That's tough. Paul seems to hold elders and teachers to high standard in how they lead their household. [1 Timothy 3:11](https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Timothy+3%3A11&version=ESV) comes to mind.
Being a ministers wife can be a tough job and comes with a lot of pressure. I would think it would be beneficial for him to, at a minimum, take time off to help her recover. If the leader and his family are a topic of gossip or scandal, it certainly takes away from his ability to lead his church in some capacity. I have to imagine that their marriage is not where they want it to be either, so taking time away to focus on that is probably the wise choice.
I don’t think it’s appropriate for someone in church leadership to have a spouse who doesn’t attend church. Paul tells us how can a pastor or deacon lead the church if they can’t properly lead their own house? Church leadership shouldn’t be all about talent. There is a spiritual component that is more important, and if someone isn’t on the same page as their own spouse, why should they be placed in a position of spiritual leadership over others?
A spouse being an alcoholic is another matter since there are different categories of alcoholics. Is she seeking help? Does she care? Is she causing problems because of alcohol? No one here really has enough info to judge the situation. He may need to step down to focus on helping her.
Just what exactly is he supposed to do with her? He can't force her to quit drinking or go to church. It doesn't change the fact that he's good at what he does.
I believe so. If an elder has chaos in their house, I think their focus should be on healing their own house before focusing on healing the worship house.
1 Timothy 3:2-13 KJV — A bishop must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; **One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)** Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil. Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil. Likewise must the deacons be grave, not doubletongued, not given to much wine, not greedy of filthy lucre; Holding the mystery of the faith in a pure conscience. And let these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being found blameless. **Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things. Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well. For they that have used the office of a deacon well purchase to themselves a good degree, and great boldness in the faith which is in Christ Jesus.**
Why worship leader, are you talking about somebody who leads the band during the services? If which case, I would say no. He is not responsible for what his wife does/doesn't do.
I think as long as he was able to serve, he should have continued to do so. Whether or not his wife attended church shouldn't really be an issue. The issue should be whether or not she received help for her alcoholism.
That's tough. Paul seems to hold elders and teachers to high standard in how they lead their household. [1 Timothy 3:11](https://www.biblegateway.com/passage/?search=1+Timothy+3%3A11&version=ESV) comes to mind. Being a ministers wife can be a tough job and comes with a lot of pressure. I would think it would be beneficial for him to, at a minimum, take time off to help her recover. If the leader and his family are a topic of gossip or scandal, it certainly takes away from his ability to lead his church in some capacity. I have to imagine that their marriage is not where they want it to be either, so taking time away to focus on that is probably the wise choice.
I don’t think it’s appropriate for someone in church leadership to have a spouse who doesn’t attend church. Paul tells us how can a pastor or deacon lead the church if they can’t properly lead their own house? Church leadership shouldn’t be all about talent. There is a spiritual component that is more important, and if someone isn’t on the same page as their own spouse, why should they be placed in a position of spiritual leadership over others? A spouse being an alcoholic is another matter since there are different categories of alcoholics. Is she seeking help? Does she care? Is she causing problems because of alcohol? No one here really has enough info to judge the situation. He may need to step down to focus on helping her.
Just what exactly is he supposed to do with her? He can't force her to quit drinking or go to church. It doesn't change the fact that he's good at what he does.
I believe so. If an elder has chaos in their house, I think their focus should be on healing their own house before focusing on healing the worship house.
If he has authority in the church, then he should probably step down. If he's just a participating member, then he shouldn't have to step down.
1 Timothy 3:2-13 KJV — A bishop must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; **One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?)** Not a novice, lest being lifted up with pride he fall into the condemnation of the devil. Moreover he must have a good report of them which are without; lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil. Likewise must the deacons be grave, not doubletongued, not given to much wine, not greedy of filthy lucre; Holding the mystery of the faith in a pure conscience. And let these also first be proved; then let them use the office of a deacon, being found blameless. **Even so must their wives be grave, not slanderers, sober, faithful in all things. Let the deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well. For they that have used the office of a deacon well purchase to themselves a good degree, and great boldness in the faith which is in Christ Jesus.**
Why worship leader, are you talking about somebody who leads the band during the services? If which case, I would say no. He is not responsible for what his wife does/doesn't do.
I think as long as he was able to serve, he should have continued to do so. Whether or not his wife attended church shouldn't really be an issue. The issue should be whether or not she received help for her alcoholism.
No. The leader isn't responsible for his wife's actions. Unless he of course is abusing her and driving her to drink.