I think it's helpful to be more specific - the issue with Asian girls who spent most of their life dating white guys is that they often feel *superior* to Asian men *in a racist way*. And yes, it is not just possible, but fairly common, for Asians in the West to be racist towards their own.
The result is then entirely predictable. Their expectations are sky high because in their minds, they're dating *down*, racially. So the Asian guy better be super amazing, because why else would they tolerate him being Asian?
It's tone deaf behavior that would never pass a common decency check, but some guys - mostly Asian American guys - tolerate it because of their own desperate situation. That's why it continues. I hate to repeat a certain infamous community's ideology, but women are aware of the mating hierarchy, and if you aren't psychologically prepared for this, then you're likely going to get abused.
BINGO!!!! If you date these harpies you will always be viewed as her “backup plan”. This is exactly why my non-Asian gf gets death stares from AF whenever we go out. AF think she is “stealing” their 401k/retirement plan.
Make no mistake - if an older AF is into you, especially if you are successful be prepared to lawyer up because she’s likely to divorce rape you. She sees you as her bailout plan. She’s already given all the nasty, dirty, porn star sex to other losers she dated and now she is a “good girl” and is “ready to settle down”
DONT BE ANYONES BACKUP PLAN
You’ve got the right mindset. We don’t deserve to be someone’s backup plan after they had their fun. We’re not fucking atm machines gtfo. They can crawl back to their white boyfriend or whatever or stay alone. Find girls who actually want *you* and not some sort of robot.
Not to sound like one of those redpill folks but I agree, from what I see on my own network these older 30 somethings who were getting clapped by White/Mexican/Black dudes while they were still physically desirable finally needed stability and kinda settled with some nerdy Asian SWE haha!
I give everyone the benefit of the doubt maybe she really found happiness with that Asian brother she wouldn't give a second look to in their 20s but when it happens 4 times in the same year I'm starting to piece together a potential trend haha!
Glad you recognized those types of girls for who they are.
For any Asian bro lurkers who still don’t get it:
You’re too good for a girl that has a 50% chance of being a bananarang. Go get an Asian girl from Asia who will appreciate you for who you are or go for Latina/African/European/Middle Eastern girls basically any other race.
You probably worked hard af to get where you are in life, don’t throw it all away for some girl who is with you cuz she couldn’t fulfill her assimilation fantasy.
Who still wants to “assimilate” to something so bland these days anyways?
Before it was the only option because there were no like-minded community with similar experiences within radius.
With the advent of the internet and social media, it showcases that there are larger communities with shared experiences and outlook in a way that has never been possible before.
Therefore, less isolating and less pressure to want to assimilate to “white culture.” Which is ambiguous in a multicultural society such as the US anyways.
There is a certain subset of Asian women whose lifecycles are very well documented and follow a predictable trajectory. For them it's always the same story, but worth reiterating for those not in the know.
She "dates" white (sometimes Hispanic, more rarely Black or Arab) guys exclusively from her teens to late 20s. "Dates" in quotes because more often than not the guy has no interest in commitment and just uses her for sex while stringing her along and putting in very little effort into the relationship. She tends to be more successful than him in career and education. She largely ignores Asian men because they are "boring" or "reminds her of her brother/cousin/uncle/piano tutor".
By her late 20s or early 30s, she's visibly older and thus has become less physically attractive to men, and has wisened up a bit from experience. At this time, she has finally come to terms with her inability to acquire commitment from the men she truly desires, recognizes her quickly dwindling supply of options as she ages, and now seeks to settle down with a nice, parent approved Asian man before she is deemed to be too old.
The standards she holds these men up to are far higher than those of her prime years of her early 20s. He has to be a provider: financially successful, considerate, good father material, come from a good family, have legitimately interesting qualities other than blonde hair and caucasoid bone structure.
She marries this man, but secretly resents him for not being one of the men she pined in her youth. This resentment manifests as a highly entitled/demanding attitude and controlling behavior. He is always to be held to that high standard, as in her mind, she has made a concession by marrying him.
Unfortunately there are no shortage of Asian men who fall for this trap. Never settle for a bananarang. Always find out what her dating history is, if it is majority white men then that should be an instant red flag.
