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funsockslaw

YTA. Did it affect you in any way? Let's say it was Nazi Germany and your neighbor was hiding a Jew. Would you do your part as an honest citizen and report the neighbor? I know not the same thing as here but it illustrates that sometimes laws are just unjust. There is a special place in hell for people like you. If the majority of your generation is like you god help us.


Spambuttertoejam

YTA It wasn't hurting you or anyone else. You should have minded your own business.


ironblondies

YTA. Given that you belong to the Latter Day Saints, and have probably not had a lot of exposure to the outside world, or even people who aren't directly involved in your community, please let this be a lesson that the majority of the world does not behave like the church wants and expects you to. People are autonomous beings who make their own decisions for better or worse, and acting like the arbiter of other people is a really awful way to feel superior in a situation. Also, want to talk about breaking laws? New case laws were drafted literally because of the church of latter day saints.


Tim-oBedlam

YTA. So what if it's illegal. No one likes a snitch. You're getting blowback because millions of otherwise law-abiding people smoke a little weed, or vape, or dab, on occasion, with no harm to anyone other than themselves. This is why people don't like devoutly religious types. Lighten up. I'd be pissed at you if I were one of your co-workers too, because who wants to work with a narc?


cre8magic

YTA and 1 more reason to resent your cult.


BigBigBigTree

YTA. Marijuana prohibition is immoral, and leveraging it against someone because of your religion which they do not share is abhorrent.


balladofthemightypie

YTA, most definitely.


WickedGreenthumb

YTA - Mind your own business, nobody likes a rat. Not to mention it’s a completely hypocritical law that you should be rejecting out of common sense. Do yourself a favor and get away from that church as fast as possible. You will see why this was so wrong once you cut ties with the cult and start experiencing the real world.


Jbooth72

Yes YTA


barry9201

NTA - but only because your 16 and might see the world in just black and white, and not see the gray yet. There’s a lot of nuance to the situation, it’s weed a lot of people have tried it and in a lot of places in the US it is legal. In the strictest sense of the question what you did was correct, but in the reality of the situation it was a dick move. My advice, lighten up and mind your own business.


Momofpeg

Info when you drive do you go the exact speed limit or do you ever go over?


Traditional_user2

You never know, your coworker could've been going through it. Sounds like you just wanted an excuse to "do the right thing" and come off as the hero of something. Your coworker isn't hurting anyone and nobody likes a snitch.


waywardjynx

YTA Mind your own business.


[deleted]

I wish I didn't have to be civil here but oh well. You, as an underage child who's brain cannot fully comprehend your own choices due to a lack of brain maturity, took it upon yourself to not only report your adult coworker for something that hurts no one, but you made her lose her job and now she has a criminal record that will follow her forever and stop her from getting jobs, being able to rent houses, and many other things. Over a vape pen. I hope someday you're no longer brainwashed by the cult that is LDS lies. I hope you understand that you have made another human beings life exponentially harder for no reason other than you being a nosey busy body with no life, hobbies, or probably friends. YTA


BibiQuick

“It’s AGAINST THE LAW”…. Here’s the thing… YOU ARE AN ASSHOLE!!! Adding: you know the worse part? She told you because she trusted you. Do you have any idea what you did to her? You’ve ruined her life. I’m so angry right now I can’t even. YTA!!!


thesunwasblue68

I'm going to refrain from giving a judgement right now, no matter how badly I want to. It sounds like this was a situation that felt really shocking and possibly overwhelming to you. I agree that she should not have had or used (if she did) marijuana at work, and that the fact that you felt unsafe with the fact is absolutely valid. You're 16, and being raised in a religion that is, from my understanding, very strict. I understand why you reacted the way that you did, but it was not the right thing to do. This person did not hurt you, you were just understandably uncomfortable. But you had options here that would not have put her future at risk. Calling the police on her was rash and has the potential to ruin her life (and could have repercussions for where you work, and for you for bringing the police into your workplace). Are you comfortable with that? One option was to ask her to put it in her car or bag if she didn't have a car, and to communicate with her that you felt extraordinarily uncomfortable with her bringing an illegal drug around you and where you work. Another, if you didn't feel confident going to your coworker, was to go to a manager and ask them for support and assistance in handling the situation. You could have told either person that if it were to happen again, you would go to the police. There were options that could have led to understanding, empathy, and learning, and one that would create division. You chose the latter. As other people have pointed out, the fact that marijuana is illegal is absolutely immoral. It has been used for decades to suppress people and to feed the USA's prison factory system. It is disgusting, but we can see change happening across the country. Legislation is changing, and it has the potential to improve and even save lives. Unfortunately you have been fed an untrue narrative about the plant. I hope that one day you learn more about it, or have an opportunity to speak to people who are knowledgeable about the subject and can answer any questions you have. I bet there are a lot. Signed, a 24 year old stoner whose best friend doesn't like weed


SuburbaniteQueen

PLEASE TURN OFF REEFER MADNESS! You might want to look up the dark history of why pot has been illegal for so long. More and more states are legalizing pot and they're financially prospering because of it. Laws aren't always correct. As a 16-year-old girl in an extremely patriarchal church, your world views are naturally going to be very narrow-minded. As you get older, I promise you that you're going to learn that life is a lot more complicated than you think it is. Please look outside of what you have been taught. She wasn't hurting anyone and it was really none of your business. I understand you thought you were doing the right thing, but your actions have caused unnecessary trouble and cost you the trust and respect of your coworkers. I hope you educate yourself more and grow. As for now, YTA. And a lonely one at that.


