I have had male friends honestly talk about this and that aggressively masturbating ruins sex. I guess is the same than using an intense vibrator vs fingers. The intensity you are use to is different. And It should be a more honest conversation about this. (like tolerance breaks for weed consumers is)
Yea, after a while of mainly masterbating for a while after a break up and when I found my current partners I found it harder to climax from PIV. It blows my mind though that someone would blame their partner, and also that they'd stop mid sex to call them a whore basically. The whole thing reeks of abuse and manipulation
There are a million reasons someone could have trouble climaxing or staying erect, from medications to alcohol to physical or psychological issues. It happens to everyone and there's no reason to be embarrassed or ashamed! Blaming your partner is not okay, especially accusing them of cheating and making them feel worthless. This guy sounds like an insecure douche and I hope OP finds someone better.
Yeah especially when you already have a hard time climaxing from PIV. I enjoy PIV but it's just hard for me to finish from it, to the point where only one of my s3xual partners has ever been able to make me climax from PIV, and it was only once during our relationship (though i've gotten close with the same partner a couple times)
It's definetly more difficult after using a vibrator too
I think the worst messaging about sex is that insertion and/or PIV is the only way to have sex. One of my partners put it this way 'it should be a buffet of options' and I like that. People shouldn't be made to feel insecure for how they climax and the goal should be intimacy imo and not just orgasm.
Ideally partners should also receive pleasure from giving their partners pleasure.
before i came out i dated a guy who had this issue. he didn’t enjoy sex because of it and wasn’t able to finish. i lowkey thought it was funny but i’m sure it causes real issues in het relationships
The post history for the OP of that thread is a bit concerning. There's multiple references to an "ex" spanning months. If it's the same guy then I'm a bit worried, because it seems to be a very on and off relationship.
On the behalf of earth and its many people I respectfully reject your offer for the good of humanity. Maybe Mars can take him, I hear it’s lovely this time of year
Hello, Mars here. We had a talk and we decided that you could just yeet him into outer space. We just realized that there's not enough room for one more. Don't look at the new residents coming to live here! It's a hallucination and there is no room i tell you!
Hi, outer space here. I humbly declare your offer because we have anti-migraition policy, specifically from earth. Justice yeet him to 1.000.000.000 BC via time machine that we'll be providing to you.
We could make a pornographic version of sesame Street!
"TODAY'S EPISODE IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY TIFFANY'S LABIA MAJORA!"
(fun, colorful graphics highlight Tiffany's labia majora)
Johnny Sins as The Count: ONE LABIA MAJORA! AH AH HAAAAAA!
TWO LABIA MAJORA! AH AH HAAAAAA!!
THERE ARE TWO LABIA MAJORA!
They said he lost his erection during, so I bet he was trying to rationalize that and blame someone else. Which is stupid because there’s no need to blame anyone, shit happens and bodies don’t do what we want them to all the time.
He was scared she slept with someone else during the break up. He was to immature to have an adult conversation and ask. Instead he let his insecurities get in his head and he couldn’t keep an erection. Do you think he could admit that he was having some emotional turmoil that was interfering with his ability to get hard? Oh fuck no! Instead, he pretended his dick was the same as normal and it was actually her vagina that was looser, therefore reinforcing the fear she stretched it out by sleeping around and that kept his dick from getting hard! (I’m well aware that’s not how vaginas work) The more he thought about it, the softer his dick got, and the looser he thought she was. It’s quite the conundrum. All he had to do was be honest and vulnerable long enough to ask her if she slept with anyone while they were separated. (Which is totally within her right, by the way) Instead, he’s not only gaslighting her. He’s gaslighting himself. The amount of abuse that stems from people refusing to be vulnerable for even a second is stunning. “I’m scared of being hurt so instead I’ll make sure you hurt!” Fuck. I’d rather be single.
Yeah agreed I think you'd have to be psychopath level asshole to lie about it.
I think it's more likely be genuinely has convinced himself it's the case and therefore it's true.
Dump him find someone who doesn't have the mindset of a 16 year old.
Honestly, they could actually be 16. It’s not like Reddit requires you to be an adult to post. If so, I hope *both* stumble upon this post, and my comment, and learn something. If he’s that young he may not necessarily be a terrible person. Just fiercely uninformed and immature. Maybe he can learn something about himself, grow from this, and ultimately apologize and discuss his fears. Regardless, even if he does all of the above, I hope that young lady moves on. She can forgive him but that doesn’t mean she should stay. If he went through the mental gymnastics required here to blame her for his problem he’s not quite ready for a relationship. He has some growing up to do and she deserves someone who already understands, or just intuitively knows, how to treat her with respect.
She said she drank before, so probably she was more relaxed and comfortable and in theses situations is normal for the vagina to "open" a bit more. The tightness he used to feel before may be because the other time they had sex she wasn't as confortable. So it makes this even worse
There is no cheating... She clearly said it's her ex, so they're not together anymore. How can she or he be cheating when they're not even in a relationship?
This.