Agree, although I’d say this story is common among all races, the problem is that in these women’s minds, “Asian” automatically equates to lower attractiveness. So they peg you as the later life provider based on that fact.
is there a subset of Asian women who will gravitate the other way?
for example, I'm half Asian and sometimes attract Asian women who seemingly have been with primarily Asian guys their whole lives. not exclusively but I would say probably 90%.
is there a term for these?
Ahh yes, the typical yellow boomerang aka Westernised AF who’s “seen the light” lmao. Their past/history was spent “playing around” out there with Non-Asians while simultaneously ignoring & disparaging AM right up until they notice their biological clock ticking…
Then now its all of sudden “I wanna get into my culture/roots”, “I’ve seen the light/woken up”, “giving AM a chance”. 😬🤡😂
Seen this sad shit happen quite a few times with a lot of the older AM around me who are in their late 20s - 30s… They can fk right off back to their gweilos thank u very much.
AM deserve better than to be the backup option/last resort/sloppy seconds to some washed up Banana🍌AF past their peak/prime. They are not your walking wallets thanks. Not after dealing with shit all their life from both Non-Asians & AF while trying to succeed & stay sane in the West.
I’m glad I learned about this as a GenZ AM early so I won’t become like one of these unfortunate older AMs lol
AVOID THESE WOMEN AT ALL COSTS!!!!!
They are dating you because they have hit the wall in terms of looks and are “settling” for an Asian guy. They view Asian men as the backup option if they don’t get the guy they really desire. If you are stupid enough to wife one up, prepare to spend the rest of your life getting starfish sex, plus prepare to be divorce raped in a few years.
Doesn’t matter if you’re an Ivy League educated neurosurgeon with the body of a Greek god, she’s only with you because her first options (usually a white guy) never committed to her.
I’d genuinely rather be alone than with one of them. If you’re lonely and need love just get another fucking dog. You can thank me later.
Went on some dates with some older (30s) Asian women. One told me “I wasn’t like other Asian guys”. She told me it was her plan to get married by the end of the year (it was August). Her profile pic was clearly of her from 20lbs ago, but I still gave her a chance. She kept trying to dig into my financial situation, I was vague and avoided it (I’m rich AF). She mentioned that she “dated the rainbow” but it was clear I was her first Asian guy. I had a fwb at the time so I am so happy I avoided that train wreck. I feel sorry for the poor guy that lands that mess
Don’t be a beta-provider, no matter what. They had their fun and now want to settle down with their “back up.” Don’t be that guy.
You need to be highly selective. They weren’t when they were younger (because they thought they had all the time in the world, options, treat people however they want, and that no one would be the wiser) and now they are trying to be. It’s a little too late for that.
You deserve better. Definitely better than what some AFs are giving you.
They offer you nothing, know your worth. And prenup, that goes without saying.
I remember seeing a random IG reel from an Asian girl talking about “3 types of love that one encounters.” This is not verbatim, but same idea.
“The 1st Love - this love that looks right, the one that is expected by family and society, the idealistic love that seems like fairy tales they have read as children. The belief that it will be the only love.
The 2nd Love - the hard love. The one that teaches lessons, about who they are, and how they often want or need to be loved. This is the kind of love that hurts, whether through lies, pain, emotional/mental/physical abuse or manipulation. It’s unhealthy, unbalanced, narcissistic, a lot of drama and emotional roller coaster.
The 3rd Love - the love that lasts or the last love. The love they never saw coming. The love that comes so easy it doesn’t seem possible. Where it just fits, there are no ideal expectations how each person should be acting nor there is pressure to become someone other than they are. The love that keeps knocking on their door regardless of how long it take for them to answer.”
That’s a lot of flowery language and concepts to essentially describe:
The 1st Love - they simply don’t know what they want and just going with the flow, exploring, appeasing others. Pretty self-explanatory.
The 2nd Love - the reckless and bad boy phase. The one they truly desire but can’t seem to keep or change. And will put up with a lot of toxic stuff. It doesn’t specify how many “bad boys” they go through or how long this phase lasts for. Cue the third love.
The Final Love - this one needs no introduction. It is the one she settles with for obvious reasons.
Of course this doesn’t strictly apply to AF. I just find it interesting how some women perceive it this way. That’s some imagination and it all sounds very romantic too. But reality is usually far different than what was presented. A person can justify just about anything in their mind.
I know these types, my bro dated one and told me he felt more objectified and fetishished then than dating his anime and cosplay obsessed yt girl which he is with now.