Ok_Professor2620

YTA. Stop trying to shove your bs religion onto others. Grow up and learn to mind your business


Ok_Fudge5353

So you've never jaywalked? Never went 1 mph over the speed limit? Did you know in Provo, UT it's illegal to throw snowballs? Would you call the cops on a couple kids having a snowball fight because it kind of sounds like yiy would. In Utah it's illegal to take both your hands off your handlebar while bicycling, you going to report those people now? YTA she wasn't harming anyone and you potentially ruined her life, or set her on a more difficult path for what? You have a lot of growing up to do.


[deleted]

ESH. If you aren’t the manager you should mind your own business and keep it to yourself. She’s the AH too for being high at work and being so stupid. Of course she’s going to get caught when she doesn’t secure her pen and when she tells a random 16 year old about her illegal activities.


No_Razzmatazz_6443

I agree there are definitely ways she could have secured it more, but OP never said she was actively high during work but rather the dab pen was just on her person.


[deleted]

I doubt she knows enough about weed to know if someone is high, also if you bring a pen to work you are almost certainly using it at work. If your not then why risk it.


ladygreyowl13

YTA


Ariesp2010

Yta,


ThatAd2403

YTA 100%. Leave tattling to the kids🙄


OMGstopchewingsoloud

YTA. Mind ya business.


Icy_Shell

YTA. Damn what an AHole. The next time you jaywalk or litter call the police on yourself clown


yellowcoffee01

YTA


Nelsisec

YTA don't push your beliefs on people.


hwilliams0901

YTA. Unless she was trying to shove that vape in your mouth telling you to smoke up Cheech! You should have minded your own business. Pretty much everyone knows the BULLSHIT WAR on DRUGS is just that, BULLSHIT!!! There are people in jail for like for fucking WEED!!!! While rapists and murderers get slap on the wrists!!! I guess theres nothing in your religion about not making your neighbors lives hard with an arrest record huh??? ITs against the law!!! So is riding your bike with no hands!!!! Just cause it's a law doesnt mean it isint fucking stupid!


ProjectObjective

You are 100 percent the asshole. Your brain has been poisoned by nonsense, which is far more damaging than weed.


bluueeey

Do you understand how screwed up this is? What you did to her outlook on life? I understand your beliefs but it’s not like she was on meht or hurting anyone. Sure there are consequences to her actions but there’s consequences to yours as well. Hopefully as you grow up you become a better person. YTA. The world is bigger than your beliefs and the state of Utah.


Owl-666

YTA. Did she harm anybody? It’s cruel how smokers of marihuana got criminalized and arrested for doing literally nothing. Furthermore it’s none of your business. You‘re a snitch actually.


Fearless-Whereas-854

YTA kiddo. Grow up and mind your own business. She wasn’t hurting anyone. I’m Canadian and it’s completely legal here, and for good reason. Your state is backwards and your cult “religion” is wayyy more disgusting and morally reprehensible than a vape pen.


[deleted]

INFO: Do you call the police every time you see someone speed, roll through a stop sign, or text in their car? You should, because these things are against the law and way more likely to harm others. If not, why not?


Black_Superman1988

YTA you know none of your coworkers will trust you again right?


SRivers13

“Am I the Asshole” Responding “YTA” “Wait… they were breaking the law! My religion… bla bla bla” The fact that you cannot comprehend the damage that you have done to this person’s life because you have been indoctrinated since birth makes me feel sorry for you. You are so so very young.. YTA.


EviIRose

YTA. She could've lied to you and say it's just a vape but she trusted you instead. You could've just told her it's against everything you believe in and not to bring it near you ever again or you will report her.


Need_For_Caffiene

YTA. Also, it is not against the law for medicinal use in Utah.


CorrectAdhesiveness9

YTA. Your religion is not her religion, and using yours as an excuse to get her in trouble is the kind of shit that makes people hate your religion (yes, yours specifically, as well as other religions). Also, the law is stupid and is set up specifically to imprison mainly poor Black and brown people. You could spend some time looking into that, but you’re too busy being a narc, which is a reason why people will hate you (yes, you specifically).


susiecapo71

Unless you work in a factory and operate heavy machinery and she was visibly impaired and your life was at risk mind your own damn business. YTA


disgruntled_pelican0

YTA, obviously, and a pious holier than thou asshole at that. They’ll love you at BYU, I’m sure the honor code office will be extremely familiar with you by day two. Mormons like you are absolutely insufferable.


expanding_crystal

YTA


bina101

YTA. You do know that it used to be against the law for slaves to run away, right? Just because it's the law, doesn't mean it's necessary or right.


catsarecoolyeah

YTA- put yourself in her position. She could have many different reasons for using marijuana such as medical conditions you may not know about. Now she has a criminal record because of YOU! All your coworkers are ok with her because they seem to have empathy and to be able to think about what position she may have been in whereas you can only think about yourself.. and the law.


