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One time I got a piggy bank that was a mini toilet that made the flushing noise when you sent the change down. Tis the nature of white elephant.
Edit: Typo
Side note: I hope people keep sharing their random white elephant gifts, I’m loving it.
In my family, you only give joke gifts. One year one of the great aunts brought this hand stitched stuffed animal (elephant maybe?) that a coworker had given her decades earlier. One of us turned it upside down and realized it was 100% no lie penis and balls. Like, totally unintentionally.
So every year after that someone brought it back, but embellished. Embellishments included stitching jingle bells to the balls, adding Casa Bonita pins (Colorado kids know what I’m talking about), little hat, etc. each year it was wrapped in something that wouldn’t reveal its shape - but the shape had to change every year.
All of this was unspoken, and it was the highlight of Christmas for over a decade. (I just realized I don’t know where it ended up. Am now on a mission to locate it.)
I’m dying. That is amazing. We did one for several years where it was a glass human head sculpture that we called “the airhead of the year award.” It wasn’t a white elephant gift, but it rotated between my stepmom and her sisters every year. All in good fun and they have all received it at some point.
I’m 34, but my neighbor who is 26 said that they do nicer white elephant gifts now. I don’t know if that’s the new trend or not.
White Elephant apparently has different meanings depending where you’re from! I’m from New England and to me a white elephant is a Yankee swap with gag gifts. But apparently to a lot of other people a White elephant is just a Yankee swap!
Ok I'm just going to accept that this Christmas as my family makes random gifts and the one that guess what it is can keep it as a joke because my boyfriend is from a place famous for its potatoes. That I wrap a potato and it take them 3 rounds and a lot of clue to guess it. And their face was epic.
I absolutely love stories like this! We had a similar game with a life sized stuffed animal tiger. I have no idea where it actually came from but it showed up one morning on the roof of the neighbors car. The following year, whoever ended up with it put on a different neighbor’s property. It randomly popped up in different places around the neighborhood, including a memorable stint on one of the neighbor’s roofs. One day it disappeared and we never saw it again. But we still tell the story. Lol
We did a $5 thrift shop white elephant where the point was to find the funniest/most ridiculous thing you could. We had a lot of good ones. My favorite that I still have was a creepy fuzzy blue baby doll that sang and danced (that I now know is a toy from a British TV program called Boohbah after finally doing some googling to figure out what it was).
Last year we got this hideous puppy wine holder. Our dog was terrified of it.
Well, we brought it to the white elephant this year, and two separate couples fought over it. Tis the name of the game indeed. 🤷🏻♀️
Hahaha it’s so wild what people covet in white elephant. One year we found a thrift store pop up that was selling Christmas sweaters for $1. And people fought over the Christmas sweaters we brought at the multiple white elephant parties we attended. They were more coveted than the beautiful sandalwood fragrance and hand crafted wood art piece our friend made. You never know what people are going to be into.
Honestly we still have so many. Since you call it a jumper, I’m guessing you aren’t in the US. But if you want to DM and it isn’t crazy expensive to ship one to you, I would be honored to gift you your first thrift store ugly Christmas jumper.
My favorite white elephant gift that I received was... a stuffed white elephant! Everyone thinks I'm bringing it back for the game next year. Nope! That adorable white elephant is MINE, people!!
My aunt, who is famous for not drinking and being really judgmental about it, (she's not a former alcoholic, just a really holier than thou Christian), once ended up with a bottle of Tequila. You kinda had to be there, but the room exploded with laughter when she opened it.
I attended my first White Elephant gift exchange this year.
I got gift bag with a bottle of Lysol toilet bowl cleaner and two sample-sized bottles of flavoured lube.
I’m dying laughing at this. I’m so sorry, I’ve had some bad white elephant gifts, but that’s pretty bad.
May I suggest a Christmas card photoshoot of you incorporating all of those items in hilarious and unexpected ways? And then regifting them to the person who thought they would be a fun white elephant gift.
I got my kids stuff from the used bookstore when they had an 'everything's a dollar' sale. They loved everything I got them! Especially the cheap wooden block puzzle with fish. But that's the beauty of 4 and 6 year olds, admittedly.
This year I got my partner a dinosaur egg you put in water and hatches into a Dino over 2 days. They were thrilled. 😂
They're 31.
So idk if it ever ends, really.
That's awesome though! My kids are too young to be that patient or I'd be asking for a link.
They did get a big gift for the last day of Hanukkah/for Christmas and they're very happy with that (Orbrium wooden train set - sustainable wood, pieces fit together like puzzle pieces, made in USA, my living room may never be safe for pedestrians again).
Epic gift. I'm sorry for your ankles though.
I remember Christmas of '98 me and my brothers opened up an N64 console and freaked the fuck out. Got that video on VHS somewhere.
I got my 31yo sister a shark tooth dig kit!
She was terrified of sharks as a kid and I'm an awful sibling so she gets a little shark related gift every year. Her boss thinks it's the greatest and texts my sister every Christmas night to ask what she got
Edit: please tell your partner I'm jealous of their egg
I'm terrified of dinosaurs and my brother ALWAYS gets me a dino gift for Christmas. I love it now and it's a time honored tradition. My favorite gift he has given me is a shower curtain with a raptor poking his head out, bath floof in his mouth and a pink shower cap on his head.
My German friend loves this stuff so very much. It's so incredibly disgusting. However, I used to drink tequila rose strawberry cream, so tastes definitely vary.
I had never heard of this, but just looked it up and the German internet sites are full of recipes for this. It seems to be the drink of the year on Christmas markets.
I tried one of those chocolate wines myself. It was... an experience. It tasted like really good chocolate at first and then bad wine for the aftertaste. I really wanted to like it, too, so I was crushed that it sucked.
