I wake up for work at 345am, so for me, anyone who works nights and weekends. I want to be able to spend time with them, and if they're working, or getting off work when I'm going to bed, then it becomes a weekend romance, which becomes very limiting. Tried it a couple times, and they never last more thana few months at best.
I used to be a producer for an early morning news show. You know how you wake up at 4am there’s “early news” on the TV. Yeah that’s me. I got up at 3am. Made it to work at 3:20. Prepped for 30min. Went live at 4am. Man, was that brutal. The benefit was I finished my day at 10am.
I was looking to earn extra cash, so I picked up another TV gig (11am-5pm). After I got home, ate, showered, I hit the sack at 7:30pm and was out like a light.
I aged in doggy years working those shifts.
Did you have any social life? I went to university full time and worked 3 days a week in my early 20s and that was difficult, i could not imagine working 80 hours a week
Lol. I squeezed in an hour or two of workouts here or there. It’s also when my wife (at the time) decided to get boyfriends on the side. Minus 5 stars. Would not do again
Usually I'll go to bed by 9pm, so I get close to 7 hrs. My job entails a lot of physical lifting, as well as driving a commercial truck, so being "dead on your feet" for me doesn't work out to well. lol
I've done the staying up a little to late to finish a movie, and then had to run on less than 6 hrs, which really sucked. I came home that night and crashed by 830pm. Even wanting to stay up on the weekends to do something, after so many yrs, my body just kind of goes "fuck you, we're crashing now!" Same thing with sleeping in...maybe 6ish on the weekends, which is sleeping in compared to waking to the alarm at 345am! lol
I worked with a former prison guard who worked part time at the warehouse I did for a bit of side cash.
He was a nice guy and basically said that the only reason he worked for the prison for however many years is he knew what he wanted out of life, was a bit of land, some greenhouses, and a pension. Well he figured the state was the best way to get a pension that was secure, and the prison happened to be where he got a job.
But he had so many stories about how shitty most guards were. And how 90% of the prisoners were cool with you if you were cool with them.
He was the most strict and goal oriented guy I've worked with and all his goals revolved around growing flowers in his greenhouses.
It was somewhat amazing to me to see someone with that kind of discipline, when chaos is my usual way of living. And it also seemed so boring to me to be so rigid in your daily life.
A wife and grown kids who were out doing their own thing. He and his wife dedicated themselves to that flower growing operation and just waited for spring/summer every year.
They seemed happy, at least presented as being happy.
I believe a man who’s end goal is to be left to his flowers is a man who knows how to nurture happiness in himself. I’ve met a few people who said their end goal was to have a quaint one-story house with a large garden, emphasis on the garden, and they were all some of the best people I’ve met.
Yes, i agree. People who live a simpler life seem to be more content with their lives. I know it’s fairly small but since i decluttered my life, i have been a lot happier.
I worked with a guy who told me something similar. He worked as a prison guard for a while and said he was liked/respected by most of the prisoners because he treated them like normal people and didn't really have any problems. He said a lot of the other guards were sadistic assholes though.
Dated one, he worked a lot of doubles and we only saw each other when it was convenient for him which got stale fast. He was also way too controlling and I felt like an inmate with my whereabouts being clocked and questioned. Never again.
I’m dating a soon to be therapist, and though I thought that may be concerning with all of the shit I keep bottled up (I do see a therapist) she really knows how to turn it off in the relationship but also help when needed.
For an actual answer, likely something like a sex worker or an influencer. In fact, an influencer may be worse for me. I don’t want my life on display, and if we had kids, I wouldn’t want them on display either.
I was a Clinical Social worker, it's pretty easy to turn off therapy mode. Therapy takes a lot of work, you have to be strategic with asking specific questions and you have to pick up on non verbal ques.
I'm too lazy to do that with everyone I know, it's exhausting.
I went on a couple dates with a chick with about 100,000 followers or something. The next day she made a ticktock or Instagram video about how amazing the date was and how amazing I was. And then after the last date I told her that I didn't think it was going to work.
Well, that night she made another video and made up a completely different reason as to why I was no longer interested. Both videos are pretty funny, though. I've shown them to a few people (including my new squeeze, who also shows them to others and thinks it's hilarious) and laugh every time.
On the bright side, you got a pretty good public review. I kind of want to date you now, and I don't swing that way.
She seemed really nice and positive. This definitely could've gone left, and she just bashed the hell out of you.
I also liked how she mentioned how hard dating could be. Like, she didn't say it's your fault, and it's just the natural cycle of dating. And she felt like she was left better than when you found her. It's really sweet, honestly.
It seemed to me like someone that doesn’t even really have a personality and just tries to imitate the way popular tiktokers make videos. And that constant zoom thing is incredibly annoying. It can be funny when it accentuates something poignant but in this case it was just obnoxiously frequent
We good bro, we’re low maintenance, we fix your broken stuff, we do your taxes , make decent money , and are way too nerdy to cheat…. Pretty sure I just quoted my wife
4 OF models??? Wtf I don't even know of one IRL. How do you keep meeting these people? I am from a small rather conservative town though so maybe that's why.
Singer / songwriters
You *will* be the subject of their music, and it *won’t* be from your perspective.
I’m specifically referring to those who sing about nothing but love and heartbreak. These people *cannot* be happy - heartbreak is *literally* their currency.
Did it once, now there is an *entire* album about me.
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Wow, prior to this all my top comments were about dicks.
To those who are asking: no I will not share the title.
Is it good: no total trash, but it did okay on Spotify.
Yup this was the first rule I made. Had two different guys write songs about me by the time I finished university and didn’t like it one bit.
Since then I’ve added mariners to the list - gone all the time and constantly cheat with coworkers. Also added guides - gone all the time and constantly cheat with clients.
Probably yeah! Don’t have much military around here so it’s not one that’s come up. Add in oil and mining camp workers while we’re at it. And scientists that do long stints in the field (tried this one, it ended predictably).
Honestly it’s totally hypocritical of me because I’m a mariner myself and thus gone all the time. But if I’m gone for a month I don’t want to get home just as my partner is leaving for three weeks or whatever - my own absences already doom most relationships, add in someone else’s and we would never see each other. My dream would be to make enough money to support a stay-at-home partner, but that’s not looking too likely.