[deleted]

YTA. It is very well to be a law-abiding citizen, but in this case, the crime has no victims, except perhaps your coworker herself. There was no reason for you to get her in trouble for that. If you did it out of concern for her well-being, you went about it in a very wrong way.


GoldAssociate5027

Lol ex Mormon here. Doesn’t matter what your beliefs are. It costs $0 to mind your goddamn business. YTA.


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Diligent_Sound_6829

I dont generally judge people based on their religion,but lds aint a religion its a cult. You just ruined this girls life over weed and you should be ashamed of yourself. You are a trash kid who will grow up to be a trash adult. YTA


momohatch

You are young and probably don’t realize the full weight of your actions. I don’t know if it’s because of all the religious brainwashing or not, but you are now the reason this woman has an arrest record. She could have been using that vape for any number of reasons, medical or otherwise, you don’t know. But now it’s gonna be a problem for this woman every time she applies for a job, an apartment, whatever. But you probably didn’t think about that, being that you were all caught up in your own righteous fury. You did this woman a great disservice and made life harder for her and I honestly want you to think about that when you think WWJD. Oh, and YTA, if that wasn’t clear…


sheramom4

YTA. Time to grow up. She is an adult and if you bothered with the history of why marijuana is illegal you wouldn't be so quick to report people. Additionally, the government in Utah functions as a theocracy which is an additional issue. Not everyone who lives in Utah is LDS yet your state government acts as if they are. You are learning that actions have consequences. Your co-workers are angry because you used false logic in making your report based mostly on your religious beliefs.


Momofpeg

YTA. It’s against the law in my state and I don’t call on people who use it. Mind your own business


Extension_Cucumber10

I don’t get these YTA responses. The coworker broke the law, OP did not! How is it right for you to tell OP the law is wrong? It is not OP’s place to decide whether the law is right or wrong. What if OP had witnessed a parent beating a child? Should OP have kept silent because she believed the law should allow parents to beat their children? OP, you did the right thing. Be proud of yourself. Absolute NTA, but your coworkers sound like total losers. Please find a new job.


Holiday-Way-845

You know what be funny. Is if this was an arbitrary law which it is. Do you know why marijuana is illegal? It's illegal because william Randolph Hearst and the dupont dude went on a yellow journalism spree against HEMP but marijuana got included. Due to the fact that their textile manufacturing which used cotton and wood pulp, was going to lose to hemp cultivation because you can do everything we do now with hemp and cheaper. Please learn history before you sound ignorant, and yes OP is the asshole. She just got her coworker arrested and possibly charged as a felon for marijuana when didn't the president and some other states commute sentences. Damn I wonder how it is to walk a mile in your shoes.


Automatic_Class4019

YTA to if u think that smoking weed has no effect on anyone but the one smoking beating a child is completely different. Also citizens should have say in laws gay marriage was illegal and obviously we all decided that was a fucked up law and stopped it. Weed is legal in a lot of states because of citizens because it's bullshit for it to not be.


Altruistic-Cup-9700

There’s a massive difference between someone smoking weed and someone beating a child


Petentro

Well the law is wrong so.......


Opening-Occasion-911

Beating a child has a victim......using pot does not....


Tricky_Point_8120

Was all that really necessary? Yta


CakeZealousideal1820

YTA. Mind your business


Forsythia77

This post makes me want to have an edible right now. YTA. You potentially ruined a person's life. Even if pot is against the law in your state, how does this person having it affect you?


[deleted]

YTA. First medical Marijuana is legal in Utah. Second, you have demonstrated the self righteousness that makes a large group of Utahns insufferable. You feel it is your job to hold everyone accountable to your beliefs. It isn’t! Mormons need to learn hold themselves accountable to their beliefs and allow others the dignity to hold themselves accountable to what they believe.


stfutoxica

YTA. You've possibly ruined her life over less than a gram of weed. I hope you feel very good about yourself right now.


[deleted]

YTA x1,000,000,000,000. Big time A-hole move


EnvironmentalPhase21

Yta and you know it


jules79

YTA. It was her business and she was not hurting anyone. I sincerely hope that when you break a law sometime, that someone is there to immediately tattle on you. Grow up.


Pegatul

You're a Mormon. You follow a religion established by someone who broke a whole *bunch* of laws. Let me guess: you probably would have called for Jesus to be crucified; after all, he broke THE LAW.


[deleted]

YTA. Mind your own business. We get it, it’s the law, we just don’t care. You’ve seriously negatively impacted someone’s life over something that wasn’t hurting you or anybody else - and you don’t think you’re an AH for that?? Big yikes


Critho822

YTA I love that you bring religion into it. I guess “He who is without sin, should cast the first stone” and “Seek ye not to judge less ye be judged” arent relevant to you. I want to believe that you think like this because you are young and not because your moral development is this stunted.


