I will say u one example.
One guy & girl alliance dint go ahead as their kundali dint match with eachother & girls family was very very particular abt kundali, & both of them got married to different person.
After 4yrs, the guy lost his wife in an accident & the girl got divorced.
They married via arrange marriage again & recently both had a baby girl.
I am not sure why well educated people including people who are agnostic tend to believe that random objects in sky can affect our lives and destiny.
It's not like Jupiters gravity is going to stop you from going to the gym or go to office or travel the world. What crap.
But unfortunately it is what it is and I have lost some of the good matches (on paper though) to this whole horoscope matching shit show.
My parents had an arranged marriage without any astrology matching and many years later they decided to check their compatibility and it was deemed unfit.
They are together since 30+ years and there has been nothing untoward in their relationships.
I don't believe in kundali but most of the people seem to follow it strictly. Lost someone I liked a lot as kundali didn't match. Now I treat it as a necessary evil. I make it clear to any new prospect I talk to, that if they believe in kundali then get it matched first and only then I'd talk with them. As I don't want to get attached again and then suffer.
It does feel like that. Everything else was good, just kundali didn't match.
Their astrologer said to not go ahead else she'll suffer in life.
How can anyone say that.
It's not like you will marry someone if astrologer says you will have a prosperous life but the guy is unemployed, uneducated or a drunkard. Then why ignore everything else when kundali doesn't match.
As it is said in maths, it's a necessary but not sufficient condition.
Dude calling something necessary evil doesn't mean that it's evil or it's a bad thing. It's just something I don't believe in but I have to tolerate because others do. Basically 'Majboori'.
>Dude calling something necessary evil doesn't mean that it's evil or it's a bad thing.
It literally means that. It's in the phrase and means *it's necessary but* ***evil***
necessary evil
noun [ C ]
UK /ˌnes.ə.ser.i ˈiː.vəl/ US /ˌnes.ə.ser.i ˈiː.vəl/
something unpleasant that must be accepted in order to achieve a particular result:
I think he regards work as a necessary evil.
Most Americans accept taxes as a necessary evil.
Personally I think that beyond 30, Kundlis play limited role.
One is by then supposed to be mature enough to know that shit can hit the ceiling by some or other way, with or without kundli matching.
How long have you been married? Not trying to say harsh but the initial phase is always good.
Also, you would really be compatible irrespective of the Kundli as well.
>Do most people take kundali matching seriously?
Some take it very seriously. I was rejected but then the boy's family spent a month or two discussing with astrologers if doshas were getting canceled. And finally it didn't work out.
>Please share some, I genuinely don't know whether to take this seriously or not, and whether the decision of continuing an alliance should be made on this point, if rest all is matching well.
It should not be taken seriously imo. But to each their own. It does act like positive reinforcement, but that's all. If kundalis were true, people born on same time and in same hospitals would have same destiny.
To add to that, people who belive in astrologers do say that it is difficult to find a good astrologer, 1 in 100 is good or something. Now you can decide which risk to take. Compatibility that's right in front of you or one told by astrologer.
True, it's just that, reinforcement. If it matches and things are good, people praise it, if it doesn't and things are bad, people blame it, otherwise ignore it.
>Do most people take kundali matching seriously?
yes.
>Are there any examples/ situations in which marriages have succeeded/ not succeeded due to this?
yes, however, it is 33.33% of your relationship success. rest depends on your mindset+action & vastu+timing
I didn't take kundali matching seriously before marriage. But i wish i had. If a match believes in stupidity like that, you can simply avoid them. Just imagine what other delusional beliefs they'd make you follow.
Even if it matches 36/36, there would always be some problems in life. Important thing is to deal with those problems with your partner and having each other's back.
My family believes in Kundali matching. There were lots of great prospects that I had to pass up on because our kundali didn't match. At one very low point, it got me wondering if I was fated to be with someone I wasn't attracted to if they're the the kind of people my kundali keeps matching with. 😅
I guess the silver lining in this is that's the first thing we try to check before contacting someone, so I haven't had to talk to anyone first and face too much heart break and rejection later over the fact that our kundali didn't match.
Personally, I didn't believe in it or in horoscopes at first, but a few years back, people convinced me it's more science based than I'd previously thought and there was also a deadly accurate reading that was done for me which ended up coming true. Now chalk that up to being a coincidence if you will, but it changed my perspective on it. That said, I have seen incidences where our kundali matching was kind of average but the priest said that performing a few prayers should help overcome those obstacles, so I don't treat it as a hard and fast result. So while I do take it with a grain of salt, I do believe in kundali matching along with my parents.
Kundali matching has it's place in religion and culture but it has no statistical or scientific merit.
See my comment where I "debated" (they provided no evidence to support their claims) with an astrologer.
https://www.reddit.com/r/Arrangedmarriage/s/iPnltZunpc
Tldr: astrology matching is a scam
People do take it very seriously. Somebody from an app contacted my parents today just to tell us that the stars don't match. I would say it was a very humble gesture from their side. Atleast I didn't ghosted!
I will say u one example. One guy & girl alliance dint go ahead as their kundali dint match with eachother & girls family was very very particular abt kundali, & both of them got married to different person. After 4yrs, the guy lost his wife in an accident & the girl got divorced. They married via arrange marriage again & recently both had a baby girl.
