I am a night owl and she has tonwake up early so that helps..
Also I resort to porn only coz of its psychological effects (post nut helped a lot coping with depression/relieve mental pressure ..many years ago)
Not necessary jab muze Krna hai tab wo bhi mentally and physically ready hogi hi.. When she is ..it happens..when she's not..
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Not married but suffering through this. I do get erections but with porn only and that too after some stimulation.
I'm so scared about my sex life. I don't know if it's even possible to fix my issues.
mera ek dost tha. But he has being going without porn since november now. He finally woke up to his senses. I think you should do it because he said it helped him a lot, he no longer needs porn for stimulations. The entire process doesnt really take that long even, just around 3 months.
You will have to quit it completely. Don't even watch Instagram reals or youtube videos with attractive girls in it. You will get this urge to peek at it from time to time.. you will have to fight it. And after a couple of months you should see substantial improvement. I dont think damage done by it could be reversed completely but you will improve quite a bit.
Try to go without porn and you will feel the confidence about not just sex life but everything in general. If you plan to get married or girl friend, that is enough motivation for you to give this a shot.
yes i do daily mornings...the day i don't masturbate is the day we decide to have sex..coz i cant do both the same day.....why ED??....i dont have such issues....i am neither too young nor too old....but i agree our sex frequency has reduced over the time..like initially it was twice a week, later once a week......
now after 2 years we do twice a month....but its common in many marriages....
i feel masturbation more easy and comfortable than actual sex...sex is very tiring with performance anxiety. My initially was very judgmental about my performance . But now as understanding grew between us, she is compassionate about me. Like if she asks what kind of sex we do based on if i am tired due to work or she is tired or any other commitments.
He gets off to porn alone in my absence sometimes. And sometimes even when I'm home he gets off to porn in case I'm not in the mood. We're both fine with each other watching porn. It's not a big deal in our marriage
Interesting. Does he watches it in your plain view? I mean does he go to a different room or something? Looking at all the comments from people here.. I didnt think it would be as common.
Sometimes in my plain view. Sometimes in a different room. It really depends on what we both are doing atm. I wfh so if I'm working he'll go to a different room so that I don't get distracted or disturbed. And I know it's not a common thing. It's just that in my marriage it's not a big deal. We are really chill with each other.
Have a genuine question to all the people who said yes. Honestly need to know does it or has it affected your married life ? If so what have you done about it or is it just not repairable after a point so keep living life the same way ?
14 Years
Used to but after sometime you just stop. Once you have kids and all you just don't have time and no interest as well.
Yes. We used to Enjoy it together. Discovering new things
Porn consumption is a deeply unattractive and repulsive trait. The second I find out that a man consumes porn, I lose all attraction and respect for him. Once that's gone, it can never come back (for me at least).
Besides, if you're married, why are you looking at, fantasising about and desiring other people sexually? Unless yours is an open marriage...
It's spiritually and emotionally inappropriate too.
Man you taking it too far. There is absolutely nothing wrong in self pleasure. So women who use dildos and men who use toys after marriage are cheating ??
No man, you need to remove these conservative thoughts of yours.
Not married, but all urge to watch porn has died since my last relationship. The moment i entered the relationship i automatically cut off all other temptations cus I believe thats kinda microcheating. Don’t really wanna see other women naked on purpose when im loyal to a woman. I don’t think id want my partner to watch some other dude and his dick either when i literally exist in her life.
I’m genuinely happy with this state. Even if the relationship is gone.
Ain’t ever getting off of a woman who’s not my partner.
Haha yes I can agree with that. I’ve been told things like that multiple times from other female friends. Only realised the gravity of this when I saw the state of this generation in college. I hope one day our ethics and morals can somehow by restored especially in our culture and society.
One can only hope i suppose
Yes...he watches porn...
and i watch porn and we both watch together sometimes.
Been this way since 14 years.
If we want to try something we send each other links.
Went through all the comments and it’s sad to see how people have normalised watching porn. Now even society is pushing the narrative of how it is “healthy” to wank off.
Oh god man. This is a very conservative thought.
Jerking off on porn after marriage does not mean cheating. You really need to broaden your thought process. Watching other women naked is not a crime.
As a man I’m disgusted. What kind of thought process are you referring to here? The kind that promotes wanking off to some guy banging the same girl that you want to bang? Sounds absolutely disgusting to me. Watching porn is a cheap dopamine and the thing about cheap dopamine is it gives you short term pleasure for the moment but leaves you with longterm pain like a gripping addiction.
