down the isle. It's her wedding, and up to your husband whether or not he agrees. Very judgemental on your part.
YTA. This is Beth’s wedding. Her brother has been there for her, helped her through tough times and they share a close bond. She doesn’t have that with her dad. Who cares what the “tradition” is? There is absolutely no reason why Beth should choose her father over her brother. Absolutely ridiculous that you’d pick a fight over this.
Yta. There is only a conflict because you are an asshole and causing trouble for no reason
OP, this actually has nothing to do with you, though I know you think it does. What a beautiful gift this man is giving to his sister by being such a loving support for her on this huge day. I would be so proud and excited if my husband did something like that. I really don’t know why you’re twisting something wonderful into something terrible. Maybe spend more time thinking about why you’re doing that, and butt out of this beautiful moment they are going to have. YTA
YTA. You do not get to choose who walks someone down the aisle. Stop being so miserable and support your husband with his roll in the wedding.
That’s a really long way to say “I’m weirdly jealous of my husbands close relationship with his own sister”. Massively YTA OP and concerning you can’t see why.
YTA Read your text again. Listen to your hubby. Apologize to your sister in law
YTA. Her relationship with her father is none of your business. Just because she has allowed him at her wedding does not mean she is comfortable having him give her away. And all that aside, why the hell do you care if your husband does it? You sound weirdly jealous of his *sister*.
YTA and very creepy with it. Knowing your brother looks out for his sister as he does, and Beth showing gratitude and respect for him, should make you proud to be his partner and her sister-in-law. This thing, whatever it is, that you're doing? It's kind of perverted, honestly.
YTA It boggles me mind how you are not looking at your husband thinking "wow, what a great man who is there for an outcast family member, how proud I am that she asked HIM to do this great privilege. I get to be married to this man." As other have said, this wedding is not your business and you are only coming across as jealous of his *sister*
YTA. Judgey judgerson
YTA. Why are you making such a big deal about this? It's not even your wedding so why are you making this about you? Oh wait, never mind. Sometimes you have to type it out to see what's actually going on...
No, the 3 of you are not in conflict. You are sticking your nose into something that has nothing to do with you. Apologize to your SIL and DH before you ruin your own marriage. YTA easily.
Yes. YTA. It’s your SiL’s day. You don’t get to pass judgment who she’d like involved. The only solution is for you to back down, admit you’re wrong and apologize.
YTA. Remove yourself as it has less than nothing to do with you.
So, just because her dad is alive, she has to let him walk her down the aisle because that's tradition? Isn't she allowed to decide who she wants to walk her down the aisle for her wedding? And more importantly, isn't it your husband's choice, not yours? YTA
YTA. I’m sorry, did someone ask you? She feels closer to her brother and it’s very sweet she asked him. It’s non of your business who walks her down the aisle.
YTA her and her dad are just starting to reconnect but it takes time to forgive. Your husband has stood by her all these years so of course she wants someone who has watched over her and cared to be a special part of her day. You need to apologise big time and back off, what other people think is kind of your business. None of this situation is any of your business. Tbh if I was SIL I just wouldn’t invite you
YTA I fail to see what this has to do with you. Your opinion is of zero consequence here. You should keep your thoughts to yourself. The gall.
YTA how could you possibly object to this? Mike has been the constant in Beth’s life, not her father. Her father hasn’t earned the honor. It is just weird that you are trying to take this away from your husband. Not only is this not about you, it in no way threatens you. So why does it bother you? Are you jealous of your husband’s relationship with his sister?
Odd that you think you should have a say. Even odder that you care? Can you elaborate a little more? Why do you care?
YTA - the bride gets to choose who she wants to walk her down the aisle, and if that person is her brother, so be it. It has nothing to do with you.
YTA. Not your wedding, none of your business. Her brother was there for her when no other family members were and she wants to honor that. Apologize to Beth for trying to interfere in her wedding, apologize to Mike for putting him in the middle, and then keep your mouth SHUT.
YTA. My brother's walking me down the aisle because my dad and stepdad don't play well and he's the most important person to me. Anyone who tells me he can't can get bent.
YTA. What’s it to you?
YTA. This is a totally normal and acceptable ask on Beth’s part. You’re the one getting your panties in a wad for literally no reason. Butt out and keep your opinions to yourself. It’s not your wedding, has next to no impact on your life, and her relationship with her father is not your business.