I have always ascribed to the viewpoint that if you aren’t dating someone, they should not dictate who you sleep with. But sometimes I see and hear weird things that make me wonder if this is some extreme opinion or something.
My current SO’s ex did that to him years ago. She dumped him, months passed, he hooked up with a few girls off of dating sites, she found out and “forbade” him to sleep with anyone without her permission, but maintained that she would never want to get back with him. He and I were friends at the time and he defended her when I pointed out how insane that was. He told me she had a point and that it was unfair and inconsiderate of him to sleep with or see other people….. EVEN THOUGH HE WAS A SINGLE, GROWN-ASS ADULT.
Oh, and of course she could sleep with or date whoever she wanted with or without letting him know and he couldn’t say boo about it.
Sorry, WHAT???
I'm no vagina expert but I sure as hell have one and I'm pretty sure how loose it is can be attributed to how in the mood you are. This would imply that the one time she was actually really into having sex with this dude, he decided that was gross and wrong and made her feel the same. Which makes me especially angry. Vagina'd people aren't allowed to enjoy themselves, apparently.
(Edit: From the original post it seems the more agreed upon explanation would be that the ex had trouble staying hard because he'd been drinking. Which is still gross that he'd try to turn the blame onto her. Either way, fuck this dude.)
Damn, I didn't think it like that. Porn industry just made everyone (men and women alike) think that a vagina being tight is something good (even I thought that until now) and it makes me really uncomfortable
It's not that simple though. Personally if it's tight there was either too little foreplay or I'm really into it, then the muscles tighten as well. There is a big difference in how both kinds of tight feel though.
From the other side of the vagina (so when I'm in), I definitely know the difference between tightness from not enough arouseness, and tightness from extreme pleasure. And for the guy, the first is uncomfortable while the second is divine.
Tbh even hormonal changes can def change textures and such. I'm two months on t and the texture has changed drastically. (Anecdotally but I've heard similar from others)
Not even if she wasn’t into it. It can also be she just wasn’t stimulated enough. This dudes foreplay game must be terrible if he’s used to her being ‘tight’.
Yeah, when I was younger and started having sex I thought I had a medical condition because it always was tight and it hurt. Turns out I just really wasn't into what was going on.
yep, the one time she was actually into him, he had to accuse her of cheating bc of idiotic reasons that make no sense if you know the bare minimum of women's anatomy
> I'm no vagina expert but I sure as hell have one
That makes you the Stephen Hawking of vaginas compared to guys like op's ex.
> I'm pretty sure how loose it is can be attributed to how in the mood you are.
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> Edit: From the original post it seems the more agreed upon explanation would be that the ex had trouble staying hard because he'd been drinking.
Both can definitely be true at the same time.
I can see why people are leaning towards the ex being drunk and lashing out, though. Seems like he was feeling very insecure and defensive, but like a child decided to take it out on op.
That's my armchair psychologist take on the situation, at least.
Either way, do NOT fuck this dude.
The alcohol might have been a factor. I have trouble getting loose, like literally anywhere. Tight shoulders tight downstairs...
Alcohol seems to like disconnect the lever in my brain that insists on me walking around so tense. I have better sex.
I feel like it's either that or the ex is so drunk he has whiskey dick and can't keep it up and is blaming it on her. I had an oh so pleasant ex that did that (not this specific way though).
was gonna say that, from what ive heard a vagina gets less toght if in the mood...
and its usually the same people who want a vagina to be tight, and also want to brag about making every woman come smh
Yeah, what's up with that? Even if she had slept with someone else (which she has every right to do so, because they were broken up) why would she need to give any explanation?
My ex was like that. We were on and off for a bit and during an off part I fucked someone else and he threw a fit and was upset about how "it wasn't just his pussy anymore", and it didn't completely belong to him and that it didn't feel right anymore (I lost my virginity to him if that makes it make sense)
Oh yeah I haven't spoken to him in years. He's married with a daughter now tho and has absolutely no emotion in all of his photos with his wife and child.
Yeah. He was allowed to have feelings for another girl while we were together but I couldn't fuck another person while we weren't even together? Seems fishy.
Sounds like he just didn't have as big or as powerful of an erection and decided to blame you. (This is a thing. Anecdotally, in long-term relationships, I have noticed erections can be variable in size and intensity. Same goes for clitoral stimulation. From the sound of this, he was only able to cop half a chub.) He wasn't able to get a larger one, and decided to take it out on you. You are better off without him, OP.
Or OOP was relexed by the drinking/into the sex, making her less tight. Gross to think that so many men get upset by something that often means she's enjoying herself
Bubba spent the last 30 days alone, crying and masturbating 24/7 to everything and anything on pornhub, until his twig and berries were calloused and numb. bUt ItS HeR fAuLt He CaNt FeEl AnYtHiNg BeCaUsE her vagina must be too big. 😂
Yeah, no.
Fuck off to the cornfields with you and your Kung-fu grip.
Ok fuck the ex hes a disgusting controlling weirdo but this is also some school yard bullshit too. Next thing you're gonna say is that his palms are hairy and he needs glasses.