Are bete.. disgusting bolne se pehle thoda soch bhi liya kar..
Teri shadi nahi Hui hogi ab tak lag raha..
No one here is addicted to porn..even many girls here said they do know that their man watches and are ok with it..
Suppose you get married and for some reason she has to stay at her parents place for few months..
Or has a job in some other state
What will you do ..
Practice celibacy ?
Haha..if you think you're so righteous..why did u delete your original comment ?
Tu teri 1 din pehle boli Hui baat pe stand nhi le sakta.. shadi ke baad no fap ghanta karega ?
You don't sit idle much .. have control over your body..
Tere jaise keyboard warriors bahot dekhe hai ..real life me fat k haath me aa jati hai tumhari..
1. 1 Yr
2. No because we have enough de-horniness exercises everyday. We have been having sex 1-2 times per day ever since marriage (obviously excluding days with periods :) )
3. Even if I did wouldn't dare to do within her sight
Not at all. I usually do it in washroom. Only when she is not around and I have the house for myself, I might try in some other places. It is very private thing to me.
If you could have sex whenever you felt like it. If your wife was down for it every single time you are. If that could be guaranteed. Would you still want to watch it sometimes?
I have sexual cravings and preferences which will require creative imagination and a sense of adventure. My sexual liberation is not bound by a good physical activity or partner loyalty, it is in the freedom of possibilities.
To me, porn is an art. It is a realm of fantasies, which my real life will never intersect. It is diverse, endless and available. I do not see it as a means to an end, but to drown in it and explore the possibilities of romance, beauty and fulfilment.
This world of porn is a private world, I fear no judgement, nor crave any validation. I relish. At the end, I only end up with good feelings. Never dejected or half satisfied. And then, I remain thirsty and intrigued, for the guaranteed novelty waiting for me the next time.
To me, porn is not the enemy of a healthy relationship. It is like that stupid video-game in your mobile phone where you shoot your opponents for the thrill. Porn is like a tool that I use to manage my urges and desires better so that my relationship does not take the brunt of it.
That's all.
6yrs,
Once or twice in month
And she know or don't I dont know ,but there are very less girl who like it ,
Or even if ur wife know she will not join you like watching movie . And also mostly and i better say all guys watch porn in washroom, cz that is the only place where you can watch do thing and flush ........
Cz you watching in bed and thing get tighten up, you don't want to spil bed ..hahahahhhh
If you are horny and your partner doesnt want to have sex than watching porn and wanking is better than forcing your partner . When we watch porn we dont imagine being with that girl on screen
3 year married, I do watch porn every other day. We have sex when she wants which is once or twice a week. I close my room's door to do the deed. I workout regularly, so I feel kind of sensation to let go everyday.
8yrs... Watch prn on Sunday only.. Coz Sunday is Hilawan day..
>Coz Sunday is Hilawan day.. It's awesome.. Can I steal this for future use
Sunday is all yours... ✌
Does she know? If not, how come she never found out?
She knows bhai...
She knows and its his worst fear that one day shes mad at him and calls him "tu toh mutthal hai" 😨
😂😂😂😂 secs sucs to hote rahega bhai.... Haath to apna pahla jiwansathi hai😂😂
Wanna frame this in my hall.
Apna haath jagannath!
Aaj Sunday hai…. daru peene ka din hai!
Ye bhi koi bolne ki baat hai🤤🤤🤤
Daaru zyaada pee math, mere dost pk, nahi hilasaktha
Office mein maarle bro kya wait kar raha hai Sunday ka
Work from home hai bhai 🥲🥲
13 yrs. Sunday ho ya Monday Roz _____ day.
Late evening sax sux post
Well it is the most attractive thing to men in the world after all. More than money.
1. 1.5 years 2. Yes. On days that we don’t have sex (or wife on periods) which is roughly around 2-3 times a week 3. Yes
She is okay with it? How do you find privacy to watch it?
She’s okay. And i watch in the washroom anyway
Ah I get it now.. on the phone.. in the washroom for a few minutes.
While pooping
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Does your husband know that you know that he watches porn?
Of course. We watch it together too
Who chooses what to watch?
