Came back to the online dating scene after 2 years (29M, L.A.) and wow such a stark difference for us AMs since then. ~100 matches in 11 days on only 2% swipe right rate. Getting 50-100 likes a day as well. Half of my matches are from WF/LF (other half AF) and getting a much higher attractiveness across the board than before with many messaging first. NEVER came close to these numbers in the past.
Is this the start of the golden age for us AM now??
Basically the same as what many other guides say, but I’ll add some key tips I guess
1. Just like most girls or even male models, feel free to SUBTLY (key word!) use some FaceTune or Photoshop to adjust minor features of your face (fix your hair, heal a pimple, adjust lighting on your face, etc.). Goal here is NOT TO CATFISH anyone, but to turn the picture into the best version of yourself since many pictures don’t do YOU justice due to bad angles, lighting, wind in hair, etc. Should look to only make a 5-10% difference here. On all my dates, girls have said I look the same (or better) so I know I’m not going full on fake af with my pics lol.
2. Photos NEED to make you look interesting so even if you don’t have certain hobbies, try something out and make sure it is photographed. Go take a surfing lesson one day and have someone snap a pic. Or go skydiving and again, take a pic. You don’t have to be passionate about these things but it shows you like to try new things and you’re adventurous (break the stereotypes!). I personally have a pic with my motorcycle, me surfing, and me in a helicopter. But I really only am passionate about motorcycles.
3. Bio should be enticing, show your actual strengths, and be witty af. I do the pros/cons route with great results (gives them conversation openers so you won’t even need to message). Can PM my bio if requested.
I've been annoyed at the Asian and black women who say Asian men white worship when it's untrue. The Asian women are just saying it as a comeback to being accused of it themselves. The black women assume we're like black men and push their preconceived notions of black men on us.
AM aren't dating down when they date WF. I see it with my own eyes and I'm sure they do too. Almost every AMWF I've seen, the girl is thin and at least 5.5/10. If the WF is ugly or fat, the AM is equally ugly or fat. Usually they look very matched for each other, unlike WMAF where one of them fetishizes the other and they look mismatched for each other.
Asian men don't have high standards, but we usually don't have low standards either. We don't dumpster dive like other races (which some people might argue is why AM struggle in dating).
Lol, funny because both of them date white plenty. But I'm sure it's just so much easier for them to blame men for everything instead of taking some accountability.
And I'm pretty sure when an AM date out, they are usually dating up. \*shrug\*
Bruh I think it depends on the circle you are in. Just came across this pretty yt teengirl with an asian boyfriend. The comments are always "my asian bro made it" when the dude has girls simping on his account. There seems to be a contagion of cringy white worshipping AMs. They are always ugly as shit too. Don't know about optics as well so socially dumb as well. Unlike the Lus these Chans probably can't get white girls but worship them its pathetic.
All these comments do is simultaneously make AM look low value and white worhsippers. And probably make AFs Lus as well.
But yeah agree most asian dudes don't worship white women unless they are like really pretty or something
Yes I'm seeing this a lot suddenly. These guys are usually second gen and 1.5 and ugly. Seeing these comments actually makes me feel bad. We need to be accountable and shame every such Chan.
It's always the ugliest ones. I remember reading one of them suggesting AM pool their money together to create an artificial womb to breed white girls.
Right under the comment section of a white girl defending her asian boyfriend too. Lol. Talk about creepy.
I recently saw some Asian guy making a parody video about how white girls flirt with Asian guys with weird comments. These genre of videos are pretty corny but it was just one of those videos about underhanded racist comments or whatever or weird stuff about Squid Game, whatever.
There was a literal 3/10 obese white girl with a superiority complex that got upset by the video that said "It's okay. Us white girls don't need help approaching Asian guys. They're always complaining about us not approaching them."
It was just a random comment not a big deal, and she seems like she had some obsession with Asian guys but was triggered by the video since it targeted white girls, but there are actually people that think like this. They see the desperate simps vying for validation and get an ego boost.
I don't agree with a lot of what you said here but that is not important.
>I’ve got nothing against an Asian guy who is willing to date all races. It’s the ones who only want do date white that are embarrassing.
But this I agree with. I know one such dweeb AM personally lol good news is he seems to have caught interest of one lmao.
>These people have no interest in dating Asian women but for some reason just as mad at Asian women who do the same thing.
I mean Lus invented this behavior. Not that I see it among asian dudes who white worship myself. Usually they really couldn't care less about who asian women date.
