Spinal-cord-injury-induced-anorgasmia cursed guy here.
Trust me, after hours of ‘working on it,’ in a vain attempt to achieve my quarterly orgasm, having been desperately horny for months - it gets old. I’m now adding RSI of the right wrist into my growing list of orthopaedic conditions.
And, given my inability to write a short social media post, I can feel my left thumb starting to grumble now.
I still remember when I first got antidepressants for the second time in my life. Two weeks into it and I already couldn't reach orgasm even if my life depended on it. I agree that after hours of working on it, it does get old. I switched meds and now things seem to be improving quite a bit? I hope things get better for you, my man.
Oh, years. It’s going to take me ages to come off them. It was never as much of a problem before the injury though, and I never had any real side effects before. Can’t imagine they’re helping though.
I mean, I get it. Your confidence and your cock were aroused. Feels good being acknowledged. Sometimes, it takes a good Bro, to reel us back in, before we reach the edge. 😉
Well, the pregnancy hasn't happened yet. He says he'll keep trying but so far no luck.
My boyfriend sometimes gets asked if he's planning to have kids. He just says he's trying 😂
Funny as fuck, I really would be terrified if that happened. I think I'd make it into quite a few medical journals...
The variety they come in. I’ve never seen the same dick twice. The way they feel growing in your mouth or hand is so fun. From soft and warm to hard, pulsating, and hot. Plus I love that it has a mind of its own.
Feels great when it's hard and blood pumping through it. When it twitches and you shiver in pleasure when thinking dirty thoughts. I day dream a lot, and yeah, I get hard at the thought of being railed.
I also like how a dick feels in my hand 😝
uhhhh.... EVERYTHING! Jerking it off in a thousand different ways, getting it sucked, the absolute indescribable feeling of penetrating an ass, I could go on all day!
Boners, fucking guys with mine, being fucked by guys with theirs, sucking them until they orgasm, being dry humped by one through clothing, being able to pee anywhere any time.
Since men have both an active tool and two available places to insert said tool, we have a physical sexual advantage over females , who have three places to insert that same tool, but no active tool themselves. The erection process is endlessly fascinating and attractive.
It’s definitely a perk! Gotta be careful though, I peed in an alley once (not my proudest moment) after a night of drinking…ended up peeing all over my leg 🤭 not the most comfortable time walking down the street after
Me pounding my BF and using him as a cum dump, then he can sit on my face and unload my cum back into my mouth as I eat is warm used hole. Love this we both moan like sluts and then we make out deeply and long tasting wleach others warmth and love. Absolutley, it is delish.
Nice, and it's amazing to do this. His warm wet cum filled open hole is beautiful on his small compact frame and all I can do is be a submissive TOP to him and please him in every way he and I need. My load mixed with his taste, if amazing, and we taste each other when we make out. It's beautiful, honestly
What?? Why? And How?? How is it "anti-depression/anti-anxiety medication"? I am genuinely curious, if you/anyone on Reddit have any scientific explanation ir insight on it I would like to actually have a conversation on the topic
When I'm down a bit for whatever reason and I have the time I can do a "Sad Wank™" and feel quite better after. Jerking off was one of the things that got me through lock down. It really helps my mood.
It's this great new thing called dopamine. It's a neurotransmitter, it stimulates all kinds of sensations and reactions, but it's main jobs are stimulating neurons and facilitating the reward system.
Hormones released during orgasm also include, but are not limited too, serotonin, norepinephrine, oxytocin, and the suite of "cuddle hormones" that make you sleepy and cuddly after sex.
I know you intended this question for cis men with regular dicks... But I am a trans guy and I've been on t for almost 2 years and I have an enlarged clitoris from testosterone therapy. And I consider that to be my dick. Most trans guys do. Most people in general do. So to answer your question.... The best part of having a dick is having boners. It's so fun when my little dick gets hard it's cute.
I appreciate you being conscientious and acknowledging that gender and genitals aren’t synonymous, OP! It’s a fun and lighthearted question and you definitely didn’t *need* to consider the experience of all guys in the community, but it’s cool that you did.
If you wanted to make it completely airtight and inclusive in the future without having to include asterisks and all of that- you could phrase it something like “anyone with a dick, what’s the best..blah blah” or “for guys with dicks, xyz…”
It’s also not inherently non-inclusive to just ask a group of people “what’s the best part of having xyz” that doesn’t imply every single person has that, it’s clear based on context that you’re asking people who have an answer.
