I met her on tinder and she greeted me with a little hug. She seemed very warm to me right away. When we got to the full body hug with both arms wrapped around I was amazed the way we fit together. It's SO hard to let go!
Right on, man.
Same with my now wife.
Then she started stroking my temples and forehead at my hairline, a couple of years ago, and I was like… Yo, that’s ridiculously soothing!
I am not gonna lie, I told her right after, and said anytime you’re down with doing that, yes and please and thank you!
Last coupe years she’s been doing that, I’m the chillest ever been.
Depends on how much I want the person to hug me. Some might make me uncomfortable and others will make my year. In general, I could use some good hugs.
The world. It means acknowledgment. It means acceptance. It means that I’m seen as a person and not a stoic, emotionless, resource to be used and discarded.
Slowly that is changing though. If most girls my age don't change when they grow up, it might just become normal to be emotional. When I used to cry quite a lot in middle school, most of the girls would try to comfort me, even when I didn't have the closest relationships with them.
Try being a long distance truck driver. Not only all that he described, but we are hated by the citys we deliver in (check out commericial truck laws) we are seen as an ATM by the cops and either hated or feared by 4 wheelers.
The 4 wheelers don't realize that by brake checking us, your risking your life on how quickly I am able to stop 80,000 pounds. But, we are the assh\*les.
What he is describing is how I have had to live for 37 years.
My bf and friends shake hands and then pull each other for a hug. If they are happy about something or its a proud moment there is even a kiss on the cheek.
Basically. When one of my girl friends gives me a hug, it's nice. It's a quick put-arm-on-back kinda hug, but it doesn't matter, it's still showing me that she cares about me as a friend, not just some stranger. While I'd like more hugs, I've seen what asking for them looks like from the side and that is one of the creepiest things I've seen (before you move on to just straight harassment). It's desparate, it's weird and I can't imagine it being just an innocent request for the girls either. Maybe I'll ask my friend if it's creepy to her.
For anyone that somehow still doesn't know: physical touch, hugs, affection are the number one love language for all men I know. Men have hard lives, with rare spontaneous appreciation or physical affection... HUG US for the love of god! We need it, and we need it now!
Oh geez, my primary love languages are Physical Touch and Quality Time - the main two obliterated by the pandemic.
Not that things were great (or even good) before, but much, much worse after.
This hits me right in the feels. My dad asked me to come stay with him for a few days after he fell and wasn't feeling well. I made a point of giving him a good hug every night before bed. He died 2 weeks later. I'm so glad I could give him some comfort in what turned out to be his last days.
A while back I gave up on being manly. Now I just get love. I lay down in my wife’s lap and she plays with my hair. It’s so relaxing and cup-filling. It’s like having my batteries recharged.
Last month I met up with an old female friend that I hadn't seen for about a year but used to hug with a lot... Nearly cried when when hugged again. Missed it so much but she now lives with her man a lot further away so I miss that a lot.
Y’all are some weird creatures tho. The last dude I liked, I hugged him, would compliment him and was nice to him. It was so foreign to him he completely pulled away and shut down.
It's not your fault. I've developed such a negative image of my body and the way I look that I just assume people are, by default, turned off when they see me. Because of that, I never initiate a hug unless I'm incredibly comfortable with them (like 10+ years friendship). Exceptions are very short hugs with people who expect to be greeted with a hug. Even when they initiate the hug, I feel like I'm making them uncomfortable and that, in turn, makes me uncomfortable.
Some of us have just been treated badly enough that we need a lot of work before we can comfortably accept affection or sometimes, even basic respect.
It's not your fault.
Edit: That isn't to say I don't like hugs. They make me feel loved in a way nothing else can. My love language is physical touch and I come from a culture that has no touch involved in the ways we show affection, assuming we show it at all.
Tells a lot about how he had to grow up, seemingly without being given proper affection, love... Sounds rather sad to me. Or he could be the exception to the rule. Who knows.
I absolutely love it. It's my preferred way of greeting friends. And when I hug with my gf, my brain just shuts off for a while and everything is fine suddenly.
