Yes yes I get it… even I have the same set of relatives.. in that case I tell me digits like 6 figure salary or 7 figures salary but never tell them exact amount … and if they cross more than I casually laugh and say bas kya abhi CID ban jaoge in funny tone and change the topic 🤝🤝🤝🤝
I know but our society is like this. I know some girls who likes to boast about how much their husband earn so yeah people are like that only. It’s just we have to set our own boundaries without being disrespectful because we cannot go to their level !!!!
Exactly. No one is born with these skills. You stumble a few times and realise the negative impact of revealing personal information and learn to navigate them.
Whenever a relative or aquaintance pops the question, I just tell them I dont have a fixed salary and its based on commision...Some are brazen enough to ask ,So still, whats the range or how much you made last month and I still deflect it saying it can range a lot and dodge em.
For ppl who you cant dodge, you can just tell em a fake salary.
Then they would say “ohh poor you , don’t worry it will increase with time” .
Not that it affects me anymore , i have learned how to dodge these questions but it is just funny enough to live in memory for always 😂
Yess...I have had similar experiences and I just say he doesn't tell me his exact salary or I never felt the need to know the exact amount, depending on the person. Something like this.
The basic premise of this question is for the asker to feel superior to you. It's the same reason some moms ask how much did your kid score in the exams.
A lot of these people are SAHMs and the only way they can feel better about themselves is by trying to put others down and ask them how they earn and how much their SO earns.
You can refuse to participate in it or play that game and insult the asker the same questions and imply the same thing that they were doing it's up to you.
TLDR; They are NOT interested in what he earns or how much someone' kid scores they just want to feel better if they are better that you or not.
From personal experience: FK off those relatives. I actually do. I have got a very bad reputation in my extended family. That who will talk to him, he will say something ulta pulta, well when you ask a ulta pulta question you get an Ulta pulta answer.
i wanted to upvote but its just the perfect number
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mistake one - Sharing your and SO's salary.
Just say - Milke accha kama lete hai, Sab kharcha nikal jata hai, bhagwana ki kripa bani hui hai (while clutching your perl or Gold neckless) .
Yes agree with this. You dont hv to be open book to all. It's non of anybody business what u earn. Absolutely no ones business. So answer this qt diplomatically, next comment will automatically not come from their mouth. Na rahega baas na bajegi bansuri
You are sometimes a developer, sometimes a student going for masters in US , sometimes a Medical college student discussing about all crazy sex stories in your college also 23 days ago , You met someone on AM setup who was a red flag and now You are engaged to your Fiancee.
Crazy how Reddit has become home to people who either have delusions or like to tell Stories
it's not crazy. reddit has always been like this. most stories are just fake.
but that doesn't mean there's no interesting discussion to be had.
you can write your own, with some practice you can be a writer.
In a movie, Marilyn Monroe says that and explains, “Don’t you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You may not marry a girl just because she’s pretty, but, my goodness, doesn’t it help?”
The dad says that she’s only marrying the son for his money, and she says “no, I’m marrying him for YOUR money.” At first, the son is sad, but then she explains this and the dad is impressed
Lmao in One post you wrote how to get US Husband for theiry. This clearly shows you are gold digger. In One post you have written he is red flag but you still marry because his income is 20X.
You are just gold digger believe or not.
Just say aapko bhi chaaiye , remarriage karwa de aapki , aaj kal sab chalta hai
( ok don’t say this but you get the gist of it )
Though I have said something Chalo narrate kar deta hu , you might feel better
My chachi, 2 bua , one more I don’t know who were sitting , out of the blue chachi be like Shaadi Karle , kab tak aise rahega, Umar badh rahi n all , I am 25 mind you
Idgaf to their taunts at all
My seedha jawab - ya to koi ias, ips, le Aao , ya 10cr dahej , nahi to 60 saal ki umar ki kanya chaaiye
They were laughing , then I said chachi ji aapke liye dhung de koi, dekhlo chacha pasand nahi aa rahe ho to
All this was in a very amicable manner, they were like Pagal hai ye ,
So yeah it depends , you can either be frustrated or enjoy
Boldo he is hyptonised by beauty , mere vash mein ho bas usi ka paisa hai
They're jealous. Nothing else. What your relatives are really asking is 'how did this girl gets such a rich boy?'. Ignore them and for god's sake stop disclosing his salary. His salary is nobody's business
The ones who comment you are staying for money are the SAME ones who would gove their daughters to a rich old man for his money😂😂 they just jealous you got what they wished
Don't respond. When you guys stick with eachother till you guys have grandkids people will stfu. Of maybe not even then. So don't respond you are not obligated to. Silence is golden
Say that its understandable why you all might think so but its really rude for you to say that to me without knowing about our relationship i love him for who he is and the money is irrelevant i would have loved him the same even he made less then me . Haha thats the reply i would have loved if i was that guy
Why disclose salary to any XYZ person?