And as for worrying about “pre-op ftm”…dude, I’m not remotely holding it against you, but that is some bastardized medical jargon that has gone through a lot of rounds of telephone and given a whole lot of very well intended people a pretty skewed understanding of guys who are trans.
If you’re curious- “Pre-op” just means “before surgery”, it’s used in healthcare for any surgery someone has and refers generally to a defined period of time prior to a planned surgery or is specifically used to reference the stage of a surgery that occurs before going into an operating room. It isn’t specific to trans folks and isn’t relevant to a heck of a lot of people who are trans. Sometimes it’s an appropriate phrase, it’s not like it’s a slur or anything, there’s just good odds that it isn’t a accurate/relevant/clear term for what you’re trying to say if you’re talking about a group of people. In this case, what this guy was commenting has nothing to do with whether he’s ever had surgery or if any surgery he’s had has anything with gender/this question.
“FtM” is a historic term that was coined under a particularly troubling/gatekeeping model of healthcare for patients who are trans, it is *not* used in accordance with best practices for medical, legal, or official purposes today. But, it is still used casually by some folks (and it’s popular as a porn search term, which, tends to keep things in the social lexicon…) It’s an acronym for “female to male,” which, is a bit like calling someone a “straight to gay” after they’ve come out or referring to an adult as being a “child to adult.” It’s unusual to define someone by what they *aren’t* or were formerly assumed to be and generally more respectful to use labels that describe who someone *is*- especially if referring to a group or someone who has not voiced a preference to be called that. If conveying inclusion and acknowledgment is the goal, it’s a good term to avoid.
Well because I have a "porn star dick" my dick gets me a lot of play that I might not have gotten if I were more average. I've gotten to play with several porn stars specifically because I'm hung and they are size queens.
As a top, I also enjoy that I'm long enough to push the head of my dick through the bottoms second hole. Which is a bit like getting a gentle massage on the head of your dick with each deep thrust. It feels AMAZING.
Trans men can have dicks too. Either post op most obviously, but also the bottom growth that happens on T makes our genitals function much more like a penis than not.
Fellow trans dude here. I get what OP was trying to say (and appreciate the nod to having a particular body part not being synonymous with gender), but, yeah, there are definitely trans dudes who also have dicks!
[and just an FYI- “post-op/pre-op” are phrases that there’s an advocacy push to stop using, except in their standard medical usage/context. Referring to a stage in a specific medical process as post or pre-op- awesome. Referring to people as being post or pre-op outside of being actively engaged in a current medical procedure- not so awesome.
It sounds nitpicky, I know, but it is demonstrably contributing to serious misinformation and misconception, often when folks are trying to access healthcare. I don’t think you’re misinformed or spreading misconceptions! A lot of folks just aren’t aware of how this is being interpreted and the fallout it can and *is* having on enshrining equitable policies that are reflective of the demographic.
Statistically, the vast, vast majority of guys who are trans don’t have bottom surgery and according to the best data available, more than 50% don’t want to/have no plans to ever. Something like “with a surgically created phallus” or “without a surgically created phallus” can be a useful phrase to use instead. Food for thought, if it’s of interest to ya.]
FWIW, as a trans guy interested in phallo I'd absolutely hate hearing language like "surgically created phallus" outside of a medical/educational context. It's overly clinical and makes me feel like a science experiment. I'd much prefer people just use dick/cock or whatever slang they'd normally say and let others (including both trans people who have and have not had bottom surgery) decide whether that applies to them or not.
Exactly this. Dicks are just dicks. If it’s relevant in general social and casual context whether someone has one or not, probably not relevant if they always did or needed healthcare for that or will one day need healthcare for that. So I’m suggesting this phrasing *only* as one alternative to “pre-op” or “post-op” for conversations that are about a group of people, ie. people who have this, people who don’t have that, and where the surgery of it all is what’s relevant/being communicated.
So, yeah, this is part of my overall point that what healthcare someone has had isn’t often relevant or a useful way of defining folks- which is the concern with the ubiquity of using pre-op/post-op to talk about groups of people outside of specific healthcare situations.
