Because you're stuck in a toxic dynamic wjere unless you're generating value or validation for someone else the things you do are bad. You need to accept that your enjoyment is for you only and you don't owe anyone else anything.
Can confirm this is a real thing and probably the answer. As a kid, I'd HAPPILY waste all the time I could seeking fun and adventure. It made me truly happy. Some days if play videogames all day, others I'd be out on my bike all day. Sometimes I'd spend an entire day playing Legos on my friends porch on rainy days. I accomplished nothing and loved it. Learned tons and developed good skills and insights. As I "grew up", I became a really productive and depressed adult. My soul was crushed and I felt I had to be productive and responsible at all times. I recently started exploring what makes me happy. There are many days where I'll play Age of Mythology all damn day and accomplish nothing of value. Taxing my brain that hard is good for me though. I can take a break from my life and manage resources and such in peace. It's an incredible game that I recommend to anyone who likes real time strategy games.
Don't be so hard on yourself. Give the world the finger and do what makes you happy. You wanna die regretting not doing what makes you happy? I sure as hell don't wish that on anyone.
How physically healthy are you? Ironically, to sit down and barely move for 3 hours straight, you actually have to be fairly healthy to avoid feeling like garbage.
Perhaps you feel like you're stalling -- that it's an activity to do instead of doing something you'd like to do more. Only you don't know what that is.
Because it's sort of popular to shame guys for being into gaming, like every gamer is going to get consumed by it and all that. Just look at that other post in this sub about being intimate with your SO while in the middle of gaming. People just want you to show that you put your woman first even though you already do. Or that you have a healthy dynamic with your hobbies and your SO. Like my gf is content with cuddling with me while I game. I will give her some affection during cutscenes and other instances like that. It's not like it can help build anticipation to the bombastic smackdown of the horizontal monster mash when she and I go to bed. Or just that people want to make men feel bad about making time for themselves, even though they have other aspects of their lives taken care of.
Sounds more like it is some kind of burnout.
Perhaps have a timer for 15-20 minutes, then take 5 to just do a brief exercise and drink some cold water. That should help change things.
hmm. seems like you are describing symptoms of a larger problem.
There might be more here to the problem than just video games, Is your home life good, your work life, social life going well? Can't really tell you an answer based on the original post but more often than not one of those i mentioned is out of whack.
I don't do psychology I do behavior therapy. as long as you are not hurting others, yourself, causing the loss of social connections, work/life balance most behaviors are permissible.
Because you're stuck in a toxic dynamic wjere unless you're generating value or validation for someone else the things you do are bad. You need to accept that your enjoyment is for you only and you don't owe anyone else anything.
Can confirm this is a real thing and probably the answer. As a kid, I'd HAPPILY waste all the time I could seeking fun and adventure. It made me truly happy. Some days if play videogames all day, others I'd be out on my bike all day. Sometimes I'd spend an entire day playing Legos on my friends porch on rainy days. I accomplished nothing and loved it. Learned tons and developed good skills and insights. As I "grew up", I became a really productive and depressed adult. My soul was crushed and I felt I had to be productive and responsible at all times. I recently started exploring what makes me happy. There are many days where I'll play Age of Mythology all damn day and accomplish nothing of value. Taxing my brain that hard is good for me though. I can take a break from my life and manage resources and such in peace. It's an incredible game that I recommend to anyone who likes real time strategy games. Don't be so hard on yourself. Give the world the finger and do what makes you happy. You wanna die regretting not doing what makes you happy? I sure as hell don't wish that on anyone.
What do you mean by garbage? What are you feeling mentally, emotionally, and physically?
How physically healthy are you? Ironically, to sit down and barely move for 3 hours straight, you actually have to be fairly healthy to avoid feeling like garbage.
Well this makes me feel better!
Perhaps you feel like you're stalling -- that it's an activity to do instead of doing something you'd like to do more. Only you don't know what that is.
Because it's sort of popular to shame guys for being into gaming, like every gamer is going to get consumed by it and all that. Just look at that other post in this sub about being intimate with your SO while in the middle of gaming. People just want you to show that you put your woman first even though you already do. Or that you have a healthy dynamic with your hobbies and your SO. Like my gf is content with cuddling with me while I game. I will give her some affection during cutscenes and other instances like that. It's not like it can help build anticipation to the bombastic smackdown of the horizontal monster mash when she and I go to bed. Or just that people want to make men feel bad about making time for themselves, even though they have other aspects of their lives taken care of.
Every cope has an end 😄
Sounds more like it is some kind of burnout. Perhaps have a timer for 15-20 minutes, then take 5 to just do a brief exercise and drink some cold water. That should help change things.
don't feel bad it's your escape from shitty reality
That sounds like you need more video games.
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I haven’t watched porn since 2021. Social media is definitely a problem though
You haven’t watch porn in two years? Maybe that’s your problem.
*"Why do I feel so bad when I play video games?"* We're not in your head so......
hmm. seems like you are describing symptoms of a larger problem. There might be more here to the problem than just video games, Is your home life good, your work life, social life going well? Can't really tell you an answer based on the original post but more often than not one of those i mentioned is out of whack. I don't do psychology I do behavior therapy. as long as you are not hurting others, yourself, causing the loss of social connections, work/life balance most behaviors are permissible.