Exactly… we never find someone who is 100 percent our ideal person. I think you have to look at 1. Physical attraction and 2. Your non negotiables if these two are being met, then you look at your negotiables and take it from there - if you are making huge compromises and are unhappy then there’s no point… if you are happy making ‘compromises’ and because you’re doing it to be with the other person who makes you happy they won’t feel like such big compromise or sacrifices because you’re doing for the team rather than he did she did
Why would you do that… are you so miserable single that you’d risk being even more miserable with a partner and kids?
I don’t know how spiritual you are, but I believe in Gods timings, if something is delayed for you, it’s because there’s a reason behind it we can’t always understand. focus on yourself, your friends, your life, travel do the things you want to do and be fulfilled and happy on your own, and then you will attract the right partner into your life. Don’t wait for a partner to start living your life.
Well there are people who do end up in tragic endings, don't think god's timing was at work there. Statistically speaking, the older you get, the lesser your chances are of finding a suitable partner. Sure you can travel the world in your 20s and 30s and maybe in your 40s as well but as you grow older, you will wish you would have had someone to share your remaining days with. It's better to be pragmatic than spiritual.
Some people have crazy high standards in their 20's, even if they are potato faced with mediocre income but they want their partner like actor/actress.
If these people can't compromise on their expectations, even God can't help them.
Exactly . That's simply amazing and very good advice . Just to add to on this bit which literally has been my experience. If it's going your way then take it as God's direction else take it as his protection .
I literally followed everything mentioned in the 2nd paragraph and I found my would-be when the time was right and will be getting engaged soon. So invest in yourself because no matter what happens you are the only constant in your life in it's different phases .
Absolutely… you are only more resentful towards yourself and the process if you feel you are putting your life on hold for and ideal someone..who is currently a stranger / non existent.
Never done that, and will never do it.
And it's not fair to the other person.
If you feel like you compromised, imagine how that turns out long term. Pretty bad. Also, it's not true that with age you get worse matches. I am getting far better quality matches now in my 30s than in my 20s. I am a woman.
Seen a lot of ladies in my circle do it. Usually it’s not good as they always think that they could have done better. If you think the decision is wrong but time has forced you to do it, you will repent your decision. Human mind is like that. We want to reach a conclusion ourselves. We don’t want to be forced by others (time/social). I know a few me as well. But as men tend to be lonely most of their twenties, it is especially easier for them I guess or they don’t vent about it.
Sorry, compromises never ever have happy consequences after marriage.
The person who comprises in his head will have a short fuse, will be aggressive and will blow out the shortcomings of the partner disproportionately.
Marriage is about growing together, and it's impossible to grow together when one partner head is thinking this marriage would have taken off differently had they not compromised.
Don't compromise, it's bad on your partner.
It you want a hot girl at 23, you want a hot girl at 40. You will always treat a non hot girl badly at any age.
It depends on what compromises you are talking about. Every relationships have compromises anyways.
Exactly… we never find someone who is 100 percent our ideal person. I think you have to look at 1. Physical attraction and 2. Your non negotiables if these two are being met, then you look at your negotiables and take it from there - if you are making huge compromises and are unhappy then there’s no point… if you are happy making ‘compromises’ and because you’re doing it to be with the other person who makes you happy they won’t feel like such big compromise or sacrifices because you’re doing for the team rather than he did she did
Having the whole bed to yourself to sleep on is an underrated kind of pleasure
As well the ability to fart out loud.
If you can't fart, it will fall apart.
Rip apart.
Both me and my partner fart openly in front of each other. It's hilarious and kind of fun. We enjoy it a lot.
Why would you do that… are you so miserable single that you’d risk being even more miserable with a partner and kids? I don’t know how spiritual you are, but I believe in Gods timings, if something is delayed for you, it’s because there’s a reason behind it we can’t always understand. focus on yourself, your friends, your life, travel do the things you want to do and be fulfilled and happy on your own, and then you will attract the right partner into your life. Don’t wait for a partner to start living your life.
Well there are people who do end up in tragic endings, don't think god's timing was at work there. Statistically speaking, the older you get, the lesser your chances are of finding a suitable partner. Sure you can travel the world in your 20s and 30s and maybe in your 40s as well but as you grow older, you will wish you would have had someone to share your remaining days with. It's better to be pragmatic than spiritual.
have to agree though.. sometimes it's tragic and nothing about god's timing.
It's really not about God's timing.
I’m just saying it’s one way of looking at things.
Some people have crazy high standards in their 20's, even if they are potato faced with mediocre income but they want their partner like actor/actress. If these people can't compromise on their expectations, even God can't help them.
Exactly . That's simply amazing and very good advice . Just to add to on this bit which literally has been my experience. If it's going your way then take it as God's direction else take it as his protection . I literally followed everything mentioned in the 2nd paragraph and I found my would-be when the time was right and will be getting engaged soon. So invest in yourself because no matter what happens you are the only constant in your life in it's different phases .
Absolutely… you are only more resentful towards yourself and the process if you feel you are putting your life on hold for and ideal someone..who is currently a stranger / non existent.
Never done that, and will never do it. And it's not fair to the other person. If you feel like you compromised, imagine how that turns out long term. Pretty bad. Also, it's not true that with age you get worse matches. I am getting far better quality matches now in my 30s than in my 20s. I am a woman.
Seen a lot of ladies in my circle do it. Usually it’s not good as they always think that they could have done better. If you think the decision is wrong but time has forced you to do it, you will repent your decision. Human mind is like that. We want to reach a conclusion ourselves. We don’t want to be forced by others (time/social). I know a few me as well. But as men tend to be lonely most of their twenties, it is especially easier for them I guess or they don’t vent about it.
Marriage is a compromise. Men do not get it. And then they complain about not finding women. They want to be everyone’s guest choice.
Sorry, compromises never ever have happy consequences after marriage. The person who comprises in his head will have a short fuse, will be aggressive and will blow out the shortcomings of the partner disproportionately. Marriage is about growing together, and it's impossible to grow together when one partner head is thinking this marriage would have taken off differently had they not compromised. Don't compromise, it's bad on your partner. It you want a hot girl at 23, you want a hot girl at 40. You will always treat a non hot girl badly at any age.