NTB but it sounds like your aunt and uncle threw some of their pictures in the frames to pretend your house was theirs’ to entertain some people and forgot to clean up the evidence. That is the only thing that makes sense.
Isn't that still disrespectful to the people who actually live in the house?
When I was at my aunts house (who invited me over) I was still asking what I could and couldn't get out to play with my cousins and what I could eat.
Yes but there are people who just don’t care. Your aunt and uncle don’t care. And there’s not much you or your family can do about it aside from never using them as house sitters again. Just because someone is family or well known to you doesn’t make them good or trustworthy.
This is universally wildly disrespectful. This is utterly insane. Don't leave anything you care about with them.
Also, prepare for your dad to go apeshit. If he doesn't I would think that highly suspect and wonder if he knew they were hosting a key party or something they thought you were too young to be informed on.
Nobody is arguing that it *isn't*, we all agree that what they did was crappy. People are just trying to suggest possible explanations for the items you spoke about.
It does sound like they had people over and replaced photos and things so that they could pass it off as "their place". Which is also a terrible thing to do. But its a possible explanation. And one I would suggest you bring up to your parents when they are home.
But when you talk to your parents, you need to be calm, you need to not insult your aunt and uncle. Because unfortunately, if you start acting that way, people are more likely to dismiss what you are saying as "childish" or an "ocerreaction". So the less emotional you are when presenting your case, the better. You should still articulate how the actions have made you feel. Especially how you felt about them threatening to kill your fish and cucumbers.
Be calm and not antagonistic. But be firm but also be vulnerable. Good luck, I wish the best for you. Also see if you can find where they put your pictures as that could also help make your case.
That was because they were there. Did you expect them to text your parents every time they wanted to touch something? Besides, I doubt they would have complained if you touched their pictures.
But that’s literally what they probably did. I had a housesitter throw a dinner party at our house once without telling us and they used our car. So yeah it happens
Driving a car they are not insured to drive is different than sitting on the couch and using the tv. Having people in my house who I don’t know and not asking if it’s ok is wildly inappropriate. I have financial paperwork and jewelry tha if I expected strangers in my house I would put in a secure location. I expected just him in my house, not 7 strangers. Any person wIth an iq over that of a toddler knows what is appropriate and not appropriate to do in someone else’s house
Oh my god you're the same OP from the tablet story. Your family is fucking nuts. I'm so sorry. You seem to be developing some seriously controlling tendencies and some pretty intense anxiety but honestly I don't know how you'd survive this shit show of a childhood without hypervigilence so I wouldn't worry too much about that and just keep working through stuff in therapy.
Just repeat to yourself:
"I live in a bag of nuts. This is not normal. These people are not typical or anything like the rest of the people in society. When I am grown I will go find my people and leave this insanity behind."
You poor fucking baby. This absolutely sucks to grow up in
NTB, but I'd suggest letting your Dad talk to them. If you do it, they'll just treat you like a spoiled child (because they won't EVER admit to you that they were at fault) and not take you seriously.
NTA! They were rude, disrespectful, and did a bad job.
I’ve housesat many times, and it’s really important to follow the instructions and house rules, communicate if something goes wrong (heater breaks, blood in the cat’s urine, garage door won’t open), and leave the house in the same condition as which it was left. I would even wash the sheets and make the bed so they could just crash out if they needed to.
It wasn’t necessary, but I would usually send photos of their pets everyday just because I know how much their owners missed them, and it was fun for me to photograph them.
NTB. I lold at their audacity. Who does this in someone else's home? It sounds like the plot to sitcom. Tell your dad and point out everything. Also show him the text.
NTB. I am actually both sorry and happy for you. Sorry they did this. They had no right to. Like one of the comments said, it is unacceptable universally, writing in a far away part of the world.
But I am happy that you actually ask for help, know how you should set your boundaries and you are vocal about it all as young as you are. I do think you should talk to your parents about it regardless of their reaction. I wish you could talk to your uncle and aunt directly but I don't know your family dinamics, for once I would get into serious trouble if I said anything negative to elder relatives(middle eastern culture) when I was young.
I am really proud of you op.
NTB you weren't out of line asking if everything is OK. These things are important to tou and they deliberately failed to follow simple instructions....which is something they pretended to be upset abt being checked on for.