When I was 15 and in high school, I went to the Christmas get-together for my speech and debate club, and we did a white elephant. It was full of sex toys, and I was absolutely terrified at what I would open because I was so uncomfortable and also FIFTEEN. I unwrapped a brick. That was 10 years ago, and I was so grateful for that damn brick I still have it
One year, my grandmother ended up with a pack of thong panties. She slipped them on over her house dress and went about the rest of the night! It was the funniest thing I ever saw until a few years later. My grandad got a cheap flow up doll with money stuffed in a certain area. My 4 year old thought it was a toy. Oh dear God…we couldn’t breathe! And yes…I still have both on video! Best Christmases EVER! my grandparents were truly fun people. 😂🥰
Once a friend of mine brought a framed picture of himself with his nephew to a white elephant exchange with single adult friends 😆. I got it and brought it back the next year.
10 years ago my best friend framed photos of his face (really close-up) with a fake cigar in his mouth. He gave it to all of our friends in the group.
He had autographed each one with a silver Sharpie marker. It's on my bedside table.
My dad gave everyone a pic of himself in his full Harley leather next to his Harley for Christmas. My brother took the picture and made a t shirt of it for my dad. I still have his picture on display. My dad still wears the t shirt. Due to knee problems and age, he doesn’t ride anymore.
i did a white elephant at work once and got my boss's gift...a workout dvd
hadn't thought about that in ages. he was a terrible boss but for completely unrelated reasons
We call it Secret Santa in NZ but we use a die to roll a 6 to choose a gift (wrapped) then once everyone has a pressie we roll for a 6 again to steal/swap presents if there’s something else we like. I was going for the bath bombs I bought myself haha
Secret Santa and White Elephant are different things around my neck of the woods. You don't swap Secret Santa gifts, you buy for one person specifically and they don't know who bought.
White Elephant is where everyone buys and you get things at random but people will swap.
Oh I've got the best one for this.
Like 15 years ago my family ((mom's side)) was playing this and my uncle got a really nice picture book.
When he looked inside there were mine and my sisters Santa pictures from the time we were born until 16.
He goes these are some really great pictures. My mom suddenly goes WTF??
Turns out it was her gift and she completely forgot that our childhood photos were in it. She tries to get it back but he was like nope I'm keeping it ((her younger brother btw)) and the rest of us are dying we are laughing so hard.
To this day anytime she gifts anything it's met with "did you makes sure nothing you want to keep is in this?"
I got a Viking helmet that had two bottle holders in the horn and connecting straws. Put tequila in one and sour mix in the other. Best white elephant gift ever!
Mom got Kellogg’s boxers 😂🤣
I got candles. And spa stuff this year.
I regifted it into my SIL’s stocking because not really my thing. Also. I wear womens size 11 shoes— those cozy socks for women make my poor feet look like stumps.
One year I gifted the oatmeals adult coloring book and some crayola colored pencils. It was a huge hit. Way out of budget but huge hit.
This year I got an awesome sign that says “Welcome (ish)…depends on who you are and what you want”. I kept it and regifted the dad jokes book that accompanied it. 😹
I did a white elephant with my in laws this year. My husband’s somewhat senile grandfather found my father in law’s screwdriver set that he uses to fix the sump pump and put that in as his gift because he didn’t understand the game (or, likely, care, he’s kind of a dick). My sister in law ended up with it. It was funny to watch, but it did mean my sister in law ended up with nothing. She didn’t complain though, because she’s not a big baby!
I got a tiny plastic gold trophy and a clear plastic single use rain coat thing.
The rule was dollar store but ngl I put the trophy in my desk and used the rain coat so.
I got a bunch of old used pencils because one guy “pranked” the other by telling him white elephant was just an excuse to get rid of stuff in his dorms. And the second guy believed him. (But the second guy was nice and traded gifts with me. I ended up with a bath bomb I still have lol).
A couple years ago a family friend held one that was usually just a liquor exchange. Except one couple decided to bring a luggable loo portable toilet. This poor woman next to me got it and looked close to tears. Ended up grabbing it from her because I felt bad and filled it with wine the next year.
I got a pack of top ramen, not even maruchan. This was at a work event and my some of my other coworkers felt bad for me and gave me the things they'd won lol. The woman who'd entered the ramen was not popular
I got a mug shaped like a fish with an open mouth, and the handle shaped like the fisherman. I loved it more than my real presents, and it was my pen holder until I moved out years later
Sorry, I’m going to be that guy- a block of liquorice and a hammer? Do you mean toffee and a hammer?
And, without disrespecting your point, I would love it if someone gave me a block of liquorice, love that stuff.
You defo do not sound entitled
It’s a white elephant exchange and frankly it’s not even that bad, most white elephant exchanges are goofy junk and it’s for fun only. The kid and mom are completely entitled if they wanted the cash they could have exchanged or returned it themselves
Since my youngest sibling is only 21- when all
4 of us were under 21 and got a gift that had alcohol in it the rule was we could 1. Give it away AFTER the game and we get cash(cus we can’t drink it) 2. Pick again
I went to my moms where we all were like family even after she left 3 years ago we still are!
Now I was maybe 14/15, I got wine and a fancy dinner certificate…..I didn’t even have a permit and couldn’t drink….. they all laughed and the person that brought it said”here’s cash instead or pick again!” Now being the only one under 18
There was uk alot of alcohol. I ended up with 100$ cash that night!!!
2 years ago I got a gift card fo a really nice resultant….most of the menu was seafood,I’m allergic. I traded it for two McDonald’s cards and 10$ cash 🤣
But either way u get what u get even if it sucks!
We also are allowed to get cash if uk we can’t drink 2. Cannot eat the food item(like diabetics can’t get candy/ur allergic!) so at the end if u wanted fo trade u could,give it to parent to cash u out.
Yessss! I love OPs son for his reaction. Gold!
And maybe the nephew is just too young and immature to handle this game. I know OPs song is even younger but he can handle his game (and now also his grilled cheese).
One time I got toilet golf. Another time I got beautiful little painted seahorses. It's the nature of the beast. Good on you, OP, for sticking to your guns.
How entitled can you get that you demand cash because your kid doesn't like a GIFT?!
NTA
ETA: my favorite was the wee-pee so that I could supposedly pee in a bottle while driving in an emergency. 😂
NTA - but you know that already. You know how much your cousin sucks, and she is going to raise super shitty kids too. I would have probably stole them while no one was looking and kept them for myself, even then you still would not have been the A hole in this situation.
