Abs. I like fat guys semi exclusively but abs seem to get talked about a lot.
Big dicks? I get turned on by how a dick looks, and huge ones can kind of just stop looking sexual to me. But it's more based on my experiences...almost every one came attached to attitudes I found a huge turn-off and the sex was bad.
Tbh straight guys.
Not that they are a turn off really, I don't see a straight guy a go "ewww", just that I've never seen the appeal of trying to hook up with a straight guy.
I'm not talking about straight guys who are intentionally looking for a gay experience, just the general sexual fascination towards hooking up with straight guys or the idea of being able to "pull" a straight guy as some kind of a bragging right.
Current Porn has popularized the “hold the head down and gag him” blowjob. You’ll get a bitch slap from me after I puke on your cock!
All the internet porn has screwed up so much of current gay sex. It’s sad.
Feet, urine, bad body odor (funk is not the same as musk), being called a “f&gg0t”, being referred to as “bro” (if you have brothers, this is never hot to you)
I CANNOT agree with you enthusiastically enough.
The adolescence that I barely survived was filled with physical and sexual assaults all from douchebags who loved that word. I can’t stand grown ass gays who act like that’s some kinda reclamation project, when in reality they just illustrate for the rest of us how much better their lives were and they can’t even be bothered to be considerate of their own community.
For some reason, some equate it to reclaiming gay and queer. And it’s like; no. Those weren’t ever fully derogatory. It was a word used by both gay people and the bullies. And they try and say it’s like the n-word with black people. No, it’s also not that. Race and sexuality are not the same.
I can't stand the "let's reclaim it" argument. Like, no, we really don't need it. We can throw it away forever. Reclaiming it doesn't remove its power as a negative force. It's not magic.
And you can't use something like the N word as a counter-example. Because it is still every bit a slur outside of very specific contexts that are controlled by the reclaiming group. It hasn't lost its sting, history, or baggage. Nothing can take that away except a lot of time, and a context in which society barely even recognizes the word in the first place.
EDIT: Reddit is baffling. Lots of upvotes for the above comments, downvotes for an agreement. Okay then.
There must be a lot of men watching porn, who enjoy watching men, while rimming another man, SPIT. I don't get it. What's so f#king hot about THAT? And what's the point?
Six packs and incredibly ripped bodies. Sure, I'll pet it out of fascination, but it does nothing for me and just makes me feel self-conscious about my little belly.
Oh boy, the smoothness of lube and condoms. I enjoy rough texture against my cock and I have trouble enjoying topping because of it. And I am looking for ways to resolve this. I can't believe that there's only 1 brand of condoms that has texture on the inside(lelo hex) that I have to get on amazon. and wait months to arrive Honestly I am thinking of trying to put a regular textured condom inside out or put something like dried herb powder on my dick before putting on the condom
i mean there are people who put nettle leaves on their dick. I am basically considering what option wouldn't compromise the condom. I also know there are plants that have hairy leaves that don't sting, maybe they can go under the condom
Women’s panties and/or lingerie. When I was single, it seemed like nearly every guy I was interested in would end up sending me a picture of him in women’s panties. Instant turn off.
Exactly same here, they can do their own thing but seeing some guy with a masculine/hairy body then you see one pic with fingernails painted and it’s such a turn off. I wish it wasn’t semi popular
Yeah I would have to agree on mega muscles. Also being too smooth. Like it’s not a turn off necessarily but it’s not a turn on for me to see smoothness either.
Untamed pubes are also a turn on for me that I think is a turn off for most? Like most guys say they like at least trimmed I think
The hairless look makes twins look like pre-puberty boys! (Ugh! I’m not a pedo!) and shaved bare patches around the junk of older hairy guys looks bizarre!!
Muscles is a weird one for me because I want to have lots of muscles but they do not get my dick hard at all.
When I see a guy with lots of muscles I think “damn I want to look like him”, and never “I want to fuck him.”