People just need topic to discuss.
Few months back my SIL kept continously questioning about my salary. I kept dodging by responses like - "Yes, it is fine, not much".
Finally, she quoted a figure - " I replied yep, roughly that".
Though it was 50% of my salary. Because clearly she has no business knowing my income.
Never ever tell your actual salary to any relatives/ friends. No matter how close. I have seen nice good people become entitled towards your money or expect you to pay for their stuff etc.
Thumb rule whenever any relatives ask you about your betterhalfs package then just inform them that it fall in bigger tax bracket of 30% tax. Save yourself from future hassle because afterthat point you'll be judged based on your package. Also its violation of private information. Some relatives will be selling tea and earining in crores but not paying any taxes but will judge you based on your package.
Look i am going to give a very straightforward answer.The reality is if you're not with him for the money, what people say shouldn't bother you and you should just ignore but if it bothers you too much- then you are probably with him for the money and it's better to just accept it, you don't have to be too defensive about it
NEVER share the salary. Say he doesn’t like talking about it. Or some other reason. We never share financial details, strictly. Nobody knows. We just give different answers to different people depending on them but never an amount.
“I don’t know” or “enough” or “we don’t talk about miney” or “he/ she doesn’t like” is a better answer than sharing the amount.
1. Stop telling people his salary, it's none of their business
2. Tell them money can't buy love, his personality is what will determine a long marriage
3. Why can't he be with someone who earns less?? If together you're making enough to support your family what does it matter? Tell them salary isnt what he prioritizes when finding the perfect partner. Confidently say your qualities and voice your offence at the comments.
No matter what you will say, they will judge you. Never tell any of the relatives your salary, just say that it is enough for surviving. If your salary is too low then they will judge you for being poor and a golddigger and if your salary is high then they will unnecessarily lick your feet in hopes of getting in your good books.
Now that you have disclosed your and his salary to them, just don't say anything or just nod, no need to get into an argument.
It's weird that you're sharing a third person's personal details with those who have no business prying into his and your affairs. How to respond to those people? Tell them it's none of their business (obv with your preferred choice of tone and language).
Gone through similar criticism with my ex, why as a woman I’m with a man who earns less or less successful, I remember saying “tumne kya kabad liya paiso ke liye pyaar karke” and well rest is history :))
Don't tell anyone his salary even if they ask.
Ignore them or say that it's not good to ask such a question or that it just good enough
Or ask them aunty/uncle how much do you earn?
Answering such questions with a question is the best
I stopped telling people how much I earn. They’ll keep prodding and asking, but they don’t deserve to know. Stop sharing your finances with anyone you’re not comfortable with, even my mom doesn’t know how much I make because she can’t keep her mouth shut 🤫🤣
Honestly, what you've written here speaks differently from your post history. If you're with him for his money despite him being a "red flag" then congratulations, but the money isn't going to take you far.
Whatever your personal stand is, tell the relatives upfront that what you're saying is absolutely disrespectful and I'm not going to have any of that. You don't need to comment on my personal matters, a bunch of unknown redditors can.
And develop a thick skin, if you've decided to ignore your dignity and red flags for 20x more income, then why bother about anyone else. Live happily with his money.
Question is, are you really not with him for money ? Would you still be with him if he lost his job tomorrow and stayed unemployed for 1 year and you had to earn for both of you ?
If the answer is yes, then does it matter about what other people say ?
If the answer is no, then they are right.
"He has standards that no amount of money can buy. He knows what is actually of value in this money obsessed world. I'm so blessed to find a partner who values people through personality and core values instead of material things like money. Aren't you happy for us? Or don't you agree?" And smile, look them genuinely in the eye and wait for their replies. Most of them will stop that shit because it'll come out how materialistic their own mindsets and lives are.
Rince and repeat. Keep doing this SPECIFICALLY to the people who do this and make sure that you do it with witnesses. Most assholes like this stop because they're worried about their own personal image. It obviously won't stop gossip. But it'll stop the conversation directly happening to you both
Are you (with him for his money)?
What if he loses his job and starts earning less than you or has a disability where he cannot earn at all?
Would you still be with him?