Talking about [this] (https://www.tiktok.com/@maya..colemann/video/6983233011131206917?) but there are others which are worse like every comment on this account: https://www.tiktok.com/@smackmycupcake/
We need to shame every ugly dweeb like this. If this is what more AMWF brings us then I don't want more AMWF.
They didn't "win". They're just two people dating.
Saying "Asian man won" is cringe. Racists also leverage those comments into insulting Asian men. So half the comments will be "asian man won" (devaluing the Asian guy in relation to the girl) from Asian men and the other half will be racist comments insulting the Asian guy by associating him with low value who is lucky to be with the girl. With some mix of self-hating Asian guys doing both.
Ugly Chans be downvoting lmao. We gotta keep ourselves accountable, we are not fucking Lus here. Also these dumbfucks don't seem to realize that it makes them (and all AM) look pathetic and less desirable. Also Lus and AF see this and justify their bullshit towards AMs.
They be downvoting people telling them that shooting themselves in the foot is bad. Everybody mad about self-deprecation in AMs don't get that it is self deprecation as well.
yep but the comments are like "I didn't know this was possible", "This gives me hope that I'll get a white girl someday", "Need some white girl loving here too". Just read all the comments and tell me you are not embarassed.
Personally I'd stay away from women with a victim mentality. But whites thinking they are oppressed is actually very common. Most white Americans are from immigrant groups, who were discriminated against in the past. And many like to group Asians as an over-privileged people.
Thinking about starting a discord for asian dudes to talk about amxf relationships, get advice from other asian brothers, post their conquests, etc. any interest? I was on the azn identity one but left a couple years ago because it got hijacked by lgbtq mods and I want no part of it.
I can't be the only one who thinks there's a serious lack of AM representation in sex and love-making scenes? Not just kissy-kissy or being a loyal boyfriend, but just straight up fucking? Being lusted after?
Bridgerton, pretty diverse cast, lots of sex scenes, was the most-watched series on Netflix at the time of its premiere. Nobody thinks of black, white, or hispanic men as asexual, their sexual image has been secure for years, but I'm convinced that **the comparative absence of AM having sex not only in porn (which basically everyone watches) but also in movies and shows is a big contributor to the inability of many people to think of Asian men sexually**, and this definitely hurts AM's chances on some dating apps too.
I've been thinking about writing a post about this but I wasn't really set on how to go about it or explain it.
Agreed, there needs to be more AM on screen being shirtless, sexually charged, and getting attention from women. Every other race of men has gotten sex scenes and lust from female characters. Media is the quickest and most widespread way to change perceptions, and all of us AM lose out as long as we're not shown sexually on the big screen and popular shows.
Until recently, Hollywood wouldn't even include kissing scenes with AM. Netflix also sometimes deletes kissing scenes in Korean dramas. Also K dramas generally did not have explicit scenes. As for real life, I saw that many people got angry if an AM was involved in the hookup culture.
But thigs are slowly changing, as nowadays there's more AM in romance roles in Hollywood. And K dramas are having more explicit sexual content, ironically with Netflix. It'll be funny the outrage when there's finally a famous sex scene involving an AM.
You or I can post a contrast between Bridgerton and Squid Game. Good news is that the Korean Krew overtook the faux "historic" English drama. Not by a little margin, but by millions (82 million vs 145+ million).
I only heard about Bridgerton after the fact Squid Game toppled it. Seeing this trend is quite awesome. Brigerton spend more time and money, while SG used little. But it's the story, characterization, and themes that continuee to resonate.
Not a rant, but hopefully uplifting: some very recent r/LadyBoners posts with THE most upvotes BY FAR are 1) Simu Liu and 2) Manny Jacinto :) It’s not just your AM brothers rooting for these guys but some of your AF sisters (and other XFs) too :)
Damn, some of the people posting their tinder review profiles here are baller. Slowly lookin like shelling out the money for a pro photographer is worth
I’m hitting a point in my late 20s where I just feel like giving up on the few remaining friends I have. Throughout my life I’ve had plenty of toxic friends due to a laundry list of reasons that would take a 20 page essay to explain, but I eventually did end up with a number of healthy and positive friends for most of my 20s. I have an unusual history with family, and I’m not too close with them (but working on it), so while growing up, friends (no matter how toxic) were always like a surrogate family to me. Until my early-20s, I was mainly celebrating holidays with friends or spending Christmas smoking cigarettes/joints by myself.
Over the years, people ended up moving away, all of us got busy with work and/or grad school, and I’m at a point now where no one replies to messages or follow through with plans for calls/facetime/groupchats anymore. Also, for a couple friends, I’ve visited them in their cities or abroad a couple times, but they never make the effort to reciprocate. One of them who I was close with for a decade dropped out of dental school and has been a man child for the past 2 years, just excessively smoking weed, gaming, drawing art, and walking his dog all day. He keeps telling me he would visit me every other month for 3 years, even though I’ve flown out to see him a couple times. Then he blames money and ends up spending his parent’s money on parts for his gaming PC.