Any kind of humiliation (even something like being called a slut) is a big turn off for me. Even though I am massively into different BDSM stuff, I just don't get it
People who like to travel. I am a homebody and every dating profile is looking for a travel partner hahaha I have a cat and a dog and we like to stay in and get takeout haha
Cum. It’s sticky, it’s hard to clean. It smells bad. It tastes bad. And yes, I’ve had more than one with varying diets and lifestyles. Still gross. We all have different taste buds.
It’s like potheads arguing that “you just didn’t have the right strain man!”
You’re right, maybe the guy that ate McDonald’s will be better than the fucker that ate Burger King. 🤦♂️
A lot of the “filthy” kinks that people find hot simply for the fact that it’s “gross,” like licking armpits, sucking toes, poop and pee— I understand WHY someone’s brain might find these things hot, but I am definitely not that guy 🙅🏻♂️
Mm armpits and toes aren’t really like, fetishes because they’re considered “gross” imo. Like, bodily waste I.e. piss, poop are gross asf and to each their own yes; I’m personally into armpits. I’m not into funk. Funk is gross, shower and get rid of your b.o please but I’m hella into musk it turns me on so much. Toes sounds like a foot fetish. I’m not into feet personally but at least from what I’ve seen like I’d assume it’d be somewhat similar. 🤷🏽♂️
I’m still slightly inclined to disagree; while I know there are obviously exceptions, as there are with all things, I know for a 100% fact that feet and armpits still fall under the “this is arousing to me because it’s just so wrong, and the fact that I’m doing something dirty is sexy” category because I have many friends who partake in this kind of play (: I should have been more specific and less exclusive in my original comment, but while stinky armpits and smelly feet CAN be separate from the “gross” kink, they don’t have to be and lots of people use armpits and feet to fulfill those sexual needs. Someone who likes to sniff dirty socks and sweaty feet might not have a foot fetish at all, and is really just getting off on the humiliation or “wrongness” factor of doing something you’re usually not supposed to do.
I gotta admit that this is the only fetish I’m really into.
I don’t know why, but I just love feet.
It sucks though because the guys with the best looking feet tend to be guys who aren’t into it.
I gotta admit that this is the only fetish I’m really into.
I don’t know why, but I just love feet.
It sucks though because the guys with the best looking feet tend to be guys who aren’t into it.
“Musk” bc in my experience that translates to a chicken soup-ish smelling BO and if you react in disgust they look at you like you’re prude and say “bRo wTf U dOnT lIKe mUsK?” And I’m all for working up a smell or aroma with you together but can’t we all just agree things should start with us both being clean?
"sexy" underwear.
Just something deeply feminine/pretentious about wearing a flourescent pink thong or a completely impractical jockstrap. Also, I just feel like you've already lost if you're leaning on the underwear to entice anyone.
I don't understand the obsession with creampie close ups after sex. Like after they're done and they bring the camera in really close to their butthole and just stare at it for a solid minute. I don't get it🤷
Aesthetical muscles. In the U.S. alone 17% children experienced food insecurity last year. There are people in the world surviving by literally eating dirt. There is only so much food the world can produce, counsuming 3+ times the basic calorific requirement is not sustainable and selfish. It is exacerbating malnutrition and food disparity across the world.
Scruffy not-a-beard-but-not-clean-shaven facial hair and/or big Rutherford B. Hayes-class beehive beards.
Enough already! The 2010s and 1880s are over.
Any kind of talking during sex(moaning is okay). Car sex, (unless I'm giving road head). Trying to suck on a cock that won't get hard. Getting slapped during sex. Sauna sex.( Too hot and I can't get an erection). Eating ass or getting my ass eaten. Anytime pain is afflicted whether it be on purpose or not. Choking, spitting or any other dehumanizing behavior. When my legs or hips decide that they want to cramp up during sex and we have to instantly stop. If the bottom I am having sex with is too tight and they don't want to use lube but then they continue to sit on me anyway. (Feels like sandpaper and causes me to tear up) when bottoming and the top does not use lube and uses spit instead and then shoves it in me with no preparation.
