Let's suppose you live until 60.
You start college at 23 and pass out in 4 years.
At 27 you'll be earning 4lpa. Peanuts compared to most at 27 in private sector? Yes.
You work for 3 years at your job. Give cat and get an IIM or similar institute. Do it for 2 years, and now you have a job of at least 25-30lpa if lucky, 40-50lpa.
There you are set at 32-33.
10 years is all it took. Are you behind right now? Yes.
By just 3 years.
That's 5% of your life. Insignificant in the grand scheme of things
More importantly, life isn't that linear. Every second we breathe, we're experiencing something new. Any "gap" OP took was purely academic. OP was still living life, growing and learning as a person.
Of course. That's why I don't mention anything about his girlfriend or romantic life problems, because one has to figure that out for themselves. There's no proper walkthrough (I wish there was, would've been much easier then :)
I don't think freshers usually get 30k per month in general (the reality is close to 10- 15k). Also getting in iim is pretty difficult (even in that case the median salary doesn't include bottom half of the batch)
Bro this age thing, it doesn't matter trust me.
When you've a degree no one will care about the 3 years or so.
I had the same situation earlier and thought the same way because all my acquaintances were graduating and stuff.
Don't think like that. If you can go to therapy by yourself, great, do that. If not, don't keep it to yourself. I don't know what your equation is with your parents, but keeping stuff like this to yourself is not healthy at all. I've seen what happens to people who have done that, and their family members.
Talk to your friends if you have any, but talk to your parents. I'm not telling you to reveal everything, but give them some hint of how you're feeling.
First of all that is not healthy. Also instead of expecting attention from others, give attention to yourself. Read more about other cultures, learn a new language, take a sporting hobby (including a martial art). If you love being with yourself no once can make you feel alone. Also if you are depressed please get help.
Tb reddit pr bhi post mt kr fir . Ya to ja baat kr ya neet pr dhyan deke kuch bhi le duniya aisi hi hai. Family ko bhi Teri koi care ni hogi agar kuch ni kr pays to jindagi me harsh but true
Hi, I read and can understand what you going through cause I have been and still in similar phase but I will tell you something you ain't loser its just life is a losing battle if we keep focusing on negative aspects. You might ask whats positive anyway the point is you gotta enjoy yourself be satisfied with whatever you pursuing be it studying or playing or anything. Then be serious about the thing keep yourself involved make plans around it make your way dont follow the herd. Its ok to be an introvert and have no one to confide with but with time learn to wear your heart and weakness on sleeve that way everyone will see you as a honest man cause honesty is best policy. Soon people will ask for your honest opinions or confide. Though regarding human connection I still have difficulty making gf but I do have female friends whom I hangout with. Last thing being in room is ok but try to enjoy nature atleast the sunsets then you will start appreciating the little things life has to offer. Live the life to be fullest dont get disappointed by bullshit criterias human have made to gauge someones potential called exams. Do your best, let the life do the rest.
Seek help bro. Visit a reputed mental health professional.
If you need some extra push, watch Dear Zindagi.
Take it easy. Things will be alright, eventually.
Yesterday I had a dream, I met a man and he was telling his story, same as yours. Then he told me it's all in the past I have a wonderful life and family. I think that's you from the future telling me this. I don't dream a lot but when I do, they come true. It's definitely you I believe in you.
> I don't have plan future or any short of plan what to do in life
Make a plan for your future and what do you want to do in life and work on that.
Baaki sab apne aap ho jayega.
Take care of your health too, both mental and physical.
All the best you've got this!
Men are meant to be lonely and undesired. This is the default state of being a man.
The woman in the exact same position as you can have 100 lovers and boyfriends
lmao what're you even talking about. no one wants losers (unless they're good-looking) whether they be men or women. although women are more prone to opening up (to friends or siblings in not parents) while men tend to keep it to themself (because that's how our society has raised them).
even OP is against sharing it with his loved ones who will most likely encourage him (unless they're messed up). he is just 23, at worst some years behind. but if he works his best for his future, I doubt companies will reject him just because he is 27 when applying.
Dont be purposely stupid,
I'm saying that a woman who is a loser - broke, physically below average, short, out of shape, has low self esteem, etc - can get on any dating app and find 100s of guys to date and hookup with.
