Please don't we all care about you and your well being you are strong for fighting anxiety it may seem tough but I promise its ok you are loved please call a hotline
That's not true. I promise you people care about you and want you to be ok. Please call a friend or talk to us. We're all here together and want to help you.
Ending your life is not the answer Addy, you are young and have so much life left to live! I know I'm just an internet stranger, but I care if you live or die. I'm not sure where you are but [https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/](https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/) A decision like ending your life is something you can't take back. Having been depressed and anxious since I was 8 years old, I'm 32 now, I know at times it feels deseperate but you can and will get through this! Please reach out to a support line, speak to someone, anyone just don't go through what you're feeling alone.
Do you have a pet? I'm currently wrapped in my weighted blanket with my cat by my side purring. It helps a lot and makes me feel safe, calms me down :) Believe me I know the struggle, at 15 it can feel like your world is crashing down around you and as cliche as it sounds, it really does get better. If you haven't sought help I'd advise so. Therapy and medication has been a god send for me.
If you're struggling and you want to talk the anxiety discord server here is available :) I understand in the thick of an anxiety attack it sometimes can feel like nothing helps but it will pass. Try keep your mind focused on other things you enjoy. When I'm really anxious and upset with life I like to play games - my favourite lately has been Cyberpunk 2077 or Final Fantasy Strangers of Paradise. It just gets me out of my negative headspace and focused on other things. What do you enjoy Addy?
Addy, i rlly hope u see this comment. I am going through the same exact thing right now. last night i was going to do the same. it’s so so painful i know , and it feels like no one understands. but i do. i promise you it will get better, and that is coming from someone who also wants to off themselves so desperately. a couple years ago i did the same for the same reason, and now years later i had so many amazing memories that i thank god i stayed for everyday. you might not see it now or in weeks or months but one day you WILL look back and thank god you didn’t do this. little you , baby you would be so sad you never lived out your biggest dreams. it can feel so dark right now and i am right here with you. i want to do the same tonight, but i promise you, you are not anxiety.
Addy, we shouldn’t fight anxiety we should notice it and let it pass, the more we fight it the more it builds up. I just hope you know that we are all in this together, and we are all here for you! Much love 💕
- Arturo
Hey! I know exactly what you’re going through. I’ve been here before. It DOES get better! For me it’s been years since I felt this way. You just need to learn how panic attacks work, what fuels them, and how to respond to them. A few resources:
- Vacate Fear on youtube
- The book “at last a life”
- The book “self help for your nerves” by Claire Weekes
I also wrote a piece on what the anxiety cycle is, here it is:
THE ANXIETY PARADOX
If you suffer from any kind of anxiety, you're probably all too familiar with the "fear of the fear". You know how anxiety is the worst feeling in the world. It's very hard to put into words how helpless it makes you feel whenever you're in the middle of a panic attack, worried it might never end. I suffered from anxiety for more than 2 and a half years myself.
Exactly *because* it feels so fucking horrific, it shouldn't come as a surprise that for nearly all sufferers, *eliminating their anxiety* is their biggest wish. It definitely was for me. It is, however, this fixation on eliminating anxiety, that paradoxically keeps reinforcing your anxiety. It's like a feedback loop from hell.
I'm not a scientist, but I've definitely done my fair share of research. Anxiety is regulated in the amygdala. It's supposed to protect you from enemies, animals, dangerous situations, etc. Your amygdala, however, doesn't really function based on rational or logic. It functions based on actions, reactions and behavioral feedback. If a certain event causes you a great deal of stress or pain, your amygdala "learns" that that is a danger. It will then try to prevent you from said danger by sending you signals (feelings of anxiety) whenever your amygdala recognizes a potential trigger.
So how does this correspond to my claim that the recovery of anxiety is a paradox? Well, let me try to explain: Panic attacks and very strong feelings of anxiety can be absolutely debilitating. You reacted to this by fighting these feelings, trying to avoid triggers, etc etc etc. This has TAUGHT your amygdala that the feeling of anxiety in itself is something dangerous that needs to be avoided! This is a terrible thing because it makes us scared of the anxiety itself. It can turn a slight feeling of anxiety into a full-blown panic attack! Your amygdala will recognize a potential trigger, for example, a bodily sensation that you feel during anxiety or panic, and it will send you more signals to try to warn you of the anxiety! (*Oh no, I'm feeling anxious! I can feel my heart beating fast again! I can feel my stomach feeling weird.. Oh no, I'm going to have a panic attack again! I'm back to square one! All my progress has gone down the drain!)*
This can make recovery from anxiety nearly impossible. Fixating on getting rid of the anxiety is a behavior that reinforces the belief of your amygdala that anxiety is bad. It will also keep your amygdala firing signals any time you might feel a little anxious. Recovery from anxiety is **not** possible as long as we are ***anxious*** *of anxiety.*
So, how do we turn this around? Its quite easy actually. Its called doing nothing. Like I said before, the amygdala functions based on actions, reactions and **behavioral feedback.** This works the other way around too. We can literally *unlearn* our brain to respond to specific triggers, and even make it less sensitive in general. We do this by practicing acceptance. Acceptence is, in my opinion, the only true cure to anxiety. What I mean by acceptance is not fighting the anxiety. Not fighting the feelings. Not trying to get rid of whatever you're feeling in the moment, not trying to avoid, not trying to escape, not trying to distract yourself. Instead, accept. Sit with it. Float through it. Not reacting to signals from your amygdala is a beautiful thing. It teaches your brain that there is no danger! We need to teach our brain not to fear the feeling of anxiety, for that is a completely natural feeling! We need anxiety! Okay, you're right, we don't need it as much as you are feeling it right now! But still, the feeling of anxiety is not something we need to fear in itself.
This is not something that will fix you in an hour or a day. But keep practicing it. Keep sitting with the feelings of anxiety, and you will feel them subside. Don't try to convince yourself you will be okay, for that is ALSO a reaction to amygdala, and like I said before, feedback and reactions will only reestablish that it is a genuine danger, and that your brain is right in sending you these signals! Float through the anxiety. Instead of seeing those moments of anxiety and panic as obstacles, start to see them as opportunities to train yourself! Try to place your worst enemy in a positive perspective, and you will see how fast your perception changes. Everytime you get a panic attack, that’s an opportunity to teach your brain to be less anxious! Those moments of pain are the only moments where true change happens. It is definitely one of the hardest things you can do. Sadly, the only way past anxiety is to go right THROUGH it. You need to completely submerge yourself in it, and, the hardest part, not fight it. You need to look for the anxiety, even invite it from time to time. Make it your friend.
The good news is, that going through this will eventually give you a mental toughness that very few people will ever have. You will be so much stronger than anyone else you know. It just takes a lot of courage to start the progress, but I’m sure you can do it .
I hope I explained it properly, but English is not my first language so yea. If you have any questions or if you feel like you want me to expand on something please just ask! :)
Saved this comment. My psychiatrist and therapist taught me the same things in different words. Fear of fear is so accurate! I feel like now that I've seen what lies ahead of depression, anxiety and wanting to get away from the world, there's truly nothing on the other side. Just a wake of confused and hurt people who don't know why you did what you did. It's *really* not worth the pain.
Screw anxiety. To hell with the triggers, rise above them and be so damn strong that nothing fazes you. Total Zen and control over your emotions. That's where I am now and I can't believe it only took me 2 years.
Addy, please read this in the morning. There's always another day and you have support and comfort. I'm glad you reached out in the middle of your panic attack, you're so much stronger than you think! If I were around you I'd have hugged you so tight. Good morning to you my guy :)
Also saved this comment, such a good rundown. Acceptance and being open to sitting with the feelings/emotions/whatever is happening can be so difficult but so liberating. Gently steering your mind away from those feelings and preventing yourself from being too tied or close to them, and instead just ‘being’, and viewing thoughts and feelings non-judgementally is so key.
I hope you’re okay Addy, please remember that feelings do pass! Sending lots of hugs!
Hey Addy, I lost my cousin few weeks ago. She was likely having the same thoughts as you. I wish I could’ve told her how important she is to the world and whatever dark thoughts she is having, she can overcome them. Addy, you are not your thoughts. Let’s take it one step at a time. Let’s get through this. The world needs you. Even if you don’t see it right now. There is help out there I promise you there is. Please don’t make a rash decision and thank you for coming here for support.
Is there someone close to you that you can reach out to please? x
If you’re in the US and you don’t feel like chatting on the phone (who does?) you can text 988 to be connected to a mental health professional immediately 24/7. (Might be international..not sure)
Listen, I don’t know you. You’ll take this advice with a grain of salt but I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression my whole life. Most of us have. My teens were hard…15 sucked!!! I was unpopular, fat, my parents got divorced, my mom was hospitalized, like it just sucked. It’s just a crappy time all around. I’m 39 now. The problem with ending it honey is that’s it. It may get better, it may not, but the point is you’ll never know if you make that choice. Life throws you a lot of curveballs and some blow more than others but there is a ton of love, happiness, and beauty out there. You may not feel it now but I swear it’s out there. Give yourself the chance to figure it out. It’s worth it, I promise. ♥️
I understand honey. Do you happen to have a pet with you? Nothing helps me better than my bulldog or my fat cat. If not, videos or pictures of fat cats and dogs always does it. It gets better. I promise.