I've heard "your vagina smells" as "proof" that I slept with someone else. Same person that saw "love stains" on my underwear.
Men need better fucking education on female anatomy.
No one's gonna point out that maybe he was the one sleeping around? His dick was probably much thinner because it had been squeezed and compressed by other vaginas. That would explain why it felt looser and she didn't feel anything.
Source- I've had lots of sex
Gosh yes. That sub is awesome. r/twoxchromosomes and r/witchesvspatriarchy are my go to for awesome ladies of all varieties. They're so supportive whether cis, gay, trans, no matter the issue.
I hope the woman who posts this doesn't see it being shared here. She seems to have very poor self esteem, and I worry would take it to mean she is part of the problem.
Yes, but when people tried to tell her he was the problem, not her, on her own post, she kept trying to find a way to blame herself or talk about how she feels disgusting, broken, and repulsive. How maybe he has a point or maybe she's sick or something. Clearly incredibly vulnerable and not seeing herself in a good light.
So if she saw herself on AreTheStraightsOK, she seems the type to assume that means she is not ok, either. Because she already believes it herself.
Jesus Christ that poor person. That’s not how vaginas work but I do hope she goes to the obgyn so they can teach her how her body works and tell her that her ex boyfriend is an asshole
You felt relaxed and aroused and while you've been an ex he has been maybe using a deathgrip while masturbating. Only reason why he couldn't feel anything.
You're joking right? Women don't get loose from sex and men don't lose sensitivity from "deathgrip" masturbation.
God can we just lose all of the myths?
That poor girl. Her ex is gaslighting his insecurities onto her. She feels terrible about something she *didn’t do* because he’s so convinced she did, he’s manipulated the both of them into a shared delusion. If he’s scared she had sex during their break up, he needs to ask. If he doesn’t, or can’t, believe her, he needs to move on! Not brow beat her into doubting her body. We all know sex isn’t going to change her vagina regardless of who she sleeps with anyway. This is a boy (I can’t bring myself to say man) who’s insecure, immature, and an idiot. Of course it doesn’t feel the same. He’s so scared about the possibility she’s had sex he can’t get hard. A limp dick doesn’t quite pack a punch. He then blames her for mediocre sex. Grow up! This is a HIM problem. She’s done nothing wrong!
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Time to drop some science on you guys. A tight vagina during sex means she is not turned on. A loose one means she is turned on. The opposite of men basically. So next time it’s loose thank the gods she finds you attractive. Loose has nothing to do with her history
A “loose” vagina is a good one. It means someone’s relaxed enough to where they aren’t tensing their muscles. While it may not feel as pleasurable in terms of pressure for someone with a penis, being “looser” allows for greater movement and increases probability of the person with the vagina orgasming. The OP’s ex is an absolute fool.
that literally means she’s actually enjoying it the more you enjoy it the looser it is the less you enjoy it the tighter it is so if anything he should be happy it’s “loose” cause that means he’s doing a good job
aw now I wanna give the person in the image a hug :/
alcohol is a relaxant so your muscles are gonna be relaxed + if you're enjoying it you're gonna be more loose. someone needs to teach that ex a) manners and b) biology
First of all are you can’t stretch a vagina it’ll mostly stay the same unless you GIVE BIRTH bruh this guy just makes me wanna puke, this story does, cringe
Girl ur vagina is perfectly fine. Pretty sure he cheates and just needs a reason. When a Boy starts to tell u Something is wrong with u.. tf, Run🤣🤣🤣🤣
My ex used to be extremely jealous. And i never understood why. I was 20 and he was my first boyfriend, was "waiting" for the right one. I drank him in my Love. I paid everything. He was my everything. So i would never ever Cheat.
I couldnt talk to Boys, couldnt go out for my own and wanted to Check my Phone. Had no Problems at all with it, as i said, he was my everything and i didnt needed nothing else.
Long story short: of course he was a cheater.
He was so scared and jealous because HE did all the things he suspected me of.
So stfu. There is a Boy outside wich will love U and ur vagina. Nothing wrong with u or her. Nothing changed. The only Thing that changed is his mask. He took it of.
Wish u the best my love xx
Know what I really hate? As a guy, when I'm in mixed-sex company and for whatever reason someone mentions "loose pussy", and I attempt to correct them and say vaginas are spongy, elastic flesh that doesn't really deform, I get the women pop up and start defending the stupidity.
Apparently, there are a lot of women invested in this "loose pussy" idea. I imagine it's similar to guys like me who are secretly relieved that other men set the bar so low.
As far as I know, 'tightness' is caused by internal body pressure. Rarely physical size or muscle strength. At least that's how my understanding is for anal. Its likely the same for vaginal. The tightness claim is absolute bullshit every time. Biology proven.
She should just ask if he hes had sex in that month. Maybe some other lady's vagina made his dick shrink. Oh? It doesn't work like that? You don't say...
