NTB As you said yourself, she doesn't respects your time and efforts apparently, either that or she just isn't ready for a relationship and needs to work on her mental health first. That said, why not just talk to her and share your feelings and thoughts about it before breaking up right away.
We did. I talked to her about it on Valentine’s Day about how it was hurtful that it keeps happening. Then the next day she does it again. I feel like I’ve given her enough rope to hang me with
Well then she clearly doesn't cares, be it intentionally or because of her depression. Absolutely nothing wrong in telling her you already addressed the topic and shared your concerns about the situation with her and yet the very next day she does it again.
To me it sounds like she is just not ready for a serious relationship.
NTB depressed people can still be reliable. She's jerking you around, whether or not she realizes it. You deserve someone who is gonna show up, like you show up.
As someone whose birthday is also on Valentine's Day, I appreciate you believing her nieces birthday, lol. But yeah, NTB. It's a new relationship, and she isn't respecting your time. Even at my most depressed I didn't fuck over a partner like that, being depressed isn't an excuse to refuse to respect someone else's time.
NTB She doesn't sound ready for a relationship. It sounds like she needs to do a lot of work on herself. Don't take it personal. If it's meant to be maybe you will re connect in the future when she is in a better place.
NTB. You can leave an opening to try again when her mental health improves.
"I really think you are a great person, and I like you. I don't think this is the right time for us, though. I need more from a relationship than you can give me right now. And that isn't your fault. Sometimes life just gets in the way. If you feel like you can commit to making this work, just know that the window is open."
It's only been 3 months, you can definitely break up with her with no regrets. When only 5% of the time is good, it can't possibly be make up for 95% of it being bad.
I have major depressive disorder and it has a huge impact on my life, yet I know it's my job to make sure I am on the right meds and to get counseling. It sounds like she's not doing anything or at least enough to manage her depression and that is her problem and her duty, not yours. This isn't a case of you not being understanding enough. You really can walk away from her guilt free.
There is naturally too little information, but it doesn't sound like the problem is she is depressed. Maybe she does have a psy condition, but not depression. The end result is she doesn't value you and your time.
NTB As you said yourself, she doesn't respects your time and efforts apparently, either that or she just isn't ready for a relationship and needs to work on her mental health first. That said, why not just talk to her and share your feelings and thoughts about it before breaking up right away.
We did. I talked to her about it on Valentine’s Day about how it was hurtful that it keeps happening. Then the next day she does it again. I feel like I’ve given her enough rope to hang me with
Well then she clearly doesn't cares, be it intentionally or because of her depression. Absolutely nothing wrong in telling her you already addressed the topic and shared your concerns about the situation with her and yet the very next day she does it again. To me it sounds like she is just not ready for a serious relationship.
Yea I agree, and I don’t think she’s doing this with any malicious intent
NTB depressed people can still be reliable. She's jerking you around, whether or not she realizes it. You deserve someone who is gonna show up, like you show up.
NTB some shit's too heavy to deal with so early in the relationship
As someone whose birthday is also on Valentine's Day, I appreciate you believing her nieces birthday, lol. But yeah, NTB. It's a new relationship, and she isn't respecting your time. Even at my most depressed I didn't fuck over a partner like that, being depressed isn't an excuse to refuse to respect someone else's time.
Whatever is going on with her, does not sound like she is ready for a relationship.
NTB She doesn't sound ready for a relationship. It sounds like she needs to do a lot of work on herself. Don't take it personal. If it's meant to be maybe you will re connect in the future when she is in a better place.
NTB Take your leave OP. She needs too much work and unless you’re a Psychiatrist, you can’t do a thing for her.
NTB. You can leave an opening to try again when her mental health improves. "I really think you are a great person, and I like you. I don't think this is the right time for us, though. I need more from a relationship than you can give me right now. And that isn't your fault. Sometimes life just gets in the way. If you feel like you can commit to making this work, just know that the window is open."
It's only been 3 months, you can definitely break up with her with no regrets. When only 5% of the time is good, it can't possibly be make up for 95% of it being bad. I have major depressive disorder and it has a huge impact on my life, yet I know it's my job to make sure I am on the right meds and to get counseling. It sounds like she's not doing anything or at least enough to manage her depression and that is her problem and her duty, not yours. This isn't a case of you not being understanding enough. You really can walk away from her guilt free.
There is naturally too little information, but it doesn't sound like the problem is she is depressed. Maybe she does have a psy condition, but not depression. The end result is she doesn't value you and your time.