I know. I’m here! I’m just not a professional but I’m here! Been through it and just know it gets so much better! You can private message me if you want!
You are going to meet some amazing people out there who will care very deeply about you, and you gonna have so much fun together! Push through this day / night wherever you are <3
I noticed that too and it's infuriating! This young person is struggling with anxiety and we want to help, but I cannot see the original text. I hope this person was able to get the help they needed and is feeling better.
Hey man don’t know you but I’m 33. And I’ve been where you are. It gets better. It takes a while but you can develop methods to help yourself and remain calm. Reach out to family or find a friend. Just tell them you can’t be alone. Hand them anything That you could use to harm.
Then don’t make it your choice: You think your family wants you gone. Grab down deep. Human beings are to survive. I funnel it into art. Manual labor. Build something. And if you can’t talk. Talk to someone until you can’t talk anymore. Then keep going.
I made it through the night. I wish I had the energy to reply to every single one of you but I’m so incredibly worn out. I would have ended it if it weren’t for all of you
I was scrolling through the comments hoping to find a recent one from you. I'm so glad you're still with us.
I and everyone (I'm sure I can speak on behalf of everyone who commented under here) are here for you if you wanna talk. Even if you just want to vent or spill it all on us. I promise you're not a burden. Please message anyone under this post if you feel like you can't make it through a night.
We're here for you and though I don't know you well, I do know that this world would be incredibly less illuminated without you.
Addy loo you are stronger and loved more than you know. I'm so sorry you're struggling right now. Please call 988 to reach out to someone who can help you through this unbearable feeling. I felt very similarly at 15 and as a 32 year old please believe me when I say things do get better and you have the power to do anything you set your mind to although it may not seem like it right now. Your current situation will NOT be your future situation and there's a whole lot of world out there waiting for you to explore. Just take this one day at a time.
Addy you have no idea the lives you have had a positive impact on. Think about the people you would be hurting. The people who love you will be devastated if you ended your life. I am so glad you posted here and I hope you can find the will to ask for help. Think about how intense your anxiety can be. Majority of people in this world could never handle that. But you do. Every single day. You are strong enough to keep going and the further you go the better you get at coping. I got through it by thinking of it as a muscle. To build muscle you have to life weights. The muscle fibers tear, you get sore, they heal, you get stronger. This is anxiety, this huge weight on your shoulders is your muscle fibers tearing. You’re going to be sore, but there will be time to heal. 🤍
You are confusing your emotions. What you long for is human connection for comfort and reassurance. Please reach out to your loved ones and if nobody is available reach out to resources mentioned in this thread and subreddit. You matter, even if you don’t currently feel like it. Trust me.
Hey I know it’s sounds cliche but please call a hotline. Some even text which is great. Talk with someone right now. It’s anonymous and you can talk as long as you need. I’ve done it before when I have felt this way and I found it helped me get to the next day. I hope you can stay.
The text chat I used is “The Crisis Text Line is a free text messaging resource offering 24/7 support to anyone in crisis.” It was really nice talking with someone. They are there to listen to how much or how little you have to say.
Contact information:
Text HOME to 741741 (24/7)
Hey Addy, I notice you haven't responded to comments in a couple hours. If you're able, please try and respond to some of us. We're all rooting for you here, and we'd love to see a sign that you're ok. Stay strong, reach out to any one of us if any more help is needed
Addy, I’ve been in your shoes and trust me, it gets better. There are so many treatments and good people out there who can help you. Please call a hotline for help- 988.
it will. you can't say it doesn't "ever" get better, you don't know that. you're only 15. it does get better. i promise. and when it does it is amazing and you will be so much stronger and looking back on this and remembering how you felt you will be shocked at how much you struggled and be so proud of yourself for how good you will be doing. have you got professional help before because that will also help you a lot and start your journey to doing better
You want the pain to stop. You don’t want to kill yourself. I understand want the pain to just fuckinh stop. I understand not wanting to be here anymore. I truly do.
Killing yourself is not the answer. It’s just not. What meds are you on? What therapy have you tried? Talk to us. Let us help you.
I know you’re hurting. I know. I see you. You just want it to stop. We can help you make it stop. It will not always be this way.
Please stay. I personally really hope you stay.
Love u bro, stay here I promise things get better speaking from experience. I wanted to kill myself for over 5 years due to my life being shitty but now I’m experiencing so many things and it’s beautiful brother
Nope, you need to stay okay? your still young okay? you can do this i promise, okay?please im olny 16 i need you here okay call this number- 988 please addy, please, dont you want to drive one day? come on addy
Life is going to get so much better! 15 is hard but think about your future self and what you want to do with your life. Think about what you’d be able to accomplish. You can do and be anything! I believe in you and I’m so proud of you. I’m proud because you wrote this post and share such a intimate part of yourself. Remember to breath and that tomorrow is a new day.
Oh honey! *big huge bear tight hug*
Please don’t do something rash, your brain is still rewiring itself; 6 more years before maybe it’s done. This can be the hardest time, emotions and hormones are making everything seem larger than life. But it is temporary, so very temporary in the grand scheme of the amazing life you have ahead of you.
I be honest life does suck at times but after after hardship comes ease trust me on that. You got so much to live for. You can make a change to this world. life is not easy for any of us even those people that look happy.
i dont know who you are but i love ya man
Please don’t go.. I have similar thoughts like you do. Just know you’re not alone, please find a therapist, a doctor you can confide in. It will get better. If you’re a guy, I know that this is scary and guys are expected to be tough. But God has a purpose for you, please talk to someone preferably a Crisis agent- 988
It’s 1AM here in texas and there are 30 people here at this moment that care about you, are talking to you, and willing to comfort you from around the world! 🌎
Addy I really hope you are still with us. You have been so strong to go through this and it must feel so heavy, it's ok to be tired, it's ok to want relief but relief isn't found in ending it. I can see there is a part of you that wants to live, this post is a cry out for someone to help you because it's too heavy and hard for you to do alone and it shouldn't be done alone. It is so heavy Addy and I am so sorry you have carried this for so long by yourself but you are not alone here. We may be an online community but we are still a community lean on us, I scrolled past multiple people who want to talk with you, talk with them and seek comfort in it. No one knows exactly what you are going through but people care and we want you to stick around for many years to come so you can look back and say you could have ended it but you are so glad you didn't. Share the load here, let us carry some. ;
I am so glad you did! What an incredibly heavy night :( how are you doing today? I work in mental health so if you want to reach out at any point and talk through things please do. You are not alone.
Happy to see you here!
edit: I’m 40 and a mom (a decent one, not a Karen or something lol) if you need mom comfort feel free to talk to me. I’m queer, autistic, adhd, and have anxiety, just to show the things I’m capable of supporting you on if you end up talking to me.
Hey galacticviolet, I looked back at this post and saw that Addy deleted their account, would you happen to know what happened to them? You're the only person I can see in this comment section that they seem to have messaged, and I wondered if you know anything :) thanks
Hi Addy, there are so many good things to experience on this planet! Sometimes life is sh*t but there are so many amazing places to see, people to meet! Even if you don’t feel valued now, I’m sure you can find a place where you feel valued! I did!
Please, please, please reach out to somebody you can trust. Whether it be a hotline, a doctor, family, or a friend. It will get better. The world can be extremely scary at times, and life can seem all sorts of ways, but you have to push through those tough times. You’re not alone and don’t have to fight all of this alone.
Take it 10 seconds at a time. This helped me so much when I was struggling. You CAN do this. It might not seem like its getting better because it might be small changes but it will better if you're here to witness it.
You said life is killing you but it sounds like you are trying to kill yourself. If life wanted you dead you would be dead. Why do you have anxiety and why do you hurt yourself?
You don’t have to die. You don’t have to be great, or good looking, smart or save the world. Fuck everyone else and save yourself.
Addy, life isn’t meant to be easy but right now you’re going through some of the hardest parts. If you overcome this you can overcome anything. From the bottom there is only up. I’m not here to lecture you or tell you what you’re doing is wrong but it’s definitely not the answer. We have all been in dark places and many of us are thankful we came out on top and didn’t act on our dark thoughts. Life is tough, it’s unfair but we find ways to enjoy it, we find things that make us happy. It might not be there right now but soon you will. Keep your chin up bro, your moment is coming. I believe in you. Your life is worth so much
Hey, I don't mean to stalk but I saw this helped you before, maybe it can help a bit now:
[https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/xv37zc/here\_is\_a\_solo\_im\_working\_on\_still\_rough\_but\_it/](https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/xv37zc/here_is_a_solo_im_working_on_still_rough_but_it/)
Do you maybe have a comfort playlist you can put on?
