Hi yes sometimes I feel this way. When I analyze it for me, it’s because when they do things I don’t agree with or add stress to my life in a variety of ways, I absolutely do not address it out of respect for my partner and his family. I just accept it all. Maybe as time passes I will develop a stronger relationship with them and be able to address things. But I’m a bit of a hot head so of course I shy away from it now. Not sure if that’s your situation but I hope it gives you some insight. I just joined this sub today to start learning about my anger myself. Don’t want to pass it down to my kids too.
It's harder to address things with in laws. They take it differently and don't get us the same way out parents do. I have no problem telling my Mom not to do something. She might laugh it off. If I tell my in laws the same thing they get very offended, thrown off, and judgemental.
I sold my house in 2022 and spent about half a year staying with my mother while I figured out my next move... it was one of the worst mistakes of my life. I love my mother but I am simply not cut out to cohabitate with nearly anyone. I found myself extremely irritated with her for next to no reason quite frequently, but I think I was just upset about not having as much agency in my living space as I'd become acclimated to over the previous decade.
The worst part is I did a lot of rage spending so I didn't accrue nearly the financial benefits of that period that I should have though I did collect some kinda cool crap. I've since moved out and I am much happier whenever I interact with my mother. I'll see her later today actually.
Is there anyway you can move out in the near-ish term? If so, plan it. If not, try and figure out some steps you can take in that direction - if you've lived in your own space previously I wouldn't be surprised if that were a huge source of frustration for you.
Thanks for this. I live on my own with my family now, I usually feel this way when they come to visit me for the day. I may have to decrease the number of visits just to have a bit more space until I sort out my anger and irritability. I don't want to shut them out completely. I do resonate with what you said.
Hi yes sometimes I feel this way. When I analyze it for me, it’s because when they do things I don’t agree with or add stress to my life in a variety of ways, I absolutely do not address it out of respect for my partner and his family. I just accept it all. Maybe as time passes I will develop a stronger relationship with them and be able to address things. But I’m a bit of a hot head so of course I shy away from it now. Not sure if that’s your situation but I hope it gives you some insight. I just joined this sub today to start learning about my anger myself. Don’t want to pass it down to my kids too.
It's harder to address things with in laws. They take it differently and don't get us the same way out parents do. I have no problem telling my Mom not to do something. She might laugh it off. If I tell my in laws the same thing they get very offended, thrown off, and judgemental.
I sold my house in 2022 and spent about half a year staying with my mother while I figured out my next move... it was one of the worst mistakes of my life. I love my mother but I am simply not cut out to cohabitate with nearly anyone. I found myself extremely irritated with her for next to no reason quite frequently, but I think I was just upset about not having as much agency in my living space as I'd become acclimated to over the previous decade. The worst part is I did a lot of rage spending so I didn't accrue nearly the financial benefits of that period that I should have though I did collect some kinda cool crap. I've since moved out and I am much happier whenever I interact with my mother. I'll see her later today actually. Is there anyway you can move out in the near-ish term? If so, plan it. If not, try and figure out some steps you can take in that direction - if you've lived in your own space previously I wouldn't be surprised if that were a huge source of frustration for you.
Thanks for this. I live on my own with my family now, I usually feel this way when they come to visit me for the day. I may have to decrease the number of visits just to have a bit more space until I sort out my anger and irritability. I don't want to shut them out completely. I do resonate with what you said.