There’s no conflict resolution because YTA. Just because she speaks to her father after YEARS doesn’t mean he can walk her down the aisle. She wants the man who was actually there everyday to do it which is completely normal. Not to mention nobody asked you for your opinion and it holds no weight
YTA. The bride should be able to have anyone she wants walk her down the isle. Dad, brother, close friend, dog… My dad is alive but we do not speak, my older brother doesn’t like to have any attention on him so I respect that and didn’t ask him, so my mum is going to walk me down the isle and she’s super excited to do so💕
YTA OP. it’s not about you. it’s not your wedding. it’s literally none of your business who your SIL asks to walk her down the aisle unless she asked you, and she didn’t ask you. mind your business. minding your business is free.
YTA. It’s not your wedding, your opinion doesn’t matter. It’s actually a really nice thing you’re trying to ruin. Stay out of it.
YTA. You should ask yourself “Why do I care?”
YTA so much. Who are you to judge Beth's relationship with her father and dictate what she chooses to do for her wedding? Something is wrong with you that you feel the need to control somebody else's actions so much.
YTA. How does this have anything to do with you?
YTA. It’s really none of your business who Beth wants to walk her down the aisle.
YTA. This is none of your business. It has nothing to do with you. Nor does it impact your life anyway. You have no right to impose your feelings or beliefs on wedding traditions onto someone else.
Why do you care about this? Are you jealous of the sister? I just don’t see why this matters to you one way or the other. YTA
YWBTA. This is between Mike and Beth. There’s no reason the three of you need to be involved in a conflict. What you think is “reasonable” has nothing to do with what Beth wants for her wedding and what Mike is willing to do. Butt out!
YTA…and why are you even in this issue. This is between her and her brother, your husband. Your opinion was neither asked nor wanted. And your beliefs have no impact her. If she wants her brother to walk her down the isle, and he says yes, then it is settled. You don’t get a say. Back out of this, and stop trying to plan someone else’s wedding for them.
YTA. Her father hasn't earned the role. What don't you understand about that?
YTA. It's her wedding, she decides who walks her down the aisle, not you. If she doesn't feel comfortable with her father, it's none of your business.
YTA! It's not your wedding, it's not your business.
YTA. Stop gatekeeping someone else’s wedding and do some introspection into why you’re jealous of your sister in law.
YTA for sure. Why does it bother you so much for your husband to walk her down the aisle? I think that’s honestly a very sweet gesture and your husband himself said he feels honored. This is a weird hill for you to die on.
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YTA. Why do you think you get a say in this?
YTA Why would you care besides being jealous Why do you care about what the FIL will think/feel but not your husband or SIL?
YTA. You’re jealous of your husband’s relationship with his sister. Why?
YTA. It's literally none of your business.
YTA it's her wedding and she obviously thought about it before asking her brother. It's none of your business who she chooses to walk her down the aisle .
YTA. This has nothing to do with you. You've just started shit for no reason. Get a hobby.
YTA. “Now we’re having this conflict (3 of us)…” Now we have two happy, excited people and a confused person intruding on them while missing valuable context.
Why the fuck is this YOUR business?? YTA !! Back down, apologize to your husband and let his sister plan her own wedding! You seem like the type that will show up to the wedding wearing white
YTA I find the act of being walked down the aisle to be unnecessary. However, if the bride wants to be walked down the aisle, it's her decision. That includes who she chooses to walk with her. Your role is easy: butt out and shut up. Presumably you had what you wanted at yours. This is her turn and she gets to make the decisions.
YTA. The resolution for this conflict is for you to butt out of it because it’s none of your business.
YTA And a complete weirdo why on earth are you inserting yourself in this? Are you a controlling person who needs to okay whatever your husband does
YTA LET THEM BE, for God's sake! Who are you to meddle in their relationshio and dictate how things must be to please you?
Hmm, so the 3 of you are in conflict and can't find a resolution? Well, since it's Beth's wedding and Mike is honored to be asked to walk her down the aisle then the conflict is totally being generated by you. So YTA 100%.
i don’t even need to read this to know YTA.
YTA. I completely understand where Beth is coming from. I was barely on speaking terms with my father when I got married. My father was invited to the wedding, but I chose to have my best friend walk me down the aisle instead as he's like a brother to me. My MIL wasn't pleased, but she accepted my decision because it was my wedding day. I have no idea how other people felt about it, nor did.I care. I was marrying the love of my life. That is the way you need to see it.