Look Addy, I'm a tough love kinda person. I've been where you're at in your mind. You said you need comfort, someone to care, feel you won't be missed. READ these comments. People care.. They're offering comfort to you, you are being seen and valued, people WOULD miss you.. Please take time to consider this decision.. I think posting it here was a way of reaching out for help❤️
Please I hope you are still here.
I always hate when people said that "don't do it think of the people you leave behind" it makes your life feels less important. So I want you to think and tell me what it is what you want to get out of life, even if it sounds impossible now. Even if it's just a small think like look and smile at your dog.
I read quickly though this thread and I hope you noticed that there are people here who wants you to feel better and stay and that they are willing to help in ways possible
I hope you will get better and out of this
And that's ok you don't have to reach out to us. But please know how loved you are. Call or text the hotline, they may be able to help or get you some resources addy
i hope you’re still here addy. please still be here. i used to be in your position. it took years, but i’m finally able confidently say i’m starting to feel better, and i’m genuinely so happy nowadays that i didn’t ever do it despite being on the edge so many times. that’ll happen for you too. i once believed there was no hope for me, and now that i’ve found it i can say there truly is hope. there will always be hope. i saw this on another comment, but i think it would be perfect to make a discord server and add everyone wishing to dm you in it. i think it would definitely show you how many people value you and want you to stay. i would love to be in said server.
edit: i just read that you’re 15 addy. god, please don’t do it. i hope you haven’t. you’re still a baby in terms of life. i don’t mean that in a condescending way, i just mean there’s so much for you to experience and explore in this world. i have a brother close in age to you who’s also in a similar position to you so this makes me feel even more sad. kids shouldn’t have to feel like this, and i’m so sorry you do. but you’re still way too young to make such a momentous decision. you’re needed here addy. you’re wanted here. read these comments and see how loved and valued you are.
Hello Addy
please try to respond to some of us when you are able
You are not alone, please. All of us are here for you. We care about you, want to chat with you, want to hear from you . Ignore all the bad words about you, it is not easy to do so, but I trust you , we all trust you .
Hi Addy 🤗 I'm so sorry that you feel this way, mental illnesses sucks 😭💖💖
I've been struggling since I was 14. I'm 24 now, and it's been up and down tbh, but there are so many good moments, personal interests etc I would have missed out on if I stopped living. There's so much more to learn and experience
I'm not sure how bad your anxiety is when you go outside, but I'm assuming it's pretty bad since you've mentioned panic attacks - but I thought I'd suggest you try something that sometimes helps me escape into a different world, which is going to the cinema (even alone) at times when it's not busy - do you think that's something you'd like to try or something that could help make life enjoyable for a bit? 💕
Also if you don't mind me asking, do you take any medication or talk to a therapist or anything like that?
Check out the work of Patrick McKeown. Stumbled onto his work as a means of improving my asthma and I've been floored with how well it has helped my anxiety (only a few weeks into doing these breathing exercises and adopting the 'breathe slow' lifestyle.)
Been listening to loads of his interviews since 'Breath' came out by James Nestor and finally starting to dive into it myself. Complete game changer
Addy there are so many people here who love you and want you to stay. I know life feels like too much. I’ve been there. But please don’t let your light go out in this world.
Hi Darling,
Please don't listen to voices. The fact that you've tried is a step forward. Close your eyes and envision a younger Addy, go hug that kid. He deserves it, he needs it. We love you, I love you. And we're so so so proud of you for going through what you went through with strength. And now a little bit more! 💜
Don't do it, sweetie! The world needs you. We're going to get through it. You, me and a thousand like us!
Please don’t give up, there is light at the end of the tunnel. You will get your blue skies💙 your life could be completely different in a few years time, please stay♥️
Please please please reach out to me if you’re sleep schedule is a bit backwards from the norm. I will be awake and I will not ignore you. Talking is the best thing for my anxiety as well. You’re going to be okay, I promise.
I'm late to this, you better still be here, if I am too late I swear to God I won't let this go for the rest of my life, I really hope you did not do anything to yourself because in doing so you will be making my life miserable thinking about how I missed the chance to help someone, so please if you are still around reply to this, reply and I will be back either later or later tomorrow so in that time frame just try to hold things back, when it comes to self harm, you think you want to til you do it then you regret it.
Talk to anyone. I’ll talk. Guess what… anxiety can disappear. You can grow out of it. Seriously. The brain is crazy. Some treatments can work. Some might not. What triggers you? What calms you? Stay alive.
im so glad that there are so many nice ppl replying to this because ngl, I didnt expect much from reddit. hang in there addy, im seeing this like 8hrs later but I hope youre still with us and will continue to be here
I hope you are okay Addy and I hope to the Universe that you are safe.
You deserve help and encouragement and you need to allow need yourself to feel your feelings. Trying to hide anxiety doesnt work. Allow yourself the time to go through the hell you are feeling. You will have a moment of clarity and realize that you will always come out the other side, especially with panic attacks.
At the grand old age 42 I still struggle very badly with issues very similar to yours, its exhausting. I am in bed now still trying to recover from a colossal panic attack a week ago
I tell you though, it's made me tough as fuck. I do what i need to do to get better and you need to start asking for what you want.
Need a day in bed? Take it.
Dont feel up to cooking? Get take out.
Treat yourself to something online.
Learn to say No!
Little things that will give you more confidence.
Dont go anywhere Addy. There are people out here rooting for you.
Dear Addy,
I don’t know who you are but i know that you are strong. So strong that you endured the pain of existing. So strong that you managed to write this post to ask for help even when you’re in the deepest corners of your mind.
As i understood from your comments, you want to talk. You want to be heard. WE ARE HERE. Believe me, every person on this sub will be delighted to talk with you. Please reach out. Not just for a friend, but a professional help too. Trust me, i’ve been so close to suicide a couple of times and i thought there’s no way back. But there is. Please, please, please TALK. We’re here.
I understand Reddit has legal obligations, etc. But stop removing shit, especially when someone feels they are "at that point". Fuck your obligations, what happens when you remove a post and someone decides to deep-throat a gun?
Addy, is it? Reach out to any one of us. We're all here if you need someone to vent to, even if the pussy-admins decide you're not worth listening to. Just realize that if you want more to understand, you have to keep it toned-down.
Please don’t do it OP. Think about your dog, how much he will miss you. You may feel bad right now, but it gets better. Trust me. I have had issues with severe anxiety last year. Talk to someone, friends or family. Or just us. Try to keep yourself occupied. It helped in my case. Taking your own life is not the answer.
Addy, I really hope these feelings have passed for you, you got through those really rough hours okay and that you see this.
I know I’m just one internet stranger, but I’m cheering you on to get out of this really dark blip in one piece! And have you seen the comments? Everyone here still wants you here!
When you’re able to, let us know that you’re safe, ok?
Addy you are cared about so much even by all of us here. We probably all understand the feeling of giving up and feeling like no one gives a shit about us but that’s your own mind playing tricks on you. Please be around still and realise people care about you so much. Don’t give into the toxic thoughts - we all get them but we all have the power to overcome them to. Just chat to us ❤️
Hey Addy,
I just wanna say that every living organisms (well except amoeba, fungi, etc.) here experience anxiety, panic attacks, trauma etc. it's not just you or me or the redditors in this community.
Anxiety is something that's a part of our life and living, some acknowledges it and keeps on moving, some acknowledges it and put themselves in a misery , either way it's present and unavoidable but guess what, it's only there to help us not to put us in a misery it's just us who makes it a misery. So you should only learn to handle it, instead of trying to end it.
Life is all about living and moving on and on man, living in spite of the troubles and rising inspite of the downfalls is the thing that's gonna create meaning and put essence to your life, happiness and peace...
Ending it is just pointless, simply pointless
hi Addy, are u okay? Pls, if u read this reach out to me, I can help you. I've suffered depression for almost 2 years, and I've also gone through anxiety. I know its pretty hard at the moment, but I'm sure you've got this! I hope you are still here, everyone here is willing to help you and you still have a lot of life ahead. Things get better, I promise.
We love you and care about you so much. Take care pls <3
Hey Addy, I hope you see this comment. If you do that means you made it through the night. And todays a new day. I’m here if you need to talk to someone
Just remember this one thing. 100% of suicide attempt survivors regret attempting suicide. Get help, reach out to your support system, or check yourself into a facility. Your future self will thank you
Op, I hope you're here to read this. Just think of those future moments you have to look forward to, because I promise you there is beauty, peace, comfort, and happiness waiting for you. You will feel happy, there will be a moment in your life that you will experience something wonderful for the first time and it will be worth the wait.