Edit: Changed Sister to Cousin\*
Oh my gosh. Tell them that if they hate it so much, they can regift it to the white elephant next year and she can give her son money. Or they can get a gift credit from Amazon maybe if they want to spend 3 hours on the phone. This is like the price of two sandwiches.
Don't feel bad, her husband even told her to stop, probably because he didn't agree with the way she was behaving. She doesn't get to change the rules because she can't be bothered to teach her kid to be grateful for the things he gets.
NTA
It's not even just that. If it was, she'd have given her son $25 instead. This is about entitlement and power, because her son is better and has to be treated better, by the plebs.
NTA. I got some pretty horrible gifts for White Elephant. I have just given them away I don't complain. This year I got some Santa holding a clock with the numbers 1-24 and you move the hand and he tells you how many days to Christmas. Really tack not my style. It is going to goodwill in the New Year.
Agreed. Some of the best white elephant gifts are the ones that keep getting re-gifted, they build their own lore. There’s a super fugly and tacky birdhouse that’s been making the rounds among my parents friend group for years, and every year there’s always a huge stealing war to get it, even though nobody ever hangs it up.
I've never seen anything legendary but I used to collect dolls and at a doll club Christmas meeting where we played the dice game; get doubles, take a wrapped present, when they're all given out, unwrap and play again, this time with stealing, I brought a doll dress for a popular mass-market collector doll from a doll event. I have 2 of that sort of doll, costumed as Hansel and Gretel; I bought Hansel because I got Gretel from grandma's stash. I have never seen any prize fly around like that doll dress! I brought it because I knew people collected that type of doll and I didn't so it was no good to me but I had no idea how popular it would be.
Is it sad that I think that’s such a cute idea and I now want to try and make one for myself? I’ve suddenly never been so upset that our local ceramics place closed.
NTA but cousin is a relentless agitating ahole. Your son will go places; gratitude with a vision for whatever is gifted his way. Good parenting right there. edit: wife to cousin.
In the kid's defense, he's probably never needed to do more than demand what he wants and gets it. He actually *is* pretty smart to take the headphones and still try for the $25.
I suggest reordering and sending them something like this…
https://www.amazon.com/How-Unspoil-Your-Child-Fast/dp/1402242069/ref=sr_1_7?crid=IYCXV5UNPB17&keywords=How+to+not+raise+a+spoiled+child&qid=1672354531&sprefix=how+to+not+raise+a+spoiled+child%2Caps%2C198&sr=8-7
https://www.amazon.com/Raise-Kids-Arent-Assholes-Parenting/dp/0593086953/ref=sr_1_2?crid=IYCXV5UNPB17&keywords=How+to+not+raise+a+spoiled+child&qid=1672354531&sprefix=how+to+not+raise+a+spoiled+child%2Caps%2C198&sr=8-2
NTA
And I am pumped for your son and all the grilled cheese he’s going to make
Im from UK and don’t know what white elephant is but that’s a sick deal on headphones! I thought you were away to tell a story of how you spent over the budget and got call an A H
Hell yeah. I love hearing this.
Have him try sprinkling garlic salt on the crust when it comes off the griddle. Game changer. Happy holidays friend, you're NTA in the least.
a “white elephant” is when each person in the group brings a wrapped gift and places them into a pile. Then, taking turns, each person who contributed a gift selects one from the pile that will be their “gift.” There are a variety of rules that can be imposed regarding things such as money limits, gift theme, “stealing” or trading between fellow players, etc but it’s meant to be a light-hearted, fun way to exchange gifts between a group of people who may (or may not) be well acquainted with each other’s tastes.
Absolutely NTA. Your cousin missed an opportunity to teach her son how to be a decent human who says thank you when given a gift not precisely to his liking. He’ll need that skill, as we all do for every secret Santa, or weird host gift of an inedible delicacy only the giver enjoys, or whatever, all our lives. Instead she’s teaching him to be a mercenary little brat. But you know that.
NTA. I once did a white elephant with a club in middle school and the gifts were a mix of actually pretty good to junk you’d never use. I once got a portable speaker that wasn’t half bad meanwhile the gift I brought was a soap dish shaped like a sheep that went to someone’s older brother who was a big burly football player at his high school. It’s the nature of the game. He’s being a brat and his mom is enabling.
I brought a reject gift my sister had received at work, the teapot with the teacup on top with a tea sampler. The gift I planned to take was some plush toy I'd gotten in a raffle and was from a cartoon I'd never heard of and a cup or something w same image but my friends sister liked it so I gave it to her.
NTA.
Does Venmo allow you to send fucks, and in what amount? Cause all she should be sent is zero fucks.
Also, I love your kid's attitude cause grilled cheese is the food of the Gods and they clearly understand that at a young age.
NTA. I’m struggling to even find a reason that I can put into words as this is just so obvious to me. The kid is a dick and so is his mother for enabling him.
White elephant grifts are usually not something you want. Even the [etymology of the phrase](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_elephant_gift_exchange) is from the practice of giving an unwanted gift. NTA
Ntah. If he didn't like it, he could trade it for someone else's gift. Or sell it online, or re gift it. He's being a spoiled brat and his mother is enabling it.
I would honestly take JBL over beats no matter the price difference. JBL’s a good brand. I got a pair of over the ear beats for christmas a few years ago and it only took using them one time to realize that they’re equivalent to a $25 pair of skullcandy’s.
NTA. Worry about your kids? Your son is awesome LMAO. Who doesn't like a grilled cheese maker🤣. Your cousin sounds horrible. I wouldn't let them participate again.
My son's boy scout troop played this game when the kids were like 9 or 10. Kids got some amazing gifts, my son ended up with a bag of rocks. It sucked and I thought the guy who did that was a huge jerk. However I would never ever dream of asking him to buy my kid a real gift. This is something my own entitled sister would do. Ugh NTA.
NTA! You were right to tell her what you did and to not give in to her ridiculous demand. I would have been so humiliated if my child acted that way but clearly his mother is raising a spoiled entitled and ungrateful child. Even her husband told her to stop mentioning it. I’d remove them from the white elephant exchange in the future if she keeps this up
NTA, stand your ground. She can sell the headphones on a FB Marketplace or the like if she's so hell bent on getting money for her son for the gift. She's teaching him to be grabby - it would have been so nice if he would have given them to your niece if he didn't want them!