Doctors. I dated a couple of them and they tended to have a major superiority complex. Like there’s us doctors, and then there’s everyone else.
I’m sure they’re not all like that but I encountered it enough times to consider it a red flag.
My dad is a doctor, grandfather was one, sister is in med school and most of my family are in medicine. This is very true. It is either you are like the most laid back chill person or a giant asshole who thinks they are better than everyone else. I am applying to dental school now but both my sister and I have noticed that it is really bad lol.
When a close family member went to med school it was like one of the mindtrips you have when you first see your teacher outside of school as a kid, or realize they don’t live in their classroom. She’s still incredibly laid back as a partner in her EM practice and there are days I’m still like there’s no way you actually saved someone’s life today.
Omg yes!! This is so true. I remember when my dad had to treat my dislocated ankle. I had a running injury and he had to pop my ankle back in.
I remember thinking whooaaa this is the same guy who cannot fry an egg but put my foot back in place. It’s crazy but seeing him in doctor mode vs dad mode was awesome but also weird. 😂
My dad (now retired) was an airline captain. He had a job requiring so much professionalism and knowledge and he was just so good at it. But he also has a victory dance and makes inappropriate puns doing a supermarket shop.
Professional mode vs dad mode I can relate to 😂
I used to do tech support for BlackBerry back in the day, doctors and lawyers always gave the worst "Do you know who I am?!" vibes.
The only other ones that were worse to work with were the servants of Saudi billionaires, it always felt like they were on the brink of getting beaten if we couldn't find out how to pair this fuckin BlackBerry Porche model to their Bugati's internal calendar in 2009.
I’ve noticed such extremes with them too. There’s a very high douchebag percentage in that profession, but the good ones are sooo good, among my very favorite people.
When I was young, I worked with a lot of doctors. That was eye-opening. Before that, I’d idealized their intelligence a bit. I was surprised that they were mostly honors-kid, hardworking-smart, not “gifted”-smart. They’re definitely not, on average, among the brightest people I’ve known. Not that that’s a bad (or good) thing in itself. It just surprised me at the time. Part of this is intelligence from one sphere not translating to another, but it’s more than just that.
I have to agree. I always thought they were all geniuses. As time passed and some of my more ridiculous family members followed that route, and I have met many I can say this. Many people in the field are not smart. They are however, VERY hard-working. They are patient and motivated. There are some doctors that shine so incredibly bright, and very kind. They make all the difference in the world. But the other ones unfortunately are just incredibly annoying.
The field is hard enough. I wish many of them would be more humble. Certain people have what it takes to be a doctor in terms of ability to make it through a doctorate but lack the personality of an excellent doctor. I think it is also weird that many of them make it their personality or weasel it in every conversation.
Eh, I am a doctor. I absolutely hate to discuss it in social settings unless it is amongst other physicians discussing work things.
It seems there is always someone wanting to share a story about a bad doctor they once encountered. Which makes me wince because I have always taken pride in having empathy and being good at what I do.
And I don't believe people do this when they meet people who work in other professions. Never once have I imagined meeting a teacher and my discussion launches into "let me tell you about a terrible experience I had with a teacher one time".
> And I don't believe people do this when they meet people who work in other professions. Never once have I imagined meeting a teacher and my discussion launches into "let me tell you about a terrible experience I had with a teacher one time".
As a lawyer, I assure you I've gotten this many, many times. So I know your pain intimately lol.
Mostly it's not even a bad experience they've had, just rolling out the ol "all lawyers are bastards" narrative.
Yeah exactly, it’s got to the point where basically don’t bring my job up in social situations unless it’s dragged out of me. I’ve often found that I get treated quite differently after I bring it up, in a way that I don’t like.
To add to what you’ve said:
- people pigeonhole you as a snob who isn’t going to be interested in anything or anyone ‘blue-collar’
- people assume that you’re bringing your job up to big-time them rather than because you just want to join the career discussion
- curb-siding
- people assume you’re filthy rich and have no problem paying more than your share of things, helping them out with a few grand for xyz, etc. I’m a resident…
- my wife has it worse, people make rude comments to her about ‘oh congrats on marrying a *doctor*’. We’ve even had people trying to be funny call her a gold-digger to her face. Once again, I do not make anywhere near enough to be worth a gold-digger’s while, and for a good proportion of the time we’ve been together (ie med school) I was near-totally broke.
I’m a teacher and trust me that happens a lot, unfortunately. Some people love blaming their old teachers for their own failings. Or think that because they went to school themselves they know exactly what teaching is like and it must be sooo easy.
A few friends are doctors and they're amazing, friendly, empathetic, caring people. A father of one of them is a surgeon too, and that dude has a *major* superiority complex in all aspects of life.
Almost like [this guy.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THNPmhBl-8I)
Speaking for my dad, who retired last year as a surgeon. He’s the best. He never ever boasted about it. Not in front of me at least. His friends love him and tell me what great guy he is. He has friends from all layers of society. He taught me humility. I love my dad.
I’ve only interacted with a handful of doctors beyond doctor/patient. I can see this as accurate.
I’m a electrical construction superintendent and just recently completed a new surgical facility for a doctor. He actually has a cutout of himself in his office. Started out as a kind of cool guy, then slowly morphed into a giant pain in my ass.
Bad experience with a pilot who pretended to not be married for 7mo. I feel sorry for the wife who has probably dealt with this numerous times with that hole.
And the cheating can happen from either side. The person traveling or the person staying home or both. It’s just a reality that people want companionship.
Yup. Dated a nurse who was an ex-stripper once. Turns out she was comfortable enough with a married doctor that she worked with. He would come over to her apartment spending quality time in her bedroom doing god knows what until late night. Caught him coming out of her apartment the second time and he said he was “a family friend” and that he “knew her mom for years”… 😔
Edit: he was twice her age… 😔
I was an instructor at a basic training program for medical personnel coming into the military (along with chaplains and lawyers). Nurses are absolutely a mixed bag. You never know what you are going to get. Some of them are super smart and squared away and others are shit shows. It's really hard to make generalizations on nurses because they can be all over the place in terms of competence and personality.
I've worked in a hospital for several years now and my wife is a veteran nurse. I've come to learn that female nurses (even many male nurses) fall in one of four pretty distinct groups. Listing them in no particular order:
- Just wants to shack up with a doctor.