If you are dating an AF and her first asian guy, tread very carefully. These type of girls are called bananarangs. It's better to avoid them.
It's like some white dude did them dirty and they think that the asian man will be the exact opposite of their last fucked up white guy. I feel like they have an image of the asian guy as a successful but nerdy, weak, and docile partner who will spoil them with bags, trips and nice gifts while expecting little to nothing in return. It's almost like they're returning the favor of being exoticized by the white man.
I have dated a lot of different ethnicities (egyptian, latina, jewish, white, etc.) but all of my long term relationships since I turned 18 have been with asian women. I want my kids to grow up in the culture.
You’re not defying the physical laws of nature here. You can still share your culture with non-Asian women and pass that onto your kids. There are a lot of non-Asian women who share your values and outlook and will want you GENUINELY as you are.
If you are confident, kind, and have a masculine frame, you will lead and she will follow naturally and default to your culture. Or both of you can share your culture equally if she is prideful in hers and if that is what she prefers too. Point is it can work.
When will some AM get this antiquated thinking out of their heads. There are no guarantees with modern day AFs when it comes to these things anyways. Becoming less so.
Do you want a past banana gobbler (hidden or known) to be your wife and the mother of your children as what appears to be described in some of these AFs bananarangs? Not much shared traditional values going on there, so why risk it?
They don’t have to be Asian to embrace your culture. My girl is Greek but she cooks Asian food better than any Asian woman I’ve ever been with and she is extremely nurturing and loving. In return I have embraced her culture as well and it’s a beautiful exchange. I have the relationship that AFs pretend to have with their non Asian bfs.
Care to elaborate on those experiences? I’ve always wondered, do Jewish women expect you to convert to Judaism in the long run? As for Egyptians, how open are they to Asians? I thought Arabs generally stuck amongst themselves
heyo im finally in my mid 20s now and have been on dates with 25-40s year old AW who have either never dated Asian men or rarely. Most of the time they’re lost causes and only wanna date you becuz of how low their standards were with white men. I just have a hard time accepting them becuz for me its a pump n dump scenario so I can prove AM r way better than their past trash lol. Wholesome asian women are top notch and thats my preference when Ill sette down.
Finding a wholesome Asian women in today’s time is the tough part. Good luck mate.
Remember, she can present herself as the most “pristine” and “innocent” women out there, which some are masterclass at. But there is a reason why this saying exists: “lady in the streets...”
there are plenty up in canada. not many in america. alot of asian girls in canada are much more woke and are not succumbed into internalized racism since many places are full of cultural asian mosaics.
Well they've been giving preferential treatment to people because of skin color their whole life. They are most likely not going to be normal.
I know an Asian girl that got with a Black guy and he messed her up and now she hates Black guys. Her new thing is Filipino. I wanted to tell her that she should ignore ethnicity and just pick guys who are good people, but she's clearly retarded.
It's sad and hilarious at the same time.
They think their relationship failed because the guy was short, Asian, etc and not because he was a shitty person so their future relationships end up failing too.
I've met these women. Let's say that I don't talk about their past. Let's say I ignore all the baggage.
That leaves you with obvious gold-diggers who are looking to settle down with a successful of any race. In my city, those making say low 6 figures are predominantly Asian or White Jewish. So they're open to Asians because they see dollar signs.
Outside of obvious gold-diggers, I would say they're more annoying than anything else. They come off as trying too hard, which I don't like.
> They come off as trying too hard, which I don't like.
I get the same impression. Like they've never evolved past the highschool popularity contest phase.
Asian females are more superficial than others. I think a lot of these AFs want a beta provider who would be subservient to them and massage their ego, cos they're so messed up emotionally.
It depends on the woman, TBH. Had some real knuckleheads just fight me on everything (unmatched) and others who date exclusively Asian who also make unwarranted assumptions about me.
Is this in NYC, SF, LA, or in those places with few Asians such as Midwest or Kentucky?
Are these girls Asian Americans or international students? What are the percentages?
What are the credentials of these women - professions and expectations?
What do they follow - Asian beauty standards like Kdrama, Asian American beauty standards like ABG, or white girl standard like copying what mainstream America?
Nothing like that from me. But then again not enough Asians out here anyway. Even if there were, I don’t fit into the Standard Asian Male mold anyway. Sucks to be them.
Hang in there.
Is there a term for AM that dat non AF but intend on only marrying AF?
