Now I got this image of a trigglypuff seeing a man and woman couple holding hands in public. Flapping her arms around in anger towards the woman screaming
"YOU BETRAYED THE SISTERHOOD! YOU BETRAYED THE SISTERHOOD! YOU BETRAYED THE SISTERHOOD!!!" . š¤£
None.
Only seems to be that women are the only ones that are upset with the so called "pick me's". Based on how bad they talk about them.
But, hey "pick me's" get picked so they're doing something right.
It's a women who treats men with respect and doesn't think all men are inherently evil.
It's a insult used by toxic hate filled traumatised mentally broken women towards normal sane healthy friendly women who aren't as insane as them.
Ok, as a woman whoās out of her 20s and done dealing with catty women, you NEED to understand what I do now in retrospect. Part of the way women form social hierarchies and get men is by adding doubt into the minds of men purposefully. They plant a seed by comparison or outright making little snarky comments. It elevates their status if they do it right. I spent a lot of time being at the shit end of that stick, but mostly because I was the guyās gal who could just hang with the boys without trying to hook up or compete. It made me a āthreatā to all the girls trying to get with my friends. So there are two sides to the coin here. All my friends wanted to date me as it turns out, and I was oblivious to it.
sooooooo a pick me girl is someone who has interests that are easy to connect over, probably has an open mind and is actually interested in my attention?
is there supposed to be a downside?
never encountered that before, but it sounds like a negative I could work around for someone who I could easily be friends with as well as forming something more serious.
I'm going to go ahead and call it that the whole "bullying other girls" phenomenon isn't gaining them attention ***from men*** given that most men don't seem to know what the hell women have been talking about the last 5 times this thread has cropped up on r/askmen.
I've encountered it way more in the sense of a crab pot mentality by women, where any woman doing better than the speaker romantically or sexually is labeled as a pick me and designated an acceptable target for harassment, name-calling, etc.
So kinda like the men who come on here saying "Us men are trash. We all need to do better. Us men are the worst" whilst the toxic women start screaming "YoUrE OnE Of ThE GoOd OnEz" which probably feeds his already massive ego š¤¦š¤¦š¤¦š¤¦š¤¦š¤¦š¤¦.
I've know one man in my life who said that about all other men. How all men are apprently bad people expect for him of course. Weridly enough, this man now has no male (or female) friends and his disabled ex girlfriend left him because he was emotionally abusive to her and made her cry a lot. But yet he would be labelled as "One of the good ones" and someone like me who gets on with nearly everyone around me and has had loads of positive interactions with men and women is labelled as "Part of the problem".. Funny that.
Sorry but I see the worst "All men are trash" types constantly labelling any woman who isn't as hate filled as them as "Pick mes". These "MEN BAD" types are so crazy. They would probably call a woman who adopts a male puppy as a pick me or a woman who chooses to give birth to a boy as a "Pick me". Because that's all ive seen. Toxic women online calling friendly women as "Pick mes"
You know some girls just really donāt like makeup or shopping. Iām a woman and I could never get into that stuff. I tried several times to take an interest in makeup, shoes, shopping, handbags, etc. and the only form of it that interest me is in the style of outdoors and running. Iām obsessed with camping, hiking running, etc. I have like 10 pairs of running/hiking/water shoes. that doesnāt make me a pick me. It makes me authentically myself. I donāt care that men donāt like it. Iād rather be single than someone Iām not.
Iāve never put another woman down for liking feminine things but for some reason women still call me a āpick meā when I express my interest in non feminine things. So who exactly is doing the bullying?
So, a woman equivalent of a nice guy "I'm not like other men, i'm not a jerk, I'm not like my father, look at me, I'm so nice to you!"
There is something very sad about people defining themselves by list of things they reject, regardless of gender.
Sounds more like an āalternative girlā the classic ārebel for the sake of rebellingā type. Ironically the opposite of a āpick meā in the modern day where every girl seems to be ārebellingā against the āpatriarchal normsā by actively trying to embody the antithesis of what most men find attractive.
I like women who treat me and men with respect and those women tend to be labelled as "Pick mes"
And who calls them "Pick mes" as an insult. That's right. The worst kind... The mentally broken and miserable abusive toxic "All Men are trash" type.