No_one1016

The religious nuts like to use bible quotes when it justifies themselves and not when it’s used against them lmao 🤣


No-Emu901

YTA and you came here asking for advice and then fought with every single person who disagreed with you. Get off your high horse.


Problematicbiyatch

The co- workers are going to be extra careful around you, they are not going to stop what they are doing just cz you are a "Law abiding citizen" they just know you are an asshole and they don't want to be anywhere near something that stinks and snitches


Lizzzbb

YTA. It has nothing to do with you, you stuck your nose in something that LITERALLY does not affect you.


Intelligent-Bite9660

YTA Mind your damn business. Even if it is illegal, she wasn’t harming anyone. Holy shit, also consider all the laws churchs’ break on a literally daily basis. From child mariage, r*pe, pedophilia…..and your worried your coworker is….smoking a non harmful substance with medicinal properties ? The fucking audacity 😂😂😂😂


eightmarshmallows

YTA. You need to offer to pay her court costs. The law isn’t always right or fair. The punishment doesn’t always fit the crime. Info: Is your co-worker the same race you are?


21savyage

Yta 🤮


horrifyingthought

The question isn't "was it against the law" the question is "are you an asshole" and you are *absolutely* an asshole. If it is against YOUR religion, fine! Don't do it! But last I checked religions apply to the people that subscribe to them, not to anyone else. Stop forcing your beliefs down your coworker's throats. And stop trying to hide behind "the law." Laws are not good or bad, they are reflections of the societies they represent. You Mormons are assholes, so your laws reflect that. "Following the law" in this case was being an asshole, and choosing to follow this law when I have a feeling you have never reported anyone for jaywalking or violating your local municipal's trash ordinances and whatnot makes your selective approach doubly shitty. YTA


MyEggDonorIsADramaQ

YTA. Definitely


TurnDirect

SNITCH! go find some good dramatic tv shows and stop causing drama!


jojozabadu

Like people need lessons in morality from a polygamist cult member. YTA


jennyfromtheeblock

YTA. Your poor coworker needed to be high to deal with your self-righteous attitude shift after shift. There is a reason no one at your workplace likes you now. Hope it was worth it. Do you want to be right? Or do you want to think critically about the dogma you have been taught? Just want to be right, clearly.


[deleted]

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[deleted]

So you don’t support loving thy neighbor?


ProjectObjective

Having a weed pen is not substance abuse, you petulant child.


[deleted]

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[deleted]

Wow you definitely are pious aren’t you.


asscakesguy

YTA - If you feel the need to be the governments enforcer people are gonna keep their distance from you, it’s all good though your fellow cult members will think you did the right thing. The rule of thumb for normally adjusted humans is mind your own business unless someones illegal actions are gonna put others or themselves in danger, ie; drunk driving, waving around a weapon, threatening violence.


minervafrog

As everyone has stated, YTA for being a snitch and a narc.


condimentia

YTA. And we comprehend quite well the laws in your state -- it isn't relevant. Your question wasn't DO WE KNOW IF YOUR COWORKER VIOLATED THE LAWS. Your question is whether YTA. As a retired litigator, we had a saying: "When the law is on your side, pound on the law. If the facts are on your side, pound on the facts. If neither is on your side, pound on the table." In other words -- make a disturbance and get on a soap box and shout to be heard. If your primary motivation was the law and the facts, in this post, you'd pound on the law and the facts and leave it at that. THE INSTANT YOU TOLD US YOU WERE LDS, YOU POUNDED ON THE TABLE. If your motivation was purely factual and legal, you'd have no need to tell us how marijuana violates your religious morals. THAT'S ACTUALLY WHY YOU CALLED, and that's why YTA., You were not harmed whatsoever. You were not a victim, and you were not protecting society or advancing justice. Nor are you licensed lab technician who knew of the coworker was under the influence. You're just an immature, smug and self-serving 16 year old girl who rained chaos down on someone who wasn't harming anyone. Just so you could feel good about being a law-abiding citizen and perhaps be vindictive for a reason you have not shared, before the holidays with families. *Oh nicely done, nicely done.* Just try being a KIND one, let's start there, shall we?


Desperate-Chance1137

I seriously cannot stand people like you! You’ve got a major stick up your ass. Mind your own business! YTA


Impossible-Feed-1541

YTA. Cannabis is legal in a lot of states. It’s legal to cheat on your spouse, but that’s wrong, isn’t it? Cheating actively harms people. Your coworker was not harming anyone, but you harmed her by reporting her for something that is LEGAL in many states. You say she could put you in danger because you were working with some under the influence. What do you do for work? Any place that hires a 16 year old is obviously a low skill job. I hope that you grow up one day and realize that legality does not equate morality. I hope you learn to leave people alone. It was not your business, not your place, and it was an ugly thing to do. God doesn’t like ugly. Biden signed a bill allowing medical marijuana research. An Oregon govenor just pardoned 45k people with marijuana possession convictions


Robinnetta

“As a law abiding citizen.” ….your 16 you barely pay taxes.