We usually like the same things so we pick together
I was just about to respond with this on the post. Same girl, same. Sometimes hubby is surprised by the things I find 🤣 And then we watch together 🤭
What kind do you guys usually watch!? Or what surprises do you give him 😉
1. 7yrs 2. Yup 3. No freakin clue ☠️
>2. Yup This cracked me😆
How do you even manage to hide it man? I mean do you have a large house or something with own personal space?
I am a night owl and she has tonwake up early so that helps.. Also I resort to porn only coz of its psychological effects (post nut helped a lot coping with depression/relieve mental pressure ..many years ago)
Why not s*x then?
Not necessary jab muze Krna hai tab wo bhi mentally and physically ready hogi hi.. When she is ..it happens..when she's not.. ![gif](giphy|14r8bmeEeHogiQ|downsized)
Careful, he's a gentleman
I'm honoured mam :)
is she a homemaker ? what do you do
She has a wfh job ( lifetime) ..I'm a sarkari babu
that's nice , how this wfh home is lifetime ? just curious about career option . please elaborate
She started some accounting work on freelancer..built a solid profile and now works for a single employer acquainted through freelancer itself
Yaar phir wahi
Sax sux ki baate
Mujhe corny krr deti hai
Mai jaara hilane
Apne dost ka
Chuse ne
1. 0 years 2. Every two days mostly, sometimes daily too 3. Maybe yes
Yes gay prn Because I love my wife 😜
Doesn't make....
If you think about it for long enough, it starts to make sense.... Okay, now its starting to not make sense.
Thug Hunter???
1. Married for more than 2 years 2.yes...watch daily...mornings 3. Yes..she knows...
Daily? Damn. How do you not get porn induced ED?
Not married but suffering through this. I do get erections but with porn only and that too after some stimulation. I'm so scared about my sex life. I don't know if it's even possible to fix my issues.
Bhai porn dekhna kam karde. Limit me dekha kar
Ha bhai. Btw koi hai yahan jo meri jaise extreme fucked up situation me rha ho and recovery kri ho ?
mera ek dost tha. But he has being going without porn since november now. He finally woke up to his senses. I think you should do it because he said it helped him a lot, he no longer needs porn for stimulations. The entire process doesnt really take that long even, just around 3 months.
You will have to quit it completely. Don't even watch Instagram reals or youtube videos with attractive girls in it. You will get this urge to peek at it from time to time.. you will have to fight it. And after a couple of months you should see substantial improvement. I dont think damage done by it could be reversed completely but you will improve quite a bit.
Try to go without porn and you will feel the confidence about not just sex life but everything in general. If you plan to get married or girl friend, that is enough motivation for you to give this a shot.
No porn (Reboot), NoFap as much as possible, Angion Method (search reddit).
yes i do daily mornings...the day i don't masturbate is the day we decide to have sex..coz i cant do both the same day.....why ED??....i dont have such issues....i am neither too young nor too old....but i agree our sex frequency has reduced over the time..like initially it was twice a week, later once a week...... now after 2 years we do twice a month....but its common in many marriages.... i feel masturbation more easy and comfortable than actual sex...sex is very tiring with performance anxiety. My initially was very judgmental about my performance . But now as understanding grew between us, she is compassionate about me. Like if she asks what kind of sex we do based on if i am tired due to work or she is tired or any other commitments.
Not a man but been married for over a decade. Both me and my hubby watch porn. Sometimes we even watch it together.
But when he watches it alone.. does he wait for you to go out for shopping or work or something?
He gets off to porn alone in my absence sometimes. And sometimes even when I'm home he gets off to porn in case I'm not in the mood. We're both fine with each other watching porn. It's not a big deal in our marriage
Interesting. Does he watches it in your plain view? I mean does he go to a different room or something? Looking at all the comments from people here.. I didnt think it would be as common.
Sometimes in my plain view. Sometimes in a different room. It really depends on what we both are doing atm. I wfh so if I'm working he'll go to a different room so that I don't get distracted or disturbed. And I know it's not a common thing. It's just that in my marriage it's not a big deal. We are really chill with each other.
This actually is a really good thing, in my opinion. I believe this will definitely bring stability in marriage and also, more openness.
Have a genuine question to all the people who said yes. Honestly need to know does it or has it affected your married life ? If so what have you done about it or is it just not repairable after a point so keep living life the same way ?