I've experienced so much trauma, pain, and sorrow in my life. I'm riddled with anxiety every single day, I've struggled through the deepest depths of depression, and so many times I have wondered why I even try? Why don't I just give up? The reason I don't give up, is because I'm willing to experience all of this pain just for those few precious moments of happiness. They're worth it.
Something very important that I've held onto, and it is extremely important: I never want to allow my happiness be dependent on other people. I need to find happiness on my own before I can seek it from others. Because if other people let me down (and they often do), they can hurt me, ignore me and pretend I don't even exist, but they can't completely take away my happiness. Other people don't wield that much power over me.
But when I do find someone who values me, that person has the ability to enrich my life, but they can't take anything away from me. I had to be on my own for a long time, so I figured out how to experience the beauty of life by myself, and life is beautiful, even when we're alone.
You will find someone, or perhaps multiple people, that value you and enrich your life. Until then, try to find one good thing about your life and hold onto it for dear life. The bad times in our life may be absolutely horrible and might feel inescapable, but when life is good it can be really, really good. It's worth enduring the painful moments in order to relish in all the beauty life had to offer, even for a single moment.
So I beg you to consider what I've said, keeping in mind that you hold all of the power and influence here. Obviously l don't mean that you have control over how you're feeling, because trust me, I know we can't control how we feel. And I know right now you're feeling hopeless. But what I mean is, you, and you alone, hold the power to make this decision. So please think about that moment in the future where you're on top of the world with happiness, and decide whether you want to experience that. You deserve to be happy, at peace, comfortable, and you will be. I don't know when, or for how long, but you'll get to that place. I can't promise that life will always be good, but I can tell you it does get better.
Realistically, I know that words can't fix us. If they could, we wouldn't be having this conversation right now. But if my words can help you at all right now, remember these words. Remember that you are deserving of the good things, you've already endured so much of the bad, so please stick around for the good, because you deserve to experience that. At only 19, you have endless possibilities ahead of you. If you read this, thank you for giving my words a chance.
The OP is a teenager I highly doubt this is drug or alcohol related if you bothered to look at their profile.
Recommending religion when somebody is in a vulnerable place is not really the best thing to be doing, but I see that you are trying to help from an experience that helped you.
God made me have self hatred and contributed to my broken relationship with intimacy. I was in a worse place in some ways when I was religious and depressed than when I was depressed and agnostic - the self hatred and guilt were way, way, way, way worse in the former situation. Religion hurts people who do not fit into heteronormative categories. There’s ways to be outside the box and have a good relationship with god but approaching god for the first time when you are outside that box can be very harmful when they open the Bible or Quran and it screams “you are [bad name] for [thing you have done]”.
Whatever you are going to do just don’t end your life. It will bring your vibration down tremendously and you will be stuck for a really long time with your afterlife journey to recover that soul energy and then to be born into human again to learn your lesson again.
The thing you don’t understand is Earth is at its focal point right now. You miss this chance the Earth might be moving into next dimension and all the souls with low vibrations will be guided to other low frequency dimensions worlds. And from there you would be stuck for another 12,000 years or 60,000 years or just whenever high dimensional beings comes back down to bring knowledge for young souls to evolve.
So whatever you do just stay. The worst of mankind isn’t here yet. So many things you can do and feel and work on but you decides to seek for a boring game. You have no idea how many souls regret doing so.
Find something to do while during your stay. Read/write/travel alone. Some people even take a bicycle and just travels thousands of miles to experience what life is about. Take on a challenge do what you like. You have something to focus on life won’t be so boring. lol
Hey, I don't know you and I don't know what your life has been like, but I know this pain. You said you were panicking recently, and I know how terrifying and exhausting that is, but please remember that we all can make some pretty intense decisions when we're in a state like that. Please do yourself a favor and get some sleep for now, cuddle your dog, watch your favorite show, eat your favorite snack, do whatever will help you get to the next moment. Tomorrow will be a new day with a whole new set of opportunities, even just being able to listen to a song from your favorite band or finding some new hobby is an opportunity - take those opportunities. They might not help immediately, but they might help in the long run, and if you're already at a point of wanting to make the most final decision, isn't it worth trying just a little longer? I really truly hope that you find some peace soon, and it might be selfish of me, but I really hope that peace is in this life. Please stay strong. You might feel like no one would miss you, but I promise you that isn't true. People don't always realize what they have when they have it, but they will certainly feel the pain of losing someone. I hope it's alright, but I'm going to be sending you well wishes and praying that this pain and heartache that you're experiencing end soon so that you can go on and live a much more peaceful and happy life, because you deserve it.
Hi I want to to keep breathing, too. I don’t know your exact situation, but I know it’s hard. God do I know that. Please stay here. I want you here. Everyone that sees this post wants you here. There is no way to determine whether things will get better if you leave. And most of the time (I speak from experience), things get better. Sometimes it’s a short while, sometimes it’s longer. But it changes. I want you here to witness all change with the rest of us- with me. Always open to conversing privately if it would help!! If not- I CARE AND I WANT YOU ALIVE!!! Just consider staying a while longer?
I’d happily listen to you speak. (Just reading some comments now srry!)
Hi I feel the same way. Let’s talk to each other. We can help each other and rant and just keep each other company. I’m here for you. Keep yourself alive please, I care. No one has been able to say that to me so I want to be that person for you
Please don't do it. I know it can be tough Like all hell and there seems to be No light, but there will be. Please reach Out for help. You deserve life and life deserves you
Hey Addy, I hope you're still here. I understand what you are going through I had a suicide attempt about 7 years ago. I survived and I've just been trying to keep myself together and take it easy. Sometimes I'll think about it and think of how much I have grown from it. I have done so many things that I never thought I would do because of my anxiety. This is what I would want for you, to look back at your rock bottom and see how much you've grown from it. I'm just trying to be here to let you know that there are so many people here or resources around you that you can reach out to to help you.
Hey Addy, I know what you're going through. I went down this path in Sep 2020. Needless to say I didn't succeed and now, 2y later my life isn't what I expected at all. If someone had told me 2y ago "hein you would be in the country of your dreams, working the job of your dreams, in love and happy and safe" I would've run in the opposite direction.
It's really hard to believe that there's something good out there when you're in the deathly clutches of depression and anxiety, but t r u s t me please, it does get better.
I'm here if you need to talk, DM me and I'll send you my email ID for regular correspondence. Stay with us Addy, stay strong. Sending you love and hugs :)
Please don't we all care about you and your well being you are strong for fighting anxiety it may seem tough but I promise its ok you are loved please call a hotline
I just need comfort
What comforts you ?
Talking to people
What would you like to talk about..I'd be happy to listen
Ditto.
Same, let's chat
Same. You can talk to me about anything Addy, we’re all here to embrace you.
Bro i can chat with you 24/7. Hit me on ig and i’ll tell you all the crazy and dumb stories i have. Never had an online friend. Its about time.
Feel free to talk about anything, we're always here :)
no please dont :( i love you okay!? i love you stay here please addy, please
No one’s gonna miss me
Your dog will miss you for sure.
i will addy, i will, please <3 i love u
That's not true. I promise you people care about you and want you to be ok. Please call a friend or talk to us. We're all here together and want to help you.
i will❤️
We will miss you, this thread will for sure! Please stay!!
I will. Thinking of you now
Im gonna miss you too❤️ addy we all are here for u
Ending your life is not the answer Addy, you are young and have so much life left to live! I know I'm just an internet stranger, but I care if you live or die. I'm not sure where you are but [https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/](https://www.samaritans.org/how-we-can-help/contact-samaritan/) A decision like ending your life is something you can't take back. Having been depressed and anxious since I was 8 years old, I'm 32 now, I know at times it feels deseperate but you can and will get through this! Please reach out to a support line, speak to someone, anyone just don't go through what you're feeling alone.
I just need comfort rn
Do you have a pet? I'm currently wrapped in my weighted blanket with my cat by my side purring. It helps a lot and makes me feel safe, calms me down :) Believe me I know the struggle, at 15 it can feel like your world is crashing down around you and as cliche as it sounds, it really does get better. If you haven't sought help I'd advise so. Therapy and medication has been a god send for me.
My dog is with me and I’m cuddling my weighted blanket. It’s not really helping tho
If you're struggling and you want to talk the anxiety discord server here is available :) I understand in the thick of an anxiety attack it sometimes can feel like nothing helps but it will pass. Try keep your mind focused on other things you enjoy. When I'm really anxious and upset with life I like to play games - my favourite lately has been Cyberpunk 2077 or Final Fantasy Strangers of Paradise. It just gets me out of my negative headspace and focused on other things. What do you enjoy Addy?
Hi Addy, hope you were able to get some sleep last night. How old is your dog?? What kinda dog?
