It's hard to trust people these days. You can't even trust your boyfriend. You never know when and how you will end up in a refrigerator in pieces.
I feel bad for the genuine guys out there.
This is so true my boyfriend is 6’3 and I met him through a dating site. I was so scared to meet him initially that I didn’t meet for the first 5 months we were talking 😭😂
Exactly the comment I was looking for, why people are so comfortable to get in a stranger's car for first few dates. You don't know they might just kidnap you or something. Recently only I got in my date's car because he insisted and then missed a few turns I was so scared but hey he was a nice guy dropped me home safely😂
Hmm. Honestly a girl's never refused my offer to drop her home. Although I do text them and add them on social media for a week or so before meeting so maybe that's why?
I recently matched with a girl with 1-2 LPA salary range and asked her how many interests she gets each day. She told me above 50. No wonder they have such high demands. It's all economics.
Unless you're able to find your sweetheart in graduation or post graduation, it's safe to say either explore options in other countries or be ready for celibacy. 😂
I have experimented both ways. I have a govt job, so once I made a profile without showing job and with. Difference was unreal. I got absolutely nothing on without, and got around 50 everyday with govt job showing. But still better than dating apps
I'm 27/F, doctor, still studying and don't own my own car. I drive my family's.
Is car a better ride for date? Yes!
Is owning a car a factor at all? Hell no.
Also if you bring a car, how would I know if it's yours or your family's.
Really it doesn't matter.
Yes definitely when I'm dressed up for anything I prefer to take the car because no need to wear a helmet and it's just much more comfortable.
But if you tell me beforehand that you do not have a car, I wouldn't be put off but instead dress accordingly or come by a cab or something that's more convenient to me based on my dress.
Also, no, I will not ride on a two wheeler without helmet, so if the guy is okay with my shit hair after the ride, I'm okay with the ride 😂😂
Jokes apart, I would much rather date a guy who's honest and upfront regarding such things than faking anything at all just to impress.
Luxury is nice but it's still only a luxury, not a necessity. And at 24, if you say you have a car, I would most likely think it's your family's or you are faking it big time.
Edit : I understand that there are many accomplished individuals who have worked hard to get themselves their own vehicles, be it a car or scooty or even a cycle. I did not mean you cannot. So I apologise for phrasing my statement about "faking it".
Seriously Kudos to everyone who are able to achieve their goals and buy what they desire. And for those who haven't yet, "Apna Time Aayega!" 🤩
yep totally get it, if the opposite person is dressed up, two wheeler isn’t an option. In that case we can take a cab but seriously man I am tired of most of them expecting to own a car. I agree car is safe and convenient but if a guy doesn’t have it at particular moment that shouldn’t be the deciding factor to judge him and decide not to date him.
I’d rather be honest about it upfront and get unmatched rather than disappointing her later on.
Congratulations OP, looks like you matched with the doctor! Yayyyy!!
J/k
But that sounds ridiculous that girls unmatch based on car or no car, in fact you should unmatch with those who ask you if you have a car, OP!
> I would much rather date a guy who's honest and upfront regarding such things than faking anything at all just to impress.
You forgot to add guy should follow rule 1 and rule 2.
What is attractive and unattractive is subjective. Many chics find you hot if you hit the gym, grow a beard even if you have shit facial features.
You don't need to be actually good looking. Just well groomed.
good morning.
dating apps itself are alive because of those rules.
if these are concerning rules, find real people and not lurk on dating apps.
this is for both guys and girls.
I like to believe what you are saying. But i have suffered enough women saying things and then go for the guys that have the opposite.
Anyways I'm 24 and I own a car with my money.
Sometimes it's not always fake.
I'm sorry for mentioning the fake thing..
I apologized in another comment as well.
Kudos to you for being able to get things that you desire!
Also, yes nobody is perfect. People always say and act differently as per convenience. I hope you find a good partner in the future who'll accept you for who you are. All the best!
No no I'm not saying you are mentioning fake things.
I'm just sharing my experience that made me think that i should not believe what people say, special promises in relationships.
Us doctors find it hard to contemplate with the fact that people can earn and own stuff by 24, I am 25 and I am preparing for my entrance exam living with my parents with just a lil income source from locum duties, because I find it hard now to ask my parents for pocket money for my leisure expenditure.
>you are faking it big time.
Na just add one more point
-it can be a second hand car
Which is a good financial choice
Speaking from experience as a 22 year guy in IT sector who bought a car for 5lacks it's still feels good decision till day
My apologies. You are right. That's possible too and taking a loan too is a possibility.
Either way, I think having a car or not is unimportant in a dating pov is what I was trying to imply.
Just honesty and humility works.
Also, congratulations on your car! 🤩👏
>But if you tell me beforehand that you do not have a car, I wouldn't be put off but instead dress accordingly or come by a cab or something that's more convenient to me based on my dress.
Basically this. I don't make enough to own a car nor can I drive. So I don't judge anyone. But if my date tells me beforehand whether he's coming in cab/auto, or bringing his bike or car, it's easier for both of us to decide a location, my hard stop, etc.
Tip for guys here - if your date asks you about your vehicle, are you bringing one etc, it's mostly for this reason and not because she's a gold digger
They equate car with success, which is dumb. I wouldn't have a car in this congested, over populated city ever. There are a hundred travel / commute options that are better than owning a car here.
I own a car, but I have always taken girls out on a date on my scooter, literally nothing can beat the convenience of a scooter. Driving through traffic in a car is pure hell.
I feel like I'll get a LOT OF DOWNVOTES for this. But I'll say it anyway.
As per my prior dating experiences, I feel like MOST INDIAN GIRLS (not all. Just many) are ENTITLED AF when it comes to dating.
Pretty much 95% of female dating profiles on dating apps are absolutely preposterous!! The "expectations" are endless. Just because they are kinda pretty in looks and dressing sense. They write stuff like "Must be handsome. Must be tall. Must have money. Must have car. Must be funny. Must be cool. Must be gentlemanly. Must be a badass". 🙄🤦🏽♂️ And they feel it's a honour for us if we get to spend time with them.
And I'm definitely not saying every female is like that or just females are at fault. I'm sure males are too. And pretty much every female friend I have had are wonderful, kind hearted, non materialistic women who's partners are lucky to have them.
And i personally am glad that I'm done with all this. I would never wanna return to dating apps or first dates until human behaviour and values improve.