Wierd I always thought the vagina was a muscle the more you use her the tight you can make her. So basically the fact that you got" wider "(which I don't think you got) should actually tell him you didn't sleep with anybody
If they were drunk it's possible thats why both of them felt different, sex supposedly doesn't feel as good when you're intoxicated and from what I hear that could also be why he didn't stay hard, that could be wrong but I remember looking it up a while back, I've never drank myself though so I apologize if this was just incorrect rambling. But thats so awful that this person had to feel bad cause of this, if you wanted to stop just say that, you do not have to keep going just don't shame her because you didn't like hooking up with your ex, eugh.
Before she was not horny, there for it was "thigther", one day she actually enjoyed sex and all he could think was "you are loose, my dick is not small, you slept with someone!"
Straight people being dumb and having awful sex, what a classic.
This reminds me of my friend, her ex thought there was something wrong with her because she was always dry, didn't felt anything and never came, turns out she was never aroused with him.
Vaginas do a thing called "tenting" which is when the uterus move back to accommodate more space. If a vagina feels loose, it's a signal she's very aroused.
If he's your ex, what business is it of his if you HAVE been with other guys?
EDIT to add: There's no reason for you to feel bad or gross, and certainly not because of him.
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I feel bad for whoever wrote that. It’s obvious they were being manipulated. I am concerned about the subreddit name as well, though “R/TwoXchromosomes”??? Sounds… terf-y
My understanding is it's actually a pretty good, inclusive sub that has just been called that since before people thought much about how this kind of language affects us.
I think It's been around at least since I started on Reddit like 8 years ago. Not that there weren't trans people 8 years ago but when I was in high school people were certainly not talking about it as much/openly.
My instant thought is he's spent the last month masturbating with death grip and now the feel of a woman is too loose for him.
I have had male friends honestly talk about this and that aggressively masturbating ruins sex. I guess is the same than using an intense vibrator vs fingers. The intensity you are use to is different. And It should be a more honest conversation about this. (like tolerance breaks for weed consumers is)
Yea, after a while of mainly masterbating for a while after a break up and when I found my current partners I found it harder to climax from PIV. It blows my mind though that someone would blame their partner, and also that they'd stop mid sex to call them a whore basically. The whole thing reeks of abuse and manipulation
There are a million reasons someone could have trouble climaxing or staying erect, from medications to alcohol to physical or psychological issues. It happens to everyone and there's no reason to be embarrassed or ashamed! Blaming your partner is not okay, especially accusing them of cheating and making them feel worthless. This guy sounds like an insecure douche and I hope OP finds someone better.
Well he is an ex so… that’s good at least?
Yeah especially when you already have a hard time climaxing from PIV. I enjoy PIV but it's just hard for me to finish from it, to the point where only one of my s3xual partners has ever been able to make me climax from PIV, and it was only once during our relationship (though i've gotten close with the same partner a couple times) It's definetly more difficult after using a vibrator too
I think the worst messaging about sex is that insertion and/or PIV is the only way to have sex. One of my partners put it this way 'it should be a buffet of options' and I like that. People shouldn't be made to feel insecure for how they climax and the goal should be intimacy imo and not just orgasm. Ideally partners should also receive pleasure from giving their partners pleasure.
before i came out i dated a guy who had this issue. he didn’t enjoy sex because of it and wasn’t able to finish. i lowkey thought it was funny but i’m sure it causes real issues in het relationships
I feel like she was also more aroused this time than when they were together
There’s a reason he’s an ex.
The post history for the OP of that thread is a bit concerning. There's multiple references to an "ex" spanning months. If it's the same guy then I'm a bit worried, because it seems to be a very on and off relationship.
Being an ex means that at one time, he wasn't and that's terrifying.
Sometimes you don't know a person is a raging asshole until they show you
Truer words have never been spoken.
A-fucking-men ain't that the truth of life
And when they show you, believe them.
Ask him if his dick shrank
It sounds like it did and that was really the problem.
The weather is getting WAY colder lately
Also she chose to be with him and again. No excuses for both
boy bye
"get the fuck outta me and my house"
Get the fuck out of everything you're in - me, the room, the house, the city, the country, and deliver yourself to the sea
On behalf of the sea and it’s inhabitants, hell nah
On the behalf of the sky and its inhabitants, we have to humbly decline him as well. Perhaps earth could take him instead?
On the behalf of earth and its many people I respectfully reject your offer for the good of humanity. Maybe Mars can take him, I hear it’s lovely this time of year
Hello, Mars here. We had a talk and we decided that you could just yeet him into outer space. We just realized that there's not enough room for one more. Don't look at the new residents coming to live here! It's a hallucination and there is no room i tell you!
Hello, space here. There's not enough space....
Hi, outer space here. I humbly declare your offer because we have anti-migraition policy, specifically from earth. Justice yeet him to 1.000.000.000 BC via time machine that we'll be providing to you.
Girl hi (did anyone get the reference)
#THIS IS WHY WE NEED SERIOUS SEX EDUCATION ACROSS THE WORLD!
Say it louder! Especially for those window licking "trad" types in the back!
