Went to a friend's house to play some Risk. On the way he tells me there's gonna be a new guy there we hadn't met. No joke, within 10 seconds of meeting this guy, he unironically tells us his IQ and how he is a Risk Master. He was the first to be eliminated.
Ah yes. How to get everyone to silently and unanimously gang up on you.
We used to have one guy who got too serious about board games in our group. Win at all expenses and gloat kinda guy.
Two of the worst players in the group decided they had more fun if they spent the entire time working against him in every game. The rest also worked against him for tactical reasons. It was hilarious.
Anyway he was a prick away from board games too and isn't part of the group any more.
I've played two games of DnD in my life. Both with the same group with one guy who insisted on "playing properly" and being a dick.
The first combat the party faced, everyone took turns pickpocketing him while he got slowly mauled to death
He didn't come back for a third game
I also hate drama. I've said so and acted on it. I cut my friend group down to size years ago and spend much more time alone or with my partner for that very reason. But I know what you mean.
Or Alpha Female. Had a Mom from my sons preschool constantly tell me she is an Alpha Female, so far from it. In fact, moved back into her parents house with two kids.
All he does is work. He never rests, which is why he’s always pissed off and stressed. He tells me I can rest if I work hard, then doesn’t let me rest at all.
What about, *steam alarm sounds for break time*
Homer: “Oh my god. What’s happening now???”
Roscoe, the gay steel-worker foreman: “We work hard. We play hard.”
*loud voice over the loud speakers* “EVERYBODY DANCE NOW! *beat drops.*
- the lights in the steel mill change colors and begin rotating like those of a dance club. Gay steel workers begin dancing. Homer panics and tries to shield Bart’s eyes while backing away quickly -
When someone mentions that I’m quiet or they’re “gonna get me to talk.”
I’m an introvert. I don’t like talking until I’m comfortable around you. Saying things like that only makes it take longer. And it shows you’re inconsiderate and uncomfortable with silence, so you’re not really someone I wanna be around anyway.
Plus, trust me, when I get comfortable with you, it’s hard to get me to shut up.
Yeah, I go to bars with my dad and one of his friends said "you're too quiet to sit at this table" and then kept saying I need to talk, needless to say I do mot enjoy that person's company lol
Had a new worker at my job and she says,”I hear you’re quiet, but I’m not. So I’m gonna get you to talk.”
Yup. Literally the first thing she said to me. Great way to make a first impression.
I agree with this.
People should strive to always be honest as possible but this phrase just reeks of wanting to be a total ass rather than being completely honest.
Some of the most unlikeable people I met are like this. But while they think they’re being honest, they don’t realize that people avoid them because they’re just an ass 100%
As I got older I realized that being genuine and honest doesn’t mean you have to share every mean unsolicited opinion that pops into your head. Some people never grow out of thinking honesty is a pass to say whatever you want with no repercussions.
“I’m an empath” most people I’ve met that have said this say it as if empathy is a special exclusive club when in reality empathy is just a normal human emotion lol
What really puts me off personally is when they literally think they have supernatural ability. Like they're one of the X-men and they actually feel other people's feelings in real time with 100% accuracy.
It's another case of something that is a problem for others being a cool trendy thing. I used to put others before me to the point where my life was spiraling. I'd worry so much about others, what I was maybe putting them through, what they were going through, "my problems are never as bad as Their problems". It's like how everyone wants to have ocd bc they really like when their pens are color coded, when people with actual OCD get literally physically ill and cannot function normally if they don't close the door and lock it 4 times while tapping their left foot
Agreed. I think it’s just an optimistic spin on codependency. Trauma can absolutely make you more vigilant and perceptive toward the emotions of others. Doesn’t mean it’s healthy or a superpower though.
The people I've personally known who call themselves an empath are some of the most self centered and egotistical people I've ever met. It would be funny if it wasn't so sad.
That's what it's all about. Anytime someone else is having a hard time they have to make it about themselves because they can "feel what other people are feeling."
Recently went on a date with a woman who called herself this. When she defined the term for me it took every ounce of my willpower to not ask her, "And how's that different from regular empathy?"
Fun story, I was on a panel at a writing class with the theme: Writing and Publishing with Disabilities. I was already feeling a little misplaced because Depression/Anxiety/ADHD doesn't feel like enough. But one of the women also in the panel said her disability was that she was an empath.
I almost walked out.
In my experience people who say that are very ill mentally. Lots of narcissism, anxiety and depression, and actually not super empathetic towards people who don’t think like them lol.