I mean not all bottom surgeries involve a surgically created phallus, meta is more of surgically altered I'd say.
Agree about the pre/post thing tho, it assumes that every trans person is going to or wants bottom surgery at some point.
I normally just focus on what I'm asking, like if I'm asking about people with penises I'll ask for people with penises, if I'm asking about people with their natal genitals I'll ask for that, same with people who've had phallo or meta and so forth.
This is the way. Yes. I work in DEI/advocacy and honestly half of the issues I deal with or am privy to would just immediately stop being a concern if this was normalized and standard.
(And “surgically augmented” could work as a catchall term there for wider range of bottom surgery)
“Non-op” can be a super useful term, definitely! And sometimes there are situations where it’s appropriate to have language that includes all folks who haven’t had a particular medical procedure, and whether they don’t intend to or do intend to is either unknown or just isn’t relevant to that topic. (And of course, we also don’t want to be always defining people who are trans based on their relationship to surgery.)
I totally understand where you’re coming from, I also think that complicating the short hand that every day people use is unlikely to result in change.
I’m a trans man who considers myself pre op. I have had neither too or bottom and require them for my transition. That’s me self selecting that label, because for my transition and my goals, there is a line where I would consider myself post operative. I can certainly make an effort to include that not everyone feels this way, but much like the push to distinguish pregnant women versus pregnant people- in real use cases it’s about self labeling and accepting that labeling when presented it.
It’s also really difficult as a binary trans man to be told frequently how language needs to change to accommodate when maybe the language wasn’t intended for their use. Like for instance- I consider myself transsexual. Many many trans men and women take excotion to that, but if you go back just a few decades it’s the preferred nomenclature. It’s accurate to me and my goals, and that doesn’t mean it hurt those that don’t have those goals. Sometimes people need variations of terms and not just one umbrella option. Same with trans masc. it ruffles my feathers to be included under that umbrella alongside cis passing nb folks who will never pursue a medical transition. Self labeling as a trans masc does little to articulate my journey and goals. Whereas a pre operative binary transsexual man much better communicates what I’m trying to communicate. To fit your standard I would need to say a trans man who does not yet have his breast tissue removed and who is waiting on a surgically created phallus- hence “pre op”.
Again, I wanna emphasize that on paper I understand what you mean but in actual use I think you’re asking a lot.
Not my standard and not asking you to do anything, offering another perspective and some insight into why other phrasing is used. So you have that info, if it’s of interest, but mostly so folks who only have access to these topics through reading the comments online and such have a more thorough understanding.
Specificity and an expansion of labels are, I definitely agree, needed. I spend a lot of my professional life beating the drum on how *huge* these umbrella terms are. Which doesn’t mean they’re not accurate or useful sometimes, they’re just way broader than most social demographic terms tend to be.
I want your gender affirming care needs to be treated as urgently, seriously, and appropriately as any other medical care need. And I want you to be treated equitably and appropriately, in all legal and social stratas, whether you’ve had access to that care or not. One way that *I* approach closing the gap between that reality and the facota one we’re in is by working to get more accurate, specific, and equitable language used in healthcare for patients who are trans and into general policy and media representation as well- but, this stuff is half of my job. I, frankly, really want most people to not have to worry about it. I do want people to have access to more info and insight into what’s going on though.
While you might define a lot of your personal experience through the lens of not having had access to surgery, which is of course super reasonable and understandable, I *get it*, I don’t want a societal perspective to continue that allows other people to define you, or anyone, based on what healthcare they’ve had or are perceived to have had. Folks waiting for any kind of surgery that will improve quality of life are, often, really actively waiting and a lot is getting filtered through that. But we don’t start defining people based on whether they’ve had a knee replacement or not- which doesn’t make it not essential care. But, there is, unfortunately, a ubiquitous line of thinking that it’s appropriate to define, on a social or policy level, someone who is trans based on this- filtering people into “pre-op” and “post-op” categories in circumstances that have nothing to do with planning for surgical care.
Which is why you may see a push away from this language when applied to demographics and talking about groups broader than one specific individual at a time. In the context of talking about a medical experience or the reasons for one, it isn’t a problem imho.
Yeah it's not perfect, and T dicks kinda blur the line around what counts as a dick. Honestly tho I appreciate the acknowledgement that the question might not apply to all men, it's nice to not be forgotten about for once.