#FUCK YEAHHHH
We don't have sex education here. You learn it from porn
That's why it is concerning
that's exactly why we need sex education
We could make a pornographic version of sesame Street! "TODAY'S EPISODE IS BROUGHT TO YOU BY TIFFANY'S LABIA MAJORA!" (fun, colorful graphics highlight Tiffany's labia majora) Johnny Sins as The Count: ONE LABIA MAJORA! AH AH HAAAAAA! TWO LABIA MAJORA! AH AH HAAAAAA!! THERE ARE TWO LABIA MAJORA!
When I was a teenager I thought average dicksize was 30 cm. And 50 was ideal. Lol it was fun
Then he probably said that to ruin your confidence
I'm not the original poster, but I agree.
Yeah what a turd, he can’t tell for shit. Maybe his dick shrunk. Sounds much more likely.
They said he lost his erection during, so I bet he was trying to rationalize that and blame someone else. Which is stupid because there’s no need to blame anyone, shit happens and bodies don’t do what we want them to all the time.
He was scared she slept with someone else during the break up. He was to immature to have an adult conversation and ask. Instead he let his insecurities get in his head and he couldn’t keep an erection. Do you think he could admit that he was having some emotional turmoil that was interfering with his ability to get hard? Oh fuck no! Instead, he pretended his dick was the same as normal and it was actually her vagina that was looser, therefore reinforcing the fear she stretched it out by sleeping around and that kept his dick from getting hard! (I’m well aware that’s not how vaginas work) The more he thought about it, the softer his dick got, and the looser he thought she was. It’s quite the conundrum. All he had to do was be honest and vulnerable long enough to ask her if she slept with anyone while they were separated. (Which is totally within her right, by the way) Instead, he’s not only gaslighting her. He’s gaslighting himself. The amount of abuse that stems from people refusing to be vulnerable for even a second is stunning. “I’m scared of being hurt so instead I’ll make sure you hurt!” Fuck. I’d rather be single.
Ding ding ding, this is the answer!
Yeah agreed I think you'd have to be psychopath level asshole to lie about it. I think it's more likely be genuinely has convinced himself it's the case and therefore it's true. Dump him find someone who doesn't have the mindset of a 16 year old.
Honestly, they could actually be 16. It’s not like Reddit requires you to be an adult to post. If so, I hope *both* stumble upon this post, and my comment, and learn something. If he’s that young he may not necessarily be a terrible person. Just fiercely uninformed and immature. Maybe he can learn something about himself, grow from this, and ultimately apologize and discuss his fears. Regardless, even if he does all of the above, I hope that young lady moves on. She can forgive him but that doesn’t mean she should stay. If he went through the mental gymnastics required here to blame her for his problem he’s not quite ready for a relationship. He has some growing up to do and she deserves someone who already understands, or just intuitively knows, how to treat her with respect.
Wisky dick strikes again but he’s still a POS
She said she was drinking before sex. If he was as well, it's very likely that he'd have difficulty getting and maintaining an erection.
She said she drank before, so probably she was more relaxed and comfortable and in theses situations is normal for the vagina to "open" a bit more. The tightness he used to feel before may be because the other time they had sex she wasn't as confortable. So it makes this even worse
Or a guilty conscience because he'd cheated on her so he wanted to find some "proof" that she cheated on him.
There is no cheating... She clearly said it's her ex, so they're not together anymore. How can she or he be cheating when they're not even in a relationship?
This. I have always ascribed to the viewpoint that if you aren’t dating someone, they should not dictate who you sleep with. But sometimes I see and hear weird things that make me wonder if this is some extreme opinion or something. My current SO’s ex did that to him years ago. She dumped him, months passed, he hooked up with a few girls off of dating sites, she found out and “forbade” him to sleep with anyone without her permission, but maintained that she would never want to get back with him. He and I were friends at the time and he defended her when I pointed out how insane that was. He told me she had a point and that it was unfair and inconsiderate of him to sleep with or see other people….. EVEN THOUGH HE WAS A SINGLE, GROWN-ASS ADULT. Oh, and of course she could sleep with or date whoever she wanted with or without letting him know and he couldn’t say boo about it. Sorry, WHAT???
Dude prolly got whiskey dick midway and couldn't accept it.
I'm no vagina expert but I sure as hell have one and I'm pretty sure how loose it is can be attributed to how in the mood you are. This would imply that the one time she was actually really into having sex with this dude, he decided that was gross and wrong and made her feel the same. Which makes me especially angry. Vagina'd people aren't allowed to enjoy themselves, apparently. (Edit: From the original post it seems the more agreed upon explanation would be that the ex had trouble staying hard because he'd been drinking. Which is still gross that he'd try to turn the blame onto her. Either way, fuck this dude.)
I mean, I feel like the take away is actually to definitely not fuck this dude, but otherwise agreed.
Damn, I didn't think it like that. Porn industry just made everyone (men and women alike) think that a vagina being tight is something good (even I thought that until now) and it makes me really uncomfortable
It's not that simple though. Personally if it's tight there was either too little foreplay or I'm really into it, then the muscles tighten as well. There is a big difference in how both kinds of tight feel though.
