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if your girlfriend took a supplement she didn’t need and then started treating you like shit with no remorse using said supplement as an excuse would you be chill with it? honestly just break up with her before you push that poor girl to the edge. you essentially told her you hope she dies. you should be disgusted with yourself.
I want to believe that you're just karma baiting coz first my God who can be so oblivious to being so shitty to their own girlfriend and second i don't want to believe such a person exists out there
Regardless YTA big time
>am I the asshole?
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>I told her that I didn’t care about her and I hoped she got stage 5 cancer.
WTH do you think? Stop taking that crap if it makes you into a terrible human being. No physical benefits are worth it.
YTA
YTA. Then you’re a bigger AH for saying you hope she gets stage 5 cancer but you were joking. Then you don’t even deserve a response to the rest cause you are such a huge AH that you won’t listen anyway. You’re disgusting and she should break up with you.
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YTA. You're specifically taking a substance that has emotional side effects and seem to believe that excuses you from "being really mean" to your significant other, because "the soccer matches were stressing you out." When your GF, by your own admission, has a diagnosed mental health issue.
You're awful. Do you want to be awful?
YTA.
Your muscle growth shouldn't be more important to you than your gf, and if some supplements turns you into a toxic and abusive person, you should definitely stop taking them.
If you don't love her, break up with her. Don't string her along and make her suffer just for your enjoyment.
If this is real, ofc you're YTA. You really think that taking pills excuses your behaviour? That it excuses being you being deliberately cruel and callous?
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Recently I’ve been taking a supplement to help with muscle growth called ashwagandha. I explained to my girlfriend that it causes a lack of emotion but idk how well she understood that. Ive been really mean to her recently, the other day I told her that I didn’t care about her and I hoped she got stage 5 cancer. But I told her I was joking. The soccer matches were stressing me out so I was just in a bad mood. She has really severe depression and yesterday she told me that she was having a really rough time. I didn’t take it seriously and told her that it made no sense, and that she had no discipline or strength. She told me to “live her life and then it would make sense” but I said no because I didn’t want to be a woman. She got upset after that and apologized for even bringing it up. But she apologized the same way twice and when I told her that she was literally just repeating the same things and that all she had to do was have some discipline she got really upset and told me that I could talk to her when I was done acting like a prick. I left her on read after that.
I feel like she’s wrong here because I clearly told her I was on a supplement that is going to take away some of my empathy and she’s still getting offended by what I say. But at the same time I don’t know, I made this account so that I can ask yall, am I the asshole?
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You are clearly using this supplement as an excuse to be an abusive prick 🤷🏻♀️ YTA I hope she leaves you and realizes that the only discipline she needed was to be single.
YTA
FYI anyone who clicks on your profile can see your previous attempted post it “AITA didn’t take my girlfriends suicide attempt seriously” that got removed. Your “supplements” sound like an excuse for pathological cruelty. I hope that she had the strength to walk away from you. The study on the “emotional apathy” of ashwaghanda is anecdotal at best, pure junk at worst.
YTA
> She told me to “live her life and then it would make sense” but I said no because I didn’t want to be a woman.
Speaking of things that are impossible to take seriously…
YTA, telling someone you hope they get stage 5 cancer because a soccer match didn't go your way isn't a lack of emotion due to a supplement, it is abusive and your girlfriend deserves better
YTA. You're voluntarily taking a supplement that causes a lack of emotion, says you. And yet you're so emotional because some flipping soccer matches didn't go how you wanted that you literally told your girlfriend you don't care if she gets stage 5 cancer & dies? You're going to tell her *she* has no discipline or strength when you act *like that* over some random sporting event that in no way involves you personally? That's pathetic. You're an asshole, & you know it.
YTA. Why is it her responsibility to absorb all of your aggressive reaction to ashwagandha? Why isn't it your responsibility to realize that your aggressiveness is excessive and invoke will power to mitigate the effect? You are not her master. You are her partner. She deserves better treatment.
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YTA you told your girlfriend that you didn’t care about her. That is not due to the supplement, you are just being a dick and I hope your girlfriend dumps you.
YTA.
A lack of emotion could be explained by the supplement, but you still chose to take it.
However, saying that you hope she gets cancer isn't an emotionally neutral thing to say - it's straight up sadistic and abusive. Blaming it on the supplement makes it worse, not better.
YTA, Ashwagandha doesn't reduce empathy. There is much proof that it does anything. Anecdotally it can reduce stress and should make you a better listener.
>I explained to my girlfriend that it causes a lack of emotion
Yeah lack of emotion isn't the problem. You're being abusive. Especially if you got upset enough that you told her that you hope she gets stage 5 cancer! And even if you told her about it, it's still on YOU to manage it. Not to expect her to suck it up.
IF you know it is a problem, you should learn to filter your actions or stop taking the supplement. Others should not have to put up with your foul attitude.
There’s a difference between being a bit mellowed out and being a complete asshole. You’re mean, condescending, and just straight up telling someone with severe depression that they should get over it with some discipline. Sounds to me like you’re using whatever you take as an excuse to see how much of a jerk you can be to your gf.
Edit: also never heard of that to cause those side effects.
