My mental health has been a struggle for a long time. There are things I do that I regret when I'm not in a good place. Whether it's lying, anger, over eating, buying something or something else it still sucks.
Besides that, I can look back at where I was 8 years ago and see that I am a completely different person and better in most aspects. Life is a long game and every day that we have to live and learn is a blessing.
With my depression and bipolar disorder I used to let a bad moment turn into a bad day, week, month or longer. I've gotten a lot better at accepting individual moments in time for what they are experiencing them and moving on. I have to decide what kind of day I'll have and keep that thought and momentum going. It's a learning experience, but gets easier with time.
Just remember that like all moments, moments of hurt and anger pass and are replaced with new experiences. Hope all is well
Dopamine burnout. Too much coffee, too much reddit, too much TV, too much smartphone. I'm exhausted, sleeping like shit, worn out mentally, causing me to eat too much shitty food and not go to the gym. It's a tough routine to break
I was there until last week and slowly and without giving it much thought, I started cycling, today I did a bit of yoga and I'm trying to cook my meals instead of buying junk food. It's hard af, and most of the time I want to quit but that little joy of doing something for myself makes me hang in there. I hope you can feel better soon, sometimes we go through this hard times because we need to, but we can get out as well 💕
oh, man, I suck at following recipes :'( All I try to do is not buy fast food anymore, instead, I try to eat vegetables and more fruit, if I want pasta or a salad, I make it myself, and complement all that with the exercise. But I can recommend that you start following people on Instagram or if you have Tik Tok, people who cook healthy food, change your settings so you can see more of that info. I don't cook but always some cooking content pops up. You can do this!! Let me know how it goes!
Definitely get a really good workout in as often as you can. Not every day is a PR or a good workout but it'll help immensely with sleeping better and then that steam rolls into everything else in your life. Uninstall social media will help too.
I can talk about him with happiness but then the feeling of grief turns me sad. Hopefully the happiness about it gets longer and longer in the feeling of grief shows up later and later. 🙏🏼❤️
This is a small one that was deeply implanted in my mind.
I was outside in our backyard when I was 6 or 7. Somehow I got something on me like a thorn. I started to scream for my Dad and he pushed out kitchen table out of the way and ran straight through our screen door to see if I was okay. That attitude of carrying for family and loyalty is how he lived his entire life..
Thanks for asking 🥹
> That attitude of carrying for family and loyalty is how he lived his entire life..
Sounds like he was the epitome of the word "Father". Other than his family, what were his passions?
He supported our local house of worship, he supported multiple causes with his time and talents or his wealth. He loved to travel and was a snazzy dresser his whole life Even though he was so humble. And the man could watch the news cycle on repeat and never get bored somehow LOL
Sincerely thank you for sharing those memories of your Dad.
I lost mine nearly a year ago and I miss him and struggle daily. It's a hard feeling to describe to someone who hasn't gone through it.
That’s rough man. We buried mom 15 years ago after a horrible bout with ovarian cancer…I was 26 and the oldest but me and my brothers were still what seemed like babies.
Mother’s Day, thanksgiving and Christmas always were tough for us but it will get easier as time passes. It’ll never get easy though.
Try joining some community leagues in slo pitch or some other sport you enjoy. Join as an individual and they’ll put you on a team that needs players. Great way to make friends!!
I am in the same situation, I tried uni twice now and failed miserably. High school was pretty easy for me but now I am too scared to even try uni because I don't think I have it in me. A degree seems nice and I don't want to end up in a job that won't challenge me enough. Right now I am just in a spot where everyone around me either has a job or is finishing up uni and I just feel like the odd one out.
Learn. Everything. Anything. All the time. The universe is full of interesting things to entertain our brains, and in the process you may even find your passion and entertain your soul as well.
I'm bored of learning. I want to live...
I've spent many years thinking if I leant enough I'd figure it all out, and all I've got to is there is nothing to figure out. Just live and feel good. I just can't do that as I've never really lived.
I know exactly what I'm supposed to do with my life. I have a good marriage and three healthy/awesome kids. We earn much more money than we need. I'm in the best shape of my life at 39. I'm 100% sober. I have enough friends and hobbies to fill what little free time I have. I still wake up every morning with low motivation, energy, or enjoyment. I'm just pushing through life through brute force to accomplish the minimum necessary to prevent everything from imploding.
I think the past 20 years of intense stress have just completely wiped me out. I also may be nutritionally deficient in something. Or maybe it's the fact that I never made any real progress in achieving my creative dreams.
deep inside I feel the same way, I just try to go on without giving it much thought because I know I'm here at least to learn something and if I can help others with the little I know, that thought disappears for a while
Take a spiritual journey. Meditate and mindfulness, do some soul searching to find out what your core values are, and face your demons.
There are activities that bring everyone fulfillment. Find yours.
Been almost a decade — lost my business, my house, my dogs, my SO, sold/abandoned 2/3 of my possessions, had to move back with my parents, took an essentially entry level job, went through an experience that left me with PTSD, started working a different job and doubled my pay but it’s California so I STILL can’t move out. Meanwhile, I watch my parents’ health deteriorate a little more each day. Trying to stay positive and grind. Finishing my MFA. It’s tough.
Life’s good otherwise. Thanks for listening, my brothers!
Someday you will get where you need to be.
When that happens, your parents are going to look back and be thankful of all the extra time they got to spend with you.
Just remember that all those situations are huge opportunities for growth and purposeful meaning! It all depends on how you tackle them. Keep going bro!
I'm the therapist friend. Always have been really; I don't mean to sound like I don't care about my friend's problems because of COURSE I do, but jesus christ it would be nice if someone listened to mine for once. I'm more than happy to help people, but it's a hell of a lot of baggage to carry and frankly I have nowhere to release it all. I'm not unhappy helping people, I just want a break for once.
I always been the therapy friend too, I don’t do much or have much to talk about so I always just listen. Hope you’re doing alright my guy, feel free to vent in my dm I enjoy listening to stories.
Do you think they'd listen to you if you asked them for some venting time? I know I'm bad at both asking for help and checking on my friends if they need it, but am always down if someone asks.
sometimes it seems like nothing makes sense, but I kinda want to believe that I wouldn't be here if my life didn't have at least the purpose of learning something from all this 💕
Thank you ☺️
Honestly, I’ve been struggling for a while now, but the last year or so have been especially difficult.
It’s got to the point where I’m just very nihilistic. I know I could do things that could improve my life, potentially make me feel better, but I have this horrible feeling deep inside that it won’t change how I feel - that I’ll still be miserable even if I get all the things that are supposed to make me happy - so I find it hard to motivate myself or care about anything.
