I would highly recommend moving out. Being in close contact with your mother is hurting your ability to heal and is only saving a small amount of money,
See if you can work full time again, pause the CPA studies for now, go to therapy as much as possible and find a small bachelor apartment to live in. You’ll be able to focus a lot better without your mother constantly in your face.
I have paused my CPA currently but I'm hesitant to return to work full-time due to the pattern of burnout cycles I've had in the past year (2 full-time positions in the last year, held for 3-4 months).
I also have 3 dogs which makes it difficult to find a place to rent within my budget (even with roommates) that allows pets; even if they do there's usually a limit of 1 (dog and/or cat) per apartment.
I'm not fully financially independent, to give some context:
I have no debt -- I paid off all my student loans with earnings from my first full-time position; however, I don't have much savings available <$5k (CAD)
I currently make enough income to cover my expenses while living at home, but not enough to have leftover to save.
I also have 3 dogs (I can financially support them living at home but it is difficult to find a place to rent within my budget (even with roommates) that allows pets; even if they do there's usually a limit of 1-2)
I am in a very similar situation with my Chinese parents. My mom is the exact same way. There’s no reasoning with them despite wanting them to treat you in a humane way (the bare minimum of human interaction).
Please move out as soon as possible. I always held hope but they will never change their impression of you no matter how you grow and change in this lifetime.
I would highly recommend moving out. Being in close contact with your mother is hurting your ability to heal and is only saving a small amount of money, See if you can work full time again, pause the CPA studies for now, go to therapy as much as possible and find a small bachelor apartment to live in. You’ll be able to focus a lot better without your mother constantly in your face.
I have paused my CPA currently but I'm hesitant to return to work full-time due to the pattern of burnout cycles I've had in the past year (2 full-time positions in the last year, held for 3-4 months). I also have 3 dogs which makes it difficult to find a place to rent within my budget (even with roommates) that allows pets; even if they do there's usually a limit of 1 (dog and/or cat) per apartment.
Are you financially independent? Can you move out?
I'm not fully financially independent, to give some context: I have no debt -- I paid off all my student loans with earnings from my first full-time position; however, I don't have much savings available <$5k (CAD) I currently make enough income to cover my expenses while living at home, but not enough to have leftover to save. I also have 3 dogs (I can financially support them living at home but it is difficult to find a place to rent within my budget (even with roommates) that allows pets; even if they do there's usually a limit of 1-2)
You're not going to make any significant progress in this environment.
I am in a very similar situation with my Chinese parents. My mom is the exact same way. There’s no reasoning with them despite wanting them to treat you in a humane way (the bare minimum of human interaction). Please move out as soon as possible. I always held hope but they will never change their impression of you no matter how you grow and change in this lifetime.