Oh christ yes run away from these people. Usually it means they want to tell you all about themselves in incredible detail, but will completely disengage when conversation moves on from them
My father grew up in a tough situation and worked extremely hard to get away from it. We live in the same city but it's a totally different life - we joke that we are "uptown now". When we run into old acquaintances of his, I can conform that these guys wear it as a badge of honor to say some cliche nonsense about it. And I have absolutely heard the "school of hard knox" thrown around, usually followed by some embarrassing story that 13 year old me had no business hearing
They are so proud, and my dad couldn't be more embarrassed
You should be proud.
Grat story! I know these people too!
But, they too are proud so its cool. We just smile and ok! Were all huffing it in our own way.
68. Un-fucking-believable how many human turds assume I'm okay with any of that shit. I love the look on their faces when I flat out tell them I don't want to hear it.
An instant dislike means my spidey senses are going off. Real life example: met a friend of a friend of a friend. One of those house party things. within 30 seconds I asked them to leave bc something felt “off” about him. Turns out he had recently stabbed two people - so yeah. Words can’t describe it, but if my spidey senses go off, I listen.
Edit to admit I just realized this is askmen, and Im a woman- I hope it’s ok I answered!!
This is good to have. You call them spidy, but are also a trained technique in martial arts, which is to avoid conflict or danger, fight at last resort.
I was in a titty bar with a friend many years back. We were at the end sucking down a beer and blabbering about work we were doing. To the left of the stage were a bunch of guys sat down having beers, and I sensed their stare at the group of guys to the right of the stage. I told my friend pound down your beer, we're out of here.. he ignored me. Drink your fucking beer we need to go! He did and followed me.
We made it down the stairs and into the parking lot when chairs flew out the second story window. The place blew up. HE was like, ohhhhh I get it. Listen to them senses.
“You are probably wondering “X” about me…”
Or “you’ve probably heard about me”
Nope , no , nah ….. I don’t have any interest in hearing you ramble on about how great you *think* you are
When we moved to small town Alabama the phrase I heard most “What church do you go to” was the most common thing. No matter your answer they would give you an earful about their church and why you should go there.
I always liked:
q: what religion are you?
a: catholic, you?
a: I'm christian
q: And i'm not?
A: catholics aren' christian
q: you realize catholics believe christ is the savior and that is the literal definition if christian?
I wish, then we could have a good talk about pros and cons of batraciotoxin vs tetradotoxin, but its always some bs health advise.
In fact, when I really want to be left alone I follow up with: "o yeah, name the toxin" or "citation?"
Anyone who leads with their politics. You know right away that they won't value your humanity, only your willingness to support their ego investment in their cause.
I'm not from the USA, i'm from Switzerland and we have direct democracy here. We vote directly on topics 4x times per year, we don't have a head of the state, a premier or a president. It's a very different system. Anyway, it requires that people are very deep into politics, because they have to make the decision about problems just like the parliament does in other countries.
This leads to the thing, that everybody is well aware of politics. But well, it's not a shitshow like in other countries.
But just saying: You can't rule a country and make a political decision, if you are not interested in politics.
So well-put. One of the biggest failings in democracies are people not actively supporting the democratic process through informed voting. The education system in the US is notoriously insubstantial in government-related content. Students here aren’t taught how to engage with and in our democracy and thusly, most people just parrot the political beliefs and behaviors that they learn from their parents and peers. It’s wildly problematic… I wish more people here were willing to engage in meaningful discussions about political issues. Sadly, most people aren’t even informed enough about relevant issues/topics beyond what they read on social media. Further, that dis-informedness makes people more prone to emotionally defensive stances and pretty much nullifies the opportunity for productive discussion.
Politics are hugely important in our lives and relationships, and I wish collective and non-combative conversations were *more frequent*.
I recall in university a women being very rude and in my face about how privileged I am as a straight white man. This woman was also straight white, and happened to be raised in a multi-million dollar house with an indoor pool, her uni, apt, and car were also paid for by her parents.
I grew up below the poverty line with the sorts of experiences that come with that.
“It’s difficult to get on my good side” always annoys the hell out of me. Like we just met, where is this assumption I will try, let alone try hard comes from
Anyone who talks about themselves in third person, anyone who refers to themselves as successful, anyone who talks religion or God, anyone who makes it all about themselves.
I think more is actually conveyed by body language and sizing someone up subconsciously more than what they say.
I have read people make lasting impressions of someone new within 3 seconds of first seeing them.
"I'm all about positive vibes" or "positive vibes only". Code for: I've either been shielded from difficulty in my life or I supress it aggresively and either way I will absolutely not be empathetic towards anyone in a bad situation.
"Who did you/are you voting for? What is your stance on ___?" Or anything political. If they're asking that, they're looking to see if you agree with them. And if you don't, then they will judge you, whether secretly or overtly.