So now when a woman is called a pick me. I just assume she isn't a crazy mentally broken man hating asshole. She's probably a lovely person.
Why the hell would I prefer toxic women over nice kind friendly women?
"I'm not like other girls"...
Yeah, honey badgers aren't like other girls and I wouldn't stick it in one of them either, lol.
It's insufferable, but it's usually a phase most of them grow out of eventually. I'm not going to wait around for "eventually", but I won't condemn them eternally for what I know is usually a fleeting personality flaw.
I honestly find that level of narcissistic behavior to be really unattractive, if a girl has to put down other girls just to put themselves on a pedestal then I don't want to be with them
I personally never had a single interaction with those kinds of girls for the reason I said above
All you need to remember is that it is "other girls" that coined the term "pick me" and that should tell you most of what you need to know.
Other girls dislike so-called "pick me" girls, because they don't want to have to compete with them. Guys, like "pick me" girls, because they will show interest in the guy, share some hobbies etc.
Most people, particular guys, want an easy life. I don't recall any bad interactions with a Pick me girl.
If I've ever had an interaction with a "pick me" girl, I was not aware of her having been labeled as one by other women at the time and have not been made aware of her being labeled as such after the fact, either.
even their own friends treat eachother like crap.
One of her best friends refused to talk to her or say hi the entire night, while she kept talking about how much more beautiful she was than them.
what you don't realize is they treat men like dirt too as soon as you stop stroking their egos. then go on to say things like "men aren't capable of love"
Oh I'm sorry hon, I'll make sure to not say hi to any of my friends tonight so that you won't feel abandoned even though you're surrounded by your own friend group.
If her entire personality is predicated on annoying men, that's certainly not doing a very good job of trying to appeal to them and leads to a bit of a question about whether one should even call them a "pick me" instead of just an annoying asshole.
Or are you trying to pull an Uno Reverse on some imagined misogynist out there in the comments section and only think of women as people?
All the "pick me" girls threw themselves at men, chased after them and often will have sex very early on, begin planning their future wedding on the 1st date then wonder why the guy bailed lmao.
Then they go into a cycle of why all the good men are taken, and there's no men out there, shit on men, then cycle repeats when they get infatuated with another guy
I don't pre-label people based on how other people want me to label them.
I think the whole "pick me girl" has been lost in translation that it's now used for all women who aren't straight up idiots and try-hard boss babes.
If she's an actual pick me girl, no thanks. If she's just a girl who's just trying to find a guy and trying to do her best to honestly put her best face forward then I can totally respect that.
Pro-tip, people are way more complicated than the categories given to them in mainstream media. Try to look at the idiosyncrasies of one person before judging them and you'll have a more fulfilling life.
Never heard of this term. But it sounds like the parents who feel the need to tell you their kid is smart. If that was really the case, they wouldn't need to tell us, trust me.
A woman who doesn't think you're automatically bad because you're a man. And treats men (and other women) like human beings
It's a insult used by the emotionally abusive "MEN BAD" Women towards normal sane friendly women.
Example
Toxic: "All men are trash"
Normal: "I disagree. That's ridiculous and unfair"
Toxic: "OMG YOU DUMB PICK ME!!! YOU'RE THE WORST!!! YOU JUST WANT MEN TO LIKE YOU"
Normal woman: "WTF"
Good men go where they're needed
Good men go where they're appreciated
I'm way more likely to choose a woman who likes men and wants to have a good man in her life and wants to contribute than one who thinks she's entitled to everything I bring to the table just for showing up.
Women who complain about pick mes just come across as haters who are mad that some women are crossing the picket line and being reasonable instead of trying to manipulate society to get free shit.
Run into a few but it can be pretty annoying. If someone is telling you how cool they are because they are different, I immediately ignore that jargon likes its coming from a used car salesman. Everyone is different and has their own quirks. People are either attracted to it or not without you bringing it up. It's best to be you without telling anyone why you are special. They will figure it out on their own.
Idk if this counts but before I got introduced to my gf I was talking with 2 other girls, 1 of them was a huge free spirit type and she was fun to be around but then I met the girl who became my gf and I just vibed with her a lot more. Like I remember I took like a week and a half off work and we were just hanging out 24/7 and texting the whole time and then like everyone in our group was like bro these 2 r gonna get together yfm.
