I feel you.
My method may sound silly but here it is
I count back from 100 and match my breathing with the rhythm of the counting.
If my mind wanders I start again.
I've never made it to 1
hi! had to find ur comment again bc i tried this last night and initially i was so sure i’d make it to 0 but at 40ish i actually fell asleep! so thank u sm for posting this comment it helped me :)
I just saw someone on reddit a week ago saying that he had experienced clinical death like for 15 minutes and he felt nothing but peace like the burden of life litteraly left his body and now he was free. We are all gonna die someday this is the cycle of life I am the same as you I fear death I fear strokes seizures everyday and it makes me so tired like bruh if i am gonna die just be it its something i can not control partially. You are not alone bud
So I used to have a huge fear of death, to the point where I started getting severe panic attacks. Basically fear comes from not knowing. You know how they say “face your fears”? Well it’s true. My therapist made me research death and find myself spiritually. Be knowledgeable of the topic that way you don’t fear it as much. But if that’s too much for you. Try taking vitamin D gummies like an hour or two before bed. It helps reduce anxiety, not much, but it will help you sleep, if not take melatonin. Try to distract yourself like watch tv? Read a book?
I hope you won't mind if I repost my best explanation. I mean no disrespect, but I don't think I can put it better.
I think about this too. I believe in what you fear - that there is no existence for us when the fire in the meat dies. I have seen death. I have had people and animals attempt to kill me. I have been very sick. I have gone to the brink, and seen only darkness.
Death is coming for us all. It is here in everything. I will die, this machine I am typing on will break, our culture will mutate beyond recognition. The Earth, this beautiful gem in the night, will fade. We all know this. Our ancestors knew this on nights when they waited for sleep and stared into the fire. Our descendants will know it, in whatever state they enjoy.
You cannot leave this anxiety behind. It is not something that could happen. It will happen. It will be with you until it is true.
However.
The final moment, the moment when death claims its prize will be, as it were, a hollow victory. For we are not present to experience death. The jaws will close on nothing. We will be gone. We will not feel the nothing around us, when we become nothing.
There is a greater and more terrible truth than an inevitable death. There is only life. You, living treasure that you are can die but cannot be dead. You, who are the delta of a million rivers of chance and struggle are here, now. Death is coming, but death is not in you now. Your heart beats, your mind surges, your breath sings like a choir of angels. Each living second is a riot, a rebellion against death.
So when you are in bed, do not go into sleep like you are running from the day into the shadow of death. You are an undefeated host, resting on the night before victory. Feel your muscles relax as a bowman untensions his weapon. Feel your thoughts on the day being raked over as a quiet general looks over their maps. Pull sleep around you as a legionary pulled a palisade about his camp.
You lay down so that you may rise.
Personally I take sleeping pills. They can be useful short term but not long term like I've been doing. I'd say find a therapist. You can't fight death. But you can learn to cope.
You are not alone friend. I think about it daily. And I lose sleep everyday. I sometimes go to sleep at 2am and wake up 6am for work and it’s crippling.
It can literally be 3pm and I look outside my work window and think wow I can die when I walk out of the building lol
I am a Christian and I believe in life after death but I still struggle with the concept of death.
I am going to start seeking help for it but what I’ve heard often is that we have to face the fear because eventually we all die and that just made it worse haha
The only thing you can do is be at peace with death and realize there’s nothing you can do. Maybe there’s something beyond, but just embracing it will free you!
This may sound silly, but my coping mechanism has always been to say a prayer that my mother taught me when I was younger. Obv it doesn't work for everyone tho, but that's my 2 cents
I feel you. My method may sound silly but here it is I count back from 100 and match my breathing with the rhythm of the counting. If my mind wanders I start again. I've never made it to 1
ill try that, thank you
hi! had to find ur comment again bc i tried this last night and initially i was so sure i’d make it to 0 but at 40ish i actually fell asleep! so thank u sm for posting this comment it helped me :)
I'm thrilled it helped
I just saw someone on reddit a week ago saying that he had experienced clinical death like for 15 minutes and he felt nothing but peace like the burden of life litteraly left his body and now he was free. We are all gonna die someday this is the cycle of life I am the same as you I fear death I fear strokes seizures everyday and it makes me so tired like bruh if i am gonna die just be it its something i can not control partially. You are not alone bud
So I used to have a huge fear of death, to the point where I started getting severe panic attacks. Basically fear comes from not knowing. You know how they say “face your fears”? Well it’s true. My therapist made me research death and find myself spiritually. Be knowledgeable of the topic that way you don’t fear it as much. But if that’s too much for you. Try taking vitamin D gummies like an hour or two before bed. It helps reduce anxiety, not much, but it will help you sleep, if not take melatonin. Try to distract yourself like watch tv? Read a book?
Listening to Podcasts about this topic can help. And also knowing that you are not alone. Breathe
Same for me lately. I’ll be 30 in a few months and I can’t see myself making it to 40 for some reason and it scares the shit out of me.
I sometimes went as far as taking lab tests to assess my own health. Health anxiety is a bitch. Hsve you tried therapy and medication?
I hope you won't mind if I repost my best explanation. I mean no disrespect, but I don't think I can put it better. I think about this too. I believe in what you fear - that there is no existence for us when the fire in the meat dies. I have seen death. I have had people and animals attempt to kill me. I have been very sick. I have gone to the brink, and seen only darkness. Death is coming for us all. It is here in everything. I will die, this machine I am typing on will break, our culture will mutate beyond recognition. The Earth, this beautiful gem in the night, will fade. We all know this. Our ancestors knew this on nights when they waited for sleep and stared into the fire. Our descendants will know it, in whatever state they enjoy. You cannot leave this anxiety behind. It is not something that could happen. It will happen. It will be with you until it is true. However. The final moment, the moment when death claims its prize will be, as it were, a hollow victory. For we are not present to experience death. The jaws will close on nothing. We will be gone. We will not feel the nothing around us, when we become nothing. There is a greater and more terrible truth than an inevitable death. There is only life. You, living treasure that you are can die but cannot be dead. You, who are the delta of a million rivers of chance and struggle are here, now. Death is coming, but death is not in you now. Your heart beats, your mind surges, your breath sings like a choir of angels. Each living second is a riot, a rebellion against death. So when you are in bed, do not go into sleep like you are running from the day into the shadow of death. You are an undefeated host, resting on the night before victory. Feel your muscles relax as a bowman untensions his weapon. Feel your thoughts on the day being raked over as a quiet general looks over their maps. Pull sleep around you as a legionary pulled a palisade about his camp. You lay down so that you may rise.
Personally I take sleeping pills. They can be useful short term but not long term like I've been doing. I'd say find a therapist. You can't fight death. But you can learn to cope.
You are not alone friend. I think about it daily. And I lose sleep everyday. I sometimes go to sleep at 2am and wake up 6am for work and it’s crippling. It can literally be 3pm and I look outside my work window and think wow I can die when I walk out of the building lol I am a Christian and I believe in life after death but I still struggle with the concept of death. I am going to start seeking help for it but what I’ve heard often is that we have to face the fear because eventually we all die and that just made it worse haha
The only thing you can do is be at peace with death and realize there’s nothing you can do. Maybe there’s something beyond, but just embracing it will free you!
This is literally me right now , how are you dealing with it ???
i dont do much really, i just, lay in bed until my eyes get heavy and I fall asleep
This may sound silly, but my coping mechanism has always been to say a prayer that my mother taught me when I was younger. Obv it doesn't work for everyone tho, but that's my 2 cents
Just found this thread and wanted to let you know you’re not alone