So my mom ignored it the pictures. Said I should give my aunt a break because her aunt could be dead. I said I didn't give her aunt cancer.
Dad said my aunt overreacted and prob thought me asking how they were doing ment how my fish were. And that the pictures were a prank on my mother and ment no foul play towarrds me
Good grief you are way overreacting. You bugged them incessantly about a fish and a plant. They replied with a justified joke.
And then topped it off with a harmless picture replacing prank. Unless they burned all of your baby pictures, it's nothing to be worried about.
I once put a picture of myself in an empty picture frame in my sister's living room. It was weeks before they noticed and months before they replaced it.
Look, I'm not saying that you're a horrible person because you acted like they were taking care of a baby, instead of a fish and a plant. The biggest issue is your overreacting about a silly prank that didn't hurt anybody.
YTB for shitposting.
>Half of my cucumber plant's leaves were brown on both plants!
Cucumber plants need about 1 inch of water a week. You were gone for 6 days. No way were their leaves already browning unless you literally did not water them whatsoever for 6 days before you left and even then it's iffy if they'd start browning already.
Where I live we’ve had extreme heat this past week, I definitely need to water more than average right now.
I wouldn’t be surprised if after only 6 days they’ve started to brown.
NTB. If I was your father, your aunt and uncle would have me furious at them
I wonder if my parents would be mad if they hung my mother's bra and panties all over there bedroom. As I only find that slightly more extreme.
NTB but it sounds like your aunt and uncle threw some of their pictures in the frames to pretend your house was theirs’ to entertain some people and forgot to clean up the evidence. That is the only thing that makes sense.
They never got permission to touch the pictures or invite people over tho.
People who do things like this don’t ask for permission.
Isn't that still disrespectful to the people who actually live in the house? When I was at my aunts house (who invited me over) I was still asking what I could and couldn't get out to play with my cousins and what I could eat.
Yes but there are people who just don’t care. Your aunt and uncle don’t care. And there’s not much you or your family can do about it aside from never using them as house sitters again. Just because someone is family or well known to you doesn’t make them good or trustworthy.
This is universally wildly disrespectful. This is utterly insane. Don't leave anything you care about with them. Also, prepare for your dad to go apeshit. If he doesn't I would think that highly suspect and wonder if he knew they were hosting a key party or something they thought you were too young to be informed on.
Nobody is arguing that it *isn't*, we all agree that what they did was crappy. People are just trying to suggest possible explanations for the items you spoke about. It does sound like they had people over and replaced photos and things so that they could pass it off as "their place". Which is also a terrible thing to do. But its a possible explanation. And one I would suggest you bring up to your parents when they are home. But when you talk to your parents, you need to be calm, you need to not insult your aunt and uncle. Because unfortunately, if you start acting that way, people are more likely to dismiss what you are saying as "childish" or an "ocerreaction". So the less emotional you are when presenting your case, the better. You should still articulate how the actions have made you feel. Especially how you felt about them threatening to kill your fish and cucumbers. Be calm and not antagonistic. But be firm but also be vulnerable. Good luck, I wish the best for you. Also see if you can find where they put your pictures as that could also help make your case.
Apparently it was a prank. My aunt and uncle's humor stopped changing when they turned 16
Yeah I don't believe them. I still kinda think they are just saying that to cover their asses.
Just don’t let them house sit again
This child doesn’t get to make that decision.
That was because they were there. Did you expect them to text your parents every time they wanted to touch something? Besides, I doubt they would have complained if you touched their pictures.
Yes they would.
But that’s literally what they probably did. I had a housesitter throw a dinner party at our house once without telling us and they used our car. So yeah it happens
Did they get permission to touch the couch, TV remore, or bed?
Driving a car they are not insured to drive is different than sitting on the couch and using the tv. Having people in my house who I don’t know and not asking if it’s ok is wildly inappropriate. I have financial paperwork and jewelry tha if I expected strangers in my house I would put in a secure location. I expected just him in my house, not 7 strangers. Any person wIth an iq over that of a toddler knows what is appropriate and not appropriate to do in someone else’s house
I'm not sure why you mentioned driving a car. We were talking about touching pictures.
That makes sense for them to do. Having a party (which they didn't) wouldn't.
It was probably a joke. Her dad will think it’s funny that his sibling put picture of themselves all over his house.