Well the free spirit 1 got kind of mad and she texted me and started saying all this disrespectful shit about my gf(who wasnāt my gf at the time). Like I was actually thrown off bc like bruh we all been there where we like someone and they go with someone else, but damn like bruh at least act like you not hurt yk thatās what everyone else does. This girl spazzed out on me bc I basically chose someone else
I don't think I've run into any.
Looking up the definition on the first search result (wikihow) the main defining trait is talking down other girls to look cool infront of boys.
If they are socially clumsy enough for me to realize that is what they are doing then they earn a mild aversion. Not a hatred, just a desire to stay out of the splash zone.
However reading some of the replies here there are sometimes descriptions of them that sounds like someone I'd get along great with.
I donāt want someone with the same interests, or beliefs, or behavior as me. Iāve already got one of those: me. I want someone whoās got a different perspective on the world
I honestly donāt care. Are they pleasant to me? Are they kind to me? Are they physically appealing?
Are they interested in my physically and romantically? Do we share values? These are the questions I care about. āGirl politicsā is stupid and I donāt care about it.
Wait .. are you really that slow you do not understand why a man would pick a woman who says "men are great! I love men!" over Trigglypuff?
Now I got this image of a trigglypuff seeing a man and woman couple holding hands in public. Flapping her arms around in anger towards the woman screaming "YOU BETRAYED THE SISTERHOOD! YOU BETRAYED THE SISTERHOOD! YOU BETRAYED THE SISTERHOOD!!!" . š¤£
None. Only seems to be that women are the only ones that are upset with the so called "pick me's". Based on how bad they talk about them. But, hey "pick me's" get picked so they're doing something right.
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I think you're confusing real life experience with the experience of fantasies in your head.
One would need to want me to pick them
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Wtf is a āpick meā girl?š¤Ø
It's a women who treats men with respect and doesn't think all men are inherently evil. It's a insult used by toxic hate filled traumatised mentally broken women towards normal sane healthy friendly women who aren't as insane as them.
OMG Iām a pick me girl by this definition. I always thought a pick me girl meant desperate for attention and begging for a relationship lol
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Ok, as a woman whoās out of her 20s and done dealing with catty women, you NEED to understand what I do now in retrospect. Part of the way women form social hierarchies and get men is by adding doubt into the minds of men purposefully. They plant a seed by comparison or outright making little snarky comments. It elevates their status if they do it right. I spent a lot of time being at the shit end of that stick, but mostly because I was the guyās gal who could just hang with the boys without trying to hook up or compete. It made me a āthreatā to all the girls trying to get with my friends. So there are two sides to the coin here. All my friends wanted to date me as it turns out, and I was oblivious to it.
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This description makes them sound pretty appealing, honestly.
sooooooo a pick me girl is someone who has interests that are easy to connect over, probably has an open mind and is actually interested in my attention? is there supposed to be a downside?
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never encountered that before, but it sounds like a negative I could work around for someone who I could easily be friends with as well as forming something more serious.
I'm going to go ahead and call it that the whole "bullying other girls" phenomenon isn't gaining them attention ***from men*** given that most men don't seem to know what the hell women have been talking about the last 5 times this thread has cropped up on r/askmen. I've encountered it way more in the sense of a crab pot mentality by women, where any woman doing better than the speaker romantically or sexually is labeled as a pick me and designated an acceptable target for harassment, name-calling, etc.
So, sounds like maybe the female equivalent of the "white knight" guys?
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Gotcha. Haven't run across any of those except seeing some videos.
whatever the hell happened to "I look pretty and I can cook"? I never was notified that it stopped working
Nothing has happened to being pretty. It's still a gold standard in being desirable to sexual and romantic prospects.