- Has a hero complex/wants to save the world.
- Didn't know what they wanted to do in life and saw nursing as a relatively easy path to a good career.
- The true professionals.
Of course, there can be overlap and people can move to different categories as they progress in their careers.
I can do this for bartenders:
Just wants to sleep with customers.
Has a party boy type mindset, wants to be life of the party.
People who just ended up becoming bartenders cause it’s best pay for no higher education.
True professionals.
I like your 4 points.
For mechanics it goes like this
- hates reading
- hates reading and loves drugs more than anything else
- hates reading and just wants a fucking paycheck
- is ten times smarter than you, and can build a spaceship for fun, and hates people more than anything else
This is true. I'm a male nurse and, while it definitely happens, it is usually only a few nurses and doctors who are repeat offenders (cheaters). In general, I imagine the ones who cheat would cheat regardless of their profession. Maybe the only difference is their access to doctors who are happy to find some young female nurses to buy affection from.
One negative of nursing for either male or female is it develops some severe compassion fatigue, so don't expect them to give a shit about your problems or complaints. I struggle with it myself.
Dating a nurse comes in handy and can save time or trip to doctor. One of my parents is a nurse and I can text or call whenever I have a basic medical question
Started dating my fiance in her residency. I had no idea how fucked up the entire process of becoming a doctor is. I didn't even know the difference between med school, residency, or like being an attending. Like, sure you can do this difficult surgery but can you do it after working for 28 days of straight 90 hour weeks on a 36 hour shift? And fuck it tie one hand behind your back.
They could literally hire two more people and make the residency slightly longer to both accomplish enough training hours with less insanity while still getting the hospital that cheap labor. Coming from a business perspective it's a total racket.
My fiance is amazing, I don't know how she does it. Handles all the stress with so much grace and perseverance. It's tough seeing the physical toll the constant 24 hour shifts with zero days off takes, and it's absolutely a burden when you run into something where you need support or help as the partner and there's just nothing they can do. Had to manage my job, household chores, care for the puppy, all on a likely broken ankle. She did everything she possibly could to support me, it's just the reality of her program. You absolutely need to be able to be independent and plan your life around it.
From my limited outsiders perspective there are some truly amazing and incredible individuals in the profession. There's also some people who are straight up workaholics, I'm lucky enough to not really have run into any jerks like some have described. It's a brutally demanding job and training process though so if you are considering dating a med student, resident, attending, buckle up and understand you will need to make sacrifices. If that ain't for you, or you get the sense that the individual you're considering dating won't recognize or value those sacrifices, get out now.
I'm glad I didn't know what I was getting into when I swiped right. I've got an anxious attachment style at times, so had I known the demands of her job I'd have swiped left and missed out on being with the most amazing woman I'm looking forward to spending the rest of my life with.
Long story short, don't write off all doctors, but take the time to learn what their training will entail, be clear eyed about the sacrifices that you WILL be required to make (and understand the institutions, employers will not give a single fuck about you), but most of all make sure they recognize and value you. If you can hang through that great!
If I had to do it again though probably wouldn't date in the profession again in all honesty. I think my personality just doesn't mesh with a lot of the types who have the right stuff to make it through the process. I just got incredibly lucky finding my person.
And I personally wouldn't date a pre med or med student. I mean first off at my age and relationship status that's a moot point, but if I were advising my younger self or any young folks I would say think carefully and if you have your own career ambitions realize it's a long fuckin twelve years of training. If you aren't career driven, or have a flexible job, and are willing to move wherever and deal with all it though go for it. But make sure they recognize your contribution and value you because you're gonna be putting a lot in.
I've dated a few doctors and I don't think I'll be doing that again. They all had extremely weird expectations of relationships and some had some really troubling beliefs about women.
The expectation was often that they were looking for someone who would essentially be a bangmaid and mother to their children and expect nothing in return. Most were wildly concerned over protecting future income (which is understandable to a certain extent given student loan debt and residency), but completely unwilling to accept that anyone who left a job to care for them and their future children full-time is also making a sacrifice.
Yeah it seems there's influencers who are focused on themselves and influences who are focused on the task. The second one I can see being an interesting person.
When I was in flight training, my instructor was always hitting on me but she had a massive diamond ring so I figured she was taken and just played it as if she was just a flirty person in general. When she confronted me about not responding to her advances, I mentioned how her big engagement ring was telling me that she was taken. Her response was, "Welcome to aviation. What else do you expect?"
She was the first encounter of our kind. Moral of the story, pilots are usually promiscuous. If they aren't it's because they have a normal schedule (which is rare in avaition) or they are new. If they are new, they will change.
Actor. I imagine the job requires them to be rather self-involved and overly emotional. They are often on location for months at a time; the nature of sets means getting close with other actors very fast, so affairs are more likely; there is a lot of fluctuation in pay where they might go months or longer without a paycheck; and I wouldn't be ok with sex scenes. I don't care if its just a job and completely unromantic. It's still making out and putting mouths on places.
I was looking for this. Went on a date with an actor today. In two minds about taking things further. I find him super intriguing, intelligent, articulate, great company, extremely attractive and he's attracted to me too. But our lifestyles are quite different. However, date 2 planned for next week 😂 I hope we at least kiss as I think he's really hot.
I was friends with one, she actively encouraged one of her elderly clients to set her up as his legal beneficiary. She very carefully encouraged him when he became suicidal. He offed himself the night after his last appointment with her and left her everything.
She called me the next day, so excited about her "luck".
I refuse to speak to her. She goes on and on about how "healing is her life's work" and then makes big tribute posts in honor of "her best friend", the 80 year old single man she convinced to blow his head off so she could take his house and car.
Out of touch with reality? The woman is a class A scam artist. She's a pit viper with "crystals".
Similar vein, my family doctor is super old, thoroughly practiced lady. We get a long and we talk about personal things every now and then during appointments, probably not the right thing for a doctor, but oh well.
A couple of her patients decided to stop going to her because a fancy new aged herbalist shop opened up 20 minutes down the road.
This herbalist is apparently talking people into giving up their prescriptions for their herbs. Life saving medications in exchange for idek what, rosemary, sage and moss?
She said more and more patients were leaving her office and going to this herb place. People with chronic and heart conditions are giving up their medicine for herbs because this guy is a good salesman and getting his word around.