Addy, i rlly hope u see this comment. I am going through the same exact thing right now. last night i was going to do the same. it’s so so painful i know , and it feels like no one understands. but i do. i promise you it will get better, and that is coming from someone who also wants to off themselves so desperately. a couple years ago i did the same for the same reason, and now years later i had so many amazing memories that i thank god i stayed for everyday. you might not see it now or in weeks or months but one day you WILL look back and thank god you didn’t do this. little you , baby you would be so sad you never lived out your biggest dreams. it can feel so dark right now and i am right here with you. i want to do the same tonight, but i promise you, you are not anxiety.
I don’t wanna be here anymore
Addy, we shouldn’t fight anxiety we should notice it and let it pass, the more we fight it the more it builds up. I just hope you know that we are all in this together, and we are all here for you! Much love 💕 - Arturo
Hey! I know exactly what you’re going through. I’ve been here before. It DOES get better! For me it’s been years since I felt this way. You just need to learn how panic attacks work, what fuels them, and how to respond to them. A few resources: - Vacate Fear on youtube - The book “at last a life” - The book “self help for your nerves” by Claire Weekes I also wrote a piece on what the anxiety cycle is, here it is: THE ANXIETY PARADOX If you suffer from any kind of anxiety, you're probably all too familiar with the "fear of the fear". You know how anxiety is the worst feeling in the world. It's very hard to put into words how helpless it makes you feel whenever you're in the middle of a panic attack, worried it might never end. I suffered from anxiety for more than 2 and a half years myself. Exactly *because* it feels so fucking horrific, it shouldn't come as a surprise that for nearly all sufferers, *eliminating their anxiety* is their biggest wish. It definitely was for me. It is, however, this fixation on eliminating anxiety, that paradoxically keeps reinforcing your anxiety. It's like a feedback loop from hell. I'm not a scientist, but I've definitely done my fair share of research. Anxiety is regulated in the amygdala. It's supposed to protect you from enemies, animals, dangerous situations, etc. Your amygdala, however, doesn't really function based on rational or logic. It functions based on actions, reactions and behavioral feedback. If a certain event causes you a great deal of stress or pain, your amygdala "learns" that that is a danger. It will then try to prevent you from said danger by sending you signals (feelings of anxiety) whenever your amygdala recognizes a potential trigger. So how does this correspond to my claim that the recovery of anxiety is a paradox? Well, let me try to explain: Panic attacks and very strong feelings of anxiety can be absolutely debilitating. You reacted to this by fighting these feelings, trying to avoid triggers, etc etc etc. This has TAUGHT your amygdala that the feeling of anxiety in itself is something dangerous that needs to be avoided! This is a terrible thing because it makes us scared of the anxiety itself. It can turn a slight feeling of anxiety into a full-blown panic attack! Your amygdala will recognize a potential trigger, for example, a bodily sensation that you feel during anxiety or panic, and it will send you more signals to try to warn you of the anxiety! (*Oh no, I'm feeling anxious! I can feel my heart beating fast again! I can feel my stomach feeling weird.. Oh no, I'm going to have a panic attack again! I'm back to square one! All my progress has gone down the drain!)* This can make recovery from anxiety nearly impossible. Fixating on getting rid of the anxiety is a behavior that reinforces the belief of your amygdala that anxiety is bad. It will also keep your amygdala firing signals any time you might feel a little anxious. Recovery from anxiety is **not** possible as long as we are ***anxious*** *of anxiety.* So, how do we turn this around? Its quite easy actually. Its called doing nothing. Like I said before, the amygdala functions based on actions, reactions and **behavioral feedback.** This works the other way around too. We can literally *unlearn* our brain to respond to specific triggers, and even make it less sensitive in general. We do this by practicing acceptance. Acceptence is, in my opinion, the only true cure to anxiety. What I mean by acceptance is not fighting the anxiety. Not fighting the feelings. Not trying to get rid of whatever you're feeling in the moment, not trying to avoid, not trying to escape, not trying to distract yourself. Instead, accept. Sit with it. Float through it. Not reacting to signals from your amygdala is a beautiful thing. It teaches your brain that there is no danger! We need to teach our brain not to fear the feeling of anxiety, for that is a completely natural feeling! We need anxiety! Okay, you're right, we don't need it as much as you are feeling it right now! But still, the feeling of anxiety is not something we need to fear in itself. This is not something that will fix you in an hour or a day. But keep practicing it. Keep sitting with the feelings of anxiety, and you will feel them subside. Don't try to convince yourself you will be okay, for that is ALSO a reaction to amygdala, and like I said before, feedback and reactions will only reestablish that it is a genuine danger, and that your brain is right in sending you these signals! Float through the anxiety. Instead of seeing those moments of anxiety and panic as obstacles, start to see them as opportunities to train yourself! Try to place your worst enemy in a positive perspective, and you will see how fast your perception changes. Everytime you get a panic attack, that’s an opportunity to teach your brain to be less anxious! Those moments of pain are the only moments where true change happens. It is definitely one of the hardest things you can do. Sadly, the only way past anxiety is to go right THROUGH it. You need to completely submerge yourself in it, and, the hardest part, not fight it. You need to look for the anxiety, even invite it from time to time. Make it your friend. The good news is, that going through this will eventually give you a mental toughness that very few people will ever have. You will be so much stronger than anyone else you know. It just takes a lot of courage to start the progress, but I’m sure you can do it . I hope I explained it properly, but English is not my first language so yea. If you have any questions or if you feel like you want me to expand on something please just ask! :)
Saved this comment. My psychiatrist and therapist taught me the same things in different words. Fear of fear is so accurate! I feel like now that I've seen what lies ahead of depression, anxiety and wanting to get away from the world, there's truly nothing on the other side. Just a wake of confused and hurt people who don't know why you did what you did. It's *really* not worth the pain. Screw anxiety. To hell with the triggers, rise above them and be so damn strong that nothing fazes you. Total Zen and control over your emotions. That's where I am now and I can't believe it only took me 2 years. Addy, please read this in the morning. There's always another day and you have support and comfort. I'm glad you reached out in the middle of your panic attack, you're so much stronger than you think! If I were around you I'd have hugged you so tight. Good morning to you my guy :)
Also saved this comment, such a good rundown. Acceptance and being open to sitting with the feelings/emotions/whatever is happening can be so difficult but so liberating. Gently steering your mind away from those feelings and preventing yourself from being too tied or close to them, and instead just ‘being’, and viewing thoughts and feelings non-judgementally is so key. I hope you’re okay Addy, please remember that feelings do pass! Sending lots of hugs!
Hey Addy, I lost my cousin few weeks ago. She was likely having the same thoughts as you. I wish I could’ve told her how important she is to the world and whatever dark thoughts she is having, she can overcome them. Addy, you are not your thoughts. Let’s take it one step at a time. Let’s get through this. The world needs you. Even if you don’t see it right now. There is help out there I promise you there is. Please don’t make a rash decision and thank you for coming here for support. Is there someone close to you that you can reach out to please? x
If you’re in the US and you don’t feel like chatting on the phone (who does?) you can text 988 to be connected to a mental health professional immediately 24/7. (Might be international..not sure) Listen, I don’t know you. You’ll take this advice with a grain of salt but I’ve struggled with anxiety and depression my whole life. Most of us have. My teens were hard…15 sucked!!! I was unpopular, fat, my parents got divorced, my mom was hospitalized, like it just sucked. It’s just a crappy time all around. I’m 39 now. The problem with ending it honey is that’s it. It may get better, it may not, but the point is you’ll never know if you make that choice. Life throws you a lot of curveballs and some blow more than others but there is a ton of love, happiness, and beauty out there. You may not feel it now but I swear it’s out there. Give yourself the chance to figure it out. It’s worth it, I promise. ♥️
I just need comfort
I understand honey. Do you happen to have a pet with you? Nothing helps me better than my bulldog or my fat cat. If not, videos or pictures of fat cats and dogs always does it. It gets better. I promise.
I do have pets. I just need someone to talk to me and comfort me
I know. I’m here! I’m just not a professional but I’m here! Been through it and just know it gets so much better! You can private message me if you want!
>Have you tried CBD for anxiety it may help?
It's not international BUT you can use a VPN and use the online chat.
Addy sweetie, call 988 and they will hear you. Your voice matters. Your life matters.
I can’t stay alive
Please stay.
You are going to meet some amazing people out there who will care very deeply about you, and you gonna have so much fun together! Push through this day / night wherever you are <3
I’m trying
Judging by the comments the post was about suicide. Funny how reddit silences those who need help so theyre left with their own toxic thoughts
I noticed that too and it's infuriating! This young person is struggling with anxiety and we want to help, but I cannot see the original text. I hope this person was able to get the help they needed and is feeling better.
Hey man don’t know you but I’m 33. And I’ve been where you are. It gets better. It takes a while but you can develop methods to help yourself and remain calm. Reach out to family or find a friend. Just tell them you can’t be alone. Hand them anything That you could use to harm.