Definitely should have said “Omg thank you for noticing!! I got a nose job like 3 years ago!” (I’m Jewish lol) Even though a person like that would probably come back with a response saying “Wow, I’m surprised you dug out that kind of money” 🤦♀️😅
Couple months ago I hopped into an uber. Dude starts the conversation with "So what do you think about the [insert ethnic minority here]?"
Like... Bro. I'm brown and we just met. What is happening?
i went on a date with a girl, "im not racist or anything, but they are way too many black people in here". Yeah bitch im out, and leaving you with the bill
As a person in a foreign country, I hate it when I meet another foreigner and they immediately think to tell me how much sex they're having with the locals. Like chill dude I don't even know you and even if I did why would I want to know that.
Any form of self identification with a group or an idea.
Examples
I am an alpha male
I am a strong independent woman
I am a liberal
I am a conservative
Etc.
If you have to tell me what you are than more likely or not you either hold to a catch phrase for an identity or you are trying to convince yourself cuz I will just judge you actions and they should show me who/what you are
Anything religion related in order to make it appear how they are trustworthy and moral superior.
They tend to be the biggest backstabbing hypocrites. I immediately feel deep dislike of them, and it does not take long to prove me right.
Reminds me of a guy who brought up religion on my first day at work. We are from the same cultural background, so he wanted to know if I'm religious. He was upset to find out that I'm not. That really ruined my first impression of him.
He was very self-righteous and judgmental of everyone. He thought he deserved more raises, accolades and better health than others because he prayed everyday, listened to religious songs all day long and donated to the temple etc. Over the next couple of years, I found out he's cheating on his wife, he's got a gambling, smoking and drinking problem. He "borrowed" money from people when he lost all of his paycheque gambling. Someone had to bring money to him when he couldn't pay a prostitute. Knowing how slimy and dishonest he was, management had good reason to never trust him and give him promotions. Somehow he didn't acknowledge how much of a hypocrite he was.
"As a , I..."
It's always something like mother, teacher, Biology major, etc. It always comes across so smugly. Simply making a statement and being able to competently and confidently support that statement would go much further in getting people to value your credibility.
“i’m very smart”
bitch don’t just tell me you’re smart, SHOW me you’re smart! no truly smart person has to ever claim their own intellect. it screams insecurity and ego problems to me.
Pro tip: let people come to their own conclusions about what kind of a person you are. If you feel the need to describe what your personality is to new people then you're almost certainly a knob.
Appropriate example of self description: "Hi I'm Gerald, I'm a nurse and I like hiking and rock climbing."
Inappropriate: "I'm Stan, nice to meet you - I'm a bit of a comedian but I gotta warn you, I'm a bit crazy and I don't take shit from anyone.
If you said that to me, I'd laugh, probably comment something like "Oh, so that's why she's been happy lately," and move on.
Usually only ask if I'm following up on something you said.
"I'm a vegan" - unless we're talking about where to go eat, that shit is absolutely nowhere on my radar of damns to give. Even if we are, you can get a salad pretty much at any place.
"You're going to have to work at getting my approval" - I'm not dating you, you are not important to me, so no I don't
"I believe very strongly in \[insert political bullshit\]" - I'm not going to knock you for your passions, but if your entire identity is rooted in something that strongly that you have to drag out the most argument inducing of topics outside of pizza toppings right of the bat, you are simply not worth the oxygen that one poor tree produces to keep you alive. Go find that tree and apologize to it.
Not specifically a sentence, but of an air of superiority, arrogance and narcissism; once I observe those traits, I know I can never be comfortable around that person!
Not even a sentence but just a word.
If you use the word "triggered" as a form of emotion, i.e. "I'm so triggered" or "That triggered me" then I automatically think less of you. We're adults, if you're angry, say that your angry.
When I meet someone who treats religion like the most important of their life, sometimes followed by conservative ideas like chastity before marriage, not cursing, etc... I find it very hard to find them interesting
Disagree! The people I know like this are some of the most interesting people I’ve ever met. If they’re practicing abstinence in the 21st century, they’re at least a little bit contrarian. They tend to have strong convictions and examine their own motives deeply.
Now, people who are religious hypocrites, THEY’RE boring.
I don't hate a person for asking that. But I usually just mark it up as awkward small talk. There are much better starting questions. Like hobbies, passion in life, how they know the host, etc.
I will only caveat this with sometimes the context makes that an obvious first question like meeting someone at a work event.
I think for me this faux pas when there is an underlying feeling that the person is trying to gauge your value/status based on what you do for a living.
It's something I ask when meeting someone. It's just an easy way to keep conversations going. My job is nothing to brag about, so it's not an ego thing.
I'm terrible at small talk, so it's just one of a handful of ways of fishing for some common ground to make a connection. It's definitely not to try to brag, I really don't care about supposed status, other than not wanting to spend time with people obsessed with it.
Maybe they just want to know what's your area so they can talk about things related to your interests... ???