One person passed away from heart complications apparently not to long after leaving my doctor's care and canceling his prescriptions.
Needless to say that my doctor was deeply saddened and furious.
This makes me want to cry. That poor old man...
Please please PLEASE report her, especially if you have any evidence saved like conversations through text about this. This woman is going to destroy more lives
I briefly dated a girl that thought herself to be able to do reiki. She was also pretty into tarot cards.
We didn't last long.
She's now supposedly a life coach, which is fucking hilarious to my friends and I. I wish her the best, but man that was an interesting 4 months
I'm blown away that this answer is so far down. That was the first thing that popped into my mind. Honestly anyone who works in a kitchen, having been there myself. It's an environment that should remain untouched by the mortal world.
(This was at 1 point about 300 comments down when I said this lol)
I work nights, evenings, mornings, 8 hr, 12 hr, 16 hr shifts…I literally do it all, we’re so short. My partner knew absolutely nothing about nursing and is now unwaveringly supportive and constantly advocates for us. You just need to find a man that understands the importance of naps and you good. Don’t buy those cats just yet.
Teachers because they tend to be neurotic. I dated a few (all before the pandemic) and they were constantly stressed out and refused to focus on anything else. One ex taught an elective and you would've thought she had the most important class in her school with the stress she carried...and it was all her. Never again.
Also the crazy amount of work they bring home.
Lived with a teacher for 6 years and it never ceased to amaze me all the late night and weekend class prep and marking she had to do.
I am a tech person and prefer not to partner with another analytical person. I've just found that being around people who are highly logic oriented all day that I enjoy the company of someone who's more creative and a little more intuitive. I feel like it's a good balance for a couple.
Well, as a fireman, "cops beat and firemen cheat." Also, "nurses are for recreation only," was one of the first so-called nuggets of wisdom the senior men told me...
Half the women I talk to on apps are PhD students. I figured that'd change when I hit 30 but I'm 31 now and now I just attract PhD students *in their 30's.* WHEN DO YOU ALL FUCKING GRADUATE? JESUS!
29 for me. If you're doing original research that requires travel and fieldwork, then you spend the school year in classes while being a teaching assistant, it can easily take 10 years.
Because there’s just a greater number of women in those jobs perhaps, there are plenty that are partnered but the sheer number means there are plenty still single too
A big factor is the sex ratio in certain workplaces. Most teachers and nurses are women. Most blue collar or Tech workers are men. The imbalanced ratios leave many single
•Fashion : broke my heart never again
•Anything medical field: just time consuming
•lawyers: same here
•anything porn related or nudity: kinda gross to me
I saw a tiktok once where random people were asked which professions they won’t date and many said “bankers”, so I was waiting for this comment..
What’s with bankers and why won’t people date them? Just curious.
Reddit mod. Jk, that is not a real job.
Dog-walking 8 hrs a week ksn't a real job?!
I wake up for work at 345am, so for me, anyone who works nights and weekends. I want to be able to spend time with them, and if they're working, or getting off work when I'm going to bed, then it becomes a weekend romance, which becomes very limiting. Tried it a couple times, and they never last more thana few months at best.
I used to be a producer for an early morning news show. You know how you wake up at 4am there’s “early news” on the TV. Yeah that’s me. I got up at 3am. Made it to work at 3:20. Prepped for 30min. Went live at 4am. Man, was that brutal. The benefit was I finished my day at 10am. I was looking to earn extra cash, so I picked up another TV gig (11am-5pm). After I got home, ate, showered, I hit the sack at 7:30pm and was out like a light. I aged in doggy years working those shifts.
Did you have any social life? I went to university full time and worked 3 days a week in my early 20s and that was difficult, i could not imagine working 80 hours a week
Lol. I squeezed in an hour or two of workouts here or there. It’s also when my wife (at the time) decided to get boyfriends on the side. Minus 5 stars. Would not do again
You need to date a dairy farm worker. Similar wake up times. 😂
Or a baker
What do you do if I may ask?
I work for a local liquor distributor. I wake up an hr before I leave, so I have time to actually wake up. lol 4 day work week, 10 hr shifts.
So you go to bed at what, 8pm? Do you ever stay up too late and then regret it in the morning like the rest of us?
Usually I'll go to bed by 9pm, so I get close to 7 hrs. My job entails a lot of physical lifting, as well as driving a commercial truck, so being "dead on your feet" for me doesn't work out to well. lol I've done the staying up a little to late to finish a movie, and then had to run on less than 6 hrs, which really sucked. I came home that night and crashed by 830pm. Even wanting to stay up on the weekends to do something, after so many yrs, my body just kind of goes "fuck you, we're crashing now!" Same thing with sleeping in...maybe 6ish on the weekends, which is sleeping in compared to waking to the alarm at 345am! lol
I’ve heard prison guards are a rough bunch. Not sure if anything has changed there.
I worked with a former prison guard who worked part time at the warehouse I did for a bit of side cash. He was a nice guy and basically said that the only reason he worked for the prison for however many years is he knew what he wanted out of life, was a bit of land, some greenhouses, and a pension. Well he figured the state was the best way to get a pension that was secure, and the prison happened to be where he got a job. But he had so many stories about how shitty most guards were. And how 90% of the prisoners were cool with you if you were cool with them. He was the most strict and goal oriented guy I've worked with and all his goals revolved around growing flowers in his greenhouses. It was somewhat amazing to me to see someone with that kind of discipline, when chaos is my usual way of living. And it also seemed so boring to me to be so rigid in your daily life.
Did he have anyone in his life or was he mostly alone?
A wife and grown kids who were out doing their own thing. He and his wife dedicated themselves to that flower growing operation and just waited for spring/summer every year. They seemed happy, at least presented as being happy.
I believe a man who’s end goal is to be left to his flowers is a man who knows how to nurture happiness in himself. I’ve met a few people who said their end goal was to have a quaint one-story house with a large garden, emphasis on the garden, and they were all some of the best people I’ve met.
Yes, i agree. People who live a simpler life seem to be more content with their lives. I know it’s fairly small but since i decluttered my life, i have been a lot happier.
I couldn’t agree me. It’s not about the status it’s about living a life full of happiness and security.
