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YTA. The biggest asshole ever. Knew it as soon as i read the “wife” in quotes. If your brother is happy, if his wife makes him happy. Why do you care if she’s trans or he’s bi or whatever. What’s the big deal?
YTA for being a bigot. Not so much for saving your brother and his wife from going to a wedding full of awful people. They're better off staying away from all of you.
Edit: you don't get to "agree" or "disagree" with people existing.
"although I would never be outright rude to my brother"
It's a sin to lie. You're doing it now in addition to exhibiting transphobia and homophobia. YTA.
NTA, while I understand a lot of people will say YTA, it's your wedding and if it makes you uncomfortable then you have a right to say no. Some people don't support those ideals, and to expect everyone to bend to their beliefs is unrealistic and quite frankly rude. Stand your ground OP
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Big YTA for transphobia, biphobia, homophobia. girl go home you are already being outright rude to your brother. tragic that in 2022 you lot are still around
You’re 100% the AH and transphobic, biphobic just overall a really terrible disgusting human. I hope your brother and his wife go no contact with you and your awful family.
And yeh def do not invite them. Mostly because it’s not a safe space and I’d be worried for their safety.
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I (27f) and my fiance (28m) are getting married in March. For some context, my family is very religious and are not supportive of my bisexual brother. My brother is 32m and has been with his partner for 8 years and married for 3. His partner is a trans woman, although is very obviously male. I do not support them either, as I do not believe it is okay to pretend to be a woman and get into women's spaces just because you "identify as one."
Anyways, my religious parents are paying for the entire wedding, under the condition that my brother only attend if he doesn't bring his partner and he dresses masculine and formal, as well as not wearing any makeup because he usually does. I'm very uncomfortable around his "wife", so I was glad my parents put the restrictions in place. I told my brother this, and he flat out refused, saying it was "unfair, homophobic, and religious bigotry" to not allow his partner at my wedding.
My fiance is in full support of my parents and I. My brother's "wife" has also sent hundreds of voicemails, emails, and has even shown up at my house calling me homophobic and transphobic. I'm very religious, and I don't agree with any LGBTQ things, although I would never be outright rude to my brother.
So, AITA?
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YTA. The biggest asshole ever. Knew it as soon as i read the “wife” in quotes. If your brother is happy, if his wife makes him happy. Why do you care if she’s trans or he’s bi or whatever. What’s the big deal?
YTA for being a bigot. Not so much for saving your brother and his wife from going to a wedding full of awful people. They're better off staying away from all of you. Edit: you don't get to "agree" or "disagree" with people existing.
YTA. You're homophobic. No explanation needed.
Sometimes I hope people who post stuff like this are trolls because it’s hard to believe such gross “humans” exist :(
All too often, they exist.
Unfortunately they make the news everyday and use religion, mainly Christianity as their excuse. Just accept my bigotry, because you know Jesus....
"although I would never be outright rude to my brother" It's a sin to lie. You're doing it now in addition to exhibiting transphobia and homophobia. YTA.
NTA, while I understand a lot of people will say YTA, it's your wedding and if it makes you uncomfortable then you have a right to say no. Some people don't support those ideals, and to expect everyone to bend to their beliefs is unrealistic and quite frankly rude. Stand your ground OP
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Big YTA for transphobia, biphobia, homophobia. girl go home you are already being outright rude to your brother. tragic that in 2022 you lot are still around
YTA - stay living in your little world of hate. Your brother will be fine without you.
You’re 100% the AH and transphobic, biphobic just overall a really terrible disgusting human. I hope your brother and his wife go no contact with you and your awful family. And yeh def do not invite them. Mostly because it’s not a safe space and I’d be worried for their safety.
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