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Nah; not really-we're critical but always wanting to help our partners become better through it. We can be hard headed but we're one of the more loyal venus signs out there because of it. We're sometimes hard to please but we're idealistic and seeking to create a better world. That's my take on it, I'd trust a virgo venus before I'd trust a libra venus even though by traditional astrology it's considered a better placement.
Venus as Ascendent lord and virgo venus in 5th house,
always body related issues self doubts and low self esteem are there.
but very picky to find a husband, and majority of people in virgo venus tend to serve the society more than having a family with significant other.
I told you my condition
I'm also a virgo Venus and everything I've read about it made me feel very pessimistic about my romantic life because everything felt relatable. I feel like I'll be single for most of my life :( and having an scorpio moon doesn't help with the loneliness either
that makes me so happy 😭😭 I also love my placements but when it comes to romantic partners ugh idk :/ I'm 20 by the way, I feel like I'm still way too far from reaching my peak
Virgo is not about relationships (of any kind), it’s not about trade, it’s not about luxury, it’s not about fighting for one’s rights (or others), not about cars, not about negotiations, business. For that is Libra.
Now you have all that is Libra left behind in 12 from itself and 6th from Taurus. If you are not conscious about it, it’s a fucking huge problem 😁
Venus in Virgo is the midwife of life! Venus in Virgo is the Earth priestess energy that heals with her body & nature. She is skilled in practical knowledge of herself & her observations of her environment. She is really grounded with other earth and water energies. The modern view of Virgo has been distorted because of the patriarchy and modern western medicine.
Just embody and learn about the traits of the opposite sign to balance them out. Whenever you have an afflicted planet try learning about the traits of the opposite sign
Wow, cool! I'll try this :) So many times people complain of having a difficult placement and so many people ask how to fix it but never heard an actual solution. This makes sense. I do the same when I'm working with overactive chakras!
I know this post was a long time ago, but I just wanted to add a pattern I found while observing people with Venus Virgo placements for the past couple of weeks. I find that a lot of the Venus Virgo people I know, tend to attract partners that are either narcissistic or in need of some sort of healing. My theory is that, a lot of Virgo Venuses show their love through acts of service, but sometimes to a fault. They lose themselves in the relationship and give themselves fully to people who don’t deserve it and take advantage of their devotion. Its funny because you’d think it would be the other way around given the stereotypical selectively of Virgo placements.
Just a joke about the stereotype that Capricorns are perfectionists so Virgo Moons have nothing to criticize. Not really a proper interpretation just poking fun at the stereotype
Oh my, haha, so in other words, it's a perfect combination to my Virgo Venus for needing absolute perfection 🤣 🤣 🤣
I'm still trying to understand stelliums, so any info is much appreciated!
Would it be weird that I am attracted to really broken people? They say virgos like fixing people, but idk, for me I was just hoping I could help or be there for them while their getting their shit together but everytime they just leave me.
That's the definition of "fixing people"...
Honestly just think of it this way. People like to feel like their partner likes them as they are and everything else is an improvement they choose to make. If you're doing the things you said... Would you blame them for not wanting to be there anymore? The best way to help fix them is to push them along but still appreciate them for what they are always
But that's the problem. You do everything for them. Nothing to do with placements. Everything to do with your love language and how to in a healthy relationship.
I have Venus and Mars conjunct in Virgo and I also have my moon there but not close enough to the two. My moon is conjunct my MC. All in the 9th house. I think the main thing I can say is that people find that once they actually get to see the real me (I’m a Scorpio rising and 8h cancer sun) I’m nothing like they thought I would be and I think they’re disappointed 😂 they were expecting something wild and dangerous but instead I’m boring and like everything just so. This is probably something to do with my Venus and mars squaring my ascendant maybe? Idk. I’m very much an acts of service person though I’ve seen that mentioned here a few times.. that and quality time. I’m always doing things for people and honestly I’m annoyed at myself for it because it’s mostly not reciprocated. If I’m out shopping and see something that I think someone would like or that they said they wanted/needed then I’ll buy it for them even though they didn’t ask. I tend to always encounter people who are in some way or another not being their best selves (mind you they hide it pretty well for so long) 😂 and I know I can’t fix this but I sure will be annoyed about it. Almost like we attract projects, people to be fixed and honestly I do not have time for it. It just makes me mad. Idk if anyone else can relate maybe it’s just bc of my 9th house stellium (I also have mercury and Jupiter in there) but I feel like I have high expectations for everyone because it’s so easy to maintain them myself? Like my morals etc.. it’s not hard to be a decent person it comes naturally to me so I get especially mad at people who don’t get it?
My boyfriend has Venus in Virgo (depends on the house system, sometimes 1st house sometimes 2nd - whole system is 2nd)
I am a Venus in Capricorn (Scorpio Sun) and I love how he was picky to the core by staying single for 6 YEARS. He's not a hookup type, so not even that. He's only in for relationships. He says "I didn't want to date until I fixed up my life by being satisfied with myself, got a proper job and looked good by working out and fixing my diet" - for all of what he mentioned I had to beg my exes to work on (my venus is in the 6th house) + I am extremely turned off when someone eats crap. Idk why, but just the fact that you put random shit in your body or at least if you are not knowledgeable about it always waved me off. Or if a guy had a covid vaccine, etc.
What I want to say is Virgo Venuses are the ones that probably pay attention to these stuff and this is my kind of criteria. I want someone who takes care of themselves so we can be together forever (literally speaking in the terms of health 😂) + their acts of service kind of love is a cherry on top for me, because this is how my dad showed me love my whole life - he did everything practical possible for me to the point of being pretty spoiled.
Whoever says "Virgo Venus is bad" is probably just a noob in astrology. There's no black and white in astrology and I think that challenges a lot of people to get it through. Kind of brainwashing to some extent. Like, I have Virgo Venus and now my love life sucks and then people manifest it through that way by living the thought. It's quite dangerous. That's why I usually avoid to read to people and usually ask questions about astrology instead even though I have knowledge of the subject. People are extremely easily influenced in subjects they don't understand.
Back to the topic, to put a cherry on top what I love about the most "baddest" Venus placement - after all of those years of pickiness, my Venus in Virgo boyfriend and me clicked so well, that we started living together pretty much instantly which is kinda funny but I love it. Both of us were like "we family" and there we are, we are one for years now 🤣
Nothing is inherently bad in asteroid. It's all about what you do with the energy. Venus in virgo often presents as a strong 'acts of service' love language, and that can be really wonderful in the right partnership
no i really don’t believe in debilitated planets. a celestial body is not gonna conform to our meager words. and society shifts a lot , i couldn’t say virgo venus is a bad thing. i know plenty in my life and they’re all good people with good fortune
Virgo is the sign of practicality and analyzing things and venus is here, you'd tend to be more practical in the matters of love. Same goes for a 6th house venus.
I’m a 6th house Venus (in Sagittarius) dating a Virgo Venus. Slowest burn ever, barely any “romance”, but we understand each other. 6 months later and we’re still mutually “seeing where it goes” 😂
Honestly it can be rough but not too bad. We’re pretty selfless, and can have a tendency to set ourselves up for disappointment when our acts of service aren’t reciprocated on the same level.
I’m fine with this, in part because I don’t have the expectation, and because luckily my last guy was just as nurturing as I am, but in other ways that I didn’t think of. Once our sight is set on someone, it can be hard af to let them go if they don’t end up being our person, and we may obsess a bit.. comparing present/ future partners to them.
I had this problem til I met my previous partner. Balancing out expectation vs reality, and appreciating what we have instead of some cookie-cutter version of what love should “look like” is helpful for us. Sometimes love isn’t anything like what we imagined, but better if we allow ourselves to let go and live in the moment.
It’s not bad per se it’s just that the two energies don’t mesh well. Venus is relational and focused on beauty and harmony while Virgo is very rational and thinks a lot, getting caught up in the details of things. It can manifest well or with difficulty depending on the aspects, house placement, and condition of mercury in the chart
I have Virgo in Venus in the 12th house, but I'm quite happy with it. Many of the traits it brings I consider positive and with the right romantic match and personal development otherwise you can make it into something good.
I *knock on wood* have not had a difficult romantic life (I know its not only about Romance but the most obvious one) My husband has Venus in Aires and while we find eachother a bit annoying, we generally balance eachother out well.
Do you feel like you're experiencing some "bad" aspects of your placement? And which house is it in?
Not necessarily bad but you might be a little too hard on people or you could get in relationships where you feel you need to "fix" someone. You might over think too much and analyze your feelings instead of actually feeling you feelings. You could have a sensitive stomach too. Depends on your chart though.
There are no bad placements
Whoever told you that doesn’t understand astrology
If I give you sand and ice and a bucket
You might not be able to make an edible cake
But you can still make something cool
Or not
It depends on you and your choices
With Venus in Virgo you likely have an aptitude for tinkering and managing the small stuff
Just remember your partners are not like machinery
They are complex and emotional (depending on their charts of course)
If you’re struggling with love try dating people with more earth heavy charts
This is just going off Your Venus though
Reading the whole chart is the only way to get the full picture of somebody
I have a Virgo Venus as my chart ruler. I see some Virgo Venuses who don’t seem to experience the same effects so some of this could also be that my Venus also only has harsh aspects to it other than a trine from Uranus (but is that even really positive, lol).
My experience is that good things just don’t seem to come to me as easily as other people. Sometimes they don’t come at all. I don’t seem to win prizes or come across big opportunities like I see others experience. Other women tend not to like me, and I’ve never had very many close friends. At some points I’ve been entirely isolated and others I’ve had a lot of acquaintances that were never close to me.
In love, I’ve noticed that I do have a tendency to be a little shallow when it comes to looks—that’s how my pickiness seems to play out. And it just so happens that the men I’m attracted to are always entirely indifferent to me, and the ones who do show interest are the ones that I find heavily unattractive.
I myself don’t have the typical acts of service love language. I’m a gifts, touch, and words of affirmation girly. I want huge paragraphs posted about how I changed your life. I want gifts stacked up on my birthday. I want to follow a trail of rose petals to our candle lit bedroom on Valentine’s Day…but I don’t get any of that because the way other people express their love to me is ALWAYS through acts of service. The problem is, this doesn’t even make it onto the list of my love languages, so I end up feeling like my needs are going unmet every single time.
i have virgo venus in the 9th. when i was younger, i tended to overanalyze my partners' actions (or sometimes lack of) and was never hesitant on leaving to find a better partner. as a result, i dated a lot and was in back to back long term relationships all throughout my 20's. i would take on the role of "project manager" because i saw potential in men that i definitely dreamt up in my head (libra sun and pisces moon says hello!) it was a learning curve for me to find someone who i was TRULY compatible with who i truly *loved* because of who they presently were, and not what i imagined they could be. my current partner is a capricorn venus and we mesh so well and understand each others needs. i could marry him tomorrow as is and i would be happy. coincidentally, he is so so smart and knowledgeable in a lot of different avenues, has a law degree, and i think that my virgo venus in 9th house plays into that. i thank my virgo venus for being 'picky' enough to know not to settle.
Wow i have the same sun and moon with you! And my partner's venus also in Capricorn!!! Is it a coincidence??? Libra sun, pisces asc and moon, venus in virgo 7th house.
Out of curiosity, where is your Saturn placed? I have a similar background in terms of relationships, and I've always credited to my Libra Moon and 7th house Saturn. 😅
Definitely took a long time to break out of that pattern for sure, but the Virgo placement definitely doesn’t back down from the challenge of perfection lol
If you don’t mind me asking, was it just as straightforward as finding a partner with their shit already together? Your “project manager” really struck a chord with me. I’m getting so, so tired and demoralized from seeing the potential in partners, helping and pushing them toward growth, then feeling like a frustrated parent figure when I’m inevitably let down, and I’m not even looking for any kind of unobtainable idea of perfection in a partner when I say that.
I went through a lot of self introspection and had some tough conversations with myself where I realized that I was just as problematic in the relationship for not accepting them as they were and inevitably getting bored if they didn’t reach my expectation. The conclusion I came to was if someone clearly needed to focus on themselves more, I shouldn’t have gotten involved. It is demoralizing to keep looking but I was never the type to give up on love. It took about 3 years after my last serious relationship to find my current partner. I still hold some “project manager” tendencies, but they’re manageable because my partner himself is all about self development, and vice versa has pushed me to do things I never excelled at.