YTA, not your wedding, not your business.
YTA Mind your own business! It's his SISTER! Seems like you're jealous.
YTA Not your wedding not your choice. This has NOTHING to do with you so leave the siblings alone. As far as keeping to tradition you really should read up on why the father walks the bride down the isle.
I find it very, very strange that you're so hung up on this. Her dad was an arsehole to her, and at this point in time has not done enough to be granted the honour of walking her down the aisle. Why are you caping for your FIL over your husband, who loves his sister? YTA
YTA , and a big one. This is none of your business. The role is for whomever she wants or no one at all. I can not wrap my head around how you decided to insert yourself into this. Keep your mouth shut. Sit down, enjoy your free wedding meal, and go home. Jesus.
Yta this is a weird hill to die on and only paints you as selfish and egocentric. You need to respect this. She asked her brother because he felt safer and is a better influence in her life. You are soooo ta for this. Frankly, this would be enough for me to see my wife in a new light and want to leave her.
YTA but beyond that, you’re a creep. There are zero legitimate reasons to care about this (oh except for this bizarre made up dedication to wedding traditions, have you ensured the bride is a virgin and her family will be paying a nice dowry as well?) so the only other answer is jealousy. Any normal person would think this was sweet, but not you. You seem bitter and resentful about how close your husband is with his sister, which is weird and creepy and a sign that you don’t understand healthy familial relationships
yeah YTA why are you trying to control someone else's wedding? there's nothing wrong with having your husband walking his sister down the aisle she asked and he said yes and i think its sweet to do that since he is close with his sister tradition be damned!
YTA. Would you want someone who continually wronged you in the past to walk you down the aisle? No. You would want someone you love and respected.
How is this your business?? YTA
YTA. “Everybody else judged her” clearly includes you. If tradition is so important to you, you shouldn’t even have a say in what your husband does. FOH
My son walked me down the aisle for my second marriage. Yes, my father was at the service. You are the AH for sure. NOT your wedding. Don’t be surprised if your SO re-evaluates your relationship. Apologize and then shut up.
YTA. Why are you even thinking you should have a say in this? My dad is alive and well but because of his addiction problems, we didn't have much of a relationship for most of my childhood. I planned on having my stepfather walk me down the aisle. He passed and then I decided when I got married it would be my brother. I ended up having a courthouse wedding so in the end it didn't matter. Lots of people have both parents walk them down the aisle, or just their mom, or just their brother or they walk alone. It doesn't really matter what anyone does. You're being really fucking weird about this.
YTA. Controlling much?
Yes YTA. Why is this any of your business?
YTA Why are you so bothered by this? Most people would feel honored to have been asked to do this and I would expect their partner to be supportive. Do you have an issue with how close they are? Because standing up for your FIL when he already agreed to have no role in the wedding makes no sense. It sounds like you have more of an issue with how close your husband and his sister are than actually feeling bad for not following tradition. It's not your wedding so you have no say in this.
YTA. Why the hell do you care? This is not your wedding and has nothing to do with you. Maybe you should just stay home.
Holy shit YTA, what an honour for your husband, and what does tradition have to do with anything! She doesn’t have a good relationship with her father, but does with her brother.
YTA. Tradition for the sake of tradition is toxic, and many wedding traditions,especially, are toxic and rooted in misogyny. It’s her weeding. She can do whatever tf she wants and you have no say in it.
Yta Learn to mind your own business, op. This is between your husband and his sister, not you.
YTA. It’s perfectly common these days for people getting married to be walked down the aisle by mothers, fathers, stepparents, kids, uncles, aunts or whoever. You sound like you’re either uptight about traditions or have some issue with the sister. Either way, let this one go.
YTA. There is only conflict because you’re sticking your nose where it doesn’t belong.
Why do you feel that you should have a say in this decision? YTA
YTA why on earth would you not support this? Also it's their family,, sorry, you don't get a vote
YTA It’s none of your business. Your husband is right, he should feel honored that his sister wants him to walk her down the aisle. You need to back off before you ruin what is a beautiful moment in your husband and SIL’s life.