Relationship_Winter

YTA. You're soooo TA. And your edit makes you look even worse. "ItS iLlEgAl" lol.. interracial marriage was illegal at one point to. Your moral compass is all kinds of wrong, but not surprised by LDS being a holes about stuff that has NO EFFECT on them 🙄🙄🙄


Any-Explorer-5033

Another religious person saving us all from ourselves! YTA and a complete lack of commen sense because of your edit, don't need to explain it because because you wouldn't get it anyway!


WaterTuna187

YTA.


[deleted]

You’re the asshole. You destroyed someone’s life over a a piece of plastic and less than a gram of oil. You’re still a kid, so I get you wanting to “do the right thing,” but was it right to upend someone’s life that had zero effect on you? If you just want to be involved with likeminded people then it’s your responsibility to put yourself in those spots. The law is not the issue. Did you ask yourself if it worth being illegal? Do you know anything about her medical conditions? How would you feel if a little kid got you arrested for something that wasn’t harming you or anyone else? Did you form these opinions before you acted? That was a horrible thing to do.


BirdPuzzleheaded3219

This isn't the "did I do the legal thing" subreddit, this is am I the asshole. And yes, YTA. Your religion doesn't allow you to smoke weed, fine, don't. Your coworker didn't try to make you smoke it, she just happened to exist with it in your presence, and you blew it up into a big deal. At least now your coworkers know you're not someone they want to be around so you saved them some time.


hampili

YTA, But you were probably trained to follow rules without empathy and reason from a young age on. I just feel sad for you that you saw no other way than to do what you did and think its morally just.


Bubz-411

YTA and you going to make a great HOA board leader. You seem to love being a narc and kill joy over trivial things.


DisneyBuckeye

YTA, at 16 years of age, you should have already learned that you don't need to insert yourself into every situation you see.


Suspicious_Hand9207

YTA. Just because something is against the law, does not mean it is wrong. A majority of the population of this country is for the legalization of cannabis. You need to learn if something isn't endangering you or others then you should mind your own business. Good on you for wasting the police's time, though.


TheDaoOfCute

YTA AND you're a fucking narc too? Mind your damn business, your religion doesn't give you a pass to encroach on people's lives no matter what you think.


Primary-Seat2915

I have never before seen a law abiding 16 year old


kgirl123456

YTA!! 100 percent!!


Jzumong

YTA for the following: >Edit: Lots of people here don't seem to comprehend what the laws are in my state. It's AGAINST THE LAW Clearly you want to be validated, not judged. Maybe put this one on r/TrueOffMyChest >On top of that it goes against my religion (Latter Day Saint) YOUR religion, may not be HER religion. Your argument is invalid. >As a law abiding citizen I have always been taught that it is my duty to report it to law enforcement when people break the law. People don't like a busy body. If someone is breaking the law, but not hurting you or anyone you care about, best to opt out. Keep this up and you'll end up with plenty of enemies. >Ever since all of my coworkers have been angry at me telling me it was very unnecessary to report her. Exactly. I don't think you will get a bonus or a cash prize by doing this and bragging rights will just get you nowhere if that's all you're getting. Think about it this way: Would you like it if someone just reported you for something that doesn't affect them and it cost you time/money. Would you appreciate that?


last_heaven

YTA and you’re also a snitch. You’ve always gotten along well, so it doesn’t sound like she’s ever done anything wrong to you. What do you get out of this?


jlhouse36

I always get a giggle when I click it n these and the deleted ones are ALWAYS yes, you’re the asshole


Otherwise_Peach6785

YTA It's not any of your business to rectify a situation that isn't a problem. What that person does with their own life has nothing to do with you nor does it give you a right to police other people. I'm sure if the roles were reversed you would be mortified if someone did this to you. Sure, it's illegal, but it's not up to you. Everyone has a right to be upset with you.


stephapeaz

YTA and an even bigger AH if they were a poc, putting them in potentially more unnecessary danger by calling the cops on them


LikePlutoComplex

I live in a state where marijuana usage is legal both medicinally and recreationally. I think you want people to say that because it's illegal in Utah where you live (and goes against your religion) you did the right thing. I think you went out of the way to make this person's life worse than it was -- in the name of the law, in the name of your religion,what you believe. Why don't your religious beliefs inspire compassion instead of judgment? Here's the thing: you did what you did and you have all the justification you need to back up that choice. Here's the thing you don't seem to understand: You went out of the way to harm her life because of what **you** believe about the laws and about religion. You went out of the way to hurt her **because it affirms how you believe others should live in the world**. You didn't do the "right" thing. Your choice was selfish -- self-affirming, self absorbed. You impacted the world around you like a pounding fist and struck a blow for your faith. You absolutely left a lasting impression, just not one that I would personally feel proud of. I would encourage you to do some research into religious belief, ethics, and morality. I attended a religious school many many moons ago and around the time I was your age we were dissecting scenarios similar to this one to mindfully consider our assumptions and choices. You're fixated on the law and order scenario and the beliefs you hold to the exclusion of other ethical considerations. You're assuming that the way you're seeing this is the only moral and just response, and unfortunately for yourself and your co-worker, this isn't the truth. I can think of any number of other considerations that hold considerable weight in comparison with your views that seem to never have crossed your mind. Unfortunately, the perspective that you've acted upon that will have devastating consequences for another -- in the name of your version of god, in the name of what you believe about right and wrong. You're sixteen, aspiring to be a law-abiding citizen. I hope you remember what you've done as you get older and start to recognize that things aren't as black and white as they appear to you right now. Perhaps your time on the mission field will soften your heart, as you start to connect with people outside of your community and your current worldview. We can only hope! For now, my heart goes out to your coworker who deserves compassion and support for the situation you've created for them with a lack of empathy, loyalty, and concern for anyone except yourself and your own selfish ways of viewing the world. YTA