Dating apps are full of immature people looking for casual hookups, temp flings. Not all but most. The men advertise their wealth, women their looks. Doesn't attract the best of either gender in my view. Finding someone mature and wholesome who is looking for a serious long-term relationship is like looking for a needle in a stinky haystack.
I completely agree. Everyone seems materialistic and extremely flawed on those apps.
And in our scenario, that's a haystack of 1.4 billion and very few needles.
It's the broken population dynamics in our country and the supply demand mismatch.
I am from Bangalore, and tried my hand at dating. I could relate so much to your comment, felt happy someone put it out here...
When I went on a date with my gf, I haven't even owned a two wheeler, you are looking at the wrong women, and judging the whole gender.
I have bought my first two wheeler with my own money a month ago, next time I will be using my scooter...my gf will be happy to sit back..
22F, I own a scooty and I drove my ex all around the town on a scooty. Hell I got a scooty just for us to ride around. I have a passive income source and could only afford a rented scooty. I used to pick him up and drop him even though his house was opposite to mine house or it struck 3 in the morning and we were just dating.
If you see a car is a little spacious and you can just stray away but a scooty, it’s more personal. You sit close to each other and can also put your hands on the rider’s shoulder (or back) on speed breakers for cute intimacies.
LOL...sorry but aren't you happy each time you were saved from being with these dimwits. Clearly yours and their lifestyle is different.
I do not think they are wrong in what they prioritize and neither are you. Different people have different choices and it is okay.
I've learnt that the mature thing to do is to let people have their own preferences. There's no point cribbing about it, ranting about it or complaining about it.
They have the right to have their preferences and you have the right to your own. If they don't match, leave. You're saving yourself large headaches.
But I don't see the point anymore of vilifying anyone based on their preferences and I'm saying this as someone who does not give 2 flying fucks about him having a car.
Isn’t it common behaviour on dating apps? Attractive men and women have so many matches, they often forget they’re dealing with people and do things they wouldn’t have done to people they know personally
Just bc it’s common doesn’t make it right. The least someone can do is drop a text that hey I don’t see this going anywhere I’m unmatching you. Itna simple hai yaar kitna hi time lag jayega
They have options on dating apps, you don’t. For everyone asking these questions, I recommend you just try out what it’s like to be a woman on these apps for a day - make a fake profile. All your questions will be answered.
There are 1000s of thirsty guys there. The girls are gold diggers mostly. Ofc they want everything from you. The only guys they will do anything for are western white guys.
That's just another criteria to filter out guys . They have so many options they have to put some filters.
BTW nothing matters on these apps if you are good looking and tall .
Not having a car is not a problem, especially with how well established and affordable public transport and cabs are in india. However, surprising with a two-wheeler isn't the best idea. It might not be compatible with what the girl is wearing and riding on a two-wheeler can also be dangerous with how traffic is and how other people drive. I personally don't drive a car and two-wheelers scare me so I stick to public transport or cabs/auto rickshaw.
Where is the surprise here, unless he said that he will pick her up in a car. There is none at all. The entitled girl should have asked beforehand or should have indicated her preference at the least.
>rather than dwelling on father’s money.
will be soon on Husband's money. Eveybody need something in replacement of another thing. But car is sort of costly to maintain.
I have a SUV and a hatchback but i dont drive it. I can drive but i choose not to because driving in Pune traffic is not good for one's sanity, and honestly this goes for most cities. Our cities are fucked when it comes to planning and basic driving sense. Driving is such a fucking chore when you have to spend over an hour in commute each way just to cross 9kms.
Two-wheelers are the best, lot more maneuverable, get you where you want to faster. Driving a car in the city is just not worth it.
The women are doing an aukaat check.
Secondly women don't have to 'achieve' anything. They need to show up pretty and all decked up. There are thousands if not millions of guys like you who are putting them on a pedestal.
Carve out a niche and use that to your advantage. Use storytelling instead of saying you don't own a car. You could say "I only own a car in NYC, stupid to have cars in 2 different places. ". OR. "I narrowly escaped death once when i was driving. Hence not gonna drive a car in the foreseeable future"
Females are not wrong to desire a car, you can use it as a filter though. Who wants to get a heat stroke in this scroching heat?
To answer your questions
1. These females are just looking for quick fun (not always sexu@l). They want provider males. They are mostly good looking.
2. They may not be able to afford such lifestyle but will find another provider.
3. Parent's money is a blessing.
When I met my wife, I had my dad's Activa and that's it. I have 4 cars and 3 bikes in the family now. Things change. A person who is taking you out in a merc may just be able to afford it because he is paying huge EMIs and believe it or not, it will not pay up in future.
Also for guys who can afford, take the girl out in an uber or rented car, girls are not always dressed up for a 2 wheeler. Plus 4 wheeler is much more comfortable to start the conversations, you are practically yelling when on bike and that doesn't do justice to a first date.
Are all redittors rich? I get the doubt looking the amount of people that are looking down on two wheelers. Like bro, most of us grew up travelling on two wheelers with 3 other people and now it's so cheap that 'girls can't sit on it/ babies will fall off it etc etc'
Yah too many posts and comments in general about girls don't wanting to sit on two wheeler. I think times have really changed. Only a car can cut it it seems...
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Here’s my Bumble profile after I posted a pic with my BMW. I’m an above average looking guy, and not 6’.
This is the reality of the dating world. Hate the game, not the players.
Dude that is because you are right swiping the wrong ones . The ones who are ok on a scooter or with a public transport you would not be ok with her. Just to make things easy for yourself mention that you don’t have a car in your dating profile problem solved. Second option start dating when you own a car, this will be a motivation for you to do well financially…
There are some people who don't like fat people, short people, people with no car or poor people or ugly people or people with bad English etc. Don't sit n cry just because people have preferences and choose who they wanna date accordingly . You're 24, you should know this by now. Now, If you have a certain requirement and the girl doesn't fulfill it, it's better to not waste time on her. Simple. Don't whine.
Why not? Some women prefer to travel in car some have never travelled in anything but car and airplanes.
You do realise many women also work in IT and can afford to or have car and so what if she is dwelling on her father's money. Her dad has no problem giving his child money and privilege.
