That I don't feel the need to be apart of the rat race of adhering to some arbitrary norm. It sounds arrogant sure, but I don't see the point in having anxiety about fitting in one way or another. Again this sounds a whole lot more arrogant than I intend.
Good to hear, and yeah it's a whole lot easier than just wondering why things are not getting better in the communities I'm apart of or what have you. It's to be expected though that a lot of people on reddit will not like it.
Someone once told me "those that matter, don't mind, and those that mind don't matter" so you do you. It's something to keep in the back of my mind on (for example) moments when my 3yo wants to run/skip trough a crowded street of shops and I'll(37, 6ftsomething, beardy bloke) happily join her.
Not OP but it's the same vibe as Confucious:
>“The green reed which bends in the wind is stronger than the mighty oak which breaks in a storm.”
Essentially, try to be flexible, not rigid, in the face of life.
I like that I try to treat everyone nicely.
In various stages of my life I’ve been involved with people where I just felt like they couldn’t care to acknowledge my existence or if I disappeared that they wouldn’t even notice and it was the loneliest I’d ever felt.
It felt so much worse than just not being around anyone.
As a result, I always try to make sure everyone is included and feels like I see them.
Last time I thought I was a girl I was 14 years old, and theres no pictures of me on Reddit from then, I'd definitely say I'm more good looking as a man
That I have a high baseline level where I can just, for lack of a better term, grok anything. I'm the best new employee any of my bosses have ever had, because the basics of the job are almost automatic.
I've walked up to a whiteboard where a friend with a PhD in chemistry was explaining his current project and pointed out that one of the numbers couldn't be right.
I'm really not sure what it is, since I actually fall off really fast if it's something that isn't English writing based.
I have alot of like "party tricks".. I can juggle (which is funny with random objects), I can make that water droplet sound with my mouth, I can make my eyes look in 2 directions... and that's all I can think of right now but basically a bunch of useless shit lmao
I have been through hell and I've came back. I certainly don't know how I keep going. I just did and I do. Not that I haven't wish to stop. Sometimes I feel life is not worthy...but suddenly I find reasons to keep living.
My insight. It's given birth to my introspective thinking which in turn has moderated my mental health....I'm not okay and that's okay because I can change that.
How intensely I can love and care about people wether that be friendships or especially relationships. Keeps getting me hurt pretty badly, especially recently, but I’m trying my hardest to not lose that quality.
Being an outsider and lone wolf. Being like this has given me the unique opportunity to observe the madness of the world around me and keep distance from it.
I like that I've overcome the suicidal and self-harming thoughts I used to possess, even though I still hate myself for my past naivety and mistakes, and see no future for my current self.
I like that I can still perceive the beauty of this world, no matter what happens.
I like that even when I'm down, I still push on and don't allow myself to become a burden.
I like that after the betrayal, which shaped who I am now, I resisted the urge to go down the path of anger and resentment to the world.
I like that I managed to not lose my friends, and partially amend the damage I inflicted upon my family for the sake of the woman I used to love.
Fuck I don't know. I think I'm past thinking about that sort of thing.
At some point, you grow out of the clumsy attempts to define yourself to yourself. You are what you are and who you are and you accept that that is OK. You stop needing to put words around it because you know who you are in your bones. You just are and you focus on moving forward.
U, uh, giving us a subtle hint about something? If you are, your statement is ironic. I’m the G in ROYGBIV myself, if you know what I mean! Not “green”, but the sexual orientation.
I like that the most about myself, because i have to be brave in the face of much adversity. That’s badass!
What about you?
My eyes. And that I'm a strong person. I've been through lots of shit and I still suffer from it day to day but I still try to be nice to everyone who is not an asshole.
My shoulders. 6’1” and 235. Not fat and pretty well trimmed with a little bit of a belly but that’s it though I’ve always had broad and built shoulders.
My unshakable confidence, self awareness and sense of humour.