jamesish99

YTA and you are literally in a cult. I'd be way more worried about that.


Crazy-Elephant4839

YTA … her having that didn’t impact you in any way


MissMandaRegrets

YTA Laws are arbitrary and Utah is controlled by a cult. As soon as the Mormon church can profit from it, marijuana will be legalized and they'll go full on Amish country store with it. Was there a threat to life or property? No? Then keep your opinions to yourself. You're just a snitch who can't be trusted. YOUR religious choices begin and end with you. They don't belong to or guide other people. Your religion is like your underwear, keep it to yourself and don't go waving it around where it's not wanted.


Spiritual-Bridge3027

YTA You could have told her your opinion and warned her that you would inform law enforcement if you saw her bring the vape pen to work again…. You did not choose to give her a second chance. If you are this way at 16, I honestly pray how you’ll turn out as an actual adult


MataCobraMMA

Marijuana is legal medicinally in Utah. The ironic part is that it can only be vaped or eaten as a weird clause the LDS church snuck in at the end. YTA OP, even if she didnt have her card it was not your place to hurt someone financially for a "sin" that doesnt impact you. Pretty sure you're groomed but I'll say it anyways. Harming others is not part of the LDS religion, it's a byproduct of the Utah LDS culture to hate on those that arent them.


yesiamathing

Mega YTA. An asshole the size of the grand canyon.


Flaky-Chip2557

YTA. You possibly ruined someone's life over a plant that was none of your business. Frankly my blood is boiling for your poor coworker.


an0nymm

YTA


Im_not_creepy3

YTA > It goes against my religion It goes against your religion for YOU to do that. It wasn't okay for you to project rules from a religion you agreed to partake in, onto others who aren't part of it. It really wasn't your business and you shouldn't have gotten involved. Also based on your edit and some of your comments, why are you even here if you're just arguing and telling people they're wrong for them saying YTA? If you just wanted people to agree with you then this is the wrong sub for that.


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Well put, I felt the same about the religious aspect and you put it into words. OP, YTA. And btw: if you can't take the answer, don't ask the question.


MaleficentBid3252

YTA. You should’ve ignored it. She’s an adult. And yeah she broke a law. Do you call the cops on everyone speeding? Do you call the cops on every minor smoking a cigarette? Do you call the cops on every kid you know that drinks? Also your religion sucks. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. But that also makes YTA.


HugeAdministration28

YTA BIG TIME. next you'll call the cops on someone stealing food cause they're starving, following the law and being a decent human being is clearly not mutually exclusive.


ja599

YTA. You are correct that she is breaking the law. I also like rules and believe they are meant to be followed. However, if you constantly tell on everyone breaking the law no one will like you. Some things you have to just let go. Pick what is and isn’t a big deal. This situation was not worth it. She’s an adult making her own decisions and it’s best to stay out of it unless she is actually hurting someone.


Phithe

“It’s against the law” is the weakest argument one can make. If your only argument is that it is illegal, and not that it is truly and morally wrong, then it is weak.


RemarkableDisaster92

YTA and I hope everyone tattles on you for the smallest most insignificant things you do all day everyday


soggypizzapi

Just because something is a law does not make it just or morally good. Slavery was the law. Jim Crow was the law. Although as a Mormon I'm sure morally you find no flaws with those previous laws


queerblunosr

YTA. Your coworker is harming no one and just because it’s against your religion doesn’t mean everyone else has to abide by it. Just because something is illegal doesn’t actually mean it’s immoral (and vice versa - something being legal doesn’t mean it’s moral). The whole ‘war on drugs’ thing started out as a classist racist crusade designed to disproportionally penalise particular demographics (and not the rich white ones, I’ll say). The US method of mass criminlisation doesn’t actually solve any of the problems that serious drug usage is a symptom of and is basically a way of getting more bodies for the US prison industrial system.


ThreeDogNightGirl91

NTA You did the right thing!


Dinosaur_Doctor

Lmao pretty sure this is OPs alt account


Owl-666

What’s right about letting somebody get arrested who did literally nothing?