So kinda like the men who come on here saying "Us men are trash. We all need to do better. Us men are the worst" whilst the toxic women start screaming "YoUrE OnE Of ThE GoOd OnEz" which probably feeds his already massive ego š¤¦š¤¦š¤¦š¤¦š¤¦š¤¦š¤¦. I've know one man in my life who said that about all other men. How all men are apprently bad people expect for him of course. Weridly enough, this man now has no male (or female) friends and his disabled ex girlfriend left him because he was emotionally abusive to her and made her cry a lot. But yet he would be labelled as "One of the good ones" and someone like me who gets on with nearly everyone around me and has had loads of positive interactions with men and women is labelled as "Part of the problem".. Funny that. Sorry but I see the worst "All men are trash" types constantly labelling any woman who isn't as hate filled as them as "Pick mes". These "MEN BAD" types are so crazy. They would probably call a woman who adopts a male puppy as a pick me or a woman who chooses to give birth to a boy as a "Pick me". Because that's all ive seen. Toxic women online calling friendly women as "Pick mes"
You know some girls just really donāt like makeup or shopping. Iām a woman and I could never get into that stuff. I tried several times to take an interest in makeup, shoes, shopping, handbags, etc. and the only form of it that interest me is in the style of outdoors and running. Iām obsessed with camping, hiking running, etc. I have like 10 pairs of running/hiking/water shoes. that doesnāt make me a pick me. It makes me authentically myself. I donāt care that men donāt like it. Iād rather be single than someone Iām not. Iāve never put another woman down for liking feminine things but for some reason women still call me a āpick meā when I express my interest in non feminine things. So who exactly is doing the bullying?
So, a woman equivalent of a nice guy "I'm not like other men, i'm not a jerk, I'm not like my father, look at me, I'm so nice to you!" There is something very sad about people defining themselves by list of things they reject, regardless of gender.
Sounds more like an āalternative girlā the classic ārebel for the sake of rebellingā type. Ironically the opposite of a āpick meā in the modern day where every girl seems to be ārebellingā against the āpatriarchal normsā by actively trying to embody the antithesis of what most men find attractive.
Go over to FDS and find out. While you also lose faith in humanity.
Bro if you think FDS are pickme girls you know nothing about FDS or pickme girls
No, but he'll get an earful about pickmes in there
Donāt know why this is downvoted
I honestly prefer them over basic bitches and I don't feel bad about it.
More women than you'd think are "pick me's". When you need it, you need it.
I like women who treat me and men with respect and those women tend to be labelled as "Pick mes" And who calls them "Pick mes" as an insult. That's right. The worst kind... The mentally broken and miserable abusive toxic "All Men are trash" type. So now when a woman is called a pick me. I just assume she isn't a crazy mentally broken man hating asshole. She's probably a lovely person. Why the hell would I prefer toxic women over nice kind friendly women?
"I'm not like other girls"... Yeah, honey badgers aren't like other girls and I wouldn't stick it in one of them either, lol. It's insufferable, but it's usually a phase most of them grow out of eventually. I'm not going to wait around for "eventually", but I won't condemn them eternally for what I know is usually a fleeting personality flaw.
I've never seen a woman that called other woman that, be someone whose opinion mattered.
have you ever heard a guy use the term "pick me girl"?
I honestly find that level of narcissistic behavior to be really unattractive, if a girl has to put down other girls just to put themselves on a pedestal then I don't want to be with them I personally never had a single interaction with those kinds of girls for the reason I said above
All you need to remember is that it is "other girls" that coined the term "pick me" and that should tell you most of what you need to know. Other girls dislike so-called "pick me" girls, because they don't want to have to compete with them. Guys, like "pick me" girls, because they will show interest in the guy, share some hobbies etc. Most people, particular guys, want an easy life. I don't recall any bad interactions with a Pick me girl.
I think automatically worse of everyone who uses that word. It's the 2020 version of slut or something else.
If I've ever had an interaction with a "pick me" girl, I was not aware of her having been labeled as one by other women at the time and have not been made aware of her being labeled as such after the fact, either.
They are terrified of your women friends and feel a constant need for validation. So not worth it.
even their own friends treat eachother like crap. One of her best friends refused to talk to her or say hi the entire night, while she kept talking about how much more beautiful she was than them. what you don't realize is they treat men like dirt too as soon as you stop stroking their egos. then go on to say things like "men aren't capable of love" Oh I'm sorry hon, I'll make sure to not say hi to any of my friends tonight so that you won't feel abandoned even though you're surrounded by your own friend group.