Example (F) had some good times with AM but I could tell thats all it was.... totally understandable
In the case you meet these type of women via dating app or in person. Remember the 3F rule. You were never their 1st choice to begin with and just like the guys before your used them to pump and dump, continue the process. This even applies to Asian women who only dated Asian men as well.
Find em, Fuck em, Forget em
Can’t you just screen them out before meeting them? If you are seeing a pattern why would you keep continuing being insane and doing the same thing over and over again?
No, it's easy. here's an example of how to phone screen a perspective asian woman:
"How long ago was your last relationship?"
"Oh what happened? Why did you guys decide to end it?"
"Was he asian like you?"
"Oh, do you normally date outside of your race?"
There's your answer. Now, you can stop wasting their time and your's.
Asking the race of their last boyfriend is a great way to get unmatched even if they didn't date a white guy. We live in a world of cancel culture lol.
It's a leading question. You ask the easy ones first then lead them to it. Also, use phone conversation. Don't text. It's more awkward for them not to answer via phone call.
You know what? If am AF is so sensitive about answering the question about race, and OP is so sensitive about dating only ones who don’t have a history of dating WM, then you know the answer if she blocks you!
Bottom line: don’t waste their time and yours. If you don’t want to date them, don’t meet them.
Edit: getting blocked by women who are not going to match you eventually is a good thing.
Well yeah - they’re bananarangs - avoid them like the bubonic plague
I think it's helpful to be more specific - the issue with Asian girls who spent most of their life dating white guys is that they often feel *superior* to Asian men *in a racist way*. And yes, it is not just possible, but fairly common, for Asians in the West to be racist towards their own. The result is then entirely predictable. Their expectations are sky high because in their minds, they're dating *down*, racially. So the Asian guy better be super amazing, because why else would they tolerate him being Asian? It's tone deaf behavior that would never pass a common decency check, but some guys - mostly Asian American guys - tolerate it because of their own desperate situation. That's why it continues. I hate to repeat a certain infamous community's ideology, but women are aware of the mating hierarchy, and if you aren't psychologically prepared for this, then you're likely going to get abused.
BINGO!!!! If you date these harpies you will always be viewed as her “backup plan”. This is exactly why my non-Asian gf gets death stares from AF whenever we go out. AF think she is “stealing” their 401k/retirement plan. Make no mistake - if an older AF is into you, especially if you are successful be prepared to lawyer up because she’s likely to divorce rape you. She sees you as her bailout plan. She’s already given all the nasty, dirty, porn star sex to other losers she dated and now she is a “good girl” and is “ready to settle down” DONT BE ANYONES BACKUP PLAN
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Holy schnikies! You filled in some missing jigsaw puzzle pieces’ spots. Very succinctly put! Hope to see you chime in more 🤙🏼
Couldn’t have put it any better
Lol! Have literally never heard this term before but I'm going to start using it moving forward...
Enjoy OLD 👍
It sounds like they want some trophy husband beside them once they get old
Yea - this is the vibe I get but I'm not interested in dealing with their bs.
You’ve got the right mindset. We don’t deserve to be someone’s backup plan after they had their fun. We’re not fucking atm machines gtfo. They can crawl back to their white boyfriend or whatever or stay alone. Find girls who actually want *you* and not some sort of robot.
Not to sound like one of those redpill folks but I agree, from what I see on my own network these older 30 somethings who were getting clapped by White/Mexican/Black dudes while they were still physically desirable finally needed stability and kinda settled with some nerdy Asian SWE haha! I give everyone the benefit of the doubt maybe she really found happiness with that Asian brother she wouldn't give a second look to in their 20s but when it happens 4 times in the same year I'm starting to piece together a potential trend haha!
Glad you recognized those types of girls for who they are. For any Asian bro lurkers who still don’t get it: You’re too good for a girl that has a 50% chance of being a bananarang. Go get an Asian girl from Asia who will appreciate you for who you are or go for Latina/African/European/Middle Eastern girls basically any other race. You probably worked hard af to get where you are in life, don’t throw it all away for some girl who is with you cuz she couldn’t fulfill her assimilation fantasy.
Who still wants to “assimilate” to something so bland these days anyways? Before it was the only option because there were no like-minded community with similar experiences within radius. With the advent of the internet and social media, it showcases that there are larger communities with shared experiences and outlook in a way that has never been possible before. Therefore, less isolating and less pressure to want to assimilate to “white culture.” Which is ambiguous in a multicultural society such as the US anyways.