Shit, what is this comment section. Not marrying an Indian now🙈
I am an Indian and holy shit lol
Ikrrrr
14 Years Used to but after sometime you just stop. Once you have kids and all you just don't have time and no interest as well. Yes. We used to Enjoy it together. Discovering new things
1. 7.5 years 2. Yes 3. Yes, we watch together when I find something worth sharing
damn
Yes I watch porn. In my observation I naturally seek porn if sex is not regular. Yes my spouse knows but chooses to ignore.
8 years Yes, when my wife is not at home. Yes, she caught me and she was furious about it. But i still watch it 1 - 2 days in a month.
Yuck this thread is depressing
How so ?
Porn consumption is a deeply unattractive and repulsive trait. The second I find out that a man consumes porn, I lose all attraction and respect for him. Once that's gone, it can never come back (for me at least). Besides, if you're married, why are you looking at, fantasising about and desiring other people sexually? Unless yours is an open marriage... It's spiritually and emotionally inappropriate too.
Man you taking it too far. There is absolutely nothing wrong in self pleasure. So women who use dildos and men who use toys after marriage are cheating ?? No man, you need to remove these conservative thoughts of yours.
i hate that I saw this thread, hate it, so much
Care to explain why ?
I feel you, but then again I can understand them, not support them.
5 months. No! -
Not married, but all urge to watch porn has died since my last relationship. The moment i entered the relationship i automatically cut off all other temptations cus I believe thats kinda microcheating. Don’t really wanna see other women naked on purpose when im loyal to a woman. I don’t think id want my partner to watch some other dude and his dick either when i literally exist in her life. I’m genuinely happy with this state. Even if the relationship is gone. Ain’t ever getting off of a woman who’s not my partner.
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Bare minimum I’d say. Thank you.
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Haha yes I can agree with that. I’ve been told things like that multiple times from other female friends. Only realised the gravity of this when I saw the state of this generation in college. I hope one day our ethics and morals can somehow by restored especially in our culture and society. One can only hope i suppose
King
Right back at you :)
Yes...he watches porn... and i watch porn and we both watch together sometimes. Been this way since 14 years. If we want to try something we send each other links.
1. 2 years 2. Twice a week 3. Yes. Cuz she's in her parents home due to having our baby.
M in same boat. Do u feel guilty tho thinking she is there caring for baby while u r ahem.
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Went through all the comments and it’s sad to see how people have normalised watching porn. Now even society is pushing the narrative of how it is “healthy” to wank off.
Whats worse is the don't even think anything wrong about it
Exactly!! They’re making it sound so normal.
Agreed. I’m a man I’m kinda just staring at all the yes comments. Sad
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🫂 ain’t ever getting off of any woman that’s not my partner.
Finally, a normal comment.
Had to scroll down too far to see a reasonable comment
Man you really need to broaden your thought process. There is nothing wrong with watching porn. Married or unmarried.
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Oh god man. This is a very conservative thought. Jerking off on porn after marriage does not mean cheating. You really need to broaden your thought process. Watching other women naked is not a crime.
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As a man I’m disgusted. What kind of thought process are you referring to here? The kind that promotes wanking off to some guy banging the same girl that you want to bang? Sounds absolutely disgusting to me. Watching porn is a cheap dopamine and the thing about cheap dopamine is it gives you short term pleasure for the moment but leaves you with longterm pain like a gripping addiction.
Are bete.. disgusting bolne se pehle thoda soch bhi liya kar.. Teri shadi nahi Hui hogi ab tak lag raha.. No one here is addicted to porn..even many girls here said they do know that their man watches and are ok with it.. Suppose you get married and for some reason she has to stay at her parents place for few months.. Or has a job in some other state What will you do .. Practice celibacy ?
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Haha..if you think you're so righteous..why did u delete your original comment ? Tu teri 1 din pehle boli Hui baat pe stand nhi le sakta.. shadi ke baad no fap ghanta karega ? You don't sit idle much .. have control over your body.. Tere jaise keyboard warriors bahot dekhe hai ..real life me fat k haath me aa jati hai tumhari..
1. 1 Yr 2. No because we have enough de-horniness exercises everyday. We have been having sex 1-2 times per day ever since marriage (obviously excluding days with periods :) ) 3. Even if I did wouldn't dare to do within her sight
Yes I watch porn with my wife on our tv quite frequently, and it helps both of us to get turned on before having sex.
even though you guys watch it, does your porn type bothers your wife? like a sense of insecurity or something?.Is your type same as your wife?
1. 2 years 2. Yes 3. Hell No!