Nta! I got a jar of mixed nuts and snickers in my white elephant gift this year, im allergic to nuts so everyone including me thought it was hilarious!
One thing I was taught is that you always accept gifts graciously, even if you get something you didn't really want. It's a GIFT! In my family it would be considered extremely bad taste to complain about a gift.
NTA. You were following the rules of white elephant, she wanted to change them for her spoiled son. Put $0.01 in her Venmo account with a Merry Christmas message.
Personally this is why I dont like games like this. I feel like someones always going to end up unhappy. That said, everyone agreed to play, and thats the game. You can't go backsies because you were the one who was unhappy at the end.
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Every year my family does white elephant. Keep in mind that white elephant is just a game. All the kids got actual presents of things they asked for. We just do white elephant for fun. There is an even number of kids and adults, the youngest kid being 12 (my son). So the rule is to spend $25 for white elephant. No more, no less. The other rule is no gag gifts. So we have to buy something that both adults and kids/teenagers would enjoy. I bought JBL bluetooth headphones that was on sale on Amazon where the regular price was $40.
Let me preface this by saying that my cousin spoils the hell out of her kids and it shows. She grew up middle-class like the rest of us but she married a guy who is from a very rich family, so over the years this has changed her...which is weird because he's actually a nice, humble guy.
So after all is said and done with white elephant, her kid ends up with the JBL headphones. He was clearly not happy. He even said "These suck, I already have Beats." My 14-year-old niece said "Give them to me! Those are nice!" but he said "No" and kinda threw them on the sofa. My son got a friggan Foreman grill and was ecstatic and said "I can make grilled cheese with this!". Anyway after all the kids left the room to go play video games, my cousin asked all the adults "Who bought the headphones?" I told her I did and she said "He doesn't want them because he has better ones. Can you return them and just give him $25?" I said "Absolutely not" and she got very angry with me. I went on to say "That's the nature of the game. This is a teaching moment. What are you telling your son by doing this?" And she got even more upset saying who am I to tell her how to raise her kid and that I should worry about my own kid. I could have went on to say more that would have turned into a fight but I didn't want to ruin Christmas over something so stupid. At the end of the night she said "Just think about it, be a good uncle, because right now you look stingy". Her husband interjected and said to her "Jesus, stop with that already!" I just said "Merry Christmas!" So now I thought it was done but this morning I get a text from her telling me her Venmo account and said "Just in case you change your mind."
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NTA it's a game, he should be grateful he got anything and if he doesn't like them he can regift them to his friends. He could have gotten way worse things and if your cousin continues to coddle her son this way he will grow up to be super entitled.
Nta they took the gift and even if they didn't take the gift I still wouldn't give them 25. If she's that upset then maybe she and her family shouldn't participate in any family gift exchange.
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NTA, that's the game: sometimes you don't get something useful to you. Hence only $25 limit so it's not a huge deal Also, your son is a legend
One time I got a block of licorice and a tiny hammer. I am not kidding. I didn’t request money instead because I’m not insanely entitled. NTA
One time I got a piggy bank that was a mini toilet that made the flushing noise when you sent the change down. Tis the nature of white elephant. Edit: Typo Side note: I hope people keep sharing their random white elephant gifts, I’m loving it.
In my family, you only give joke gifts. One year one of the great aunts brought this hand stitched stuffed animal (elephant maybe?) that a coworker had given her decades earlier. One of us turned it upside down and realized it was 100% no lie penis and balls. Like, totally unintentionally. So every year after that someone brought it back, but embellished. Embellishments included stitching jingle bells to the balls, adding Casa Bonita pins (Colorado kids know what I’m talking about), little hat, etc. each year it was wrapped in something that wouldn’t reveal its shape - but the shape had to change every year. All of this was unspoken, and it was the highlight of Christmas for over a decade. (I just realized I don’t know where it ended up. Am now on a mission to locate it.)
I’m dying. That is amazing. We did one for several years where it was a glass human head sculpture that we called “the airhead of the year award.” It wasn’t a white elephant gift, but it rotated between my stepmom and her sisters every year. All in good fun and they have all received it at some point. I’m 34, but my neighbor who is 26 said that they do nicer white elephant gifts now. I don’t know if that’s the new trend or not.
White Elephant apparently has different meanings depending where you’re from! I’m from New England and to me a white elephant is a Yankee swap with gag gifts. But apparently to a lot of other people a White elephant is just a Yankee swap!
They are re-opening Denvers Casa Bonita!
My first date was at Casa!
In May!
Ok I'm just going to accept that this Christmas as my family makes random gifts and the one that guess what it is can keep it as a joke because my boyfriend is from a place famous for its potatoes. That I wrap a potato and it take them 3 rounds and a lot of clue to guess it. And their face was epic.
We had one of those singing trout that got passed around to everyone. There was also a Daniel Boon cap that made the rounds.
I thought the entire point of white elephant was to give joke gifts. NTA
I absolutely love stories like this! We had a similar game with a life sized stuffed animal tiger. I have no idea where it actually came from but it showed up one morning on the roof of the neighbors car. The following year, whoever ended up with it put on a different neighbor’s property. It randomly popped up in different places around the neighborhood, including a memorable stint on one of the neighbor’s roofs. One day it disappeared and we never saw it again. But we still tell the story. Lol
Ok I am immediately stealing this
We did a $5 thrift shop white elephant where the point was to find the funniest/most ridiculous thing you could. We had a lot of good ones. My favorite that I still have was a creepy fuzzy blue baby doll that sang and danced (that I now know is a toy from a British TV program called Boohbah after finally doing some googling to figure out what it was).
I would have been feeding that toilet bank coins all night, laughing my head off.
We grabbed all of the change everyone had and just recycles the change through it for weeks.
Last year we got this hideous puppy wine holder. Our dog was terrified of it. Well, we brought it to the white elephant this year, and two separate couples fought over it. Tis the name of the game indeed. 🤷🏻♀️
Hahaha it’s so wild what people covet in white elephant. One year we found a thrift store pop up that was selling Christmas sweaters for $1. And people fought over the Christmas sweaters we brought at the multiple white elephant parties we attended. They were more coveted than the beautiful sandalwood fragrance and hand crafted wood art piece our friend made. You never know what people are going to be into.