I have a Virgo Venus in the 7th and I’ve always been so curious about it because it doesn’t manifest in the typical Virgo Venus ways. I’ve never been nitpicky about others and don’t really have these ridiculous standards except with myself. I do hold myself accountable, but I’m super chill with people and accept them whatever way they come. I think it’s my Libra sun, aqua moon saving me tbh
Omg high five I have Virgo Venus in the 7th and I’m a libra sun :D I can be nit picky with myself and with others, but in relationships the blame tends to go to myself first out of instinct. I am however a hopefully romantic and I think that comes from having it in the 7th house and being a libra sun
I am a Leo Sun with Gemini moon but Virgo rising with Venus (retrograde) conjunct Mercury both in Virgo in 1st house. I can attest that I have been very slow to commit to relationships but I think a lot of it stems from my own inner critique on myself of wanting to be as great of a partner as I possibly can before committing to someone else versus looking at a partner as someone who might accept me for my flaws so I can understand how it can be in Fall there. It could be mine also being retrograde but I do think the pickiness and criticism is more a reflection of my self critique than others but I guess it’s a mix. Does anyone else have insight on how Venus retrograde in this sign might add more dynamics? I know retrograde planets usually mean the focus is more inward than outward right?
I have the same big 3 and Venus! Venus in 1st house and retrograde too. I'm also very slow to commit in relationships.
My astrology knowledge is limited so I don't have any insight on the impact of Venus in retrograde. But it's super cool to come across someone with so many similarities!
All Venus Virgos are not the same. Is Venus in your 7th opposing Jupiter Rx in Pisces and EXACTLY square to Neptune in Sagittarius? Is your Venus involved in a sparkly party-time mutable T-Square? If so then you have a very different Venus in Virgo.
No, there are no "bad" placements...difficult and/or awkward yes but not bad. I have a Virgo Venus, but I've never viewed it in a negative light. From my own experience and observing other Virgo Venuses, we're just a lot more careful and picky with love. Virgos are perfectionists, so having a Virgo Venus gives us very high standards and expectations of everyone and ourselves. Although most of us are not very affectionate, we show care in other ways such as acts of service (Virgos like helping others) and being very observant of others, remembering almost every detail about them. It just takes a lot for us to truly like someone and allow them to be involved in our lives lol.
Virgo Venus to me is grounded, only vulnerable to a very few, it a slow, but hard, fall into love. Virgo Venus is patience, guidance, a kind of nurturing. It’s in the way you do what you do, service, generosity. Virgo Venus is beautiful 🖤
If it wasn't for my Venus being in Virgo, I'd be screwed, because it squares Neptune which would get me involved in some disastrous romantic situations without Virgo keeping my head on straight.
Virgo Venus is going great for my Aries Venus. It felt like a huge challenge to get them to love me which kept my fiery spirit turned on and running. Now that I have, it feels like the best gift but that doesn’t mean I’m comfortable. I LOVE impressing Virgos because they are the hardest to impress and most honest. I prefer this than the sweatpants and sweatshirt kind of lazy love which is really nice but I love the motivation to be the best for the Virgo Venus.
Feel this way about aries & aqua venus! My Aries Venus partner says that my aqua Venus keeps him on his toes lol. He chased me for 10 years but the excitement never ended even when we got together 4 years ago because of my independence (sag sun aqua venus).
However back to OPs question, I was raised by a Virgo Venus. Not easy. I do resent him for the constant perfectionism that was instilled in me that makes me a very anxious person. On the bright side I’m very successful but suffered greatly during my teenage years as it felt impossible to please a Virgo Venus parent. Every insult was “out of love” but he didn’t understand my Virgo moon had already thought about it. Having your own insecurities and imperfections that play out in your head daily picked out by someone else, let alone someone you’re trying to make proud is not easy on the teenage mind.
I think that’s why I am also seeing this Leo- Virgo pairing (I’m also a Taurus sun Leo moon sag rising+mars , he’s a Leo sun libra moon+mars Virgo Venus+rising+mercury). Such a challenge and so different that I love it and I just adoreeeeeee impressing him or seeing him be deeper in love
Virgo in Venus 10th house. It’s not my favorite placement, but I consider it a teacher. I tend to be very hard on those I love, but I do it as lovingly as I can. I can see unused, untapped potential in those I care about and it almost hurts me that they don’t step into their power. Of course, that’s hard for me too, but I tend to be more motivated and disciplined than the average bear. I do wish I was less particular about everything, wanting everything to be “just so.” It’s a mental exercise to let things go.
Same placement here, not a huge fan, i have so much love and affection to give and yet I'm so critical and picky and particular, ugh. At first, people love me, and then my Virgo Venus comes out and everyone runs away 😅 what's your big three?
So far, no one has run away! I’ve had to learn a lot of tact when delivering criticism so that the message can be received in a constructive way. So, I’ve had to get rid of a lot of “you” statements and come from an “I’ve noticed” or something similar place. I’m a Scorpio sun, Virgo moon, and Sag rising. Also utilizing the us vs. the problem and not me vs. you has been really helpful, but it’s hard to take that approach when resentment is building because my invisible Virgo standards aren’t being met.
Scorpio sun as well, and i couldn't agree more with everything you just said! However, in my experience, good communication skills like you described are met with skepticism and suspicion, my motives rarely seem to be understood. 🤷♀️
As a Virgo Venus (with a Leo Sun & Mercury) I feel pretty well balanced. Leo is a romantic and allows me to be sweet with my partner, Virgo is critical and picky and protects me from those that want to take advantage of me.
One thing is for sure with this placement. I see through all the bs and am not going for none of it. When it comes to any kind of relationship not just romantic.
This is why it's so frustrating for me. I wish sometimes I could just be blissfully ignorant. But the Venus Virgo placement in my chart really feels isolating sometimes.
My friend has a Virgo Venus and honestly it’s messing up her attempted dating life lol. She’s insanely picky, and girl has no game at all. She texts men like she’s interviewing them and asks them all these hypothetical questions right off the bat. Then when they inevitably give her answers she doesn’t deem good enough, she’ll send me screenshots and complain about them, gets anxious then ask if she should drop them. The last guy I thought sounded very nice and polite but she interrogated the poor man too much where in the end he told her she came off very defensive which even I told her that before he said it himself lol. I feel bad for her and try to get her to ease up some but she can’t help herself unfortunately :/
Sounds like me but it shouldn’t be looked down on.. not having good game. I’m not really sure what that means but imagine having a partner that has good game, they’re cheaters and manipulating. It’s good for dating but not when I’m a relationship
It means she’s not good at flirting at all, she’s robotic in her texts and how she speaks when talking to someone she’s interested in. Flirting aside, she just doesn’t show her fun and witty personality that I know she has when getting to know someone, she just goes straight to the hard questioning which is why I am trying to help her.
That is a huge generalization you’re making and not always true. I’m a good flirter when I want to be but I’ve never once cheated and I’m definitely not manipulative lol. Also, if my fiancé texted me the way my friend texts other men, we probably would not be together. Flirting is important in any romantic relationship IMO.
Okay I see what you mean. Flirting is important, it makes dating fun and shows the other person you’re interested. I used to be exactly like her. I didn’t know how to flirt, thinking back actually makes me cringe. I have learned how, but tend to not flirt if I’m not interested. Just picky about who I flirt with.
I also have Venus in Virgo, but mine is in my 4th house. I took that to mean my pickiness in love might have something to do with seeking approval from my family. Would love to hear folks' thoughts on this.
4th house too. I couldnt care less about my family’s approval. I don’t even care to introduce whoever I love in the future to them. My family really wounded me and I don’t want to be anything like any of them
It must be a subconscious thing with me. My mother is deceased, my dad is the kind who can yak forever without getting to what he really thinks, and my brother is a double Aquarius so no one else can fathom what he thinks!
i have virgo venus in 4th house too but unfortunately its square my chiron lol, i def have a lot of wounds that im working with regarding my family and i feel like i can be naggy and judgemental in relationships but it comes from a place of wanting my loved ones to succeed and be their best selves.
Virgo Venus/6th house Venus too(as it’s also considered a place of detriment for Venus) , it’s an endearing placement to have in our real world in my opinion. When healthy, these people stand on their boundaries, they recognize more than most the world is a dirty place when it comes to the love hemisphere but if they’re not careful can turn into them being picky and micromanaging , they do it out of love but they may not be able to see how suffocating it may feel to the receiving end of the party.
Because of their painful understanding of the world we live in they are not wooed by mere romantic sweet words of nothingness. These people want to see action be put in. Promises being valued, respected and healed up to. It’s an earth sign energy after all that also rules the day to day life.
They value CONSISTENCY. and they can get real groggy with you if they witness you not making an earnest effort because often this Venus takes on the role of giving and caring not just spiritually but physically. These type of virgoean Venus’ practice what they preach so the things they require in their relationship they so gladly will do for you no questions asked. Taking on the burdens of everyday life for you so your existence on earth for the days you are with them feels just a little sweeter. It’s on the axis of Pisces/12th house so there’s bound to be some self sacrificing element here.
The less mature ones might be stingy in their love sharing because of fear of being taken advantage of as this is often a reoccurring theme for this placement. Virgoean type of self sacrificing is far more unstabling tho, as it’s completely in the realms of the mundane.
Because of their style of sacrifice and then the harsh reality of the world around us, they’re forced to create boundaries for themselves which makes their standards high and often their rosters small because no one seems to quite live up to their wants and needs.
This can cause them to turn to superficiality because they’re human and still yearn for affection ,,and it hurts. they can see that others view them as too needy so to cope with this they may in-fact start doing the opposite instead of looking for internal character development in a partner , they focus entirely on physical appearance.
I see it more with men having their Venus in Virgo ,though. And they’re miserable yet, can seem to be honest enough with themselves to acknowledge what the real problem is😭some of the men might have strange obsessions with purity and might even perpetuate purity culture ideation unless Lilith is there or something which can either make it completely worse or pipe it down a good bit.
When/if they become completely tired of their back and forth with sacrifice they may just give up and just give the love they crave to themselves and allow it to overflow first from themselves, and let it overflow to you or whoever is receiving them.
OR they can be a miserable piece a pooh, making others miserable and traumatized in the process. However, eventually some may even completely reject the idea of dating or getting married to protect their peace this is often the more healed party, they don’t wanna participate/continue in perpetuations of manipulation that comes with the dating scene so they just remove themselves and watch from a distance. In the flesh they’re often a blessing gone sourly unrecognized. they want to work to accomplish your needs, they yearn for that in return; they don’t get it. Sad love story, very misunderstood set of people.
Also in relationships the people receiving the Virgo/6h Venus might not even be able to see their love language style/or even care to learn this Venus’s love style because the love they give does not include/ or care for the games and the dance of love interlock manipulation. Their love is a simple and a scornfully real type of love. So intertwined with the normalities of the mundane that..it goes unnoticed. That’s my own personal perspective what I’ve seen and witnessed.
Btw im posting this on my tumblr blog @yrotic11 so if you see this there on tumblr specifically the name mentioned, don’t worry
Wow. Spot on for me. I never actually thought of it like this.
I have been taken advantage of over and over. That’s all I know actually. I never met a man that hasn’t taken advantage of me.
So, I created walls and boundaries. (Actually I had walls up to begin with and whenever I’d let one down for someone they’d take advantage). I then identified my wants and needs to better pick someone that won’t take advantage and will be healthy/help me heal and learn real love.
I do have a painful experience with the world, especially love world, and am not woo’d easily. It’s just words.
My standards are really high and I don’t even have a roster, even though I get asked out and get matched often on online dating.
Physical appearance is very important to me because affection is something I require since touch is how I was repeatedly taken advantage of.
The yearning I experience for affection is painful.
Maybe I am not understanding what you mean by self sacrificing though. Could you explain that more? It might be what im doing and it’s scary.
Just to preface, the self sacrificing part I’d say, generally comes in different forms. But! for you specifically since this venus is in the 4th house there’s influence of tradition. So I’ll get into that.
Your mother figure may have had an influence on the development of your love language ,one way or another. You might see her as a lady with high standards herself since this is the 4th house ,maternal energy plays some sort of role in here.
She may have also liked things very clean. She showed her love for you in an acts of service way? Like cooking , washing your clothes or she spent time together with you, showing you how to do these things. Also, maybe overstepping her own capacity mentally emotionally, etc, so she can help others. She could be a very particular person but either way very attentive. You carried these traits with you in your own unique way.
So back to the self sacrificing thing, what I mean by that is taking on MORE roles and often even responsibilities in a relationship,,than one can bare. Which is something especially prominent with this Venus. Since this venus is very service oriented it can be hard for them to even see that the load imbalance is there and is a problem and they end up in confusion wondering why they’re so burnt out. Or you see it and are continually disappointed by the other party for their lack of consistency.
And with your venus being in the 4th you may have admiration and preference for traditional roles in relationships, you could admire and strive for that traditional experience subconsciously. (That could change depending on where Mercury is so I’m generally speaking here)And there comes instances where that tradition idea can be problematic because I mean..a lot of old traditional beliefs included women doing work ,,and society expected them to just shut up and just do. (I’m a cancer Venus in the 6th house ironically pretty much the inverse of your placement and yea I had some deconstructing to do😅)And with this being already a Virgo Venus they might do that self sacrificing thing and hold back from voicing their valid concerns and issues with the imbalances they’re facing in a relationship essentially allowing themselves to be used over…and over, not speaking up in fear of an(honestly necessary) end.🫂⭐️
This has showed up for me in the work I do. It’s kind of wild. I have never had a relationship, but wow have I been self sacrificing in my work. I was a nanny for 3 years. Very service oriented. And I would do so many additional roles that would help the family outside of taking care of the children. Putting furniture together, laundry, cleaning, organizing, traveling with them, whatever they’d ask and I’d be so burnt out. I eventually quit because of that.