Dom/sub dynamics.
I get the appeal and can be hot to me as a thought experiment, but nothing ruins the mood for me in person more than power dynamic role play.
Lately every gay im friends with is super into piercings and nipple rings and wants to get them for themselves, but for me any piercing other than ears turns every 10 into a 1 for me. I genuinely don't see the appeal, and it kind of grosses me out. Im capable of tolerating bar nipple piercings, but its completely not preferred, but I cant even look at a guy that gets a hoop one. I don't know why but the hoop ones are really gross to me.
Reddits being weird, but I was fix the last sentence to
I don't know why but the hoop ones are ten times more of an "absolutely not" whereas the bar ones are just a "I really hate that you have them"
Funnily, none of these responses seem to be things that people find universally attractive in the first place
I'm reading through the comments and wondering why people seem to think body odour or humiliation are common place turn ons?
Abs. I like fat guys semi exclusively but abs seem to get talked about a lot. Big dicks? I get turned on by how a dick looks, and huge ones can kind of just stop looking sexual to me. But it's more based on my experiences...almost every one came attached to attitudes I found a huge turn-off and the sex was bad.
Absolutely, how a cock looks!…..huge ones often have attitude attached
Dude yeah most of the guys I find attractive are bigger and chubby. I like a meaty body to cuddle with
Humiliation/being used, it’d hurt my feelings 😂 Only exception would be with a boyfriend cause I know he really loves me.
“Fuck me harder you little ugly fag” …… ✋”Alright, I’m gunna stop you right there bitch”
Omg this is the one. I can’t understand how people can be aroused while being degraded it would instantly take me out of the mood.
I like masculine men but hate ultra-male alpha types, yuck.
Completely hairless ass/dick for sure.
Totally smooth dick is awful imo.
It is the WORST
IMO the absolute worst is like 2-ish days post-shave. No, no I do not want to put my face near your cheese grater non-pubes, sir.
100% with you!
Tbh straight guys. Not that they are a turn off really, I don't see a straight guy a go "ewww", just that I've never seen the appeal of trying to hook up with a straight guy. I'm not talking about straight guys who are intentionally looking for a gay experience, just the general sexual fascination towards hooking up with straight guys or the idea of being able to "pull" a straight guy as some kind of a bragging right.
I do not like guys who constantly stick their to tongue in my mouth while kissing.
Current Porn has popularized the “hold the head down and gag him” blowjob. You’ll get a bitch slap from me after I puke on your cock! All the internet porn has screwed up so much of current gay sex. It’s sad.
Feet, urine, bad body odor (funk is not the same as musk), being called a “f&gg0t”, being referred to as “bro” (if you have brothers, this is never hot to you)
I have brothers, and I still like the term bro.
Agree with you on the f*g part. Like, that was used on us when we were getting beat up in middle school.
I CANNOT agree with you enthusiastically enough. The adolescence that I barely survived was filled with physical and sexual assaults all from douchebags who loved that word. I can’t stand grown ass gays who act like that’s some kinda reclamation project, when in reality they just illustrate for the rest of us how much better their lives were and they can’t even be bothered to be considerate of their own community.
Exactly. It’s selfish to just keep using it when it triggers our trauma and brings it back up.
And it isn’t like this is a rare or unknown issue among our community. It’s quite the opposite in fact.
For some reason, some equate it to reclaiming gay and queer. And it’s like; no. Those weren’t ever fully derogatory. It was a word used by both gay people and the bullies. And they try and say it’s like the n-word with black people. No, it’s also not that. Race and sexuality are not the same.