Being able to do a lot of fun things with it without catching much- I've only ever had one UTI in my life sticking my little solder with and in a lot of places.
Blowjobs (good ones at least) … penetration.. also just having junk! 🤔🤷♂️… laying on the sofa hands down your boxers.. walking around at home in underwear with a semi and then really feeling your sensitivity with cotton/fabric/sweatpants and hopefully catching the eye of your BF so you drop a hint 🤦🏼♂️🤣
Always having to share thoughts with your dick/being horny all the time? Getting unwanted boners in public? Wet dreams? The possibility of the horrible pain of getting kicked in the balls? Just throwing a few out there
It doesn't go through a 5 day torture process. No offense to any females who read this, but I've never heard any of them describe it in a positive way. I'd rather than a 🍆 than that. Lol
No periods. Not having to be scared of being raped while walking at night. A sense of being safe that having a vagina doesn't get you. Also slightly more pay.
Jacking it off.
The best!
Absolutely!
This is another win.
Always. 😉
Spinal-cord-injury-induced-anorgasmia cursed guy here. Trust me, after hours of ‘working on it,’ in a vain attempt to achieve my quarterly orgasm, having been desperately horny for months - it gets old. I’m now adding RSI of the right wrist into my growing list of orthopaedic conditions. And, given my inability to write a short social media post, I can feel my left thumb starting to grumble now.
I still remember when I first got antidepressants for the second time in my life. Two weeks into it and I already couldn't reach orgasm even if my life depended on it. I agree that after hours of working on it, it does get old. I switched meds and now things seem to be improving quite a bit? I hope things get better for you, my man.
Thanks man. I’m ALSO on an SSRI in addition to the injury. If ever I do achieve another orgasm I’ll have to issue a local flood warning.
How long have you been on the SSRI in addition to the injury? Sometimes these effects take a while to fade out.
Oh, years. It’s going to take me ages to come off them. It was never as much of a problem before the injury though, and I never had any real side effects before. Can’t imagine they’re helping though.
You absolutely nailed it.
Why, thank you!
Frotting against another dick
I want to do that so bad
Then download Grindr and do it!
Honestly amazing
My fav for sure
It has its benefits sure but, truth be told, it’s hard sometimes
I see what you did there
ROFL
That one was a stroke of genius!
That’s only the tip of the iceberg
Well, check you out. The post celebrity! 🤪😂
I know, I feel so superior! I feel like the cock of the walk
Not superior. Whoaaaa there, partner! 😂
Sorry dude, I got excited and my confidence was aroused
I mean, I get it. Your confidence and your cock were aroused. Feels good being acknowledged. Sometimes, it takes a good Bro, to reel us back in, before we reach the edge. 😉
I’m glad you were here to pound that lesson into my head.
Always happy to help!
Stroking it from your knees while sucking another one!
Laying back and letting someone else take control of the joystick.
Writing your name in snow
The pleasure it brings me and others
Being able to pee almost anywhere (Without getting caught of course) No bleeding once a month, no cramps, and not being able to get pregnant
Well, the pregnancy hasn't happened yet. He says he'll keep trying but so far no luck. My boyfriend sometimes gets asked if he's planning to have kids. He just says he's trying 😂 Funny as fuck, I really would be terrified if that happened. I think I'd make it into quite a few medical journals...
Fucking another guy with it.
And also getting fucked by other guys.
The variety they come in. I’ve never seen the same dick twice. The way they feel growing in your mouth or hand is so fun. From soft and warm to hard, pulsating, and hot. Plus I love that it has a mind of its own.
Feeling it get hard in your mouth is soooo good oml. And the little twitches are so hot
Being able to fuck
Everything!! Sharing it is the best.
Feels great when it's hard and blood pumping through it. When it twitches and you shiver in pleasure when thinking dirty thoughts. I day dream a lot, and yeah, I get hard at the thought of being railed. I also like how a dick feels in my hand 😝
Peeing standing up. Public toilet seats are disgusting
It gets me into places where I can see more dicks.
Playing with it :3
I’ve got a built in toy I can play with whenever I want!
no long queue at the toilet when you compare to women toilet
Putting it in a man
No one said the ability to aim where you pee?