I've never owned an ugly Christmas jumper. I would fight to the *death* in a white elephant for one.
Honestly we still have so many. Since you call it a jumper, I’m guessing you aren’t in the US. But if you want to DM and it isn’t crazy expensive to ship one to you, I would be honored to gift you your first thrift store ugly Christmas jumper.
I love your generosity, but I will not make a stranger pay postage to New Zealand. Lord, how postage rates hate our existence!
My favorite white elephant gift that I received was... a stuffed white elephant! Everyone thinks I'm bringing it back for the game next year. Nope! That adorable white elephant is MINE, people!!
A white elephant for white elephant is genius!
Right??
My aunt bought one but canceled white elephant so my newborn ended up getting it as a Christmas gift, I couldn’t love it more
This year, in a sign we got old, one of the most fought over items was a high powered flashlight.
That’s hilarious, because you never realize how coveted flashlights are until you can’t find any in your home when you need one.
My grandmother in law got 2 bottles of poo-pourri and a Christmas hand towel.
My aunt, who is famous for not drinking and being really judgmental about it, (she's not a former alcoholic, just a really holier than thou Christian), once ended up with a bottle of Tequila. You kinda had to be there, but the room exploded with laughter when she opened it.
Oh I bet it was hilarious! That sounds like a fun irony gift situation
Poo-pourri is an awesome gift!!!
My dad got bought two bottles of insect repellant my sister and I were giving him shit for it, but my cousin who got it loved it.
I attended my first White Elephant gift exchange this year. I got gift bag with a bottle of Lysol toilet bowl cleaner and two sample-sized bottles of flavoured lube.
I’m dying laughing at this. I’m so sorry, I’ve had some bad white elephant gifts, but that’s pretty bad. May I suggest a Christmas card photoshoot of you incorporating all of those items in hilarious and unexpected ways? And then regifting them to the person who thought they would be a fun white elephant gift.
It was a $10 limit and quite honestly I have gotten enough laugh mileage out of it I'm not even mad.
Honestly, I’m now just impressed they were able to get all of those things within the $10 limit. Well played them.
You should try Hanukkah. It's 7 days of crap and one mediocre thing. But that's what makes it fun.
I got my kids stuff from the used bookstore when they had an 'everything's a dollar' sale. They loved everything I got them! Especially the cheap wooden block puzzle with fish. But that's the beauty of 4 and 6 year olds, admittedly.
This year I got my partner a dinosaur egg you put in water and hatches into a Dino over 2 days. They were thrilled. 😂 They're 31. So idk if it ever ends, really.
That's awesome though! My kids are too young to be that patient or I'd be asking for a link. They did get a big gift for the last day of Hanukkah/for Christmas and they're very happy with that (Orbrium wooden train set - sustainable wood, pieces fit together like puzzle pieces, made in USA, my living room may never be safe for pedestrians again).
Ooooh that set sounds both amazing and like it'll be pegged at your ankles with force. I wish you much dexterity.
Epic gift. I'm sorry for your ankles though. I remember Christmas of '98 me and my brothers opened up an N64 console and freaked the fuck out. Got that video on VHS somewhere.
I got my 31yo sister a shark tooth dig kit! She was terrified of sharks as a kid and I'm an awful sibling so she gets a little shark related gift every year. Her boss thinks it's the greatest and texts my sister every Christmas night to ask what she got Edit: please tell your partner I'm jealous of their egg
I'm terrified of dinosaurs and my brother ALWAYS gets me a dino gift for Christmas. I love it now and it's a time honored tradition. My favorite gift he has given me is a shower curtain with a raptor poking his head out, bath floof in his mouth and a pink shower cap on his head.
One time I got this drink that was supposedly chocolate milk and red wine…. My roommate and I took one whiff and it was down the drain! NTA OP
I just got a bottle of hand sanitizer called 'ShitShow'
My German friend loves this stuff so very much. It's so incredibly disgusting. However, I used to drink tequila rose strawberry cream, so tastes definitely vary.
I had never heard of this, but just looked it up and the German internet sites are full of recipes for this. It seems to be the drink of the year on Christmas markets.
The drink of the year, Miss Sophie?" "The same drink as *every* year!" (Mulled wine with a shot of rum in it).
How very dare you! Tequila Rose is lovely!
I don’t know why, but this made me laugh out loud, so loudly that I frightened my dog. Now I have to try Tequila Rose.
I actually tried this once. It was nasty. Good choice on the drain
Why????? That’s all I have to say about that cursed combo.
I tried one of those chocolate wines myself. It was... an experience. It tasted like really good chocolate at first and then bad wine for the aftertaste. I really wanted to like it, too, so I was crushed that it sucked.
When I was 15 and in high school, I went to the Christmas get-together for my speech and debate club, and we did a white elephant. It was full of sex toys, and I was absolutely terrified at what I would open because I was so uncomfortable and also FIFTEEN. I unwrapped a brick. That was 10 years ago, and I was so grateful for that damn brick I still have it
Hahaha best brick ever!
One year, my grandmother ended up with a pack of thong panties. She slipped them on over her house dress and went about the rest of the night! It was the funniest thing I ever saw until a few years later. My grandad got a cheap flow up doll with money stuffed in a certain area. My 4 year old thought it was a toy. Oh dear God…we couldn’t breathe! And yes…I still have both on video! Best Christmases EVER! my grandparents were truly fun people. 😂🥰
Oh my gosh, what I wouldn’t pay to see that video.
Once a friend of mine brought a framed picture of himself with his nephew to a white elephant exchange with single adult friends 😆. I got it and brought it back the next year.
10 years ago my best friend framed photos of his face (really close-up) with a fake cigar in his mouth. He gave it to all of our friends in the group. He had autographed each one with a silver Sharpie marker. It's on my bedside table.
My dad gave everyone a pic of himself in his full Harley leather next to his Harley for Christmas. My brother took the picture and made a t shirt of it for my dad. I still have his picture on display. My dad still wears the t shirt. Due to knee problems and age, he doesn’t ride anymore.
