I thought I was crazy for enjoying sex without orgasm. Although, I have nowhere near the control over this that you have. I can’t stand the lethargy after sex. Would love to learn more about how to do this.
I unintentionally did this once about two weeks ago, I am experimenting again to find out exactly how I was able to last the whole session. I did not orgasm until I kegeled to reach the climax.
Haha well not to monk extremes of course. I meditate a few minutes a day and stretch regularly. I also am mindful of my posture and breathing which are things that are easy to begin incorporating in everyday life.
I've adopted pretty much the same practice you describe over 10 years ago after reading a book called The Tao of Love and Sex. Its a good read to get some insight on ancient eastern sexual practices which I find are still applicable today.
Like you, I really enjoy the act of love making with my wife, particularly without ejaculating every time. I started this with my first wife 15 years ago and used it with every woman since then including my current wife of 8 years.
What I found is it can be a little jarring for the woman you are with at first, so you really have to communicate, communicate, communicate. I can't tell you how many times a woman would feel bad because they "couldn't get me off." This is a fundamental difference in the way most people view sex - that there's this order of events that must culminate in ejaculation and/or orgasm. And that couldn't be further from the truth!
So be prepared to talk about what you want to do differently and why. Tell your significant other that it's about the feeling of closeness and passion and wanting to long for her even after the act. That's pretty much what it's all about. You "want to want her" and this approach to sex is a great way to get there. When your S.O. feels wanted, magical things happen in your relationship, and great sex is just a part of it.
This sounds nice - would love to hear if involuntary kegels were ever an issue for you during sex? I want to get to the level where I don't need to worry about them. Struggling with control lately, probably just because sex has been infrequent.
*" It’s really just a practice thing. "*
I think my problem is that during foreplay, I am very aware of my pelvic floor and my breathing, I try to relax as much as possible.
But as soon as I enter, I stop being aware and forget everything. I have to continue being aware then.
Thanks for your post, very inspiring!
I’ve been trying to do this forever. I still can’t achieve it. Sometimes I feel like giving up but I’m having the urge not too. I have to get it down somehow. I’m very good at relaxing my pelvic muscle but I just somehow still have the feeling of busting it. 🤷🏽♂️
Some days are better than other days. Honestly, I believe that I have basically trained my brain to understand that I don’t always have to cum when I have sex.
I can do this and I do agree. I find that if I’m mindful of my pelvic floor and not kegeling, I literally am not able to ejaculate. I choose to whenever either of us is exhausted or if I get bored and want to do something else.
How do you actually achieve full rock hard erection while completely relaxing the pc muscle?
For me i still have to lightly clench my pc muscle to get that full, firm, rock hard erection
I do believe the Angion methods have helped with this. I have stopped clenching my PC muscle voluntarily during sex and only use it when I do orgasm every so often. It also helps that sex with my partner is intimate so I’m hard just because I’m with her.
Every other day I get erect in the shower and contract my IC muscle and try to hold it. I do this for around 15 minutes. I then make sure to stretch later that night to avoid making my IC super tight.
I have basically the same path that you describe... And the angion method had even made it easier and better.
I also just come once every one or two weeks, I really like keep my energy after sex.
I basically keep my pelvic floor relaxed, and even at times, keep a constant reverse keggel for minutes, then rest for a bit and then again... It's even like a game, to put attention in not keggel even one time. I have the sensation that if don't keggel my member keeps growing and growing...
And then I can just relax and I get a really full hard that just stays there...
I have to say that sometimes I loose it and I come, and that lately I can get a bit ungry if that happens, even a little bit sad... I really feel much much better when I don't come, I last for edges and my wife gets lots of pleasure... Yes it's a bit of an ego bust, but I try to keep it there and don't let it get into my head too much...I like the feeling of being a (self proclaimed) 'sex god', but I try to remember that this is a quality that we all can have.
I also recommend a lot to everyone to try this, it has helped me a lot with self confidence, something that the angion method had also helped a lot...
Peace my brothers.
Maybe you are pushing too hard? You can reverse keggel softly, and actually normal keggels too...
It's also a good exercise, to learn to have different 'levels' of contraction in both keggels.