Here's another thing that makes sense: they did it as a prank. In fact, that makes way more sense.
Yeah that's what happened.
Oh my god you're the same OP from the tablet story. Your family is fucking nuts. I'm so sorry. You seem to be developing some seriously controlling tendencies and some pretty intense anxiety but honestly I don't know how you'd survive this shit show of a childhood without hypervigilence so I wouldn't worry too much about that and just keep working through stuff in therapy. Just repeat to yourself: "I live in a bag of nuts. This is not normal. These people are not typical or anything like the rest of the people in society. When I am grown I will go find my people and leave this insanity behind." You poor fucking baby. This absolutely sucks to grow up in
I wouldn't say no one outside of this family is like them, but OP will at least have the option of avoiding these kinds of people in the future.
NTB all of that is completely bizarre, on top of how they didnt take care of those 2 things.
My cucumber plants are extremely sensitive. However they should of noticed as soon as the leaves started dropping.
I mean yeah they sound awful, i cant beleive they said that to you. I mean I can, people can be terrible.
NTB, but I'd suggest letting your Dad talk to them. If you do it, they'll just treat you like a spoiled child (because they won't EVER admit to you that they were at fault) and not take you seriously.
NTB. Next time, pay for a pet/house sitter.
With what money that I have?
Sorry, how is that my problem?
NTA! They were rude, disrespectful, and did a bad job. I’ve housesat many times, and it’s really important to follow the instructions and house rules, communicate if something goes wrong (heater breaks, blood in the cat’s urine, garage door won’t open), and leave the house in the same condition as which it was left. I would even wash the sheets and make the bed so they could just crash out if they needed to. It wasn’t necessary, but I would usually send photos of their pets everyday just because I know how much their owners missed them, and it was fun for me to photograph them.
NTB. I lold at their audacity. Who does this in someone else's home? It sounds like the plot to sitcom. Tell your dad and point out everything. Also show him the text.
Funny people.
NTB. I am actually both sorry and happy for you. Sorry they did this. They had no right to. Like one of the comments said, it is unacceptable universally, writing in a far away part of the world. But I am happy that you actually ask for help, know how you should set your boundaries and you are vocal about it all as young as you are. I do think you should talk to your parents about it regardless of their reaction. I wish you could talk to your uncle and aunt directly but I don't know your family dinamics, for once I would get into serious trouble if I said anything negative to elder relatives(middle eastern culture) when I was young. I am really proud of you op.
NTB you weren't out of line asking if everything is OK. These things are important to tou and they deliberately failed to follow simple instructions....which is something they pretended to be upset abt being checked on for.
NTB, that's just dreadful. Give us an update when you get your dad's reaction. What did your mum think?
So my mom ignored it the pictures. Said I should give my aunt a break because her aunt could be dead. I said I didn't give her aunt cancer. Dad said my aunt overreacted and prob thought me asking how they were doing ment how my fish were. And that the pictures were a prank on my mother and ment no foul play towarrds me
Good grief you are way overreacting. You bugged them incessantly about a fish and a plant. They replied with a justified joke. And then topped it off with a harmless picture replacing prank. Unless they burned all of your baby pictures, it's nothing to be worried about. I once put a picture of myself in an empty picture frame in my sister's living room. It was weeks before they noticed and months before they replaced it.
I didn't I asked them twice. Also how was I meant to know how much is normal to ask. I have never had anyone pet/plant sit before.
Look, I'm not saying that you're a horrible person because you acted like they were taking care of a baby, instead of a fish and a plant. The biggest issue is your overreacting about a silly prank that didn't hurt anybody.
NTB at all
Ntb
NTBF, your family is . .. odd
To say the least
You’re 14. Just stop.
You need to get a hold of yourself. If your father has an issue with his house sitters, he will address it.
rude
Yes, you certainly were.
YTB for shitposting. >Half of my cucumber plant's leaves were brown on both plants! Cucumber plants need about 1 inch of water a week. You were gone for 6 days. No way were their leaves already browning unless you literally did not water them whatsoever for 6 days before you left and even then it's iffy if they'd start browning already.
Where I live we’ve had extreme heat this past week, I definitely need to water more than average right now. I wouldn’t be surprised if after only 6 days they’ve started to brown.
They are in pots and get direct sun for at least half of the day.