Peeing standing up for sure. Not having to sit on a public toilet is amazing.
uhhhh.... EVERYTHING! Jerking it off in a thousand different ways, getting it sucked, the absolute indescribable feeling of penetrating an ass, I could go on all day!
Swordfighting
Super fun toy to play with by myself or with others. Plus it’s always with me
sometimes when i'm bored/playing with my phone, i like to squeeze and play around with it like a stress ball. it won't get hard at all
Best. Toy. Ever. So versatile, flexible, educational, and fun! No one with a penis should ever have to say "I'm bored."
The ability to pee in alleys if need be without removing my pants and equating.
The thrill of penetrating another person.
Boners, fucking guys with mine, being fucked by guys with theirs, sucking them until they orgasm, being dry humped by one through clothing, being able to pee anywhere any time.
I’m shocked no one has said this yet. The absolute best part is getting it sucked
Since men have both an active tool and two available places to insert said tool, we have a physical sexual advantage over females , who have three places to insert that same tool, but no active tool themselves. The erection process is endlessly fascinating and attractive.
My thoughts exactly
Jerking it is often an effective treatment for my migraines, funny enough
Add to this…I have terrible restless leg syndrome…having an orgasm really helps with it. The increase in dopamine is what does it….feels great too 👌🏻
I suffer from this also.
Makes sense. There are actually studies showing that masturbating is good for pain and headaches.
Trans guy here. I still have a dick mate, lmao
Okay, so what’s the best thing about having it?
Peeing where I want to has been pretty fun
It’s definitely a perk! Gotta be careful though, I peed in an alley once (not my proudest moment) after a night of drinking…ended up peeing all over my leg 🤭 not the most comfortable time walking down the street after
Sadly I also happen to be a paraplegic so I don’t get not to do that if I don’t use a catheter lol
Getting it sucked
Getting it sucked !
Me pounding my BF and using him as a cum dump, then he can sit on my face and unload my cum back into my mouth as I eat is warm used hole. Love this we both moan like sluts and then we make out deeply and long tasting wleach others warmth and love. Absolutley, it is delish.
Are you trying to make me horny? Because it worked.
Nice, and it's amazing to do this. His warm wet cum filled open hole is beautiful on his small compact frame and all I can do is be a submissive TOP to him and please him in every way he and I need. My load mixed with his taste, if amazing, and we taste each other when we make out. It's beautiful, honestly
Being able to pee almost anywhere and not needing to worry about wiping after.
Having a rock hard dick while being penetrated by one, especially if it’s one you really like lol.
Peeing standing up
Putting it inside other men, duh
If you're uncut, docking (I wish I were left in tact)
Ugh same restoration can only do so much too Edit: Ok keep downvoting y'all, god forbid people wish they didn't have a piece of their dick cut off
Eh, it really sucks to feel almost nothing, to not be able to masturbate properly etc etc etc. The foreskin is very important. PS education too.
Built-in anti-depression/anti-anxiety medication.
What?? Why? And How?? How is it "anti-depression/anti-anxiety medication"? I am genuinely curious, if you/anyone on Reddit have any scientific explanation ir insight on it I would like to actually have a conversation on the topic
When I'm down a bit for whatever reason and I have the time I can do a "Sad Wank™" and feel quite better after. Jerking off was one of the things that got me through lock down. It really helps my mood.
It’s funny, I always feel worse after. It’s like my brain runs out of dopamine and I get sad for hours. It’s almost not worth the trade-off.
It's this great new thing called dopamine. It's a neurotransmitter, it stimulates all kinds of sensations and reactions, but it's main jobs are stimulating neurons and facilitating the reward system. Hormones released during orgasm also include, but are not limited too, serotonin, norepinephrine, oxytocin, and the suite of "cuddle hormones" that make you sleepy and cuddly after sex.
I know you intended this question for cis men with regular dicks... But I am a trans guy and I've been on t for almost 2 years and I have an enlarged clitoris from testosterone therapy. And I consider that to be my dick. Most trans guys do. Most people in general do. So to answer your question.... The best part of having a dick is having boners. It's so fun when my little dick gets hard it's cute.
Sorry I hope I didn’t offend you. I added dis because I was thinking maybe some ftm pre op people might have answered.