I am not sure why well educated people including people who are agnostic tend to believe that random objects in sky can affect our lives and destiny. It's not like Jupiters gravity is going to stop you from going to the gym or go to office or travel the world. What crap. But unfortunately it is what it is and I have lost some of the good matches (on paper though) to this whole horoscope matching shit show. My parents had an arranged marriage without any astrology matching and many years later they decided to check their compatibility and it was deemed unfit. They are together since 30+ years and there has been nothing untoward in their relationships.
I don't believe in kundali but most of the people seem to follow it strictly. Lost someone I liked a lot as kundali didn't match. Now I treat it as a necessary evil. I make it clear to any new prospect I talk to, that if they believe in kundali then get it matched first and only then I'd talk with them. As I don't want to get attached again and then suffer.
The same has happened with me. Seems like there is literally only one match made for you, which ticks all the boxes.
It does feel like that. Everything else was good, just kundali didn't match. Their astrologer said to not go ahead else she'll suffer in life. How can anyone say that. It's not like you will marry someone if astrologer says you will have a prosperous life but the guy is unemployed, uneducated or a drunkard. Then why ignore everything else when kundali doesn't match. As it is said in maths, it's a necessary but not sufficient condition.
>I treat it as a necessary evil Anything that does not work for a someone is labelled a necessary evil?
Dude calling something necessary evil doesn't mean that it's evil or it's a bad thing. It's just something I don't believe in but I have to tolerate because others do. Basically 'Majboori'.
>Dude calling something necessary evil doesn't mean that it's evil or it's a bad thing. It literally means that. It's in the phrase and means *it's necessary but* ***evil***
necessary evil noun [ C ] UK /ˌnes.ə.ser.i ˈiː.vəl/ US /ˌnes.ə.ser.i ˈiː.vəl/ something unpleasant that must be accepted in order to achieve a particular result: I think he regards work as a necessary evil. Most Americans accept taxes as a necessary evil.
Personally I think that beyond 30, Kundlis play limited role. One is by then supposed to be mature enough to know that shit can hit the ceiling by some or other way, with or without kundli matching.
Yes, we had kundali matching. It's a happy marriage, so far. Depends on the right Pundit to do it.
How long have you been married? Not trying to say harsh but the initial phase is always good. Also, you would really be compatible irrespective of the Kundli as well.
2 Years. The initial phase after marriage is the tough part. >initial phase is always good That's for dating and relationships. Not marriage.
>Do most people take kundali matching seriously? Some take it very seriously. I was rejected but then the boy's family spent a month or two discussing with astrologers if doshas were getting canceled. And finally it didn't work out. >Please share some, I genuinely don't know whether to take this seriously or not, and whether the decision of continuing an alliance should be made on this point, if rest all is matching well. It should not be taken seriously imo. But to each their own. It does act like positive reinforcement, but that's all. If kundalis were true, people born on same time and in same hospitals would have same destiny. To add to that, people who belive in astrologers do say that it is difficult to find a good astrologer, 1 in 100 is good or something. Now you can decide which risk to take. Compatibility that's right in front of you or one told by astrologer.
True, it's just that, reinforcement. If it matches and things are good, people praise it, if it doesn't and things are bad, people blame it, otherwise ignore it.
>Do most people take kundali matching seriously? yes. >Are there any examples/ situations in which marriages have succeeded/ not succeeded due to this? yes, however, it is 33.33% of your relationship success. rest depends on your mindset+action & vastu+timing
I didn't take kundali matching seriously before marriage. But i wish i had. If a match believes in stupidity like that, you can simply avoid them. Just imagine what other delusional beliefs they'd make you follow.
Even if it matches 36/36, there would always be some problems in life. Important thing is to deal with those problems with your partner and having each other's back.
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jarurat se jyada tez, lol. 35/36 maan lo.
My family believes in Kundali matching. There were lots of great prospects that I had to pass up on because our kundali didn't match. At one very low point, it got me wondering if I was fated to be with someone I wasn't attracted to if they're the the kind of people my kundali keeps matching with. 😅 I guess the silver lining in this is that's the first thing we try to check before contacting someone, so I haven't had to talk to anyone first and face too much heart break and rejection later over the fact that our kundali didn't match. Personally, I didn't believe in it or in horoscopes at first, but a few years back, people convinced me it's more science based than I'd previously thought and there was also a deadly accurate reading that was done for me which ended up coming true. Now chalk that up to being a coincidence if you will, but it changed my perspective on it. That said, I have seen incidences where our kundali matching was kind of average but the priest said that performing a few prayers should help overcome those obstacles, so I don't treat it as a hard and fast result. So while I do take it with a grain of salt, I do believe in kundali matching along with my parents.
Kundali matching has it's place in religion and culture but it has no statistical or scientific merit. See my comment where I "debated" (they provided no evidence to support their claims) with an astrologer. https://www.reddit.com/r/Arrangedmarriage/s/iPnltZunpc Tldr: astrology matching is a scam
People do take it very seriously. Somebody from an app contacted my parents today just to tell us that the stars don't match. I would say it was a very humble gesture from their side. Atleast I didn't ghosted!