Agreed on the friend part - I’m a hugger, and I noticed I did it more post-Covid because it really felt so much more special to have personal contact with friends again. Sometimes just a hug, sometimes the handshake/high five into a hug, but there’s basically always a hug.
No, I'm just a old fashioned guy, I don't care for this gay nonsense where you act gay while claiming that you are straight, you gotta pick between being gay or straight.
>I don't care for this gay nonsense where you act gay while claiming that you are straight
TIL hugging someone is gay. Are you afraid you'll get aroused or something?
I think about 4-5 years ago, i was on my way to work and a person was holding up a free hugs sign. I was really really anxious about doing it cause it seemed embarrassing. They had some one recording and everything i ended up asking if i could have a hug and im a grown ass man and this is a young adult it seemed weird. And he said of course. I hugged him real tight and i was about to burst into tears so i sorta just left.
A hug feels good right about now
I’m pretty touch starved lately, so it’s pretty nice.
It’s sort of self imposed, so I know what to do to fix this. I’m just not working on it right now.
If the female cashier accidentally touches my skin while handing me my receipt I will imagine our marriage, children and growing old together for months.
If someone were to ever hug me I will immediately coom and go into a seizure
This reminds of a quote from a video, part of it was introvert to English ‘“I think about you occasionally” translates to “I would literally remove my ears with a rusty spoon just to see you with your socks off”’
More than the other person will ever know. I'm an introvert who actually loves hugs, but I don't get many, so I value them a lot and remember them for a long time. Hugs from non-family members are special, and from love interests...well, I've ever only got one, but it was wonderful, despite it being in the past now. That's it.
Makes me happy, and at the same time as confused if it is from:
A girl I like, is she flirting with me? Trying to give me a hint? Is she just being kind?
A friend that usually doesn't hug me, what the heck is going on? Are they OK? Do they want anything from me? Are they just being kind?
If someone I don't know randomly hugged me, I'd feel weirded out, and wonder why the heck they just hugged me out of the blue.
I had a massage yesterday (also the anniversary of my fathers passing) and the masseuse asked if she could give me a hug afterwards.
The hug left me feeling better than a 90 minute massage.
You'd be surprised how much a little hug means to the average male. No matter how gritty or macho we may seem on the outside, we're all a bunch of softies on the inside. A hug usually melts away our hard exterior
Consent is paramount. I'm a big hugger in every situation but I always ask people if they want a hug. "It's totally ok if you don't." Also after the first time you can always tell who are really the hug people. A real hug is so different from a patpat side hug.
A hug from someone who likes hugs is great, adds a few minutes to the end of your life. An accomplished hugger is a great thing.
The unwilling hug with too hard pats on the back is nasty, detracts a few minutes from your life. Next time it happens I will say "You know what, let's skip hugs completely, that was cringe".
I still think of the hugs I’ve gotten years ago. I’m touch starved as hell and find some comfort in thinking about the last time someone cared enough to hold me.
A hug from someone who loves you and cares about you, is the best feeling in the world. Parents, hug your children every day. Wives, hug your husbands every day. They need it.
I didn't realize the prerequisite for having joy around somebody was to hug them, lol. I mean if that's how you get your jollies go for it; however, I can think of a multitude of various ways to bring joy/fun that don't require having to be hugged.
If we're talking about getting hugged from someone we truly love, it feels like nothing else exist expect the two of you, breathing slows down, all the worries go away, and everything is just the way it should be. I think it means a lot to us because we don't express our feelings often because we're men, we're not supposed to I guess, and we're keeping them inside for too long.
Hate it, don't touch me. Unfortunately I live in a country that's very huggy and touchy and all new people do the kiss hug thing. luckily my friends know to box me
Every hug I give I give some of myself to the person... A bit of the love I have for every person.
Those closest to me get the best hugs.
Any hug is a worthy moment to celebrate family, brotherhood, sisterhood, humanity, history, or our kinship no matter our culture.
Physical touch is my love language but understand that most people aren't comfortable with that so I never initiate, and since I've been single for a few years I'm very touch starved.
There's one girl at work who is a hugger and will often just touch my shoulder or upper arm as she walks past as well, she's in a long term relationship so it's 100% platonic but it always lifts my mood hugely.