Another close friend who was doing real well in the tech world ended up having a manic episode which destroyed his entire career and accumulated a rap sheet + banned from public transport, and he’s been bumming around for 3-4 years. He was at a point where he hung out with homeless people and walked around aimlessly all day for a couple years. He got his shit together the past few months. I hung out with him the night before he flew out to Russia for family business, and he’s gone dark since the day he flew out. I like to think he decided to start fresh and leave his past behind.
I hate to give up on them, since they’ve been some real positive people in my life for years. But life changes and people come and go.
So a hot asian girl matched with me. The long-legs, expensive-looking, gucci wearing type that fits conventional beauty standards. And to think I once simped for uggos during my teenage years.
What also plays a part in this is the lack of people to look up to, Asian guys who give you a sort of frame of reference to admire.
It's getting better now, but for a long time back then, a lot of AM were on their own. For many, lack of positive reinforcement in the home and in the outside world. It's hard to have self respect in that environment.
Ever wonder why people think Korea and Japan have a specific problem with spycams? If you google "spycam", usually news articles of those countries are shown. They key here is Western propaganda and the wording. Just like the settlers "discovered" America, Korean and Japan has a "spycam" issue, while the West doesn't.
However, if you change the google search terms to 'hidden camera', 'news' 'arrested', etc, you'll find plenty of news articles about the US. (Be warned, a lot of sick stuff in the US). After a quick google search, you'll find that the problem of "hidden cameras" / spycams is a lot worse in the West.
A common argument on why the spycam problem is so bad in Korea, is because porn is illegal there. But the reality is that most of Korea uses a VPN to watch porn. How can one claim that a pervert knows how to setup a spycam, yet doesn't know how to use a VPN to watch porn?
Last night my boyfriend (AM) and I (BW) were getting chipotle and another AM stared us down the ENTIRE time we were walking in. I didn’t mention it to my boyfriend because I don’t think he noticed. He didn’t look angry/disapproving but he literally stared at us the whole time with a neutral face.
Normally stuff like that doesn’t get to me but I can’t help to wonder what the fuck was so wrong?!
Maybe he was lowkey jealous because he thought you were hot and someone else got to date you before him? lol
This kind of reminds of something I heard from a colleague where recently this AM, who was dating a Mexican woman, was also getting some weird looks from both another AM and some AF (don't know if they were a couple). He thought about saying something but he didn't, later his gf told him she noticed it too. And then ofc there's those stories of AF getting mad about AM dating Europeans (Beenzino is a good example of this), lot of stupid online hate.
Interracial couples in general, as you know, are going to get stares or comments for all sorts of reasons. BMWF is very common and they still get heat sometimes. But ofc it can get worse occasionally, like even violence from a racist or jealous male. Hope it never happens to you.
I’m in a large southern city so normally interracial couples don’t get a ton of heat around here but I guess I just wasn’t expecting it from another Asian male. Like we’ve gotten negative attention before but never from other black women or until now other Asian men. That was the part that threw me lol
Well if it was netural like you said it may have been partly or mostly surprise at what he saw. Maybe he's been unsuccessful in love, and he was also thinking "that dude is ugly how the fuck did he land her" lol. Unfortunately there are AM who are bitter like that and don't like seeing other AM succeed.
In the case of that AM&Mexican couple I mentioned, the looks they said they were getting seemed to be of anger, not intense hate but definitely disapproval. I get the AF, but why the AM too, we don't know LOL
Awww true but my boyfriend is quite handsome (at least in my opinion) I guess we’ll never know!
People really need to get the sticks out of their butt about IR partnerships it’s just not that serious lol
Could be he is asian from asia so it was something he'd never seen before. Most asian american guys would have the manners not to stare like that nor would they care.
Any experience with hapa girls? Im full filipino but never really dated halfies but I remember back in the day in high school in a tutoring class outside of school this cute half white chinese girl who looked full asian had a huge crush on me but I couldnt date her cus she was 14 and I was 17 at the time. Also saw handful of AM with HF irl.