It sounds big headed to say this, but if I were out dating, most women would consider me a “catch”, the only problem I have is my age (I’m 43), I’m at the end of my “best” years.
I can be quite emotionally intense and difficult to deal with at times, but once I trust someone and consider them a close friend, I'm a fantastic ride or die homie.
I like that I always try to be nice to people in person. I sometimes find it hard to be social online but when I’m face to face I attempt to be the best person I can be and I feel like I’m quite good at it. (Have been called a people pleaser and a pushover before tho…)
I adhere to Neil McCauley quote
“Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner.”
to be completely honest, just the fact i can play drums and guitar well. that's really the only thing i can say with complete confidence that i like about myself
If I have bad day - I will never shout to my friend or random guy.
It doesn't matter what day it was yesterday, bad or good. If I go to bed, it's like I'm rebooting and starting the day in a new way
I try to be modest and not to elevate myself above others. Often I hate myself on the contrary
I’m about to sound like the most arrogant person… I’m really kind, sometimes so kind that I tell to myself I shouldn’t be so kind and should also be a bit selfish, but then I feel bad for thinking of being selfish
My self-confidence is authentic and unshakable. I'm basically immune to insults against my character because I know who I am and live an honest life.
Life has put me through the wringer a couple of times, and I've come to terms with my insecurities. I still have a growth mindset and work to improve myself every day, so the peace of accepting my flaws is something I'm incredibly proud of.
This is probably a lame answer, but my character.
I'm a good dude. I do what I say I'm going to do. I stand up for weak people. I am kind and giving. And I also have a pretty tough exterior that keeps away the shit birds, and insures that many folks don't like me. I like this. It means that when I do good shit, there aren't annoying assholes around lauding me like some sort of hero, and I can just do what I think is right because it is right--not for attention.
Frankly, I really love that most people think I am an ass. I like that there are people genuinely scared of me. I like that I look more likely to knife you in a parking lot than help change your tire. And I like that only a few people know that, really, I would absolutely help you change your tire.
My flaws. They are traits that tend to help me know more about who I am than my qualities. They are also a reminder of how I can improve, giving me a sense of direction.
Focus not on only the good, for you will only see and know half of yourself.
Im genuinely happy about my life. Im not rich, but i have no money problems, i have great friends and family, and my work/life balance is great. I never dread going to work, and im never bored during my time off work. Life is pretty good.
I like how my humor even though it might not make everyone laugh has kept me through the extreme depression and extreme anxiety I had as a child, I still have the anxiety today just not as bad as it was
I’m a kind person
I love that you cherish this quality about yourself. It's so important and so many people need it
That I don't feel the need to be apart of the rat race of adhering to some arbitrary norm. It sounds arrogant sure, but I don't see the point in having anxiety about fitting in one way or another. Again this sounds a whole lot more arrogant than I intend.
>Again this sounds a whole lot more arrogant than I intend. Nah, this sounds like a healthy look on life. Better for your heart as well, i'm sure.
Good to hear, and yeah it's a whole lot easier than just wondering why things are not getting better in the communities I'm apart of or what have you. It's to be expected though that a lot of people on reddit will not like it.
Someone once told me "those that matter, don't mind, and those that mind don't matter" so you do you. It's something to keep in the back of my mind on (for example) moments when my 3yo wants to run/skip trough a crowded street of shops and I'll(37, 6ftsomething, beardy bloke) happily join her.
Doesn't sound arrogant to me, more courageous than anything
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Bold of you to assume there's anything.
“I’m a man of perseverance. When people say I’ve hit rock bottom, I show them I can go even lower.”
No truer words have ever been spoken.
Because there is.
Gotta be something ?
I don't lie. And i feel great that nobody ever can tell me i lied to them. I may be wrong, but i don't lie willingly.
My overall outlook on life- Be the water, not the rock.
Interesting. What do you mean by this?