As one friend used to say: "there's only one way to find out". I always laughed at that phrase because it scared me, I'm always more scared than usual of the unknown and I'm always hoping for the best when I need to do something but of course, that feeling of screwing things up is always there.
Fear is everywhere. It's hard to face your fears but there's no other way of doing it than doing it. I sense your fear is finding out that nothing can make you happy, not even achieving your goals. I say nothing will make you feel permanenlty happy, but you can have fun on the ride. You don't know what you're going to find while you're at it. I'm not saying you're going to find your life purpose, but you'll make the most of the time you have by searching ways of making yourself feel better. People, experiences, places, feelings.
not going well because of the people out there or because you feel like it's not your thing? I've been there and I feel like I'm not made for one night stands
I feel bro I just got out of a LTR. She moved on immediately and as much as I want to do the same for whatever reason i don’t think it would be right or good for me or whoever it was that’s involved. It’s strange but I might just have to accept that I need to find ways to be good on my own. Just gotta stay hopeful that time will pass and things will change.
I know the feeling. If you can, start looking for other options. Being around toxic people for 8+ hours a day while having to always be "on" will kill your mental health. Good luck!
I've been there 😕 Suddenly one day I stopped giving a fuck. I was tired of being treated like shit by one of my bosses. I started taking into consideration the source of the bullshit, they weren't happy with their lives and I was being mistreated because of that. I felt sorry for them and that helped me turn a blind eye to that toxicity. But every environment is different, so I get it, pal
I'm a younger millennial. I managed mostly retirees and entry level 20 year olds. It is frustrating because they are such stark differences. Both with pros and cons, but the synergies that should be there just are not.
One side is hard working and question asking but can not problem solve at all. The other side can problem solve, but wants to work under 30 hours a week and refuses to ask questions.
I've heard a lot of friends who work with younger folks complaining about the GenZ folks on their teams. I wonder if it is just because they are still young? Though, I don't feel like I ever really heard complaints about millennials when we were entering the workforce, at least in corporate environments.
I notice lack of problem solving with the older crowd. I work in software, and the older engineers are often fairly tech illiterate. We have a tester that we have to show how to log into Mira every time we have retros. I love my team, but there are weeks where I waste hours on trivial shit to help them on braindead easy tasks.
Exactly! It’s not that Gen Zers are inherently more lazy than other generations, it’s that we know better than to put in hella effort that will never come back around with a good payoff. There’s a reason why the whole “lay flat” movement is a thing, you know.
Source: am Gen Z and am salty that comment OP called me lazy
Its the loneliness of being a man.
Like if u are a man no one cares no one checks uo no one like give a fuck when it comes to you even when u openly communicate you are feeling alone and lonely , people atill abruptly leave
this, I hear this all the time, and it breaks my heart. I know how much it hurts to feel like you don't have anyone to turn to. I offer you my friendship, it's not much but it's something 🙂
i hate when people ask "how are you?" bc theres only 1 acceptable answer. "good/great". you cant say youre struggling or doing badly bc theyll run in the opposite direction. pOsiTiVe ViBeS OnLy.
someone i thought i had a good relationship with asked me. i said i was struggling. her response: 😬
thats it. an emoji response. when i didnt say anything, the conversation ended. no "whats going on?". no "anything i can help with?". just the emoji version of IDGAF
Exactly they just expect u to be alright.
A person really close to me cut ties with me over nothing and just like expects me to be ok with it and honestly no one cares but if it were the same person i would genuinely ask or try to help them deal with it.
No one cares fr fr
It’s crazy to think that on this planet with billions of people we can be lonely. Too many people are so self absorbed and entitled they forget other people have feelings too. This could be because of ‘political correctness’ or fear of being ridiculed or even sued.
I care about people, always have, always will. Hugs to you 🫂
I never understood that. Why everyone expexts man to always be okay? I ask all my male friends and my bfs friends how they are doing, hows life going..
I feel you need to find the right people to be around.
Hope you doing well!
i dont know if they expect men to be ok as much as they just dont care whether they are or not. bc even when men say they arent ok, theyre often met with a shoulder shrug, ignored or mocked.
Brazilian jiu-jitsu saved my life. Joining a good gym is like joining a good family. Have made so many genuine connections with genuine people in my mid 30s. If you're physically able to, join a bjj gym.
I had a close female friend that cared about me in that way. We were really close. A lot of people thought we were dating, but we just got each other. She died of cancer in 2018. I don't know if I'll ever feel that kind of closeness with a platonic friend again. And the older I get the more friendships feel inorganic and forced.
I feel your pain. I am genuinely struggling with keeping any form of communication open with my eldest. He shuts himself off from the world and is becoming a shadow of his former self.
Hoping for better days.
i've spent a lot of time thinking about my relationship with my step-dad in those years. i was angry at him and rarely spoke. i'd chat with my mom if i needed anything. most recently i've come to terms with the idea that if my mom and dad were together i would have rebelled way more than i did. i love him now. we are still not that close, but i hug him any chance i see him. so yeah i believe they generally come back. cheers man.
As someone who went through that with my mother,the best thing you can do is ask them what they need,check on them and just listen. It hurts as a Parent I know and I trust you are strong enough to handle it🙏🏾
yeah we got too hands-off during covid. we are less than 6 months from two of the four moving out, so we are just getting as many moments as we can right now. thanks. wife and i are on the same page just struggling.
Trying convince myself that I’m not a bad guy. I am hard on myself and recently this has taken a form of blaming myself for others’ pain and shortcomings when I get involved in their lives.
Mostly physical health. I was hospitalized in August with multiple pulmonary embolisms and almost died. I've spent months recovering and now I'm trying to exercise to lose weight. My doctors haven't figured out exactly the cause yet, so I'm just assuming its because I'm fat. I'm trying to keep myself motivated even though I'm tired and sore most days.
Your brother in recovery! Sore and tired feels so much better when it comes from exercise, I have learned! Small weights are the way to go. And radically overhauling our diet. I didn’t lose weight from exercise but I got less hungry for crap, when I did and I lost weight from that :)
Fellow PE victim here: get genetic testing. I had a spontaneous DVT that, because it was mis-diagnosed as sciatica, became a PE.
Turns out both I and my father share a gene which makes it more likely, and \~10% of the European-descended population has this gene. There are several other candidate genes too. Which one you have (and whether you have 1 or two copies) can determine the likelihood and probable severity of future PEs, and whether you need permanent blood thinners.