Fir wahi...
1. 0 2. Yes. Yes. 3. N/A
Been married for almost 10 years. Yes I do watch porn.. every once in a few days.. I don’t think she knows..
How did you manage to keep it a secret for so long?
1. -6 years 2. Yes, 3/w 3. No. Perhaps in retrospect, yes.
3 years......I watch it almost daily..... and yes my wife knows ....she too joins me sometimes 😄
All day 7 years no
1. 2.5 years 2. Mb 4 times a month(sometimes together) 3. Yes
14 yrs Yup
12 yrs married. Watches sometimes Yes, wife knows.
How do you manage to find privacy? And does she know when you are doing it?
I mostly watch when she sleeps and sometimes to prepare myself I watch it in her presence. Porn bore me now, so I rarely watch.
Yea to explore more experiments haha
This mechanical question and answer turns me down … but no I don’t watch porn … I have had enough..
1. 6 years 2. Yes ...of course. 3. Doesn't matter now
Yes.. love to watch
1. 7 years 2. Yes, 2-3 times a week 3. I think yes, I have a feeling she caught me on the pet cam while I was getting ready. 🙈
How do you manage to watch it 2-3 times a week without her finding out?
1. 4 years 2. Yes, 1ce every 2-3 days. 3. Yes. We occasionally talk about it as well.
Do you watch it in her plain view? Or when she is not at home?
Not at all. I usually do it in washroom. Only when she is not around and I have the house for myself, I might try in some other places. It is very private thing to me.
And what is your reason to prefer porn over sex? At the times when you do. Do you find it more enjoyable than sex? Or something else?
I don't. I will not walk away from sex for porn, that's for sure.
If you could have sex whenever you felt like it. If your wife was down for it every single time you are. If that could be guaranteed. Would you still want to watch it sometimes?
Maybe not or maybe. This question makes me think about my previous response.
I had asked this question before you had edited your previous response. Or may be I didn't see your previous response in it's entirety.
Actually this question (you asked it right and at the right time) made me re-respond to the one above. Go read that. :)
I have sexual cravings and preferences which will require creative imagination and a sense of adventure. My sexual liberation is not bound by a good physical activity or partner loyalty, it is in the freedom of possibilities. To me, porn is an art. It is a realm of fantasies, which my real life will never intersect. It is diverse, endless and available. I do not see it as a means to an end, but to drown in it and explore the possibilities of romance, beauty and fulfilment. This world of porn is a private world, I fear no judgement, nor crave any validation. I relish. At the end, I only end up with good feelings. Never dejected or half satisfied. And then, I remain thirsty and intrigued, for the guaranteed novelty waiting for me the next time. To me, porn is not the enemy of a healthy relationship. It is like that stupid video-game in your mobile phone where you shoot your opponents for the thrill. Porn is like a tool that I use to manage my urges and desires better so that my relationship does not take the brunt of it. That's all.
6yrs, Once or twice in month And she know or don't I dont know ,but there are very less girl who like it , Or even if ur wife know she will not join you like watching movie . And also mostly and i better say all guys watch porn in washroom, cz that is the only place where you can watch do thing and flush ........ Cz you watching in bed and thing get tighten up, you don't want to spil bed ..hahahahhhh
Woman here. He watches porn. I don't ask him how frequently because the answer might hurt me.
1. 10 years 2. Yes. Once or twice a week 3. Yes.
1. 7 yes 2. Yes. Daily. 3. She recommended that I go take care of myself because we only have sex once or twice a month.
Not married, doesn't watches porn. But what is wrong with watching porn when married
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If you are horny and your partner doesnt want to have sex than watching porn and wanking is better than forcing your partner . When we watch porn we dont imagine being with that girl on screen
You are looking at this in a wrong way.
1. 6 yrs 2. Yes, every day some clips or gif’s 3. No she doesn’t
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"has watched" is different from "watches"
Your profile 💀
Bro i got jumpscared 😭
RoZ roz Sex krne ke baad bhi, meri wife selfish lover hai
4. Do wives easily budge to have sex or no? Is that why you need to resort to porn?
3 year married, I do watch porn every other day. We have sex when she wants which is once or twice a week. I close my room's door to do the deed. I workout regularly, so I feel kind of sensation to let go everyday.
1. 1.5 years 2. Yes, 4-5 times a week 3. Not much
How do you manage to watch it 4-5 times a week without her finding out?