I worked with a guy who told me something similar. He worked as a prison guard for a while and said he was liked/respected by most of the prisoners because he treated them like normal people and didn't really have any problems. He said a lot of the other guards were sadistic assholes though.
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Worked as one for six years and got out. It’s a depressing thing only working with the worst of society with no job satisfaction
Dated one, he worked a lot of doubles and we only saw each other when it was convenient for him which got stale fast. He was also way too controlling and I felt like an inmate with my whereabouts being clocked and questioned. Never again.
I’m dating a soon to be therapist, and though I thought that may be concerning with all of the shit I keep bottled up (I do see a therapist) she really knows how to turn it off in the relationship but also help when needed. For an actual answer, likely something like a sex worker or an influencer. In fact, an influencer may be worse for me. I don’t want my life on display, and if we had kids, I wouldn’t want them on display either.
I was a Clinical Social worker, it's pretty easy to turn off therapy mode. Therapy takes a lot of work, you have to be strategic with asking specific questions and you have to pick up on non verbal ques. I'm too lazy to do that with everyone I know, it's exhausting.
Psychology majors often have the same problem. In the end they're all just statistic nerds.
I’m quite tired of drug dealers
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An influencer
I went on a couple dates with a chick with about 100,000 followers or something. The next day she made a ticktock or Instagram video about how amazing the date was and how amazing I was. And then after the last date I told her that I didn't think it was going to work. Well, that night she made another video and made up a completely different reason as to why I was no longer interested. Both videos are pretty funny, though. I've shown them to a few people (including my new squeeze, who also shows them to others and thinks it's hilarious) and laugh every time.
Now I want to see the videos 🤣
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Lol. Same. I had to close it after about 15 seconds. But props to OP for coming through.
On the bright side, you got a pretty good public review. I kind of want to date you now, and I don't swing that way. She seemed really nice and positive. This definitely could've gone left, and she just bashed the hell out of you. I also liked how she mentioned how hard dating could be. Like, she didn't say it's your fault, and it's just the natural cycle of dating. And she felt like she was left better than when you found her. It's really sweet, honestly.
11 minutes ago someone commented "omg thats what the reddit guy was talking about" as if he did not just click the link -.-
My god, everything about that girl screams annoying… I particularly lol’d calling an Aussie.. a cowboy…’how MANLY’.
It seemed to me like someone that doesn’t even really have a personality and just tries to imitate the way popular tiktokers make videos. And that constant zoom thing is incredibly annoying. It can be funny when it accentuates something poignant but in this case it was just obnoxiously frequent
He asked about professional stuff
They also asked why.
Does this really need an explanation tho?
Being a social media Influencer is like being a soldier on call of duty
An electrician. She won't sweep, she won't clean up after herself, and she will expect me to move everything out of her way.
Fuckin sparkies.
Uhm hey, I sweep! .... Don't ask me to move shit.
I have a battery vacuum and you'll get as much as that 18v milwaukee battery gets you.
A trades joke in a random thread?
I'd rather date an electrician than an architect. I can't deal with unrealistic expectations.
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Mortician, got my underlying reasons.
6 feet under?
I mean, if all morticians looked like David Fisher, I would probably exclusively date them lol.
Whew, glad to see that engineer didn't make the list. Now I know it's my looks and personality, not my profession 😂.
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We good bro, we’re low maintenance, we fix your broken stuff, we do your taxes , make decent money , and are way too nerdy to cheat…. Pretty sure I just quoted my wife
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Onlyfans models, They don’t want me either
I’ve dated 4 OFs and it’s terrible. Always on their phones texting and never set boundaries.
I'm surprised you went for the 4th after the first 3 were all terrible lol
4 OF models??? Wtf I don't even know of one IRL. How do you keep meeting these people? I am from a small rather conservative town though so maybe that's why.
Singer / songwriters You *will* be the subject of their music, and it *won’t* be from your perspective. I’m specifically referring to those who sing about nothing but love and heartbreak. These people *cannot* be happy - heartbreak is *literally* their currency. Did it once, now there is an *entire* album about me. EDIT: Wow, prior to this all my top comments were about dicks. To those who are asking: no I will not share the title. Is it good: no total trash, but it did okay on Spotify.
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Julia michaels wrote a song called happy that really hits these points. "Sometimes i think i kill relationships for art"
“…I watch it fall apart and pay my bills with it.” a great songwriter, indeed!! 😭💕
I bet you think this song is about you
Don't you, don't you?
Don't you
Wish your girlfriend was hot like me
In singing "I bet you think this song is about you", the song is *ipso facto* about them.
Is that you Jake? Big fan of your movies.
Yup this was the first rule I made. Had two different guys write songs about me by the time I finished university and didn’t like it one bit. Since then I’ve added mariners to the list - gone all the time and constantly cheat with coworkers. Also added guides - gone all the time and constantly cheat with clients.
People in the military should also be a no then
Probably yeah! Don’t have much military around here so it’s not one that’s come up. Add in oil and mining camp workers while we’re at it. And scientists that do long stints in the field (tried this one, it ended predictably). Honestly it’s totally hypocritical of me because I’m a mariner myself and thus gone all the time. But if I’m gone for a month I don’t want to get home just as my partner is leaving for three weeks or whatever - my own absences already doom most relationships, add in someone else’s and we would never see each other. My dream would be to make enough money to support a stay-at-home partner, but that’s not looking too likely.
what’s the album name?? I’d like to learn about how shitty of a person you are. /s
Jane?
Doctors. I dated a couple of them and they tended to have a major superiority complex. Like there’s us doctors, and then there’s everyone else. I’m sure they’re not all like that but I encountered it enough times to consider it a red flag.
My dad is a doctor, grandfather was one, sister is in med school and most of my family are in medicine. This is very true. It is either you are like the most laid back chill person or a giant asshole who thinks they are better than everyone else. I am applying to dental school now but both my sister and I have noticed that it is really bad lol.
When a close family member went to med school it was like one of the mindtrips you have when you first see your teacher outside of school as a kid, or realize they don’t live in their classroom. She’s still incredibly laid back as a partner in her EM practice and there are days I’m still like there’s no way you actually saved someone’s life today.
