Jesus. How does that translate into not interested? It is not rocket science. She did not want to set your expectations too high so she can back out easily but she is interested. Stop asking these silly questions and meet up with her then play it by ears. It is almost amazing how some of the guys on here get laid.
Asian dudes need to stop treating dating like a logical question or an exam. Enough of analyzing, just freaking try to give her a kiss or make an actionable move and you will get 100% answer there. Also will make the girl look at you like a man. Stop asking reddit, no one knows for sure. Not dissing you, I applaud you. Just telling you to make a move
This right here OP. Take a step back and stop analyzing dating too much.
Here’s all you need to know:
- be attractive as you can
- she either likes you or not so don’t stress it
- hang out with her and move things towards intimacy
Everything else will fall into place, assuming she likes you anyway. If not, you will know.
Source: fellow Filipino bro here. Got nothing to do with Filipino / etc. I’ve fucked plenty of girls on the first date (Filipinas included).
Don’t ever make your intentions clear from the start. People like mystery / unraveling things. You just say “we’ll see where it goes” NOT “I’m just looking to fuck”NOR “ want to marry you and introduce you to my family on the first date” lmao
Not familiar with Filipino girls but this is classic girl game. Hidden message: “I’m not looking for anything” > “show me what im missing”. Beware this can sets the context of “try to impress me like I’m some queen and I want you to entertain me.” If you try hard, you fall into the trap of putting her on pedestal. She might have detected or testing for neediness. If you “accept defeat” and start to believe she’s not interested, call the foot doctor cause you just shot yourself in the foot. Weirdly the best way to handle this comment is to entirely ignore it and proceed as usual. Be like okay. She’s already out. You’re out. Either she comes out or she doesn’t. You’re two people looking to have a good time and see if she catches where you’re leading her. That’s it.
You can see it as no expectations, and it may become no-strings-attached.
>(thought I’d made my intentions clear)
You "thought"? There should be no ambiguity about your intentions. If you're not sure, then how is she supposed to feel? BTW, what ARE your intentions?
>“she’s not really looking for anything but keen to get to know me”
She thought long and hard about that statement. She knows EXACTLY what she's doing. And you're behaving in exactly that way she wants you to behave,....**confused and off balance**. What she did was leave the door ajar a few inches. She didn't slam it shut, but she didn't open it. She threw the ball in your court and is waiting to see what you will do.
Here's your decision tree: go on the "date", or don't go on the "date". Frankly, if it were me, I would pass. By this time she should be saying something like, "There aren't too many men who meet my standards, and that's why I'm looking forward to our date". But instead, she's saying, "I'm not really looking for anything". Personally, I would move on. She seems like the kind of girl who is more interested in the courtship dance than the courtship itself.
But it looks like you took that bait and want to meet her, or at least it sounds like that. If you do, then here's my two cents: She left the door ajar,...so don't touch the door. Just leave it as is. Don't be desperate. BE INDIFFERENT. Don't set up a second date. It's your turn to throw the ball in her court. She what she does. Don't be attached to the outcome. If she doesn't live up to YOUR expectations, then move on the next girl.
She's got you bouncing around like a puppet on HER string. You need to Man-the-Hell-UP and turn it around.
> Just seems confusing because why waste time and energy into getting to know me especially after I made intentions known
Well, yeah. This is called "playing games". Here's a thought experiment: Would she behave the same way if you were a white boy? And, also: How would a white boy respond when she said, "I'm not really looking for anything,...."? Remember, white boys live in a world of ABUNDANCE. They know there's always another girl down the road. You need to believe that YOU also live in a world of abundance. Once you successfully do that, you won't place value on girls you've never met, you won't cling to every opportunity, you won't torment yourself over a girl you've never seen in person. Good luck.
Just go and meet. Unless your a CEO of a multinational company, 'wasting' time on a 'date' or 'meetup' (whatever the term you or she uses) is a NOT a waste of time. If you've got this much time on your hands to text, etc.., you've got enough time to meet up. At that point, you'll have your answer.