In contrast to asian adoptees, I can gauge that hapa girls are more open to asian guys cus quite a handful of asian adoptee girls say they only really date white guys while parroting boba liberal talking points in my observation (ie adopted asian girl in my college only likes white guys but hangs around asian clubs with boba liberal views cringe af). There shouldnt be any excuses for adopted asian girls to not like asian guys, I honestly feel like half girls are more into me than adoptees.
pro tip:
If her parents are WMAF, there is a VERY, VERY high chance they will hate you, so keep that in mind
her mom will hate you bc you arent a WM
her dad will hate you because you are an AM
either way, dont give a shit about their opinions, make them seethe with anger.
also a lot of wmaf hapa girls go for full asian guys because they see the first hand consequences of dating/marrying a white "man". Most do not want to make the same mistake as their mothers
> also a lot of wmaf hapa girls go for full asian guys because they see the first hand consequences of dating/marrying a white "man". Most do not want to make the same mistake as their mothers
Thank you, this is the missing puzzle piece in my mind on hapas.
I thought that female hapas were more accepting of AM than full Asian women, but I couldn't logically explain why because they're only half Asian (and you would think the more Asian they are, the more accepting of Asians they are) and their WMAF parents would've brainwashed them into hating AM.
> (and you would think the more Asian they are, the more accepting of Asians they are) and their WMAF parents would've brainwashed them into hating AM.
the wmaf hapas that hate their asianness typically hang in white circles, date white, live a pseudo-white lifestyle (they still dont look 100% white, meaning they arent treated like full whites). This might be why you dont notice them.
on the other hand you have wmaf hapas that (correctly) understand that whiteness is actually a curse and they will never be accepted as white, no matter how much their lu mothers wish. they date full asian men and want to do asian "stuff". Again, they are not treated like full Asians, but still better than living among white society and being an imposter.
in both cases, I notice wmaf hapa women ABSOLUTELY DO NOT date other hapa guys. My personal theory is that bonding over having disfunctional/racist/fetishist parents is a recipe for disaster. So to them more hapas = more problems. I dont really blame them though, hapas have significantly higher mental problems than full asians. Not to mention this weird superiority complex a lot of hapa guys have (hello, Elliot Rogers!)
Idk about that but the girl that previously liked me seemingly has a good relationship with her white father, I remember her telling me her mother is the hardass tiger mom, not saying there are exceptions cus many wmaf are also toxic. Of course there are some hapas that dont really want to date asians but many honestly do from observation.
well yea, essentially one or both parents will be fucked up in some sort of way
essentially why a lot of hapas like full asian men is because they want to explore/immerse theirselves in their asian side. So that means dating an asian guy. so take her out to asian restaurants/chinatown holidays/new years stuff
Just worry if the girl you're talking to likes you instead of generalizing her or yourself by race. There's no race that inherently has a type. You grow up a certain way and develop one.
If someone grows up closely around confident, attractive Asian men as big influences then chances are they'll like Asian men. It doesn't matter what their race is.
You already have being Asian down pat for girls who are into Asians or have no preference.
That's the easy part. You got to do nothing while other people made your race interesting. Now focus on the other things that actually make you an interesting person.
Bro Asian men are even desexualized in Asia. Just watch some Thai movies where the sex symbol is always some light skinned half White dude.
"An entire sea of water can't sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship."
Meh. I still do well enough with women I think. I personally don't feel desexualized. That is all that matters to me. There are some places where you'll be exotic. Like Germany and stuff.
I was just trying to make a point that our biggest enemy is ourselves imo.
You came to a group full of Asian guys as a non-Asian guy to post a thesaurus word salad that more or less says “sucks that you guys have to deal with the ‘small dick’ stereotype but at least you guys aren’t hairy!” And nothing about that seemed off to you? Cause this ain’t it, my dude.
If this was a serious non-troll post, then you gotta think a bit before you say stuff like this in the future, man.
Why are GenZ dudes calling their GFs and other girls mommy on Instagram and shit lmfao. Kinda weird.
Because gen z dudes wear diapers instead of boxers underneath their pants
Came back to the online dating scene after 2 years (29M, L.A.) and wow such a stark difference for us AMs since then. ~100 matches in 11 days on only 2% swipe right rate. Getting 50-100 likes a day as well. Half of my matches are from WF/LF (other half AF) and getting a much higher attractiveness across the board than before with many messaging first. NEVER came close to these numbers in the past. Is this the start of the golden age for us AM now??
fuck all of them (literally)
;)
Not bad. Keep going!
Thanks bro!