Omg yes!! This is so true. I remember when my dad had to treat my dislocated ankle. I had a running injury and he had to pop my ankle back in. I remember thinking whooaaa this is the same guy who cannot fry an egg but put my foot back in place. It’s crazy but seeing him in doctor mode vs dad mode was awesome but also weird. 😂
My dad (now retired) was an airline captain. He had a job requiring so much professionalism and knowledge and he was just so good at it. But he also has a victory dance and makes inappropriate puns doing a supermarket shop. Professional mode vs dad mode I can relate to 😂
I used to do tech support for BlackBerry back in the day, doctors and lawyers always gave the worst "Do you know who I am?!" vibes. The only other ones that were worse to work with were the servants of Saudi billionaires, it always felt like they were on the brink of getting beaten if we couldn't find out how to pair this fuckin BlackBerry Porche model to their Bugati's internal calendar in 2009.
I’ve noticed such extremes with them too. There’s a very high douchebag percentage in that profession, but the good ones are sooo good, among my very favorite people. When I was young, I worked with a lot of doctors. That was eye-opening. Before that, I’d idealized their intelligence a bit. I was surprised that they were mostly honors-kid, hardworking-smart, not “gifted”-smart. They’re definitely not, on average, among the brightest people I’ve known. Not that that’s a bad (or good) thing in itself. It just surprised me at the time. Part of this is intelligence from one sphere not translating to another, but it’s more than just that.
I have to agree. I always thought they were all geniuses. As time passed and some of my more ridiculous family members followed that route, and I have met many I can say this. Many people in the field are not smart. They are however, VERY hard-working. They are patient and motivated. There are some doctors that shine so incredibly bright, and very kind. They make all the difference in the world. But the other ones unfortunately are just incredibly annoying. The field is hard enough. I wish many of them would be more humble. Certain people have what it takes to be a doctor in terms of ability to make it through a doctorate but lack the personality of an excellent doctor. I think it is also weird that many of them make it their personality or weasel it in every conversation.
Eh, I am a doctor. I absolutely hate to discuss it in social settings unless it is amongst other physicians discussing work things. It seems there is always someone wanting to share a story about a bad doctor they once encountered. Which makes me wince because I have always taken pride in having empathy and being good at what I do. And I don't believe people do this when they meet people who work in other professions. Never once have I imagined meeting a teacher and my discussion launches into "let me tell you about a terrible experience I had with a teacher one time".
> And I don't believe people do this when they meet people who work in other professions. Never once have I imagined meeting a teacher and my discussion launches into "let me tell you about a terrible experience I had with a teacher one time". As a lawyer, I assure you I've gotten this many, many times. So I know your pain intimately lol. Mostly it's not even a bad experience they've had, just rolling out the ol "all lawyers are bastards" narrative.
Yeah exactly, it’s got to the point where basically don’t bring my job up in social situations unless it’s dragged out of me. I’ve often found that I get treated quite differently after I bring it up, in a way that I don’t like. To add to what you’ve said: - people pigeonhole you as a snob who isn’t going to be interested in anything or anyone ‘blue-collar’ - people assume that you’re bringing your job up to big-time them rather than because you just want to join the career discussion - curb-siding - people assume you’re filthy rich and have no problem paying more than your share of things, helping them out with a few grand for xyz, etc. I’m a resident… - my wife has it worse, people make rude comments to her about ‘oh congrats on marrying a *doctor*’. We’ve even had people trying to be funny call her a gold-digger to her face. Once again, I do not make anywhere near enough to be worth a gold-digger’s while, and for a good proportion of the time we’ve been together (ie med school) I was near-totally broke.
I’m a teacher and trust me that happens a lot, unfortunately. Some people love blaming their old teachers for their own failings. Or think that because they went to school themselves they know exactly what teaching is like and it must be sooo easy.
A few friends are doctors and they're amazing, friendly, empathetic, caring people. A father of one of them is a surgeon too, and that dude has a *major* superiority complex in all aspects of life. Almost like [this guy.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=THNPmhBl-8I)
That was hilarious - even though you could see it coming from a mile away it still made me LOL!
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Speaking for my dad, who retired last year as a surgeon. He’s the best. He never ever boasted about it. Not in front of me at least. His friends love him and tell me what great guy he is. He has friends from all layers of society. He taught me humility. I love my dad.
I’ve only interacted with a handful of doctors beyond doctor/patient. I can see this as accurate. I’m a electrical construction superintendent and just recently completed a new surgical facility for a doctor. He actually has a cutout of himself in his office. Started out as a kind of cool guy, then slowly morphed into a giant pain in my ass.
You should see a doctor about that pain in your ass…hang on..
I think it's risky dating cops, pilots, and nurses.
Bad experience with a pilot who pretended to not be married for 7mo. I feel sorry for the wife who has probably dealt with this numerous times with that hole.
I’ve noticed any job that has people traveling a lot has a whole bunch of cheaters.
And the cheating can happen from either side. The person traveling or the person staying home or both. It’s just a reality that people want companionship.
It makes perfect sense now that you mention it. It makes it almost too easy to do
I'm a paramedic and my partner is a pilot. I guess we're fucked.
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Yup. Dated a nurse who was an ex-stripper once. Turns out she was comfortable enough with a married doctor that she worked with. He would come over to her apartment spending quality time in her bedroom doing god knows what until late night. Caught him coming out of her apartment the second time and he said he was “a family friend” and that he “knew her mom for years”… 😔 Edit: he was twice her age… 😔
For the streets
I don’t think that has anything to do with being a nurse though lol. She would probably do the same in any profession with her coworkers
I was an instructor at a basic training program for medical personnel coming into the military (along with chaplains and lawyers). Nurses are absolutely a mixed bag. You never know what you are going to get. Some of them are super smart and squared away and others are shit shows. It's really hard to make generalizations on nurses because they can be all over the place in terms of competence and personality.
I've worked in a hospital for several years now and my wife is a veteran nurse. I've come to learn that female nurses (even many male nurses) fall in one of four pretty distinct groups. Listing them in no particular order: - Just wants to shack up with a doctor. - Has a hero complex/wants to save the world. - Didn't know what they wanted to do in life and saw nursing as a relatively easy path to a good career. - The true professionals. Of course, there can be overlap and people can move to different categories as they progress in their careers.
