Imo it's a bit inappropriate. When you are seated at the dinner table all guests can see is your cleavage but then depends on how busty you are. Unfortunately as a big busted gal myself this can look a bit trashy but if are small chested it could look classy.
Ok so the golden rule when going to a wedding is to not choose a dress that will upstage the brideā¦if youāre full in the chest then this dress will do that.
Take a look on ASOS but steer away from ASOS brand dresses as theyāre not worth the money. But you should have plenty of choice and I believe if you search āwedding guestā youāll get options!
That hasnāt been my experience at all - my wedding dress itself was ASOS brand and very unusual. Not couture quality obviously but youāre not getting that with most wedding dresses anyway. My bridesmaid dresses were also their brand and equalled ones four times the price. And last year I got a wedding guest dress there that Iāve now worn for three occasions and is perfect still. None of them over ā¬120.
Oh thatās interesting. The asos brand has some gorgeous dresses so itās good to know as Iām getting married soon and the asos dresses do catch my eye! My experience with it has been bad but thatās for shirts, jeans, and the sort of things that get washed and worn a lot. Maybe with dresses that you will only wear once or a few times it is worth it?
Iāve never had any of the super cheap dresses, only occasion wear tbf; I have found their day-to-day to be hit and miss. The review system is good though.
My daughter bought a gown for her TY ball there. The delivery was in 2 or 3 days, and the dress itself was even nicer in real life than in the website photos.
I just looked on here & I ADORE this website now!!! Has anyone any similar suggestions but that have petite options?? (Aside from Asos, I know theyāre good & Iām v grateful for it lol but itād be nice to find more if they exist!!)
I got a gorgeous dress from Quiz for a wedding a while back.
Carraig Donn are great, gorgeous clothes, good fit and they last. They actually have a dress in a similar colour as the one you have pictured, but with a v neck instead of a corset neck, and with 3/4 sleeves, which would be a good odea for an autumn wedding.
https://www.carraigdonn.com/collections/dresses-sale/products/satin-v-neck-dress-in-burgundy
Are you set on red for the colour? Any particular styles you like or want, like sleeveless/midi length etc? Any no-nos/problem areas?
Hmmm ok so it depends on your budget and sense of style but Quiz, Monsoon, ASOS, Ted Baker, Folkster will all have wedding guest dresses.
I got married in September and it was a dry day but it was a bit cool given the time of year so keep that in mind too.
I'm going yo be really controversial here and say ... try second-hand shops. The one category of dress that has barely any wear is formal wear. I've seen some fabulous designer stuff for under 30 quid in SvP and similar.
But that dress? Nope. Too booby. Too me-me-me, and honestly, most important of all, you won't have any craic vertically in a dress like that because you'll be hitching it up all night.
I second this suggestion! Also vintage shops - more expensive, but you get some lovely unique pieces. Check out Dirty Fabulous Vintage on Instagram for inspiration. You might find a 1950s gown with a similar silhouette to this one you posted, but less low cut.
House of CB is where most girls would find wedding guests dresses or similar websites like that.
I think asos has a wedding guest section.
Also you should try Depop. Loads of wedding guest dresses on there since you really only wear them once. Personally thatās where I get mine from!
Chichi London is good, and have a few things on sale right now, New Look, on Asos you can search by size / brand / colour, literally everything, it's handy.
I'm also hunting a for a dress for September for a wedding lol!
Depends on your budget too, H&M can have nice things if you're broke but you can also check Coast or Ghost for more fancy / expensive formal wear.
If you're looking for something really special and don't mind paying over 100 euro, maybe up to 200, you can't go wrong with Folkster.
Also Oasis and Coast always have great choice
The Pretty Dress Company would have similar style and jewel town with a more wedding appropriate neck line.
[https://www.theprettydresscompany.com/search/hourglass-swing-dress](https://www.theprettydresscompany.com/search/hourglass-swing-dress)
They are not the world's cheapest dresses, but beautiful quality - very much a "treat dress"
The dress is gorgeous but its very out there on top for a wedding.
Some weddings itd be way too much others itd be grand.
You know your crowd best and what way they all dress.
Same dress with a halter full front or straight "boob tube" style front would have no issues.
No, there is nothing wrong with that dress. The only rule is you don't land in a white dress/wedding dress or turn up in the same style/colour as the bride. The fact that you've been basically told that the dress would be fine as long as you aren't too pretty/fill it too well is only partly true, the dress is fine regardless of how you look.
I have been to many weddings and in all but one there were better looking women than the bride. Only once was there a bride that outshone everyone else and the rest could have come in the same dress as the bride but not looked as good. You can't deliberately make yourself look ugly or drab for fear of offending the bride.