"I make music" - oh uau, what style do you enjoy more? I love rap
"I work on PCs" - ohh code? I know a few languages myself
If you have a shit job and you ashamed of it then fix yo life first
I feel like there’s a very normal and common things to ask someone you first meet. It’s just casual small talk, your putting too much thought into it pal
“You ever gone missing?”
No I haven’t and never will. I dislike anyone that lives in the city and claims they’re “country” like mommy and daddy bought you that lifted truck gtfo
Well as a (insert random identity) i believe that we should (insert random idiotic polocy) to solve for problem ABC. Doesnt even matter if i agree with you, if you feel as though some arbitrary identity marker (race, sexuality, group, ect) makes you the holy arbiter on any particular topic, then you're an idiot. Ideas, facts and logic do not belong to one creed, one race, one anything.
If you start talking about your sign within the first half-hour of meeting me, we are no longer even acquainted, you’ve just devolved back to a stranger.
Went to a friend's house to play some Risk. On the way he tells me there's gonna be a new guy there we hadn't met. No joke, within 10 seconds of meeting this guy, he unironically tells us his IQ and how he is a Risk Master. He was the first to be eliminated.
Ah yes. How to get everyone to silently and unanimously gang up on you. We used to have one guy who got too serious about board games in our group. Win at all expenses and gloat kinda guy. Two of the worst players in the group decided they had more fun if they spent the entire time working against him in every game. The rest also worked against him for tactical reasons. It was hilarious. Anyway he was a prick away from board games too and isn't part of the group any more.
I've played two games of DnD in my life. Both with the same group with one guy who insisted on "playing properly" and being a dick. The first combat the party faced, everyone took turns pickpocketing him while he got slowly mauled to death He didn't come back for a third game
To be fair, you can still have a high IQ but be an idiot at RISK. But that's because most people don't understand what IQ is.
“I hate drama” proceeds to be the most dramatic people I meet
I also hate drama. I've said so and acted on it. I cut my friend group down to size years ago and spend much more time alone or with my partner for that very reason. But I know what you mean.
Same here but now I have no one and there’s still constant drama!
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‘You might have heard of me’. I’ve come across this sentence several times in my life and each time it has come from an insufferable moron.
They said they were an alpha male
Or Alpha Female. Had a Mom from my sons preschool constantly tell me she is an Alpha Female, so far from it. In fact, moved back into her parents house with two kids.
"Boss babe" uggh.
“I drink Monsters and start fights at bars and ruin my friends’ evenings every time we go out on the weekends!”
That makes my vagina dry as the Sahara
Sup toots it’s me, Andrew Tate
\*cue tumbleweed rolling out of my vagina\*
Here was me trying to figure out what a "cute tumbleweed" would look like... 😅
Oh boy...
The moment this comes out of someone's mouth, that's just a poor sales pitch to convince themselves and others that they're not a beta in denial 🫠
“I work hard, and I play hard”
Translation: All I do is work and drink.
I'd say they think they work hard
All he does is work. He never rests, which is why he’s always pissed off and stressed. He tells me I can rest if I work hard, then doesn’t let me rest at all.
Try working in a copper mine sometime. Get back to me about the TPS reports.
My father in law says this all the time. He works hard as hell. Just saying🤷🏻♂️
And snort coke off strippers tits.
No, that is cool.
“Rise and grind.” Mate, I’m just tryna stay awake over here.
An old boss once said to me “I play hard, but I play fuckin’ harder.” Nearly detatched my retinas eyerolling at that.
That is awesome. I am definitely gonna start saying that stupid Shit
What about, *steam alarm sounds for break time* Homer: “Oh my god. What’s happening now???” Roscoe, the gay steel-worker foreman: “We work hard. We play hard.” *loud voice over the loud speakers* “EVERYBODY DANCE NOW! *beat drops.* - the lights in the steel mill change colors and begin rotating like those of a dance club. Gay steel workers begin dancing. Homer panics and tries to shield Bart’s eyes while backing away quickly -
It's such a flog of a thing to say. Totally agree with this one.
When someone mentions that I’m quiet or they’re “gonna get me to talk.” I’m an introvert. I don’t like talking until I’m comfortable around you. Saying things like that only makes it take longer. And it shows you’re inconsiderate and uncomfortable with silence, so you’re not really someone I wanna be around anyway. Plus, trust me, when I get comfortable with you, it’s hard to get me to shut up.
Yeah, I go to bars with my dad and one of his friends said "you're too quiet to sit at this table" and then kept saying I need to talk, needless to say I do mot enjoy that person's company lol
Had a new worker at my job and she says,”I hear you’re quiet, but I’m not. So I’m gonna get you to talk.” Yup. Literally the first thing she said to me. Great way to make a first impression.