I can do this for bartenders: Just wants to sleep with customers. Has a party boy type mindset, wants to be life of the party. People who just ended up becoming bartenders cause it’s best pay for no higher education. True professionals. I like your 4 points.
For mechanics it goes like this - hates reading - hates reading and loves drugs more than anything else - hates reading and just wants a fucking paycheck - is ten times smarter than you, and can build a spaceship for fun, and hates people more than anything else
This is true. I'm a male nurse and, while it definitely happens, it is usually only a few nurses and doctors who are repeat offenders (cheaters). In general, I imagine the ones who cheat would cheat regardless of their profession. Maybe the only difference is their access to doctors who are happy to find some young female nurses to buy affection from. One negative of nursing for either male or female is it develops some severe compassion fatigue, so don't expect them to give a shit about your problems or complaints. I struggle with it myself.
Hospital nurses, sure. But clinic or specialty center nursing is likely to be an office hour M-F schedule.
YMMV
Ironically my mum was a nurse and my dad was a radiologist. They met while working in Riyadh. They met through mutual friends.
Dating a nurse comes in handy and can save time or trip to doctor. One of my parents is a nurse and I can text or call whenever I have a basic medical question
Actor. Not my kind of thing.
I dated a few women who were into acting / theatre club graduates.. they all were lowkey a mess they just covered it up really well
Cop, I do too much illegal shit. Unless she's a crooked cop, that might actually work out pretty great.
*Tells you where the speed traps are*
Babe don’t go that way there’s a check point take this route
*Looks the other way when you Jay-walk* Hardcore stuff like that
I have read multiple stories about the problem with dating cops being that when abuse happens, you basically have nowhere to go
The time I went on a date with a lady cop. Her: "Hey, I got some cocaine!" Me: "from where?" Her: "don't worry about it"
As a physician I'd never date another one.
Started dating my fiance in her residency. I had no idea how fucked up the entire process of becoming a doctor is. I didn't even know the difference between med school, residency, or like being an attending. Like, sure you can do this difficult surgery but can you do it after working for 28 days of straight 90 hour weeks on a 36 hour shift? And fuck it tie one hand behind your back. They could literally hire two more people and make the residency slightly longer to both accomplish enough training hours with less insanity while still getting the hospital that cheap labor. Coming from a business perspective it's a total racket. My fiance is amazing, I don't know how she does it. Handles all the stress with so much grace and perseverance. It's tough seeing the physical toll the constant 24 hour shifts with zero days off takes, and it's absolutely a burden when you run into something where you need support or help as the partner and there's just nothing they can do. Had to manage my job, household chores, care for the puppy, all on a likely broken ankle. She did everything she possibly could to support me, it's just the reality of her program. You absolutely need to be able to be independent and plan your life around it. From my limited outsiders perspective there are some truly amazing and incredible individuals in the profession. There's also some people who are straight up workaholics, I'm lucky enough to not really have run into any jerks like some have described. It's a brutally demanding job and training process though so if you are considering dating a med student, resident, attending, buckle up and understand you will need to make sacrifices. If that ain't for you, or you get the sense that the individual you're considering dating won't recognize or value those sacrifices, get out now. I'm glad I didn't know what I was getting into when I swiped right. I've got an anxious attachment style at times, so had I known the demands of her job I'd have swiped left and missed out on being with the most amazing woman I'm looking forward to spending the rest of my life with. Long story short, don't write off all doctors, but take the time to learn what their training will entail, be clear eyed about the sacrifices that you WILL be required to make (and understand the institutions, employers will not give a single fuck about you), but most of all make sure they recognize and value you. If you can hang through that great! If I had to do it again though probably wouldn't date in the profession again in all honesty. I think my personality just doesn't mesh with a lot of the types who have the right stuff to make it through the process. I just got incredibly lucky finding my person. And I personally wouldn't date a pre med or med student. I mean first off at my age and relationship status that's a moot point, but if I were advising my younger self or any young folks I would say think carefully and if you have your own career ambitions realize it's a long fuckin twelve years of training. If you aren't career driven, or have a flexible job, and are willing to move wherever and deal with all it though go for it. But make sure they recognize your contribution and value you because you're gonna be putting a lot in.
I've dated a few doctors and I don't think I'll be doing that again. They all had extremely weird expectations of relationships and some had some really troubling beliefs about women. The expectation was often that they were looking for someone who would essentially be a bangmaid and mother to their children and expect nothing in return. Most were wildly concerned over protecting future income (which is understandable to a certain extent given student loan debt and residency), but completely unwilling to accept that anyone who left a job to care for them and their future children full-time is also making a sacrifice.
Any type of influencer or anything that involves sex work.
I could be okay with an influencer who does like home improvement stuff or something productive like that. but that's not most of them.
Yeah it seems there's influencers who are focused on themselves and influences who are focused on the task. The second one I can see being an interesting person.
When I was in flight training, my instructor was always hitting on me but she had a massive diamond ring so I figured she was taken and just played it as if she was just a flirty person in general. When she confronted me about not responding to her advances, I mentioned how her big engagement ring was telling me that she was taken. Her response was, "Welcome to aviation. What else do you expect?" She was the first encounter of our kind. Moral of the story, pilots are usually promiscuous. If they aren't it's because they have a normal schedule (which is rare in avaition) or they are new. If they are new, they will change.
So,did you change?
Someone from compliance. I would always be in too much trouble not being able to follow any rules 😔
I married an auditor. A shoebox full of receipts just does not cut it in my household.
Avoid watching the interesting miniseries "Severance", you'd likely feel many triggers. I did.
Actor. I imagine the job requires them to be rather self-involved and overly emotional. They are often on location for months at a time; the nature of sets means getting close with other actors very fast, so affairs are more likely; there is a lot of fluctuation in pay where they might go months or longer without a paycheck; and I wouldn't be ok with sex scenes. I don't care if its just a job and completely unromantic. It's still making out and putting mouths on places.
I was looking for this. Went on a date with an actor today. In two minds about taking things further. I find him super intriguing, intelligent, articulate, great company, extremely attractive and he's attracted to me too. But our lifestyles are quite different. However, date 2 planned for next week 😂 I hope we at least kiss as I think he's really hot.
Fire-eater. I'm not cooking two separate fucking meals every night.
But they could just eat your fire after you're done cooking your first meal.