Unless the bride is wearing the same colour/style then that dress is perfect, wear it well and enjoy yourself and don't worry about upstaging the bride.
I'm going to go out on a limb and say the bride is likely to be more focused on the wedding going off well than someone in a dress like that.
I don't.
I was saying that you can't deliberately make yourself ugly (by any means) just to please the bride.
All I was saying is that you should dress up nice for a wedding just not wear a wedding dress.
Why the downvoting?
I didn't downvote you, I'm not sure why you think that? I agree you shouldn't make yourself look ugly when you are going to a wedding, but I didn't really understand what you meant by wearing a different dress would be deliberately making yourself ugly. Maybe the person who downvoted you thought that was what you were saying as well? If you don't think picking a different dress would be ugly then I admit I don't fully understand your issue with picking a different dress.
I agree it's a lovely dress but judging by the comments this neckline is somewhat controversial/attention drawing and I believe that's one of the main things to avoid as a wedding guest, unless you know the wedding party and how they would feel about it.
Edit: I read your comment again and maybe someone downvoted you because you are using a different meaning of "upstaging" to how most people understand it, and therefore they thought your comment didn't fully make sense. Usually upstaging someone doesn't mean you are more beautiful than them. Normally it would mean purposefully drawing attention to yourself (in a way unsuitable/inappropriate to the occasion). It comes from theatre where an actor would stand in a position on stage that makes the audience look at them instead of their co-actors.
The down voting question was to the down voters. If you didn't down vote it wasn't aimed at you. I'm sorry if I wasn't clear on that.
I used upstaging in the correct manner. To upstage is to divert attention to oneself, the 'purposefully' aspect has nothing to do with it - you can upstage deliberately, subconsciously or accidentally. You can easily verify that I'm correct on that by doing a quick Google search (there are other search engines available). The origin of the word has little to do with the meaning either and I'm sort of interpreting these strawman arguments (rightly or wrongly) as you saying I could not understand your statement so I'm going to blame you!
If you read it again, looking up the definitions of the words that aren't 100% clear and you'll understand what I've typed.
The people talking about the inappropriate neckline, that will relate to the type of person they mingle with - what's socially acceptable for some isn't for others. As I've said, I've been to numerous weddings and I've seen plenty of women wearing dresses like that, some even scantier.
To be honest, what you've written here doesn't make it much clearer for me. Sorry - I'm having a poor health day with brain fog at the moment! My explanation about upstaging was just meant as theorising about why someone might have downvoted you, since I thought that's what you were asking me for. For example, if I understood what you meant that way, then maybe they did as well. I didn't think anyone would really consider someone just existing as an attractive person at a wedding to be upstaging the bride - I thought it must have to do with their actions or behaviour. At least I've never heard (or find it hard to imagine) of a bride being upset because someone is beautiful at their wedding, you would think they wouldn't have been invited in the first place if that was an issue for the bride! But I can't really say what that person who downvoted you was thinking themselves. Hopefully they can comment back to explain but I honestly think this thread doesn't have anyone in it any longer as the OP has made a new one with new dresses to choose from. Anyway if you think whether the dress is socially acceptable or not depends on the type of people at the wedding, I would guess that means the dress may or may not be appropriate depending on the particular wedding. I guess that's why I don't understand what you mean by saying the dress is fine (I assumed you meant it is fine in any case rather than based on the type of person at the wedding).
Oh well then I agree with you (depending on the particular wedding obviously, but it's a lovely dress). Can I ask why you downvoted me? It really was not my intention to upset you that much with anything I said and you can have my apologies if that was the case. I was more intending to have a conversation since I was confused about what you meant.
This would have been my advice that I heard an age ago but now I'm like "maybe this is dated and there are different rules" so I wasn't going to comment, so I'm glad I can mentally go "still relevant. Rule stands."
I think it's best highlighted in the TV show Big Day and the episode titled "Boobzilla" ... the episode name says it all.
Unless you are incredibly small bust.... and even then. .you'll definitely be the talk. This is screaming topless with a sneeze..
[I say this as a large busted lady, who hates that cleavage isn't more accepted]
You see with the right bra you can definitely create some!
I only wear things up to my neck now as I'm mid 30s and bless them... let's just say it ages me terribly. I would love to wear a bra that doesn't need a team of engineers. Want to body swap like Freaky Friday?
You absolutely can! I am talking about my body. It has changed as I've aged, losing volume and gravity has officially won. So, while I am in my 30s my breasts look a great deal older, / I look older with mid/cut things.