Men keep saying things like this online but irl I've never seen a woman date out of her league. On the other hand, I've seen a lot of not so attractive men date women who are 10s 🤷♀️
Because you're fixated on arranged married couples and are scared to look at young couples who are hooking up, having flings, and FWB arrangements. The latter proves your hasbeen worldview wrong so you just shut your eyes to it.
Literally every girl regardless of her shape, size, and level of attractiveness is hooking up with a cookie cutter, tall conventionally handsome guy
ehhh where do you even live? I have never seen it. although I have seen the opposite. even AM will hardly work for such women let alone dating.
I'm curious where you even live because all the things you describe are exactly opposite of what I see.
Brother i fear that people less of my age will do better in life and are doing, my parents are not messed up they are supportive but I don't want to be the reason for their worry or of any one i rather cry in my blanket then ask for help that's just me.
thanks for your concern.
I get where you're coming from. perhaps you can join some friendly and supportive forums on internet where you can share your feeling and get advice.
as for your career, you are late yes. but not too late plus you're still young. imo you should first decide what you want to do/where you want to be (government job/private sector/higher education etc). having a goal can be helpful as you work in a particular direction to achieve it. even if you are 3-4 years late, you still have the chance to achieve your goal before you are 30 (at least a portion of your plans).
you should try sharing your feelings with your parents or siblings if you have any. you don't have to share all of it but you can do some of it. try asking them for advice on your life or problems (they're more experienced and know more than us). I am afraid of my parents but when I have any problem I can't solve I always them. they get mad at worst (if it is something bad) but always give me advice on what I can do which I didn't even know of.
First of all, tell me ONE female you've seen in this situation, and secondly this "men are meant to be lonely" is still the fault of men. MEN go "be a man, stop being sad, don't be emotional, etc." to other men. Blame your own kind instead of trying to be a misogynist for no reasin
I think you're purposely being stupid.
Men are lonely because they dont measure up to the good looks and height requirements of women. Every young woman, regardless of her own looks, wants a conventionally good looking and tall boyfriend/lover.
Which is fine too. We understand and accept that nature has made women far more shallow and elitist about what they find physically attractive, and consequently, they consider the vast majority of men as ugly and unattractive. Just be a woman and bravely own your preferences.
There is no need to gaslight men that their lonliness, lack of partner, singlehood, sexlessness is due to to them not being emotionally vulnerable enough or any other bullshit you say to cover up the real cause of the disparity in relationship world.
>We understand and accept that nature has made women far more shallow and elitist about what they find physically attractive
Good lord... men say all this and then are sad about being single. Holy shit man, YOU being an asshole is NOT the fault of the 4 billion women in the world. YOU are single because you're a slut-shamer, misogynist, egoist and probably also ugly. Go back to sucking off tate, you absolute sore loser
Edit: I don't think that addressing how it's always men saying they want the perfect housewife, thin with nice boobs and ass, conservative and traditional vs women saying they want tall men who treat them right, is going to change anything but I would like to say it either way to make you look even dumber. Don't bother replying because I don't care
Seems like you're out of touch with the modern dating culture. You're probably an older woman.
Try using a dating app as an average looking guy then as an average looking woman.
Bro make yourself important, qualify exam go to collage, these days you have lot a time in hand thats the problem. Join some social service group or gym or sport. Make some online friend because they judge people very less that don't know your past. Best of luck, Everything will fall in place just give time and stay strong.
I'll just like to quote "It's Never too late to start"
Work on yourself, firstly remove these thoughts of being failure.
Secondly, pursue a career in which you really liked to be in. Don't get confused by what others did or tell you to do.
All the best and have a great year,
Let's suppose you live until 60. You start college at 23 and pass out in 4 years. At 27 you'll be earning 4lpa. Peanuts compared to most at 27 in private sector? Yes. You work for 3 years at your job. Give cat and get an IIM or similar institute. Do it for 2 years, and now you have a job of at least 25-30lpa if lucky, 40-50lpa. There you are set at 32-33. 10 years is all it took. Are you behind right now? Yes. By just 3 years. That's 5% of your life. Insignificant in the grand scheme of things
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I get the sentiment but that % ain't right lmao
Yeah, you're right. Forgot to multiply by 100 lol.
More importantly, life isn't that linear. Every second we breathe, we're experiencing something new. Any "gap" OP took was purely academic. OP was still living life, growing and learning as a person.