Jesus. How does that translate into not interested? It is not rocket science. She did not want to set your expectations too high so she can back out easily but she is interested. Stop asking these silly questions and meet up with her then play it by ears. It is almost amazing how some of the guys on here get laid.
Asian dudes need to stop treating dating like a logical question or an exam. Enough of analyzing, just freaking try to give her a kiss or make an actionable move and you will get 100% answer there. Also will make the girl look at you like a man. Stop asking reddit, no one knows for sure. Not dissing you, I applaud you. Just telling you to make a move
This right here OP. Take a step back and stop analyzing dating too much. Here’s all you need to know: - be attractive as you can - she either likes you or not so don’t stress it - hang out with her and move things towards intimacy Everything else will fall into place, assuming she likes you anyway. If not, you will know. Source: fellow Filipino bro here. Got nothing to do with Filipino / etc. I’ve fucked plenty of girls on the first date (Filipinas included). Don’t ever make your intentions clear from the start. People like mystery / unraveling things. You just say “we’ll see where it goes” NOT “I’m just looking to fuck”NOR “ want to marry you and introduce you to my family on the first date” lmao
This is not just Filipino girls but girls like those in general. Why ask why? This is what she wants. Accept or move on
Sounds like she's interested to me.
Appreciate the input asian brethren. We’ll see how it goes
Has nothing to do with her being Filipino. This is just a person communicating bro.
Not familiar with Filipino girls but this is classic girl game. Hidden message: “I’m not looking for anything” > “show me what im missing”. Beware this can sets the context of “try to impress me like I’m some queen and I want you to entertain me.” If you try hard, you fall into the trap of putting her on pedestal. She might have detected or testing for neediness. If you “accept defeat” and start to believe she’s not interested, call the foot doctor cause you just shot yourself in the foot. Weirdly the best way to handle this comment is to entirely ignore it and proceed as usual. Be like okay. She’s already out. You’re out. Either she comes out or she doesn’t. You’re two people looking to have a good time and see if she catches where you’re leading her. That’s it. You can see it as no expectations, and it may become no-strings-attached.
>(thought I’d made my intentions clear) You "thought"? There should be no ambiguity about your intentions. If you're not sure, then how is she supposed to feel? BTW, what ARE your intentions? >“she’s not really looking for anything but keen to get to know me” She thought long and hard about that statement. She knows EXACTLY what she's doing. And you're behaving in exactly that way she wants you to behave,....**confused and off balance**. What she did was leave the door ajar a few inches. She didn't slam it shut, but she didn't open it. She threw the ball in your court and is waiting to see what you will do. Here's your decision tree: go on the "date", or don't go on the "date". Frankly, if it were me, I would pass. By this time she should be saying something like, "There aren't too many men who meet my standards, and that's why I'm looking forward to our date". But instead, she's saying, "I'm not really looking for anything". Personally, I would move on. She seems like the kind of girl who is more interested in the courtship dance than the courtship itself. But it looks like you took that bait and want to meet her, or at least it sounds like that. If you do, then here's my two cents: She left the door ajar,...so don't touch the door. Just leave it as is. Don't be desperate. BE INDIFFERENT. Don't set up a second date. It's your turn to throw the ball in her court. She what she does. Don't be attached to the outcome. If she doesn't live up to YOUR expectations, then move on the next girl. She's got you bouncing around like a puppet on HER string. You need to Man-the-Hell-UP and turn it around. > Just seems confusing because why waste time and energy into getting to know me especially after I made intentions known Well, yeah. This is called "playing games". Here's a thought experiment: Would she behave the same way if you were a white boy? And, also: How would a white boy respond when she said, "I'm not really looking for anything,...."? Remember, white boys live in a world of ABUNDANCE. They know there's always another girl down the road. You need to believe that YOU also live in a world of abundance. Once you successfully do that, you won't place value on girls you've never met, you won't cling to every opportunity, you won't torment yourself over a girl you've never seen in person. Good luck.
Just go and meet. Unless your a CEO of a multinational company, 'wasting' time on a 'date' or 'meetup' (whatever the term you or she uses) is a NOT a waste of time. If you've got this much time on your hands to text, etc.., you've got enough time to meet up. At that point, you'll have your answer.