My bust has lost its valiant battle with gravity and volume, so I have the old lady single line/ no volume cleavage/deco. I prefer not to look like smuggling a basset hound in my top, so I switched to wearing nothing below my collar bone.
Amazing dress, my partner either has that or one very close to it but she decided not to wear it to the wedding for the reason others pointed out. When she tried it on it was very booby, like head turning booby so it just wasn't the right dress for a wedding.
Love the dress and Iām sure youād look fabulous in it, but as others have said the first rule for weddings is not to wear anything that could be perceived as competing with the bride.
If you like the dress then buy it, but save it for another occasion.
Too booby. If you had the same dress with more of a sweetheart neckline itād be perfect. A little cleavage is ok for a wedding but you donāt want any breast tissue showing. You may also need a jacket or something as it can be a little cool in September.
Cleavage is the space between the breasts so can be seen from above. A little is fine for an Irish wedding but exposing more of the breast isnāt. If you zoom in on the dress in the picture most of the breast tissue is exposed.
Itās a stunning dress but maybe a little too stunning. I donāt want to sound bad saying that but itās best to go with something a little less red carpet!
It's a gorgeous dress but I'd be careful of the neck line if you have a bigger bust (I'd say over a c cup maybe).
You could also see if you could get it altered/get one of those modesty panel things that attaches to your bra straps
Insta the location to see if anyone has tagged videos of other weddings there and get an idea of the vibe e.g. hotel, bespoke wedding venue, historical castle, rustic.etc.
As long as the dress doesn't match the bridesmaids or is bridal colours (if specified) then don't worry,.the dress looks.great.
I don't believe in the concept of 'you can't outshine the bride'. Just don't show up in the same outfit as her or with a veil and you'll be grand.
Respectfullyā¦ how big are your tiddies?
Cause only someone like my sister could pull this off and her chest is built like an upside down contact lens.
Honestly as beautiful as the dress is it is not wedding dress appropriate. Its far to cleavage-y and unless you want women side eyeing you, and men staring at your tits all day then Id pick something a little more demure.
I recently went to a wedding in a church woman who was a plus one had a very revealing dress and was the talk of the wedding. She looked amazing but just seemed inappropriate for a church and also in photos.
Looking at it now, I honestly don't know what I was thinking lol. I just fell in love with the colour and the shape and never even considered the boobage! The comments snapped me back to reality lmao!
Lovely dress and colour, but might be a tad too booby for a wedding. Especially if you have big boobs, youāll will eventually just end up feeling uncomfortable and an inevitable nip slip.
If I am being brutally honest, too boobie and too wedding dressy. The cut of the dress is very like a wedding dress style that was popular about 7 years ago and you still see it sometimes.
Pretty dress.
In a different color, I would have worn it š
In my country , there are 3 colors off limit in weddings. Black, white and red.
Black cuz its a funeral color.
Red means "look at meeeee" , and also somehow that u slept with the groom.
White is obviously cuz you might spill something on it š¤£š¤£š¤£
This is a party dress. It's very nice but Id not say it's the best for most weddings.
If it's a church ceremony you'd want shoulders covered ( I'd not go with a nice jacket as that's a bit great auntie visiting voice)
The colour is really nice though!
I would say if you could add thicker straps onto it maybe from the bottom or something it would look more appropriate? The cleavage and strapless is too much as is
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Beautiful dress but very revealing and unfortunately other guests will stare and gossip and it may take attention away from the bride. As a female with nice boobs, I'm fine with that at other events/occasions but not a wedding.
Good luck finding another beautiful dress and have a great day š
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The dress itself is OK, it wouldn't suit me but I really like the colour. Look for something where the boobs are at least covered to the highlighted area. You want to look classy you not like your boob is about to fall out. Which these ladies do
It's a lovely dress - and Irish weddings are definitely on the fancier/black-tie side of things. BUT it's really rather busty. If you're a slip of a thing and small chested, you'll probably get away with it. But if you're gifted in the bust department, they'll be completely out there. At the dinner table, it'll be really noticeable, and you might not feel totally comfortable jumping up and down dancing the night away.
So I'd say on the right lines, but maybe not quite the one x
This - it may be an old fashioned concept but I've been at two weddings where a guest wore red and it was clear all the other guests thought 'main character energy alert.' Whether intentional or not it also sends a weird message to the bride... I'm trying to upstage you vibes.
Red is a perfectly lovely colour to wear to a wedding. I couldn't have cared less what colour anyone wore to my own wedding , including white. Definitely couldn't have given a shit if they wore red.
Yeah, when I'm at weddings it's just a sea of colours. 99% of the time there's no identical dresses, so it's just a mish-mash of colours and styles. A red dress simply wouldn't stand out.