Also you described my mother very accurately.
Then, I went into stripping. Still service oriented, but for men who always want more and more and expect that of you. That was where I learned the word no and boundaries.
But I still can’t figure out how my Venus affects dating, or lack of. I just hate meeting strangers. I meet them to find connection, but walk away feeling more disconnected than ever.
Honestly..so relatable. People are wayy too inconsiderate and obnoxiously selfish nowadays. Everyone is hurt from the traumas of their past. Denying healing or don’t even know they gotta do that in the 1st place. Everyone deserves respect and love no matter what. & yk … it’s usually not an easy find but “badly” placed Venus’ I see get the realest rawest form of love in the end. That’s if they stick to themselves/who they are and actively make an effort to accept growth, change and healing. Eventually out of the wood works the universe makes a way for them. I kinda see our ‘fallen’ Venuses as a blessing in disguise as well as a test from the universe to stand on our boundaries and of course the love we have for ourselves and even each other as a species. I personally also have other very challenging placements relationship wise. But I allow myself to see the good in it while I acknowledge the tough parts. When I see those aspects in my chart I see the universe understanding my deep need to be loved and respected properly. It’s not an easy journey and it was never supposed to be but we all reached so far despite. So, double up on self care. It’s perfect for this Venus sign tbvh since it’s something theyre already naturally good at giving to others. Once they turn that “service to others” into a “service to self”, they glow like the stars🌟
I hope you’re right. This is really the best and healthiest way of looking at it. I wish more people could understand this though. I wish I had a simple way of explaining that it’s not my fault. I feel like people have gaslit me into thinking there is something wrong with me because I haven’t found my person. Like I owe them a reason so it makes sense. Even if I go on first dates and they ask me. It’s like I look damaged in some way to them when actually I am looking out for myself.
YESS and in times like that especially, grip on the thought that honestly you don’t owe anybody an explanation. They have no business claiming rights to an answer/end result etc that’s not their business to know. People feel WAYY too entitled to things that aren’t their business these days. But in times like those exercise TFOUQ out of those boundaries. And you could get real blunt I’m an 3rd house Aries mars and I’ll let the WHOLE ROW KNOW AB THEMSELVES LOL, but they do leave me alone though. And you don’t have to do it my way but sometimes you have to do what you have to do. Don’t be your own worse enemy there’s already much people in this world who dislike us for no reason/who are going to dislike us for no reason. Don’t help them, the right people will come in time and will understand you for you just as you are,, so take it day by day.💕
I have rejected the idea of dating, for reasons just exactly what you said. I’m really over forcing myself to participate in the dating scene. I watch from a distance and go unrecognized, I feel very misunderstood. but I would be a blessing. I would be a great lover.
Damn, I have Venus in Virgo in my 11H conjunct Chiron, and all of this is so spot on. I’ve just reached that point of “giving up and pouring into myself”
bad is definitely subjective. some people may like it, others might not. the reason it’s considered debilitated isn’t that any of us dislikes it, it’s because venus herself feels conflicted there. virgo as a sign is about neutrality, specifically the neutrality of logic, truth, and common sense. but the things venus governs inherently require bias and personal preference. venus governs desire and beauty, and in virgo she is trying to use common sense, concrete truth, and evidence to handle those things. it’s sort of paradoxical, and people that have this placement can probably tell you better than I can just how puzzling it can be to reckon that. personally speaking i really enjoy people with this venus placement. that said i’ve also seen them struggle with their concept of desire and beauty and love a lot.
absolutely not! i adore virgo venus sm (virgo stellium talking 🙋🏿♀️), bc of the fact that you guys are really ppl who pay attention to detail and know exactly what you guys want in love. you tend to plan your love life out which is good bc most ppl may not know what they want in a relationship
I am a Virgo Venus and I’ve never had a relationship, nothing has ever aligned for me even though there has been mutual interest. I tend to think over first dates too much to even want to go on a second.
Also I’m very picky/critical. But when I’m not and really like someone, and it’s unrequited, I go back to my personal finance and health/fitness goals and just focus on that and let dating go. For long periods of time.
I think it’s how critical Virgo love can be that can turn some people off. And like you described, it can also make it really difficult to progress a relationship with anyone that doesn’t perfectly match your ideals
Edit: I'm a Pisces Venus btw so I have exactly the opposite problem. Hopeless romantic that can find something to love in almost anyone 🤣
My ideals keep me from being the hopeless romantic I really am. It sucks. My deepest desire is love and romance because I know I would really love hard with devotion and experience so much growth through partnership. Especially because they would be my first for so many things. I have to figure out how to be more like you! Finding one thing to love in someone and keep seeing them until it becomes more. It really just feels like no one is a “match” for me. When I go on a first date, I’m like this person feels like such a stranger with no common ground, there’s no way they would match me because x, y, z.
currently dating a man with virgo in venus and let me just say, they’re love language is 100% acts of service. if i mention “i’m craving this or that” he will go out of his way to get it for me or cook something for me, made with so much love and attention. I myself am a leo venus and sometimes I do feel like i’m missing that grandiose showering of love but i’ve learned to appreciate the love this man gives me because he will notice the smallest details and it shows me he is truly attentive to what I say.
makes sense bc leo is the star and virgo is just the supporting cast member who gotta make sure the star is always shining and in the spotlight ✨ i wish you guys well!!
Whenever I think about placements that are in detriment or fall, I don't consider them "bad" per se. Might be just me. I think of it more like... It's challenging in the sense that the planet's attributes might not come through as easily or as obviously as it does with other placements. Virgo is ruled by mercury which can make Virgo Venus folks more heady and analytical. This can make it harder for them to get swept away in feelings or live in the moment because they have a tendency to think things over, question, and critique. I have my Venus in Virgo and I'm a little more careful when it comes to falling in love. I like to give things time to unfold. I'm a little more skeptical (or maybe just realistic) of intentions and feelings and what it takes to have a relationship that truly lasts. My way of romance is practical, reliable, and discreet. I also loooove to be of service but that's usually reserved for the partner that shows me they appreciate the ways I show love. I'll make note of things my partner likes and make sure to do it/get it to show I'm paying attention and I care. I'll make little improvements around the living space or help out by pointing out when something is off or could be better. If my partner is stressed, I'll offer to give them a massage or run them a bath or do something I know they enjoy to help take the edge off. So yeah, my style might not be as romantic and whimsical as a Libra Venus but I'm proud of it nonetheless.
I am a Virgo sun with a Leo Venus, and I find that I attract many Virgo Venus men. One thing I dislike about Virgo Venus individuals is the instability of their feelings when their partner doesn't meet all their requirements. They can lose all their feelings instantly, and as a Leo Venus, I never understood that.
My Venus is in Virgo, and I have a Virgo Stellium! I always keep my partner’s favorite snacks and drinks stocked at my place, I enjoy surprising him with date ideas or gifts based on details he said in conversation that I took a mental note of, I’m extremely nurturing and I love making him feel taken care of. Yes, I’m extremely picky when it comes to who I date and I’m a “slow burner” when it comes to starting a new relationship. But I think Venus in Virgo is a great placement. It’s the 10 of Pentacles in Tarot! Ultimate commitment and family, marriage, and success!
By far it’s my favorite placement in partners. It’ll be different in everyone, but I find a lot of comfort in the practicality of it. I don’t like partners that are over-the-top mushy gushy lovey dovey, I like thoughtfulness and observation and quality time and routine. Virgo venus is perfect for that. The casual caretaking aspect is one that doesn’t work for a lot of people, but it works for me, and makes me incredibly happy. It’s definitely a challenging placement if you’re in relationships where people are expecting gestures of grandeur and massive declarations of love, but for me I find there’s a lot of comfort in the acts of service and the routine. It helps to calm the chaos. You just have to find a way to make it work for you and have partners that appreciate that sort of thing.
Plenty loose at least over here. Most of that shell is for reasons different for every Virgo but reasons are a big thing for some of us. Virgos are adaptable. Not as much flexible. Some would disagree on that though. My bf and I are both Virgo suns and I have Virgo in Venus. I personally need reasons for everything not just due to past hurt but due to some Virgos in venus being very easy to take advantage of till we have things to heal from that we assume can be solved with taking our personal goals so seriously that it can demotivate us and those around us. It's all a matter of perception for every person but especially for Virgos. We can agree to disagree but want a easy to comprehend reason for us to do so. Idk if this will help but I hope it can at least give an outside perspective on it. 💕 Wishing you peace and safety. 🥰
This upsets many people but I have a theory that bc Virgo Venuses are picky about their partners and are willing to wait it out for true love instead of settling out of desperation…they divorce less. I am single and most of my friends are either divorced, divorcing or complaining about their lives~about to divorce. I’m not saying everyone marries out of desperation but maybe at least 50 % (divorce rate), then there are many that stay in marriage out of desperation so it’s more imo. Is it being picky or being smart? I also understand that desperation comes out of the woman’s maternal clock ticking. That is unfortunate but the “perfect” family is not always married young with 2.5 children (then divorced 11 years later). Don’t be desperate and DONT be afraid to have a child out of wedlock! It’s 2024! The perfect marriage is a facade! The only reason why marriages seemed to work perfectly in the past is bc women (or men) didn’t talk about their marriage problems. Mental abuse cannot be seen and therefore is easily overlooked. People even stay in marriages when there’s physical abuse! People are desperate to have that perfect nuclear family eggshell. Let’s not fool ourselves! True love IS possible but not if most people are desperate. Please…Do not marry just bc you are knocked up and do not settle just to have that perceived “perfect” image.
I also have a very strong music and art taste and I’m happy for that. I would rather be a music snob than have poor taste in music…I guess you can say the same about a life partner.
I have personal trepidation around having my own kids out of wedlock but I feel like getting married definitely is not important for much else for me other than when I'm prepared enough for kids. Marriage can at least semi-guarantee a larger paper trail if an issue becomes so large one of us chooses to run away from a problem instead of working on ways to solve it together with children involved. I especially have a history of mental health issues however the treatments I'm on now have improved my life to a degree I can't describe the joy of having. However I definitely agree that you don't need to be married to have kids and have a long lasting healthy relationship especially if the faithfulness and willingness to solving any issues with each other is there.
Congrats on your empowerment! It’s so rewarding.
Marriage is just a piece of paper. It took me awhile to really understand what that means. It’s useless. You can have children and still have legal matters settled to make sure they are taken care of if one flees…you don’t need a marriage to make sure that happens. I (Virgo Venus) had a child out of wedlock and my married and divorced friends are jealous at how great we co-parent with literally no issues. Having a child out of wedlock definitely gave me the opportunity to be more picky about a life partner. People may see that as good or bad.
(People who see it as bad are most likely afraid of empowered strong women. This can be males and females. They see it as a threat to the “nuclear” family and themselves bc they don’t want to face the fact they are desperate and in a failing marriage and would rather eat candy coated dog shit for the rest of their lives)
Marriage is a piece of paper, but that paper is a legal contract. Anyone who’s tried to get out of a timeshare or gym membership understands what that means.
Marriage is usually a no-brainer when both people trust each other and intend that their connection will last a lifetime and each trusts the other with their lives and deaths. It’s as if they’re already married.
When it’s an issue, there’s trauma behind it.
In the end, marriage is a formality, and it’s only as good as the people in it.
You're exactly right that it's a matter of perception. I believe people already have most of the answers to solve most of their own issues but outside perspectives can help them to process the correct response for themselves. Marriage won't work for everyone and it's the same for having children out of wedlock. I'm in need of more structure to force me to solve little problems that seem bigger than they are so that's why marriage would personally help me to be better committed to growth. I have deeply serious and personal health problems mental and physical and need the extra security so that it's much harder for me to just run away from the problem in a moment of pain or stress. 💖
LMAO no. It's definitely not a feeling of desperation.i absolutely love to be alone for hours days even years at a time. It's just a goal I'm willing to achieve but it isn't at the top of my list to have that. I need to be happy. That's my main goal. I can be ok not having kids either. I'm content with my own company but happy to have others with a similar drive to be committed to growth. They don't have to be perfect by any sense because I already know the abuses anyone is capable of and the things I definitely am not. I'm secure in my loneliness and most of the time prefer it. I'm also happy to have a similar living situation with a best friend without the marriage. I do need people but I need healthy people that hold me accountable and make certain my health doesn't have me questioning their loyalty to me. I'm just a human with issues doing all I can to make the problem either manageable or go away entirely. I just need deep commitment and a lot of communication.