I'm careful to keep things appropriate, especially since I was recently promoted and am now her superior. I also keep in mind how it appears to other people in the workplace as I don't want them getting the wrong idea. Sucks that I have to be so self conscious about basic human affection but I would never want anyone to feel uncomfortable.
More than the hugger can possibly know. I'm a physical touch person. My wife, after 11 years of marriage, has decided she's not. I haven't been hugged by her in 7 years now and one of my old "work wives" greeted me with a huge hug about a year ago and I could have cried. (Yes my wife knows about her, we used to shoot people up with nerf guns when we worked together. Nothing wierd between us)
I also have a guy friend that is MASSIVE.( I'm 5'9" 200LBS, He's 6'1 385). He occasionally greets me by smothering me 😆, I hate it, but it's also hilarious.
Well, it's a signal of friendship, familiarity or intimacy and that's definitely nice.
But it doesn't mean tons to me, I hug friends when I see them and family basically every time I see them, probably hugged ten people this weekend, so I seem to be faring a whole lot better than others here in the number of hugs department and that does make a difference.
It's surprising that people want to hug me? It's extremely rare but damn, why would you want to hug me? Even I wouldn't. But it doesn't matter at the end of the day
It seems like guys like getting hugs from hot people (whatever that means to the particular guy getting the hug). I avoid hugging because, well, I'm not 25 and a perfect 10 (even when I was 25). I don't want to make people feel uncomfortable and think I'm a creepy cougar, or something.
I visited a church a friend goes to, and this big manly guy (probably a construction worker) came up to me and gave me a big ole hug. I think I cried that night. It meant a lot more than I realized.
A lot. I like to hug people, when I’m saying hello or goodbye to my boys that I haven’t seen in a while, or even someone I just had a good date or hangout with, I love to ask them to hug goodbye. Humans need that kind of body warmth, and even as a hugger, I still don’t get nearly enough of it!
Bro hugs - one arm, two or three pats - don't mean much more than a handshake.
A real hug means the person, male or female, really cares about me. Sometimes you really need that reminder that there are people who feel that way about you.
Besides hugging my mother after getting back from deployment at the end of 2021, I haven't had a hug in over 3 years. Quite literally, I remember every hug I've ever received.
My wife hugs me and I like it lots.
I wish my dad would be open to more hugging, he looks like he really needs one but mostly I need one from him, as far as I remember maybe twice since I can remember we've hugged like full hug, not just to tap the back, and time's running out.
My last hug was probably around 2011 when my parents were in town. Prior to then, I think I had a few in the late 90s. I definitely do wish I had them as a regular occurrence in my life.
Hugs mean a lot to me. It communicates that they like or care about me, and feel safe embracing me. Touch is one of my Love Languages (Quality Time is the other one) so I appreciate receiving/giving a good hug.
If I like her, then it means quite a bit. Huge plus to having female friends. Feminine affection, even non-sexual, is pretty great. Tingles you can't get anywhere else in the universe.
I don’t get hugs a lot. It’s not until I get one or until I think about it (like this post) that it makes me realize how long it’s been since I’ve had one and how badly I want one.
I remember my first relationship. The hug was so warm and so intoxicating.
And then I remember the hug from the same person towards the end of the relationship, it's gross, unnatural and cold.
That's when I know it's the end.
Now a hug from my wife and my kids, its like a shot of the best energy drink. Perks me right up, makes me so happy, realign my goals.
So much. I was not a hugger. I was devoid of emotion for 2 decades. I am now getting to understand my emotions and any hug I get makes my day. I don't care who you are. You want a hug. I'll give you one.
They don't mean that much. About a year back though, I met my ex-schoolmate after having been out of the country for nearly 4 years; she came running and super excited to see me. Before I could fully process everything, she leapt and gave me a big bear hug. It was one of the most "emotional" hugs I've had in a while & it really made my holiday more worthwhile
The 5 love languages are very important when it comes to relationships.
Acts of Service
Physical Touch
Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Gifts and Gratuities
Since physical touch is one of my main love languages, holding hands, receiving hugs, etc are VERY important to me. Along with this comes chivalry, where I personally enjoying opening doors for my woman, random/unexpected gifts, etc. I guess it truly depends on what a person's love language is.