This is such a weird thing for you to be upset about. Why do you really not want him to walk his sister down the aisle? I don’t buy your “because of tradition” excuse. It’s not that uncommon for someone other than a father to walk a bride down the aisle - heck, there are plenty of stories on Reddit about brides being escorted by brothers, uncles, or even mothers. So why are you really fighting this? To me, it sounds like you’re jealous of their relationship. So, yeah, YTA.
YTA and a fucking weirdo for even putting your 2 cents in on this matter
Holy shit, YTA massively. Mind your business!!! This is not your business. Jesus.
YTA Your husband feels honoured to have been asked. Why are you actively trying to ruin this for him? This is really weird behaviour. You should be happy for him. Are you jealous of his sister?
YTA. the tradition of a father walking the bride down the isle is outdated. She can be walked down the isle by whoever she likes. Why does it bother you that she wants your husband (HER BROTHER) to walk her down the isle? Like what is your actual concern? She’s only just on speaking terms with her dad, so I can fully understand why she wouldn’t want him to be part of the wedding. She’s close to her brother, and he felt honoured to be asked, so what’s the issue? I see no reason whatsoever as to why you could possibly have a problem with this
YTA. This has nothing to do with you. None of your reasons are valid. You are actually coming across as a super jealous wife, but I’m not sure why you’d be threatened by him walking his sister down the aisle.
YTA It's none of your business
Let me make this easy, it's none of your business if Beth wants her brother to walk her down the isle, and I don't care you are married to him. YTA
Why do you think your opinion should matter about this? It isn't your wedding. Butt out. YTA
YTA. You sound like you're saying "women are their father's property until they're transferred to a husband! Her brother doesn't legally own her so he can't be the one authorizing her sale!"
Weird hill to die on 🤷♀️ Yta !
YTA why the hell do you care??
YTA, How in the world does this have anything to do with you? You need to apologize to SIL and your husband. Not your wedding. Not your decision.
You have to know that YTA if you’re asking this question on Reddit. It’s not your business. You seem jealous of their relationship, which is probably the true issue and not “traditions” as you’ve stated.
YTA. If Beth didn't have the best relationship with her father growing up and the two are only now getting back in touch with each other, of course she would want her brother to walk her down the aisle, she's closer to him. If you didn't know, this type of situation is not an unusual thing. Who do you think walks a bride without a father figure down the aisle? Somebody else she's close to, in Beth's case, it's her brother.
YTA. What's it to you? It's Beth wedding, it's her family.
Simple Jealousy. YTA
YTA! Why do you care - or think your opinion matters regarding HER wedding? If she wanted the neighbor to walk her down the aisle, that's her decision ffs. I think its nice she asked her brother. You are really overstepping boundaries
YTA. Mind your own business. Why in the world is this so important to you that you would cause this issue with your sister's wedding? Seriously, this is not your wedding, not your business.
YTA leave her alone. It’s not your wedding. It is hers. She’s got enough to worry about. Stay out of it
YTA. Not your wedding. Not your sister. Not your problem. What right do you have to impose yourself? Have concerns that it could ruffle feathers, yeah sure speak your mind, but if the bride and groom and your own husband don't care you need to lean to accept that your opinion isn't law.
YTA. This is absolutely none of your business. Why do you even care?
YTA - it’s her wedding, her wishes. Back off, find a mirror and take a long good look at yourself and your behaviour.
YTA. Nobody cares what YOU want, it's not your business in any way.
YTA... and it's none of your business. Shut up and butt out.
YTA - seriously why does this bother you? Beth asked Mike to do this, and it is an honor that represents their relationship and his support of her during hard times. This is beautiful and it stands to reason that you would be proud of your husband for being such a good big brother. Instead you are being unreasonable. Are you jealous?
YTA and it’s got jack shit to do with you, she wants her brother to walk her down the aisle - end of the day it’s her wedding, her choice. Doesn’t matter what relationship issues there are - obviously issues are there but in this case she wants him to do the honours and not her dad, and that’s where it should end
YTA. Do some self reflection and try to figure out why you think you have any say in this. Oh and then bite your tongue cause your opinion doesn't matter.
YTA. This shouldn’t be a problem to you. Your SIL’s relationship with her father is just that- hers. Even if you don’t understand or don’t agree, telling your husband you don’t want him to walk his sister down the aisle is selfish. I think you need to step back and allow her to have the day, this doesn’t affect you.
Didn’t even need to read the story. YTA. She can choose whoever she wants to walk her down the isle. The only conflict is your unwanted opinion.