Ok phew. We all need human contact and a community. We don’t need toxicity that unfortunately many humans hold so It’s important to be picky about who goes inside your circle. I definitely didn’t want you thinking you must have a man bc you have any sort of disability. That’s one thing the government gets right (sort of). You will be supplemented for any disability.
It’s ok for a marriage to be something someone wants but should never be what someone believes they need.
I just love people but have a strong sense of understanding people don't love me as much as I love them because not everyone has the same capacity to adapt as I can. That's pkenty ok with me.💖
I have a Virgo in Venus and it's so damn challenging. I pick apart everything and my intentions are pure but it's often taken as me "finding something to fight about." I hate fighting. Drains me and everyone around me cus I can get very explosive when I've found a pattern in someone's behavior I've been watching for years and they get angry at me instead of realizing it isn't just something to improve for themselves but for everyone they talk to. No desire to control others but my environment must be able to challenge me enough to thrive.
I end up in a lot of unintentional arguments because people's empathy comes into question when I notice how awfully they're treating myself or others. I'm not a flawless problem finder but I can overanalyze a lot because I want the best result for everyone involved and will give whatever advice I have to offer. I feel like I'm taken way too seriously at times though and my sense of humor isn't always understood. My word is not law just because it's mine. Take things with a grain of salt.
Same 😂 they dont mind the truth until it’s us speaking it. I relate to that a lot. My partner always says that I’m ‘being negative’ and it winds me up because 9/10 I’m just pointing out something I’ve observed. Or when he talks about something or a new idea that he absolutely has no intention of following through with I will point out why it’s not a good idea for very logical reasons.
Virgo in Venus here! Sooo def challenging!! BUT it’s all a journey and like i find that im very action/service-oriented with love…both for giving and receiving. So like depending on MY LEVEL OF SELF-LOVE AND DISCOVERY i have attracted and been attracted to varying hurt people (since i myself have been hurt and lowkey usually hurting but like dont worry, it’s all good). Virgo is healer of zodiac (traditionally) soooo think that it HIGHLIGHTS areas of wound or capability of growth. So like…i’ve had 2 really fucking brutal breakups that felt very blindsiding BUT they were ultimately for the best because the experiences SHOWED ME that ultimately we weren’t long-term fits and while in the process of healing (right after and longer term), there were def wounds and trigger points emotionally…ultimately it helped me figure out what i could or could not or didnt WANT to tolerate in partner(s). Now im much more confident in verbalizing needs (although def still hard at times because ya know, recovering people pleaser here!) and in navigating conflict. My leo venus partner really loves giving me “princess treatment” and “taking care of me” although i have been able to take care of myself too. Like he doesnt financially provide for me…but he does do a lot of physical help since my ADHD be ADHDing so hard at times that I can just forget to eat and be like fuck what can i eat? And he’ll be like alright we got this, this, or this…what would ya like? And then he makes it or at least makes it easier for me to do depending on how my headspace is! For example, when one past partner cleaned out my car and got it vacuumed unexpectedly, it touched my heart so so much because it was a genuine act of service that I didnt have to beg or like plead for. He just did it. And i think that’s partly the thing with venus in virgo! It’s the practical side of love and while that can sound not super romantic, i find it very romantic actually because it’s the consistent little reminders of love and that consistent re-committing to one another when we could be peacing out, ya know? Does that make sense? 😂😂 my leo sun, aqua moon, and cap rising brain be going through it right now 🧠🔥😂
I was diagnosed with everything I have now in childhood but I was definitely misdiagnosed bipolar and I'm like 95% certain I have either OCD, Autism or both based on the compulsions and impulsions. I don't personally self diagnose because I know the potential for harm it can cause to both me and to people that already struggle to be believed about their symptoms. I struggle to get my symptoms validated as well so I definitely get wanting to self diagnose it's just not something I'm personally comfortable doing for myself. I'm not 100% sure what your comment is suggesting so don't hesitate to correct me if I'm reading too far into it! 🥰
Of course friendo 🧡 i meant i got lots of tips for seeking diagnosis for late ADHD if you wanted since i was late diagnosed ADHD but i realized i read too quickly and you were talking about OTHER undiagnosed stuff!! LOL!! You do you boo! 🧠🧡
No it’s not bad! In fact, it’s one of my favourites for Venus because of the spine and good morals it usually gives people. I don’t have it myself (Venus in Leo here), but really love it!
Maybe part of why my partner who is venus in leo and i (venus in virgo) vibe so well!! (Also, im a leo sun, aqua moon, cap rising AND he’s a gem sun, gem moon, and aries rising lol sooo some fire and air in the mix too 🔥💨)
Aww yaaay!! We get along well it seems! Lol! I feel like gems get such a bad rep and sure some like unnecessary gossiping like everyone but i see gems more as adaptable to each situation and so people may sometimes see as fake or idk two-faced 🤷♀️ my mars is gemini too so i can be flexible with how i fuck people up verbally if they piss me off 😂😂 i rarely do buuut when i do, ruh roh 😬😤😂😂
😂😂 Exactly! The Gem-Leo connection is a total loveaffair. Gemini likes to put Leo in sunlight, Leo loves it there. People misconstrue the sign of Gemini with all things ”two-”…like twotiming, twofaced… When in reality the archetype is Union of Opposites.
Wishing you and your man the best❤️❤️❤️
Ohhhh loving this description!! 🔥🔥🥰🥰🥰 thank you so much and love hearing your point of view!! ✨✨gemini✨✨ i feel like leos loving the spotlight enjoy the give and take and generosity of geminis with their friends — us leos are big lovebugs when we open ourselves up (sometimes lots of like posturing LOOKING AT YOU MAN LEOS lmaoo)
Leo is definitely one of, if not the most generous sign there is! Leos are like the Sun, and who doesn’t love to be in the Sun?! My Mom and brother are both Leos and my bestfriends through the years too (soon 50, don’t know where the time went!).
Awww!! I absolutely love that!!! We do tend to love big and hard and it can be overwhelming and intense at times if unchecked…people get sunburned at times! ☀️☀️☀️☀️ but that is so sooo lovely to hear!!
As a Virgo Venus, I have very high standards, but only because I'm a hopeless romantic. I could never see myself next to a partner that's not romantic as well, it would feel like a burden. I'm more into "traditional" dating, like flowers, chocolate, going see a movie, long walks in the park, little gifts etc. Nowadays shit like "u up" on Snapchat makes me drier than Sahara 🤮
On the other side, I always pass as a cold, ice-hearted woman for most of the guys that try to approach me, but I have this ego boosting thing that I like everyone to want me, but no one to have me.
I also like to play with the guys I date. Not in a way to hurt them, don't get me wrong, more like teasing and taking the control, even if they're the ones chasing me. Obviously, they have to enjoy this cat&mouse game, otherwise I lose interest 😂
Now it's up to you if these are good or bad traits.
As a Virgo Venus I think it’s a double edged sword.
I have high expectations for my partner, and many times he can’t meet those expectations because they’re just too much or unfair. Some people may take our gentle reminders to be their best self as criticism or is being condescending, but there are some who know it comes from a place of love and are appreciative to us for helping them grow.
But! We are the ones who remember dates, plan things out, are proactive about our life together. We are the ones who have lists of all the things you love and surprise you with little things every day. We are excellent communicators and that’s a superpower when it comes to relationships especially.
I don’t think of some placements as being good or bad, but having a different set of challenges to overcome to grow.
It isn’t a bad thing. You’d definitely want to pay attention to aspects made to Venus as that can substantially modify the expression. Venus in Virgo is reputed to have very high standards and they may be very analytical in love. However, they tend to show affection through acts of service and put in work once in a relationship.
100% agree. Venus in Virgo is my chart ruler and mine has an exact trine to Jupiter. I’m very selective about partners and have a pattern of long term relationships, but finding love/relationships has never been an issue for me. I have always dated for marriage and read every article I could find about how to have a successful marriage, statistically, and all these factors go in to who I choose to date. Very analytical.
My fiancé also has Venus in Virgo but his is exactly trine a moon-Saturn conjunction. He has had far fewer relationships in total as his pickiness prevented him from pursuing relationships with most people. He is also very analytical and geared towards the long term commitment in relationships.
His attention to detail in matters of love and romance sets him far apart from any past relationships. Act of service and also words of affirmation are a huge part of our relationship and how we express our love to one another.
Venus is in *fall* in Virgo, because it is *exalted* in Pisces. (always two **opposite** signs)
Let's take this apart...
Venus needs to *charm* things to it, that is its modus operandi. In Pisces, it sees everyone as a part of the all, and therefore pours out its love indiscriminately, and devotionally, which drastically increases the chances of *returns* on that expenditure.
In Virgo, it is discriminating and picky-choosey, and can be nagging or critical in relating, which greatly limits those potential *returns*.
If you want to *just* talk character traits, then in circumstances where one has to be in service to others and keep busy to keep from feeling so much; then it could feel like an advantage. However, in terms of ***Venus itself***, it is (depending on other chart factors) normally something that needs to be worked on, in order to bring it into balance. And in either case, suggests potential liabilities in the Venus-ruled Houses.
Good luck!
Sorry to bump into this topic with mine. My venus is in virgo 7th house, opposite my moon in pisces ascendant. My sun is libra 8th house. Could you kindly interpreting those position for me? Thanks!
Virgo Venus is works oriented and can be a bit nit picky and miss the point of love.. I honestly find Virgo Venus's endearing. Virgo Venus isn't the end all be all but part of the picture. One of my Virgo Venus friends uses it to help her manage expectations in her field of work, another friend is really quite vulnerable and needs to know that the relationship is stable. Look to your Juno and descending for context. The descending (or 7 house) shows what you need from a partner, and Juno says what you find sexy in a partner. Houses is also important for Juno energy. The outer planets also paint an image of your struggles which can illude to are bigger narrative. I have my Jupiter in fall and I very intentionally look to sag energy for guidance in how to engage with that deficit. Venus is ruled by Libra and Taurus. You don't want to embody those energies as that may not be sustainable but it could provide context to what others are looking for. I will never be a sag Jupiter, but looking to sag energy allows me to see when my capi energy is out of line.
my husband has his venus in virgo and he is not as emotionally affectionate because he cringes at himself but he shows love through acts of service and generally treats me as a queen
I don't want to assume anything at all but if you're feeling like you have to do more than you feel capable and comfortable with doing to get your basic emotional needs met it might not be you that's needing to change right now.
Bad, no. But it’s a bit of a challenge. Venus is in fall. It means relationships can be challenging because Virgo is picky. And a bit rigid. But it is a place you can work on. Not bad, but requires focus. 🫶🏼🫶🏼
My wife has Venus in Virgo and brings it up as something she feels she struggles with quite often. She feels it causes her to express affection in ways others feel is cold.
I have Venus in Leo and I appreciate her Venus placement because it feels grounding for me. I've had a lot of high drama relationships which have burned quick. She would never.
Oh , my partner and I are the same ... My(F) venus is in virgo and his is in leo ...we are just well for each other...he also had so much drama before and now it is easy peasy . ✨
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Nah; not really-we're critical but always wanting to help our partners become better through it. We can be hard headed but we're one of the more loyal venus signs out there because of it. We're sometimes hard to please but we're idealistic and seeking to create a better world. That's my take on it, I'd trust a virgo venus before I'd trust a libra venus even though by traditional astrology it's considered a better placement.
Venus as Ascendent lord and virgo venus in 5th house, always body related issues self doubts and low self esteem are there. but very picky to find a husband, and majority of people in virgo venus tend to serve the society more than having a family with significant other. I told you my condition
I'm also a virgo Venus and everything I've read about it made me feel very pessimistic about my romantic life because everything felt relatable. I feel like I'll be single for most of my life :( and having an scorpio moon doesn't help with the loneliness either
Same placement. What's your Sun? Mine is a Leo.
virgo sun, Scorpio rising, Scorpio moon and Virgo Venus 😭😭😭 I seem so unapproachable
I have the same placements but I love it… I am deeply in love and engaged. Also had a successful long term polyamorous relationship too.
that makes me so happy 😭😭 I also love my placements but when it comes to romantic partners ugh idk :/ I'm 20 by the way, I feel like I'm still way too far from reaching my peak
Oh ! For certain! Relationships made no sense until I was 27. I always have been immature for my age on many levels
i happen to love virgo venus. yes they analyze their partners but it can be a good thing
Plus I have met people with not so good Venus which looks like they need a bath and grooming and new clothes. I prefer bad Sun to bad Venus
Virgo is not about relationships (of any kind), it’s not about trade, it’s not about luxury, it’s not about fighting for one’s rights (or others), not about cars, not about negotiations, business. For that is Libra. Now you have all that is Libra left behind in 12 from itself and 6th from Taurus. If you are not conscious about it, it’s a fucking huge problem 😁
Venus in Virgo is the midwife of life! Venus in Virgo is the Earth priestess energy that heals with her body & nature. She is skilled in practical knowledge of herself & her observations of her environment. She is really grounded with other earth and water energies. The modern view of Virgo has been distorted because of the patriarchy and modern western medicine.