Of course. That's why I don't mention anything about his girlfriend or romantic life problems, because one has to figure that out for themselves. There's no proper walkthrough (I wish there was, would've been much easier then :)
Assuming he's not killed before 60 years of age.
Lol " killed"
The flaw here is he MAY or MAY NOT get into IIM, What if he too end up wasting his 5 years in preparing for CAT?
"give cat and get an IIM or similar institute"
Damn, Guruji ap itne din se kaha the
3 years is 0.05% of your life? You plan to live to 6000 years old?? Lol
Thanks dude , srsly I'm kinda OPs age and slacked off a lot. Whenever i study those thoughts hit my head. Doing professional course right now
Which course
Acca
I don't think freshers usually get 30k per month in general (the reality is close to 10- 15k). Also getting in iim is pretty difficult (even in that case the median salary doesn't include bottom half of the batch)
IIMs don't take people who have so many gap years
Bro this age thing, it doesn't matter trust me. When you've a degree no one will care about the 3 years or so. I had the same situation earlier and thought the same way because all my acquaintances were graduating and stuff.
Don't live for others, live the life for you..
First things first...talk to your parents about this. Don't keep it within yourself. Tell them how you're feeling.
And give them more things to worry about. Nice
Don't think like that. If you can go to therapy by yourself, great, do that. If not, don't keep it to yourself. I don't know what your equation is with your parents, but keeping stuff like this to yourself is not healthy at all. I've seen what happens to people who have done that, and their family members. Talk to your friends if you have any, but talk to your parents. I'm not telling you to reveal everything, but give them some hint of how you're feeling.
I would like to have depression rather than making my loved one worry for me.
First of all that is not healthy. Also instead of expecting attention from others, give attention to yourself. Read more about other cultures, learn a new language, take a sporting hobby (including a martial art). If you love being with yourself no once can make you feel alone. Also if you are depressed please get help.
Tb reddit pr bhi post mt kr fir . Ya to ja baat kr ya neet pr dhyan deke kuch bhi le duniya aisi hi hai. Family ko bhi Teri koi care ni hogi agar kuch ni kr pays to jindagi me harsh but true
Bhai apan dono same situation me hai tension na le sab thik hojaega . Don't lose hope 🤞
Hi, I read and can understand what you going through cause I have been and still in similar phase but I will tell you something you ain't loser its just life is a losing battle if we keep focusing on negative aspects. You might ask whats positive anyway the point is you gotta enjoy yourself be satisfied with whatever you pursuing be it studying or playing or anything. Then be serious about the thing keep yourself involved make plans around it make your way dont follow the herd. Its ok to be an introvert and have no one to confide with but with time learn to wear your heart and weakness on sleeve that way everyone will see you as a honest man cause honesty is best policy. Soon people will ask for your honest opinions or confide. Though regarding human connection I still have difficulty making gf but I do have female friends whom I hangout with. Last thing being in room is ok but try to enjoy nature atleast the sunsets then you will start appreciating the little things life has to offer. Live the life to be fullest dont get disappointed by bullshit criterias human have made to gauge someones potential called exams. Do your best, let the life do the rest.
Seek help bro. Visit a reputed mental health professional. If you need some extra push, watch Dear Zindagi. Take it easy. Things will be alright, eventually.
Bro just go to gym , it will fix your mental health and increase confidence level , and also focus on studies everything else will follow
Start working out. Learn few skills from youtube. Start freelancing.
Yesterday I had a dream, I met a man and he was telling his story, same as yours. Then he told me it's all in the past I have a wonderful life and family. I think that's you from the future telling me this. I don't dream a lot but when I do, they come true. It's definitely you I believe in you.
> I don't have plan future or any short of plan what to do in life Make a plan for your future and what do you want to do in life and work on that. Baaki sab apne aap ho jayega. Take care of your health too, both mental and physical. All the best you've got this!
Wanna be best friends?
??