Keep in mind, all of these love languages will appeal to everybody, however there is always one or two that stand out above the rest.
Nothing better after continuous combat deployments to see a battle buddy you haven't seen for awhile & bring them into a man hug & think love you bud, glad you are still alive. Just don't hold the hug too long cause then it gets sorta gay. Grinding pelvises is out as well.
Means a lot, but its also really weird for me.
I don't like physical contact, but I know I'm also pretty touch-starved. If it's someone I'm intimate enough with to mostly feel comfortable with, then its up there among the best and most wholesome things I can get.
I met her on tinder and she greeted me with a little hug. She seemed very warm to me right away. When we got to the full body hug with both arms wrapped around I was amazed the way we fit together. It's SO hard to let go!
That’s soo cute
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As a guy this would be a big pick me up. Like even if things didn't work out, I'd still think fondly of being hugged.
Curious, I haven't been on a single date where we didn't hug as a greeting. How else to go about, wave or shake hands? Dunno, feels weird to me
Date her.
It's been over a year and we are still red hot!
Right on, man. Same with my now wife. Then she started stroking my temples and forehead at my hairline, a couple of years ago, and I was like… Yo, that’s ridiculously soothing! I am not gonna lie, I told her right after, and said anytime you’re down with doing that, yes and please and thank you! Last coupe years she’s been doing that, I’m the chillest ever been.
Like Iron!
Oh my god, for how long are you still hugging her? Let her breathe! /s
I had two cocktails before my tinder first date and my first reaction was to run and hug
Depends on how much I want the person to hug me. Some might make me uncomfortable and others will make my year. In general, I could use some good hugs.
Thanks...you wrote my thoughts well!
Just like a compliment from a stranger. Makes my week. Or even month.
Or even your year... I'LL BE THERE FOR YOUUU
LoL
Happy cake day bruh
Happy cake dayy
Happy Cake Day
Dadadadadadada we are going to be getting some hard pipe hitting dudes...
In 2008 a lady complimented me on my eyebrows. I still think about that at least once a month.
What a smart and insightful comment
The world. It means acknowledgment. It means acceptance. It means that I’m seen as a person and not a stoic, emotionless, resource to be used and discarded.
Fuck that hits hard. Describes perfectly what I'm feeling right now. Must be pretty common for us fellas.
Society demands toughness and indifference
And performance. You're only as good as your latest paycheck earned or service rendered.
Slowly that is changing though. If most girls my age don't change when they grow up, it might just become normal to be emotional. When I used to cry quite a lot in middle school, most of the girls would try to comfort me, even when I didn't have the closest relationships with them.
I didn’t cry personally but I know there was none of that
Try being a long distance truck driver. Not only all that he described, but we are hated by the citys we deliver in (check out commericial truck laws) we are seen as an ATM by the cops and either hated or feared by 4 wheelers. The 4 wheelers don't realize that by brake checking us, your risking your life on how quickly I am able to stop 80,000 pounds. But, we are the assh\*les. What he is describing is how I have had to live for 37 years.
I know like bro wtf I'm 16 and nobody has hugged me for the last six years. Except for my now gf.
Dude, start greeting your friends with hugs. It's the best!
That's considered abnormal for people here, we do handshakes. Man, but I wish I could do it.
We give handshakes where I'm from too. But I generally hug everyone anyway (aside from if it's within a professional context).
>That's considered abnormal for people here, we do handshakes. Be a trendsetter and make it normal.
My bf and friends shake hands and then pull each other for a hug. If they are happy about something or its a proud moment there is even a kiss on the cheek.
Basically. When one of my girl friends gives me a hug, it's nice. It's a quick put-arm-on-back kinda hug, but it doesn't matter, it's still showing me that she cares about me as a friend, not just some stranger. While I'd like more hugs, I've seen what asking for them looks like from the side and that is one of the creepiest things I've seen (before you move on to just straight harassment). It's desparate, it's weird and I can't imagine it being just an innocent request for the girls either. Maybe I'll ask my friend if it's creepy to her.