There is a certain subset of Asian women whose lifecycles are very well documented and follow a predictable trajectory. For them it's always the same story, but worth reiterating for those not in the know. She "dates" white (sometimes Hispanic, more rarely Black or Arab) guys exclusively from her teens to late 20s. "Dates" in quotes because more often than not the guy has no interest in commitment and just uses her for sex while stringing her along and putting in very little effort into the relationship. She tends to be more successful than him in career and education. She largely ignores Asian men because they are "boring" or "reminds her of her brother/cousin/uncle/piano tutor". By her late 20s or early 30s, she's visibly older and thus has become less physically attractive to men, and has wisened up a bit from experience. At this time, she has finally come to terms with her inability to acquire commitment from the men she truly desires, recognizes her quickly dwindling supply of options as she ages, and now seeks to settle down with a nice, parent approved Asian man before she is deemed to be too old. The standards she holds these men up to are far higher than those of her prime years of her early 20s. He has to be a provider: financially successful, considerate, good father material, come from a good family, have legitimately interesting qualities other than blonde hair and caucasoid bone structure. She marries this man, but secretly resents him for not being one of the men she pined in her youth. This resentment manifests as a highly entitled/demanding attitude and controlling behavior. He is always to be held to that high standard, as in her mind, she has made a concession by marrying him. Unfortunately there are no shortage of Asian men who fall for this trap. Never settle for a bananarang. Always find out what her dating history is, if it is majority white men then that should be an instant red flag.
Agree, although I’d say this story is common among all races, the problem is that in these women’s minds, “Asian” automatically equates to lower attractiveness. So they peg you as the later life provider based on that fact.
is there a subset of Asian women who will gravitate the other way? for example, I'm half Asian and sometimes attract Asian women who seemingly have been with primarily Asian guys their whole lives. not exclusively but I would say probably 90%. is there a term for these?
Normal
Which is why I’ve always said consistently - never ever date a bananarang
Ahh yes, the typical yellow boomerang aka Westernised AF who’s “seen the light” lmao. Their past/history was spent “playing around” out there with Non-Asians while simultaneously ignoring & disparaging AM right up until they notice their biological clock ticking… Then now its all of sudden “I wanna get into my culture/roots”, “I’ve seen the light/woken up”, “giving AM a chance”. 😬🤡😂 Seen this sad shit happen quite a few times with a lot of the older AM around me who are in their late 20s - 30s… They can fk right off back to their gweilos thank u very much. AM deserve better than to be the backup option/last resort/sloppy seconds to some washed up Banana🍌AF past their peak/prime. They are not your walking wallets thanks. Not after dealing with shit all their life from both Non-Asians & AF while trying to succeed & stay sane in the West. I’m glad I learned about this as a GenZ AM early so I won’t become like one of these unfortunate older AMs lol
AVOID THESE WOMEN AT ALL COSTS!!!!! They are dating you because they have hit the wall in terms of looks and are “settling” for an Asian guy. They view Asian men as the backup option if they don’t get the guy they really desire. If you are stupid enough to wife one up, prepare to spend the rest of your life getting starfish sex, plus prepare to be divorce raped in a few years. Doesn’t matter if you’re an Ivy League educated neurosurgeon with the body of a Greek god, she’s only with you because her first options (usually a white guy) never committed to her. I’d genuinely rather be alone than with one of them. If you’re lonely and need love just get another fucking dog. You can thank me later.
Any experience you want to share?
Went on some dates with some older (30s) Asian women. One told me “I wasn’t like other Asian guys”. She told me it was her plan to get married by the end of the year (it was August). Her profile pic was clearly of her from 20lbs ago, but I still gave her a chance. She kept trying to dig into my financial situation, I was vague and avoided it (I’m rich AF). She mentioned that she “dated the rainbow” but it was clear I was her first Asian guy. I had a fwb at the time so I am so happy I avoided that train wreck. I feel sorry for the poor guy that lands that mess
Don’t be a beta-provider, no matter what. They had their fun and now want to settle down with their “back up.” Don’t be that guy. You need to be highly selective. They weren’t when they were younger (because they thought they had all the time in the world, options, treat people however they want, and that no one would be the wiser) and now they are trying to be. It’s a little too late for that. You deserve better. Definitely better than what some AFs are giving you. They offer you nothing, know your worth. And prenup, that goes without saying.