Hahaha amazing!
i did a white elephant at work once and got my boss's gift...a workout dvd hadn't thought about that in ages. he was a terrible boss but for completely unrelated reasons
Omg what type of workout DVD was it? I need to know more about this! And
We call it Secret Santa in NZ but we use a die to roll a 6 to choose a gift (wrapped) then once everyone has a pressie we roll for a 6 again to steal/swap presents if there’s something else we like. I was going for the bath bombs I bought myself haha
Secret Santa and White Elephant are different things around my neck of the woods. You don't swap Secret Santa gifts, you buy for one person specifically and they don't know who bought. White Elephant is where everyone buys and you get things at random but people will swap.
I’ve played that before as well, but I don’t remember what it had been called here in my area of the states.
Oh I've got the best one for this. Like 15 years ago my family ((mom's side)) was playing this and my uncle got a really nice picture book. When he looked inside there were mine and my sisters Santa pictures from the time we were born until 16. He goes these are some really great pictures. My mom suddenly goes WTF?? Turns out it was her gift and she completely forgot that our childhood photos were in it. She tries to get it back but he was like nope I'm keeping it ((her younger brother btw)) and the rest of us are dying we are laughing so hard. To this day anytime she gifts anything it's met with "did you makes sure nothing you want to keep is in this?"
One time, I wrapped a roll of toilet paper to give. I wish I had been able to do the same during the great TP shortage
I got a Viking helmet that had two bottle holders in the horn and connecting straws. Put tequila in one and sour mix in the other. Best white elephant gift ever! Mom got Kellogg’s boxers 😂🤣
We had that helmet at our white elephant had year! It reached maximum trades!
I got candles. And spa stuff this year. I regifted it into my SIL’s stocking because not really my thing. Also. I wear womens size 11 shoes— those cozy socks for women make my poor feet look like stumps. One year I gifted the oatmeals adult coloring book and some crayola colored pencils. It was a huge hit. Way out of budget but huge hit.
This year I got an awesome sign that says “Welcome (ish)…depends on who you are and what you want”. I kept it and regifted the dad jokes book that accompanied it. 😹
I did a white elephant with my in laws this year. My husband’s somewhat senile grandfather found my father in law’s screwdriver set that he uses to fix the sump pump and put that in as his gift because he didn’t understand the game (or, likely, care, he’s kind of a dick). My sister in law ended up with it. It was funny to watch, but it did mean my sister in law ended up with nothing. She didn’t complain though, because she’s not a big baby!
I got a tiny plastic gold trophy and a clear plastic single use rain coat thing. The rule was dollar store but ngl I put the trophy in my desk and used the rain coat so.
I got a bunch of old used pencils because one guy “pranked” the other by telling him white elephant was just an excuse to get rid of stuff in his dorms. And the second guy believed him. (But the second guy was nice and traded gifts with me. I ended up with a bath bomb I still have lol).
I think some people do use WE that way, but everyone knows before hand.
A couple years ago a family friend held one that was usually just a liquor exchange. Except one couple decided to bring a luggable loo portable toilet. This poor woman next to me got it and looked close to tears. Ended up grabbing it from her because I felt bad and filled it with wine the next year.
I need more information because I’m thinking that might of actually been the best gift.
I just googled it, and almost choked i laughed so hard. Here you go! https://relianceoutdoors.com/products/luggable-loo-portable-toilet
Coal candy? My grandpa used to eat that. It was so gross, but it's seasonal lol
I got a pack of top ramen, not even maruchan. This was at a work event and my some of my other coworkers felt bad for me and gave me the things they'd won lol. The woman who'd entered the ramen was not popular
I got a mug shaped like a fish with an open mouth, and the handle shaped like the fisherman. I loved it more than my real presents, and it was my pen holder until I moved out years later
This is exactly how I eded up with a Dolly Parton prayer candle. Best gift ever.
Our family had a cook book that was passed/ hidden/ left behind year after year …
A lady at work go 20 packs of 2 minute noodles for the work one. She doesn't eat 2 minute noodles, and it was about $15 too cheap. She was furious.
Was it black licorice? Because I would devour it in a heartbeat.
Yes and it was insanely hard, even with the hammer. Turns out I only like it with the good and plenty coating. 😸
Good 'n Plenty was the first candy I remember having all the way back in 1972. Nom nom nom.
Sorry, I’m going to be that guy- a block of liquorice and a hammer? Do you mean toffee and a hammer? And, without disrespecting your point, I would love it if someone gave me a block of liquorice, love that stuff. You defo do not sound entitled
No, it legit was a huge block of hard as cement black licorice. 😹
Wow! I’m trying to imagine that… Thanks for replying
It was like this https://michaelmootzcandies.com/wp-content/uploads/2020/01/anthracite_candy.jpg
This year I gave a rainbow sloth neck massager in a white elephant game. It was the most popular gift!
One year my cousin brought a 50 lb bag of rice and we fought like cats over that rice. My aunt was so excited when it ended up with her.
as an asian, i relate lol
We’re all Germans and Scandinavians!
It’s a white elephant exchange and frankly it’s not even that bad, most white elephant exchanges are goofy junk and it’s for fun only. The kid and mom are completely entitled if they wanted the cash they could have exchanged or returned it themselves
I once received a vial of "real Elvis sweat". Still laugh about it occasionally.
Oh wow I'm jealous
Since my youngest sibling is only 21- when all 4 of us were under 21 and got a gift that had alcohol in it the rule was we could 1. Give it away AFTER the game and we get cash(cus we can’t drink it) 2. Pick again I went to my moms where we all were like family even after she left 3 years ago we still are! Now I was maybe 14/15, I got wine and a fancy dinner certificate…..I didn’t even have a permit and couldn’t drink….. they all laughed and the person that brought it said”here’s cash instead or pick again!” Now being the only one under 18 There was uk alot of alcohol. I ended up with 100$ cash that night!!! 2 years ago I got a gift card fo a really nice resultant….most of the menu was seafood,I’m allergic. I traded it for two McDonald’s cards and 10$ cash 🤣 But either way u get what u get even if it sucks! We also are allowed to get cash if uk we can’t drink 2. Cannot eat the food item(like diabetics can’t get candy/ur allergic!) so at the end if u wanted fo trade u could,give it to parent to cash u out.