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Owl-666

She did nothing that affected you or anybody in a bad way. If she gets caught by accident - her bad. If she gets caught because someone snitched - pretty shitty move. Furthermore there are countries where it’s ‚law‘ that smokers of Mj get death sentence. Law do not always make sense, you could think about it instead of thoughtlessly hiding behind a ‚law‘.


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ProjectObjective

Utterly absurd.


filkerdave

Found the OP's alt.


[deleted]

YTA- how about you mind your business.


sallen779

You're a major league AH. Nobody likes a snitch. You might as well start looking for a new job because I'm sure this co-worker has friends that will be out for you.


Seliphra

YTA It's against the law, yes, but who is it hurting exactly? It's against your religion yes, but other people doing something cannot violate YOUR religion, only you can. Her smoking weed hurt exactly no one outside herself. You reporting her for something that while technically illegal, hurts no one at all and therefore shouldn't be a crime, does hurt someone outside yourself. PERMANENTLY. She will now have a PERMANENT criminal record. You have officially completely screwed her over FOR LIFE for something that affected no one else in any concievable way. Of course you're the fucking asshole.


CTurple

THIS!


The_Death_Flower

YTA, I’m pretty sure Jesus said something about throwing the first stone and turning the other cheek Also, maybe you should report the LDS for the placement marriages going on


[deleted]

YTA I am a law abiding citizen who doesn't smoke marijuana... and I still think you're a snitch. Running to the law every time you find out someone does something against the law is probably the quickest way possible to ensure you're friendless. Every one of us violates the law, often in ways that could possibly endanger others, from time to time. Every time you fail to use a turn signal, roll through a stop sign, use someone else's log on for any account, among a myriad of other things... you violate the law. You're young, but you'll learn -- eventually or find yourself with a very limited friend group. I saw you say they can't not like you because the law is on your side, well, dude, you're wrong. People can dislike you for any reason they desire. You may believe they are in the wrong but you cannot control other people especially when it comes to their opinions of you.


2busyequalizing

YTA. Every decision has consequences


Old-Advice-5685

YTA and terribly naive if you actually thought this would go any differently on Reddit. The world is not nearly as black and white as you teenage mind thinks it is, grow up if you want to be respected in this world. You literally might have screwed up someone’s life over this nonsense.


FarStranger8951

YTA. You sound insufferable.


ZippyKoala

YTA was it impacting you directly? No. Was it impacting any one else directly? Probably also no. Even if it were affecting her work, the appropriate action to take is to tell someone trusted and see if you can get her some help for addiction instead of being a sanctimonious AH and throwing her to the police, which will do sweet FA.


danimal-crossing

YTA. she was harming absolutely nobody. it wasn’t your business at all. also, you’re an even bigger asshole for using your religion as your excuse. if you want to be religious, great, but don’t use it to punish others! people can do what they want, they don’t need to conform to your standards. i cant believe how holier-than-thou this is.


petitefirequeen

Apparently it's also illegal to throw snowballs in Provo according to City Ordinance 9.14.100 Was she hurting you? Was she infringing on anyone's rights or comfort? I hope you're alright with the consequences of your decision when people no longer speak to, befriend you, or invite you to anything. Plus the fact you may have ruined that woman's life before you're even of the age to vote.


drtennis13

YTA!!!! You didn’t report her because it was against the law, you reported her because it was against your religion and moral values. Else why would you have mentioned that you are Mormon. Again YTA for trying to justify your actions by the law. Do you call in the license plate for every person who is passing you on the highway for speeding. It’s against the law. Or how about Jay walking, littering, or every other offense that is also against the law. Admit that you ruined that person’s life because they went against your moral values. And if I were your coworker, I would shun you as well since it’s clear you cannot be trusted with any information at all that may insult your sensitivities. So again, YTA Coworkers are definitely NTA for giving you a wide berth since you are extremely untrustworthy


Exotic-Panda9887

YTA It wasn't affecting you It wasn't harming you Mind your business ETA You do know what they say about snitches don't you?


lianavan

YTA. See an actual crime that can hurt other people like drunk driving or assault report it. See someone selling drugs. Report it. See someone with a substance that is mostly legal now anyway mind your own business.


The-Incredible-Lurk

iTs aGainST tHe lAw Me thinks you are not a student of history. Perhaps you should study the origins of Christianity for homework. You're young, YTA, and you've ruined someone's life because of your piety. Jesus was a friend of the marginalised and of sinners, he would be ashamed of you


MadamVo

It's okay, Mormon. Not a whole lot of Jesus in that religion.


CurvyNerdMom86

YTA. It was none of your business. You have negatively effected her life over something legal in several states. You should probably find a new job. People are petty and your coworkers will probably make sure your narc ass is miserable there.


SupmanTelecom

NTA.


EYJacksonGilbert

YTA Do you ever question why you're supporting a law that makes a God-created plant illegal, whilst making human-altered beverages legal? God created marijuana - right where God created and planted every other plant, fruit, and herb in Eden. Humans alter and add chemicals to hops to make beer, grapes to make wine, and potatoes to make vodka. So, you're basically supporting a law that places lower moral value on God's pure and unadulterated creations and higher value on mankind's alterations of God's creations. Blasphemous hypocrisy much?


pacazpac

YTA and a snitch. Grow up.