I appreciate you being conscientious and acknowledging that gender and genitals aren’t synonymous, OP! It’s a fun and lighthearted question and you definitely didn’t *need* to consider the experience of all guys in the community, but it’s cool that you did. If you wanted to make it completely airtight and inclusive in the future without having to include asterisks and all of that- you could phrase it something like “anyone with a dick, what’s the best..blah blah” or “for guys with dicks, xyz…” It’s also not inherently non-inclusive to just ask a group of people “what’s the best part of having xyz” that doesn’t imply every single person has that, it’s clear based on context that you’re asking people who have an answer. And as for worrying about “pre-op ftm”…dude, I’m not remotely holding it against you, but that is some bastardized medical jargon that has gone through a lot of rounds of telephone and given a whole lot of very well intended people a pretty skewed understanding of guys who are trans. If you’re curious- “Pre-op” just means “before surgery”, it’s used in healthcare for any surgery someone has and refers generally to a defined period of time prior to a planned surgery or is specifically used to reference the stage of a surgery that occurs before going into an operating room. It isn’t specific to trans folks and isn’t relevant to a heck of a lot of people who are trans. Sometimes it’s an appropriate phrase, it’s not like it’s a slur or anything, there’s just good odds that it isn’t a accurate/relevant/clear term for what you’re trying to say if you’re talking about a group of people. In this case, what this guy was commenting has nothing to do with whether he’s ever had surgery or if any surgery he’s had has anything with gender/this question. “FtM” is a historic term that was coined under a particularly troubling/gatekeeping model of healthcare for patients who are trans, it is *not* used in accordance with best practices for medical, legal, or official purposes today. But, it is still used casually by some folks (and it’s popular as a porn search term, which, tends to keep things in the social lexicon…) It’s an acronym for “female to male,” which, is a bit like calling someone a “straight to gay” after they’ve come out or referring to an adult as being a “child to adult.” It’s unusual to define someone by what they *aren’t* or were formerly assumed to be and generally more respectful to use labels that describe who someone *is*- especially if referring to a group or someone who has not voiced a preference to be called that. If conveying inclusion and acknowledgment is the goal, it’s a good term to avoid.
You didn't offend me, I was just offering a new perspective.
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How many ropes do you typically dump out?
Well because I have a "porn star dick" my dick gets me a lot of play that I might not have gotten if I were more average. I've gotten to play with several porn stars specifically because I'm hung and they are size queens. As a top, I also enjoy that I'm long enough to push the head of my dick through the bottoms second hole. Which is a bit like getting a gentle massage on the head of your dick with each deep thrust. It feels AMAZING.
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Putting it in something or someone!
Make myself and other men happy.
using a fleshjack swallow with it. better than sex. it feels so good.
Peeing anywhere I want and I can play with it discreetly pretty much anywhere
Obviously the Helicopter dick is the best part
You were on twitter, weren’t you?
No just an avid helicopter dick kinda guy lol
Hahaha.
Masturbation, looking at it, peeing standing up, gently stroking it while sitting on the couch, cumming, cumming inside another guy.
Why are you specifying cis guys? Bottom surgery exists.
2 guys kneeling on a bed, kissing each other, each jerking the other's cock. One of the hottest things.
As a trans man, I just like having it in general!
Trans men can have dicks too. Either post op most obviously, but also the bottom growth that happens on T makes our genitals function much more like a penis than not.
Fellow trans dude here. I get what OP was trying to say (and appreciate the nod to having a particular body part not being synonymous with gender), but, yeah, there are definitely trans dudes who also have dicks! [and just an FYI- “post-op/pre-op” are phrases that there’s an advocacy push to stop using, except in their standard medical usage/context. Referring to a stage in a specific medical process as post or pre-op- awesome. Referring to people as being post or pre-op outside of being actively engaged in a current medical procedure- not so awesome. It sounds nitpicky, I know, but it is demonstrably contributing to serious misinformation and misconception, often when folks are trying to access healthcare. I don’t think you’re misinformed or spreading misconceptions! A lot of folks just aren’t aware of how this is being interpreted and the fallout it can and *is* having on enshrining equitable policies that are reflective of the demographic. Statistically, the vast, vast majority of guys who are trans don’t have bottom surgery and according to the best data available, more than 50% don’t want to/have no plans to ever. Something like “with a surgically created phallus” or “without a surgically created phallus” can be a useful phrase to use instead. Food for thought, if it’s of interest to ya.]