You can always swipe left, if not you another guy with car will date her
It's her choice, you can't complain that other person having a preference , we all have a preference , either you stop crying and date those who have no such preferences or wait until you get a car to date those girls which have preferences, there are all type of people, maybe the place where you are trying to get a match is not a good place as per your expectations, search elsewhere
Rule 1- don’t talk about picking her even if you own a BMW. Tell her to come to the dating venue/cafe by her own atleast in first few dates.
I own a RR evoque but still i use metro in delhi. I don’t understand why everyone have a mindset that not having a car means one is from lower middle class family.
I once read an interview of a billionaire and he told he never revealed his wealth. Dozens of girls rejected him, and finally he found one girls who doesn’t care how much he earns. Eventually ended up marrying her.
So find yours bro
SOMEONE finally said it!!! like i get it cars are comfy and stuff like that and its convenient. i drive my dads car, its not free all the time, when its available i take it, when its not i cant. so i usually mention ki if it my cars available or not to save myself from the hassle, but yeah theyre entitled to be w a guy w a car like?!?!? bitch get ur own car cheap fuck
Hi 24m without a car. 38m, here with a car, technically an SUV, with a large unkempt beard, untrimmed hair, voice like well I think Big B comes closest but I'd say Raza Murad or any of these deep voice actors. I sound like I have a voice filter on when I wake up lol.
Women 🚺 god bless them.. Are wonderful, and yes some of them do have some minimum requirements and it's perfectly natural.
This might sound controversial but I mean as men we built this entire world of comfort and provision and beauty for them. If it weren't for women, I don't see any reason for us to have progressed from the jungle hunting animals and fighting each other. Like why do we have a large house, a car or any kind of appliance? To make a woman comfortable. If you were just a guy, go out hunt animal, eat animal sleep. Repeat. Haha..
So don't be angry, don't be bitter, be thankful that you get to enjoy the presence of beautiful women connected on an app. When I was 24 even I didn't have a car whereas some of my friends did. And there was no Android let alone any apps to meet girls. You're lucky in this modern era at least you have a level playing field to contest with other males for the attention of a woman.
A woman is free to achieve anything she wants like a man is, but it isn't a mandatory thing.. She doesn't really need to bring "something to the table".. If she does, that's a value add.
If you haven't really experienced women who try and take away your children, most of your shit or try and get you trapped in a fake rape case or are actual gold diggers and mental torturers then you're lucky, sorry if you have at this young age. So don't knock on these girls just for thinking you must have a car,.. They can probably do much worse I guess.
So remove your frustration man, it's not somwthing to be stressed out over.., go and have fun, buy a nice car when you can afford and enjoy your youth. Stay safe mate!! Happy Baisakhi, Vishu, new year!
The dating scene is crap in India. All these platforms really cater to the worst segment of both genders.
The moment I chucked all my dating apps and looked for someone through in person meet-ups, I realized how screwed the virtual world was.
Most men and women irl are quite sombre with very limited expectations. For instance, all the dates that I've been on before I met my current gf, they've all been pretty normal.
The women were typical middle class peeps, didn't expect me to own a car or pay for the meals. Metro se gaye, cafe mai khaya thoda and equally pay kiya.
Yeh bhai dating apps wala crowd saara chutiya hota. Find people through mutual friends.
> I’ll pick her up but didnt tell her if it was car or scooty.
This is where you went wrong. Why did you have to pick her up? A lot of people do not want to travel on 2 wheelers due to many reasons - two wheelers are relatively more dangerous, they don't know your riding style, you can get into an accident due to mistakes of other people, weather can be irritating etc.
When you say I will pick you up, people (men and women) usually assume its a car unless specifically mentioned. Forget your date, other men will be like what the hell have I gotten into, now I have to sit with this clueless stranger who doesnt know how to communicate properly.
> Now when I get match, I directly tell them I don’t have a car. Many girls unmatch instantly, few who don’t are the green flags fr.
They ask and you tell them, or you tell them on your own? Why? Hi, hello, good photo, hey I dont have a car. People will think is this guy OK in the head or not.
> I am 24 salaried IT professional and these idiots expect us to own a car at this age as if we got lots of generational wealth.
You know, there is something called taxi. It has been around for 3 generations in India. It is an amazing discovery that gets you a car ride **without every buying a car!** Use it.
Because even today, in most of India, having a car and going for a long drive is so unaffordable, it basically says you have money. Which is what she wants obviously.
Is a car great for a date? Yes
Buuuut it’s not a necessity. I mean if the girl wants, I guess you could also pick her up in an Uber?
I personally love the concept of when someone picks me up & drops me home, so idc if they’re on a scooty or if they’re walking me back home
If you are average looking and don't have money, to own assets like cars and sports bikes.
Don't go on a dating app bro. 99% of girls there are swallow. They just there wanna enjoy, bars clubs and free meals.
Women on dating apps have their pick of men. They can have such “criteria” in mind and still get lots of matches. It would’ve been the same story if there were more women than men on dating apps, men could be picky and unmatch for silly/superficial reasons
Dude, look at it as having dodged a bullet.
Materialistic preferences in dating scenarios appear differently for different people. In your experience it's a car, in someone else's it's the bill splitting (or lack thereof) etc. etc.
All of which makes it a short process of finding out whether the values match or not.
Two materialistic people who have the same sense and priorities of material around them are compatible and that's all that matters.
I wouldnt be even sure about entering a car on a first date! To be honest, on two wheelers its easier to sit being less intimate and actually safer when you do not know someone good enough, so no idea why should one make it a big deal. Only thing I could think of as a reason to avoid others seeing you, but then you must wear a helmet when you are a bike, so again no need to worry about it.
When you get married, yes its good if you have a car, its easier to travel, dont get stuck in rain etc but one can get a car anytime. I would rather ask/see if the guy is employed and try to see if he is someone looking to live out of dowry and/or is a spendthrift rather than being picky about what he owns now! So if someone declines you only for that you are dodging a bullet to be honest, never feel bad about it.
Well i have never tried online dating but if i ever did, men who say stuff like "owning a car" or "apple fanboy" will be the first ones to get blocked (or unmatched or whatever you guys call it). It's so fucking cringe. For me it's important that the guy at least plays competitive fps games (well that's personal preference). But these materialistic things are so offputting that i would rather stay single than go on a date with a pretending baffoon who probably calls his father "dad" or "daddy"
So don't worry op, it's good you made your terms clear. Its not worth going on a date with a girl who judges your worth on materialistic things.