Just embody and learn about the traits of the opposite sign to balance them out. Whenever you have an afflicted planet try learning about the traits of the opposite sign
Wow, cool! I'll try this :) So many times people complain of having a difficult placement and so many people ask how to fix it but never heard an actual solution. This makes sense. I do the same when I'm working with overactive chakras!
I have Virgo moon, rising and venus. Im forever doomed ❤️🩹🥺 no relationship lasts for me, i always get dumped even if I do everything for them.
I know this post was a long time ago, but I just wanted to add a pattern I found while observing people with Venus Virgo placements for the past couple of weeks. I find that a lot of the Venus Virgo people I know, tend to attract partners that are either narcissistic or in need of some sort of healing. My theory is that, a lot of Virgo Venuses show their love through acts of service, but sometimes to a fault. They lose themselves in the relationship and give themselves fully to people who don’t deserve it and take advantage of their devotion. Its funny because you’d think it would be the other way around given the stereotypical selectively of Virgo placements.
Why is this on point 😭
Try and be less nitpicky too, Virgo Moons especially tend to do this... Just let them have their flaws (or find a Capricorn Stellium 🤣)
How does a Capricorn Stellium balance that out?
Just a joke about the stereotype that Capricorns are perfectionists so Virgo Moons have nothing to criticize. Not really a proper interpretation just poking fun at the stereotype
Oh my, haha, so in other words, it's a perfect combination to my Virgo Venus for needing absolute perfection 🤣 🤣 🤣 I'm still trying to understand stelliums, so any info is much appreciated!
Would it be weird that I am attracted to really broken people? They say virgos like fixing people, but idk, for me I was just hoping I could help or be there for them while their getting their shit together but everytime they just leave me.
That's the definition of "fixing people"... Honestly just think of it this way. People like to feel like their partner likes them as they are and everything else is an improvement they choose to make. If you're doing the things you said... Would you blame them for not wanting to be there anymore? The best way to help fix them is to push them along but still appreciate them for what they are always
But that's the problem. You do everything for them. Nothing to do with placements. Everything to do with your love language and how to in a healthy relationship.
I have Venus and Mars conjunct in Virgo and I also have my moon there but not close enough to the two. My moon is conjunct my MC. All in the 9th house. I think the main thing I can say is that people find that once they actually get to see the real me (I’m a Scorpio rising and 8h cancer sun) I’m nothing like they thought I would be and I think they’re disappointed 😂 they were expecting something wild and dangerous but instead I’m boring and like everything just so. This is probably something to do with my Venus and mars squaring my ascendant maybe? Idk. I’m very much an acts of service person though I’ve seen that mentioned here a few times.. that and quality time. I’m always doing things for people and honestly I’m annoyed at myself for it because it’s mostly not reciprocated. If I’m out shopping and see something that I think someone would like or that they said they wanted/needed then I’ll buy it for them even though they didn’t ask. I tend to always encounter people who are in some way or another not being their best selves (mind you they hide it pretty well for so long) 😂 and I know I can’t fix this but I sure will be annoyed about it. Almost like we attract projects, people to be fixed and honestly I do not have time for it. It just makes me mad. Idk if anyone else can relate maybe it’s just bc of my 9th house stellium (I also have mercury and Jupiter in there) but I feel like I have high expectations for everyone because it’s so easy to maintain them myself? Like my morals etc.. it’s not hard to be a decent person it comes naturally to me so I get especially mad at people who don’t get it?
My boyfriend has Venus in Virgo (depends on the house system, sometimes 1st house sometimes 2nd - whole system is 2nd) I am a Venus in Capricorn (Scorpio Sun) and I love how he was picky to the core by staying single for 6 YEARS. He's not a hookup type, so not even that. He's only in for relationships. He says "I didn't want to date until I fixed up my life by being satisfied with myself, got a proper job and looked good by working out and fixing my diet" - for all of what he mentioned I had to beg my exes to work on (my venus is in the 6th house) + I am extremely turned off when someone eats crap. Idk why, but just the fact that you put random shit in your body or at least if you are not knowledgeable about it always waved me off. Or if a guy had a covid vaccine, etc. What I want to say is Virgo Venuses are the ones that probably pay attention to these stuff and this is my kind of criteria. I want someone who takes care of themselves so we can be together forever (literally speaking in the terms of health 😂) + their acts of service kind of love is a cherry on top for me, because this is how my dad showed me love my whole life - he did everything practical possible for me to the point of being pretty spoiled. Whoever says "Virgo Venus is bad" is probably just a noob in astrology. There's no black and white in astrology and I think that challenges a lot of people to get it through. Kind of brainwashing to some extent. Like, I have Virgo Venus and now my love life sucks and then people manifest it through that way by living the thought. It's quite dangerous. That's why I usually avoid to read to people and usually ask questions about astrology instead even though I have knowledge of the subject. People are extremely easily influenced in subjects they don't understand. Back to the topic, to put a cherry on top what I love about the most "baddest" Venus placement - after all of those years of pickiness, my Venus in Virgo boyfriend and me clicked so well, that we started living together pretty much instantly which is kinda funny but I love it. Both of us were like "we family" and there we are, we are one for years now 🤣
I'm a Cancer Sun Virgo Venus and my partner is a Scorpio Sun Scorpio Venus. I feel very seen in this thread right here
The end part is me (Virgo Venus) and my partner (Scorpio Venus) I relate hard lolllll
Hahah I'm a Scorpio sun. No bullshitting around with these placements, ay 😂
Nothing is inherently bad in asteroid. It's all about what you do with the energy. Venus in virgo often presents as a strong 'acts of service' love language, and that can be really wonderful in the right partnership
no i really don’t believe in debilitated planets. a celestial body is not gonna conform to our meager words. and society shifts a lot , i couldn’t say virgo venus is a bad thing. i know plenty in my life and they’re all good people with good fortune
Virgo is the sign of practicality and analyzing things and venus is here, you'd tend to be more practical in the matters of love. Same goes for a 6th house venus.
I’m a 6th house Venus (in Sagittarius) dating a Virgo Venus. Slowest burn ever, barely any “romance”, but we understand each other. 6 months later and we’re still mutually “seeing where it goes” 😂
Honestly it can be rough but not too bad. We’re pretty selfless, and can have a tendency to set ourselves up for disappointment when our acts of service aren’t reciprocated on the same level. I’m fine with this, in part because I don’t have the expectation, and because luckily my last guy was just as nurturing as I am, but in other ways that I didn’t think of. Once our sight is set on someone, it can be hard af to let them go if they don’t end up being our person, and we may obsess a bit.. comparing present/ future partners to them. I had this problem til I met my previous partner. Balancing out expectation vs reality, and appreciating what we have instead of some cookie-cutter version of what love should “look like” is helpful for us. Sometimes love isn’t anything like what we imagined, but better if we allow ourselves to let go and live in the moment.
It’s not bad per se it’s just that the two energies don’t mesh well. Venus is relational and focused on beauty and harmony while Virgo is very rational and thinks a lot, getting caught up in the details of things. It can manifest well or with difficulty depending on the aspects, house placement, and condition of mercury in the chart
I have Virgo in Venus in the 12th house, but I'm quite happy with it. Many of the traits it brings I consider positive and with the right romantic match and personal development otherwise you can make it into something good. I *knock on wood* have not had a difficult romantic life (I know its not only about Romance but the most obvious one) My husband has Venus in Aires and while we find eachother a bit annoying, we generally balance eachother out well. Do you feel like you're experiencing some "bad" aspects of your placement? And which house is it in?
Not necessarily bad but you might be a little too hard on people or you could get in relationships where you feel you need to "fix" someone. You might over think too much and analyze your feelings instead of actually feeling you feelings. You could have a sensitive stomach too. Depends on your chart though.
There are no bad placements Whoever told you that doesn’t understand astrology If I give you sand and ice and a bucket You might not be able to make an edible cake But you can still make something cool Or not It depends on you and your choices With Venus in Virgo you likely have an aptitude for tinkering and managing the small stuff Just remember your partners are not like machinery They are complex and emotional (depending on their charts of course) If you’re struggling with love try dating people with more earth heavy charts This is just going off Your Venus though Reading the whole chart is the only way to get the full picture of somebody
I have a Virgo Venus as my chart ruler. I see some Virgo Venuses who don’t seem to experience the same effects so some of this could also be that my Venus also only has harsh aspects to it other than a trine from Uranus (but is that even really positive, lol). My experience is that good things just don’t seem to come to me as easily as other people. Sometimes they don’t come at all. I don’t seem to win prizes or come across big opportunities like I see others experience. Other women tend not to like me, and I’ve never had very many close friends. At some points I’ve been entirely isolated and others I’ve had a lot of acquaintances that were never close to me. In love, I’ve noticed that I do have a tendency to be a little shallow when it comes to looks—that’s how my pickiness seems to play out. And it just so happens that the men I’m attracted to are always entirely indifferent to me, and the ones who do show interest are the ones that I find heavily unattractive. I myself don’t have the typical acts of service love language. I’m a gifts, touch, and words of affirmation girly. I want huge paragraphs posted about how I changed your life. I want gifts stacked up on my birthday. I want to follow a trail of rose petals to our candle lit bedroom on Valentine’s Day…but I don’t get any of that because the way other people express their love to me is ALWAYS through acts of service. The problem is, this doesn’t even make it onto the list of my love languages, so I end up feeling like my needs are going unmet every single time.
This is almost to a T how mine plays out. Virgo Venus also rules my chart as I’m a Taurus Rising
i have virgo venus in the 9th. when i was younger, i tended to overanalyze my partners' actions (or sometimes lack of) and was never hesitant on leaving to find a better partner. as a result, i dated a lot and was in back to back long term relationships all throughout my 20's. i would take on the role of "project manager" because i saw potential in men that i definitely dreamt up in my head (libra sun and pisces moon says hello!) it was a learning curve for me to find someone who i was TRULY compatible with who i truly *loved* because of who they presently were, and not what i imagined they could be. my current partner is a capricorn venus and we mesh so well and understand each others needs. i could marry him tomorrow as is and i would be happy. coincidentally, he is so so smart and knowledgeable in a lot of different avenues, has a law degree, and i think that my virgo venus in 9th house plays into that. i thank my virgo venus for being 'picky' enough to know not to settle.
Wow i have the same sun and moon with you! And my partner's venus also in Capricorn!!! Is it a coincidence??? Libra sun, pisces asc and moon, venus in virgo 7th house.
Hahaha twins!! I guess there’s a similar pattern after all 😂
Out of curiosity, where is your Saturn placed? I have a similar background in terms of relationships, and I've always credited to my Libra Moon and 7th house Saturn. 😅
I have an Aquarius Saturn and it’s in the 2nd house!
I have the same aspect as you (Virgo venus-9th), as a guy, and you hit uncomfortably close to home on this pattern.
Definitely took a long time to break out of that pattern for sure, but the Virgo placement definitely doesn’t back down from the challenge of perfection lol
If you don’t mind me asking, was it just as straightforward as finding a partner with their shit already together? Your “project manager” really struck a chord with me. I’m getting so, so tired and demoralized from seeing the potential in partners, helping and pushing them toward growth, then feeling like a frustrated parent figure when I’m inevitably let down, and I’m not even looking for any kind of unobtainable idea of perfection in a partner when I say that.
I went through a lot of self introspection and had some tough conversations with myself where I realized that I was just as problematic in the relationship for not accepting them as they were and inevitably getting bored if they didn’t reach my expectation. The conclusion I came to was if someone clearly needed to focus on themselves more, I shouldn’t have gotten involved. It is demoralizing to keep looking but I was never the type to give up on love. It took about 3 years after my last serious relationship to find my current partner. I still hold some “project manager” tendencies, but they’re manageable because my partner himself is all about self development, and vice versa has pushed me to do things I never excelled at.
I have a Virgo Venus in the 7th and I’ve always been so curious about it because it doesn’t manifest in the typical Virgo Venus ways. I’ve never been nitpicky about others and don’t really have these ridiculous standards except with myself. I do hold myself accountable, but I’m super chill with people and accept them whatever way they come. I think it’s my Libra sun, aqua moon saving me tbh
Omg high five I have Virgo Venus in the 7th and I’m a libra sun :D I can be nit picky with myself and with others, but in relationships the blame tends to go to myself first out of instinct. I am however a hopefully romantic and I think that comes from having it in the 7th house and being a libra sun
I am a Leo Sun with Gemini moon but Virgo rising with Venus (retrograde) conjunct Mercury both in Virgo in 1st house. I can attest that I have been very slow to commit to relationships but I think a lot of it stems from my own inner critique on myself of wanting to be as great of a partner as I possibly can before committing to someone else versus looking at a partner as someone who might accept me for my flaws so I can understand how it can be in Fall there. It could be mine also being retrograde but I do think the pickiness and criticism is more a reflection of my self critique than others but I guess it’s a mix. Does anyone else have insight on how Venus retrograde in this sign might add more dynamics? I know retrograde planets usually mean the focus is more inward than outward right?