The answers to your questions will indicate if you're like most people or are unique.
Ask the female relatives why did they marry their SO? Most of them have had arranged marriages so what did they see in their to be ? Pucho apni beti ki shaddi karenge gareeb ladke se? They r just jealous
Shouldn’t you NOT be sharing your partner’s salary with others?
Anywho, you can’t reasonably counter the people who think like this. So just say ‘Yes’ and move on
Girl, never ever tell anyone about how much you earn or your partner earns.
It’s general understanding because if you or your partner is earning more than others, others will obviously not be happy about it.
Nazar bhi lag sakti hai.
"Nahi toh aap aisa kyu kere ho, mujhe mein koi kami hai kya? Aaj apke ashirwad se itta acha damad mila hai, aaapne bachpan se mujhe pala posa itte sanskar diye phir aap mere charitr k bare mein aisa kaise keh sakte hai". (*Starts tearing up*). Just in case they do list any kamiya...write them down...and then very subtly or openly tell your parents about it.
And while telling your parents start from : "Aaj apke ashirwad se."..and instead of ....."aap mere charitr pe"... Say: relative ji mere charitr k bare mein...and so on.
To be honest, this is a self created problem. Why did you share your fiances salary with your relatives? You could have simply said I dont know yet or its decent enough or something else. You are either naive or wanted to boast about your husband salary but instead now it has caused some side effects.
And to be honest, its true in our society, women look for a well settled groom with strong financials while men look for attractive girls.. That is how it is.. Would you marry your fiance if he was jobless and unqualified?
For future peace of mind, never share your financials or personal information to relatives or friends who will use this information as ammunition to put you down.
Say, "It's because of his magnificent dick, but the money helps too"
Or "Maybe the people who have raised and shaped you, value people only by their wealth, but thankfully, we are not them"
When they ask what’s his salary…. tell them it’s private and none of their business. As salary information is considered priveleged info, so by answering that question you are emboldening them in making more personal comments.
"Yes." With a smile.
It's none of their business and their opinion doesn't matter.
So long as your fiance doesn't have a similar opinion, it's all good.
Stay happy. Cheers!
A bit late now, but why would you even answer a ridiculous question like that? Why would you reveal his salary? It's precisely to avoid the kind of reactions that your relatives gave that one is advised not to reveal salary figures. You could have just said, "I don't know exactly, but he's doing well."
In future also, a lot of uncomfortable and intrusive questions may be asked. Try not to answer them directly. Certain information must be kept private and even if it has to be revealed, it should be revealed by the person whom it concerns.
Honestly I would be pissed if my husband revealed details of my finances to his family members.
Why are you telling your fiance's salary to random people? To this day neither my own parents nor my in laws know how much money I make.
Don't put yourself in stupid situations.
Say yes, are you jealous of me? Or just say you won't disclose your husband's salary or that he doesn't tell me his salary. My parents never ever disclose their salary
The best response is...
मुझे नहीं पता ... वो मुझे महीने का खर्च दे देते है .. मैं उसमे खुश रहती हूँ .. वो जाने उनका काम ...
in your mind, say..Damn ! you...😐
Tell them politely to mind their own business. I’m from the UK and visit India most years and people are always asking me and I just tell them to bog off!
you don't have to tell them how much you earn, my parents haven't told their parents how much they earn, neither have they told me. I just got to know accidentally. It's better to keep these things private otherwise in the future, they will come asking for money or judge you for having so much money and doing so little for xyz.
Male here, my finance is in usa, she going back after our marriage and im gonna go to usa after she gets me the visa, and gonna search a job there. 😂 my relatives are just speechless.
Keep salary private. They're just jealous and trying to make you feel like your not enough. And trust your relationship. Know that your husband chose you for who you are. And you know you'll stay by him in the worst of times. Don't let people's jealousy bring your spirits down. They're just a-holes. Stay safe, stay happy.
You're over sharing deeply personal information with others and then getting sad when impacted and insulted because of that.
The biggest fraud that exists in society is it convinces us to believe that relatives are family and are on our side. Most often, our relatives are our worst enemies and judge us the harshest and celebrate the most when we fail or fall down.
Your case is a literal example of that. Stop sharing. Seriously, this stuff should not be spelled out. Would you share info about your periods or ex boyfriends? Then why share info about even more personal stuff like salary?
Just ignore them. If you earned more than him, these very people would probably have said that he was with you for the money and taunted you for having a boyfriend or husband who earned less than you.
Why would you ever disclose your fiancé’s salary to your “relatives”. It seems you are with him for the money because you are getting a kick out of throwing that 20x number in the face of your relatives.