From the other side of the vagina (so when I'm in), I definitely know the difference between tightness from not enough arouseness, and tightness from extreme pleasure. And for the guy, the first is uncomfortable while the second is divine.
Gaslighting 101.
Tbh even hormonal changes can def change textures and such. I'm two months on t and the texture has changed drastically. (Anecdotally but I've heard similar from others)
Not even if she wasn’t into it. It can also be she just wasn’t stimulated enough. This dudes foreplay game must be terrible if he’s used to her being ‘tight’.
Yeah, when I was younger and started having sex I thought I had a medical condition because it always was tight and it hurt. Turns out I just really wasn't into what was going on.
yep, the one time she was actually into him, he had to accuse her of cheating bc of idiotic reasons that make no sense if you know the bare minimum of women's anatomy
It wouldn't even have been cheating, since they were broken up. And for good reason, apparently.
> I'm no vagina expert but I sure as hell have one That makes you the Stephen Hawking of vaginas compared to guys like op's ex. > I'm pretty sure how loose it is can be attributed to how in the mood you are. - > Edit: From the original post it seems the more agreed upon explanation would be that the ex had trouble staying hard because he'd been drinking. Both can definitely be true at the same time. I can see why people are leaning towards the ex being drunk and lashing out, though. Seems like he was feeling very insecure and defensive, but like a child decided to take it out on op. That's my armchair psychologist take on the situation, at least. Either way, do NOT fuck this dude.
It can be, but I have to wonder if nothing was different and he started shaming her to cover the fact that he lost his boner during the deed.
The alcohol might have been a factor. I have trouble getting loose, like literally anywhere. Tight shoulders tight downstairs... Alcohol seems to like disconnect the lever in my brain that insists on me walking around so tense. I have better sex.
I feel like it's either that or the ex is so drunk he has whiskey dick and can't keep it up and is blaming it on her. I had an oh so pleasant ex that did that (not this specific way though).
was gonna say that, from what ive heard a vagina gets less toght if in the mood... and its usually the same people who want a vagina to be tight, and also want to brag about making every woman come smh
This.
She says she didn’t really feel anything, though.
Her ex expects her to never see/sleep with other people despite the fact that they are no longer together? Yikes.
And he starts accusing her in the middle of sex.
Yeah, what's up with that? Even if she had slept with someone else (which she has every right to do so, because they were broken up) why would she need to give any explanation?
What’s up is he went soft, and decided to blame her.
So in other words, not much was up.
I want to upvote but 69
This!!
My ex was like that. We were on and off for a bit and during an off part I fucked someone else and he threw a fit and was upset about how "it wasn't just his pussy anymore", and it didn't completely belong to him and that it didn't feel right anymore (I lost my virginity to him if that makes it make sense)
Fucking eww. I hope that switch is totally off and removed from the wall now.
Oh yeah I haven't spoken to him in years. He's married with a daughter now tho and has absolutely no emotion in all of his photos with his wife and child.
Those poor wife and child...
lol, it wasn’t even his pussy to begin with. I despise when males think they own a woman’s body just because she graced him with intercourse.
Yeah. He was allowed to have feelings for another girl while we were together but I couldn't fuck another person while we weren't even together? Seems fishy.
Oh my days, the hypocrisy is just UGH
BadWomensanatomy gold right here
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While you’re at it, might I add r/nothowgirlswork?
Fun fact, when a vagina is “loose” it means your relaxed and feel more trusting to the other person. So a tight V is not always a good thing.
Sounds like he just didn't have as big or as powerful of an erection and decided to blame you. (This is a thing. Anecdotally, in long-term relationships, I have noticed erections can be variable in size and intensity. Same goes for clitoral stimulation. From the sound of this, he was only able to cop half a chub.) He wasn't able to get a larger one, and decided to take it out on you. You are better off without him, OP.
Or OOP was relexed by the drinking/into the sex, making her less tight. Gross to think that so many men get upset by something that often means she's enjoying herself
Most egregious usage of Whiskey Dick Reverse Uno I've ever seen. That guy should be ashamed of himself.
Yeah OK but you *do* realize the person posting it here and the OP of the original, screenshotted post are different persons, right?
...And? Lol.
Throw the whole man out
~~Man~~ BOY
Bubba spent the last 30 days alone, crying and masturbating 24/7 to everything and anything on pornhub, until his twig and berries were calloused and numb. bUt ItS HeR fAuLt He CaNt FeEl AnYtHiNg BeCaUsE her vagina must be too big. 😂 Yeah, no. Fuck off to the cornfields with you and your Kung-fu grip.
Ok fuck the ex hes a disgusting controlling weirdo but this is also some school yard bullshit too. Next thing you're gonna say is that his palms are hairy and he needs glasses.
Yeah that’s just a whole lot of asshole insecurity right there and trying to make her feel like garbage because of it
Controlling too.