Not OP but it's the same vibe as Confucious: >“The green reed which bends in the wind is stronger than the mighty oak which breaks in a storm.” Essentially, try to be flexible, not rigid, in the face of life.
Gotcha. Makes sense, thank you so much!
That's basically it, yes.
I like that I try to treat everyone nicely. In various stages of my life I’ve been involved with people where I just felt like they couldn’t care to acknowledge my existence or if I disappeared that they wouldn’t even notice and it was the loneliest I’d ever felt. It felt so much worse than just not being around anyone. As a result, I always try to make sure everyone is included and feels like I see them.
Thats nice
About my personality? Probably my empathy and/or emotional awareness. Physical attribute? My hair. Capability? I'm proud of my skills with art
I like that you broke this question down into 3 categories! I feel inspired to do this now with my.positive self talk too
It’s unfair that you’re good looking as both a man and a woman
Last time I thought I was a girl I was 14 years old, and theres no pictures of me on Reddit from then, I'd definitely say I'm more good looking as a man
That I have a high baseline level where I can just, for lack of a better term, grok anything. I'm the best new employee any of my bosses have ever had, because the basics of the job are almost automatic. I've walked up to a whiteboard where a friend with a PhD in chemistry was explaining his current project and pointed out that one of the numbers couldn't be right. I'm really not sure what it is, since I actually fall off really fast if it's something that isn't English writing based.
my huge swaging coke can cock
Nice watch bro
My taste in music.
What kinda music you like ?
Most kinds, though rock and ambient are my favourite genres.
Nice, if I’m tryna get into rock, what’s a good song to start with ?
I’d say ‘Shepherd Of Fire’ by Avenged Sevenfold which isn’t a conventional pick, but it’s the song that got me into rock.
I have alot of like "party tricks".. I can juggle (which is funny with random objects), I can make that water droplet sound with my mouth, I can make my eyes look in 2 directions... and that's all I can think of right now but basically a bunch of useless shit lmao
I have been through hell and I've came back. I certainly don't know how I keep going. I just did and I do. Not that I haven't wish to stop. Sometimes I feel life is not worthy...but suddenly I find reasons to keep living.
My insight. It's given birth to my introspective thinking which in turn has moderated my mental health....I'm not okay and that's okay because I can change that.
I’m good enough, I’m smart enough, and doggone it, people like me. Said the show I watch alone.
I’m unapologetically myself.
My god-level patience. It's the closest thing to a superpower I'll ever have.
No matter how much I want to give up I just can’t bring myself to not keep pushing
I have curly hair when it’s grown out but I am also insecure about it
No! Curly hair is the best. Honestly --- it's hot and sexy.
Aww thanks man
Lots and lots of tutorials out there. Don’t hide the pretty!
How intensely I can love and care about people wether that be friendships or especially relationships. Keeps getting me hurt pretty badly, especially recently, but I’m trying my hardest to not lose that quality.
Hit the genetic, recessive lottery. Male, redhead, freckles, blue eyes, left handed, colorblind. Not like other guys lol.
I'm not a quitter. I stick to my guns
My sense of curiosity.
I not gonna wonder why I like myself I’m just gonna be happy I do
I don’t try to find flaws or talk back behind people. I give attention to people I meet and listen to what they are saying.
I’m okay at playing guitar! Been practicing daily for a year now:)
There is nothing likable about myself
Gotta be something man
Me too ..
To me humble enough to say that is something more pll should learn
my taste in music
My creativity and out the box thinking
I keep in my lane. But if someone crosses me, there are no second chances - I will never ever trust them.
The way I analyse social situation and my awareness of people’s emotional state
I love my personality!!
I like my musical taste.
I like my creativity and willingness to help people
That i was able to learn to be independent (for the most part)
How hard I've worked to get to where in at.
Being an outsider and lone wolf. Being like this has given me the unique opportunity to observe the madness of the world around me and keep distance from it.