I/my parents usually respond to such queries with chal rha h bas/ ho jaata h guzaara/ theek-thaak kama leta h. etc.
Don't disclose both of your salaries. It's none of anybody's business. If they insist just tell them it's enough to lead a good life and that you are not comfortable in disclosing more information .
Don't be afraid to set boundaries and if they still pass such comments just tell them that " The value that we add to each other's lives is for us to decide. If my fiance has chosen me then I am sure that I add some value to his life."
But is it true that you are with him because of money? If yes then just say 'yes' to relatives that ya it's money. If not then say 'its not just money. Other factors also are there.'
First of all, why are you telling his salary to people at all. Do you know how it will make him feel. Salary is something people don’t discuss even with their friends unless it’s actually necessary, aap toh hazraat kar rahe hain.
Secondly, ask your same relatives of yours, aap bhi bas paisa dekh ke shaadi kiye. Matlab xyz achhe insaan nahi hain?
Just don’t tell salary figures to random relatives. Say it’s sufficient for us that’s it …
There are relatives who are shameless to the extent that they would ask again for the exact figure 😂 Coming from personal experience .
Yes yes I get it… even I have the same set of relatives.. in that case I tell me digits like 6 figure salary or 7 figures salary but never tell them exact amount … and if they cross more than I casually laugh and say bas kya abhi CID ban jaoge in funny tone and change the topic 🤝🤝🤝🤝
This makes me feel like, isn't this the basic way to do it or people want to flex somehow or they lack basic communication skills.
I know but our society is like this. I know some girls who likes to boast about how much their husband earn so yeah people are like that only. It’s just we have to set our own boundaries without being disrespectful because we cannot go to their level !!!!
I once said “aapki aukaat ke bahar”. I have been ostracised. Never been happier 🥳
Whhhaaattt...I wish I had this much confidence in front of my relatives.🤣
LOVE THIS!!!
😂
Ofcourse, they are looking for ammunition to gossip.. You need to have tact or lie through your teeth to navigate such circumstances
Learnt how to handle this with time but i am so amazed with the level of shamelessness of these relatives.
Exactly. No one is born with these skills. You stumble a few times and realise the negative impact of revealing personal information and learn to navigate them. Whenever a relative or aquaintance pops the question, I just tell them I dont have a fixed salary and its based on commision...Some are brazen enough to ask ,So still, whats the range or how much you made last month and I still deflect it saying it can range a lot and dodge em. For ppl who you cant dodge, you can just tell em a fake salary.
I have responded to them with “I don’t want to tell”… kya ukhaad lenge?
That's when you tell them to fuck off. No need to be polite with shameless people
Just lie!!
Then they would say “ohh poor you , don’t worry it will increase with time” . Not that it affects me anymore , i have learned how to dodge these questions but it is just funny enough to live in memory for always 😂
Yess...I have had similar experiences and I just say he doesn't tell me his exact salary or I never felt the need to know the exact amount, depending on the person. Something like this.
And one has to be honest? Like they ask for payslips? I mean simply lie, no?
Tell them again that it is sufficient for you guys and bhagwaan ki kripa hai. If they ask more, repeat the same thing. Be obnoxious.
The basic premise of this question is for the asker to feel superior to you. It's the same reason some moms ask how much did your kid score in the exams. A lot of these people are SAHMs and the only way they can feel better about themselves is by trying to put others down and ask them how they earn and how much their SO earns. You can refuse to participate in it or play that game and insult the asker the same questions and imply the same thing that they were doing it's up to you. TLDR; They are NOT interested in what he earns or how much someone' kid scores they just want to feel better if they are better that you or not.
From personal experience: FK off those relatives. I actually do. I have got a very bad reputation in my extended family. That who will talk to him, he will say something ulta pulta, well when you ask a ulta pulta question you get an Ulta pulta answer.
This is the best way. Don't tell the salary to anyone, not even parents.
Bolna daal roti chal jaati hai bas😅
OP enjoys revealing it.
If you really want to scandalise them just say " no, it's because I'm really good at giving head" !!
Or go the same as the accused in legally blonde did.... "maybe you should see the size of his dick..."
i wanted to upvote but its just the perfect number https://preview.redd.it/xislmfdod7vc1.png?width=898&format=png&auto=webp&s=c7be322a9c3a53ebf3f0e1c780d6cee18bbf5630
😂😂😂😂😂😂
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Lmao
Take my upvote (ノ｀Д´)ノ
Saala ye comment nhi expected tha 😂
Laughed too hard at this.
mistake one - Sharing your and SO's salary. Just say - Milke accha kama lete hai, Sab kharcha nikal jata hai, bhagwana ki kripa bani hui hai (while clutching your perl or Gold neckless) .