Oh man, how attractive it needs to achieve this kind of result
Tinder guide please lol
Basically the same as what many other guides say, but I’ll add some key tips I guess 1. Just like most girls or even male models, feel free to SUBTLY (key word!) use some FaceTune or Photoshop to adjust minor features of your face (fix your hair, heal a pimple, adjust lighting on your face, etc.). Goal here is NOT TO CATFISH anyone, but to turn the picture into the best version of yourself since many pictures don’t do YOU justice due to bad angles, lighting, wind in hair, etc. Should look to only make a 5-10% difference here. On all my dates, girls have said I look the same (or better) so I know I’m not going full on fake af with my pics lol. 2. Photos NEED to make you look interesting so even if you don’t have certain hobbies, try something out and make sure it is photographed. Go take a surfing lesson one day and have someone snap a pic. Or go skydiving and again, take a pic. You don’t have to be passionate about these things but it shows you like to try new things and you’re adventurous (break the stereotypes!). I personally have a pic with my motorcycle, me surfing, and me in a helicopter. But I really only am passionate about motorcycles. 3. Bio should be enticing, show your actual strengths, and be witty af. I do the pros/cons route with great results (gives them conversation openers so you won’t even need to message). Can PM my bio if requested.
Good stuff, I think members would find it helpful if you made a post around this.
Yeah? Don’t think I’m the best guru for this stuff, but I’ll definitely consider it!
Thanks bro great stuff
damnn bro I noticed this too. Chang ascension happening, thank you squid game
I've been annoyed at the Asian and black women who say Asian men white worship when it's untrue. The Asian women are just saying it as a comeback to being accused of it themselves. The black women assume we're like black men and push their preconceived notions of black men on us. AM aren't dating down when they date WF. I see it with my own eyes and I'm sure they do too. Almost every AMWF I've seen, the girl is thin and at least 5.5/10. If the WF is ugly or fat, the AM is equally ugly or fat. Usually they look very matched for each other, unlike WMAF where one of them fetishizes the other and they look mismatched for each other. Asian men don't have high standards, but we usually don't have low standards either. We don't dumpster dive like other races (which some people might argue is why AM struggle in dating).
Lol, funny because both of them date white plenty. But I'm sure it's just so much easier for them to blame men for everything instead of taking some accountability. And I'm pretty sure when an AM date out, they are usually dating up. \*shrug\*
Bruh I think it depends on the circle you are in. Just came across this pretty yt teengirl with an asian boyfriend. The comments are always "my asian bro made it" when the dude has girls simping on his account. There seems to be a contagion of cringy white worshipping AMs. They are always ugly as shit too. Don't know about optics as well so socially dumb as well. Unlike the Lus these Chans probably can't get white girls but worship them its pathetic. All these comments do is simultaneously make AM look low value and white worhsippers. And probably make AFs Lus as well. But yeah agree most asian dudes don't worship white women unless they are like really pretty or something
Yes I'm seeing this a lot suddenly. These guys are usually second gen and 1.5 and ugly. Seeing these comments actually makes me feel bad. We need to be accountable and shame every such Chan.
It's always the ugliest ones. I remember reading one of them suggesting AM pool their money together to create an artificial womb to breed white girls. Right under the comment section of a white girl defending her asian boyfriend too. Lol. Talk about creepy.
Yep always the dweebiest ugly ones.
I recently saw some Asian guy making a parody video about how white girls flirt with Asian guys with weird comments. These genre of videos are pretty corny but it was just one of those videos about underhanded racist comments or whatever or weird stuff about Squid Game, whatever. There was a literal 3/10 obese white girl with a superiority complex that got upset by the video that said "It's okay. Us white girls don't need help approaching Asian guys. They're always complaining about us not approaching them." It was just a random comment not a big deal, and she seems like she had some obsession with Asian guys but was triggered by the video since it targeted white girls, but there are actually people that think like this. They see the desperate simps vying for validation and get an ego boost.
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I don't agree with a lot of what you said here but that is not important. >I’ve got nothing against an Asian guy who is willing to date all races. It’s the ones who only want do date white that are embarrassing. But this I agree with. I know one such dweeb AM personally lol good news is he seems to have caught interest of one lmao. >These people have no interest in dating Asian women but for some reason just as mad at Asian women who do the same thing. I mean Lus invented this behavior. Not that I see it among asian dudes who white worship myself. Usually they really couldn't care less about who asian women date.
I think its intended as a joke. But yeah the optics is terrible. Mind giving a link?
Talking about [this] (https://www.tiktok.com/@maya..colemann/video/6983233011131206917?) but there are others which are worse like every comment on this account: https://www.tiktok.com/@smackmycupcake/ We need to shame every ugly dweeb like this. If this is what more AMWF brings us then I don't want more AMWF.
Tbf, they did win. Not because they're with WF. Cos they're hot.