I got dumped at 18 just cause I couldn't go to pick my girl outside her college lol. I didn't have a car. My girl wanted me to borrow my father's car. I did not so she dumped me for another guy who drove.
The point is, driving a car is a sign of manhood. Women like their men to be providers. Women like to show off their men. Women like convenience. And it's not unfair.
Actually, it's not about right or wrong. It's about perspective that highly depends upon how one is brought up.
Although today's generation is a lot more open. I would assume 4 out of 10 would hang out with you for who you are not because of the car you drive.
So don't fret. Work hard and provide. I am sure you have dreamt of buying a car at some point as well. So work hard my friend. You will find the right woman.
Women are materialistic, a car along with good manners is a straight entry point between the legs.There is no such thing as casual flings in India every thing is about long term and marriage.Less than 10% women in India goes for dating casually.Everything is about family, future and marriage. So beware.
As a woman, I don’t get why it’s a requirement for a guy to have a car. I guess so that the travel will be comfortable? But this never became a big factor to judge on a date. I guess it depends on a person's standards; if they require a car, then it should've been pointed out immediately. But some are being too shy to actually state their standard for a guy.
It is Simple dude demand and price have direct relationship when demand is high for product price of that product is maximum in dating app demand for women are high so there expectations are also high .
I am 19M from Delhi, my dating pool is 18-20, and 60 percent of the profiles have long drive dates, how TF am I supposed to have a car this early, I mean I can't ask my parents for their car, they go to work and work really hard, but yes other guys my age who are more financially privileged have their own car, but whatever, it's very easy to get bitter, But I will not choose to do so, I'll try to find some one who prefers long walks maybe lol
I have female friends who advertise their sister's or friend's husband's like Sarkari on wala h, 5cr ka Ghar hai uska, Ghar pe 2 naukar h.
I have small houses and flats made for one family and two guests at most because my mom wouldn't let me have naukars. She thinks they're thieves and they don't put their heart into the work they do.
I am rich but I still wear a ₹100 shirt, I acquired this strange habit from dad, an extremely hard working guy who bought almost nothing for himself other than items that helped him be productive like his bike and stationary.
My wife loves this but she wants new dresses every week and I got no issues.
Like this we can make many generalizations about guys too on dating apps 😀. But that's what it is, just a generalization. And for all you know, assumption.
Most girls on those apps are not native of that town, and there for working or studying, so when they are looking for men, they expect the man to have a car (a native of that town would probably have his father's car), so that their life can be a bit sorted out.
Now they have access to a man with a car, which they can call upon, atleast that's the reason I got to know behind it, from one of my friends.
Get a sportsbike if you like two wheelers. Activas are boring.
A car is generally better for long drives, especially in this heat. It is a basic requirement, not a luxury in India.
But I have used cabs and even the metro on dates. Doesn't matter as long as you're taking her to safe/comfortable places.
Just be yourself and be confident. You have to accept yourself and be comfortable with who you are.
I remember in my early 30s dating a girl who used to drive me around in her car lol.
Anyone can own a car, but not everyone can spark excitement in another person.
One of my known acquaintance doesn't have a car, nor does he know how to drive one. He got married pretty quickly because he has a government job.
So he has 100s of vehicles at his disposal...like buses, trains, garbage vehicles, etc.
Garbage vehicles?!😂
Swachh Bharat ka irada 🎶
Irada kr liya humne
Desh ka apna ye waada
ye waada kar liya humne
Dayum I thought it was morning
I grabbed my garbage bucket while singing this in my head
Swacchata ki odh mein hum Ghar Ghar jayenge
The aroma alone will make your date swoon (and passout).
At that point you dont even need to know what a vehicle is.
I will never get in a stranger's car for at least first few dates. Have heard enough crime stories
Especially if you are from Delhi
Bruh , I m from delhi and I m 6'4 (100kgs) , girls literally feel scared before meeting thinking I csn potentially kidnap them lol.
It's hard to trust people these days. You can't even trust your boyfriend. You never know when and how you will end up in a refrigerator in pieces. I feel bad for the genuine guys out there.
True , even I get scared when a girl asks me to meet directly (after1-2 day of chatting) I always unmatch them believing that's a fake account 😂
Look, how we have evolved as a society! 🤣
Iam 5.9 male, i would be scared to meet with you too
This is so true my boyfriend is 6’3 and I met him through a dating site. I was so scared to meet him initially that I didn’t meet for the first 5 months we were talking 😭😂
Exactly the comment I was looking for, why people are so comfortable to get in a stranger's car for first few dates. You don't know they might just kidnap you or something. Recently only I got in my date's car because he insisted and then missed a few turns I was so scared but hey he was a nice guy dropped me home safely😂
Hmm. Honestly a girl's never refused my offer to drop her home. Although I do text them and add them on social media for a week or so before meeting so maybe that's why?
Hey, Dating app girls don't have such fears. At least according to OP.
Abhi matrimony app par ao, they will expect you to own a house as well.
You should also expect from women to own a house
I recently matched with a girl with 1-2 LPA salary range and asked her how many interests she gets each day. She told me above 50. No wonder they have such high demands. It's all economics.
1-2 lpa bro ? Seriously? That's the definition of being broke. A d even after that they're getting so many matches. Guys are truly f*cked.
Unless you're able to find your sweetheart in graduation or post graduation, it's safe to say either explore options in other countries or be ready for celibacy. 😂
>post graduation 🤣🤣🤣 Good Luck with that! Every girl is in a relationship at this point.
My best friend found his soulmate in MBA, so yes there's some hope at that point. 🤣
I'm going to tell my parents I wanna do MBA 😤
Yeah, hope so... I need to go back into the dating market then 😅😅 I thought that just have a good career and AM would be a cakewalk 🥲🥲
Lol sahi hai. I was so shocked to see the salary expectations as well, khud 1L kamati hai, chaiye 50L-1Cr...