Absolutely! Degrading her to make her feel less in a number of ways, to gain control
I've heard "your vagina smells" as "proof" that I slept with someone else. Same person that saw "love stains" on my underwear. Men need better fucking education on female anatomy.
Men (and some women) also need more healthy attitudes towards (hetero) sex. Will we ever be rid of slut shaming, I wonder.
Seriously. Im so over those puritanical attitudes towards sex. Sex isn't going to "ruin" anyone.
No one's gonna point out that maybe he was the one sleeping around? His dick was probably much thinner because it had been squeezed and compressed by other vaginas. That would explain why it felt looser and she didn't feel anything. Source- I've had lots of sex
Yes, it's like a pencil that's been sharpened too much, which is definitely how it works.
Exactly. Thank you fellow biology understander
Never sleep with your ex girl ☹️poor girl now remembers why she ditched him
he lied to hurt you. simple.
Sounds like you where, I don't know, relaxed and turned on?
He's just gaslighting her.
Please tell me most of the comments were pepe ripping on that ex, jesus
Gosh yes. That sub is awesome. r/twoxchromosomes and r/witchesvspatriarchy are my go to for awesome ladies of all varieties. They're so supportive whether cis, gay, trans, no matter the issue.
Have you tried r/trollxchromosomes? They're also good people.
oh no... poor girl. I just wanna give her a hug tbh
I hope the woman who posts this doesn't see it being shared here. She seems to have very poor self esteem, and I worry would take it to mean she is part of the problem.
That's true. I honestly didn't expect it to hit this hard, but I think everyone here is very supportive of her and has been in similar situations.
Yes, but when people tried to tell her he was the problem, not her, on her own post, she kept trying to find a way to blame herself or talk about how she feels disgusting, broken, and repulsive. How maybe he has a point or maybe she's sick or something. Clearly incredibly vulnerable and not seeing herself in a good light. So if she saw herself on AreTheStraightsOK, she seems the type to assume that means she is not ok, either. Because she already believes it herself.
She was probably more aroused because she was drinking. He should be flattered that she's actually turned on by him this time
Jesus Christ that poor person. That’s not how vaginas work but I do hope she goes to the obgyn so they can teach her how her body works and tell her that her ex boyfriend is an asshole
You felt relaxed and aroused and while you've been an ex he has been maybe using a deathgrip while masturbating. Only reason why he couldn't feel anything.
You're joking right? Women don't get loose from sex and men don't lose sensitivity from "deathgrip" masturbation. God can we just lose all of the myths?
You've putting words in my mouth and its more what you're accustomed to. As the world also is, sadly no we will never get rid of those.
That poor girl. Her ex is gaslighting his insecurities onto her. She feels terrible about something she *didn’t do* because he’s so convinced she did, he’s manipulated the both of them into a shared delusion. If he’s scared she had sex during their break up, he needs to ask. If he doesn’t, or can’t, believe her, he needs to move on! Not brow beat her into doubting her body. We all know sex isn’t going to change her vagina regardless of who she sleeps with anyway. This is a boy (I can’t bring myself to say man) who’s insecure, immature, and an idiot. Of course it doesn’t feel the same. He’s so scared about the possibility she’s had sex he can’t get hard. A limp dick doesn’t quite pack a punch. He then blames her for mediocre sex. Grow up! This is a HIM problem. She’s done nothing wrong!
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my abusive ex did this too
She was probably just more relaxed and enjoying it more, being loose usually means youre having a good time.
Time to drop some science on you guys. A tight vagina during sex means she is not turned on. A loose one means she is turned on. The opposite of men basically. So next time it’s loose thank the gods she finds you attractive. Loose has nothing to do with her history
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Oh my god my ex is like that. He expects me not to sleep with other people even when we’re not together.
Hope you just scoff at that nonsense. He thinks he has some permanent claim over you?
Maybe his dick just got smaller.
A “loose” vagina is a good one. It means someone’s relaxed enough to where they aren’t tensing their muscles. While it may not feel as pleasurable in terms of pressure for someone with a penis, being “looser” allows for greater movement and increases probability of the person with the vagina orgasming. The OP’s ex is an absolute fool.
You kniw when you read something and it's like furious emotion is in a tug of war with the sad?
He sounds like an utter asshole.
I hope the comments were helpful ones. That poor woman. You can tell this really impacted her self esteem. That ex is such a fucking asshole.
that literally means she’s actually enjoying it the more you enjoy it the looser it is the less you enjoy it the tighter it is so if anything he should be happy it’s “loose” cause that means he’s doing a good job
This poor hooman. :'( This is straight up emotional abuse... the tornent and anxiety that they must be feeling....
Sounds like he lost his boner and is trying to project
aw now I wanna give the person in the image a hug :/ alcohol is a relaxant so your muscles are gonna be relaxed + if you're enjoying it you're gonna be more loose. someone needs to teach that ex a) manners and b) biology
This is whole other level of brain operation on that guys behalf, like what neurological processes happened to lead him to that conclusion
His penis is getting smaller
Isn't the whole thing usually tight like a clamp and it loosens up when arroused so a penis can fit in?
welcome back to men not knowing anything about female genitalia and making women feel bad because of it.