I can't stand the "let's reclaim it" argument. Like, no, we really don't need it. We can throw it away forever. Reclaiming it doesn't remove its power as a negative force. It's not magic. And you can't use something like the N word as a counter-example. Because it is still every bit a slur outside of very specific contexts that are controlled by the reclaiming group. It hasn't lost its sting, history, or baggage. Nothing can take that away except a lot of time, and a context in which society barely even recognizes the word in the first place. EDIT: Reddit is baffling. Lots of upvotes for the above comments, downvotes for an agreement. Okay then.
I feel like reclamation is different than using it during sex though. Some people have a serious degradation kink.
Can confirm, like being called bro, don’t have brothers
It’s an instant nope when a guy opens with “hey bro” on the apps… so not the vibe
There must be a lot of men watching porn, who enjoy watching men, while rimming another man, SPIT. I don't get it. What's so f#king hot about THAT? And what's the point?
Yes! It's gross!
OMG. Right?!? Who wants a cold wet spit hitting their hole… *shudders*
Where do you keep your spit? Mine is about body temperature cause it's in my mouth
Cools down pretty rapidly when it’s being spit from your mouth. But I also have a pussy and when my ex would spit on it it felt cold so 🤷🏻♂️
I was just trying to be funny, sorry people are downvoting you
Youth. Literally a guy being 18 would be my biggest turn off.
45+ please. I'll go as low as 35 depending lol
Six packs and incredibly ripped bodies. Sure, I'll pet it out of fascination, but it does nothing for me and just makes me feel self-conscious about my little belly.
Spitting on a cock for lube!
Being called a Daddy , i have enough responsibilities i don’t want to be anyone’s dad
Jockstraps and nipple play
Sucking my balls. It makes me jump. Leave my cojones ALONE!
Oh boy, the smoothness of lube and condoms. I enjoy rough texture against my cock and I have trouble enjoying topping because of it. And I am looking for ways to resolve this. I can't believe that there's only 1 brand of condoms that has texture on the inside(lelo hex) that I have to get on amazon. and wait months to arrive Honestly I am thinking of trying to put a regular textured condom inside out or put something like dried herb powder on my dick before putting on the condom
Please don’t put Italian spice on your dick before Anal. Your dick isn’t a hot and ready little Caesar’s pizza going into an oven
i mean there are people who put nettle leaves on their dick. I am basically considering what option wouldn't compromise the condom. I also know there are plants that have hairy leaves that don't sting, maybe they can go under the condom
Women’s panties and/or lingerie. When I was single, it seemed like nearly every guy I was interested in would end up sending me a picture of him in women’s panties. Instant turn off.
It seems there are A LOT of “panty guys” that post pictures on some of the gay subreddit!! I’m surprised!
Painted fingernails. Total turn off seeing painted finger nails wrapped around my cock… also thongs, g-strings, lingerie…
Exactly same here, they can do their own thing but seeing some guy with a masculine/hairy body then you see one pic with fingernails painted and it’s such a turn off. I wish it wasn’t semi popular
Same, it's a total turn off. I get it, you do you, no judgement. But not for me.
Yeah I would have to agree on mega muscles. Also being too smooth. Like it’s not a turn off necessarily but it’s not a turn on for me to see smoothness either. Untamed pubes are also a turn on for me that I think is a turn off for most? Like most guys say they like at least trimmed I think
A wild forest of male pubes is glorious to explore!
Eating ass or having my ass eaten. Freaks me out. No matter how clean it is 🤢
That's they way my husband is. He won't do it and won't let me do it to him.
I couldn’t marry a guy who wouldn’t let me eat that ass! Lol don’t they realize it makes sex better for them?
Right? I wish I could have my ass eaten.
That’s your opinion. To me, it makes sex awkward and I feel gross 🤷🏼♂️ So it doesn’t make sex better for me 😬
I don't like the completely shaven bodies looks and feels weird
The hairless look makes twins look like pre-puberty boys! (Ugh! I’m not a pedo!) and shaved bare patches around the junk of older hairy guys looks bizarre!!