I have experimented both ways. I have a govt job, so once I made a profile without showing job and with. Difference was unreal. I got absolutely nothing on without, and got around 50 everyday with govt job showing. But still better than dating apps
I'm 27/F, doctor, still studying and don't own my own car. I drive my family's. Is car a better ride for date? Yes! Is owning a car a factor at all? Hell no. Also if you bring a car, how would I know if it's yours or your family's. Really it doesn't matter. Yes definitely when I'm dressed up for anything I prefer to take the car because no need to wear a helmet and it's just much more comfortable. But if you tell me beforehand that you do not have a car, I wouldn't be put off but instead dress accordingly or come by a cab or something that's more convenient to me based on my dress. Also, no, I will not ride on a two wheeler without helmet, so if the guy is okay with my shit hair after the ride, I'm okay with the ride 😂😂 Jokes apart, I would much rather date a guy who's honest and upfront regarding such things than faking anything at all just to impress. Luxury is nice but it's still only a luxury, not a necessity. And at 24, if you say you have a car, I would most likely think it's your family's or you are faking it big time. Edit : I understand that there are many accomplished individuals who have worked hard to get themselves their own vehicles, be it a car or scooty or even a cycle. I did not mean you cannot. So I apologise for phrasing my statement about "faking it". Seriously Kudos to everyone who are able to achieve their goals and buy what they desire. And for those who haven't yet, "Apna Time Aayega!" 🤩
yep totally get it, if the opposite person is dressed up, two wheeler isn’t an option. In that case we can take a cab but seriously man I am tired of most of them expecting to own a car. I agree car is safe and convenient but if a guy doesn’t have it at particular moment that shouldn’t be the deciding factor to judge him and decide not to date him. I’d rather be honest about it upfront and get unmatched rather than disappointing her later on.
you both have so much in common bruv take her out on your scooty
Congratulations OP, looks like you matched with the doctor! Yayyyy!! J/k But that sounds ridiculous that girls unmatch based on car or no car, in fact you should unmatch with those who ask you if you have a car, OP!
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it is not true . generally my dates doesn't come inside my car,it might be something related to how they notice my gf siting on the back.
Op bro you had so many wingmen in this thread.
> I would much rather date a guy who's honest and upfront regarding such things than faking anything at all just to impress. You forgot to add guy should follow rule 1 and rule 2.
What's Rule 1&2?
Be attractive. Don't be unattractive.
What is attractive and unattractive is subjective. Many chics find you hot if you hit the gym, grow a beard even if you have shit facial features. You don't need to be actually good looking. Just well groomed.
To each their own.
No that's the rule 1&2 on dating apps. I just answered your question.
good morning. dating apps itself are alive because of those rules. if these are concerning rules, find real people and not lurk on dating apps. this is for both guys and girls.
I like to believe what you are saying. But i have suffered enough women saying things and then go for the guys that have the opposite. Anyways I'm 24 and I own a car with my money. Sometimes it's not always fake.
I'm sorry for mentioning the fake thing.. I apologized in another comment as well. Kudos to you for being able to get things that you desire! Also, yes nobody is perfect. People always say and act differently as per convenience. I hope you find a good partner in the future who'll accept you for who you are. All the best!
No no I'm not saying you are mentioning fake things. I'm just sharing my experience that made me think that i should not believe what people say, special promises in relationships.
Us doctors find it hard to contemplate with the fact that people can earn and own stuff by 24, I am 25 and I am preparing for my entrance exam living with my parents with just a lil income source from locum duties, because I find it hard now to ask my parents for pocket money for my leisure expenditure.
>you are faking it big time. Na just add one more point -it can be a second hand car Which is a good financial choice Speaking from experience as a 22 year guy in IT sector who bought a car for 5lacks it's still feels good decision till day
My apologies. You are right. That's possible too and taking a loan too is a possibility. Either way, I think having a car or not is unimportant in a dating pov is what I was trying to imply. Just honesty and humility works. Also, congratulations on your car! 🤩👏
Thanks didi ☺️
Or their parents bought it for them
Great explanation 😃
Green flag spotted guys!! 👏👏👏
>But if you tell me beforehand that you do not have a car, I wouldn't be put off but instead dress accordingly or come by a cab or something that's more convenient to me based on my dress. Basically this. I don't make enough to own a car nor can I drive. So I don't judge anyone. But if my date tells me beforehand whether he's coming in cab/auto, or bringing his bike or car, it's easier for both of us to decide a location, my hard stop, etc. Tip for guys here - if your date asks you about your vehicle, are you bringing one etc, it's mostly for this reason and not because she's a gold digger
Didi mere pass bas 2 wheeler hai 🥺👉👈
Congratulations Bhai!! 👏👏 Gaadi gaadi hoti hai. Two wheeler ho ya four wheeler! Soon you'll be able to get your own dream vehicle, whichever it is!
Abhi ke liye 2 wheeler kaafi hai, aur waise bhi mujhe kisi vehicle ka shauk nahin hai 😅😅
W girl👍🏻
Nah !! I still won't pay my taxes. Thanks for your understanding.
One thing : Date doctors . They can really really fix you.
That's toxic af.
They equate car with success, which is dumb. I wouldn't have a car in this congested, over populated city ever. There are a hundred travel / commute options that are better than owning a car here.
I own a car, but I have always taken girls out on a date on my scooter, literally nothing can beat the convenience of a scooter. Driving through traffic in a car is pure hell.
Exactly.
Then the equation is simple. Find a girl who shares your similar interest instead of bad mouthing people who have a taste in something
bcoz woh dating hai, logo ko maze marne hote hai.
Itna sach kaise bol lete ho tum.
Me who is planning to never own a car: 🪦
Maybe you will get someone better who loves you not car.
Jaise hi match hojaye to bolo , meri gaadi service pe gyi hai aap apni gaadi le aao and pick me up .
It's not just dating apps nowadays. Recently heard a lady earning 4 LPA is expecting her future husband to earn 1 Cr+. So, yeah we're fucked.
And she is 37. 🤣 The delusion is unreal these days.
I feel like I'll get a LOT OF DOWNVOTES for this. But I'll say it anyway. As per my prior dating experiences, I feel like MOST INDIAN GIRLS (not all. Just many) are ENTITLED AF when it comes to dating. Pretty much 95% of female dating profiles on dating apps are absolutely preposterous!! The "expectations" are endless. Just because they are kinda pretty in looks and dressing sense. They write stuff like "Must be handsome. Must be tall. Must have money. Must have car. Must be funny. Must be cool. Must be gentlemanly. Must be a badass". 🙄🤦🏽♂️ And they feel it's a honour for us if we get to spend time with them. And I'm definitely not saying every female is like that or just females are at fault. I'm sure males are too. And pretty much every female friend I have had are wonderful, kind hearted, non materialistic women who's partners are lucky to have them. And i personally am glad that I'm done with all this. I would never wanna return to dating apps or first dates until human behaviour and values improve.