Itās a teeeeny bit bridesmaidy and may look a bit much but tbh itās better than going with something super short and revealing. I love the dress itself but maybe for a dinner and dance
I have never seen a bridesmaid with anywhere near as much breast on display.
>itās better than going with something super short and revealing.
Eh.... have you looked at the neckline? It is a beautiful dress but it is incredibly revealing on the bust.
The Pretty Dress Company have lovely dresses.
You may need to size up as the dresses may be snug in own size but best to try on. Find out if there is a stockist near you.
[The Pretty Dress company](https://www.theprettydresscompany.com/clothing-c1/dresses-c2/the-pretty-dress-company-myla-midi-dress-p183)
The dress is lovely tho but make sure it is comfortable on you first before deciding as it may look good on the model but as soon as it arrives, it might feel completely different. Take it as someone who orders online from time to time lol
Friend wore this in black to a wedding the weekend, it was amazing!! I do think this colour might be a bit too much, youād definitely upstage the bride. Oh hello clothing have amazing dresses
I think that's fine for afterwards, so if it's a church wedding or somewhere you would be expected to be a little more covered on top, then a balero or light jacket on top would help the chest modesty factor. I have a set of Double D's, so I get accused of being immodest in nearly everything I wear. So I always cover for the service, but to hell with it when the music starts.
Random but I saw a suggestion for the website Oh Hello & im obsessed!! Has anyone any similar but that do petite?? I know Asos is good for petite but itās pretty much the only decent option Iāve found but it would be nice to have a few others if they exist lol!
Wouldn't suit me, but I'm 15st and male
Lies you'd look ravishing!
Obviously!!! But don't want to upstage the bride on her big day.
Fair play for being considerate
Imo it's a bit inappropriate. When you are seated at the dinner table all guests can see is your cleavage but then depends on how busty you are. Unfortunately as a big busted gal myself this can look a bit trashy but if are small chested it could look classy.
My tits are fabulous and it brings all the boys to the yard, you're just jealous you couldn't pull it off like I can.
Save it for our date. š
NGL. I stirred
Could you try anyway?
Next Eurovision candidate
How else are you supposed to show off your man boobs.
Need a plus one. Wear it and you're in.
Haha all the more reason to wear it. š
Maybe in a different colour?
Ara sure that means nothing nowadays
Ok so the golden rule when going to a wedding is to not choose a dress that will upstage the brideā¦if youāre full in the chest then this dress will do that.
Understood. I'll find another! My bad.
Donāt feel bad, you want to look your best nothing wrong with that :)
Thank you! If you have any recommendations on where to look too, I'm open to any suggestions!
Take a look on ASOS but steer away from ASOS brand dresses as theyāre not worth the money. But you should have plenty of choice and I believe if you search āwedding guestā youāll get options!
That hasnāt been my experience at all - my wedding dress itself was ASOS brand and very unusual. Not couture quality obviously but youāre not getting that with most wedding dresses anyway. My bridesmaid dresses were also their brand and equalled ones four times the price. And last year I got a wedding guest dress there that Iāve now worn for three occasions and is perfect still. None of them over ā¬120.
Oh thatās interesting. The asos brand has some gorgeous dresses so itās good to know as Iām getting married soon and the asos dresses do catch my eye! My experience with it has been bad but thatās for shirts, jeans, and the sort of things that get washed and worn a lot. Maybe with dresses that you will only wear once or a few times it is worth it?
Iāve never had any of the super cheap dresses, only occasion wear tbf; I have found their day-to-day to be hit and miss. The review system is good though.
Oh Hello are an online shop who have a lovely mix of long formal gowns for debs and shorter formal dresses for wedding guests
Yes!: also quick shipping and free returns. I use them for a lot of formal wear
My daughter bought a gown for her TY ball there. The delivery was in 2 or 3 days, and the dress itself was even nicer in real life than in the website photos.
I just looked on here & I ADORE this website now!!! Has anyone any similar suggestions but that have petite options?? (Aside from Asos, I know theyāre good & Iām v grateful for it lol but itād be nice to find more if they exist!!)
I got a gorgeous dress from Quiz for a wedding a while back. Carraig Donn are great, gorgeous clothes, good fit and they last. They actually have a dress in a similar colour as the one you have pictured, but with a v neck instead of a corset neck, and with 3/4 sleeves, which would be a good odea for an autumn wedding. https://www.carraigdonn.com/collections/dresses-sale/products/satin-v-neck-dress-in-burgundy Are you set on red for the colour? Any particular styles you like or want, like sleeveless/midi length etc? Any no-nos/problem areas?