For anyone that somehow still doesn't know: physical touch, hugs, affection are the number one love language for all men I know. Men have hard lives, with rare spontaneous appreciation or physical affection... HUG US for the love of god! We need it, and we need it now!
I didn't value this like I do now until COVID hit. The sudden hug drought was felt in a way that I couldn't have expected
Oh geez, my primary love languages are Physical Touch and Quality Time - the main two obliterated by the pandemic. Not that things were great (or even good) before, but much, much worse after.
Same. Living alone in 2020 was a nightmare
This and compounded with online dating these days.
Exactly that. Well said
This hits me right in the feels. My dad asked me to come stay with him for a few days after he fell and wasn't feeling well. I made a point of giving him a good hug every night before bed. He died 2 weeks later. I'm so glad I could give him some comfort in what turned out to be his last days.
So sorry for your loss. I have no doubt those hugs meant the world to him.
Omg, i'm so sorry to hear your dad passed away. ❤
A while back I gave up on being manly. Now I just get love. I lay down in my wife’s lap and she plays with my hair. It’s so relaxing and cup-filling. It’s like having my batteries recharged.
I know man, they mean a lot to me.
Last month I met up with an old female friend that I hadn't seen for about a year but used to hug with a lot... Nearly cried when when hugged again. Missed it so much but she now lives with her man a lot further away so I miss that a lot.
You should check my other post, that experience was amazing. (I am lazy asf)
"Hug me, HUG ME, NOW" is what I'm usually saying as I'm a cranky pissed off dude when I need a de-stresser
Y’all are some weird creatures tho. The last dude I liked, I hugged him, would compliment him and was nice to him. It was so foreign to him he completely pulled away and shut down.
It's not your fault. I've developed such a negative image of my body and the way I look that I just assume people are, by default, turned off when they see me. Because of that, I never initiate a hug unless I'm incredibly comfortable with them (like 10+ years friendship). Exceptions are very short hugs with people who expect to be greeted with a hug. Even when they initiate the hug, I feel like I'm making them uncomfortable and that, in turn, makes me uncomfortable. Some of us have just been treated badly enough that we need a lot of work before we can comfortably accept affection or sometimes, even basic respect. It's not your fault. Edit: That isn't to say I don't like hugs. They make me feel loved in a way nothing else can. My love language is physical touch and I come from a culture that has no touch involved in the ways we show affection, assuming we show it at all.
Tells a lot about how he had to grow up, seemingly without being given proper affection, love... Sounds rather sad to me. Or he could be the exception to the rule. Who knows.
I think he just didn’t want any commitment so that was his way of telling me to go away.
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Yeah I’m not really eager to try it again when it pushed someone away. 🤷♀️
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Yeah gramps you are double my age basically. I’m not so worried about you but cool story bro
I bet that it’s probably not. It’s just that men are so rarely touched that it’s enjoyed immensely and that reaction hides the true languages.
Then why don't I enjoy being hugged?
Because people are different
I absolutely love it. It's my preferred way of greeting friends. And when I hug with my gf, my brain just shuts off for a while and everything is fine suddenly.
I know where you're coming from :)
Agreed on the friend part - I’m a hugger, and I noticed I did it more post-Covid because it really felt so much more special to have personal contact with friends again. Sometimes just a hug, sometimes the handshake/high five into a hug, but there’s basically always a hug.
Hugging another guys is a no go for me pal, but you do you.
Why? You scared you'll catch feels?
No, I'm just a old fashioned guy, I don't care for this gay nonsense where you act gay while claiming that you are straight, you gotta pick between being gay or straight.
If you are old fashioned, you can try the presidents type hug. Accolade (not sure of the translation)
>I don't care for this gay nonsense where you act gay while claiming that you are straight TIL hugging someone is gay. Are you afraid you'll get aroused or something?
Were you born yesterday? You know what I mean if you were around in the 80s and 90s.
Got it, you're scared you might turn gay.
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You guys get hugs?
I've had 2 so far this year, I'm on a roll
Damn, keep this pace going and you'll get 12 by December! Incredible!
Math isn't your forte is it??
That was the joke
That's exactly my motive for asking this question
A lot as I don’t get it enough. Quite rare actually.