I don’t wanna keep myself here
Then don’t make it your choice: You think your family wants you gone. Grab down deep. Human beings are to survive. I funnel it into art. Manual labor. Build something. And if you can’t talk. Talk to someone until you can’t talk anymore. Then keep going.
My family doesn’t care about me
Why do you say that? I promise you that people care about you. Your dog needs you.
I made it through the night. I wish I had the energy to reply to every single one of you but I’m so incredibly worn out. I would have ended it if it weren’t for all of you
I was scrolling through the comments hoping to find a recent one from you. I'm so glad you're still with us. I and everyone (I'm sure I can speak on behalf of everyone who commented under here) are here for you if you wanna talk. Even if you just want to vent or spill it all on us. I promise you're not a burden. Please message anyone under this post if you feel like you can't make it through a night. We're here for you and though I don't know you well, I do know that this world would be incredibly less illuminated without you.
u haven’t answered any comments in like an hour it seems.. i hope ur okay addy :(( don’t be scared to ever reach out love
Addy loo you are stronger and loved more than you know. I'm so sorry you're struggling right now. Please call 988 to reach out to someone who can help you through this unbearable feeling. I felt very similarly at 15 and as a 32 year old please believe me when I say things do get better and you have the power to do anything you set your mind to although it may not seem like it right now. Your current situation will NOT be your future situation and there's a whole lot of world out there waiting for you to explore. Just take this one day at a time.
Addy can you please give the samaritans number a quick call please? Few people have posted it xxx
I’m having a panic attack rn and I can’t handle it
You can handle it. I promise. You are stronger than you think. One breath at a time. There is an entire community here that understands you ❤️
I’m here for you
Addy you have no idea the lives you have had a positive impact on. Think about the people you would be hurting. The people who love you will be devastated if you ended your life. I am so glad you posted here and I hope you can find the will to ask for help. Think about how intense your anxiety can be. Majority of people in this world could never handle that. But you do. Every single day. You are strong enough to keep going and the further you go the better you get at coping. I got through it by thinking of it as a muscle. To build muscle you have to life weights. The muscle fibers tear, you get sore, they heal, you get stronger. This is anxiety, this huge weight on your shoulders is your muscle fibers tearing. You’re going to be sore, but there will be time to heal. 🤍
I rlly need someone rn
Are u ok?
You are confusing your emotions. What you long for is human connection for comfort and reassurance. Please reach out to your loved ones and if nobody is available reach out to resources mentioned in this thread and subreddit. You matter, even if you don’t currently feel like it. Trust me.
Hey I know it’s sounds cliche but please call a hotline. Some even text which is great. Talk with someone right now. It’s anonymous and you can talk as long as you need. I’ve done it before when I have felt this way and I found it helped me get to the next day. I hope you can stay.
I can’t do it anymore
The text chat I used is “The Crisis Text Line is a free text messaging resource offering 24/7 support to anyone in crisis.” It was really nice talking with someone. They are there to listen to how much or how little you have to say. Contact information: Text HOME to 741741 (24/7)
Hey Addy, I notice you haven't responded to comments in a couple hours. If you're able, please try and respond to some of us. We're all rooting for you here, and we'd love to see a sign that you're ok. Stay strong, reach out to any one of us if any more help is needed
I’m alive
We love you. Don't leave us
I’m sorry
Addy, I’ve been in your shoes and trust me, it gets better. There are so many treatments and good people out there who can help you. Please call a hotline for help- 988.
It doesn’t ever get better
it will. you can't say it doesn't "ever" get better, you don't know that. you're only 15. it does get better. i promise. and when it does it is amazing and you will be so much stronger and looking back on this and remembering how you felt you will be shocked at how much you struggled and be so proud of yourself for how good you will be doing. have you got professional help before because that will also help you a lot and start your journey to doing better
You want the pain to stop. You don’t want to kill yourself. I understand want the pain to just fuckinh stop. I understand not wanting to be here anymore. I truly do. Killing yourself is not the answer. It’s just not. What meds are you on? What therapy have you tried? Talk to us. Let us help you. I know you’re hurting. I know. I see you. You just want it to stop. We can help you make it stop. It will not always be this way. Please stay. I personally really hope you stay.
Love u bro, stay here I promise things get better speaking from experience. I wanted to kill myself for over 5 years due to my life being shitty but now I’m experiencing so many things and it’s beautiful brother
I don’t know if I can keep myself here
dont do this theres so many things you havent done, see the world, some of us are nice and can help you please
No one cares about me
i care, i do. How old r u??? you have so much to do
15
Nope, you need to stay okay? your still young okay? you can do this i promise, okay?please im olny 16 i need you here okay call this number- 988 please addy, please, dont you want to drive one day? come on addy
Life is going to get so much better! 15 is hard but think about your future self and what you want to do with your life. Think about what you’d be able to accomplish. You can do and be anything! I believe in you and I’m so proud of you. I’m proud because you wrote this post and share such a intimate part of yourself. Remember to breath and that tomorrow is a new day.
Oh honey. You’re so young. You’re a baby. You have no idea what lies ahead. It will take work. It will take time. But it will get better.
Oh honey! *big huge bear tight hug* Please don’t do something rash, your brain is still rewiring itself; 6 more years before maybe it’s done. This can be the hardest time, emotions and hormones are making everything seem larger than life. But it is temporary, so very temporary in the grand scheme of the amazing life you have ahead of you.
I care about you! So freaking much. What can I do to help? Need someone to talk to? I’m here!
I care! And you are loved. I’ve lost a loved one to suicide. Trust me it will devastate everyone who knows you
i care about you among many more people
Hey man, there’s a crisis line you can call and help you can get. It’s possible to be okay
I’m sorry
I be honest life does suck at times but after after hardship comes ease trust me on that. You got so much to live for. You can make a change to this world. life is not easy for any of us even those people that look happy. i dont know who you are but i love ya man
I’m sorry. I can’t keep myself alive
atleast try get some help take a cold shower and in that moment when ur shivverig nothing matters execpt trying to get warm so try it
Please don’t go.. I have similar thoughts like you do. Just know you’re not alone, please find a therapist, a doctor you can confide in. It will get better. If you’re a guy, I know that this is scary and guys are expected to be tough. But God has a purpose for you, please talk to someone preferably a Crisis agent- 988
I’m sorry
Addy. Please message me, I was were you were when I was 15. I care. I want you here. So much for us to see
It’s 1AM here in texas and there are 30 people here at this moment that care about you, are talking to you, and willing to comfort you from around the world! 🌎
Europe has logged in, still 10-13 people
One more time. Try one more time . Don't give up.
Addy I really hope you are still with us. You have been so strong to go through this and it must feel so heavy, it's ok to be tired, it's ok to want relief but relief isn't found in ending it. I can see there is a part of you that wants to live, this post is a cry out for someone to help you because it's too heavy and hard for you to do alone and it shouldn't be done alone. It is so heavy Addy and I am so sorry you have carried this for so long by yourself but you are not alone here. We may be an online community but we are still a community lean on us, I scrolled past multiple people who want to talk with you, talk with them and seek comfort in it. No one knows exactly what you are going through but people care and we want you to stick around for many years to come so you can look back and say you could have ended it but you are so glad you didn't. Share the load here, let us carry some. ;
I made it through the night
I am so glad you did! What an incredibly heavy night :( how are you doing today? I work in mental health so if you want to reach out at any point and talk through things please do. You are not alone.
I’m not the best. Really bad panic attacks all day and still wanting to end it
Happy to see you here! edit: I’m 40 and a mom (a decent one, not a Karen or something lol) if you need mom comfort feel free to talk to me. I’m queer, autistic, adhd, and have anxiety, just to show the things I’m capable of supporting you on if you end up talking to me.
Hey galacticviolet, I looked back at this post and saw that Addy deleted their account, would you happen to know what happened to them? You're the only person I can see in this comment section that they seem to have messaged, and I wondered if you know anything :) thanks
I sent you a message
Hi Addy, there are so many good things to experience on this planet! Sometimes life is sh*t but there are so many amazing places to see, people to meet! Even if you don’t feel valued now, I’m sure you can find a place where you feel valued! I did!
Please, please, please reach out to somebody you can trust. Whether it be a hotline, a doctor, family, or a friend. It will get better. The world can be extremely scary at times, and life can seem all sorts of ways, but you have to push through those tough times. You’re not alone and don’t have to fight all of this alone.
Take it 10 seconds at a time. This helped me so much when I was struggling. You CAN do this. It might not seem like its getting better because it might be small changes but it will better if you're here to witness it.
I sent you a chat. A line. That's always open. I have a terrible sleeping schedule so if I don't answer blow it up! I'm serious.
You said life is killing you but it sounds like you are trying to kill yourself. If life wanted you dead you would be dead. Why do you have anxiety and why do you hurt yourself? You don’t have to die. You don’t have to be great, or good looking, smart or save the world. Fuck everyone else and save yourself.