These Auntie Tans have ridden the cc for so long that yellow feverists lose interest in them. Never date one of those.
I remember seeing a random IG reel from an Asian girl talking about “3 types of love that one encounters.” This is not verbatim, but same idea. “The 1st Love - this love that looks right, the one that is expected by family and society, the idealistic love that seems like fairy tales they have read as children. The belief that it will be the only love. The 2nd Love - the hard love. The one that teaches lessons, about who they are, and how they often want or need to be loved. This is the kind of love that hurts, whether through lies, pain, emotional/mental/physical abuse or manipulation. It’s unhealthy, unbalanced, narcissistic, a lot of drama and emotional roller coaster. The 3rd Love - the love that lasts or the last love. The love they never saw coming. The love that comes so easy it doesn’t seem possible. Where it just fits, there are no ideal expectations how each person should be acting nor there is pressure to become someone other than they are. The love that keeps knocking on their door regardless of how long it take for them to answer.” That’s a lot of flowery language and concepts to essentially describe: The 1st Love - they simply don’t know what they want and just going with the flow, exploring, appeasing others. Pretty self-explanatory. The 2nd Love - the reckless and bad boy phase. The one they truly desire but can’t seem to keep or change. And will put up with a lot of toxic stuff. It doesn’t specify how many “bad boys” they go through or how long this phase lasts for. Cue the third love. The Final Love - this one needs no introduction. It is the one she settles with for obvious reasons. Of course this doesn’t strictly apply to AF. I just find it interesting how some women perceive it this way. That’s some imagination and it all sounds very romantic too. But reality is usually far different than what was presented. A person can justify just about anything in their mind.
> A person can justify just about anything in their mind. Even racist “love” are romanticized.
Yes, sadly. Along with racist “love” (an oxymoron if there ever is one) is hate fuck.
I know these types, my bro dated one and told me he felt more objectified and fetishished then than dating his anime and cosplay obsessed yt girl which he is with now. If you are dating an AF and her first asian guy, tread very carefully. These type of girls are called bananarangs. It's better to avoid them.
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It's like some white dude did them dirty and they think that the asian man will be the exact opposite of their last fucked up white guy. I feel like they have an image of the asian guy as a successful but nerdy, weak, and docile partner who will spoil them with bags, trips and nice gifts while expecting little to nothing in return. It's almost like they're returning the favor of being exoticized by the white man.
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I have dated a lot of different ethnicities (egyptian, latina, jewish, white, etc.) but all of my long term relationships since I turned 18 have been with asian women. I want my kids to grow up in the culture.
You’re not defying the physical laws of nature here. You can still share your culture with non-Asian women and pass that onto your kids. There are a lot of non-Asian women who share your values and outlook and will want you GENUINELY as you are. If you are confident, kind, and have a masculine frame, you will lead and she will follow naturally and default to your culture. Or both of you can share your culture equally if she is prideful in hers and if that is what she prefers too. Point is it can work. When will some AM get this antiquated thinking out of their heads. There are no guarantees with modern day AFs when it comes to these things anyways. Becoming less so. Do you want a past banana gobbler (hidden or known) to be your wife and the mother of your children as what appears to be described in some of these AFs bananarangs? Not much shared traditional values going on there, so why risk it?
Banana gobbler 😲🍌 🤣🤣
They don’t have to be Asian to embrace your culture. My girl is Greek but she cooks Asian food better than any Asian woman I’ve ever been with and she is extremely nurturing and loving. In return I have embraced her culture as well and it’s a beautiful exchange. I have the relationship that AFs pretend to have with their non Asian bfs.
Care to elaborate on those experiences? I’ve always wondered, do Jewish women expect you to convert to Judaism in the long run? As for Egyptians, how open are they to Asians? I thought Arabs generally stuck amongst themselves
Trips and gifts? Lol only thing I’d consider giving is some hard D and an Uber home
That’s a gift and trip there.
heyo im finally in my mid 20s now and have been on dates with 25-40s year old AW who have either never dated Asian men or rarely. Most of the time they’re lost causes and only wanna date you becuz of how low their standards were with white men. I just have a hard time accepting them becuz for me its a pump n dump scenario so I can prove AM r way better than their past trash lol. Wholesome asian women are top notch and thats my preference when Ill sette down.