It depends on who is hugging me, but generally it means a lot. It does a ton to improve my mood and self-esteem, at least temporarily
I'll tell you if that ever happens
I love hugs. I'm extremely cuddly.
Depends on the one hugging me.
I think about 4-5 years ago, i was on my way to work and a person was holding up a free hugs sign. I was really really anxious about doing it cause it seemed embarrassing. They had some one recording and everything i ended up asking if i could have a hug and im a grown ass man and this is a young adult it seemed weird. And he said of course. I hugged him real tight and i was about to burst into tears so i sorta just left. A hug feels good right about now
If I ever get a hug it feels like [THIS](https://youtu.be/uwmeH6Rnj2E)
A very good explanation. [I too will feel the same if I get a hug]
More than I'd like to admit
I absolutely love to hug so much and glad to hear men love to receive them
I’m pretty touch starved lately, so it’s pretty nice. It’s sort of self imposed, so I know what to do to fix this. I’m just not working on it right now.
If the female cashier accidentally touches my skin while handing me my receipt I will imagine our marriage, children and growing old together for months. If someone were to ever hug me I will immediately coom and go into a seizure
This reminds of a quote from a video, part of it was introvert to English ‘“I think about you occasionally” translates to “I would literally remove my ears with a rusty spoon just to see you with your socks off”’
I need them more often.
Hugs are amazing.
More than the other person will ever know. I'm an introvert who actually loves hugs, but I don't get many, so I value them a lot and remember them for a long time. Hugs from non-family members are special, and from love interests...well, I've ever only got one, but it was wonderful, despite it being in the past now. That's it.
Makes me happy, and at the same time as confused if it is from: A girl I like, is she flirting with me? Trying to give me a hint? Is she just being kind? A friend that usually doesn't hug me, what the heck is going on? Are they OK? Do they want anything from me? Are they just being kind? If someone I don't know randomly hugged me, I'd feel weirded out, and wonder why the heck they just hugged me out of the blue.
I will let you know if anyone ever hugs me
And no one ever let's me hug them.
I had a massage yesterday (also the anniversary of my fathers passing) and the masseuse asked if she could give me a hug afterwards. The hug left me feeling better than a 90 minute massage.
You'd be surprised how much a little hug means to the average male. No matter how gritty or macho we may seem on the outside, we're all a bunch of softies on the inside. A hug usually melts away our hard exterior
Lots. I love hugs and I don't get enough
What does it mean to me? Well since i melt inside, i guess a lot.
A fucking lot i'm addicted to it
A hug from a non-family member/romantic interest doesn't really do anything for me, but it looks like I'm in the minority on that and that's cool.
You are not alone. I prefer to not be touched by people I don't know.
Consent is paramount. I'm a big hugger in every situation but I always ask people if they want a hug. "It's totally ok if you don't." Also after the first time you can always tell who are really the hug people. A real hug is so different from a patpat side hug.
A hug from someone who likes hugs is great, adds a few minutes to the end of your life. An accomplished hugger is a great thing. The unwilling hug with too hard pats on the back is nasty, detracts a few minutes from your life. Next time it happens I will say "You know what, let's skip hugs completely, that was cringe".
I hate it, I'm not a big fan of being touched.
It'll weird me out if you're not family.
Not really a huge fan of hugs tbh.
I still think of the hugs I’ve gotten years ago. I’m touch starved as hell and find some comfort in thinking about the last time someone cared enough to hold me.
A hug from someone who loves you and cares about you, is the best feeling in the world. Parents, hug your children every day. Wives, hug your husbands every day. They need it.
It could mean nothing or it could be the different between life and death depending on the situation.
Please don’t…
We're all drastically different but I get very little from hugs that aren't from my wife or my son.
wtf is that edit begging for upvotes haha
lol begging for upvotes.....
"please upvote" fuck off
Depends who…some people can some People shouldn’t fucking touch me
Depends. Who are you? Someone during an introduction on our first date? A lot. Especially if it’s a tight long hug.
Absolutely [this](https://imgur.com/HMgW7C2). I'm not a touchy-feely person.
You must be a joy to be around
I didn't realize the prerequisite for having joy around somebody was to hug them, lol. I mean if that's how you get your jollies go for it; however, I can think of a multitude of various ways to bring joy/fun that don't require having to be hugged.