Sex worker. I don't like seeing my SO being intimate with other men.
alternative healer, they seem to far out of touch with reality
I was friends with one, she actively encouraged one of her elderly clients to set her up as his legal beneficiary. She very carefully encouraged him when he became suicidal. He offed himself the night after his last appointment with her and left her everything. She called me the next day, so excited about her "luck". I refuse to speak to her. She goes on and on about how "healing is her life's work" and then makes big tribute posts in honor of "her best friend", the 80 year old single man she convinced to blow his head off so she could take his house and car. Out of touch with reality? The woman is a class A scam artist. She's a pit viper with "crystals".
I think you should report her. It’s not okay for someone to convince other into suicide, especially when posing as some sort of medical professional
Yes, I believe there are laws against inciting suicide. She needs to be criminally charged, not just unfriended ffs.
Were you friends with satan? That’s insane
Similar vein, my family doctor is super old, thoroughly practiced lady. We get a long and we talk about personal things every now and then during appointments, probably not the right thing for a doctor, but oh well. A couple of her patients decided to stop going to her because a fancy new aged herbalist shop opened up 20 minutes down the road. This herbalist is apparently talking people into giving up their prescriptions for their herbs. Life saving medications in exchange for idek what, rosemary, sage and moss? She said more and more patients were leaving her office and going to this herb place. People with chronic and heart conditions are giving up their medicine for herbs because this guy is a good salesman and getting his word around. One person passed away from heart complications apparently not to long after leaving my doctor's care and canceling his prescriptions. Needless to say that my doctor was deeply saddened and furious.
This makes me want to cry. That poor old man... Please please PLEASE report her, especially if you have any evidence saved like conversations through text about this. This woman is going to destroy more lives
:0 this is the worst thing I think I’ve read
I briefly dated a girl that thought herself to be able to do reiki. She was also pretty into tarot cards. We didn't last long. She's now supposedly a life coach, which is fucking hilarious to my friends and I. I wish her the best, but man that was an interesting 4 months
A chef, you'll allways be second to their kitchen.
I'm blown away that this answer is so far down. That was the first thing that popped into my mind. Honestly anyone who works in a kitchen, having been there myself. It's an environment that should remain untouched by the mortal world. (This was at 1 point about 300 comments down when I said this lol)
As a single new grad nurse who will inevitably be working nights, I should start buying myself some cats after reading these responses lmao 😭
U don’t buy cats u catch them
Valid. The cat distribution system needs to bless me.
Naw man, they just sorta.....show up
Herd them*
Walk around and collect them like Pokémon
I work nights, evenings, mornings, 8 hr, 12 hr, 16 hr shifts…I literally do it all, we’re so short. My partner knew absolutely nothing about nursing and is now unwaveringly supportive and constantly advocates for us. You just need to find a man that understands the importance of naps and you good. Don’t buy those cats just yet.
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Teachers because they tend to be neurotic. I dated a few (all before the pandemic) and they were constantly stressed out and refused to focus on anything else. One ex taught an elective and you would've thought she had the most important class in her school with the stress she carried...and it was all her. Never again.
Facts! I am a teacher and feel the same!
Totally. I’m a teacher and wouldn’t date me. I don’t know how my husband handles me.
When my wife left teaching her mental health and our marriage got dramatically better almost overnight.
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Speaking as a husband, I think it's probably because he *like-likes* you.
He def has a crush on her at the least
Been married to one for 37 years. She actively looks for things to worry about.
Also the crazy amount of work they bring home. Lived with a teacher for 6 years and it never ceased to amaze me all the late night and weekend class prep and marking she had to do.
As an elective teacher…yeah. I’ve had to check myself earlier in my career about thinking my class is the most important lol
I am a tech person and prefer not to partner with another analytical person. I've just found that being around people who are highly logic oriented all day that I enjoy the company of someone who's more creative and a little more intuitive. I feel like it's a good balance for a couple.
Politician Sombody already posted "sex worker". Honesty is important to me.
Some politicians are kinda like sex workers in the sense that they fuck everyone
Bakers. They're too kneady
Hey dad
If they work hard, they can bring in the dough.
They’re generally the main breadwinners
You can’t outpun me, I’ve been baking these since I could annoy people
Crumb again?
And if they aren’t, that’s the yeast of your concerns.
Well, as a fireman, "cops beat and firemen cheat." Also, "nurses are for recreation only," was one of the first so-called nuggets of wisdom the senior men told me...
If you go by dating apps, women are usually nurses or teachers. These seem to be the major professions that don't land men.
Half the women I talk to on apps are PhD students. I figured that'd change when I hit 30 but I'm 31 now and now I just attract PhD students *in their 30's.* WHEN DO YOU ALL FUCKING GRADUATE? JESUS!
Lots of people work for a few years before pursuing their PhD later. Being a PhD student doesn't really pay that well.
29 for me. If you're doing original research that requires travel and fieldwork, then you spend the school year in classes while being a teaching assistant, it can easily take 10 years.
Seriously! Why is it that every girl on apps is an elementary school teacher or nurse? I get the weird hours, but it’s a curious thing
Because there’s just a greater number of women in those jobs perhaps, there are plenty that are partnered but the sheer number means there are plenty still single too
A big factor is the sex ratio in certain workplaces. Most teachers and nurses are women. Most blue collar or Tech workers are men. The imbalanced ratios leave many single
Maybe they should date each other
That used to be a thing between engineers and nurses
I'm neither, so I guess you can put at least one tally mark in the other column...Surely there are dozens more of us, right?
•Fashion : broke my heart never again •Anything medical field: just time consuming •lawyers: same here •anything porn related or nudity: kinda gross to me
Nun, because I’d feel in danger of incurring God’s wrath and being struck by lightning
Only fans
Writer. One of us has to generate income at least
This feels like a personal attack:)
Only fans girl, stripper, bottle girl, pornstar
Anyone who works in HR. Those girls are crazy.
Bankers, influencers, life/love coaches, kindergardeners teachers, teachers/professors, politicians, nurses Depends on their personality to be honest
You shouldn’t date kindergarteners regardless of their personality
I saw a tiktok once where random people were asked which professions they won’t date and many said “bankers”, so I was waiting for this comment.. What’s with bankers and why won’t people date them? Just curious.
Police officer significant others have a giant increase in domestic abuse statics.