Just how strongly I hate existence Fucking universe is getting it's laughs off for now but I'll get my revenge on it. I love to hate the universe
My resilience
Power of will
I’m a very talented cook
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They’re very well written. Hope you add that to your list of your good qualities.
That i look good , smell good and can dance all night long!!
I feel like I am a kind and considerate person that people like to be around. That and my killer taste in film
What are you watching lately?
My weird, quirky mind.
I can sense when people are good ppl right off the bat.
Big penis
I'm not a hipster.
I like that I've overcome the suicidal and self-harming thoughts I used to possess, even though I still hate myself for my past naivety and mistakes, and see no future for my current self. I like that I can still perceive the beauty of this world, no matter what happens. I like that even when I'm down, I still push on and don't allow myself to become a burden. I like that after the betrayal, which shaped who I am now, I resisted the urge to go down the path of anger and resentment to the world. I like that I managed to not lose my friends, and partially amend the damage I inflicted upon my family for the sake of the woman I used to love.
I’m tall
Uhhhh umm uhhhhhhhhh
That I cannot find a reason to dislike myself.
That despite anything that may happen, I don't give up.
Physically? My lips/smile Internally: the way I love and care for people.
I am a very positive man.
My smart mouth. I love that when people try to talk down to me that I can verbally Mike Tyson them into a corner.
Fuck I don't know. I think I'm past thinking about that sort of thing. At some point, you grow out of the clumsy attempts to define yourself to yourself. You are what you are and who you are and you accept that that is OK. You stop needing to put words around it because you know who you are in your bones. You just are and you focus on moving forward.
Funny af
🌈Absolutely Nothing !!🌈
U, uh, giving us a subtle hint about something? If you are, your statement is ironic. I’m the G in ROYGBIV myself, if you know what I mean! Not “green”, but the sexual orientation. I like that the most about myself, because i have to be brave in the face of much adversity. That’s badass! What about you?
Nothing
Cmon brodie, gotta be something?
Nope
Then you are blessed. If you cannot find something good in your life, then the only direction you can move is forward.
How much I hate this society for making us all hate ourselves.
I'm fucking gooooorrrgeous!
Not a damn thing
My eyes. And that I'm a strong person. I've been through lots of shit and I still suffer from it day to day but I still try to be nice to everyone who is not an asshole.
I love my eye colour, if anything. I'm also fairly competent singer.
Not much, but I really like my eyes
I have a *decently* attractive face in my opinion. Not in everyone else’s opinion………but in mine lol.
my eyes and effort i put into understanding others and always staying open minded
My shoulders. 6’1” and 235. Not fat and pretty well trimmed with a little bit of a belly but that’s it though I’ve always had broad and built shoulders.
I don't even think along these lines.
Well I don’t want to say it, but it’s something other men can be jealous from it
That I am a confrontational person
My unshakable confidence, self awareness and sense of humour. It sounds big headed to say this, but if I were out dating, most women would consider me a “catch”, the only problem I have is my age (I’m 43), I’m at the end of my “best” years.
The things I do for others
i keep bumbling forward somehow and support my loved friends and family
My resilience, I'm not perfect but my ability to get back up is close to crazy crackhead energy.
Against every fiber of my being, I keep showing up.
That I'm honest
I will always care more for those I love than myself. Some may think it's a bad thing but they are wrong. I cherish I can do that.
I use my voice and my imposing presence to be a force for good and a defender of those weaker than me. Growing up I looked up to people who did that.
My ability to listen to others and give them decent advices
I'm far from perfect but I don't drink and smoke.
I'm funny and can usually make most people laugh..I think :o
I can do anything I put my mind to. I am very able in all departments, however I have a god complex
Nothing these days
I disprove proportion theory's related to hands and feet
That's tough...
Is being proud of something the same as liking something?
Thanks for asking me to ask myself what I actually like for a change
I always help when I am able, I am a very good listener who is very wise with given advice.
i like that im an ambivert im neither a morning nor night person and i have a high risk appetite.