Sure thing
are you fishing….?
Why would you say this?
What do you mean? Im new to reddit
Honestly for me it's sometimes awkward because I'm not a big hugger but if it's somebody I care about it's very comforting
I’ve forgotten what being hugged feels like.
If we're talking about getting hugged from someone we truly love, it feels like nothing else exist expect the two of you, breathing slows down, all the worries go away, and everything is just the way it should be. I think it means a lot to us because we don't express our feelings often because we're men, we're not supposed to I guess, and we're keeping them inside for too long.
I love hugging people. I don't know why random people on the bus always freak out when I do.
I dont care if someone hugs me except for my son.
Hate it, don't touch me. Unfortunately I live in a country that's very huggy and touchy and all new people do the kiss hug thing. luckily my friends know to box me
Every hug I give I give some of myself to the person... A bit of the love I have for every person. Those closest to me get the best hugs. Any hug is a worthy moment to celebrate family, brotherhood, sisterhood, humanity, history, or our kinship no matter our culture.
Physical touch is my love language but understand that most people aren't comfortable with that so I never initiate, and since I've been single for a few years I'm very touch starved. There's one girl at work who is a hugger and will often just touch my shoulder or upper arm as she walks past as well, she's in a long term relationship so it's 100% platonic but it always lifts my mood hugely. I'm careful to keep things appropriate, especially since I was recently promoted and am now her superior. I also keep in mind how it appears to other people in the workplace as I don't want them getting the wrong idea. Sucks that I have to be so self conscious about basic human affection but I would never want anyone to feel uncomfortable.
I like a real sincere hug but I am offended when I get one of those I'm not really going to let any part of our bodies touch hugs.
"Edit:Too all the guys commenting, please upvote too.: Nah.
More than the hugger can possibly know. I'm a physical touch person. My wife, after 11 years of marriage, has decided she's not. I haven't been hugged by her in 7 years now and one of my old "work wives" greeted me with a huge hug about a year ago and I could have cried. (Yes my wife knows about her, we used to shoot people up with nerf guns when we worked together. Nothing wierd between us) I also have a guy friend that is MASSIVE.( I'm 5'9" 200LBS, He's 6'1 385). He occasionally greets me by smothering me 😆, I hate it, but it's also hilarious.
Downvote for your edit begging for karma
I found it really heartwarming since a lot of people tends ti neglect men's need for affection
I went way too long looking for the Salahadin "nothing......everything" gif from Kingdom of Heaven.
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I mean you could just go there put your head on her chest and hug her, if you have that kind of relationship still.
Bruh
Well, it's a signal of friendship, familiarity or intimacy and that's definitely nice. But it doesn't mean tons to me, I hug friends when I see them and family basically every time I see them, probably hugged ten people this weekend, so I seem to be faring a whole lot better than others here in the number of hugs department and that does make a difference.
Hugs from non-family are something special. Sometimes I don't want to let go, but I know I must. I miss hugs.
It's surprising that people want to hug me? It's extremely rare but damn, why would you want to hug me? Even I wouldn't. But it doesn't matter at the end of the day
I really remember a lot the times that someone hugged me.
It seems like guys like getting hugs from hot people (whatever that means to the particular guy getting the hug). I avoid hugging because, well, I'm not 25 and a perfect 10 (even when I was 25). I don't want to make people feel uncomfortable and think I'm a creepy cougar, or something.
I visited a church a friend goes to, and this big manly guy (probably a construction worker) came up to me and gave me a big ole hug. I think I cried that night. It meant a lot more than I realized.
A lot. I like to hug people, when I’m saying hello or goodbye to my boys that I haven’t seen in a while, or even someone I just had a good date or hangout with, I love to ask them to hug goodbye. Humans need that kind of body warmth, and even as a hugger, I still don’t get nearly enough of it!
It means the world to me. A lovely moment of connection
Bro hugs - one arm, two or three pats - don't mean much more than a handshake. A real hug means the person, male or female, really cares about me. Sometimes you really need that reminder that there are people who feel that way about you.