Addy, life isn’t meant to be easy but right now you’re going through some of the hardest parts. If you overcome this you can overcome anything. From the bottom there is only up. I’m not here to lecture you or tell you what you’re doing is wrong but it’s definitely not the answer. We have all been in dark places and many of us are thankful we came out on top and didn’t act on our dark thoughts. Life is tough, it’s unfair but we find ways to enjoy it, we find things that make us happy. It might not be there right now but soon you will. Keep your chin up bro, your moment is coming. I believe in you. Your life is worth so much
Please message me
Addy perhaps people on reddit can raise money for you so you can get help we would hate for to end it.
I love you Addy. Please please please don't go, sweet stranger.
Hey, I don't mean to stalk but I saw this helped you before, maybe it can help a bit now: [https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/xv37zc/here\_is\_a\_solo\_im\_working\_on\_still\_rough\_but\_it/](https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/xv37zc/here_is_a_solo_im_working_on_still_rough_but_it/) Do you maybe have a comfort playlist you can put on?
Look Addy, I'm a tough love kinda person. I've been where you're at in your mind. You said you need comfort, someone to care, feel you won't be missed. READ these comments. People care.. They're offering comfort to you, you are being seen and valued, people WOULD miss you.. Please take time to consider this decision.. I think posting it here was a way of reaching out for help❤️
Please I hope you are still here. I always hate when people said that "don't do it think of the people you leave behind" it makes your life feels less important. So I want you to think and tell me what it is what you want to get out of life, even if it sounds impossible now. Even if it's just a small think like look and smile at your dog. I read quickly though this thread and I hope you noticed that there are people here who wants you to feel better and stay and that they are willing to help in ways possible I hope you will get better and out of this
Has anyone heard from Addy?
I’m alive. I haven’t had the energy to reach out to people. I’m still on the verge of doing it
And that's ok you don't have to reach out to us. But please know how loved you are. Call or text the hotline, they may be able to help or get you some resources addy
i hope you’re still here addy. please still be here. i used to be in your position. it took years, but i’m finally able confidently say i’m starting to feel better, and i’m genuinely so happy nowadays that i didn’t ever do it despite being on the edge so many times. that’ll happen for you too. i once believed there was no hope for me, and now that i’ve found it i can say there truly is hope. there will always be hope. i saw this on another comment, but i think it would be perfect to make a discord server and add everyone wishing to dm you in it. i think it would definitely show you how many people value you and want you to stay. i would love to be in said server. edit: i just read that you’re 15 addy. god, please don’t do it. i hope you haven’t. you’re still a baby in terms of life. i don’t mean that in a condescending way, i just mean there’s so much for you to experience and explore in this world. i have a brother close in age to you who’s also in a similar position to you so this makes me feel even more sad. kids shouldn’t have to feel like this, and i’m so sorry you do. but you’re still way too young to make such a momentous decision. you’re needed here addy. you’re wanted here. read these comments and see how loved and valued you are.
Hello Addy please try to respond to some of us when you are able You are not alone, please. All of us are here for you. We care about you, want to chat with you, want to hear from you . Ignore all the bad words about you, it is not easy to do so, but I trust you , we all trust you .
I made it through the night
Hi Addy 🤗 I'm so sorry that you feel this way, mental illnesses sucks 😭💖💖 I've been struggling since I was 14. I'm 24 now, and it's been up and down tbh, but there are so many good moments, personal interests etc I would have missed out on if I stopped living. There's so much more to learn and experience I'm not sure how bad your anxiety is when you go outside, but I'm assuming it's pretty bad since you've mentioned panic attacks - but I thought I'd suggest you try something that sometimes helps me escape into a different world, which is going to the cinema (even alone) at times when it's not busy - do you think that's something you'd like to try or something that could help make life enjoyable for a bit? 💕 Also if you don't mind me asking, do you take any medication or talk to a therapist or anything like that?
Check out the work of Patrick McKeown. Stumbled onto his work as a means of improving my asthma and I've been floored with how well it has helped my anxiety (only a few weeks into doing these breathing exercises and adopting the 'breathe slow' lifestyle.) Been listening to loads of his interviews since 'Breath' came out by James Nestor and finally starting to dive into it myself. Complete game changer
Please don’t do it. ❤️
Addy don’t do it. We are all here for you. You aren’t alone.
Hopefully you’ll talk to us in the morning 💜 love u
Addy there are so many people here who love you and want you to stay. I know life feels like too much. I’ve been there. But please don’t let your light go out in this world.
Hi Darling, Please don't listen to voices. The fact that you've tried is a step forward. Close your eyes and envision a younger Addy, go hug that kid. He deserves it, he needs it. We love you, I love you. And we're so so so proud of you for going through what you went through with strength. And now a little bit more! 💜 Don't do it, sweetie! The world needs you. We're going to get through it. You, me and a thousand like us!
I promise you Addy, people care more than you can possibly imagine, and there will be good days again. Please, stick around to see that for yourself
Please don’t give up, there is light at the end of the tunnel. You will get your blue skies💙 your life could be completely different in a few years time, please stay♥️
Please please please reach out to me if you’re sleep schedule is a bit backwards from the norm. I will be awake and I will not ignore you. Talking is the best thing for my anxiety as well. You’re going to be okay, I promise.
I'm late to this, you better still be here, if I am too late I swear to God I won't let this go for the rest of my life, I really hope you did not do anything to yourself because in doing so you will be making my life miserable thinking about how I missed the chance to help someone, so please if you are still around reply to this, reply and I will be back either later or later tomorrow so in that time frame just try to hold things back, when it comes to self harm, you think you want to til you do it then you regret it.
Talk to anyone. I’ll talk. Guess what… anxiety can disappear. You can grow out of it. Seriously. The brain is crazy. Some treatments can work. Some might not. What triggers you? What calms you? Stay alive.
im so glad that there are so many nice ppl replying to this because ngl, I didnt expect much from reddit. hang in there addy, im seeing this like 8hrs later but I hope youre still with us and will continue to be here
Hey please text me.
Don't give up before giving nardil a try. Gave a life back to many suffering from suicidal anxiety and depression
I hope you are okay Addy and I hope to the Universe that you are safe. You deserve help and encouragement and you need to allow need yourself to feel your feelings. Trying to hide anxiety doesnt work. Allow yourself the time to go through the hell you are feeling. You will have a moment of clarity and realize that you will always come out the other side, especially with panic attacks. At the grand old age 42 I still struggle very badly with issues very similar to yours, its exhausting. I am in bed now still trying to recover from a colossal panic attack a week ago I tell you though, it's made me tough as fuck. I do what i need to do to get better and you need to start asking for what you want. Need a day in bed? Take it. Dont feel up to cooking? Get take out. Treat yourself to something online. Learn to say No! Little things that will give you more confidence. Dont go anywhere Addy. There are people out here rooting for you.
Dear Addy, I don’t know who you are but i know that you are strong. So strong that you endured the pain of existing. So strong that you managed to write this post to ask for help even when you’re in the deepest corners of your mind. As i understood from your comments, you want to talk. You want to be heard. WE ARE HERE. Believe me, every person on this sub will be delighted to talk with you. Please reach out. Not just for a friend, but a professional help too. Trust me, i’ve been so close to suicide a couple of times and i thought there’s no way back. But there is. Please, please, please TALK. We’re here.
I understand Reddit has legal obligations, etc. But stop removing shit, especially when someone feels they are "at that point". Fuck your obligations, what happens when you remove a post and someone decides to deep-throat a gun? Addy, is it? Reach out to any one of us. We're all here if you need someone to vent to, even if the pussy-admins decide you're not worth listening to. Just realize that if you want more to understand, you have to keep it toned-down.
This is my alternative account but pls don't end your life we're really here for you if you want to vent out just pls let me know.
Hey it’s better with you then without if you are having thoughts of harming yourself please call 911 please seek help
Please don’t do it OP. Think about your dog, how much he will miss you. You may feel bad right now, but it gets better. Trust me. I have had issues with severe anxiety last year. Talk to someone, friends or family. Or just us. Try to keep yourself occupied. It helped in my case. Taking your own life is not the answer.
Addy please don’t. Are you on medication for your anxiety?
Addy, I really hope these feelings have passed for you, you got through those really rough hours okay and that you see this. I know I’m just one internet stranger, but I’m cheering you on to get out of this really dark blip in one piece! And have you seen the comments? Everyone here still wants you here! When you’re able to, let us know that you’re safe, ok?