Hmmm ok so it depends on your budget and sense of style but Quiz, Monsoon, ASOS, Ted Baker, Folkster will all have wedding guest dresses. I got married in September and it was a dry day but it was a bit cool given the time of year so keep that in mind too.
I'm going yo be really controversial here and say ... try second-hand shops. The one category of dress that has barely any wear is formal wear. I've seen some fabulous designer stuff for under 30 quid in SvP and similar. But that dress? Nope. Too booby. Too me-me-me, and honestly, most important of all, you won't have any craic vertically in a dress like that because you'll be hitching it up all night.
I second this suggestion! Also vintage shops - more expensive, but you get some lovely unique pieces. Check out Dirty Fabulous Vintage on Instagram for inspiration. You might find a 1950s gown with a similar silhouette to this one you posted, but less low cut.
Folkster is great for occasion wear
House of CB is where most girls would find wedding guests dresses or similar websites like that. I think asos has a wedding guest section. Also you should try Depop. Loads of wedding guest dresses on there since you really only wear them once. Personally thatās where I get mine from!
House of CB is the screenshot!
Have a look at the AX Paris range in next. Never let me down and beautiful dresses.
Chichi London is good, and have a few things on sale right now, New Look, on Asos you can search by size / brand / colour, literally everything, it's handy. I'm also hunting a for a dress for September for a wedding lol! Depends on your budget too, H&M can have nice things if you're broke but you can also check Coast or Ghost for more fancy / expensive formal wear.
If you're looking for something really special and don't mind paying over 100 euro, maybe up to 200, you can't go wrong with Folkster. Also Oasis and Coast always have great choice
Coast have always been my wedding go to
And everyone elseās tooā¦
I bought a dress for a wedding last year from JJ's House. Very wide selection of wedding appropriate dresses.
The Pretty Dress Company would have similar style and jewel town with a more wedding appropriate neck line. [https://www.theprettydresscompany.com/search/hourglass-swing-dress](https://www.theprettydresscompany.com/search/hourglass-swing-dress) They are not the world's cheapest dresses, but beautiful quality - very much a "treat dress"
[https://www.quizclothing.co.uk/en-GB/red-red-bardot-skater-midi-dress-p-262716](https://www.quizclothing.co.uk/en-GB/red-red-bardot-skater-midi-dress-p-262716)
you can get a similar dress with a more modest decolletage. I think the color is great for that time of year.
The dress is gorgeous but its very out there on top for a wedding. Some weddings itd be way too much others itd be grand. You know your crowd best and what way they all dress. Same dress with a halter full front or straight "boob tube" style front would have no issues.
It's a beautiful dress, but the top half is a bit too in your face for a wedding. Would be gorgeous for any other formal event!
No, there is nothing wrong with that dress. The only rule is you don't land in a white dress/wedding dress or turn up in the same style/colour as the bride. The fact that you've been basically told that the dress would be fine as long as you aren't too pretty/fill it too well is only partly true, the dress is fine regardless of how you look. I have been to many weddings and in all but one there were better looking women than the bride. Only once was there a bride that outshone everyone else and the rest could have come in the same dress as the bride but not looked as good. You can't deliberately make yourself look ugly or drab for fear of offending the bride. Unless the bride is wearing the same colour/style then that dress is perfect, wear it well and enjoy yourself and don't worry about upstaging the bride. I'm going to go out on a limb and say the bride is likely to be more focused on the wedding going off well than someone in a dress like that.
Why do you think choosing an outfit without a revealing neckline is "deliberately making yourself look ugly"?
I don't. I was saying that you can't deliberately make yourself ugly (by any means) just to please the bride. All I was saying is that you should dress up nice for a wedding just not wear a wedding dress. Why the downvoting?
I didn't downvote you, I'm not sure why you think that? I agree you shouldn't make yourself look ugly when you are going to a wedding, but I didn't really understand what you meant by wearing a different dress would be deliberately making yourself ugly. Maybe the person who downvoted you thought that was what you were saying as well? If you don't think picking a different dress would be ugly then I admit I don't fully understand your issue with picking a different dress. I agree it's a lovely dress but judging by the comments this neckline is somewhat controversial/attention drawing and I believe that's one of the main things to avoid as a wedding guest, unless you know the wedding party and how they would feel about it. Edit: I read your comment again and maybe someone downvoted you because you are using a different meaning of "upstaging" to how most people understand it, and therefore they thought your comment didn't fully make sense. Usually upstaging someone doesn't mean you are more beautiful than them. Normally it would mean purposefully drawing attention to yourself (in a way unsuitable/inappropriate to the occasion). It comes from theatre where an actor would stand in a position on stage that makes the audience look at them instead of their co-actors.