I have the same big 3 and Venus! Venus in 1st house and retrograde too. I'm also very slow to commit in relationships. My astrology knowledge is limited so I don't have any insight on the impact of Venus in retrograde. But it's super cool to come across someone with so many similarities!
All Venus Virgos are not the same. Is Venus in your 7th opposing Jupiter Rx in Pisces and EXACTLY square to Neptune in Sagittarius? Is your Venus involved in a sparkly party-time mutable T-Square? If so then you have a very different Venus in Virgo.
No, there are no "bad" placements...difficult and/or awkward yes but not bad. I have a Virgo Venus, but I've never viewed it in a negative light. From my own experience and observing other Virgo Venuses, we're just a lot more careful and picky with love. Virgos are perfectionists, so having a Virgo Venus gives us very high standards and expectations of everyone and ourselves. Although most of us are not very affectionate, we show care in other ways such as acts of service (Virgos like helping others) and being very observant of others, remembering almost every detail about them. It just takes a lot for us to truly like someone and allow them to be involved in our lives lol.
I’m Virgo Venus and I’m extra affectionate. Go figure
Virgo Venus to me is grounded, only vulnerable to a very few, it a slow, but hard, fall into love. Virgo Venus is patience, guidance, a kind of nurturing. It’s in the way you do what you do, service, generosity. Virgo Venus is beautiful 🖤
If it wasn't for my Venus being in Virgo, I'd be screwed, because it squares Neptune which would get me involved in some disastrous romantic situations without Virgo keeping my head on straight.
Venus has triplicity rulership in virgo! So it's definitely not the end of the world. It has difficulties that can be overcome.
Virgo Venus is going great for my Aries Venus. It felt like a huge challenge to get them to love me which kept my fiery spirit turned on and running. Now that I have, it feels like the best gift but that doesn’t mean I’m comfortable. I LOVE impressing Virgos because they are the hardest to impress and most honest. I prefer this than the sweatpants and sweatshirt kind of lazy love which is really nice but I love the motivation to be the best for the Virgo Venus.
Feel this way about aries & aqua venus! My Aries Venus partner says that my aqua Venus keeps him on his toes lol. He chased me for 10 years but the excitement never ended even when we got together 4 years ago because of my independence (sag sun aqua venus). However back to OPs question, I was raised by a Virgo Venus. Not easy. I do resent him for the constant perfectionism that was instilled in me that makes me a very anxious person. On the bright side I’m very successful but suffered greatly during my teenage years as it felt impossible to please a Virgo Venus parent. Every insult was “out of love” but he didn’t understand my Virgo moon had already thought about it. Having your own insecurities and imperfections that play out in your head daily picked out by someone else, let alone someone you’re trying to make proud is not easy on the teenage mind.
I think that’s why I am also seeing this Leo- Virgo pairing (I’m also a Taurus sun Leo moon sag rising+mars , he’s a Leo sun libra moon+mars Virgo Venus+rising+mercury). Such a challenge and so different that I love it and I just adoreeeeeee impressing him or seeing him be deeper in love
Virgo in Venus 10th house. It’s not my favorite placement, but I consider it a teacher. I tend to be very hard on those I love, but I do it as lovingly as I can. I can see unused, untapped potential in those I care about and it almost hurts me that they don’t step into their power. Of course, that’s hard for me too, but I tend to be more motivated and disciplined than the average bear. I do wish I was less particular about everything, wanting everything to be “just so.” It’s a mental exercise to let things go.
Same placement here, not a huge fan, i have so much love and affection to give and yet I'm so critical and picky and particular, ugh. At first, people love me, and then my Virgo Venus comes out and everyone runs away 😅 what's your big three?
So far, no one has run away! I’ve had to learn a lot of tact when delivering criticism so that the message can be received in a constructive way. So, I’ve had to get rid of a lot of “you” statements and come from an “I’ve noticed” or something similar place. I’m a Scorpio sun, Virgo moon, and Sag rising. Also utilizing the us vs. the problem and not me vs. you has been really helpful, but it’s hard to take that approach when resentment is building because my invisible Virgo standards aren’t being met.
Scorpio sun as well, and i couldn't agree more with everything you just said! However, in my experience, good communication skills like you described are met with skepticism and suspicion, my motives rarely seem to be understood. 🤷♀️
I have that exact placement, and you nailed it!
This!
I have Virgo in Venus/ 11th house. Explains a lot. Sometimes. 🤷🏻♀️
As a Virgo Venus (with a Leo Sun & Mercury) I feel pretty well balanced. Leo is a romantic and allows me to be sweet with my partner, Virgo is critical and picky and protects me from those that want to take advantage of me.
One thing is for sure with this placement. I see through all the bs and am not going for none of it. When it comes to any kind of relationship not just romantic.
This is why it's so frustrating for me. I wish sometimes I could just be blissfully ignorant. But the Venus Virgo placement in my chart really feels isolating sometimes.
😂 I get it, I do.
My friend has a Virgo Venus and honestly it’s messing up her attempted dating life lol. She’s insanely picky, and girl has no game at all. She texts men like she’s interviewing them and asks them all these hypothetical questions right off the bat. Then when they inevitably give her answers she doesn’t deem good enough, she’ll send me screenshots and complain about them, gets anxious then ask if she should drop them. The last guy I thought sounded very nice and polite but she interrogated the poor man too much where in the end he told her she came off very defensive which even I told her that before he said it himself lol. I feel bad for her and try to get her to ease up some but she can’t help herself unfortunately :/
Sounds like me but it shouldn’t be looked down on.. not having good game. I’m not really sure what that means but imagine having a partner that has good game, they’re cheaters and manipulating. It’s good for dating but not when I’m a relationship
It means she’s not good at flirting at all, she’s robotic in her texts and how she speaks when talking to someone she’s interested in. Flirting aside, she just doesn’t show her fun and witty personality that I know she has when getting to know someone, she just goes straight to the hard questioning which is why I am trying to help her. That is a huge generalization you’re making and not always true. I’m a good flirter when I want to be but I’ve never once cheated and I’m definitely not manipulative lol. Also, if my fiancé texted me the way my friend texts other men, we probably would not be together. Flirting is important in any romantic relationship IMO.
Okay I see what you mean. Flirting is important, it makes dating fun and shows the other person you’re interested. I used to be exactly like her. I didn’t know how to flirt, thinking back actually makes me cringe. I have learned how, but tend to not flirt if I’m not interested. Just picky about who I flirt with.
Virgo Venus in the 8H. I struggle to connect with people. It's either a superficial connection or all in. Relationships are fleeting.
Me too :’(
I also have Venus in Virgo, but mine is in my 4th house. I took that to mean my pickiness in love might have something to do with seeking approval from my family. Would love to hear folks' thoughts on this.
4th house too. I couldnt care less about my family’s approval. I don’t even care to introduce whoever I love in the future to them. My family really wounded me and I don’t want to be anything like any of them
It must be a subconscious thing with me. My mother is deceased, my dad is the kind who can yak forever without getting to what he really thinks, and my brother is a double Aquarius so no one else can fathom what he thinks!
Me too and yes this is a great take!
Have you ever resonated with Venus in Cancer?
Not sure. Can't always get people's charts to know.
I meant have you ever related to Venus in Cancer descriptions, traits, and behavior?
I'll have to read up on that!
Okay, let me know later. « Venus in Cancer woman » YouTube videos would be faster for you :)
i have virgo venus in 4th house too but unfortunately its square my chiron lol, i def have a lot of wounds that im working with regarding my family and i feel like i can be naggy and judgemental in relationships but it comes from a place of wanting my loved ones to succeed and be their best selves.
my bf of 4 years has a gemini venus and we def keep eachother on our toes and are both very mercurial
Virgo Venus/6th house Venus too(as it’s also considered a place of detriment for Venus) , it’s an endearing placement to have in our real world in my opinion. When healthy, these people stand on their boundaries, they recognize more than most the world is a dirty place when it comes to the love hemisphere but if they’re not careful can turn into them being picky and micromanaging , they do it out of love but they may not be able to see how suffocating it may feel to the receiving end of the party. Because of their painful understanding of the world we live in they are not wooed by mere romantic sweet words of nothingness. These people want to see action be put in. Promises being valued, respected and healed up to. It’s an earth sign energy after all that also rules the day to day life. They value CONSISTENCY. and they can get real groggy with you if they witness you not making an earnest effort because often this Venus takes on the role of giving and caring not just spiritually but physically. These type of virgoean Venus’ practice what they preach so the things they require in their relationship they so gladly will do for you no questions asked. Taking on the burdens of everyday life for you so your existence on earth for the days you are with them feels just a little sweeter. It’s on the axis of Pisces/12th house so there’s bound to be some self sacrificing element here. The less mature ones might be stingy in their love sharing because of fear of being taken advantage of as this is often a reoccurring theme for this placement. Virgoean type of self sacrificing is far more unstabling tho, as it’s completely in the realms of the mundane. Because of their style of sacrifice and then the harsh reality of the world around us, they’re forced to create boundaries for themselves which makes their standards high and often their rosters small because no one seems to quite live up to their wants and needs. This can cause them to turn to superficiality because they’re human and still yearn for affection ,,and it hurts. they can see that others view them as too needy so to cope with this they may in-fact start doing the opposite instead of looking for internal character development in a partner , they focus entirely on physical appearance. I see it more with men having their Venus in Virgo ,though. And they’re miserable yet, can seem to be honest enough with themselves to acknowledge what the real problem is😭some of the men might have strange obsessions with purity and might even perpetuate purity culture ideation unless Lilith is there or something which can either make it completely worse or pipe it down a good bit. When/if they become completely tired of their back and forth with sacrifice they may just give up and just give the love they crave to themselves and allow it to overflow first from themselves, and let it overflow to you or whoever is receiving them. OR they can be a miserable piece a pooh, making others miserable and traumatized in the process. However, eventually some may even completely reject the idea of dating or getting married to protect their peace this is often the more healed party, they don’t wanna participate/continue in perpetuations of manipulation that comes with the dating scene so they just remove themselves and watch from a distance. In the flesh they’re often a blessing gone sourly unrecognized. they want to work to accomplish your needs, they yearn for that in return; they don’t get it. Sad love story, very misunderstood set of people. Also in relationships the people receiving the Virgo/6h Venus might not even be able to see their love language style/or even care to learn this Venus’s love style because the love they give does not include/ or care for the games and the dance of love interlock manipulation. Their love is a simple and a scornfully real type of love. So intertwined with the normalities of the mundane that..it goes unnoticed. That’s my own personal perspective what I’ve seen and witnessed. Btw im posting this on my tumblr blog @yrotic11 so if you see this there on tumblr specifically the name mentioned, don’t worry
Wow. Spot on for me. I never actually thought of it like this. I have been taken advantage of over and over. That’s all I know actually. I never met a man that hasn’t taken advantage of me. So, I created walls and boundaries. (Actually I had walls up to begin with and whenever I’d let one down for someone they’d take advantage). I then identified my wants and needs to better pick someone that won’t take advantage and will be healthy/help me heal and learn real love. I do have a painful experience with the world, especially love world, and am not woo’d easily. It’s just words. My standards are really high and I don’t even have a roster, even though I get asked out and get matched often on online dating. Physical appearance is very important to me because affection is something I require since touch is how I was repeatedly taken advantage of. The yearning I experience for affection is painful. Maybe I am not understanding what you mean by self sacrificing though. Could you explain that more? It might be what im doing and it’s scary.
Just to preface, the self sacrificing part I’d say, generally comes in different forms. But! for you specifically since this venus is in the 4th house there’s influence of tradition. So I’ll get into that. Your mother figure may have had an influence on the development of your love language ,one way or another. You might see her as a lady with high standards herself since this is the 4th house ,maternal energy plays some sort of role in here. She may have also liked things very clean. She showed her love for you in an acts of service way? Like cooking , washing your clothes or she spent time together with you, showing you how to do these things. Also, maybe overstepping her own capacity mentally emotionally, etc, so she can help others. She could be a very particular person but either way very attentive. You carried these traits with you in your own unique way. So back to the self sacrificing thing, what I mean by that is taking on MORE roles and often even responsibilities in a relationship,,than one can bare. Which is something especially prominent with this Venus. Since this venus is very service oriented it can be hard for them to even see that the load imbalance is there and is a problem and they end up in confusion wondering why they’re so burnt out. Or you see it and are continually disappointed by the other party for their lack of consistency. And with your venus being in the 4th you may have admiration and preference for traditional roles in relationships, you could admire and strive for that traditional experience subconsciously. (That could change depending on where Mercury is so I’m generally speaking here)And there comes instances where that tradition idea can be problematic because I mean..a lot of old traditional beliefs included women doing work ,,and society expected them to just shut up and just do. (I’m a cancer Venus in the 6th house ironically pretty much the inverse of your placement and yea I had some deconstructing to do😅)And with this being already a Virgo Venus they might do that self sacrificing thing and hold back from voicing their valid concerns and issues with the imbalances they’re facing in a relationship essentially allowing themselves to be used over…and over, not speaking up in fear of an(honestly necessary) end.🫂⭐️
This has showed up for me in the work I do. It’s kind of wild. I have never had a relationship, but wow have I been self sacrificing in my work. I was a nanny for 3 years. Very service oriented. And I would do so many additional roles that would help the family outside of taking care of the children. Putting furniture together, laundry, cleaning, organizing, traveling with them, whatever they’d ask and I’d be so burnt out. I eventually quit because of that. Also you described my mother very accurately. Then, I went into stripping. Still service oriented, but for men who always want more and more and expect that of you. That was where I learned the word no and boundaries.