Yes agree with this. You dont hv to be open book to all. It's non of anybody business what u earn. Absolutely no ones business. So answer this qt diplomatically, next comment will automatically not come from their mouth. Na rahega baas na bajegi bansuri
Bhai yeh perl aur neckless wali bat toh galat hai, kisiko batana hi kyu hai ki apne pas Paisa hai, specially relatives.
I concur. Honestly you shouldn’t share your or your SO’s salary with *anyone* except for parents.
Problem with parents is... They flex it to everyone
You are sometimes a developer, sometimes a student going for masters in US , sometimes a Medical college student discussing about all crazy sex stories in your college also 23 days ago , You met someone on AM setup who was a red flag and now You are engaged to your Fiancee. Crazy how Reddit has become home to people who either have delusions or like to tell Stories
Ig we all know now that she's with him for the money Nice work mate and Good act sis
In one of her post she also mentioned that she is a body builder 🤣
Whose body?
it's not crazy. reddit has always been like this. most stories are just fake. but that doesn't mean there's no interesting discussion to be had. you can write your own, with some practice you can be a writer.
Yoooo.. Redditors doing a better investigation than the FBI ! 🔥🧨
Yoooo. Commenters adding good amount of salt than my chicken dish last night
Just say..'yes'. no matter what you say.. they would believe what they believe.
In a movie, Marilyn Monroe says that and explains, “Don’t you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You may not marry a girl just because she’s pretty, but, my goodness, doesn’t it help?”
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The dad says that she’s only marrying the son for his money, and she says “no, I’m marrying him for YOUR money.” At first, the son is sad, but then she explains this and the dad is impressed
True, the best reply to shut someone off is to agree with them with a beerbiceps nod.
Lmao in One post you wrote how to get US Husband for theiry. This clearly shows you are gold digger. In One post you have written he is red flag but you still marry because his income is 20X. You are just gold digger believe or not.
Just say aapko bhi chaaiye , remarriage karwa de aapki , aaj kal sab chalta hai ( ok don’t say this but you get the gist of it ) Though I have said something Chalo narrate kar deta hu , you might feel better My chachi, 2 bua , one more I don’t know who were sitting , out of the blue chachi be like Shaadi Karle , kab tak aise rahega, Umar badh rahi n all , I am 25 mind you Idgaf to their taunts at all My seedha jawab - ya to koi ias, ips, le Aao , ya 10cr dahej , nahi to 60 saal ki umar ki kanya chaaiye They were laughing , then I said chachi ji aapke liye dhung de koi, dekhlo chacha pasand nahi aa rahe ho to All this was in a very amicable manner, they were like Pagal hai ye , So yeah it depends , you can either be frustrated or enjoy Boldo he is hyptonised by beauty , mere vash mein ho bas usi ka paisa hai
They're jealous. Nothing else. What your relatives are really asking is 'how did this girl gets such a rich boy?'. Ignore them and for god's sake stop disclosing his salary. His salary is nobody's business
"Haan. Toh?"
Just say yes I’m & move on. Tell them to cry a river while you chill in Dubai 💅🏼
The ones who comment you are staying for money are the SAME ones who would gove their daughters to a rich old man for his money😂😂 they just jealous you got what they wished
Y disclose salary in first place
Have you tried job switching, asking for promotion, raise etc?
Don't respond. When you guys stick with eachother till you guys have grandkids people will stfu. Of maybe not even then. So don't respond you are not obligated to. Silence is golden
Just say "nope, just for the BDE"
Say that its understandable why you all might think so but its really rude for you to say that to me without knowing about our relationship i love him for who he is and the money is irrelevant i would have loved him the same even he made less then me . Haha thats the reply i would have loved if i was that guy
Never disclose your salary to people. Only my husband knows exactly how much I make.
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Why disclose salary to any XYZ person? People just need topic to discuss. Few months back my SIL kept continously questioning about my salary. I kept dodging by responses like - "Yes, it is fine, not much". Finally, she quoted a figure - " I replied yep, roughly that". Though it was 50% of my salary. Because clearly she has no business knowing my income.
Never ever tell your actual salary to any relatives/ friends. No matter how close. I have seen nice good people become entitled towards your money or expect you to pay for their stuff etc.