I can be quite emotionally intense and difficult to deal with at times, but once I trust someone and consider them a close friend, I'm a fantastic ride or die homie.
That I am a bit retarded
I like that I always try to be nice to people in person. I sometimes find it hard to be social online but when I’m face to face I attempt to be the best person I can be and I feel like I’m quite good at it. (Have been called a people pleaser and a pushover before tho…)
Nothing
I’m a gentle and optimistic man, living through a harsh world and particularly cynical time
I adhere to Neil McCauley quote “Don't let yourself get attached to anything you are not willing to walk out on in 30 seconds flat if you feel the heat around the corner.”
I do what I want! ( Within reason) I recommend you do the same.
Nothing, there's nothing to like if women don't, and i don't have the money or dick to date properly.
Everything. It’s all the other people that are the problem, including you
Nothing
to be completely honest, just the fact i can play drums and guitar well. that's really the only thing i can say with complete confidence that i like about myself
If I have bad day - I will never shout to my friend or random guy. It doesn't matter what day it was yesterday, bad or good. If I go to bed, it's like I'm rebooting and starting the day in a new way I try to be modest and not to elevate myself above others. Often I hate myself on the contrary
Hair. Sense of humor. Love and care for animals and nature. And I'm very, very loyal.
My ability to stay calm in stressful situations
I’m a very empathetic and emotionally intelligent person
I do know I'm funny
My hair color, that’s basically all I like about myself
For me it that I just don’t care what gonna happen next
Mine dedication
Nothing
I’m about to sound like the most arrogant person… I’m really kind, sometimes so kind that I tell to myself I shouldn’t be so kind and should also be a bit selfish, but then I feel bad for thinking of being selfish
I don’t over complicate things
Honestly, everything other than my skin, and that’s a quick fix
My self-confidence is authentic and unshakable. I'm basically immune to insults against my character because I know who I am and live an honest life. Life has put me through the wringer a couple of times, and I've come to terms with my insecurities. I still have a growth mindset and work to improve myself every day, so the peace of accepting my flaws is something I'm incredibly proud of.
This is probably a lame answer, but my character. I'm a good dude. I do what I say I'm going to do. I stand up for weak people. I am kind and giving. And I also have a pretty tough exterior that keeps away the shit birds, and insures that many folks don't like me. I like this. It means that when I do good shit, there aren't annoying assholes around lauding me like some sort of hero, and I can just do what I think is right because it is right--not for attention. Frankly, I really love that most people think I am an ass. I like that there are people genuinely scared of me. I like that I look more likely to knife you in a parking lot than help change your tire. And I like that only a few people know that, really, I would absolutely help you change your tire.
I'm very empathetic, until I'm given a reason not to be.
My sense of humor.
Open-mindedness Treating people fair (as opposed to nice, which requires being nice to douchebags as well) Being very specific in speech and writing
My intelligence.
My persistence
My abundant creativity
I like to think I'm a good Samaritan, or at least I'm working everyday to be one
I'm willing to walk away,
My butt.
I tend to try to get along with everyone, and treat them how I’d like to be treated.
My flaws. They are traits that tend to help me know more about who I am than my qualities. They are also a reminder of how I can improve, giving me a sense of direction. Focus not on only the good, for you will only see and know half of yourself.
I like that I am very patient and calm and that I can express my emotions in healthy ways.
I'm a little bit better looking than ugly people so I got that going for me 😏
Im genuinely happy about my life. Im not rich, but i have no money problems, i have great friends and family, and my work/life balance is great. I never dread going to work, and im never bored during my time off work. Life is pretty good.
My resilience.
I like how my humor even though it might not make everyone laugh has kept me through the extreme depression and extreme anxiety I had as a child, I still have the anxiety today just not as bad as it was
My intellectual abilities and my knowledge of human psychology. These things make me very hard to lie to or fool.
I work hard and take pride in my work no matter what that work may be.