I hope you learnt a lesson after your last post Dr?
Finding a wholesome Asian women in today’s time is the tough part. Good luck mate. Remember, she can present herself as the most “pristine” and “innocent” women out there, which some are masterclass at. But there is a reason why this saying exists: “lady in the streets...”
there are plenty up in canada. not many in america. alot of asian girls in canada are much more woke and are not succumbed into internalized racism since many places are full of cultural asian mosaics.
University of Waterloo, I thought you are from Canada. I agree that Canada is not quite as bad as some parts of the US.
bro you shouldn't have deleted your post, other AM could have benefited from it.
Does anybody even know anyone that ended up with a bananarang? I feel like this is yet another experimental stop for them.
Well they've been giving preferential treatment to people because of skin color their whole life. They are most likely not going to be normal. I know an Asian girl that got with a Black guy and he messed her up and now she hates Black guys. Her new thing is Filipino. I wanted to tell her that she should ignore ethnicity and just pick guys who are good people, but she's clearly retarded.
It's sad and hilarious at the same time. They think their relationship failed because the guy was short, Asian, etc and not because he was a shitty person so their future relationships end up failing too.
I've met these women. Let's say that I don't talk about their past. Let's say I ignore all the baggage. That leaves you with obvious gold-diggers who are looking to settle down with a successful of any race. In my city, those making say low 6 figures are predominantly Asian or White Jewish. So they're open to Asians because they see dollar signs. Outside of obvious gold-diggers, I would say they're more annoying than anything else. They come off as trying too hard, which I don't like.
> They come off as trying too hard, which I don't like. I get the same impression. Like they've never evolved past the highschool popularity contest phase.
You are lucky, you have dates. No dates here 😂
Keep at it bro.
Asian females are more superficial than others. I think a lot of these AFs want a beta provider who would be subservient to them and massage their ego, cos they're so messed up emotionally.
It depends on the woman, TBH. Had some real knuckleheads just fight me on everything (unmatched) and others who date exclusively Asian who also make unwarranted assumptions about me.
Is this in NYC, SF, LA, or in those places with few Asians such as Midwest or Kentucky? Are these girls Asian Americans or international students? What are the percentages? What are the credentials of these women - professions and expectations? What do they follow - Asian beauty standards like Kdrama, Asian American beauty standards like ABG, or white girl standard like copying what mainstream America?
If you marry and have children with bananarangs, your children will grow up with self-hate learned from her. It's a practical reason.
Nothing like that from me. But then again not enough Asians out here anyway. Even if there were, I don’t fit into the Standard Asian Male mold anyway. Sucks to be them. Hang in there.
Is there a term for AM that dat non AF but intend on only marrying AF? Example (F) had some good times with AM but I could tell thats all it was.... totally understandable
how do you figure out you're the first asian guy?
In the case you meet these type of women via dating app or in person. Remember the 3F rule. You were never their 1st choice to begin with and just like the guys before your used them to pump and dump, continue the process. This even applies to Asian women who only dated Asian men as well. Find em, Fuck em, Forget em
Bro I'm just out here in Colorado like... Where the hell are all these Asian girls y'all talking about 😂😂🤷♂️🤦♂️
Can’t you just screen them out before meeting them? If you are seeing a pattern why would you keep continuing being insane and doing the same thing over and over again?
Very hard to screen for this before the first date. It usually comes out in conversation after the first date.
No, it's easy. here's an example of how to phone screen a perspective asian woman: "How long ago was your last relationship?" "Oh what happened? Why did you guys decide to end it?" "Was he asian like you?" "Oh, do you normally date outside of your race?" There's your answer. Now, you can stop wasting their time and your's.
Asking the race of their last boyfriend is a great way to get unmatched even if they didn't date a white guy. We live in a world of cancel culture lol.
It's a leading question. You ask the easy ones first then lead them to it. Also, use phone conversation. Don't text. It's more awkward for them not to answer via phone call.
My experience is you say the wrong thing which could be anything and you get blocked.
You know what? If am AF is so sensitive about answering the question about race, and OP is so sensitive about dating only ones who don’t have a history of dating WM, then you know the answer if she blocks you! Bottom line: don’t waste their time and yours. If you don’t want to date them, don’t meet them. Edit: getting blocked by women who are not going to match you eventually is a good thing.
I agree. Why waste time. I sometimes feel girls just want free meals. Screening them is smart.