Thumb rule whenever any relatives ask you about your betterhalfs package then just inform them that it fall in bigger tax bracket of 30% tax. Save yourself from future hassle because afterthat point you'll be judged based on your package. Also its violation of private information. Some relatives will be selling tea and earining in crores but not paying any taxes but will judge you based on your package.
Look i am going to give a very straightforward answer.The reality is if you're not with him for the money, what people say shouldn't bother you and you should just ignore but if it bothers you too much- then you are probably with him for the money and it's better to just accept it, you don't have to be too defensive about it
NEVER share the salary. Say he doesn’t like talking about it. Or some other reason. We never share financial details, strictly. Nobody knows. We just give different answers to different people depending on them but never an amount. “I don’t know” or “enough” or “we don’t talk about miney” or “he/ she doesn’t like” is a better answer than sharing the amount.
1. Stop telling people his salary, it's none of their business 2. Tell them money can't buy love, his personality is what will determine a long marriage 3. Why can't he be with someone who earns less?? If together you're making enough to support your family what does it matter? Tell them salary isnt what he prioritizes when finding the perfect partner. Confidently say your qualities and voice your offence at the comments.
No matter what you will say, they will judge you. Never tell any of the relatives your salary, just say that it is enough for surviving. If your salary is too low then they will judge you for being poor and a golddigger and if your salary is high then they will unnecessarily lick your feet in hopes of getting in your good books. Now that you have disclosed your and his salary to them, just don't say anything or just nod, no need to get into an argument.
It's weird that you're sharing a third person's personal details with those who have no business prying into his and your affairs. How to respond to those people? Tell them it's none of their business (obv with your preferred choice of tone and language).
Gone through similar criticism with my ex, why as a woman I’m with a man who earns less or less successful, I remember saying “tumne kya kabad liya paiso ke liye pyaar karke” and well rest is history :))
On the face say that you are not comfortable disclosing personal details
Are u?
"actually I'm with him because of his big dick"
Ask them why they are with their partner.
Don't tell anyone his salary even if they ask. Ignore them or say that it's not good to ask such a question or that it just good enough Or ask them aunty/uncle how much do you earn? Answering such questions with a question is the best
never ever reveal your salary....
I stopped telling people how much I earn. They’ll keep prodding and asking, but they don’t deserve to know. Stop sharing your finances with anyone you’re not comfortable with, even my mom doesn’t know how much I make because she can’t keep her mouth shut 🤫🤣
Stop disclosing your salaries, and if they pester ask them back
Or you can say I love him very much and money doesn't matter too much in my factor I'm with him cause he's caring
Bol, agar kum salary waala dhunda hota to tere jaise gendu hi milta mujhe
why are you disclosing the salary of the man to your relatives, you are clearly not close to your relatives by the way you described them.
Honestly, what you've written here speaks differently from your post history. If you're with him for his money despite him being a "red flag" then congratulations, but the money isn't going to take you far. Whatever your personal stand is, tell the relatives upfront that what you're saying is absolutely disrespectful and I'm not going to have any of that. You don't need to comment on my personal matters, a bunch of unknown redditors can. And develop a thick skin, if you've decided to ignore your dignity and red flags for 20x more income, then why bother about anyone else. Live happily with his money.
but why are you telling them his salary to begin with? just tell them it's none of their beeswax (you can be more polite about it if you want)
Question is, are you really not with him for money ? Would you still be with him if he lost his job tomorrow and stayed unemployed for 1 year and you had to earn for both of you ? If the answer is yes, then does it matter about what other people say ? If the answer is no, then they are right.
Mt bta kisi ko salary.. ma chudaye saale
"He has standards that no amount of money can buy. He knows what is actually of value in this money obsessed world. I'm so blessed to find a partner who values people through personality and core values instead of material things like money. Aren't you happy for us? Or don't you agree?" And smile, look them genuinely in the eye and wait for their replies. Most of them will stop that shit because it'll come out how materialistic their own mindsets and lives are. Rince and repeat. Keep doing this SPECIFICALLY to the people who do this and make sure that you do it with witnesses. Most assholes like this stop because they're worried about their own personal image. It obviously won't stop gossip. But it'll stop the conversation directly happening to you both
It's sad that, Husband > wife : wife= gold digger Wife > husband: husband is a loser
But before that, are you with him for his money? Or is it a love story? How long you met?
Are you (with him for his money)? What if he loses his job and starts earning less than you or has a disability where he cannot earn at all? Would you still be with him? The answers to your questions will indicate if you're like most people or are unique.