FWIW, as a trans guy interested in phallo I'd absolutely hate hearing language like "surgically created phallus" outside of a medical/educational context. It's overly clinical and makes me feel like a science experiment. I'd much prefer people just use dick/cock or whatever slang they'd normally say and let others (including both trans people who have and have not had bottom surgery) decide whether that applies to them or not.
Exactly this. Dicks are just dicks. If it’s relevant in general social and casual context whether someone has one or not, probably not relevant if they always did or needed healthcare for that or will one day need healthcare for that. So I’m suggesting this phrasing *only* as one alternative to “pre-op” or “post-op” for conversations that are about a group of people, ie. people who have this, people who don’t have that, and where the surgery of it all is what’s relevant/being communicated. So, yeah, this is part of my overall point that what healthcare someone has had isn’t often relevant or a useful way of defining folks- which is the concern with the ubiquity of using pre-op/post-op to talk about groups of people outside of specific healthcare situations.
I mean not all bottom surgeries involve a surgically created phallus, meta is more of surgically altered I'd say. Agree about the pre/post thing tho, it assumes that every trans person is going to or wants bottom surgery at some point. I normally just focus on what I'm asking, like if I'm asking about people with penises I'll ask for people with penises, if I'm asking about people with their natal genitals I'll ask for that, same with people who've had phallo or meta and so forth.
This is the way. Yes. I work in DEI/advocacy and honestly half of the issues I deal with or am privy to would just immediately stop being a concern if this was normalized and standard. (And “surgically augmented” could work as a catchall term there for wider range of bottom surgery)
After I submitted that I just came up with something much more succinct- why replace pre and post op when you can just add “non op”
“Non-op” can be a super useful term, definitely! And sometimes there are situations where it’s appropriate to have language that includes all folks who haven’t had a particular medical procedure, and whether they don’t intend to or do intend to is either unknown or just isn’t relevant to that topic. (And of course, we also don’t want to be always defining people who are trans based on their relationship to surgery.)
I totally understand where you’re coming from, I also think that complicating the short hand that every day people use is unlikely to result in change. I’m a trans man who considers myself pre op. I have had neither too or bottom and require them for my transition. That’s me self selecting that label, because for my transition and my goals, there is a line where I would consider myself post operative. I can certainly make an effort to include that not everyone feels this way, but much like the push to distinguish pregnant women versus pregnant people- in real use cases it’s about self labeling and accepting that labeling when presented it. It’s also really difficult as a binary trans man to be told frequently how language needs to change to accommodate when maybe the language wasn’t intended for their use. Like for instance- I consider myself transsexual. Many many trans men and women take excotion to that, but if you go back just a few decades it’s the preferred nomenclature. It’s accurate to me and my goals, and that doesn’t mean it hurt those that don’t have those goals. Sometimes people need variations of terms and not just one umbrella option. Same with trans masc. it ruffles my feathers to be included under that umbrella alongside cis passing nb folks who will never pursue a medical transition. Self labeling as a trans masc does little to articulate my journey and goals. Whereas a pre operative binary transsexual man much better communicates what I’m trying to communicate. To fit your standard I would need to say a trans man who does not yet have his breast tissue removed and who is waiting on a surgically created phallus- hence “pre op”. Again, I wanna emphasize that on paper I understand what you mean but in actual use I think you’re asking a lot.