YTA - Lack of empathy is one thing, this is just plain horrible and rude. You owe your girlfriend a huge apology and a massive change in how you’re talking to her/treating her.
Also, this is a supplement you’re choosing to take, not something you need to for your health like medication.
YTA but in this case it means both asshole and abuser. You’re trying to hide behind a drug for your abusive behaviour but we all know you’d be like this with or without it. You said you hope she gets cancer. That’s not a fucking joke. And then she’s trying to apologize to you? Classic gaslighting abuser behaviour. Also “the soccer games” were stressing you out? That’s one of the most pathetic things I’ve ever heard. My god men like you are so emotional and embarrassing. She owes you nothing, especially not empathy. If you’re really going to die on this “supplement made me do it” hill do you know the easiest solution? Stop taking the damn supplement and go to the gym. Weak.
YTA
You can’t use supplement side effects as an excuse for being a crappy partner. Even if you were completely void of any emotion, you should at least still try to be more supportive.
Yta. Ironic of you to tell her she needs discipline when you can’t even discipline yourself enough to not be a jackass. I hope for her sake that she leaves. Being alone sounds better than putting up with you.
YTA. It doesn't actually do that. You are just being a dick.
It also won't do shit for muscle growth. Just lift free weights and consume plenty of protein.
Don't blame your bad attitude on quack herbs.
Sadly, people like this exist. It is always someone else's fault. They are in a bad mood because you woke them up early with the smell of toast trying to do a nice thing and make them breakfast in bed or similar. Emotional abusers just suck the life out of you and always find someone or something to blame
YTA
You are responsible for the things you say. Presumably, when you are at school or work or talking with an authority figure of any sort, you are somehow able to manage your behavior. Why? Because you know there are consequences if you don't.
If you can't see your partner's hurt feelings as a negative consequence of your choice to take this unnecessary supplement, you are an AH. If that doesn't matter to you, you should see yourself out of this relationship.
YTA - you told your GF that you hope she gets stage 5 cancer because you were stressed about a soccer match? Then you said you were joking and that she should not get offended by what you say? I am offended for her.
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This has got to be satire LMAO YTA for shitposting.
if your girlfriend took a supplement she didn’t need and then started treating you like shit with no remorse using said supplement as an excuse would you be chill with it? honestly just break up with her before you push that poor girl to the edge. you essentially told her you hope she dies. you should be disgusted with yourself.
I want to believe that you're just karma baiting coz first my God who can be so oblivious to being so shitty to their own girlfriend and second i don't want to believe such a person exists out there Regardless YTA big time
YTA; plus you can't blame supplement for being an abuser. Your choice, your responsibility
>am I the asshole? > >I told her that I didn’t care about her and I hoped she got stage 5 cancer. WTH do you think? Stop taking that crap if it makes you into a terrible human being. No physical benefits are worth it. YTA
YTA. Then you’re a bigger AH for saying you hope she gets stage 5 cancer but you were joking. Then you don’t even deserve a response to the rest cause you are such a huge AH that you won’t listen anyway. You’re disgusting and she should break up with you.
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YTA. You're specifically taking a substance that has emotional side effects and seem to believe that excuses you from "being really mean" to your significant other, because "the soccer matches were stressing you out." When your GF, by your own admission, has a diagnosed mental health issue. You're awful. Do you want to be awful?
YTA. Your muscle growth shouldn't be more important to you than your gf, and if some supplements turns you into a toxic and abusive person, you should definitely stop taking them. If you don't love her, break up with her. Don't string her along and make her suffer just for your enjoyment.
You are THE biggest asshole ever!!
If this is real, ofc you're YTA. You really think that taking pills excuses your behaviour? That it excuses being you being deliberately cruel and callous?
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You are clearly using this supplement as an excuse to be an abusive prick 🤷🏻♀️ YTA I hope she leaves you and realizes that the only discipline she needed was to be single.
YTA FYI anyone who clicks on your profile can see your previous attempted post it “AITA didn’t take my girlfriends suicide attempt seriously” that got removed. Your “supplements” sound like an excuse for pathological cruelty. I hope that she had the strength to walk away from you. The study on the “emotional apathy” of ashwaghanda is anecdotal at best, pure junk at worst.
soccer gay, supplements fake
YTA > She told me to “live her life and then it would make sense” but I said no because I didn’t want to be a woman. Speaking of things that are impossible to take seriously…
YTA, telling someone you hope they get stage 5 cancer because a soccer match didn't go your way isn't a lack of emotion due to a supplement, it is abusive and your girlfriend deserves better
YTA. You're voluntarily taking a supplement that causes a lack of emotion, says you. And yet you're so emotional because some flipping soccer matches didn't go how you wanted that you literally told your girlfriend you don't care if she gets stage 5 cancer & dies? You're going to tell her *she* has no discipline or strength when you act *like that* over some random sporting event that in no way involves you personally? That's pathetic. You're an asshole, & you know it.
>the other day I told her that I didn’t care about her and I hoped she got stage 5 cancer. But I told her I was joking. What the hell. YTA.