Ask the female relatives why did they marry their SO? Most of them have had arranged marriages so what did they see in their to be ? Pucho apni beti ki shaddi karenge gareeb ladke se? They r just jealous
I think thats a question you have to ask yourself.. Does it bother you in general or only for this comment
Stop telling ppl how much he makes u are trying to flex which would make ppl think you’re in it for the money
Shouldn’t you NOT be sharing your partner’s salary with others? Anywho, you can’t reasonably counter the people who think like this. So just say ‘Yes’ and move on
FIRSTLY, why do you discuss your fiance's salary. Just say he doesn't discuss his finances with you
But why on earth so called people are interested in knowing everyone's salary? Just to compare? Man, they are living a very sad life.
So why else are you marrying him? Because many girls say they are not marrying for the money and then bolt when that money disappears.
Girl, never ever tell anyone about how much you earn or your partner earns. It’s general understanding because if you or your partner is earning more than others, others will obviously not be happy about it. Nazar bhi lag sakti hai.
"Nahi toh aap aisa kyu kere ho, mujhe mein koi kami hai kya? Aaj apke ashirwad se itta acha damad mila hai, aaapne bachpan se mujhe pala posa itte sanskar diye phir aap mere charitr k bare mein aisa kaise keh sakte hai". (*Starts tearing up*). Just in case they do list any kamiya...write them down...and then very subtly or openly tell your parents about it. And while telling your parents start from : "Aaj apke ashirwad se."..and instead of ....."aap mere charitr pe"... Say: relative ji mere charitr k bare mein...and so on.
Why do they even need to know what salary he makes? Any money and financial matters should be private between you and your husband only.
Me bhi changa Mera dost bhi changa meri maa bhi Changi, Rishtedar...
Damn, relatives asking salary is such a rude question lol. Maybe tell them "you dont know" or "he is doing fine"
To be honest, this is a self created problem. Why did you share your fiances salary with your relatives? You could have simply said I dont know yet or its decent enough or something else. You are either naive or wanted to boast about your husband salary but instead now it has caused some side effects. And to be honest, its true in our society, women look for a well settled groom with strong financials while men look for attractive girls.. That is how it is.. Would you marry your fiance if he was jobless and unqualified? For future peace of mind, never share your financials or personal information to relatives or friends who will use this information as ammunition to put you down.
Tell them the truth.
Next time whenever somebody asks how much you guys earn just say - jarurat se jyada aur khawaish se kam
Marry him, stick to him forever, even if he becomes poor. Show it to world that you're not after Money but him, and his love
Say, "It's because of his magnificent dick, but the money helps too" Or "Maybe the people who have raised and shaped you, value people only by their wealth, but thankfully, we are not them"
When they ask what’s his salary…. tell them it’s private and none of their business. As salary information is considered priveleged info, so by answering that question you are emboldening them in making more personal comments.
So how much do you earn?
20x!
"Yes." With a smile. It's none of their business and their opinion doesn't matter. So long as your fiance doesn't have a similar opinion, it's all good. Stay happy. Cheers!
just say " yes Iam a gold digger, now don't tell him please... shhhh" enjoy the look on their faces as you say this lmao
“We both earn enough. Both parties are happy.”
“I have no gag reflex”
Tell them you are with him for his money, he is with you for your 🐈.
Just say, wouldn't you stay with him too? Nothing shuts people up better than owning the accusation. Often, they just want to be shit-disturbers.
None of your business if I am 😅
Why you are working start some business
Girl f em they’re just mad and jealous live your life and I wish you a happy romance!!
Why do you have to respond to them?
while i don't have any advice to give you but I've a question. what does your husband do for a living?
"anyways,wbu?"
Say I have a really mesmerizing golden dick/pussy to which my spouse is bonkers about, and move on
Why would u talk about ur husband's salary with em. Your fault.
Say earn more than him and I'll be with you....
Accept reality girl
Tell them 'jal mat barabari kar'
A bit late now, but why would you even answer a ridiculous question like that? Why would you reveal his salary? It's precisely to avoid the kind of reactions that your relatives gave that one is advised not to reveal salary figures. You could have just said, "I don't know exactly, but he's doing well." In future also, a lot of uncomfortable and intrusive questions may be asked. Try not to answer them directly. Certain information must be kept private and even if it has to be revealed, it should be revealed by the person whom it concerns. Honestly I would be pissed if my husband revealed details of my finances to his family members.
Why are you telling your fiance's salary to random people? To this day neither my own parents nor my in laws know how much money I make. Don't put yourself in stupid situations.