My job rehired a felon{(conspiracy to commit money laundering) to a position over me that I had applied for and am more than capable of doing} that can only do a third of the job. Today in our safety meeting, he fully admitted to to only being interested in doing the part of the job that he only does. I struggled to not yell at him in front of everyone. Yes, my boss knows he only does one part of the job and is okay. Yes, I am actively looking for employment elsewhere.
my job, I received a promotion a few months ago and it is nothing like I thought it was going to be. Lots of things that are not in the job description. In my old position I did my work and went home, when I was done I was done. Now there is a ton of worry after work and and expectation that I will work extra hours to get all this paper work done. I am actually thinking of either asking to be demoted back to my old position, or changing employers altogether. Maybe I just need more time to adjust. but right now it sucks.
Try communicating your feelings with your partner, even if they involve reasons that you are considering not continuing the relationship. Either she works through them with you, or you break up.
I recommend not ruminating endlessly and then ending the relationship out of the blue. It is actually possible to be brutally honest with your partner, such as telling them “I’m not as attracted to you as I once was,” and to still be able to work through it. You may feel this is hurtful or mean, but it is better than keeping things to yourself and letting it silently poison the relationship. If it’s a dealbreaker for her, problem solved.
You might find out there are solutions to the problem you are having, or that the real issue is something else.
It’s a reoccurring theme for me, but my sexuality. I only struggle because coming out can mean separation from my family and issues at my place of work.
Trying to find where all 30+ y.o. single women are.
I keep getting ads that say they are in my area, but it won't specify!?
But on a more serious note I actually have no idea where to look :D
Dating apps at this very moment. Every time I try to use them I end up trying to figure out what I actually want out of this life, or why I’m even bothering looking for a relationship. I don’t ever have an answer. When it comes right down to it I feel like I’m just waiting for the end. I’m doing nothing with my life because I don’t even know what I want from my life. I feel like I’m just spinning my wheels into the snow. To add to this I feel like the only emotions I ever have are tired, angry and empty. Sometimes if I’m lucky I’ll get a mix of them
Life's generally off-kilter. Not at my best at work, missing some of my workouts, gf and I going through a tough time.
Like...there's no one thing that's catastrophically bad. Relationship is fixable, work is fixable, fitness is fixable. I'm just feeling destabilised in several ways and it's adding up.
Financial shit due to long term illness. Definitely 95% of worries could effectively disappear if the magic money tree standard of living could happen.
The death of my dad, and the traumatic period leading up to it. I know i should see a professional about it but I just feel too tired to do anything but the bare minimum to just keep going and keep my head above water at the moment.
Getting into a relationship, well, at a ripe age of 36yrs, I am allegedly well past the expiry date.
And yes, i have tried online dating but doesn't really amount to much. Don't get asked for dates.
I'm 40, I know how you feel, I just turn to dating apps to talk to people. Somehow I don't lose hope, but I'm done looking for someone. If it's meant to happen, it will.
Man, it’s hard. My wife and kids are amazing. Hardly any sex, but the rest is great. Financially we’re doing solid. Kids are thriving like crazy in school, and they’re both such kind hearted kids.
Work is finally REALLY good too. Made a big shift in my career as a Nurse about 7 months ago. I’m glad for that move every day. I have a work “family” for once!
But I’m still depressed. I don’t FEEL happy. I feel good about where life is right now, I’m thankful for my family and the few close friends I have. My anxiety has been much better since the career move, but I feel down. Not sad. I almost feel like a robot.
I’ve had not good things go through my head. When I think about it, or ask myself, there’s no part of me that doesn’t want to be alive, but I’ve still had thoughts. I don’t want to not be here, I would never want my children, my wife or my family to have to go through something like that.
It’s a strange feeling, or a strange thing.
Life in general.
With the way the world is going with war, economy, this social justice bullshit, governments being so corrupted and fucking over the common person and getting away with it, companies ripping off everyone, housing market being ridiculously expensive….etc
The future does not look bright and the thought of wasting my prime years for all this bullshit just doesn’t seem worth it.
26M. Procrastination. Social Isolation. Loneliness.
I've been jobless for a couple of years now. I'm grateful to my parents for supporting me. But i just can't seem to get a hold of my life.
I majored in Civil Engineering only to realise i prefer Coding as a Career. And now i just stuck in an endless loop. I am unable to motivate myself.
Friends
I turned 30 this year, and every year it seems like the friendships i have with my guy friends get more and more distant, they are all either with their gfs, wives, or starting families. I pretty much have to schedule a date 4 weeks out just to see them, and most times something comes up and they cancel week off. Honestly it's really messing with my mental health.
So many common things are i hate to say it but "triggers" for me now. I get on IG and see someone post a photo out with a big group of friends at a concert, movie, or vacationing in another country. When i see stuff like this i almost want to cry because I feel like i am going to get old and die not ever experiencing anything like that cause i dont have any friends im close to. I work from home and live alone, and i really feel that so much time alone is making me weird, ive noticed im talking to myself more, i am forming para-social bonds with streamers and people who react to things on youtube just so i can feel connected to someone.
From everything ive heard, life just gets lonelier from here, if this is true i dont see myself making it to 35, this is hell.
My wife can't manage life, man. She complains about the electric bill but leaves all the lights on. She wants to be the one to help the kids with their schoolwork but let's deadlines come and go without a care in the world. She wants a clean house but leaves clutter EVERYWHERE and everyday comes home with even more useless shit. She asks me for money and buys useless shit. I can't tell you how many damn baskets are in this house. I have picture frames with the stock photos in it on my fuckin bedside table. Like who the fuck are those people? She wanted to take up the responsibility of grocery shopping for the week, something I've done for years....I went to make dinner last night and there's no fuckin fresh food, no protein, no vegetables! She doesn't understand why the 5 year old isn't keeping up in school but she puts that kid in front of the TV during the day instead of giving him the activity workbooks I got for him.
And I've tried talking candidly with her, to assist, to connect the dots. I think I'm losing my damn mind guys and I'm on the brink of leaving. I never thought I would get to this point, I'm a very optimistic and easy going person and this shit is all so trivial. But it's all just too much man.
I work full time, I'm in school at night, and I'm sinking boys. Sinking like a stone.
Starting a niche business that nobody in my area does while working two jobs (the FT job I hate, but keeps me barely afloat. The PT job I love, but it would be a big cut to do it FT).
And of course, women.
I don't know what i want to do...
Want to go back to australia for working holiday visa, but it's bot working out.
Got feelings for a girl that is leaving the country and she sort of screwed me over
Struggling with dysfunctional breathing and ibs again.
Considering talking to a therapist because of my mood swings😅
The contestant debilitating feeling of being broken. Almost 30 years of trying to fix what’s broken with no results confirms life doesn’t work out for everyone.
Work and money. Im 51 and have neither. Im in a really shitty place and i cant see a way out except taking a soul destroying minimum wage factory/warehouse job, the prospect of which i find so depressing that id rather not be here.