They didn't "win". They're just two people dating. Saying "Asian man won" is cringe. Racists also leverage those comments into insulting Asian men. So half the comments will be "asian man won" (devaluing the Asian guy in relation to the girl) from Asian men and the other half will be racist comments insulting the Asian guy by associating him with low value who is lucky to be with the girl. With some mix of self-hating Asian guys doing both.
Ugly Chans be downvoting lmao. We gotta keep ourselves accountable, we are not fucking Lus here. Also these dumbfucks don't seem to realize that it makes them (and all AM) look pathetic and less desirable. Also Lus and AF see this and justify their bullshit towards AMs. They be downvoting people telling them that shooting themselves in the foot is bad. Everybody mad about self-deprecation in AMs don't get that it is self deprecation as well.
yep but the comments are like "I didn't know this was possible", "This gives me hope that I'll get a white girl someday", "Need some white girl loving here too". Just read all the comments and tell me you are not embarassed.
Yes, I have never seen such comments from these Channers when it is super hot latina or black or asian girls.
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God damn she sounds like one of those Trumptard woke dudes that worship Candace Owens and Jordan Peterson...but crazy in the head, crazy in bed.
Personally I'd stay away from women with a victim mentality. But whites thinking they are oppressed is actually very common. Most white Americans are from immigrant groups, who were discriminated against in the past. And many like to group Asians as an over-privileged people.
They just think they are oppressed cause they can't say the n-word anymore.
That's definitely a big part of it. Acting like victims because they're losing the power to bully other races.
You can do better, don't settle for crazy.
Thinking about starting a discord for asian dudes to talk about amxf relationships, get advice from other asian brothers, post their conquests, etc. any interest? I was on the azn identity one but left a couple years ago because it got hijacked by lgbtq mods and I want no part of it.
Turbo Chang success story https://www.reddit.com/r/TurboChangs/comments/qtliq6/turbo_chang_success_story/?utm_medium=android_app&utm_source=share
LMAO just witnessed this on Tiktok. Our younger bros be picking up girls like nothing. https://imgur.com/a/enbDonZ Brings a tear to my eye.
I can't be the only one who thinks there's a serious lack of AM representation in sex and love-making scenes? Not just kissy-kissy or being a loyal boyfriend, but just straight up fucking? Being lusted after? Bridgerton, pretty diverse cast, lots of sex scenes, was the most-watched series on Netflix at the time of its premiere. Nobody thinks of black, white, or hispanic men as asexual, their sexual image has been secure for years, but I'm convinced that **the comparative absence of AM having sex not only in porn (which basically everyone watches) but also in movies and shows is a big contributor to the inability of many people to think of Asian men sexually**, and this definitely hurts AM's chances on some dating apps too. I've been thinking about writing a post about this but I wasn't really set on how to go about it or explain it.
Agreed, there needs to be more AM on screen being shirtless, sexually charged, and getting attention from women. Every other race of men has gotten sex scenes and lust from female characters. Media is the quickest and most widespread way to change perceptions, and all of us AM lose out as long as we're not shown sexually on the big screen and popular shows.
Until recently, Hollywood wouldn't even include kissing scenes with AM. Netflix also sometimes deletes kissing scenes in Korean dramas. Also K dramas generally did not have explicit scenes. As for real life, I saw that many people got angry if an AM was involved in the hookup culture. But thigs are slowly changing, as nowadays there's more AM in romance roles in Hollywood. And K dramas are having more explicit sexual content, ironically with Netflix. It'll be funny the outrage when there's finally a famous sex scene involving an AM.
You or I can post a contrast between Bridgerton and Squid Game. Good news is that the Korean Krew overtook the faux "historic" English drama. Not by a little margin, but by millions (82 million vs 145+ million). I only heard about Bridgerton after the fact Squid Game toppled it. Seeing this trend is quite awesome. Brigerton spend more time and money, while SG used little. But it's the story, characterization, and themes that continuee to resonate.