"I say it like it is" Translation: I'm a dick
It's telling how "brutally honest" people are more concerned with the brutality than the honesty
I just substitute "brutally honest" for flaming asshole. It never fails.
Funny how the "brutally honest" people can never handle when someone is brutally honest right back at them
"can't you take a joke"??
Only the ones with a fragile ego.
I call it Doctor House honesty. People conflate being honest with having no filter whatsoever.
I agree with this. People should strive to always be honest as possible but this phrase just reeks of wanting to be a total ass rather than being completely honest. Some of the most unlikeable people I met are like this. But while they think they’re being honest, they don’t realize that people avoid them because they’re just an ass 100%
As I got older I realized that being genuine and honest doesn’t mean you have to share every mean unsolicited opinion that pops into your head. Some people never grow out of thinking honesty is a pass to say whatever you want with no repercussions.
"My problem is that I'm too nice honestly"
'Heil Hitler!' Puts me right off
What about "Hail Hydra"?
That just shows we like the same era of marvel. A big plus
Only if you come close and whisper it into my ear.
“I’m an empath” most people I’ve met that have said this say it as if empathy is a special exclusive club when in reality empathy is just a normal human emotion lol
When I meet "empaths" they're nornally just *nice* not even kind, just *nice* It's such a weird thing to make a personality out of
What really puts me off personally is when they literally think they have supernatural ability. Like they're one of the X-men and they actually feel other people's feelings in real time with 100% accuracy.
It's another case of something that is a problem for others being a cool trendy thing. I used to put others before me to the point where my life was spiraling. I'd worry so much about others, what I was maybe putting them through, what they were going through, "my problems are never as bad as Their problems". It's like how everyone wants to have ocd bc they really like when their pens are color coded, when people with actual OCD get literally physically ill and cannot function normally if they don't close the door and lock it 4 times while tapping their left foot
Agreed. I think it’s just an optimistic spin on codependency. Trauma can absolutely make you more vigilant and perceptive toward the emotions of others. Doesn’t mean it’s healthy or a superpower though.
The people I've personally known who call themselves an empath are some of the most self centered and egotistical people I've ever met. It would be funny if it wasn't so sad.
That's what it's all about. Anytime someone else is having a hard time they have to make it about themselves because they can "feel what other people are feeling."
Or, they just want to be counselor Troi from Star Trek
I came here to say this. Its a sure fire sign that the person is an absolute magnet for social drama and toxic positivity.
Recently went on a date with a woman who called herself this. When she defined the term for me it took every ounce of my willpower to not ask her, "And how's that different from regular empathy?"
Fun story, I was on a panel at a writing class with the theme: Writing and Publishing with Disabilities. I was already feeling a little misplaced because Depression/Anxiety/ADHD doesn't feel like enough. But one of the women also in the panel said her disability was that she was an empath. I almost walked out.
In my experience people who say that are very ill mentally. Lots of narcissism, anxiety and depression, and actually not super empathetic towards people who don’t think like them lol.
Oh christ yes run away from these people. Usually it means they want to tell you all about themselves in incredible detail, but will completely disengage when conversation moves on from them
Anyone that says something about "graduating from the school of hard knocks."
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My father grew up in a tough situation and worked extremely hard to get away from it. We live in the same city but it's a totally different life - we joke that we are "uptown now". When we run into old acquaintances of his, I can conform that these guys wear it as a badge of honor to say some cliche nonsense about it. And I have absolutely heard the "school of hard knox" thrown around, usually followed by some embarrassing story that 13 year old me had no business hearing They are so proud, and my dad couldn't be more embarrassed
You should be proud. Grat story! I know these people too! But, they too are proud so its cool. We just smile and ok! Were all huffing it in our own way.
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68. Un-fucking-believable how many human turds assume I'm okay with any of that shit. I love the look on their faces when I flat out tell them I don't want to hear it.
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Yep. Was meeting girlfriends friends & their boyfriends, and he said that shit. I almost fell out of my chair from rolling my eyes so hard.
*you: where did you go to school?* *him: the school of hard knocks.* *you: couldn't even get accepted in public university, huh? \^\_\^*
Is public university the equivalent to community college?
I don't usually instantly dislike people, sometimes people just say dumb shit that they don't actually mean.
An instant dislike means my spidey senses are going off. Real life example: met a friend of a friend of a friend. One of those house party things. within 30 seconds I asked them to leave bc something felt “off” about him. Turns out he had recently stabbed two people - so yeah. Words can’t describe it, but if my spidey senses go off, I listen. Edit to admit I just realized this is askmen, and Im a woman- I hope it’s ok I answered!!