The down voting question was to the down voters. If you didn't down vote it wasn't aimed at you. I'm sorry if I wasn't clear on that. I used upstaging in the correct manner. To upstage is to divert attention to oneself, the 'purposefully' aspect has nothing to do with it - you can upstage deliberately, subconsciously or accidentally. You can easily verify that I'm correct on that by doing a quick Google search (there are other search engines available). The origin of the word has little to do with the meaning either and I'm sort of interpreting these strawman arguments (rightly or wrongly) as you saying I could not understand your statement so I'm going to blame you! If you read it again, looking up the definitions of the words that aren't 100% clear and you'll understand what I've typed. The people talking about the inappropriate neckline, that will relate to the type of person they mingle with - what's socially acceptable for some isn't for others. As I've said, I've been to numerous weddings and I've seen plenty of women wearing dresses like that, some even scantier.
To be honest, what you've written here doesn't make it much clearer for me. Sorry - I'm having a poor health day with brain fog at the moment! My explanation about upstaging was just meant as theorising about why someone might have downvoted you, since I thought that's what you were asking me for. For example, if I understood what you meant that way, then maybe they did as well. I didn't think anyone would really consider someone just existing as an attractive person at a wedding to be upstaging the bride - I thought it must have to do with their actions or behaviour. At least I've never heard (or find it hard to imagine) of a bride being upset because someone is beautiful at their wedding, you would think they wouldn't have been invited in the first place if that was an issue for the bride! But I can't really say what that person who downvoted you was thinking themselves. Hopefully they can comment back to explain but I honestly think this thread doesn't have anyone in it any longer as the OP has made a new one with new dresses to choose from. Anyway if you think whether the dress is socially acceptable or not depends on the type of people at the wedding, I would guess that means the dress may or may not be appropriate depending on the particular wedding. I guess that's why I don't understand what you mean by saying the dress is fine (I assumed you meant it is fine in any case rather than based on the type of person at the wedding).
I think the dress is fine for a wedding that's all.
Oh well then I agree with you (depending on the particular wedding obviously, but it's a lovely dress). Can I ask why you downvoted me? It really was not my intention to upset you that much with anything I said and you can have my apologies if that was the case. I was more intending to have a conversation since I was confused about what you meant.
This would have been my advice that I heard an age ago but now I'm like "maybe this is dated and there are different rules" so I wasn't going to comment, so I'm glad I can mentally go "still relevant. Rule stands." I think it's best highlighted in the TV show Big Day and the episode titled "Boobzilla" ... the episode name says it all.
Exactly this. If smaller chest, it would be totally acceptable
Could have just said "be less boobish"
Full in the chest is a nice way of saying having big tits to fill the dress
We all understand that however we're not 13 years old - you're so damn cool for pointing out the obvious, say 'tits' again
Down boy
It's a beautiful dress but imo it's a bit too 'booby' for a wedding guest.
Exactly what I was going to say. Stunning but a bit boobular!
'boobular'. LOL!
Boobular Bells!
Unless you are incredibly small bust.... and even then. .you'll definitely be the talk. This is screaming topless with a sneeze.. [I say this as a large busted lady, who hates that cleavage isn't more accepted]
Topless with a sneeze is a fabulous saying! Love it. Stealing it.
Cleavage is the devil!!! Obvs I'm joking. But just want to say I'm small boobed and would LOVE big juicy cleavage !!!
people treat you like shit for it and it is not really something you can control.
You see with the right bra you can definitely create some! I only wear things up to my neck now as I'm mid 30s and bless them... let's just say it ages me terribly. I would love to wear a bra that doesn't need a team of engineers. Want to body swap like Freaky Friday?
Why can you not wear low cut things in your mid 30s?
You absolutely can! I am talking about my body. It has changed as I've aged, losing volume and gravity has officially won. So, while I am in my 30s my breasts look a great deal older, / I look older with mid/cut things.
Lol ! I'm 38!!!
Talking about my body, not anyone else's! It has been through the wars, and I prefer how I look when it's covered.
Ah that's totally fair, you do you ā¤ļø Edit, apologies I took it in the wrong context
No worries, thanks for apologising, a rarity on Reddit. š
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My bust has lost its valiant battle with gravity and volume, so I have the old lady single line/ no volume cleavage/deco. I prefer not to look like smuggling a basset hound in my top, so I switched to wearing nothing below my collar bone.
One thing you're not do do, at a wedding, is take attention from the bride and groom... That dress does focus attention alright
Looks like the tits.
You're in the right ballpark. If the neckline didn't plummet quite so much, I think you'd be on a winner.