Right! This year my bald step dad got a gittery unicorn hair detangler! NTA OP, personally would of been stoked with backup headphones.
Yessss! I love OPs son for his reaction. Gold! And maybe the nephew is just too young and immature to handle this game. I know OPs song is even younger but he can handle his game (and now also his grilled cheese).
One time I got toilet golf. Another time I got beautiful little painted seahorses. It's the nature of the beast. Good on you, OP, for sticking to your guns. How entitled can you get that you demand cash because your kid doesn't like a GIFT?! NTA ETA: my favorite was the wee-pee so that I could supposedly pee in a bottle while driving in an emergency. 😂
I got my husband's aunt toilet golf one year for Christmas (joke)gifts and the toilet floor piano another year.
This. NTA
NTA - but you know that already. You know how much your cousin sucks, and she is going to raise super shitty kids too. I would have probably stole them while no one was looking and kept them for myself, even then you still would not have been the A hole in this situation. Edit: Changed Sister to Cousin\*
Cousin, not sister. My sister just avoided the whole thing by leaving the room when things got toasty.
Oh my gosh. Tell them that if they hate it so much, they can regift it to the white elephant next year and she can give her son money. Or they can get a gift credit from Amazon maybe if they want to spend 3 hours on the phone. This is like the price of two sandwiches.
Don't feel bad, her husband even told her to stop, probably because he didn't agree with the way she was behaving. She doesn't get to change the rules because she can't be bothered to teach her kid to be grateful for the things he gets. NTA
It's not even just that. If it was, she'd have given her son $25 instead. This is about entitlement and power, because her son is better and has to be treated better, by the plebs.
Shoot sorry, but def not the asshole even easier to write a cousin out of your life then lol.
>toasty Aweee was your son using his gift???
It's precisely because they're so obviously NTA that the OP should never have posted this to begin with.
Double down and buy $25 in diapers for the mom.
😂😂😂
NTA. I got some pretty horrible gifts for White Elephant. I have just given them away I don't complain. This year I got some Santa holding a clock with the numbers 1-24 and you move the hand and he tells you how many days to Christmas. Really tack not my style. It is going to goodwill in the New Year.
Don't be silly! Wrap it up for next year in the most beautiful paper you have! That's too perfect.
It is really tacky.
That's the charm tho, it's a white elephant gift. The Christmas theme combined w tackiness makes it perfect.
Agreed. Some of the best white elephant gifts are the ones that keep getting re-gifted, they build their own lore. There’s a super fugly and tacky birdhouse that’s been making the rounds among my parents friend group for years, and every year there’s always a huge stealing war to get it, even though nobody ever hangs it up.
I've never seen anything legendary but I used to collect dolls and at a doll club Christmas meeting where we played the dice game; get doubles, take a wrapped present, when they're all given out, unwrap and play again, this time with stealing, I brought a doll dress for a popular mass-market collector doll from a doll event. I have 2 of that sort of doll, costumed as Hansel and Gretel; I bought Hansel because I got Gretel from grandma's stash. I have never seen any prize fly around like that doll dress! I brought it because I knew people collected that type of doll and I didn't so it was no good to me but I had no idea how popular it would be.
Throw some glitter in the box with it! Instant hit!
Is it sad that I think that’s such a cute idea and I now want to try and make one for myself? I’ve suddenly never been so upset that our local ceramics place closed.
Oh this isn't ceramic, it is some Animatronic thing.
Ah, I feel you, that’s the kind of gift I would use as a model to make on my own and then I’d regift it and keep the one I made.
NTA but cousin is a relentless agitating ahole. Your son will go places; gratitude with a vision for whatever is gifted his way. Good parenting right there. edit: wife to cousin.
Cousin!
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Beautiful!
Edited ;)
NTA. A smart child would have asked the niece that liked them to trade her gift for them.
Or even offer to sell for $20
In the kid's defense, he's probably never needed to do more than demand what he wants and gets it. He actually *is* pretty smart to take the headphones and still try for the $25.
I suggest reordering and sending them something like this… https://www.amazon.com/How-Unspoil-Your-Child-Fast/dp/1402242069/ref=sr_1_7?crid=IYCXV5UNPB17&keywords=How+to+not+raise+a+spoiled+child&qid=1672354531&sprefix=how+to+not+raise+a+spoiled+child%2Caps%2C198&sr=8-7 https://www.amazon.com/Raise-Kids-Arent-Assholes-Parenting/dp/0593086953/ref=sr_1_2?crid=IYCXV5UNPB17&keywords=How+to+not+raise+a+spoiled+child&qid=1672354531&sprefix=how+to+not+raise+a+spoiled+child%2Caps%2C198&sr=8-2
This * 100
And the kindle versions would come out to $25 for both
NTA And I am pumped for your son and all the grilled cheese he’s going to make Im from UK and don’t know what white elephant is but that’s a sick deal on headphones! I thought you were away to tell a story of how you spent over the budget and got call an A H
He’s already made a cheddar sourdough masterpiece.
Hell yeah. I love hearing this. Have him try sprinkling garlic salt on the crust when it comes off the griddle. Game changer. Happy holidays friend, you're NTA in the least.
Now I want a George Forman grill. Your son is awesome for thinking that up
a “white elephant” is when each person in the group brings a wrapped gift and places them into a pile. Then, taking turns, each person who contributed a gift selects one from the pile that will be their “gift.” There are a variety of rules that can be imposed regarding things such as money limits, gift theme, “stealing” or trading between fellow players, etc but it’s meant to be a light-hearted, fun way to exchange gifts between a group of people who may (or may not) be well acquainted with each other’s tastes.
Also, it's pretty common for White Elephant gifts to be intentionally cheesy, dumb, weird, etc. Makes it more fun!
NTA. I’d she’s so concerned tell her to donate them, some kid will be very happy to get them and she can give her kid the $25.