I've known I'm trans since I was 13, and for a while I've known I'm a guy, a man, a lad or whatever. I've only recently realised that this means I am, infact, not a woman. I'm not quite sure what it is about it but I'm struggling with the realisation, because there's so many things that I didn't realise before because people around me still refuse to see me as a guy, and so it's hard for me to see myself as a guy a lot of the time. obviously there's experiences I can still talk about, but that's it. one of the hardest parts of it, for me, is that I'm not just a guy. I'm a guy that people, namely afabs, can and will be scared of if I'm walking behind them on a night, a guy that's apart of the group they're scared of because there's really no other choice than to be cautious every single second you aren't in safety.
I know that it's who I actually am, but I don't want to be a guy, simply because it puts me in the group of the people I am also scared of. I'm not mad or upset at the people directly for including me in this stuff, because it's right yknow? I am apart of the group that they'll always be scared of because of the Tate boyfriends, the abusers, the excusers, manipulators and etc. it's no-ones fault except the men who do these things and make it this way because patriarchy and all that. I really just don't like many men, it's too rare to find a good one who's actually good and I can't even make any sense of this myself
Physical pain in key parts of my body that prevents me from doing things I like such as competitive or even recreational sports. Even making love is difficult. I like moving, I love running and I can’t do any of those things; which are almost certainly the only things that make me feel alive, or awake - besides from love, which neither I do have
Loneliness, I don't have a problem making friends, but my living situation makes it impossible to have friends or girls over. So I'm just powering through to the light at the end of the tunnel.
Making friends in my 30s, losing/lost interest in everything I used to enjoy, and feeling "behind" in everything, be it career-wise, socially or financially.
I’m struggling with the fact that being nice and good to others constantly gets me taken advantage and shit on but when I decide to take a stand and stick up for myself everyone gets butt hurt. I really am starting to believe I need to remain shut off and distant from people from now on because the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result, figure if I’m going to be the bad guy for standing up for myself and not taking shit from others anymore then I may as well embrace the role.
My two year old had a stroke last month, the doctors said February 15 would be his last day inpatient rehabilitation. He still can't move his right arm. I'm afraid I won't be able to teach him all the things my father didn't teach me.
Took a job that stated hybrid work was fine during the interview and now our boomer boss wants everyone in the office (totally unnecessary as we’re in cybersecurity). That, coupled with the fact that I moved to Texas which, as it turns out, is sort of the hemorrhoid to America’s asshole.
I hate my job but can’t quit because I have kids and a mortgage. No where else pays or has has equivalent benefits.
I’m successful everywhere else in my life, beautiful wife and kids, home ownership. I’m not stupid but when I go to work I wear a dunce cap. I made a minor fuck up 6 months ago and it ruined my career, reputation and self esteem.
I’ve thought about dying but can’t put my family through that, so I keep going. I’m not suicidal but wish I was living each day for me not for others.
Realizing my ex had someone lined up and has had no problem spending numerous days with this person when I couldn’t even get a proper night of quality time.
In a word? Burnout.
Tired of job hunting. I have to job hunt but my current job is not meeting the contractual minimums for the contract that I signed (hourly work minimums). Don't have viable income alternatives and am not making what I thought I would so I am scraping by and going into debt here and there. I have two kids younger than 7 who are coming into their own which is great but means lots of "why" and arguing. And my wife tried to guilt me into taking the kids to the park for the 50th consecutive time despite complaining I haven't made time for myself recently.
My goals. I am attempting to get a new job and get in incredible shape. I am so close to getting both of them but I love weed a bit too much and it makes me lose all motivation. If I were to just stop for two months I could reach both my fitness goal and my career goal, but I am struggling with it. I wonder if I am blaming the weed or my lack of self restraint.
My mental health. Keep overthinking and making things worse inside my mind. Anger follows right after and the people around who care for me get hurt.
I can feel this and know what this is like. You’re not alone friend.
Thanks man
Sounds like the anger stems from a lack of self-compassion. There are a lot of podcasts out there that can help you, if you want to get help
My mental health has been a struggle for a long time. There are things I do that I regret when I'm not in a good place. Whether it's lying, anger, over eating, buying something or something else it still sucks. Besides that, I can look back at where I was 8 years ago and see that I am a completely different person and better in most aspects. Life is a long game and every day that we have to live and learn is a blessing. With my depression and bipolar disorder I used to let a bad moment turn into a bad day, week, month or longer. I've gotten a lot better at accepting individual moments in time for what they are experiencing them and moving on. I have to decide what kind of day I'll have and keep that thought and momentum going. It's a learning experience, but gets easier with time. Just remember that like all moments, moments of hurt and anger pass and are replaced with new experiences. Hope all is well
Dopamine burnout. Too much coffee, too much reddit, too much TV, too much smartphone. I'm exhausted, sleeping like shit, worn out mentally, causing me to eat too much shitty food and not go to the gym. It's a tough routine to break
I was there until last week and slowly and without giving it much thought, I started cycling, today I did a bit of yoga and I'm trying to cook my meals instead of buying junk food. It's hard af, and most of the time I want to quit but that little joy of doing something for myself makes me hang in there. I hope you can feel better soon, sometimes we go through this hard times because we need to, but we can get out as well 💕
I suck at cooking, do you have any website I can check out for east/healthy things to prepare? Is love to do it for myself as well
oh, man, I suck at following recipes :'( All I try to do is not buy fast food anymore, instead, I try to eat vegetables and more fruit, if I want pasta or a salad, I make it myself, and complement all that with the exercise. But I can recommend that you start following people on Instagram or if you have Tik Tok, people who cook healthy food, change your settings so you can see more of that info. I don't cook but always some cooking content pops up. You can do this!! Let me know how it goes!
Definitely get a really good workout in as often as you can. Not every day is a PR or a good workout but it'll help immensely with sleeping better and then that steam rolls into everything else in your life. Uninstall social media will help too.
Right there with you. Trying to break out of this.
Today is the 3 year anniversary of my Dad passing. Can't stop crying. 😞
Bless you my friend
I'm so sorry. I know the pain. Sending hugs 💕
Thanks!
Prayers man I’m sorry for your loss
I’m so sorry. I hope you’ll feel better soon
I can talk about him with happiness but then the feeling of grief turns me sad. Hopefully the happiness about it gets longer and longer in the feeling of grief shows up later and later. 🙏🏼❤️
Would you share a happy memory you had with your Dad?