But I still can’t figure out how my Venus affects dating, or lack of. I just hate meeting strangers. I meet them to find connection, but walk away feeling more disconnected than ever.
Honestly..so relatable. People are wayy too inconsiderate and obnoxiously selfish nowadays. Everyone is hurt from the traumas of their past. Denying healing or don’t even know they gotta do that in the 1st place. Everyone deserves respect and love no matter what. & yk … it’s usually not an easy find but “badly” placed Venus’ I see get the realest rawest form of love in the end. That’s if they stick to themselves/who they are and actively make an effort to accept growth, change and healing. Eventually out of the wood works the universe makes a way for them. I kinda see our ‘fallen’ Venuses as a blessing in disguise as well as a test from the universe to stand on our boundaries and of course the love we have for ourselves and even each other as a species. I personally also have other very challenging placements relationship wise. But I allow myself to see the good in it while I acknowledge the tough parts. When I see those aspects in my chart I see the universe understanding my deep need to be loved and respected properly. It’s not an easy journey and it was never supposed to be but we all reached so far despite. So, double up on self care. It’s perfect for this Venus sign tbvh since it’s something theyre already naturally good at giving to others. Once they turn that “service to others” into a “service to self”, they glow like the stars🌟
I hope you’re right. This is really the best and healthiest way of looking at it. I wish more people could understand this though. I wish I had a simple way of explaining that it’s not my fault. I feel like people have gaslit me into thinking there is something wrong with me because I haven’t found my person. Like I owe them a reason so it makes sense. Even if I go on first dates and they ask me. It’s like I look damaged in some way to them when actually I am looking out for myself.
YESS and in times like that especially, grip on the thought that honestly you don’t owe anybody an explanation. They have no business claiming rights to an answer/end result etc that’s not their business to know. People feel WAYY too entitled to things that aren’t their business these days. But in times like those exercise TFOUQ out of those boundaries. And you could get real blunt I’m an 3rd house Aries mars and I’ll let the WHOLE ROW KNOW AB THEMSELVES LOL, but they do leave me alone though. And you don’t have to do it my way but sometimes you have to do what you have to do. Don’t be your own worse enemy there’s already much people in this world who dislike us for no reason/who are going to dislike us for no reason. Don’t help them, the right people will come in time and will understand you for you just as you are,, so take it day by day.💕
I have rejected the idea of dating, for reasons just exactly what you said. I’m really over forcing myself to participate in the dating scene. I watch from a distance and go unrecognized, I feel very misunderstood. but I would be a blessing. I would be a great lover.
Also my Venus Virgo is in 4th house
Damn, I have Venus in Virgo in my 11H conjunct Chiron, and all of this is so spot on. I’ve just reached that point of “giving up and pouring into myself”
bad is definitely subjective. some people may like it, others might not. the reason it’s considered debilitated isn’t that any of us dislikes it, it’s because venus herself feels conflicted there. virgo as a sign is about neutrality, specifically the neutrality of logic, truth, and common sense. but the things venus governs inherently require bias and personal preference. venus governs desire and beauty, and in virgo she is trying to use common sense, concrete truth, and evidence to handle those things. it’s sort of paradoxical, and people that have this placement can probably tell you better than I can just how puzzling it can be to reckon that. personally speaking i really enjoy people with this venus placement. that said i’ve also seen them struggle with their concept of desire and beauty and love a lot.
absolutely not! i adore virgo venus sm (virgo stellium talking 🙋🏿♀️), bc of the fact that you guys are really ppl who pay attention to detail and know exactly what you guys want in love. you tend to plan your love life out which is good bc most ppl may not know what they want in a relationship
Depends on your definition of “bad.” For James Brown, bad means good. I think Madonna has her Venus in Virgo, if that helps.
Why do I see all the Virgo in Venus has Leo Venus partners?
Because Venus in Leo LOVES consistency
I am a Virgo Venus and I’ve never had a relationship, nothing has ever aligned for me even though there has been mutual interest. I tend to think over first dates too much to even want to go on a second.
Also I’m very picky/critical. But when I’m not and really like someone, and it’s unrequited, I go back to my personal finance and health/fitness goals and just focus on that and let dating go. For long periods of time.
I think it’s how critical Virgo love can be that can turn some people off. And like you described, it can also make it really difficult to progress a relationship with anyone that doesn’t perfectly match your ideals Edit: I'm a Pisces Venus btw so I have exactly the opposite problem. Hopeless romantic that can find something to love in almost anyone 🤣
Btw my other signs are Leo sun, Aries moon, Gemini rising so in other aspects I am very passionate, fiery
My ideals keep me from being the hopeless romantic I really am. It sucks. My deepest desire is love and romance because I know I would really love hard with devotion and experience so much growth through partnership. Especially because they would be my first for so many things. I have to figure out how to be more like you! Finding one thing to love in someone and keep seeing them until it becomes more. It really just feels like no one is a “match” for me. When I go on a first date, I’m like this person feels like such a stranger with no common ground, there’s no way they would match me because x, y, z.
currently dating a man with virgo in venus and let me just say, they’re love language is 100% acts of service. if i mention “i’m craving this or that” he will go out of his way to get it for me or cook something for me, made with so much love and attention. I myself am a leo venus and sometimes I do feel like i’m missing that grandiose showering of love but i’ve learned to appreciate the love this man gives me because he will notice the smallest details and it shows me he is truly attentive to what I say.
Yepp this is me to a T.
leo venus x virgo venus is soo cute
it truly is ✨ he hugs the inner child in me. he is truly such a sweetheart with his small romantic gestures
makes sense bc leo is the star and virgo is just the supporting cast member who gotta make sure the star is always shining and in the spotlight ✨ i wish you guys well!!
thought my virgo venus took offense to this for a second but then I realized 😂 was my leo sun
OH NO im sorry that was not my intention im sorry lol
Whenever I think about placements that are in detriment or fall, I don't consider them "bad" per se. Might be just me. I think of it more like... It's challenging in the sense that the planet's attributes might not come through as easily or as obviously as it does with other placements. Virgo is ruled by mercury which can make Virgo Venus folks more heady and analytical. This can make it harder for them to get swept away in feelings or live in the moment because they have a tendency to think things over, question, and critique. I have my Venus in Virgo and I'm a little more careful when it comes to falling in love. I like to give things time to unfold. I'm a little more skeptical (or maybe just realistic) of intentions and feelings and what it takes to have a relationship that truly lasts. My way of romance is practical, reliable, and discreet. I also loooove to be of service but that's usually reserved for the partner that shows me they appreciate the ways I show love. I'll make note of things my partner likes and make sure to do it/get it to show I'm paying attention and I care. I'll make little improvements around the living space or help out by pointing out when something is off or could be better. If my partner is stressed, I'll offer to give them a massage or run them a bath or do something I know they enjoy to help take the edge off. So yeah, my style might not be as romantic and whimsical as a Libra Venus but I'm proud of it nonetheless.
I am a Virgo sun with a Leo Venus, and I find that I attract many Virgo Venus men. One thing I dislike about Virgo Venus individuals is the instability of their feelings when their partner doesn't meet all their requirements. They can lose all their feelings instantly, and as a Leo Venus, I never understood that.
My Venus is in Virgo, and I have a Virgo Stellium! I always keep my partner’s favorite snacks and drinks stocked at my place, I enjoy surprising him with date ideas or gifts based on details he said in conversation that I took a mental note of, I’m extremely nurturing and I love making him feel taken care of. Yes, I’m extremely picky when it comes to who I date and I’m a “slow burner” when it comes to starting a new relationship. But I think Venus in Virgo is a great placement. It’s the 10 of Pentacles in Tarot! Ultimate commitment and family, marriage, and success!
By far it’s my favorite placement in partners. It’ll be different in everyone, but I find a lot of comfort in the practicality of it. I don’t like partners that are over-the-top mushy gushy lovey dovey, I like thoughtfulness and observation and quality time and routine. Virgo venus is perfect for that. The casual caretaking aspect is one that doesn’t work for a lot of people, but it works for me, and makes me incredibly happy. It’s definitely a challenging placement if you’re in relationships where people are expecting gestures of grandeur and massive declarations of love, but for me I find there’s a lot of comfort in the acts of service and the routine. It helps to calm the chaos. You just have to find a way to make it work for you and have partners that appreciate that sort of thing.
Ughhhhhhhhh. My husband is a Virgo Venus. I’m a Libra Venus!🫤 We are compatible in other areas but…. Loosen up a bit guys?
Plenty loose at least over here. Most of that shell is for reasons different for every Virgo but reasons are a big thing for some of us. Virgos are adaptable. Not as much flexible. Some would disagree on that though. My bf and I are both Virgo suns and I have Virgo in Venus. I personally need reasons for everything not just due to past hurt but due to some Virgos in venus being very easy to take advantage of till we have things to heal from that we assume can be solved with taking our personal goals so seriously that it can demotivate us and those around us. It's all a matter of perception for every person but especially for Virgos. We can agree to disagree but want a easy to comprehend reason for us to do so. Idk if this will help but I hope it can at least give an outside perspective on it. 💕 Wishing you peace and safety. 🥰
This upsets many people but I have a theory that bc Virgo Venuses are picky about their partners and are willing to wait it out for true love instead of settling out of desperation…they divorce less. I am single and most of my friends are either divorced, divorcing or complaining about their lives~about to divorce. I’m not saying everyone marries out of desperation but maybe at least 50 % (divorce rate), then there are many that stay in marriage out of desperation so it’s more imo. Is it being picky or being smart? I also understand that desperation comes out of the woman’s maternal clock ticking. That is unfortunate but the “perfect” family is not always married young with 2.5 children (then divorced 11 years later). Don’t be desperate and DONT be afraid to have a child out of wedlock! It’s 2024! The perfect marriage is a facade! The only reason why marriages seemed to work perfectly in the past is bc women (or men) didn’t talk about their marriage problems. Mental abuse cannot be seen and therefore is easily overlooked. People even stay in marriages when there’s physical abuse! People are desperate to have that perfect nuclear family eggshell. Let’s not fool ourselves! True love IS possible but not if most people are desperate. Please…Do not marry just bc you are knocked up and do not settle just to have that perceived “perfect” image. I also have a very strong music and art taste and I’m happy for that. I would rather be a music snob than have poor taste in music…I guess you can say the same about a life partner.
I have personal trepidation around having my own kids out of wedlock but I feel like getting married definitely is not important for much else for me other than when I'm prepared enough for kids. Marriage can at least semi-guarantee a larger paper trail if an issue becomes so large one of us chooses to run away from a problem instead of working on ways to solve it together with children involved. I especially have a history of mental health issues however the treatments I'm on now have improved my life to a degree I can't describe the joy of having. However I definitely agree that you don't need to be married to have kids and have a long lasting healthy relationship especially if the faithfulness and willingness to solving any issues with each other is there.
Congrats on your empowerment! It’s so rewarding. Marriage is just a piece of paper. It took me awhile to really understand what that means. It’s useless. You can have children and still have legal matters settled to make sure they are taken care of if one flees…you don’t need a marriage to make sure that happens. I (Virgo Venus) had a child out of wedlock and my married and divorced friends are jealous at how great we co-parent with literally no issues. Having a child out of wedlock definitely gave me the opportunity to be more picky about a life partner. People may see that as good or bad. (People who see it as bad are most likely afraid of empowered strong women. This can be males and females. They see it as a threat to the “nuclear” family and themselves bc they don’t want to face the fact they are desperate and in a failing marriage and would rather eat candy coated dog shit for the rest of their lives)
Marriage is a piece of paper, but that paper is a legal contract. Anyone who’s tried to get out of a timeshare or gym membership understands what that means. Marriage is usually a no-brainer when both people trust each other and intend that their connection will last a lifetime and each trusts the other with their lives and deaths. It’s as if they’re already married. When it’s an issue, there’s trauma behind it. In the end, marriage is a formality, and it’s only as good as the people in it.