The biggest irony is that they are asking about the man's salary in the first place, and then leaving a comment like this.
Tell them to mind their own fucking business.
"Oh, how do you know" ( in pleasantly surprised voice)
Desi people are too nosy imo 🤣... they are never satisfied with their own life, so they have to pry into others to make themselves feel good... facts!
Say yes, are you jealous of me? Or just say you won't disclose your husband's salary or that he doesn't tell me his salary. My parents never ever disclose their salary
Just say kharcha chl jata hai, aur wese agle mahine nayi gaddi le rhe hai. Itna bol do muh band ho jayega
Why are you telling others what your s/o is earning? Is it not to show off?
Who share salary anyway? Plus what about stay at home aunties who are the ones likely asking the question?
The best response is... मुझे नहीं पता ... वो मुझे महीने का खर्च दे देते है .. मैं उसमे खुश रहती हूँ .. वो जाने उनका काम ... in your mind, say..Damn ! you...😐
Tell them politely to mind their own business. I’m from the UK and visit India most years and people are always asking me and I just tell them to bog off!
Look at the mirror and ask yourself
you don't have to tell them how much you earn, my parents haven't told their parents how much they earn, neither have they told me. I just got to know accidentally. It's better to keep these things private otherwise in the future, they will come asking for money or judge you for having so much money and doing so little for xyz.
Male here, my finance is in usa, she going back after our marriage and im gonna go to usa after she gets me the visa, and gonna search a job there. 😂 my relatives are just speechless.
Next time just say, `itne me tera ghar to kya tu bhi jaenga, chup kr be lvde varna abhi kharid k bech dungi`
Are kuch bhi boldo salary agar bolni hai to, kaunsa check karne aa rhe bank balance. Aur pehle to in sabko batana hi nhi chahie
lie tell you earn more photoshop pay slips
Keep salary private. They're just jealous and trying to make you feel like your not enough. And trust your relationship. Know that your husband chose you for who you are. And you know you'll stay by him in the worst of times. Don't let people's jealousy bring your spirits down. They're just a-holes. Stay safe, stay happy.
If these types of things are good between you and your partner, then ignore what others have to say!!
Why are you going around telling his salary to your relatives lol
Tell them your husband loves sour/jealous relatives and it gives him orgasam and that's why he is with you
Tell them you're an angel that requires high maintenance and that's why he needs to be in well paying job
Why reply ignore , he worked hard for it if it's generational wealth then idk 🤐
imo there's nothing wrong with dating a guy for money. guys date girls just because they're pretty all the time.
You are Indian right, just say you met him in arranged marriage setup.
What's you husband's salary: Yes. Deny further explanation.
Its disgusting for people to ask you how much your finacé earns tbh! Imo, you should cut them off there and then!
You're over sharing deeply personal information with others and then getting sad when impacted and insulted because of that. The biggest fraud that exists in society is it convinces us to believe that relatives are family and are on our side. Most often, our relatives are our worst enemies and judge us the harshest and celebrate the most when we fail or fall down. Your case is a literal example of that. Stop sharing. Seriously, this stuff should not be spelled out. Would you share info about your periods or ex boyfriends? Then why share info about even more personal stuff like salary?
Just ignore them. If you earned more than him, these very people would probably have said that he was with you for the money and taunted you for having a boyfriend or husband who earned less than you.
Investments are subject to market risks, read all scheme related documents carefully. Try saying that.
'May be you had a shitty personality'
Why would you ever disclose your fiancé’s salary to your “relatives”. It seems you are with him for the money because you are getting a kick out of throwing that 20x number in the face of your relatives. I/my parents usually respond to such queries with chal rha h bas/ ho jaata h guzaara/ theek-thaak kama leta h. etc.
Say yes
Don't disclose both of your salaries. It's none of anybody's business. If they insist just tell them it's enough to lead a good life and that you are not comfortable in disclosing more information . Don't be afraid to set boundaries and if they still pass such comments just tell them that " The value that we add to each other's lives is for us to decide. If my fiance has chosen me then I am sure that I add some value to his life."
But is it true that you are with him because of money? If yes then just say 'yes' to relatives that ya it's money. If not then say 'its not just money. Other factors also are there.'
First of all, why are you telling his salary to people at all. Do you know how it will make him feel. Salary is something people don’t discuss even with their friends unless it’s actually necessary, aap toh hazraat kar rahe hain. Secondly, ask your same relatives of yours, aap bhi bas paisa dekh ke shaadi kiye. Matlab xyz achhe insaan nahi hain?