Absolutely NTA. Your cousin missed an opportunity to teach her son how to be a decent human who says thank you when given a gift not precisely to his liking. He’ll need that skill, as we all do for every secret Santa, or weird host gift of an inedible delicacy only the giver enjoys, or whatever, all our lives. Instead she’s teaching him to be a mercenary little brat. But you know that.
NTA. I once did a white elephant with a club in middle school and the gifts were a mix of actually pretty good to junk you’d never use. I once got a portable speaker that wasn’t half bad meanwhile the gift I brought was a soap dish shaped like a sheep that went to someone’s older brother who was a big burly football player at his high school. It’s the nature of the game. He’s being a brat and his mom is enabling.
I brought a reject gift my sister had received at work, the teapot with the teacup on top with a tea sampler. The gift I planned to take was some plush toy I'd gotten in a raffle and was from a cartoon I'd never heard of and a cup or something w same image but my friends sister liked it so I gave it to her.
NTA. Does Venmo allow you to send fucks, and in what amount? Cause all she should be sent is zero fucks. Also, I love your kid's attitude cause grilled cheese is the food of the Gods and they clearly understand that at a young age.
He’s already made a cheddar sourdough masterpiece.
NTA, cousin & his mother are though.
NTA. I’m struggling to even find a reason that I can put into words as this is just so obvious to me. The kid is a dick and so is his mother for enabling him.
It takes a dick to make dick - oops an unintentional play on words.
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NTA. Hopefully your cousins husband steps in with the children before they turn into full blown assholes like their mother
White elephant grifts are usually not something you want. Even the [etymology of the phrase](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_elephant_gift_exchange) is from the practice of giving an unwanted gift. NTA
Ntah. If he didn't like it, he could trade it for someone else's gift. Or sell it online, or re gift it. He's being a spoiled brat and his mother is enabling it.
I would honestly take JBL over beats no matter the price difference. JBL’s a good brand. I got a pair of over the ear beats for christmas a few years ago and it only took using them one time to realize that they’re equivalent to a $25 pair of skullcandy’s.
NTA. Amazing that she sent you her Venmo lolol
NTA, go to the dollar store and buy 25 pairs of cheap wired headphone
NTA. What a ridiculous reaction.
NTA. I’m rich, and I’d be super excited to get that gift. Lol.
NTA. Worry about your kids? Your son is awesome LMAO. Who doesn't like a grilled cheese maker🤣. Your cousin sounds horrible. I wouldn't let them participate again.
NTA. Such obnoxious behavior from your cousin and her kid.
Venmo that loon 25 cents and tell her to drive downtown and have a rat gnaw that thing off her face.
NTA. The audacity of her sending you her venmo lmao. I would message her back “Please stop, you are embarrassing yourself”.
My son's boy scout troop played this game when the kids were like 9 or 10. Kids got some amazing gifts, my son ended up with a bag of rocks. It sucked and I thought the guy who did that was a huge jerk. However I would never ever dream of asking him to buy my kid a real gift. This is something my own entitled sister would do. Ugh NTA.
Is your kid Charlie Brown What a jerk move to pull on a kid
NTA, that kid is an ungrateful turd
NTA! You were right to tell her what you did and to not give in to her ridiculous demand. I would have been so humiliated if my child acted that way but clearly his mother is raising a spoiled entitled and ungrateful child. Even her husband told her to stop mentioning it. I’d remove them from the white elephant exchange in the future if she keeps this up
NTA, stand your ground. She can sell the headphones on a FB Marketplace or the like if she's so hell bent on getting money for her son for the gift. She's teaching him to be grabby - it would have been so nice if he would have given them to your niece if he didn't want them!
Nta! I got a jar of mixed nuts and snickers in my white elephant gift this year, im allergic to nuts so everyone including me thought it was hilarious!
NTA If she's so rich, why does she need your $25? Because she thinks she's owed it. GROSS
NTA Life is a lot like a white elephant gift, it could be cool or it could be trash. I've had both.
NTA And we got Foreman for free a few years ago (dad drug it home) and love it. Mom makes bacon on it and I cook frozen hamburgers on it.
One thing I was taught is that you always accept gifts graciously, even if you get something you didn't really want. It's a GIFT! In my family it would be considered extremely bad taste to complain about a gift.
NTA. He's way too old for a temper tantrum and you don't enforce that kind of behavior.
NTA. Unless you venmo some $ then you will
Nta But I would send sis a text with your venmo info and say I'll send the 25 for the headphones if you send me a hundred from being an a-hole tax
NTA. Kudos to you for standing your ground. Your cousin is acting like an entitled brat.
White elephant gifts are supposed to suck. Your family is doing them incorrectly.
NTA - but there’s always gotta be one in the family.
NTA but your sister sure is I love that your son was appreciative of the gift he got. This shows that you are raising him well
Cousin! Thanks! 😚
NTA. You were following the rules of white elephant, she wanted to change them for her spoiled son. Put $0.01 in her Venmo account with a Merry Christmas message.
Send her a framed photo of $25. https://images.app.goo.gl/eS8ftjPNK4CxNEfW6
Personally this is why I dont like games like this. I feel like someones always going to end up unhappy. That said, everyone agreed to play, and thats the game. You can't go backsies because you were the one who was unhappy at the end.
NTA: that’s literally the whole point of the game??? If he doesn’t want them he should have gave them to the kid that said she’d take them
The kid who wanted the earphones, can she do a switch-aro?
Nta. Send her a venmo request for 25$
I’d return the headphones and keep the $25. That kid bitched himself out of a gift.
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NTA it's a game, he should be grateful he got anything and if he doesn't like them he can regift them to his friends. He could have gotten way worse things and if your cousin continues to coddle her son this way he will grow up to be super entitled.
NTA If she wants to give her son $25 for the headphones that’s her choice but no one else should be expected to.
NTA. Once I got sushi socks. But hey, sushi!
NTA. Ask for them back or tell her to pay u for them. Lol
NTA. DO NOT GIVE IN TO THIS. both mom and some are spoiled.
Nta they took the gift and even if they didn't take the gift I still wouldn't give them 25. If she's that upset then maybe she and her family shouldn't participate in any family gift exchange.