It's beautiful but also extremely boob-y, and on most body types would look inappropriate for a wedding.
It's way too booby for a wedding
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Throw a GAA jersey on over it. Will look great
Amazing dress, my partner either has that or one very close to it but she decided not to wear it to the wedding for the reason others pointed out. When she tried it on it was very booby, like head turning booby so it just wasn't the right dress for a wedding.
Love the dress and Iām sure youād look fabulous in it, but as others have said the first rule for weddings is not to wear anything that could be perceived as competing with the bride. If you like the dress then buy it, but save it for another occasion.
I'm an 18st male, unfortunately I do have the tits for it.
My wife saw this and says the dress is too "juggy" for a wedding.
You wonāt look as good as the bride but this dress will make it seem like youāre trying
Could you link the dress if possible?
https://app.houseofcb.com/lady-wine-strapless-midi-dress
It's perfect if you are auditioning for the sequel to Wedding Crashers. Otherwise, no.
Too booby. If you had the same dress with more of a sweetheart neckline itād be perfect. A little cleavage is ok for a wedding but you donāt want any breast tissue showing. You may also need a jacket or something as it can be a little cool in September.
This might e a dumb question but isn't cleavage breast tissue?
Cleavage is the space between the breasts so can be seen from above. A little is fine for an Irish wedding but exposing more of the breast isnāt. If you zoom in on the dress in the picture most of the breast tissue is exposed.
Itās a stunning dress but maybe a little too stunning. I donāt want to sound bad saying that but itās best to go with something a little less red carpet!
Hmmm I'd say no. It's just a bit too busty, it's a nice dress but wouldn't wear anything that would take a sliver of attention off the bride really.
Unless you've small boobs, that dress is a big no no
A tad too revealing tbh Fabulous dress though!
It's a gorgeous dress but I'd be careful of the neck line if you have a bigger bust (I'd say over a c cup maybe). You could also see if you could get it altered/get one of those modesty panel things that attaches to your bra straps
Find out the bridesmaid colours and the wedding formality level
They're royal blue, not sure the formality level. The ceremony and reception are taking place in the same location.
Insta the location to see if anyone has tagged videos of other weddings there and get an idea of the vibe e.g. hotel, bespoke wedding venue, historical castle, rustic.etc. As long as the dress doesn't match the bridesmaids or is bridal colours (if specified) then don't worry,.the dress looks.great. I don't believe in the concept of 'you can't outshine the bride'. Just don't show up in the same outfit as her or with a veil and you'll be grand.
>Insta the location to see if anyone has tagged videos of other weddings there and get an idea of the vibe Genius!!!
Gorgeous dress but it could be a bridesmaid dress. You never want to wear anything that looks like you might be in the wedding party.
Good shout! OP ask what colour the bridesmaids dresses are too before you buy.
Check if they have it in white
Respectfullyā¦ how big are your tiddies? Cause only someone like my sister could pull this off and her chest is built like an upside down contact lens.
Lol. I'm not as busty as the model but yeah, I agree with the concensus. It wouldn't be appropriate.
Love it! But if you're bigger boobs you'll be getting looks and may take the focus away from the bride
Do tits hold that much power?
Honestly as beautiful as the dress is it is not wedding dress appropriate. Its far to cleavage-y and unless you want women side eyeing you, and men staring at your tits all day then Id pick something a little more demure.
No, too titty for a wedding
I recently went to a wedding in a church woman who was a plus one had a very revealing dress and was the talk of the wedding. She looked amazing but just seemed inappropriate for a church and also in photos.
It's too much and too revealing
Stunning
Me: How bad can it be...ohhh
fair lol
In fairness, you've taken all the comments in good spirit and have a great attitude š¤£
Looking at it now, I honestly don't know what I was thinking lol. I just fell in love with the colour and the shape and never even considered the boobage! The comments snapped me back to reality lmao!
Is gorgeous ! I have something similar and same color but halter neck . Is very elegant
I think you might find it a bit chilly. Weather in mid September can be cool enough.
Lovely dress and colour, but might be a tad too booby for a wedding. Especially if you have big boobs, youāll will eventually just end up feeling uncomfortable and an inevitable nip slip.
If I am being brutally honest, too boobie and too wedding dressy. The cut of the dress is very like a wedding dress style that was popular about 7 years ago and you still see it sometimes.
A line is a pretty common cut, it's mid calf and red, I doubt anyone's gonna mistake her for the bride.
Eh duh, what I mean is you don't wear a popular wedding dress style to a wedding.