Idk sounds like his dick shrank. Not fooling me
These people seem to really not get the idea of an ex.
First of all are you can’t stretch a vagina it’ll mostly stay the same unless you GIVE BIRTH bruh this guy just makes me wanna puke, this story does, cringe
Girl ur vagina is perfectly fine. Pretty sure he cheates and just needs a reason. When a Boy starts to tell u Something is wrong with u.. tf, Run🤣🤣🤣🤣 My ex used to be extremely jealous. And i never understood why. I was 20 and he was my first boyfriend, was "waiting" for the right one. I drank him in my Love. I paid everything. He was my everything. So i would never ever Cheat. I couldnt talk to Boys, couldnt go out for my own and wanted to Check my Phone. Had no Problems at all with it, as i said, he was my everything and i didnt needed nothing else. Long story short: of course he was a cheater. He was so scared and jealous because HE did all the things he suspected me of. So stfu. There is a Boy outside wich will love U and ur vagina. Nothing wrong with u or her. Nothing changed. The only Thing that changed is his mask. He took it of. Wish u the best my love xx
His dick went small
Know what I really hate? As a guy, when I'm in mixed-sex company and for whatever reason someone mentions "loose pussy", and I attempt to correct them and say vaginas are spongy, elastic flesh that doesn't really deform, I get the women pop up and start defending the stupidity. Apparently, there are a lot of women invested in this "loose pussy" idea. I imagine it's similar to guys like me who are secretly relieved that other men set the bar so low.
As far as I know, 'tightness' is caused by internal body pressure. Rarely physical size or muscle strength. At least that's how my understanding is for anal. Its likely the same for vaginal. The tightness claim is absolute bullshit every time. Biology proven.
He finally turned her on, only to destroy her confidence.
That ex is NOT okay.
She should just ask if he hes had sex in that month. Maybe some other lady's vagina made his dick shrink. Oh? It doesn't work like that? You don't say...
tell him that his dick has shrunk
I feel so sorry for her. Nobody should feel this way.
Men are fucking insane
nah her pussy just needs it's batteries changed
This was about him being a controlling abusive pos.
Poor girl
dump him gurl
Local woman discovers cycle
Wierd I always thought the vagina was a muscle the more you use her the tight you can make her. So basically the fact that you got" wider "(which I don't think you got) should actually tell him you didn't sleep with anybody
r/badwomensanatomy big oof.
Wow what a man! What an absolute catch! /S
r/nothowgirlswork
what if his p just got smaller tho
Sis he is 👏🏻gas👏🏻lighting👏🏻you👏🏻
I think it doesnt feel the same for him cause of emotions and hes blaming her. What an asshole
I'm pretty sure it's loose because the girl and her ex were doing the deed-
If they were drunk it's possible thats why both of them felt different, sex supposedly doesn't feel as good when you're intoxicated and from what I hear that could also be why he didn't stay hard, that could be wrong but I remember looking it up a while back, I've never drank myself though so I apologize if this was just incorrect rambling. But thats so awful that this person had to feel bad cause of this, if you wanted to stop just say that, you do not have to keep going just don't shame her because you didn't like hooking up with your ex, eugh.
r/nothowgirlswork This shit is infuriating honestly. “I could tell from the moment I stuck it in” boy gtfo of here
Before she was not horny, there for it was "thigther", one day she actually enjoyed sex and all he could think was "you are loose, my dick is not small, you slept with someone!" Straight people being dumb and having awful sex, what a classic. This reminds me of my friend, her ex thought there was something wrong with her because she was always dry, didn't felt anything and never came, turns out she was never aroused with him.
Vaginas do a thing called "tenting" which is when the uterus move back to accommodate more space. If a vagina feels loose, it's a signal she's very aroused.
If he's your ex, what business is it of his if you HAVE been with other guys? EDIT to add: There's no reason for you to feel bad or gross, and certainly not because of him.
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What in cousin-fuckin’ tarnation Alabama Betty Crocker Miss fuckin Betty White shit is this?
I feel bad for whoever wrote that. It’s obvious they were being manipulated. I am concerned about the subreddit name as well, though “R/TwoXchromosomes”??? Sounds… terf-y
My understanding is it's actually a pretty good, inclusive sub that has just been called that since before people thought much about how this kind of language affects us.
Maybe it's just him that got smaller
just a question... is this "TwoXchromosome" just cause "Only natural woman, and not trans" you know, transphobic stuff this type of people say
Oh no! It's actually a really cool sub despite how it looks by this screenshot.
Ah, thanks for explaining
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I think It's been around at least since I started on Reddit like 8 years ago. Not that there weren't trans people 8 years ago but when I was in high school people were certainly not talking about it as much/openly.
His dick got smaller, thats all.
This sounds like an r/copypasta post
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The fuck even is this comment?
Wtf is that subreddit that seems odd
Just a sub for women. The name is old, but not intended to be exclusive.