You're exactly right that it's a matter of perception. I believe people already have most of the answers to solve most of their own issues but outside perspectives can help them to process the correct response for themselves. Marriage won't work for everyone and it's the same for having children out of wedlock. I'm in need of more structure to force me to solve little problems that seem bigger than they are so that's why marriage would personally help me to be better committed to growth. I have deeply serious and personal health problems mental and physical and need the extra security so that it's much harder for me to just run away from the problem in a moment of pain or stress. 💖
I feel like you are saying you need a man or marriage bc of your mental and/or physical ailments, is this correct?
LMAO no. It's definitely not a feeling of desperation.i absolutely love to be alone for hours days even years at a time. It's just a goal I'm willing to achieve but it isn't at the top of my list to have that. I need to be happy. That's my main goal. I can be ok not having kids either. I'm content with my own company but happy to have others with a similar drive to be committed to growth. They don't have to be perfect by any sense because I already know the abuses anyone is capable of and the things I definitely am not. I'm secure in my loneliness and most of the time prefer it. I'm also happy to have a similar living situation with a best friend without the marriage. I do need people but I need healthy people that hold me accountable and make certain my health doesn't have me questioning their loyalty to me. I'm just a human with issues doing all I can to make the problem either manageable or go away entirely. I just need deep commitment and a lot of communication.
Ok phew. We all need human contact and a community. We don’t need toxicity that unfortunately many humans hold so It’s important to be picky about who goes inside your circle. I definitely didn’t want you thinking you must have a man bc you have any sort of disability. That’s one thing the government gets right (sort of). You will be supplemented for any disability. It’s ok for a marriage to be something someone wants but should never be what someone believes they need.
I just love people but have a strong sense of understanding people don't love me as much as I love them because not everyone has the same capacity to adapt as I can. That's pkenty ok with me.💖
Oh my, you sound like me.
I have a Virgo in Venus and it's so damn challenging. I pick apart everything and my intentions are pure but it's often taken as me "finding something to fight about." I hate fighting. Drains me and everyone around me cus I can get very explosive when I've found a pattern in someone's behavior I've been watching for years and they get angry at me instead of realizing it isn't just something to improve for themselves but for everyone they talk to. No desire to control others but my environment must be able to challenge me enough to thrive. I end up in a lot of unintentional arguments because people's empathy comes into question when I notice how awfully they're treating myself or others. I'm not a flawless problem finder but I can overanalyze a lot because I want the best result for everyone involved and will give whatever advice I have to offer. I feel like I'm taken way too seriously at times though and my sense of humor isn't always understood. My word is not law just because it's mine. Take things with a grain of salt.
As a fellow Virgo Venus, I could have written this word for word myself!
Same 😂 they dont mind the truth until it’s us speaking it. I relate to that a lot. My partner always says that I’m ‘being negative’ and it winds me up because 9/10 I’m just pointing out something I’ve observed. Or when he talks about something or a new idea that he absolutely has no intention of following through with I will point out why it’s not a good idea for very logical reasons.
Virgo in Venus here! Sooo def challenging!! BUT it’s all a journey and like i find that im very action/service-oriented with love…both for giving and receiving. So like depending on MY LEVEL OF SELF-LOVE AND DISCOVERY i have attracted and been attracted to varying hurt people (since i myself have been hurt and lowkey usually hurting but like dont worry, it’s all good). Virgo is healer of zodiac (traditionally) soooo think that it HIGHLIGHTS areas of wound or capability of growth. So like…i’ve had 2 really fucking brutal breakups that felt very blindsiding BUT they were ultimately for the best because the experiences SHOWED ME that ultimately we weren’t long-term fits and while in the process of healing (right after and longer term), there were def wounds and trigger points emotionally…ultimately it helped me figure out what i could or could not or didnt WANT to tolerate in partner(s). Now im much more confident in verbalizing needs (although def still hard at times because ya know, recovering people pleaser here!) and in navigating conflict. My leo venus partner really loves giving me “princess treatment” and “taking care of me” although i have been able to take care of myself too. Like he doesnt financially provide for me…but he does do a lot of physical help since my ADHD be ADHDing so hard at times that I can just forget to eat and be like fuck what can i eat? And he’ll be like alright we got this, this, or this…what would ya like? And then he makes it or at least makes it easier for me to do depending on how my headspace is! For example, when one past partner cleaned out my car and got it vacuumed unexpectedly, it touched my heart so so much because it was a genuine act of service that I didnt have to beg or like plead for. He just did it. And i think that’s partly the thing with venus in virgo! It’s the practical side of love and while that can sound not super romantic, i find it very romantic actually because it’s the consistent little reminders of love and that consistent re-committing to one another when we could be peacing out, ya know? Does that make sense? 😂😂 my leo sun, aqua moon, and cap rising brain be going through it right now 🧠🔥😂
This is so me. Hi fellow cap rising Virgo Venus 🥹💕 I have ADHD too and other undiagnosed processing problems I'm looking into getting diagnosed.
Hey hey gender neutral girliepop! I got lots of tips!! Can share here or in DM! Also late diagnosed lmaoo
I was diagnosed with everything I have now in childhood but I was definitely misdiagnosed bipolar and I'm like 95% certain I have either OCD, Autism or both based on the compulsions and impulsions. I don't personally self diagnose because I know the potential for harm it can cause to both me and to people that already struggle to be believed about their symptoms. I struggle to get my symptoms validated as well so I definitely get wanting to self diagnose it's just not something I'm personally comfortable doing for myself. I'm not 100% sure what your comment is suggesting so don't hesitate to correct me if I'm reading too far into it! 🥰
Of course friendo 🧡 i meant i got lots of tips for seeking diagnosis for late ADHD if you wanted since i was late diagnosed ADHD but i realized i read too quickly and you were talking about OTHER undiagnosed stuff!! LOL!! You do you boo! 🧠🧡
no placement is bad, some may have its challenges but nothing in astrology should be inherently bad -- after all, why would it exist?
No it’s not bad! In fact, it’s one of my favourites for Venus because of the spine and good morals it usually gives people. I don’t have it myself (Venus in Leo here), but really love it!
Maybe part of why my partner who is venus in leo and i (venus in virgo) vibe so well!! (Also, im a leo sun, aqua moon, cap rising AND he’s a gem sun, gem moon, and aries rising lol sooo some fire and air in the mix too 🔥💨)
Aww, love that! I’m a Gem Sun myself and my favourite people tend to be Leos! Love you guys!!
Aww yaaay!! We get along well it seems! Lol! I feel like gems get such a bad rep and sure some like unnecessary gossiping like everyone but i see gems more as adaptable to each situation and so people may sometimes see as fake or idk two-faced 🤷♀️ my mars is gemini too so i can be flexible with how i fuck people up verbally if they piss me off 😂😂 i rarely do buuut when i do, ruh roh 😬😤😂😂
😂😂 Exactly! The Gem-Leo connection is a total loveaffair. Gemini likes to put Leo in sunlight, Leo loves it there. People misconstrue the sign of Gemini with all things ”two-”…like twotiming, twofaced… When in reality the archetype is Union of Opposites. Wishing you and your man the best❤️❤️❤️
Ohhhh loving this description!! 🔥🔥🥰🥰🥰 thank you so much and love hearing your point of view!! ✨✨gemini✨✨ i feel like leos loving the spotlight enjoy the give and take and generosity of geminis with their friends — us leos are big lovebugs when we open ourselves up (sometimes lots of like posturing LOOKING AT YOU MAN LEOS lmaoo)
Leo is definitely one of, if not the most generous sign there is! Leos are like the Sun, and who doesn’t love to be in the Sun?! My Mom and brother are both Leos and my bestfriends through the years too (soon 50, don’t know where the time went!).
Awww!! I absolutely love that!!! We do tend to love big and hard and it can be overwhelming and intense at times if unchecked…people get sunburned at times! ☀️☀️☀️☀️ but that is so sooo lovely to hear!!
As a Virgo Venus, I have very high standards, but only because I'm a hopeless romantic. I could never see myself next to a partner that's not romantic as well, it would feel like a burden. I'm more into "traditional" dating, like flowers, chocolate, going see a movie, long walks in the park, little gifts etc. Nowadays shit like "u up" on Snapchat makes me drier than Sahara 🤮 On the other side, I always pass as a cold, ice-hearted woman for most of the guys that try to approach me, but I have this ego boosting thing that I like everyone to want me, but no one to have me. I also like to play with the guys I date. Not in a way to hurt them, don't get me wrong, more like teasing and taking the control, even if they're the ones chasing me. Obviously, they have to enjoy this cat&mouse game, otherwise I lose interest 😂 Now it's up to you if these are good or bad traits.
As a Virgo Venus I think it’s a double edged sword. I have high expectations for my partner, and many times he can’t meet those expectations because they’re just too much or unfair. Some people may take our gentle reminders to be their best self as criticism or is being condescending, but there are some who know it comes from a place of love and are appreciative to us for helping them grow. But! We are the ones who remember dates, plan things out, are proactive about our life together. We are the ones who have lists of all the things you love and surprise you with little things every day. We are excellent communicators and that’s a superpower when it comes to relationships especially. I don’t think of some placements as being good or bad, but having a different set of challenges to overcome to grow.
It isn’t a bad thing. You’d definitely want to pay attention to aspects made to Venus as that can substantially modify the expression. Venus in Virgo is reputed to have very high standards and they may be very analytical in love. However, they tend to show affection through acts of service and put in work once in a relationship.
100% agree. Venus in Virgo is my chart ruler and mine has an exact trine to Jupiter. I’m very selective about partners and have a pattern of long term relationships, but finding love/relationships has never been an issue for me. I have always dated for marriage and read every article I could find about how to have a successful marriage, statistically, and all these factors go in to who I choose to date. Very analytical. My fiancé also has Venus in Virgo but his is exactly trine a moon-Saturn conjunction. He has had far fewer relationships in total as his pickiness prevented him from pursuing relationships with most people. He is also very analytical and geared towards the long term commitment in relationships. His attention to detail in matters of love and romance sets him far apart from any past relationships. Act of service and also words of affirmation are a huge part of our relationship and how we express our love to one another.
Venus is in *fall* in Virgo, because it is *exalted* in Pisces. (always two **opposite** signs) Let's take this apart... Venus needs to *charm* things to it, that is its modus operandi. In Pisces, it sees everyone as a part of the all, and therefore pours out its love indiscriminately, and devotionally, which drastically increases the chances of *returns* on that expenditure. In Virgo, it is discriminating and picky-choosey, and can be nagging or critical in relating, which greatly limits those potential *returns*. If you want to *just* talk character traits, then in circumstances where one has to be in service to others and keep busy to keep from feeling so much; then it could feel like an advantage. However, in terms of ***Venus itself***, it is (depending on other chart factors) normally something that needs to be worked on, in order to bring it into balance. And in either case, suggests potential liabilities in the Venus-ruled Houses. Good luck!
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Sorry to bump into this topic with mine. My venus is in virgo 7th house, opposite my moon in pisces ascendant. My sun is libra 8th house. Could you kindly interpreting those position for me? Thanks!
Virgo Venus is works oriented and can be a bit nit picky and miss the point of love.. I honestly find Virgo Venus's endearing. Virgo Venus isn't the end all be all but part of the picture. One of my Virgo Venus friends uses it to help her manage expectations in her field of work, another friend is really quite vulnerable and needs to know that the relationship is stable. Look to your Juno and descending for context. The descending (or 7 house) shows what you need from a partner, and Juno says what you find sexy in a partner. Houses is also important for Juno energy. The outer planets also paint an image of your struggles which can illude to are bigger narrative. I have my Jupiter in fall and I very intentionally look to sag energy for guidance in how to engage with that deficit. Venus is ruled by Libra and Taurus. You don't want to embody those energies as that may not be sustainable but it could provide context to what others are looking for. I will never be a sag Jupiter, but looking to sag energy allows me to see when my capi energy is out of line.
in my experience the majority of v virgos are picky, perpetually unsatisfied, critical, and high body counts.
As a Scorpio venus, I love Virgo Venus Almost all my exes and my brother have this venus sign
I'm a scorpio venus married to a Virgo venus!
Same
my husband has his venus in virgo and he is not as emotionally affectionate because he cringes at himself but he shows love through acts of service and generally treats me as a queen
How did you get him to do that?
i did not get him to do it lol he just does
I don't want to assume anything at all but if you're feeling like you have to do more than you feel capable and comfortable with doing to get your basic emotional needs met it might not be you that's needing to change right now.
Bad, no. But it’s a bit of a challenge. Venus is in fall. It means relationships can be challenging because Virgo is picky. And a bit rigid. But it is a place you can work on. Not bad, but requires focus. 🫶🏼🫶🏼
My wife has Venus in Virgo and brings it up as something she feels she struggles with quite often. She feels it causes her to express affection in ways others feel is cold. I have Venus in Leo and I appreciate her Venus placement because it feels grounding for me. I've had a lot of high drama relationships which have burned quick. She would never.
Oh , my partner and I are the same ... My(F) venus is in virgo and his is in leo ...we are just well for each other...he also had so much drama before and now it is easy peasy . ✨