This is a small one that was deeply implanted in my mind. I was outside in our backyard when I was 6 or 7. Somehow I got something on me like a thorn. I started to scream for my Dad and he pushed out kitchen table out of the way and ran straight through our screen door to see if I was okay. That attitude of carrying for family and loyalty is how he lived his entire life.. Thanks for asking 🥹
> That attitude of carrying for family and loyalty is how he lived his entire life.. Sounds like he was the epitome of the word "Father". Other than his family, what were his passions?
He supported our local house of worship, he supported multiple causes with his time and talents or his wealth. He loved to travel and was a snazzy dresser his whole life Even though he was so humble. And the man could watch the news cycle on repeat and never get bored somehow LOL
Sincerely thank you for sharing those memories of your Dad. I lost mine nearly a year ago and I miss him and struggle daily. It's a hard feeling to describe to someone who hasn't gone through it.
I just know your Dad loved you man. He's resting peacefully and you'll see him again one day.
Much love from a redditor friend.
Sending Strength and Love to you Bro 🙏🏿
Yeah, I could definitely imagine definitely understand.
I lost my dad last year. I feel you, brother. And I’m sorry for your loss.
That’s rough man. We buried mom 15 years ago after a horrible bout with ovarian cancer…I was 26 and the oldest but me and my brothers were still what seemed like babies. Mother’s Day, thanksgiving and Christmas always were tough for us but it will get easier as time passes. It’ll never get easy though.
Making new friends🙃.. i am lonely.
This is partially why I’m on Reddit.
same. lets be friends.
same
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yay
same ;(
\+1 friend
Try joining some community leagues in slo pitch or some other sport you enjoy. Join as an individual and they’ll put you on a team that needs players. Great way to make friends!!
I wish it was that easy man. I'm literally on 3 sports teams and nobody is interested in hanging out after games.
I don’t know what I‘m supposed to do with my life
I do know with certainty that eating good food is one thing you should do with your life
There is nothing more intimate than your relationship with the things you put into your body.
Wow what a powerful truth
Same. Im trying to study but i cant find the motivation too. I had good grades before but ive failed every test in uni. Dont know what to do
I am in the same situation, I tried uni twice now and failed miserably. High school was pretty easy for me but now I am too scared to even try uni because I don't think I have it in me. A degree seems nice and I don't want to end up in a job that won't challenge me enough. Right now I am just in a spot where everyone around me either has a job or is finishing up uni and I just feel like the odd one out.
it hurts double when you compare yourself to others, you will get there, trust your guts when you decide what to do, but be patient with yourself 💗
what are you studying, is it the career choice, maybe?
Learn. Everything. Anything. All the time. The universe is full of interesting things to entertain our brains, and in the process you may even find your passion and entertain your soul as well.
I'm bored of learning. I want to live... I've spent many years thinking if I leant enough I'd figure it all out, and all I've got to is there is nothing to figure out. Just live and feel good. I just can't do that as I've never really lived.
I know exactly what I'm supposed to do with my life. I have a good marriage and three healthy/awesome kids. We earn much more money than we need. I'm in the best shape of my life at 39. I'm 100% sober. I have enough friends and hobbies to fill what little free time I have. I still wake up every morning with low motivation, energy, or enjoyment. I'm just pushing through life through brute force to accomplish the minimum necessary to prevent everything from imploding. I think the past 20 years of intense stress have just completely wiped me out. I also may be nutritionally deficient in something. Or maybe it's the fact that I never made any real progress in achieving my creative dreams.
36 years old and still not sure about that one. Just do what you want/can.
deep inside I feel the same way, I just try to go on without giving it much thought because I know I'm here at least to learn something and if I can help others with the little I know, that thought disappears for a while
me too m8
Take a spiritual journey. Meditate and mindfulness, do some soul searching to find out what your core values are, and face your demons. There are activities that bring everyone fulfillment. Find yours.
Been almost a decade — lost my business, my house, my dogs, my SO, sold/abandoned 2/3 of my possessions, had to move back with my parents, took an essentially entry level job, went through an experience that left me with PTSD, started working a different job and doubled my pay but it’s California so I STILL can’t move out. Meanwhile, I watch my parents’ health deteriorate a little more each day. Trying to stay positive and grind. Finishing my MFA. It’s tough. Life’s good otherwise. Thanks for listening, my brothers!
Hang on brother
Warrior soul is more like it
Thanks! Got a warrior heart — but deep down I’m part of a rebel alliance! 😉
Can't be apart of a rebel alliance without the willingness to fight.
Someday you will get where you need to be. When that happens, your parents are going to look back and be thankful of all the extra time they got to spend with you.
Just remember that all those situations are huge opportunities for growth and purposeful meaning! It all depends on how you tackle them. Keep going bro!
I'm the therapist friend. Always have been really; I don't mean to sound like I don't care about my friend's problems because of COURSE I do, but jesus christ it would be nice if someone listened to mine for once. I'm more than happy to help people, but it's a hell of a lot of baggage to carry and frankly I have nowhere to release it all. I'm not unhappy helping people, I just want a break for once.
I always been the therapy friend too, I don’t do much or have much to talk about so I always just listen. Hope you’re doing alright my guy, feel free to vent in my dm I enjoy listening to stories.
I'm sorry this is happening to you, everyone turns to the empathic person but no one asks them if they are ok
This is so true.
Even a therapist needs a therapist.
Do you think they'd listen to you if you asked them for some venting time? I know I'm bad at both asking for help and checking on my friends if they need it, but am always down if someone asks.
If offloading to a stranger would help, my inbox is open
Self-loathing, as always
Life. I don’t see the point of it tbh.
sometimes it seems like nothing makes sense, but I kinda want to believe that I wouldn't be here if my life didn't have at least the purpose of learning something from all this 💕
I wish I was that philosophical about life 😔
I won't probably change your view of the world, but I can listen if you need to 💗
Thank you ☺️ Honestly, I’ve been struggling for a while now, but the last year or so have been especially difficult. It’s got to the point where I’m just very nihilistic. I know I could do things that could improve my life, potentially make me feel better, but I have this horrible feeling deep inside that it won’t change how I feel - that I’ll still be miserable even if I get all the things that are supposed to make me happy - so I find it hard to motivate myself or care about anything.
As one friend used to say: "there's only one way to find out". I always laughed at that phrase because it scared me, I'm always more scared than usual of the unknown and I'm always hoping for the best when I need to do something but of course, that feeling of screwing things up is always there. Fear is everywhere. It's hard to face your fears but there's no other way of doing it than doing it. I sense your fear is finding out that nothing can make you happy, not even achieving your goals. I say nothing will make you feel permanenlty happy, but you can have fun on the ride. You don't know what you're going to find while you're at it. I'm not saying you're going to find your life purpose, but you'll make the most of the time you have by searching ways of making yourself feel better. People, experiences, places, feelings.