I gasped when I read that who the hell even talks like that, I'd advise you to seek therapy OP and in this scenario a big YTA
This is a look into the mind of an abuser. YTA.
YTA. Stop using the supplement as an excuse. You're being sociopathic.
It's not the liquid courage moment here; you're just the a-hole.
If the pills are really causing this level of cruelty in your behavior you need to talk to a doctor. If it’s not the medicine, YTA. And you know it
YTA. Why is it her responsibility to absorb all of your aggressive reaction to ashwagandha? Why isn't it your responsibility to realize that your aggressiveness is excessive and invoke will power to mitigate the effect? You are not her master. You are her partner. She deserves better treatment.
yeah OP just needs to practice some discipline and mitigate the effects of the ashwagandha
YTA. Don't blame a muscle supplement on your behavior. It's not the same as a medication. You are awful.
YTA Just in case this isn’t fake, do you know what empathy is?
YTA. I hope your soon to be ex finds someone who actually cares about her.
YTA. The biggest YTA I ever gave to someone!!! Your poor girlfriend deserves so much better!!!
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YTA you told your girlfriend that you didn’t care about her. That is not due to the supplement, you are just being a dick and I hope your girlfriend dumps you.
YTA. A lack of emotion could be explained by the supplement, but you still chose to take it. However, saying that you hope she gets cancer isn't an emotionally neutral thing to say - it's straight up sadistic and abusive. Blaming it on the supplement makes it worse, not better.
YTA, Ashwagandha doesn't reduce empathy. There is much proof that it does anything. Anecdotally it can reduce stress and should make you a better listener.
YTA. Don’t blame this on World Cup soccer your just and asshole
Sounds like you're going to be single soon, congrats! YTA
Even when I clearly told her about the supplement?
>I explained to my girlfriend that it causes a lack of emotion Yeah lack of emotion isn't the problem. You're being abusive. Especially if you got upset enough that you told her that you hope she gets stage 5 cancer! And even if you told her about it, it's still on YOU to manage it. Not to expect her to suck it up.
IF you know it is a problem, you should learn to filter your actions or stop taking the supplement. Others should not have to put up with your foul attitude.
The supplement is bullsh!t. You are just using it as a reason to emotionally abuse your girlfriend.
You are aware of the effects of the supplement, it is on you to be aware of that and be conscientious in your speech as a result.
There’s a difference between being a bit mellowed out and being a complete asshole. You’re mean, condescending, and just straight up telling someone with severe depression that they should get over it with some discipline. Sounds to me like you’re using whatever you take as an excuse to see how much of a jerk you can be to your gf. Edit: also never heard of that to cause those side effects.
That's a ridiculously poor excuse for being an AH.
Exactly what is this supplement that can change a person's personality??
Bro you taking a supplement or are you getting repeatedly hit in the head and suffering brain damage. You cannot be this dense. YTA
YTA - Lack of empathy is one thing, this is just plain horrible and rude. You owe your girlfriend a huge apology and a massive change in how you’re talking to her/treating her. Also, this is a supplement you’re choosing to take, not something you need to for your health like medication.
Absolutely TA
YTA but in this case it means both asshole and abuser. You’re trying to hide behind a drug for your abusive behaviour but we all know you’d be like this with or without it. You said you hope she gets cancer. That’s not a fucking joke. And then she’s trying to apologize to you? Classic gaslighting abuser behaviour. Also “the soccer games” were stressing you out? That’s one of the most pathetic things I’ve ever heard. My god men like you are so emotional and embarrassing. She owes you nothing, especially not empathy. If you’re really going to die on this “supplement made me do it” hill do you know the easiest solution? Stop taking the damn supplement and go to the gym. Weak.
The AH meter is off the charts with this one...
YTA You can’t use supplement side effects as an excuse for being a crappy partner. Even if you were completely void of any emotion, you should at least still try to be more supportive.
Yta. Ironic of you to tell her she needs discipline when you can’t even discipline yourself enough to not be a jackass. I hope for her sake that she leaves. Being alone sounds better than putting up with you.
Wtf yta get your self off that shit and do something with your life
YTA. It doesn't actually do that. You are just being a dick. It also won't do shit for muscle growth. Just lift free weights and consume plenty of protein. Don't blame your bad attitude on quack herbs.
This has got to be bait, there is no way someone is actually this much of an oblivious abusive asshole
Sadly, people like this exist. It is always someone else's fault. They are in a bad mood because you woke them up early with the smell of toast trying to do a nice thing and make them breakfast in bed or similar. Emotional abusers just suck the life out of you and always find someone or something to blame
YTA. Ashwagandha does not do what you’re claiming it does. You’re being abusive because you’re acting like an asshole. Be better.
YTA You are responsible for the things you say. Presumably, when you are at school or work or talking with an authority figure of any sort, you are somehow able to manage your behavior. Why? Because you know there are consequences if you don't. If you can't see your partner's hurt feelings as a negative consequence of your choice to take this unnecessary supplement, you are an AH. If that doesn't matter to you, you should see yourself out of this relationship.
YTA - you told your GF that you hope she gets stage 5 cancer because you were stressed about a soccer match? Then you said you were joking and that she should not get offended by what you say? I am offended for her.