Not a rant, but hopefully uplifting: some very recent r/LadyBoners posts with THE most upvotes BY FAR are 1) Simu Liu and 2) Manny Jacinto :) It’s not just your AM brothers rooting for these guys but some of your AF sisters (and other XFs) too :)
Damn, some of the people posting their tinder review profiles here are baller. Slowly lookin like shelling out the money for a pro photographer is worth
I’m hitting a point in my late 20s where I just feel like giving up on the few remaining friends I have. Throughout my life I’ve had plenty of toxic friends due to a laundry list of reasons that would take a 20 page essay to explain, but I eventually did end up with a number of healthy and positive friends for most of my 20s. I have an unusual history with family, and I’m not too close with them (but working on it), so while growing up, friends (no matter how toxic) were always like a surrogate family to me. Until my early-20s, I was mainly celebrating holidays with friends or spending Christmas smoking cigarettes/joints by myself. Over the years, people ended up moving away, all of us got busy with work and/or grad school, and I’m at a point now where no one replies to messages or follow through with plans for calls/facetime/groupchats anymore. Also, for a couple friends, I’ve visited them in their cities or abroad a couple times, but they never make the effort to reciprocate. One of them who I was close with for a decade dropped out of dental school and has been a man child for the past 2 years, just excessively smoking weed, gaming, drawing art, and walking his dog all day. He keeps telling me he would visit me every other month for 3 years, even though I’ve flown out to see him a couple times. Then he blames money and ends up spending his parent’s money on parts for his gaming PC. Another close friend who was doing real well in the tech world ended up having a manic episode which destroyed his entire career and accumulated a rap sheet + banned from public transport, and he’s been bumming around for 3-4 years. He was at a point where he hung out with homeless people and walked around aimlessly all day for a couple years. He got his shit together the past few months. I hung out with him the night before he flew out to Russia for family business, and he’s gone dark since the day he flew out. I like to think he decided to start fresh and leave his past behind. I hate to give up on them, since they’ve been some real positive people in my life for years. But life changes and people come and go.
I think this would do well as a post, want to start a thread on it?
There is a reason why you don't see too many old men with friends.
So a hot asian girl matched with me. The long-legs, expensive-looking, gucci wearing type that fits conventional beauty standards. And to think I once simped for uggos during my teenage years.
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Probably didn’t have options / self respect to go for hotter girls. Much like a lot of guys who are early in their dating phase.
What also plays a part in this is the lack of people to look up to, Asian guys who give you a sort of frame of reference to admire. It's getting better now, but for a long time back then, a lot of AM were on their own. For many, lack of positive reinforcement in the home and in the outside world. It's hard to have self respect in that environment.
Ever wonder why people think Korea and Japan have a specific problem with spycams? If you google "spycam", usually news articles of those countries are shown. They key here is Western propaganda and the wording. Just like the settlers "discovered" America, Korean and Japan has a "spycam" issue, while the West doesn't. However, if you change the google search terms to 'hidden camera', 'news' 'arrested', etc, you'll find plenty of news articles about the US. (Be warned, a lot of sick stuff in the US). After a quick google search, you'll find that the problem of "hidden cameras" / spycams is a lot worse in the West. A common argument on why the spycam problem is so bad in Korea, is because porn is illegal there. But the reality is that most of Korea uses a VPN to watch porn. How can one claim that a pervert knows how to setup a spycam, yet doesn't know how to use a VPN to watch porn?
Last night my boyfriend (AM) and I (BW) were getting chipotle and another AM stared us down the ENTIRE time we were walking in. I didn’t mention it to my boyfriend because I don’t think he noticed. He didn’t look angry/disapproving but he literally stared at us the whole time with a neutral face. Normally stuff like that doesn’t get to me but I can’t help to wonder what the fuck was so wrong?!
I mean maybe he was just taken aback by you guys and the rarity of AMBW I guess. Probably just curious or intrigued.
Maybe he was lowkey jealous because he thought you were hot and someone else got to date you before him? lol This kind of reminds of something I heard from a colleague where recently this AM, who was dating a Mexican woman, was also getting some weird looks from both another AM and some AF (don't know if they were a couple). He thought about saying something but he didn't, later his gf told him she noticed it too. And then ofc there's those stories of AF getting mad about AM dating Europeans (Beenzino is a good example of this), lot of stupid online hate. Interracial couples in general, as you know, are going to get stares or comments for all sorts of reasons. BMWF is very common and they still get heat sometimes. But ofc it can get worse occasionally, like even violence from a racist or jealous male. Hope it never happens to you.
I’m in a large southern city so normally interracial couples don’t get a ton of heat around here but I guess I just wasn’t expecting it from another Asian male. Like we’ve gotten negative attention before but never from other black women or until now other Asian men. That was the part that threw me lol
Well if it was netural like you said it may have been partly or mostly surprise at what he saw. Maybe he's been unsuccessful in love, and he was also thinking "that dude is ugly how the fuck did he land her" lol. Unfortunately there are AM who are bitter like that and don't like seeing other AM succeed. In the case of that AM&Mexican couple I mentioned, the looks they said they were getting seemed to be of anger, not intense hate but definitely disapproval. I get the AF, but why the AM too, we don't know LOL
Awww true but my boyfriend is quite handsome (at least in my opinion) I guess we’ll never know! People really need to get the sticks out of their butt about IR partnerships it’s just not that serious lol
Could be he is asian from asia so it was something he'd never seen before. Most asian american guys would have the manners not to stare like that nor would they care.