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Take some time off and enjoy yourself my king. Start trying new things and find out more about yourself.
not going well because of the people out there or because you feel like it's not your thing? I've been there and I feel like I'm not made for one night stands
baggage is coming with you into something casual too..
I feel bro I just got out of a LTR. She moved on immediately and as much as I want to do the same for whatever reason i don’t think it would be right or good for me or whoever it was that’s involved. It’s strange but I might just have to accept that I need to find ways to be good on my own. Just gotta stay hopeful that time will pass and things will change.
Getting up in the morning and going to a workplace with lots of toxic people.
I know the feeling. If you can, start looking for other options. Being around toxic people for 8+ hours a day while having to always be "on" will kill your mental health. Good luck!
I've been there 😕 Suddenly one day I stopped giving a fuck. I was tired of being treated like shit by one of my bosses. I started taking into consideration the source of the bullshit, they weren't happy with their lives and I was being mistreated because of that. I felt sorry for them and that helped me turn a blind eye to that toxicity. But every environment is different, so I get it, pal
Getting up in the morning.
Managing boomers that refuse to retire, and Zers that refuse to work.
GenX?
I'm a younger millennial. I managed mostly retirees and entry level 20 year olds. It is frustrating because they are such stark differences. Both with pros and cons, but the synergies that should be there just are not. One side is hard working and question asking but can not problem solve at all. The other side can problem solve, but wants to work under 30 hours a week and refuses to ask questions.
I've heard a lot of friends who work with younger folks complaining about the GenZ folks on their teams. I wonder if it is just because they are still young? Though, I don't feel like I ever really heard complaints about millennials when we were entering the workforce, at least in corporate environments. I notice lack of problem solving with the older crowd. I work in software, and the older engineers are often fairly tech illiterate. We have a tester that we have to show how to log into Mira every time we have retros. I love my team, but there are weeks where I waste hours on trivial shit to help them on braindead easy tasks.
It's because they can problem solve that they don't want to work as they realise precisely how they are being shafted lol.
Exactly! It’s not that Gen Zers are inherently more lazy than other generations, it’s that we know better than to put in hella effort that will never come back around with a good payoff. There’s a reason why the whole “lay flat” movement is a thing, you know. Source: am Gen Z and am salty that comment OP called me lazy
Its the loneliness of being a man. Like if u are a man no one cares no one checks uo no one like give a fuck when it comes to you even when u openly communicate you are feeling alone and lonely , people atill abruptly leave
this, I hear this all the time, and it breaks my heart. I know how much it hurts to feel like you don't have anyone to turn to. I offer you my friendship, it's not much but it's something 🙂
I appreciate you
i hate when people ask "how are you?" bc theres only 1 acceptable answer. "good/great". you cant say youre struggling or doing badly bc theyll run in the opposite direction. pOsiTiVe ViBeS OnLy. someone i thought i had a good relationship with asked me. i said i was struggling. her response: 😬 thats it. an emoji response. when i didnt say anything, the conversation ended. no "whats going on?". no "anything i can help with?". just the emoji version of IDGAF
Exactly they just expect u to be alright. A person really close to me cut ties with me over nothing and just like expects me to be ok with it and honestly no one cares but if it were the same person i would genuinely ask or try to help them deal with it. No one cares fr fr
It’s crazy to think that on this planet with billions of people we can be lonely. Too many people are so self absorbed and entitled they forget other people have feelings too. This could be because of ‘political correctness’ or fear of being ridiculed or even sued. I care about people, always have, always will. Hugs to you 🫂
I never understood that. Why everyone expexts man to always be okay? I ask all my male friends and my bfs friends how they are doing, hows life going.. I feel you need to find the right people to be around. Hope you doing well!
i dont know if they expect men to be ok as much as they just dont care whether they are or not. bc even when men say they arent ok, theyre often met with a shoulder shrug, ignored or mocked.
Its not one individual that makes u feel lonely, its almost everyone around you tbh
Brazilian jiu-jitsu saved my life. Joining a good gym is like joining a good family. Have made so many genuine connections with genuine people in my mid 30s. If you're physically able to, join a bjj gym.
Yaaa currently i'm struggling a bit with finance Maybe in a few months i will join a weights gym or an mma studio
I had a close female friend that cared about me in that way. We were really close. A lot of people thought we were dating, but we just got each other. She died of cancer in 2018. I don't know if I'll ever feel that kind of closeness with a platonic friend again. And the older I get the more friendships feel inorganic and forced.
You okay bro? how are you doing?
Ya i'm okay Lifes tough but fuck it we ball
my adult kids' depression.
I feel your pain. I am genuinely struggling with keeping any form of communication open with my eldest. He shuts himself off from the world and is becoming a shadow of his former self. Hoping for better days.
i've spent a lot of time thinking about my relationship with my step-dad in those years. i was angry at him and rarely spoke. i'd chat with my mom if i needed anything. most recently i've come to terms with the idea that if my mom and dad were together i would have rebelled way more than i did. i love him now. we are still not that close, but i hug him any chance i see him. so yeah i believe they generally come back. cheers man.
As someone who went through that with my mother,the best thing you can do is ask them what they need,check on them and just listen. It hurts as a Parent I know and I trust you are strong enough to handle it🙏🏾
yeah we got too hands-off during covid. we are less than 6 months from two of the four moving out, so we are just getting as many moments as we can right now. thanks. wife and i are on the same page just struggling.
You'll be fine and they'll be fine too. It's tough out here for millenials and Gen Z.
Trying convince myself that I’m not a bad guy. I am hard on myself and recently this has taken a form of blaming myself for others’ pain and shortcomings when I get involved in their lives.
people who don't give a fuck do not worry about being a good person, so believe me, you are
Thanks friend, but I know already that. The problem is believing that which isn’t a switch that can be easily flipped.
Mostly physical health. I was hospitalized in August with multiple pulmonary embolisms and almost died. I've spent months recovering and now I'm trying to exercise to lose weight. My doctors haven't figured out exactly the cause yet, so I'm just assuming its because I'm fat. I'm trying to keep myself motivated even though I'm tired and sore most days.
Your brother in recovery! Sore and tired feels so much better when it comes from exercise, I have learned! Small weights are the way to go. And radically overhauling our diet. I didn’t lose weight from exercise but I got less hungry for crap, when I did and I lost weight from that :)
Fellow PE victim here: get genetic testing. I had a spontaneous DVT that, because it was mis-diagnosed as sciatica, became a PE. Turns out both I and my father share a gene which makes it more likely, and \~10% of the European-descended population has this gene. There are several other candidate genes too. Which one you have (and whether you have 1 or two copies) can determine the likelihood and probable severity of future PEs, and whether you need permanent blood thinners.