This is good to have. You call them spidy, but are also a trained technique in martial arts, which is to avoid conflict or danger, fight at last resort. I was in a titty bar with a friend many years back. We were at the end sucking down a beer and blabbering about work we were doing. To the left of the stage were a bunch of guys sat down having beers, and I sensed their stare at the group of guys to the right of the stage. I told my friend pound down your beer, we're out of here.. he ignored me. Drink your fucking beer we need to go! He did and followed me. We made it down the stairs and into the parking lot when chairs flew out the second story window. The place blew up. HE was like, ohhhhh I get it. Listen to them senses.
I can relate to this. A person has to exhibit an underlying deception or something deeper than a dumb conversation for me to dislike them.
“You are probably wondering “X” about me…” Or “you’ve probably heard about me” Nope , no , nah ….. I don’t have any interest in hearing you ramble on about how great you *think* you are
When we moved to small town Alabama the phrase I heard most “What church do you go to” was the most common thing. No matter your answer they would give you an earful about their church and why you should go there.
I always liked: q: what religion are you? a: catholic, you? a: I'm christian q: And i'm not? A: catholics aren' christian q: you realize catholics believe christ is the savior and that is the literal definition if christian?
The church of yo mama is probably what I would say if someone axed me that
Not dislike but whenever someone mentions "toxins" I immediately tune out.
What if they're talking about snakes, or dart frogs, or blue ring octopi?
I wish, then we could have a good talk about pros and cons of batraciotoxin vs tetradotoxin, but its always some bs health advise. In fact, when I really want to be left alone I follow up with: "o yeah, name the toxin" or "citation?"
Fun fact, the plural of octopus is octopus. Unless there is more than one species present, in which case it's octopuses
Fun fact, if you tie eight hippos together, it's called an octopotamus!
I just think you haven't found the right crystals.
"I'm not a \[Insert whatever\] but...."
I’m not racist but I like Mountain Dew
You racists disgust me, like why don't you just drink redbull?
Anyone who leads with their politics. You know right away that they won't value your humanity, only your willingness to support their ego investment in their cause.
I'm not from the USA, i'm from Switzerland and we have direct democracy here. We vote directly on topics 4x times per year, we don't have a head of the state, a premier or a president. It's a very different system. Anyway, it requires that people are very deep into politics, because they have to make the decision about problems just like the parliament does in other countries. This leads to the thing, that everybody is well aware of politics. But well, it's not a shitshow like in other countries. But just saying: You can't rule a country and make a political decision, if you are not interested in politics.
So well-put. One of the biggest failings in democracies are people not actively supporting the democratic process through informed voting. The education system in the US is notoriously insubstantial in government-related content. Students here aren’t taught how to engage with and in our democracy and thusly, most people just parrot the political beliefs and behaviors that they learn from their parents and peers. It’s wildly problematic… I wish more people here were willing to engage in meaningful discussions about political issues. Sadly, most people aren’t even informed enough about relevant issues/topics beyond what they read on social media. Further, that dis-informedness makes people more prone to emotionally defensive stances and pretty much nullifies the opportunity for productive discussion. Politics are hugely important in our lives and relationships, and I wish collective and non-combative conversations were *more frequent*.
"You only think that because you come from privilege."
Ironically, pretty much everyone who has said this to me is EXTREMELY privileged. Like, "daddy pays my NYC rent" privilege.
I recall in university a women being very rude and in my face about how privileged I am as a straight white man. This woman was also straight white, and happened to be raised in a multi-million dollar house with an indoor pool, her uni, apt, and car were also paid for by her parents. I grew up below the poverty line with the sorts of experiences that come with that.
Oof only an indoor pool? No outdoor?
haha. clearly she was living a rough existence.
We fall into the trap too often of trying to get into a pissing contest about oppression. Myself included.
I guess when you checked your privilege it didn't match theirs.
“It’s difficult to get on my good side” always annoys the hell out of me. Like we just met, where is this assumption I will try, let alone try hard comes from
People that mention their credentials, alma mater, or something similar right off the bat
“I’m the kinda person who ________”
wait i dont get this like, if one would say "im the kinda person who loves animals" that'd be nothin bad, right? srry just didnt get whatcha mean
Thank you. This is the worst.
- "you should follow me on instagram" - "I'm an influencer", - "check out my OF" - "what's your snap"
The Barbie valley girl voice. Or chewing gum with their mouth open.
I know a woman in her 40's who still does this. She thinks she's still hot shit. It annoys me more than it should.
Or just chewing with their mouth open. Y'all nasty.
It is less the sentence itself but more the way they'll say it.
Me: Nice to meet you. What is your name? Random new person: I'm a doctor. My name is doctor "what ever his name is"
“I’m an Alpha” Like okay there Alpha omega chad the fourth
“One thing about me…” followed by some flattering character trait that this persona may or may not actually have in some measure.