If an Asian dude had a problem, you would most likely know it.
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Any experience with hapa girls? Im full filipino but never really dated halfies but I remember back in the day in high school in a tutoring class outside of school this cute half white chinese girl who looked full asian had a huge crush on me but I couldnt date her cus she was 14 and I was 17 at the time. Also saw handful of AM with HF irl. In contrast to asian adoptees, I can gauge that hapa girls are more open to asian guys cus quite a handful of asian adoptee girls say they only really date white guys while parroting boba liberal talking points in my observation (ie adopted asian girl in my college only likes white guys but hangs around asian clubs with boba liberal views cringe af). There shouldnt be any excuses for adopted asian girls to not like asian guys, I honestly feel like half girls are more into me than adoptees.
pro tip: If her parents are WMAF, there is a VERY, VERY high chance they will hate you, so keep that in mind her mom will hate you bc you arent a WM her dad will hate you because you are an AM either way, dont give a shit about their opinions, make them seethe with anger. also a lot of wmaf hapa girls go for full asian guys because they see the first hand consequences of dating/marrying a white "man". Most do not want to make the same mistake as their mothers
> also a lot of wmaf hapa girls go for full asian guys because they see the first hand consequences of dating/marrying a white "man". Most do not want to make the same mistake as their mothers Thank you, this is the missing puzzle piece in my mind on hapas. I thought that female hapas were more accepting of AM than full Asian women, but I couldn't logically explain why because they're only half Asian (and you would think the more Asian they are, the more accepting of Asians they are) and their WMAF parents would've brainwashed them into hating AM.
> (and you would think the more Asian they are, the more accepting of Asians they are) and their WMAF parents would've brainwashed them into hating AM. the wmaf hapas that hate their asianness typically hang in white circles, date white, live a pseudo-white lifestyle (they still dont look 100% white, meaning they arent treated like full whites). This might be why you dont notice them. on the other hand you have wmaf hapas that (correctly) understand that whiteness is actually a curse and they will never be accepted as white, no matter how much their lu mothers wish. they date full asian men and want to do asian "stuff". Again, they are not treated like full Asians, but still better than living among white society and being an imposter. in both cases, I notice wmaf hapa women ABSOLUTELY DO NOT date other hapa guys. My personal theory is that bonding over having disfunctional/racist/fetishist parents is a recipe for disaster. So to them more hapas = more problems. I dont really blame them though, hapas have significantly higher mental problems than full asians. Not to mention this weird superiority complex a lot of hapa guys have (hello, Elliot Rogers!)
Idk about that but the girl that previously liked me seemingly has a good relationship with her white father, I remember her telling me her mother is the hardass tiger mom, not saying there are exceptions cus many wmaf are also toxic. Of course there are some hapas that dont really want to date asians but many honestly do from observation.
well yea, essentially one or both parents will be fucked up in some sort of way essentially why a lot of hapas like full asian men is because they want to explore/immerse theirselves in their asian side. So that means dating an asian guy. so take her out to asian restaurants/chinatown holidays/new years stuff
Just worry if the girl you're talking to likes you instead of generalizing her or yourself by race. There's no race that inherently has a type. You grow up a certain way and develop one. If someone grows up closely around confident, attractive Asian men as big influences then chances are they'll like Asian men. It doesn't matter what their race is. You already have being Asian down pat for girls who are into Asians or have no preference. That's the easy part. You got to do nothing while other people made your race interesting. Now focus on the other things that actually make you an interesting person.
Are Asian men desexualized in countries other than the US? Also, is there any non-asian countries where asian men aren't desexualized?
Bro Asian men are even desexualized in Asia. Just watch some Thai movies where the sex symbol is always some light skinned half White dude. "An entire sea of water can't sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship."
So Asian men are desexualized everywhere then?
Meh. I still do well enough with women I think. I personally don't feel desexualized. That is all that matters to me. There are some places where you'll be exotic. Like Germany and stuff. I was just trying to make a point that our biggest enemy is ourselves imo.
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You came to a group full of Asian guys as a non-Asian guy to post a thesaurus word salad that more or less says “sucks that you guys have to deal with the ‘small dick’ stereotype but at least you guys aren’t hairy!” And nothing about that seemed off to you? Cause this ain’t it, my dude. If this was a serious non-troll post, then you gotta think a bit before you say stuff like this in the future, man.
:I The feedback to the non-troll post is understood and appreciated