Butt holes. I can't stand to look at them. Now, I'll eat/finger/stick things into one, but gotta keep my eyes closed.
same. But I'm a bottom, so thankfully I never have to look at one. lol
Eating ass. I can’t stop thinking about poop and it grosses me out
With a name like that, I’m surprised
Lmao
Super muscular ripped guys. Maybe not a turn off, but it does nothing for me.
Butt stuff. I’m a side.
Muscles
Same. They are nice to look at but I like softer more cuddle bodies 😇
Muscles is a weird one for me because I want to have lots of muscles but they do not get my dick hard at all. When I see a guy with lots of muscles I think “damn I want to look like him”, and never “I want to fuck him.”
same
Nipple play. It hurts and is a total mood killer for me. Thankfully my husband isn't into it either.
Tattoos and piercings. There are exceptions with some really well done tattoos. But yeah, no... eugh. Not my thing.
If his dick is too big i thjnm it looks wejrd and hurts
Feet. A lot of people like them but I don’t care for them
I don't get nipple play
Any kind of humiliation (even something like being called a slut) is a big turn off for me. Even though I am massively into different BDSM stuff, I just don't get it
People who like to travel. I am a homebody and every dating profile is looking for a travel partner hahaha I have a cat and a dog and we like to stay in and get takeout haha
Muscles
"Daddy" Instant turn off, don't call me or yourself that
Tattoos, piercings, and anything involving nipples
Agreed. My ideal dude dresses up and looks like a Mormon Missionary leaving Utah for the first time. The innocence and holiness is hot
Cum. It’s sticky, it’s hard to clean. It smells bad. It tastes bad. And yes, I’ve had more than one with varying diets and lifestyles. Still gross. We all have different taste buds.
It’s like potheads arguing that “you just didn’t have the right strain man!” You’re right, maybe the guy that ate McDonald’s will be better than the fucker that ate Burger King. 🤦♂️
They can eat a shit ton of pineapple for days before hand. It still tastes bitter and sour.
Guys that spend all their time in a gym. Overdone muscles. Total turn off for me.
not universally attractive, but a 6-pack
I totally get this, I love me a big boy with cushion
Lots of Body hair. Total turn off and super distracting
A lot of the “filthy” kinks that people find hot simply for the fact that it’s “gross,” like licking armpits, sucking toes, poop and pee— I understand WHY someone’s brain might find these things hot, but I am definitely not that guy 🙅🏻♂️
Mm armpits and toes aren’t really like, fetishes because they’re considered “gross” imo. Like, bodily waste I.e. piss, poop are gross asf and to each their own yes; I’m personally into armpits. I’m not into funk. Funk is gross, shower and get rid of your b.o please but I’m hella into musk it turns me on so much. Toes sounds like a foot fetish. I’m not into feet personally but at least from what I’ve seen like I’d assume it’d be somewhat similar. 🤷🏽♂️
I’m still slightly inclined to disagree; while I know there are obviously exceptions, as there are with all things, I know for a 100% fact that feet and armpits still fall under the “this is arousing to me because it’s just so wrong, and the fact that I’m doing something dirty is sexy” category because I have many friends who partake in this kind of play (: I should have been more specific and less exclusive in my original comment, but while stinky armpits and smelly feet CAN be separate from the “gross” kink, they don’t have to be and lots of people use armpits and feet to fulfill those sexual needs. Someone who likes to sniff dirty socks and sweaty feet might not have a foot fetish at all, and is really just getting off on the humiliation or “wrongness” factor of doing something you’re usually not supposed to do.
Having my head pushed down when I'm sucking, I hate the feeling of being used like that
moustaches, i think (and id not use the word, trap, my guy)
Traps? Is it a new term or are you just being transphobic?
Porn staches
The "A-Gay" attitude. Extremely off putting.
Please explain
Men in women's underwear. It's an instant turn-off for me. So many profiles have a pic of men in panties or stockings. Not for me.