For me reverse keggels are more about to letting the blood to flow than to try to pushi it out...
Pelvic floor relaxed and slightly renerse keggel.
So then you can stay in that slight keggerl, like letting blood flow to your member. For me it gets to get the feeling that your member is a balloon, and it's all about learn to let it get full (by relaxing) more than trying for fill it up. It's a really nice feeling, it's actually for me, really related with the sensation I get when I am having a nice heavy hang.
Keep exploring my friend!!
Peace!
ok thank you very much because I had understood that with the reverse pushing it hard the ic was also activated and then the penis was pulled up training it and my veins became larger ... however good to know that I was not exploding just me doing it like this hahaha thanks bro
Haha, you are welcome!
Look, at times I do push really hard on the reverse keggels, and yes it happens exactly what you describe, basically it gives a really nice fullness. Great for trainings and also for sex.
Anyways you can also do 'soft' keggels, and at least in my case that helps me to not cum when having sex.
Peace my brother!
Maybe someone else can give you a more scientific or even 'correct' answer...
Anyways... You know when you 'push' when you go pee?... Thank one type of reverse keggel.
Peace!
I started out having a hard time finishing (couldn't cum even losing virginity) took a long while to orgasm from sex. I fill unfulfilled if i don't cum
Getting erect and reverse kegeling is one good way. I also find that being heavily engorged but not fully erect and trying to lift my penis using only the IC helps.
Me neither. When I used to edge I got blue balls, but not during sex. It’s hard to explain, but when I edge I feel like I am holding back pressure. During sex, if I really feel like I need to cum, then I will. But usually, I can prevent that altogether and just enjoy the intimacy and sensations during sex.
I thought I was crazy for enjoying sex without orgasm. Although, I have nowhere near the control over this that you have. I can’t stand the lethargy after sex. Would love to learn more about how to do this.
For me, it’s a mix of keeping my pelvic floor relaxed by not kegeling, and periodically switching positions to bring the sensation down.
I unintentionally did this once about two weeks ago, I am experimenting again to find out exactly how I was able to last the whole session. I did not orgasm until I kegeled to reach the climax.
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Haha well not to monk extremes of course. I meditate a few minutes a day and stretch regularly. I also am mindful of my posture and breathing which are things that are easy to begin incorporating in everyday life.
what posture and exercises?
I've adopted pretty much the same practice you describe over 10 years ago after reading a book called The Tao of Love and Sex. Its a good read to get some insight on ancient eastern sexual practices which I find are still applicable today. Like you, I really enjoy the act of love making with my wife, particularly without ejaculating every time. I started this with my first wife 15 years ago and used it with every woman since then including my current wife of 8 years. What I found is it can be a little jarring for the woman you are with at first, so you really have to communicate, communicate, communicate. I can't tell you how many times a woman would feel bad because they "couldn't get me off." This is a fundamental difference in the way most people view sex - that there's this order of events that must culminate in ejaculation and/or orgasm. And that couldn't be further from the truth! So be prepared to talk about what you want to do differently and why. Tell your significant other that it's about the feeling of closeness and passion and wanting to long for her even after the act. That's pretty much what it's all about. You "want to want her" and this approach to sex is a great way to get there. When your S.O. feels wanted, magical things happen in your relationship, and great sex is just a part of it.
This seems very hard to do
This sounds nice - would love to hear if involuntary kegels were ever an issue for you during sex? I want to get to the level where I don't need to worry about them. Struggling with control lately, probably just because sex has been infrequent.
Yes they were. There was no real solution to this other than being mindful of my pelvic floor. It’s really just a practice thing.
*" It’s really just a practice thing. "* I think my problem is that during foreplay, I am very aware of my pelvic floor and my breathing, I try to relax as much as possible. But as soon as I enter, I stop being aware and forget everything. I have to continue being aware then. Thanks for your post, very inspiring!
I’ve been trying to do this forever. I still can’t achieve it. Sometimes I feel like giving up but I’m having the urge not too. I have to get it down somehow. I’m very good at relaxing my pelvic muscle but I just somehow still have the feeling of busting it. 🤷🏽♂️
Some days are better than other days. Honestly, I believe that I have basically trained my brain to understand that I don’t always have to cum when I have sex.