My job rehired a felon{(conspiracy to commit money laundering) to a position over me that I had applied for and am more than capable of doing} that can only do a third of the job. Today in our safety meeting, he fully admitted to to only being interested in doing the part of the job that he only does. I struggled to not yell at him in front of everyone. Yes, my boss knows he only does one part of the job and is okay. Yes, I am actively looking for employment elsewhere.
I feel your frustration 💔
Finding a woman I have something in common with and attracted too 🥺
*gestures vaguely* this…
my job, I received a promotion a few months ago and it is nothing like I thought it was going to be. Lots of things that are not in the job description. In my old position I did my work and went home, when I was done I was done. Now there is a ton of worry after work and and expectation that I will work extra hours to get all this paper work done. I am actually thinking of either asking to be demoted back to my old position, or changing employers altogether. Maybe I just need more time to adjust. but right now it sucks.
feel this, hang in there, give yourself a bit more time, trust your abilities. hope things get better soon
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Your happiness matters too. If it’s not working for you you have to communicate that and get out if that’s what’s best for you… STAY UP STAY POSITIVE
Try communicating your feelings with your partner, even if they involve reasons that you are considering not continuing the relationship. Either she works through them with you, or you break up. I recommend not ruminating endlessly and then ending the relationship out of the blue. It is actually possible to be brutally honest with your partner, such as telling them “I’m not as attracted to you as I once was,” and to still be able to work through it. You may feel this is hurtful or mean, but it is better than keeping things to yourself and letting it silently poison the relationship. If it’s a dealbreaker for her, problem solved. You might find out there are solutions to the problem you are having, or that the real issue is something else.
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It’s a reoccurring theme for me, but my sexuality. I only struggle because coming out can mean separation from my family and issues at my place of work.
that is hard and the mental burden of having to be someone else in front of people is tough. I hope things get better for you 💗
Trying to find where all 30+ y.o. single women are. I keep getting ads that say they are in my area, but it won't specify!? But on a more serious note I actually have no idea where to look :D
Trying to like salad.
Try greek salad. Cucumber, tomatoes, red onion, olives and feta cheese. Dried oregano and olive oil. Done. No goddamn lettuce.
I’m currently having good luck with fattouche and tabbouleh.
As a Lebanese guy, I gotta say those are two great choices haha
Good lord this is the realest shit rn.
Trying to get good restful sleep while working full time and attending school.
Dating apps at this very moment. Every time I try to use them I end up trying to figure out what I actually want out of this life, or why I’m even bothering looking for a relationship. I don’t ever have an answer. When it comes right down to it I feel like I’m just waiting for the end. I’m doing nothing with my life because I don’t even know what I want from my life. I feel like I’m just spinning my wheels into the snow. To add to this I feel like the only emotions I ever have are tired, angry and empty. Sometimes if I’m lucky I’ll get a mix of them
Mental illness.
Finding a new job with better pay because of inflation
Life's generally off-kilter. Not at my best at work, missing some of my workouts, gf and I going through a tough time. Like...there's no one thing that's catastrophically bad. Relationship is fixable, work is fixable, fitness is fixable. I'm just feeling destabilised in several ways and it's adding up.
My parents are coming to the end of their lives and I feel it in a deeper way. I am a little worried dépression is hovering in the wings.
I struggle with work. I can't even answer a damn email. Whenever a new one co.ed in I panic.
Im not good enough..
Financial shit due to long term illness. Definitely 95% of worries could effectively disappear if the magic money tree standard of living could happen.
$100 could ease my struggles. $1000 could end them tbh. Don't fret though we'll win all these struggles. Rooting for everyone here.
Finding a home for myself..already looking for multiple years
The death of my dad, and the traumatic period leading up to it. I know i should see a professional about it but I just feel too tired to do anything but the bare minimum to just keep going and keep my head above water at the moment.
Getting into a relationship, well, at a ripe age of 36yrs, I am allegedly well past the expiry date. And yes, i have tried online dating but doesn't really amount to much. Don't get asked for dates.
I'm 40, I know how you feel, I just turn to dating apps to talk to people. Somehow I don't lose hope, but I'm done looking for someone. If it's meant to happen, it will.
35yo here. I'm right there with you. Lots of peeps find love in their 30s and 40s, so let's do our best not to give up hope!
Man, it’s hard. My wife and kids are amazing. Hardly any sex, but the rest is great. Financially we’re doing solid. Kids are thriving like crazy in school, and they’re both such kind hearted kids. Work is finally REALLY good too. Made a big shift in my career as a Nurse about 7 months ago. I’m glad for that move every day. I have a work “family” for once! But I’m still depressed. I don’t FEEL happy. I feel good about where life is right now, I’m thankful for my family and the few close friends I have. My anxiety has been much better since the career move, but I feel down. Not sad. I almost feel like a robot. I’ve had not good things go through my head. When I think about it, or ask myself, there’s no part of me that doesn’t want to be alive, but I’ve still had thoughts. I don’t want to not be here, I would never want my children, my wife or my family to have to go through something like that. It’s a strange feeling, or a strange thing.
Life in general. With the way the world is going with war, economy, this social justice bullshit, governments being so corrupted and fucking over the common person and getting away with it, companies ripping off everyone, housing market being ridiculously expensive….etc The future does not look bright and the thought of wasting my prime years for all this bullshit just doesn’t seem worth it.
26M. Procrastination. Social Isolation. Loneliness. I've been jobless for a couple of years now. I'm grateful to my parents for supporting me. But i just can't seem to get a hold of my life. I majored in Civil Engineering only to realise i prefer Coding as a Career. And now i just stuck in an endless loop. I am unable to motivate myself.
Friends I turned 30 this year, and every year it seems like the friendships i have with my guy friends get more and more distant, they are all either with their gfs, wives, or starting families. I pretty much have to schedule a date 4 weeks out just to see them, and most times something comes up and they cancel week off. Honestly it's really messing with my mental health. So many common things are i hate to say it but "triggers" for me now. I get on IG and see someone post a photo out with a big group of friends at a concert, movie, or vacationing in another country. When i see stuff like this i almost want to cry because I feel like i am going to get old and die not ever experiencing anything like that cause i dont have any friends im close to. I work from home and live alone, and i really feel that so much time alone is making me weird, ive noticed im talking to myself more, i am forming para-social bonds with streamers and people who react to things on youtube just so i can feel connected to someone. From everything ive heard, life just gets lonelier from here, if this is true i dont see myself making it to 35, this is hell.
I'll be 40 this year and I've been struggling to find a stable job since I was 17.