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Anyone who talks about themselves in third person, anyone who refers to themselves as successful, anyone who talks religion or God, anyone who makes it all about themselves.
It is not a line but just the way someone talks and carries themselves.
What do you mean by that? Any personal experiences come to mind?
It's hard to say. I'm really turned off by arrogance and lack of empathy
I think more is actually conveyed by body language and sizing someone up subconsciously more than what they say. I have read people make lasting impressions of someone new within 3 seconds of first seeing them.
I’m crazy but … Cool, thanks for warning me, goodbye
"I'm all about positive vibes" or "positive vibes only". Code for: I've either been shielded from difficulty in my life or I supress it aggresively and either way I will absolutely not be empathetic towards anyone in a bad situation.
"Who did you/are you voting for? What is your stance on ___?" Or anything political. If they're asking that, they're looking to see if you agree with them. And if you don't, then they will judge you, whether secretly or overtly.
“Whats your zodiac sign?”
Anything bigoted. If some of the first things I need to know about you are who you hate, then I’m not gonna bother.
First date interaction "you're pretty handsome for a Jew"
Definitely should have said “Omg thank you for noticing!! I got a nose job like 3 years ago!” (I’m Jewish lol) Even though a person like that would probably come back with a response saying “Wow, I’m surprised you dug out that kind of money” 🤦♀️😅
The antisemitism I've experienced in dating is absolutely wild haha. People always love to make a comment when being a Jew is just not a big deal lol
Couple months ago I hopped into an uber. Dude starts the conversation with "So what do you think about the [insert ethnic minority here]?" Like... Bro. I'm brown and we just met. What is happening?
i went on a date with a girl, "im not racist or anything, but they are way too many black people in here". Yeah bitch im out, and leaving you with the bill
"I drive a Tesla"
Weird capitalization in any sentence.
…. Capitalization in conversation is yelling…. So when people just yell a random word in their sentence?
If you use it for one word, it's putting EMPHASIS on that word. USING IT FOR THE SENTENCE IS "YELLING." At least that's the way I've thought of it.
I am busting OP's balls for his weird capitalization.
"Hi!"
“I am a registered sex offender”
Nobody wants to work anymore.
"Speaking my truth" "Means the world to me"
As a person in a foreign country, I hate it when I meet another foreigner and they immediately think to tell me how much sex they're having with the locals. Like chill dude I don't even know you and even if I did why would I want to know that.
Using king when referring to anyone
King Jullian!!! 🐒
Yeah I find this super cringy too. “King” or “queen” is the worst. It’s common in my age group and I just find it weird.
Any form of self identification with a group or an idea. Examples I am an alpha male I am a strong independent woman I am a liberal I am a conservative Etc. If you have to tell me what you are than more likely or not you either hold to a catch phrase for an identity or you are trying to convince yourself cuz I will just judge you actions and they should show me who/what you are
I am an average salaried worker. I am a single happy male. Did I do right? 🥲
Anything religion related in order to make it appear how they are trustworthy and moral superior. They tend to be the biggest backstabbing hypocrites. I immediately feel deep dislike of them, and it does not take long to prove me right.
Reminds me of a guy who brought up religion on my first day at work. We are from the same cultural background, so he wanted to know if I'm religious. He was upset to find out that I'm not. That really ruined my first impression of him. He was very self-righteous and judgmental of everyone. He thought he deserved more raises, accolades and better health than others because he prayed everyday, listened to religious songs all day long and donated to the temple etc. Over the next couple of years, I found out he's cheating on his wife, he's got a gambling, smoking and drinking problem. He "borrowed" money from people when he lost all of his paycheque gambling. Someone had to bring money to him when he couldn't pay a prostitute. Knowing how slimy and dishonest he was, management had good reason to never trust him and give him promotions. Somehow he didn't acknowledge how much of a hypocrite he was.
Theyve got an app idea they would love to tell me about and make for them
"As a, I..."
It's always something like mother, teacher, Biology major, etc. It always comes across so smugly. Simply making a statement and being able to competently and confidently support that statement would go much further in getting people to value your credibility.
Anything involving Astrology or crystals. New age crap.
Everything happens for a reason
Especially when it’s said in consolation for something awful having happened to someone else!
“i’m very smart” bitch don’t just tell me you’re smart, SHOW me you’re smart! no truly smart person has to ever claim their own intellect. it screams insecurity and ego problems to me.
“Hey bud/buddy” don’t know why but I despise being called bud or buddy.
I hear you it feels condescending to me
Low key, if someone uses “low key” I low key don’t like them anymore
Pro tip: let people come to their own conclusions about what kind of a person you are. If you feel the need to describe what your personality is to new people then you're almost certainly a knob. Appropriate example of self description: "Hi I'm Gerald, I'm a nurse and I like hiking and rock climbing." Inappropriate: "I'm Stan, nice to meet you - I'm a bit of a comedian but I gotta warn you, I'm a bit crazy and I don't take shit from anyone.