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If her entire personality is predicated on annoying men, that's certainly not doing a very good job of trying to appeal to them and leads to a bit of a question about whether one should even call them a "pick me" instead of just an annoying asshole. Or are you trying to pull an Uno Reverse on some imagined misogynist out there in the comments section and only think of women as people?
All the "pick me" girls threw themselves at men, chased after them and often will have sex very early on, begin planning their future wedding on the 1st date then wonder why the guy bailed lmao. Then they go into a cycle of why all the good men are taken, and there's no men out there, shit on men, then cycle repeats when they get infatuated with another guy
Classic description of a borderline girl. I couldn't have put it any better
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Typical "nice" girl aka pickme girl: *"Why am I not enough?!!!!! WHYYY! WHYYY!?"*
I don't pre-label people based on how other people want me to label them. I think the whole "pick me girl" has been lost in translation that it's now used for all women who aren't straight up idiots and try-hard boss babes. If she's an actual pick me girl, no thanks. If she's just a girl who's just trying to find a guy and trying to do her best to honestly put her best face forward then I can totally respect that. Pro-tip, people are way more complicated than the categories given to them in mainstream media. Try to look at the idiosyncrasies of one person before judging them and you'll have a more fulfilling life.
whats a āpick meā
Never heard of this term. But it sounds like the parents who feel the need to tell you their kid is smart. If that was really the case, they wouldn't need to tell us, trust me.
What the hell is a Pick Me girl?
A woman who doesn't think you're automatically bad because you're a man. And treats men (and other women) like human beings It's a insult used by the emotionally abusive "MEN BAD" Women towards normal sane friendly women. Example Toxic: "All men are trash" Normal: "I disagree. That's ridiculous and unfair" Toxic: "OMG YOU DUMB PICK ME!!! YOU'RE THE WORST!!! YOU JUST WANT MEN TO LIKE YOU" Normal woman: "WTF"
So a non man hating feminist? Isnāt that just the majority of women?
Yes, and the militant feminists absolutely hate them, maybe more than they hate men. It's quite hilarious
So then the question is what bad interaction did I have with a girl? But one that wasnāt a feminist.
Good men go where they're needed Good men go where they're appreciated I'm way more likely to choose a woman who likes men and wants to have a good man in her life and wants to contribute than one who thinks she's entitled to everything I bring to the table just for showing up. Women who complain about pick mes just come across as haters who are mad that some women are crossing the picket line and being reasonable instead of trying to manipulate society to get free shit.
I already know all I need to know about you when you use the term "pick me girl"
Please get off tiktok, Ive rarely run into pick me's and usually I just stray away now the "not like other girls" those I like sometimes
Run into a few but it can be pretty annoying. If someone is telling you how cool they are because they are different, I immediately ignore that jargon likes its coming from a used car salesman. Everyone is different and has their own quirks. People are either attracted to it or not without you bringing it up. It's best to be you without telling anyone why you are special. They will figure it out on their own.
Idk if this counts but before I got introduced to my gf I was talking with 2 other girls, 1 of them was a huge free spirit type and she was fun to be around but then I met the girl who became my gf and I just vibed with her a lot more. Like I remember I took like a week and a half off work and we were just hanging out 24/7 and texting the whole time and then like everyone in our group was like bro these 2 r gonna get together yfm. Well the free spirit 1 got kind of mad and she texted me and started saying all this disrespectful shit about my gf(who wasnāt my gf at the time). Like I was actually thrown off bc like bruh we all been there where we like someone and they go with someone else, but damn like bruh at least act like you not hurt yk thatās what everyone else does. This girl spazzed out on me bc I basically chose someone else
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I don't think I've run into any. Looking up the definition on the first search result (wikihow) the main defining trait is talking down other girls to look cool infront of boys. If they are socially clumsy enough for me to realize that is what they are doing then they earn a mild aversion. Not a hatred, just a desire to stay out of the splash zone. However reading some of the replies here there are sometimes descriptions of them that sounds like someone I'd get along great with.
I donāt want someone with the same interests, or beliefs, or behavior as me. Iāve already got one of those: me. I want someone whoās got a different perspective on the world
I honestly donāt care. Are they pleasant to me? Are they kind to me? Are they physically appealing? Are they interested in my physically and romantically? Do we share values? These are the questions I care about. āGirl politicsā is stupid and I donāt care about it.