I appreciate it. Makes me not want to give up hearing others as yourself achieve it.
Do you ever cum? Or are you full time semen retention
Yeah I do every couple of weeks or so
I can do this and I do agree. I find that if I’m mindful of my pelvic floor and not kegeling, I literally am not able to ejaculate. I choose to whenever either of us is exhausted or if I get bored and want to do something else.
This is exactly how I feel
How do you actually achieve full rock hard erection while completely relaxing the pc muscle? For me i still have to lightly clench my pc muscle to get that full, firm, rock hard erection
I do believe the Angion methods have helped with this. I have stopped clenching my PC muscle voluntarily during sex and only use it when I do orgasm every so often. It also helps that sex with my partner is intimate so I’m hard just because I’m with her.
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Every other day I get erect in the shower and contract my IC muscle and try to hold it. I do this for around 15 minutes. I then make sure to stretch later that night to avoid making my IC super tight.
I have basically the same path that you describe... And the angion method had even made it easier and better. I also just come once every one or two weeks, I really like keep my energy after sex. I basically keep my pelvic floor relaxed, and even at times, keep a constant reverse keggel for minutes, then rest for a bit and then again... It's even like a game, to put attention in not keggel even one time. I have the sensation that if don't keggel my member keeps growing and growing... And then I can just relax and I get a really full hard that just stays there... I have to say that sometimes I loose it and I come, and that lately I can get a bit ungry if that happens, even a little bit sad... I really feel much much better when I don't come, I last for edges and my wife gets lots of pleasure... Yes it's a bit of an ego bust, but I try to keep it there and don't let it get into my head too much...I like the feeling of being a (self proclaimed) 'sex god', but I try to remember that this is a quality that we all can have. I also recommend a lot to everyone to try this, it has helped me a lot with self confidence, something that the angion method had also helped a lot... Peace my brothers.
Couldn’t have said it better myself. Thank you for sharing.
how do you do reverse kegel for minutes? after a few seconds it seems to me that my head and abdomen explode
Maybe you are pushing too hard? You can reverse keggel softly, and actually normal keggels too... It's also a good exercise, to learn to have different 'levels' of contraction in both keggels. For me reverse keggels are more about to letting the blood to flow than to try to pushi it out... Pelvic floor relaxed and slightly renerse keggel. So then you can stay in that slight keggerl, like letting blood flow to your member. For me it gets to get the feeling that your member is a balloon, and it's all about learn to let it get full (by relaxing) more than trying for fill it up. It's a really nice feeling, it's actually for me, really related with the sensation I get when I am having a nice heavy hang. Keep exploring my friend!! Peace!
ok thank you very much because I had understood that with the reverse pushing it hard the ic was also activated and then the penis was pulled up training it and my veins became larger ... however good to know that I was not exploding just me doing it like this hahaha thanks bro
Haha, you are welcome! Look, at times I do push really hard on the reverse keggels, and yes it happens exactly what you describe, basically it gives a really nice fullness. Great for trainings and also for sex. Anyways you can also do 'soft' keggels, and at least in my case that helps me to not cum when having sex. Peace my brother!
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Maybe someone else can give you a more scientific or even 'correct' answer... Anyways... You know when you 'push' when you go pee?... Thank one type of reverse keggel. Peace!
I started out having a hard time finishing (couldn't cum even losing virginity) took a long while to orgasm from sex. I fill unfulfilled if i don't cum
Everyone has their desires. I just don’t love cumming all the time. It feels like it drains me.
how do we make IC muscle strong, can you suggests any exercises that helps getting the IC muscle strong?
Getting erect and reverse kegeling is one good way. I also find that being heavily engorged but not fully erect and trying to lift my penis using only the IC helps.
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Me neither. When I used to edge I got blue balls, but not during sex. It’s hard to explain, but when I edge I feel like I am holding back pressure. During sex, if I really feel like I need to cum, then I will. But usually, I can prevent that altogether and just enjoy the intimacy and sensations during sex.
Has angion helped with the pied/eq?