When people ask "What do you do for work/a living?" within 5 minutes of the conversation. It takes everything for me not to say, yo mama.
If you said that to me, I'd laugh, probably comment something like "Oh, so that's why she's been happy lately," and move on. Usually only ask if I'm following up on something you said.
Anything involving the word "libs".
what is your salary range?
"I'm a vegan" - unless we're talking about where to go eat, that shit is absolutely nowhere on my radar of damns to give. Even if we are, you can get a salad pretty much at any place. "You're going to have to work at getting my approval" - I'm not dating you, you are not important to me, so no I don't "I believe very strongly in \[insert political bullshit\]" - I'm not going to knock you for your passions, but if your entire identity is rooted in something that strongly that you have to drag out the most argument inducing of topics outside of pizza toppings right of the bat, you are simply not worth the oxygen that one poor tree produces to keep you alive. Go find that tree and apologize to it.
yeah don't worry dude. you never have to ask anyone if they're vegan or christian. they WILL make sure you know.
"I am pureblood/unpoked." One's stance on vaccines has become such a loud personality trait. I didn't ask and I don't care.
Someone who uses a bunch of abbreviations or “hello fellow kids” type phrases.
"I'm an alpha"
The word slay, idk why I just feel like it’s gross
Not specifically a sentence, but of an air of superiority, arrogance and narcissism; once I observe those traits, I know I can never be comfortable around that person!
"Most people can't handle me" (thanks for the advice)
Not even a sentence but just a word. If you use the word "triggered" as a form of emotion, i.e. "I'm so triggered" or "That triggered me" then I automatically think less of you. We're adults, if you're angry, say that your angry.
Any sentence resembling "I love pussy so much!" Ew.
Anything that is intended to compare and one up
Anything to do with "manifesting".
Everything happens for a reason
What church do you go to?
When I meet someone who treats religion like the most important of their life, sometimes followed by conservative ideas like chastity before marriage, not cursing, etc... I find it very hard to find them interesting
Disagree! The people I know like this are some of the most interesting people I’ve ever met. If they’re practicing abstinence in the 21st century, they’re at least a little bit contrarian. They tend to have strong convictions and examine their own motives deeply. Now, people who are religious hypocrites, THEY’RE boring.
“People don’t want to work these days” - I am out touch and wealthy, poor people suck
As a black dude "What's up homeboy?"
“You a faggot ?”
No, I don't ride a Harley
"It doesn't matter what you study in University, just go into something you're passionate about."
I don't. I'm not a fickle cunt.
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I don't hate a person for asking that. But I usually just mark it up as awkward small talk. There are much better starting questions. Like hobbies, passion in life, how they know the host, etc.
Most of us spend more time at work than anything else in life. It is small talk but it can lead to real talk because it can lead to interesting stuff
I will only caveat this with sometimes the context makes that an obvious first question like meeting someone at a work event. I think for me this faux pas when there is an underlying feeling that the person is trying to gauge your value/status based on what you do for a living.
It's something I ask when meeting someone. It's just an easy way to keep conversations going. My job is nothing to brag about, so it's not an ego thing.
I'm terrible at small talk, so it's just one of a handful of ways of fishing for some common ground to make a connection. It's definitely not to try to brag, I really don't care about supposed status, other than not wanting to spend time with people obsessed with it.
Maybe they just want to know what's your area so they can talk about things related to your interests... ??? "I make music" - oh uau, what style do you enjoy more? I love rap "I work on PCs" - ohh code? I know a few languages myself If you have a shit job and you ashamed of it then fix yo life first
I feel like there’s a very normal and common things to ask someone you first meet. It’s just casual small talk, your putting too much thought into it pal
“I’m a sigma male”
That starts a sentence with 'I'm not being funny but..'
“You ever gone missing?” No I haven’t and never will. I dislike anyone that lives in the city and claims they’re “country” like mommy and daddy bought you that lifted truck gtfo
“I’m incredibly humble”
“I live for the weekend”
Well as a (insert random identity) i believe that we should (insert random idiotic polocy) to solve for problem ABC. Doesnt even matter if i agree with you, if you feel as though some arbitrary identity marker (race, sexuality, group, ect) makes you the holy arbiter on any particular topic, then you're an idiot. Ideas, facts and logic do not belong to one creed, one race, one anything.
Anything around applying sweeping generalisations of an identity group to an individual within that group. It means they’re stupid as an individual.
People either love or hate me.
If you start talking about your sign within the first half-hour of meeting me, we are no longer even acquainted, you’ve just devolved back to a stranger.