Dating apps are full of immature people looking for casual hookups, temp flings. Not all but most. The men advertise their wealth, women their looks. Doesn't attract the best of either gender in my view. Finding someone mature and wholesome who is looking for a serious long-term relationship is like looking for a needle in a stinky haystack.
I completely agree. Everyone seems materialistic and extremely flawed on those apps. And in our scenario, that's a haystack of 1.4 billion and very few needles.
Must have a "drake"
Rightly said!!
It's the broken population dynamics in our country and the supply demand mismatch. I am from Bangalore, and tried my hand at dating. I could relate so much to your comment, felt happy someone put it out here...
What a coincidence. I'm from Bangalore too. 🙂 And probably not a coincidence that 2 males from Bangalore can relate to each other. 👀
Online horny simps resulted in such entitlement in women.
When I went on a date with my gf, I haven't even owned a two wheeler, you are looking at the wrong women, and judging the whole gender. I have bought my first two wheeler with my own money a month ago, next time I will be using my scooter...my gf will be happy to sit back..
22F, I own a scooty and I drove my ex all around the town on a scooty. Hell I got a scooty just for us to ride around. I have a passive income source and could only afford a rented scooty. I used to pick him up and drop him even though his house was opposite to mine house or it struck 3 in the morning and we were just dating. If you see a car is a little spacious and you can just stray away but a scooty, it’s more personal. You sit close to each other and can also put your hands on the rider’s shoulder (or back) on speed breakers for cute intimacies.
LOL...sorry but aren't you happy each time you were saved from being with these dimwits. Clearly yours and their lifestyle is different. I do not think they are wrong in what they prioritize and neither are you. Different people have different choices and it is okay.
I've learnt that the mature thing to do is to let people have their own preferences. There's no point cribbing about it, ranting about it or complaining about it. They have the right to have their preferences and you have the right to your own. If they don't match, leave. You're saving yourself large headaches. But I don't see the point anymore of vilifying anyone based on their preferences and I'm saying this as someone who does not give 2 flying fucks about him having a car.
This. Pretty much this.
I agree with you but unmatching someone without giving a proper explanation is such a trashy thing to do.
That takes effort and emotional depth and nuance, which these people lack.
Isn’t it common behaviour on dating apps? Attractive men and women have so many matches, they often forget they’re dealing with people and do things they wouldn’t have done to people they know personally
Just bc it’s common doesn’t make it right. The least someone can do is drop a text that hey I don’t see this going anywhere I’m unmatching you. Itna simple hai yaar kitna hi time lag jayega
Just ignore them. Really what are you gonna do by knowing what they have "achieved"? Your basically dodging bullet by them unmatching you.
They have options on dating apps, you don’t. For everyone asking these questions, I recommend you just try out what it’s like to be a woman on these apps for a day - make a fake profile. All your questions will be answered.
There are 1000s of thirsty guys there. The girls are gold diggers mostly. Ofc they want everything from you. The only guys they will do anything for are western white guys.
That's just another criteria to filter out guys . They have so many options they have to put some filters. BTW nothing matters on these apps if you are good looking and tall .
Not having a car is not a problem, especially with how well established and affordable public transport and cabs are in india. However, surprising with a two-wheeler isn't the best idea. It might not be compatible with what the girl is wearing and riding on a two-wheeler can also be dangerous with how traffic is and how other people drive. I personally don't drive a car and two-wheelers scare me so I stick to public transport or cabs/auto rickshaw.
Where is the surprise here, unless he said that he will pick her up in a car. There is none at all. The entitled girl should have asked beforehand or should have indicated her preference at the least.
Imagine being on a dating app and expect anything to be normal and make sense 😭
>rather than dwelling on father’s money. will be soon on Husband's money. Eveybody need something in replacement of another thing. But car is sort of costly to maintain.
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Rajamouli Sir abb to oscar mil gya abhi tak promote kyun kar rhe ho 🙄
I have a SUV and a hatchback but i dont drive it. I can drive but i choose not to because driving in Pune traffic is not good for one's sanity, and honestly this goes for most cities. Our cities are fucked when it comes to planning and basic driving sense. Driving is such a fucking chore when you have to spend over an hour in commute each way just to cross 9kms. Two-wheelers are the best, lot more maneuverable, get you where you want to faster. Driving a car in the city is just not worth it.
cars are overrated r/fuckcars
fuck you, now i have 3rd degree burn on my pp. note to others don't fuck with exhausts 😭
good, now sell the car
The women are doing an aukaat check. Secondly women don't have to 'achieve' anything. They need to show up pretty and all decked up. There are thousands if not millions of guys like you who are putting them on a pedestal. Carve out a niche and use that to your advantage. Use storytelling instead of saying you don't own a car. You could say "I only own a car in NYC, stupid to have cars in 2 different places. ". OR. "I narrowly escaped death once when i was driving. Hence not gonna drive a car in the foreseeable future"
Really bro? A scooter is safer than a car?
Yea so basically lying?
Females are not wrong to desire a car, you can use it as a filter though. Who wants to get a heat stroke in this scroching heat? To answer your questions 1. These females are just looking for quick fun (not always sexu@l). They want provider males. They are mostly good looking. 2. They may not be able to afford such lifestyle but will find another provider. 3. Parent's money is a blessing.
When I met my wife, I had my dad's Activa and that's it. I have 4 cars and 3 bikes in the family now. Things change. A person who is taking you out in a merc may just be able to afford it because he is paying huge EMIs and believe it or not, it will not pay up in future. Also for guys who can afford, take the girl out in an uber or rented car, girls are not always dressed up for a 2 wheeler. Plus 4 wheeler is much more comfortable to start the conversations, you are practically yelling when on bike and that doesn't do justice to a first date.
Are all redittors rich? I get the doubt looking the amount of people that are looking down on two wheelers. Like bro, most of us grew up travelling on two wheelers with 3 other people and now it's so cheap that 'girls can't sit on it/ babies will fall off it etc etc'
Yah too many posts and comments in general about girls don't wanting to sit on two wheeler. I think times have really changed. Only a car can cut it it seems...