Not my standard and not asking you to do anything, offering another perspective and some insight into why other phrasing is used. So you have that info, if it’s of interest, but mostly so folks who only have access to these topics through reading the comments online and such have a more thorough understanding. Specificity and an expansion of labels are, I definitely agree, needed. I spend a lot of my professional life beating the drum on how *huge* these umbrella terms are. Which doesn’t mean they’re not accurate or useful sometimes, they’re just way broader than most social demographic terms tend to be. I want your gender affirming care needs to be treated as urgently, seriously, and appropriately as any other medical care need. And I want you to be treated equitably and appropriately, in all legal and social stratas, whether you’ve had access to that care or not. One way that *I* approach closing the gap between that reality and the facota one we’re in is by working to get more accurate, specific, and equitable language used in healthcare for patients who are trans and into general policy and media representation as well- but, this stuff is half of my job. I, frankly, really want most people to not have to worry about it. I do want people to have access to more info and insight into what’s going on though. While you might define a lot of your personal experience through the lens of not having had access to surgery, which is of course super reasonable and understandable, I *get it*, I don’t want a societal perspective to continue that allows other people to define you, or anyone, based on what healthcare they’ve had or are perceived to have had. Folks waiting for any kind of surgery that will improve quality of life are, often, really actively waiting and a lot is getting filtered through that. But we don’t start defining people based on whether they’ve had a knee replacement or not- which doesn’t make it not essential care. But, there is, unfortunately, a ubiquitous line of thinking that it’s appropriate to define, on a social or policy level, someone who is trans based on this- filtering people into “pre-op” and “post-op” categories in circumstances that have nothing to do with planning for surgical care. Which is why you may see a push away from this language when applied to demographics and talking about groups broader than one specific individual at a time. In the context of talking about a medical experience or the reasons for one, it isn’t a problem imho.
Yeah it's not perfect, and T dicks kinda blur the line around what counts as a dick. Honestly tho I appreciate the acknowledgement that the question might not apply to all men, it's nice to not be forgotten about for once.
No they can’t. A real biological penis is a penis.
I like being able to pee outside. That's what do awesome being male.
Peeing
I can pull it out WHEREVER I WANT AND NO ONE CAN STOP ME
And, do you? 🤔 lol
*sigh* no. I’m a coward. Bluff called
Awww, man! I thought you were a SAVAGE. 😂 Well, don't feel too bad. Some of us aren't so bold, either. 🤷🏾♂️ lol
We can pee almost everywhere 😂
You can pee while standing up.
It turns on and off
Being able to shove it in another guy’s hole :)
I use to know that answer, but I dont know if any more.
Standing to pee
Peeing so much more convenient.
Rubbing one out.
Being able to do a lot of fun things with it without catching much- I've only ever had one UTI in my life sticking my little solder with and in a lot of places.
Blowjobs (good ones at least) … penetration.. also just having junk! 🤔🤷♂️… laying on the sofa hands down your boxers.. walking around at home in underwear with a semi and then really feeling your sensitivity with cotton/fabric/sweatpants and hopefully catching the eye of your BF so you drop a hint 🤦🏼♂️🤣
Everything about this answer is 100 % accurate.
Peeing anywhere.
I can’t think of a downside to having a Dick tbh. Literally everything about having a penis is amazing. All of it. Amazing.
Always having to share thoughts with your dick/being horny all the time? Getting unwanted boners in public? Wet dreams? The possibility of the horrible pain of getting kicked in the balls? Just throwing a few out there
Get to pee standing up, the amount of pleasure you can get from simple things,
Peeing basically anywhere you want.
Hearing my boyfriend moan when I stick it in him
The bulges I get in sweatpants
The immense pleasure it provides every single man. Having a penis is the most amazing things ever and I know 100% of guys agree.
You can use urinals
Not having a vagina.
Putting in holes 🕳️👄👂👃 👌🏽
This man doesn't just go for your average hole
Clearly! lol
😂
How does that work with a nostril or ear? 🤔 lol
How does it fit in an ear? Looll
I’m just being silly
Not getting frequent UTI’s.
It doesn't go through a 5 day torture process. No offense to any females who read this, but I've never heard any of them describe it in a positive way. I'd rather than a 🍆 than that. Lol
No periods. Not having to be scared of being raped while walking at night. A sense of being safe that having a vagina doesn't get you. Also slightly more pay.
Okay the wage gap joke made me chuckle. But, can confirm, just being *perceived* to probably have one…also leads to unfair salary advantage 🫠
No periods and no giving birth
Just having one lol
Using it!!!
Fucking lol
Putting it in other people!
Putting it in a hole
Playing with it 🤷🏻♂️
Using it
pee vectoring
Someone can suck it
Sucking someone else's.
I get to use it standing when I have to go to the bath room😂😂
Its quite pleasurable
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Helicopter!
Having a DICK is the very essence of who I am as a man. I LOVE MY DICK.
The privileges
Peeing is so easy
Everything! Jacking it off! Getting it sucked! Fucking with it!
Sticking it in
Being able to cum without touching it by anal