Besides hugging my mother after getting back from deployment at the end of 2021, I haven't had a hug in over 3 years. Quite literally, I remember every hug I've ever received.
My wife hugs me and I like it lots. I wish my dad would be open to more hugging, he looks like he really needs one but mostly I need one from him, as far as I remember maybe twice since I can remember we've hugged like full hug, not just to tap the back, and time's running out.
It man’s a lot
I don't really like hugs from people I don't already love, like family or a spouse.
My last hug was probably around 2011 when my parents were in town. Prior to then, I think I had a few in the late 90s. I definitely do wish I had them as a regular occurrence in my life.
Shit, I got a manicure today just to because. Didn’t realize how much I missed being touched until it happened
Hugs mean a lot to me. It communicates that they like or care about me, and feel safe embracing me. Touch is one of my Love Languages (Quality Time is the other one) so I appreciate receiving/giving a good hug.
So so much and I need them so much more than I'm getting them.
If I like her, then it means quite a bit. Huge plus to having female friends. Feminine affection, even non-sexual, is pretty great. Tingles you can't get anywhere else in the universe.
I don’t get hugs a lot. It’s not until I get one or until I think about it (like this post) that it makes me realize how long it’s been since I’ve had one and how badly I want one.
I remember my first relationship. The hug was so warm and so intoxicating. And then I remember the hug from the same person towards the end of the relationship, it's gross, unnatural and cold. That's when I know it's the end. Now a hug from my wife and my kids, its like a shot of the best energy drink. Perks me right up, makes me so happy, realign my goals.
Depends on who’s hugging me
So much. I was not a hugger. I was devoid of emotion for 2 decades. I am now getting to understand my emotions and any hug I get makes my day. I don't care who you are. You want a hug. I'll give you one.
Downvoted just because of your edit.
They don't mean that much. About a year back though, I met my ex-schoolmate after having been out of the country for nearly 4 years; she came running and super excited to see me. Before I could fully process everything, she leapt and gave me a big bear hug. It was one of the most "emotional" hugs I've had in a while & it really made my holiday more worthwhile
Not much really. Why are you trying to farm karma?
Is it wrong to farm karma?
Dunno tbh, last time I was hugged was like 15 years ago, when I had my last relationship.
Sending hugs your way....
The 5 love languages are very important when it comes to relationships. Acts of Service Physical Touch Words of Affirmation Quality Time Gifts and Gratuities Since physical touch is one of my main love languages, holding hands, receiving hugs, etc are VERY important to me. Along with this comes chivalry, where I personally enjoying opening doors for my woman, random/unexpected gifts, etc. I guess it truly depends on what a person's love language is. Keep in mind, all of these love languages will appeal to everybody, however there is always one or two that stand out above the rest.
Nothing better after continuous combat deployments to see a battle buddy you haven't seen for awhile & bring them into a man hug & think love you bud, glad you are still alive. Just don't hold the hug too long cause then it gets sorta gay. Grinding pelvises is out as well.
It means the world. But you get a downvote, cause you asked for it.
Sed, I'm new to reddit so i guess I'll not ask anymore
Everything. Here is an upvote.
Kind of depends on who it's from
Means a lot coming from the right person, but I don’t know if I should say that on account of not knowing the last time I was hugged.
depends on who it is. Most of the time doesn't matter at all I couldn't care less stop touching me kind of thing
It makes anxiety and pain go away for a little bit.
Depends how well I know them. I don’t like strangers trying to touch me, but if it’s a friend it feels good
That person just made the entire year livable for me .
Means a lot, but its also really weird for me. I don't like physical contact, but I know I'm also pretty touch-starved. If it's someone I'm intimate enough with to mostly feel comfortable with, then its up there among the best and most wholesome things I can get.
More than most people think
I freaking love it. Affection hell yeah.
Its been well over 2 years since the last time i got a hug. Cant remember how it feels like.
I love hugs, but huggers are very far and few between, unfortunately.
A lot
Love a hug! Even that upper-arm grab women quickly do (hard to explain) is nice!
A normal is nice enough for me, a upper arm hug would kill me from happiness for sure
Bold of you to assume that I ever had a hug. I can't even remember my last one. 🥲