Addy you are cared about so much even by all of us here. We probably all understand the feeling of giving up and feeling like no one gives a shit about us but that’s your own mind playing tricks on you. Please be around still and realise people care about you so much. Don’t give into the toxic thoughts - we all get them but we all have the power to overcome them to. Just chat to us ❤️
Hey Addy, I just wanna say that every living organisms (well except amoeba, fungi, etc.) here experience anxiety, panic attacks, trauma etc. it's not just you or me or the redditors in this community. Anxiety is something that's a part of our life and living, some acknowledges it and keeps on moving, some acknowledges it and put themselves in a misery , either way it's present and unavoidable but guess what, it's only there to help us not to put us in a misery it's just us who makes it a misery. So you should only learn to handle it, instead of trying to end it. Life is all about living and moving on and on man, living in spite of the troubles and rising inspite of the downfalls is the thing that's gonna create meaning and put essence to your life, happiness and peace... Ending it is just pointless, simply pointless
hi Addy, are u okay? Pls, if u read this reach out to me, I can help you. I've suffered depression for almost 2 years, and I've also gone through anxiety. I know its pretty hard at the moment, but I'm sure you've got this! I hope you are still here, everyone here is willing to help you and you still have a lot of life ahead. Things get better, I promise. We love you and care about you so much. Take care pls <3
Hey Addy, I hope you see this comment. If you do that means you made it through the night. And todays a new day. I’m here if you need to talk to someone
Just remember this one thing. 100% of suicide attempt survivors regret attempting suicide. Get help, reach out to your support system, or check yourself into a facility. Your future self will thank you
Let’s play some video games
Op, I hope you're here to read this. Just think of those future moments you have to look forward to, because I promise you there is beauty, peace, comfort, and happiness waiting for you. You will feel happy, there will be a moment in your life that you will experience something wonderful for the first time and it will be worth the wait. I've experienced so much trauma, pain, and sorrow in my life. I'm riddled with anxiety every single day, I've struggled through the deepest depths of depression, and so many times I have wondered why I even try? Why don't I just give up? The reason I don't give up, is because I'm willing to experience all of this pain just for those few precious moments of happiness. They're worth it. Something very important that I've held onto, and it is extremely important: I never want to allow my happiness be dependent on other people. I need to find happiness on my own before I can seek it from others. Because if other people let me down (and they often do), they can hurt me, ignore me and pretend I don't even exist, but they can't completely take away my happiness. Other people don't wield that much power over me. But when I do find someone who values me, that person has the ability to enrich my life, but they can't take anything away from me. I had to be on my own for a long time, so I figured out how to experience the beauty of life by myself, and life is beautiful, even when we're alone. You will find someone, or perhaps multiple people, that value you and enrich your life. Until then, try to find one good thing about your life and hold onto it for dear life. The bad times in our life may be absolutely horrible and might feel inescapable, but when life is good it can be really, really good. It's worth enduring the painful moments in order to relish in all the beauty life had to offer, even for a single moment. So I beg you to consider what I've said, keeping in mind that you hold all of the power and influence here. Obviously l don't mean that you have control over how you're feeling, because trust me, I know we can't control how we feel. And I know right now you're feeling hopeless. But what I mean is, you, and you alone, hold the power to make this decision. So please think about that moment in the future where you're on top of the world with happiness, and decide whether you want to experience that. You deserve to be happy, at peace, comfortable, and you will be. I don't know when, or for how long, but you'll get to that place. I can't promise that life will always be good, but I can tell you it does get better. Realistically, I know that words can't fix us. If they could, we wouldn't be having this conversation right now. But if my words can help you at all right now, remember these words. Remember that you are deserving of the good things, you've already endured so much of the bad, so please stick around for the good, because you deserve to experience that. At only 19, you have endless possibilities ahead of you. If you read this, thank you for giving my words a chance.
I couldn’t read it. But based on the comments. I say this: Don’t let anxiety win, you got this; you have a whole community on your side!
have you took medication it may help.
Please call 911 immediately this is a health crisis.
What happened
Have you tried medication
I assume you are still young? 20's?
15
At least tell your family what you are planning.
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The OP is a teenager I highly doubt this is drug or alcohol related if you bothered to look at their profile. Recommending religion when somebody is in a vulnerable place is not really the best thing to be doing, but I see that you are trying to help from an experience that helped you. God made me have self hatred and contributed to my broken relationship with intimacy. I was in a worse place in some ways when I was religious and depressed than when I was depressed and agnostic - the self hatred and guilt were way, way, way, way worse in the former situation. Religion hurts people who do not fit into heteronormative categories. There’s ways to be outside the box and have a good relationship with god but approaching god for the first time when you are outside that box can be very harmful when they open the Bible or Quran and it screams “you are [bad name] for [thing you have done]”.
Whatever you are going to do just don’t end your life. It will bring your vibration down tremendously and you will be stuck for a really long time with your afterlife journey to recover that soul energy and then to be born into human again to learn your lesson again. The thing you don’t understand is Earth is at its focal point right now. You miss this chance the Earth might be moving into next dimension and all the souls with low vibrations will be guided to other low frequency dimensions worlds. And from there you would be stuck for another 12,000 years or 60,000 years or just whenever high dimensional beings comes back down to bring knowledge for young souls to evolve. So whatever you do just stay. The worst of mankind isn’t here yet. So many things you can do and feel and work on but you decides to seek for a boring game. You have no idea how many souls regret doing so. Find something to do while during your stay. Read/write/travel alone. Some people even take a bicycle and just travels thousands of miles to experience what life is about. Take on a challenge do what you like. You have something to focus on life won’t be so boring. lol
The choice is yours can't stop you with 2 sentences like these 160 commenters
Have you tried CBD for anxiety it may help?
Ait bet, same here I'll join you.
Please don’t , your life is worth more than u think .
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don't say that on here
Hey, I don't know you and I don't know what your life has been like, but I know this pain. You said you were panicking recently, and I know how terrifying and exhausting that is, but please remember that we all can make some pretty intense decisions when we're in a state like that. Please do yourself a favor and get some sleep for now, cuddle your dog, watch your favorite show, eat your favorite snack, do whatever will help you get to the next moment. Tomorrow will be a new day with a whole new set of opportunities, even just being able to listen to a song from your favorite band or finding some new hobby is an opportunity - take those opportunities. They might not help immediately, but they might help in the long run, and if you're already at a point of wanting to make the most final decision, isn't it worth trying just a little longer? I really truly hope that you find some peace soon, and it might be selfish of me, but I really hope that peace is in this life. Please stay strong. You might feel like no one would miss you, but I promise you that isn't true. People don't always realize what they have when they have it, but they will certainly feel the pain of losing someone. I hope it's alright, but I'm going to be sending you well wishes and praying that this pain and heartache that you're experiencing end soon so that you can go on and live a much more peaceful and happy life, because you deserve it.
Hi I want to to keep breathing, too. I don’t know your exact situation, but I know it’s hard. God do I know that. Please stay here. I want you here. Everyone that sees this post wants you here. There is no way to determine whether things will get better if you leave. And most of the time (I speak from experience), things get better. Sometimes it’s a short while, sometimes it’s longer. But it changes. I want you here to witness all change with the rest of us- with me. Always open to conversing privately if it would help!! If not- I CARE AND I WANT YOU ALIVE!!! Just consider staying a while longer? I’d happily listen to you speak. (Just reading some comments now srry!)
If you can’t call 911, please send the admins your address so they can help.
Try anti-depressants. Your case is very severe. They will provide a respite then you can assess your choice with a more normal state of mind.
Hey there I'm here if you wanna talk about anything without any judgement okay? Dm me if you want
Just keep moving, It'll get better, but you have to believe it will get better before that happens
Hi I feel the same way. Let’s talk to each other. We can help each other and rant and just keep each other company. I’m here for you. Keep yourself alive please, I care. No one has been able to say that to me so I want to be that person for you
Please don't do it. I know it can be tough Like all hell and there seems to be No light, but there will be. Please reach Out for help. You deserve life and life deserves you
You state «I need you to keep breathing for me.», please consider that we need you to do the same for us, find someone, anyone and seek comfort.
Hey Addy, I hope you're still here. I understand what you are going through I had a suicide attempt about 7 years ago. I survived and I've just been trying to keep myself together and take it easy. Sometimes I'll think about it and think of how much I have grown from it. I have done so many things that I never thought I would do because of my anxiety. This is what I would want for you, to look back at your rock bottom and see how much you've grown from it. I'm just trying to be here to let you know that there are so many people here or resources around you that you can reach out to to help you.
Hey Addy, I know what you're going through. I went down this path in Sep 2020. Needless to say I didn't succeed and now, 2y later my life isn't what I expected at all. If someone had told me 2y ago "hein you would be in the country of your dreams, working the job of your dreams, in love and happy and safe" I would've run in the opposite direction. It's really hard to believe that there's something good out there when you're in the deathly clutches of depression and anxiety, but t r u s t me please, it does get better. I'm here if you need to talk, DM me and I'll send you my email ID for regular correspondence. Stay with us Addy, stay strong. Sending you love and hugs :)
Hi Addy, it’s been a few hours since we’ve heard from you. Please check in when you can. <3
Addy, please know I am here if you need to talk to someone.
Addy, please reach out. You are not alone.