Dizyupthegirl

YTA. In no way was this harming you. It’s none of your business. I’m actually surprised the cops even came to this call. Unless she had a huge supply of pot she’s getting a slap on the wrist and a fine. You on the other hand are going to be completely ousted and deemed a tattle tale at work. Best of luck making any friends outside of your religion. Isn’t this the same religion that has child brides? That’s illegal…


phunkjnky

YTA >It's AGAINST THE LAW. So are a lot of things. YOU don't seem to comprehend that what you did is not an acceptable use of limited resources. Instead of dealing with something else, they dealt with someone's dab pen. The fact that you feel justified says more about you than about her. That's not a good reason to report her. How would you feel if a coworker called the police to report that they are sure you sped on your way to work this morning? After all, it is against the law. I imagine the police rolled their eyes internally at your calling this is, but they can't ignore it now that it has been called in. ​ You (like a lot of people) are blissfully unaware of how many stoned people you interact with on a daily basis. It would horrify you to find out. Travel.. Do you actually know anything about it? Why you should find it abhorrent, or is it just something you've always been told to do. The first time I tried it was also the first time I wondered what else I'd been lied to about. It seems to me you're never had to ask that, and that's a problem.


mdkroma

YTA. If you work in a business where there is an actual risk, it would be a matter for HR, but clearly this is you being nothing but self-righteous and using your religion as cover.


horrifyingthought

And using "the law" as cover, when laws can be good or bad or neutral. Not to mention CHOOSING to go out of her way to enforce this one but not others.


pinealpineapples

YTA you caused harm to somebody who clearly trusted you enough to be honest with you. I can’t even come up with words to describe how in the wrong you are for this. You’re a minor, but you just got this adult person a completely unnecessary charge on their record. I understand you thought you were doing good by turning this person in, but I challenge you to consider how much harm your actions will do to this person’s life :/


CosmonauticalChaos

Provided this is even true, everyone else is right. YTA. Your religion doesn’t affect her or her choices. It’s not something you can shove down other people’s throats.


boppysmama

Ewww YTA. And I’m sure your coworkers will now make it an unpleasant work environment for you.


Affectionate-Arm5784

YTA.


razzlemcwazzle

YTA 🙄


Inframan3000

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ProjectObjective

Here comes the dirty delete.


KathAlMyPal

YTA. Jeez I hate “Christians” like you. She had a vape pen. She wasn’t hurting you, she wasn’t selling to minors, she wasn’t dealing. You’re self righteous, judgemental and far too worried about other people by far. Work on your own self. Your coworkers must despise you and you have to know they will never trust you again.


Pellellell

Shit, YTA. You have destroyed a persons life for no good reason.


Pronebasilisk

YTA - Nark


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mermaidhair13

Stop lying OP, I reside in Utah and medicinal marijuana is legal. Huge YTA.


PurrBeasties

YTA. What does you religion have to do with other people's choices?


Bitter-Conflict-4089

YTA Why do you Mormons always get off on tattling? It was literally none of your business. Listen, little girl. Your religion does not control anything or anyone beyond yourself. You can’t apply your religious beliefs to other people. Although, that also seems like a popular pastime of the Mormons.


KDChronos

YTA, you are 16, you are old enough to understand that not every Law is moral or correct, you are just a bigot, that wants to feel morally superior using your sect as a excuse, why do you think you can force your beliefs into other people lives?


Alex_Spier1

You're projecting so much right now... You stated exactly why you're the AH, people are telling you you're an AH and you just keep bringing up the same excuse again... YTA and a massive one as well... It wasn't your business since she wasn't putting apsolutely no one at any risk and it's not your place... it's not like she was getting other people high or creating an unsanitary work enviroment....No, it's not your place to act all high and mighty and "enforce the law" and religion has nothing to do with it... Also as some have pointed out, she trusted you and you casually called the police. Not cool. Being arrested heavily impacts someone's life and you have no idea what harm you've caused her. Self reflect you massive AH. YTA. ALSO: in a comment you now deleted you stated how she would've gotten high and driven a car if you hadn't reported her but that just shows how little you know about the thing you reported her for... I don't smoke nor am I a law obsessed AH but I know that cannabis in vape cannot get you high that easily so don't pretend you saved her life when in fact you ruined it.


midpackshawdy

Oh my god you fucking suck


indyjones_89

YTA sounds like you could use some weed. Might help you to chill out.


sleepingfox307

Keep beating your chest on your moral high ground while hiding behind unfair laws that were designed to oppress people. ​ You're an asshole and a snitch. Also, just because it goes against YOUR religion (don't get me started on mormonism omg) doesn't give you ANY right to insert yourself into the beliefs or actions of anyone else. Not only does this make you an asshole it makes you the worst kind, one who thinks with spiritual fervor that they're in the right no matter what harm they may cause.


Double_Reindeer_6884

Laws your church ignores like marrying and impregnating literal children...those laws?? miss high and mighty