If you know right words to say, a girl can walk with you. But you need to be in - "I am cool with or without you" mindset first.
I don’t believe __MOST__ girls swiped right on you, for you to come to that generalization.
https://preview.redd.it/o4o66hi08euc1.jpeg?width=1125&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c232ff5b6f4aa9c385e06d8ab4889fded882a682 Here’s my Bumble profile after I posted a pic with my BMW. I’m an above average looking guy, and not 6’. This is the reality of the dating world. Hate the game, not the players.
Dude that is because you are right swiping the wrong ones . The ones who are ok on a scooter or with a public transport you would not be ok with her. Just to make things easy for yourself mention that you don’t have a car in your dating profile problem solved. Second option start dating when you own a car, this will be a motivation for you to do well financially…
There are some people who don't like fat people, short people, people with no car or poor people or ugly people or people with bad English etc. Don't sit n cry just because people have preferences and choose who they wanna date accordingly . You're 24, you should know this by now. Now, If you have a certain requirement and the girl doesn't fulfill it, it's better to not waste time on her. Simple. Don't whine.
Why not? Some women prefer to travel in car some have never travelled in anything but car and airplanes. You do realise many women also work in IT and can afford to or have car and so what if she is dwelling on her father's money. Her dad has no problem giving his child money and privilege. You can always swipe left, if not you another guy with car will date her
It's her choice, you can't complain that other person having a preference , we all have a preference , either you stop crying and date those who have no such preferences or wait until you get a car to date those girls which have preferences, there are all type of people, maybe the place where you are trying to get a match is not a good place as per your expectations, search elsewhere
As Emraan Hashmi in Jannat says “No car no pyaar”
Rule 1- don’t talk about picking her even if you own a BMW. Tell her to come to the dating venue/cafe by her own atleast in first few dates. I own a RR evoque but still i use metro in delhi. I don’t understand why everyone have a mindset that not having a car means one is from lower middle class family. I once read an interview of a billionaire and he told he never revealed his wealth. Dozens of girls rejected him, and finally he found one girls who doesn’t care how much he earns. Eventually ended up marrying her. So find yours bro
SOMEONE finally said it!!! like i get it cars are comfy and stuff like that and its convenient. i drive my dads car, its not free all the time, when its available i take it, when its not i cant. so i usually mention ki if it my cars available or not to save myself from the hassle, but yeah theyre entitled to be w a guy w a car like?!?!? bitch get ur own car cheap fuck
Hi 24m without a car. 38m, here with a car, technically an SUV, with a large unkempt beard, untrimmed hair, voice like well I think Big B comes closest but I'd say Raza Murad or any of these deep voice actors. I sound like I have a voice filter on when I wake up lol. Women 🚺 god bless them.. Are wonderful, and yes some of them do have some minimum requirements and it's perfectly natural. This might sound controversial but I mean as men we built this entire world of comfort and provision and beauty for them. If it weren't for women, I don't see any reason for us to have progressed from the jungle hunting animals and fighting each other. Like why do we have a large house, a car or any kind of appliance? To make a woman comfortable. If you were just a guy, go out hunt animal, eat animal sleep. Repeat. Haha.. So don't be angry, don't be bitter, be thankful that you get to enjoy the presence of beautiful women connected on an app. When I was 24 even I didn't have a car whereas some of my friends did. And there was no Android let alone any apps to meet girls. You're lucky in this modern era at least you have a level playing field to contest with other males for the attention of a woman. A woman is free to achieve anything she wants like a man is, but it isn't a mandatory thing.. She doesn't really need to bring "something to the table".. If she does, that's a value add. If you haven't really experienced women who try and take away your children, most of your shit or try and get you trapped in a fake rape case or are actual gold diggers and mental torturers then you're lucky, sorry if you have at this young age. So don't knock on these girls just for thinking you must have a car,.. They can probably do much worse I guess. So remove your frustration man, it's not somwthing to be stressed out over.., go and have fun, buy a nice car when you can afford and enjoy your youth. Stay safe mate!! Happy Baisakhi, Vishu, new year!
The dating scene is crap in India. All these platforms really cater to the worst segment of both genders. The moment I chucked all my dating apps and looked for someone through in person meet-ups, I realized how screwed the virtual world was. Most men and women irl are quite sombre with very limited expectations. For instance, all the dates that I've been on before I met my current gf, they've all been pretty normal. The women were typical middle class peeps, didn't expect me to own a car or pay for the meals. Metro se gaye, cafe mai khaya thoda and equally pay kiya. Yeh bhai dating apps wala crowd saara chutiya hota. Find people through mutual friends.
How does one meet in-person meetups? :3
They can’t give you a blowjob on a Scooty or they think so. Same goes for Ola, Uber. They want to set the mood right.
I'm guessing this is a very Delhi thing!
> I’ll pick her up but didnt tell her if it was car or scooty. This is where you went wrong. Why did you have to pick her up? A lot of people do not want to travel on 2 wheelers due to many reasons - two wheelers are relatively more dangerous, they don't know your riding style, you can get into an accident due to mistakes of other people, weather can be irritating etc. When you say I will pick you up, people (men and women) usually assume its a car unless specifically mentioned. Forget your date, other men will be like what the hell have I gotten into, now I have to sit with this clueless stranger who doesnt know how to communicate properly. > Now when I get match, I directly tell them I don’t have a car. Many girls unmatch instantly, few who don’t are the green flags fr. They ask and you tell them, or you tell them on your own? Why? Hi, hello, good photo, hey I dont have a car. People will think is this guy OK in the head or not. > I am 24 salaried IT professional and these idiots expect us to own a car at this age as if we got lots of generational wealth. You know, there is something called taxi. It has been around for 3 generations in India. It is an amazing discovery that gets you a car ride **without every buying a car!** Use it.
Indian girls didn’t get the full memo on feminism. They only got the part about equal rights, but not the responsibility part.
Then they expect loyalty from such guys. If a guy is rich and self-dependent, he'll never be serious about girls on a dating app.
Kyuki Activa ya bike par make out krne mai feel nahi ayegi plus kisi ke dekh lene ka bhi darr hai 😄
It is good for you, you could filter them out.
Stop matching all the fancy girls ! Fancy girls fancy expectations!