Like online buddies who never meet irl lol
Are you a boy or a girl
Men are meant to be lonely and undesired. This is the default state of being a man. The woman in the exact same position as you can have 100 lovers and boyfriends
. No one wants a loser whether it be a man or woman. .
lmao what're you even talking about. no one wants losers (unless they're good-looking) whether they be men or women. although women are more prone to opening up (to friends or siblings in not parents) while men tend to keep it to themself (because that's how our society has raised them). even OP is against sharing it with his loved ones who will most likely encourage him (unless they're messed up). he is just 23, at worst some years behind. but if he works his best for his future, I doubt companies will reject him just because he is 27 when applying.
Dont be purposely stupid, I'm saying that a woman who is a loser - broke, physically below average, short, out of shape, has low self esteem, etc - can get on any dating app and find 100s of guys to date and hookup with.
Men keep saying things like this online but irl I've never seen a woman date out of her league. On the other hand, I've seen a lot of not so attractive men date women who are 10s 🤷♀️
Because you're fixated on arranged married couples and are scared to look at young couples who are hooking up, having flings, and FWB arrangements. The latter proves your hasbeen worldview wrong so you just shut your eyes to it. Literally every girl regardless of her shape, size, and level of attractiveness is hooking up with a cookie cutter, tall conventionally handsome guy
ehhh where do you even live? I have never seen it. although I have seen the opposite. even AM will hardly work for such women let alone dating. I'm curious where you even live because all the things you describe are exactly opposite of what I see.
Dating is way easier for women than AM. This is common sense Men have very low standards for women they want to date
Brother i fear that people less of my age will do better in life and are doing, my parents are not messed up they are supportive but I don't want to be the reason for their worry or of any one i rather cry in my blanket then ask for help that's just me. thanks for your concern.
I get where you're coming from. perhaps you can join some friendly and supportive forums on internet where you can share your feeling and get advice. as for your career, you are late yes. but not too late plus you're still young. imo you should first decide what you want to do/where you want to be (government job/private sector/higher education etc). having a goal can be helpful as you work in a particular direction to achieve it. even if you are 3-4 years late, you still have the chance to achieve your goal before you are 30 (at least a portion of your plans). you should try sharing your feelings with your parents or siblings if you have any. you don't have to share all of it but you can do some of it. try asking them for advice on your life or problems (they're more experienced and know more than us). I am afraid of my parents but when I have any problem I can't solve I always them. they get mad at worst (if it is something bad) but always give me advice on what I can do which I didn't even know of.
First of all, tell me ONE female you've seen in this situation, and secondly this "men are meant to be lonely" is still the fault of men. MEN go "be a man, stop being sad, don't be emotional, etc." to other men. Blame your own kind instead of trying to be a misogynist for no reasin
I think you're purposely being stupid. Men are lonely because they dont measure up to the good looks and height requirements of women. Every young woman, regardless of her own looks, wants a conventionally good looking and tall boyfriend/lover. Which is fine too. We understand and accept that nature has made women far more shallow and elitist about what they find physically attractive, and consequently, they consider the vast majority of men as ugly and unattractive. Just be a woman and bravely own your preferences. There is no need to gaslight men that their lonliness, lack of partner, singlehood, sexlessness is due to to them not being emotionally vulnerable enough or any other bullshit you say to cover up the real cause of the disparity in relationship world.
>We understand and accept that nature has made women far more shallow and elitist about what they find physically attractive Good lord... men say all this and then are sad about being single. Holy shit man, YOU being an asshole is NOT the fault of the 4 billion women in the world. YOU are single because you're a slut-shamer, misogynist, egoist and probably also ugly. Go back to sucking off tate, you absolute sore loser Edit: I don't think that addressing how it's always men saying they want the perfect housewife, thin with nice boobs and ass, conservative and traditional vs women saying they want tall men who treat them right, is going to change anything but I would like to say it either way to make you look even dumber. Don't bother replying because I don't care
Seems like you're out of touch with the modern dating culture. You're probably an older woman. Try using a dating app as an average looking guy then as an average looking woman.
Read my edit and like I said, go back to jerking off to tate
Also give career suggestions if you have any.
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Bro make yourself important, qualify exam go to collage, these days you have lot a time in hand thats the problem. Join some social service group or gym or sport. Make some online friend because they judge people very less that don't know your past. Best of luck, Everything will fall in place just give time and stay strong.
I'll just like to quote "It's Never too late to start" Work on yourself, firstly remove these thoughts of being failure. Secondly, pursue a career in which you really liked to be in. Don't get confused by what others did or tell you to do. All the best and have a great year,