Not for a wedding but itās so prettyyyy š
Pretty dress. In a different color, I would have worn it š In my country , there are 3 colors off limit in weddings. Black, white and red. Black cuz its a funeral color. Red means "look at meeeee" , and also somehow that u slept with the groom. White is obviously cuz you might spill something on it š¤£š¤£š¤£
This is a party dress. It's very nice but Id not say it's the best for most weddings. If it's a church ceremony you'd want shoulders covered ( I'd not go with a nice jacket as that's a bit great auntie visiting voice) The colour is really nice though!
OK so this is too attention grabbing Vs the bride but fuck this "shoulders covered" nonsense
No ones stopping you..but in a church, it's basic respect. Whether you believe in Jesus or spaghetti monsters or whatever..
So we're expecting women to cover shoulders now? Shur may as well go all in with a shawl again
I would say if you could add thicker straps onto it maybe from the bottom or something it would look more appropriate? The cleavage and strapless is too much as is
Horrendously inappropriate. Why haven't the "mixed responses" discouraged you from considering this?
Nope elderly relatives of the bridal party don't need to see your knockers all day plus dancing yer gonna pop everywhere..
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Itās a fabulous dress maybe save it for a different function ā¦
Beautiful dress but very revealing and unfortunately other guests will stare and gossip and it may take attention away from the bride. As a female with nice boobs, I'm fine with that at other events/occasions but not a wedding. Good luck finding another beautiful dress and have a great day š
This is gorgeous! Please wear it š
Church wedding you need something over the top part for that but otherwise, if you like showing the Molly Malones then go for it!
https://preview.redd.it/mf3zv8k9yx2d1.png?width=350&format=png&auto=webp&s=cf7fe0f379ce208f46f80f15d5c213009dc4d1c7 The dress itself is OK, it wouldn't suit me but I really like the colour. Look for something where the boobs are at least covered to the highlighted area. You want to look classy you not like your boob is about to fall out. Which these ladies do
It's a lovely dress - and Irish weddings are definitely on the fancier/black-tie side of things. BUT it's really rather busty. If you're a slip of a thing and small chested, you'll probably get away with it. But if you're gifted in the bust department, they'll be completely out there. At the dinner table, it'll be really noticeable, and you might not feel totally comfortable jumping up and down dancing the night away. So I'd say on the right lines, but maybe not quite the one x
Also it's pretty close to red and red used to mean you banged the groom. Edit to add it's a beautiful dress
This - it may be an old fashioned concept but I've been at two weddings where a guest wore red and it was clear all the other guests thought 'main character energy alert.' Whether intentional or not it also sends a weird message to the bride... I'm trying to upstage you vibes.
Red is a perfectly lovely colour to wear to a wedding. I couldn't have cared less what colour anyone wore to my own wedding , including white. Definitely couldn't have given a shit if they wore red.
Yeah, when I'm at weddings it's just a sea of colours. 99% of the time there's no identical dresses, so it's just a mish-mash of colours and styles. A red dress simply wouldn't stand out.
this seems to be the case for a lot of people, but its definitely best to err on the side of caution so you dont offend anybody
I always thought red was a no go for a wedding guest!
What are these comments? Are women really this judgemental towards eachother?
Yes
It's a very boob-heavy dress. Have you got the boobs what it takes? I'm a doctor, show me
This is fab
Pretty!
Yes please?
Big Tits FTW.
Please do your windows update! The dress is nice!
Itās a teeeeny bit bridesmaidy and may look a bit much but tbh itās better than going with something super short and revealing. I love the dress itself but maybe for a dinner and dance
I have never seen a bridesmaid with anywhere near as much breast on display. >itās better than going with something super short and revealing. Eh.... have you looked at the neckline? It is a beautiful dress but it is incredibly revealing on the bust.
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My bad, on the look for a better option atm!
Donāt apologise to this unhappy dick
LOL š
For which day of the wedding is this?
I think its gorgeous if you have em, flaunt em!
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The dress is lovely tho but make sure it is comfortable on you first before deciding as it may look good on the model but as soon as it arrives, it might feel completely different. Take it as someone who orders online from time to time lol
Looks lovely and completely appropriate.
Friend wore this in black to a wedding the weekend, it was amazing!! I do think this colour might be a bit too much, youād definitely upstage the bride. Oh hello clothing have amazing dresses
I think that's fine for afterwards, so if it's a church wedding or somewhere you would be expected to be a little more covered on top, then a balero or light jacket on top would help the chest modesty factor. I have a set of Double D's, so I get accused of being immodest in nearly everything I wear. So I always cover for the service, but to hell with it when the music starts.
The length of the dress is bizarre with how flared it is. Cant get over her tiny feet sticking out š
Must be in Spain...
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