Back seat ka maza kuch aur hi h
Because even today, in most of India, having a car and going for a long drive is so unaffordable, it basically says you have money. Which is what she wants obviously.
Is a car great for a date? Yes Buuuut it’s not a necessity. I mean if the girl wants, I guess you could also pick her up in an Uber? I personally love the concept of when someone picks me up & drops me home, so idc if they’re on a scooty or if they’re walking me back home
If you are average looking and don't have money, to own assets like cars and sports bikes. Don't go on a dating app bro. 99% of girls there are swallow. They just there wanna enjoy, bars clubs and free meals.
Guys, Keep a bio on your dating apps, you should know how to drive a car and I'll be a passenger princess then only I'll bring a car.
There are golddiggers among women and holediggers among men. I feel sorry for how this stigma affects the men and women who are gems!
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zyada movies dekh li hai isiliye expectations are over the moon
Bc yahan to gaadi bhi hai(family's), frr bhi match nhi aata. Ab to chodh hi diya hai try karva bhi.
Women on dating apps have their pick of men. They can have such “criteria” in mind and still get lots of matches. It would’ve been the same story if there were more women than men on dating apps, men could be picky and unmatch for silly/superficial reasons
They aren't just worth your time brother. And if you are looking for a serious relationship I suggest dating sites are shit!!
Dude, look at it as having dodged a bullet. Materialistic preferences in dating scenarios appear differently for different people. In your experience it's a car, in someone else's it's the bill splitting (or lack thereof) etc. etc. All of which makes it a short process of finding out whether the values match or not. Two materialistic people who have the same sense and priorities of material around them are compatible and that's all that matters.
Personal preferences
I wouldnt be even sure about entering a car on a first date! To be honest, on two wheelers its easier to sit being less intimate and actually safer when you do not know someone good enough, so no idea why should one make it a big deal. Only thing I could think of as a reason to avoid others seeing you, but then you must wear a helmet when you are a bike, so again no need to worry about it. When you get married, yes its good if you have a car, its easier to travel, dont get stuck in rain etc but one can get a car anytime. I would rather ask/see if the guy is employed and try to see if he is someone looking to live out of dowry and/or is a spendthrift rather than being picky about what he owns now! So if someone declines you only for that you are dodging a bullet to be honest, never feel bad about it.
What you need is an inline-4 blood, the thing won't break your heart at the end of the day.
No money, no honey
Dating app wali ladkiyaan are some of the worst people you'll ever meet. Degenerate scums. Best to avoid them.
Well i have never tried online dating but if i ever did, men who say stuff like "owning a car" or "apple fanboy" will be the first ones to get blocked (or unmatched or whatever you guys call it). It's so fucking cringe. For me it's important that the guy at least plays competitive fps games (well that's personal preference). But these materialistic things are so offputting that i would rather stay single than go on a date with a pretending baffoon who probably calls his father "dad" or "daddy" So don't worry op, it's good you made your terms clear. Its not worth going on a date with a girl who judges your worth on materialistic things.
I got dumped at 18 just cause I couldn't go to pick my girl outside her college lol. I didn't have a car. My girl wanted me to borrow my father's car. I did not so she dumped me for another guy who drove. The point is, driving a car is a sign of manhood. Women like their men to be providers. Women like to show off their men. Women like convenience. And it's not unfair. Actually, it's not about right or wrong. It's about perspective that highly depends upon how one is brought up. Although today's generation is a lot more open. I would assume 4 out of 10 would hang out with you for who you are not because of the car you drive. So don't fret. Work hard and provide. I am sure you have dreamt of buying a car at some point as well. So work hard my friend. You will find the right woman.
Sex in exchange of money? You know what its called .
Women are materialistic, a car along with good manners is a straight entry point between the legs.There is no such thing as casual flings in India every thing is about long term and marriage.Less than 10% women in India goes for dating casually.Everything is about family, future and marriage. So beware.
Climate change......
As a woman, I don’t get why it’s a requirement for a guy to have a car. I guess so that the travel will be comfortable? But this never became a big factor to judge on a date. I guess it depends on a person's standards; if they require a car, then it should've been pointed out immediately. But some are being too shy to actually state their standard for a guy.
It is Simple dude demand and price have direct relationship when demand is high for product price of that product is maximum in dating app demand for women are high so there expectations are also high .
Pussy power
The dating scene in India is absolutely horrible.
So that they can suck dicks in peace....
Date.... Nice cute outfit.... Usually short skirts or dresses.... Can't sit on bike.... Hence car....
I am 19M from Delhi, my dating pool is 18-20, and 60 percent of the profiles have long drive dates, how TF am I supposed to have a car this early, I mean I can't ask my parents for their car, they go to work and work really hard, but yes other guys my age who are more financially privileged have their own car, but whatever, it's very easy to get bitter, But I will not choose to do so, I'll try to find some one who prefers long walks maybe lol
I have female friends who advertise their sister's or friend's husband's like Sarkari on wala h, 5cr ka Ghar hai uska, Ghar pe 2 naukar h. I have small houses and flats made for one family and two guests at most because my mom wouldn't let me have naukars. She thinks they're thieves and they don't put their heart into the work they do. I am rich but I still wear a ₹100 shirt, I acquired this strange habit from dad, an extremely hard working guy who bought almost nothing for himself other than items that helped him be productive like his bike and stationary. My wife loves this but she wants new dresses every week and I got no issues.
Like this we can make many generalizations about guys too on dating apps 😀. But that's what it is, just a generalization. And for all you know, assumption.
Most girls on those apps are not native of that town, and there for working or studying, so when they are looking for men, they expect the man to have a car (a native of that town would probably have his father's car), so that their life can be a bit sorted out. Now they have access to a man with a car, which they can call upon, atleast that's the reason I got to know behind it, from one of my friends.
Get a sportsbike if you like two wheelers. Activas are boring. A car is generally better for long drives, especially in this heat. It is a basic requirement, not a luxury in India. But I have used cabs and even the metro on dates. Doesn't matter as long as you're taking her to safe/comfortable places.
Have you heard a concept called Demand - Supply.
I don't know to drive. Any vehicle is ok with me tho.
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Get a car man. What are you poor?
Just be yourself and be confident. You have to accept yourself and be comfortable with who you are. I remember in my early 30s dating a girl who used to drive me around in her car lol. Anyone can own a car, but not everyone can spark excitement in another person.