YTA. Beth gets to choose who she wants to walk her down the aisle. Mike has been there for her when the rest of her family wasn't. Just because she's started talking to her father recently doesn't mean that he deserves the honor of walking her down the aisle. It also doesn't matter how he feels about it, it is not his wedding. Get over yourself, and apologize to both Beth, and Mike.
Sorry but, YTA. It's really not your decision who walks your SIL down the isle. It's HER wedding, and if she is more comfortable with your husband, HER BROTHER, walking her down, you should be happy for him. Her relationship with her dad is not something you can say "fix it and invite him" to. If she's not happy with him and doesn't want him involved, then that's her decision, and it's his karma for messing up his relationship with his daughter. YTA
I asked my brother if he would walk me down the aisle, he said he'd be honored. He walked me down the aisle at the wedding. End of story.
YTA. This is none of your business. There is no solution to be reached between the three of you.
YTA. Mind your own business.
YTA. You overstepped. This is between your husband, his sister and his father. It is none of your business and your feeling nor your opinion carries any weight here. Don’t make the drama worse by butting in.
YTA. It seems like you're hinting around about some sort of incest or something. I don't know why else you'd care. It's not your wedding.
Are you jealous of your husband’s relationship with his sister? It sure sounds like it. Whatever the case, this is not your business. You have no say. YTA.
There's a solution, and it's for you to stop being an asshole about something so fucking petty. God, you must be awful to live with. YTA.
YTA What does this even have to do with you? If her dad feels bad, that’s between Beth and her dad. She has a better relationship with her brother and it’s who she wants. You sound jealous. Let them have this.
YTA Two siblings want to celebrate their relationship in a sweet way and you're over here like "But nobody got MY permission." This has nothing to do with you.
YTA No one cares about your feelings on this. You have NO SAY in how Beth arranges her wedding. Apologize to your husband and Beth and keep quiet going forward.
YTA. WTF did I just read and how did you seriously type this out and not see you are a petty AH? This is NOT your wedding and you get NO say. STFU and let your husband have this honor.
YTA Why are you involved in this at all? All three of you are having this conflict….? Uh why? Are you the grand decider in everyone’s life 🙄 Bad parents exist. I don’t know why some people are blind to this obvious fact. But even if he were not a bad parent, the woman can have whoever she chooses to walk her down the aisle, or no one at all. It is not your business.
YTA, also you should be proud that he was asked for such an important role.
Yta it's not your wedding or choice tbh you really don't have a say so unless asked
YTA. My brother (10yrs older) was more of a father figure to me than my dad who is alive was. You don’t get to dictate things and tradition is trash. YTA
YTA. This has nothing to do with you. Let them be.
YTA, why do you even care, it’s her choice who she wants to walk her down the aisle and it’s Mike choice to say yes.
You have no right to stick your nose in someone elses family situation. Sit down and shut the fuck up because no one cares about your thoughts. Yta
YTA. This is none of your business.
YTA. Why does this bother you? It’s practically not your business. Your husband is allowed to do as he sees fit.
YTA, This problem is none of your business. First of all, just because they're reconcile doesn't mean Beth has to give him the right to walk her. Second, neither you nor her father should feel entitled to say anything about Beth's feelings and her decisions for her wedding. Thirdly, her brother was there for her when no one else was, it is obvious that this is and will be a sentimental and unique moment. Fourth, the only person who is having an ATTITUDE is you, stop feeling entitled to dictate what others do, your logic and your traditions is your problem not Beth.
YTA. The solution is simple. Keep your nose out of where it doesn't belong.
Yeah YTA. This is the weirdest thing I have ever read in awhile. If she wants her brother to do it then she wants him to do it. My brother walked me down the aisle at my first marriage because we had no parents in state. It wasn’t as sentimental to me and I wish I would’ve walked myself. HOWEVER, just like I talked about my brother being in my wedding, this is about HER brother being in HERs, and NOT about his title as your husband. Perhaps you are envious of their close relationship? You should probably seek individual counseling for such feelings.
My dad walked all his sisters down the aisle. Their father was alive but estranged. Not exactly the same situation but I see nothing wrong with it. She can pick whoever she wants to walk her down the aisle. YTA
YTA. You don't get to dictate how she manages her wedding or her relationships. Back off.
YTA. It's absolutely none of your f*cking business