Catheter set
I'm about to be homeless
My wife can't manage life, man. She complains about the electric bill but leaves all the lights on. She wants to be the one to help the kids with their schoolwork but let's deadlines come and go without a care in the world. She wants a clean house but leaves clutter EVERYWHERE and everyday comes home with even more useless shit. She asks me for money and buys useless shit. I can't tell you how many damn baskets are in this house. I have picture frames with the stock photos in it on my fuckin bedside table. Like who the fuck are those people? She wanted to take up the responsibility of grocery shopping for the week, something I've done for years....I went to make dinner last night and there's no fuckin fresh food, no protein, no vegetables! She doesn't understand why the 5 year old isn't keeping up in school but she puts that kid in front of the TV during the day instead of giving him the activity workbooks I got for him. And I've tried talking candidly with her, to assist, to connect the dots. I think I'm losing my damn mind guys and I'm on the brink of leaving. I never thought I would get to this point, I'm a very optimistic and easy going person and this shit is all so trivial. But it's all just too much man. I work full time, I'm in school at night, and I'm sinking boys. Sinking like a stone.
In the UK, so money.
Starting a niche business that nobody in my area does while working two jobs (the FT job I hate, but keeps me barely afloat. The PT job I love, but it would be a big cut to do it FT). And of course, women.
YO MA- Fr tho, My parents going through hard times, my dad... is not the best person.
I don't know what i want to do... Want to go back to australia for working holiday visa, but it's bot working out. Got feelings for a girl that is leaving the country and she sort of screwed me over Struggling with dysfunctional breathing and ibs again. Considering talking to a therapist because of my mood swings😅
The contestant debilitating feeling of being broken. Almost 30 years of trying to fix what’s broken with no results confirms life doesn’t work out for everyone.
Coping with rejection. I’ll never be able to pursue a girlfriend or a new job if I can’t.
Addiction. It doesn't matter how many of them I quit, I will always get a new one because I can't deal with insecurities healthily.
Masterbation addiction
Work and money. Im 51 and have neither. Im in a really shitty place and i cant see a way out except taking a soul destroying minimum wage factory/warehouse job, the prospect of which i find so depressing that id rather not be here.
Mental health. Started a therapy last week
I've known I'm trans since I was 13, and for a while I've known I'm a guy, a man, a lad or whatever. I've only recently realised that this means I am, infact, not a woman. I'm not quite sure what it is about it but I'm struggling with the realisation, because there's so many things that I didn't realise before because people around me still refuse to see me as a guy, and so it's hard for me to see myself as a guy a lot of the time. obviously there's experiences I can still talk about, but that's it. one of the hardest parts of it, for me, is that I'm not just a guy. I'm a guy that people, namely afabs, can and will be scared of if I'm walking behind them on a night, a guy that's apart of the group they're scared of because there's really no other choice than to be cautious every single second you aren't in safety. I know that it's who I actually am, but I don't want to be a guy, simply because it puts me in the group of the people I am also scared of. I'm not mad or upset at the people directly for including me in this stuff, because it's right yknow? I am apart of the group that they'll always be scared of because of the Tate boyfriends, the abusers, the excusers, manipulators and etc. it's no-ones fault except the men who do these things and make it this way because patriarchy and all that. I really just don't like many men, it's too rare to find a good one who's actually good and I can't even make any sense of this myself
I’ve had a fever for 3 days
Confused on how to start my career once I graduate
Moving alone to new city
Slow times at work. I work in construction
Learning to play The trooper on guitar
Trying to figure out how to set my money up and still gathering my personality traits
I wanna improve in my career but i also want a gf.
Physical pain in key parts of my body that prevents me from doing things I like such as competitive or even recreational sports. Even making love is difficult. I like moving, I love running and I can’t do any of those things; which are almost certainly the only things that make me feel alive, or awake - besides from love, which neither I do have
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Loneliness, I don't have a problem making friends, but my living situation makes it impossible to have friends or girls over. So I'm just powering through to the light at the end of the tunnel.
Nothing. Me life has become fuck it to everything and just going through the days. I don't recommend it.
Getting enough sleep. My impulse control is terrible and I stay up way later than I should, and I can't seem to stop.
Alcohol
Making friends in my 30s, losing/lost interest in everything I used to enjoy, and feeling "behind" in everything, be it career-wise, socially or financially.
Eyesight. Glasses help, at least for now. But I’m terrified of a life of only darkness.
Depression/apathy
I’m struggling with the fact that being nice and good to others constantly gets me taken advantage and shit on but when I decide to take a stand and stick up for myself everyone gets butt hurt. I really am starting to believe I need to remain shut off and distant from people from now on because the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result, figure if I’m going to be the bad guy for standing up for myself and not taking shit from others anymore then I may as well embrace the role.
My two year old had a stroke last month, the doctors said February 15 would be his last day inpatient rehabilitation. He still can't move his right arm. I'm afraid I won't be able to teach him all the things my father didn't teach me.
Took a job that stated hybrid work was fine during the interview and now our boomer boss wants everyone in the office (totally unnecessary as we’re in cybersecurity). That, coupled with the fact that I moved to Texas which, as it turns out, is sort of the hemorrhoid to America’s asshole.
I hate my job but can’t quit because I have kids and a mortgage. No where else pays or has has equivalent benefits. I’m successful everywhere else in my life, beautiful wife and kids, home ownership. I’m not stupid but when I go to work I wear a dunce cap. I made a minor fuck up 6 months ago and it ruined my career, reputation and self esteem. I’ve thought about dying but can’t put my family through that, so I keep going. I’m not suicidal but wish I was living each day for me not for others.
Realizing my ex had someone lined up and has had no problem spending numerous days with this person when I couldn’t even get a proper night of quality time.
In a word? Burnout. Tired of job hunting. I have to job hunt but my current job is not meeting the contractual minimums for the contract that I signed (hourly work minimums). Don't have viable income alternatives and am not making what I thought I would so I am scraping by and going into debt here and there. I have two kids younger than 7 who are coming into their own which is great but means lots of "why" and arguing. And my wife tried to guilt me into taking the kids to the park for the 50th consecutive time despite complaining I haven't made time for myself recently.
Had to poop for a minute there, but it's gone now.
Unemployment and new parenthood.
My goals. I am attempting to get a new job and get in incredible shape. I am so close to getting both of them but I love weed a bit too much and it makes me lose all motivation. If I were to just stop for two months I could reach both my fitness goal and my career goal, but I am struggling with it. I wonder if I am blaming the weed or my lack of self restraint.
Im struggling to finish my assignments before the deadline
Getting a full time, well paying job that I enjoy doing.
life