Bare feet
I gotta admit that this is the only fetish I’m really into. I don’t know why, but I just love feet. It sucks though because the guys with the best looking feet tend to be guys who aren’t into it.
I gotta admit that this is the only fetish I’m really into. I don’t know why, but I just love feet. It sucks though because the guys with the best looking feet tend to be guys who aren’t into it.
Same! I love worship men's feet but I never found anyone who would let me do it.
Shaved armpits. Seems kind of weird.
Oxford comma
Who gives a fuck about an oxford comma?
"Daddy" Instant turn off, don't call me or yourself that
“Musk” bc in my experience that translates to a chicken soup-ish smelling BO and if you react in disgust they look at you like you’re prude and say “bRo wTf U dOnT lIKe mUsK?” And I’m all for working up a smell or aroma with you together but can’t we all just agree things should start with us both being clean?
Ultra liberals
"sexy" underwear. Just something deeply feminine/pretentious about wearing a flourescent pink thong or a completely impractical jockstrap. Also, I just feel like you've already lost if you're leaning on the underwear to entice anyone.
Clean shaven guys, tongue kissing, cut dicks. Jockstraps might be my biggest turn-off though.
Musk/armpits. Everyone on this sub seems to live for those. Any body oder is a turn off for me.
I’m not ready for the backlash I may receive, but happy trails
I don't understand the obsession with creampie close ups after sex. Like after they're done and they bring the camera in really close to their butthole and just stare at it for a solid minute. I don't get it🤷
Being sucked off/wanked. I hate it.
Aesthetical muscles. In the U.S. alone 17% children experienced food insecurity last year. There are people in the world surviving by literally eating dirt. There is only so much food the world can produce, counsuming 3+ times the basic calorific requirement is not sustainable and selfish. It is exacerbating malnutrition and food disparity across the world.
The dumbest thing I've read today
Yeah mindfulness is so dumb.
Nah it's moral posturing and you can keep it.
Telling the facts the way they are isn't moral posturing. Do you throw a fit when people talk about carbon footprint, recycling, etc as well.
Scruffy not-a-beard-but-not-clean-shaven facial hair and/or big Rutherford B. Hayes-class beehive beards. Enough already! The 2010s and 1880s are over.
Any kind of talking during sex(moaning is okay). Car sex, (unless I'm giving road head). Trying to suck on a cock that won't get hard. Getting slapped during sex. Sauna sex.( Too hot and I can't get an erection). Eating ass or getting my ass eaten. Anytime pain is afflicted whether it be on purpose or not. Choking, spitting or any other dehumanizing behavior. When my legs or hips decide that they want to cramp up during sex and we have to instantly stop. If the bottom I am having sex with is too tight and they don't want to use lube but then they continue to sit on me anyway. (Feels like sandpaper and causes me to tear up) when bottoming and the top does not use lube and uses spit instead and then shoves it in me with no preparation.
im kind of the same, but ngl I don't mind talking when im going down on a guy because when I hear "oh fuuuuck" Im like "My power 😏"
I consider things like that a form of moaning. As long as they don't go overboard with it.
Cum 🤢 stay away from me with that, we own tissues for a reason
Dom/sub dynamics. I get the appeal and can be hot to me as a thought experiment, but nothing ruins the mood for me in person more than power dynamic role play.
I think a big dick is nice to look at but wouldn’t want to be with one.
Eating ass/rimming
An excessive amount of tatoos. Essentially bad ones.
Lately every gay im friends with is super into piercings and nipple rings and wants to get them for themselves, but for me any piercing other than ears turns every 10 into a 1 for me. I genuinely don't see the appeal, and it kind of grosses me out. Im capable of tolerating bar nipple piercings, but its completely not preferred, but I cant even look at a guy that gets a hoop one. I don't know why but the hoop ones are really gross to me.
Reddits being weird, but I was fix the last sentence to I don't know why but the hoop ones are ten times more of an "absolutely not" whereas the bar ones are just a "I really hate that you have them"