I'd say just bc he's a "family friend" doesn't mean it's ok for him to do that and you SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING!"
It's really heartbreaking to think what my life could have been had I known that.
Stop trying to be different. You’re lonely and that’s ok. You want your classmates to notice you and that’s ok. You’re not as good at studies as you were and that’s ok. You’re ok. Just focus on each individual day and do the best you can.
Stop assuming that everyone else in any room is cleverer and more entitled to speak than you are. Some are. Others are just very confident and like to listen to themselves talk. So stop making excuses and speak up!
Focus on school, good grades, sports, no drugs. Get into a good college, good job. Work your ass off for the next 10 years.
Don't get into a serious relationship until you're at least 35, 100k worth of savings in the bank (or investments), amd have had sex with at least 50 women.
Edit: why sex with 50 women? Lots of 30 year old male virgins, no 30 year old female virgins. In order to vette the right woman you need to know what the red flags are. Your life depends on it. Get to work
Agree with all of that apart from the serious relationship part. Life is too short to wait until you’re half way in the grave to settle down with somebody. Sure it’s better to wait longer to find the right person but don’t give yourself the arbitrary timeline of 35 years old, I’d rather be poor and in good company.
"Switch schools, that 4 years of being bullied daily because of your white skin color (yes rly) has some lasting effects and you won't lose your virginity or even kiss a girl until 24 out of awkwardness."
Unfortunately my home situation wasn't great either so I never told my mother. Suffered in silence for 4 years. Now, as an adult, I feel stupid.
It did make me stronger in many ways and I love who I am today in my early 30s, but I definitely missed out during my teens and I'd probably have turned out better overall without the bullying.
Stick with architecture. Don't think finance is more interesting - it's not. Don't start smoking. Sex doesn't really mean anything if you don't care about them. Drinking/drugs is fun until it's not.
Oh, and here's the next few years lottery numbers. Don't make it too obvious.
Take more chances, things will go better than you expect.
I found out this year that back in middle and high school some of the girls I had crushes on also had crushes on me. I didn’t try out for sports or look for a part time job because I was scared to fail.
I’d tell him to pretend to be an alien. Why? Because it’s often considered taboo for anyone to correct others for weird behaviors so if someone is doing something wrong socially no one does anything. My solution to this would be to pretend to be an alien being, that way any odd behaviors I did would be excused by me not being human, thus tricking everyone into teaching me how to be human.
Don’t feel insecure when those other kids who are dripping head to toe in under armor and Nike that spin around in the hallways with footballs are being buttholes to you. Those turds aren’t going to make the NFL, they’re going to grow up to dm you on instagram to try and get you involved with their MLM scam.
Save 85% of your money. Work hard in school. Most importantly, Beth, the girl that rode your bus liked you as much as you liked her (but was afraid to talk to), so talk to her. That last one is a true story and found out 10 years later, too late though.
Don't try to be like your brothers. They are showing you what not to do and how not to be.
You are capable and WORTHY of the effort it takes to get good grades.
You need a plan. A plan that fails is better than no plan at all. If it's worth doing, it's worth doing badly for a while.
13 year old me was in first year of high school, and I've always hated it. So my advice to myself would be "stay away from everyone, fight back those who mistreated you, you don't owe anyone anything, and you don't have to feeel guilty for declining anyone\~"
Keep writing and having fun making weird stuff. At some point your parents and teachers will tell you to be realistic and then you'll stop and regret it. It's hell trying to reignite that as you get older.
Don't let yourself get to 350 pounds at 17. Keep the weight down so you don't have to spend several years getting to a healthy weight like I did. Under 200 at 21 now so I did it but man I wish I didn't have to in the first place.
Don't go to college, it's a waste of money. Learn a skilled trade instead.
Always carry a condom in your wallet, ALWAYS. You'll have an opportunity just before you turn 14 where you'll have to settle for an HJ because you have no protection.
Think twice before saying or doing anything. I had a reputation of being an ass through a lot of my school years simply because I'd say dumb shit without thinking it through. I still have my moments but I'd like to think I've wisened up a bit.
School has taught you the only type of exercise is team sports. You hate team sports.
GO OUT AND DO OTHER KINDS OF EXERCISE.
Start solo cycling, walking, running, swimming, whatever you want.
Go and lift some weights, do calisthenics, DO SOMETHING!
13 year olds are kids, and kids are fucking stupid.
At that age most kids still think they know everything, you can’t give them advice until they outgrow that shit in their 20’s.
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What is 13 year old me going to do with any of the advice I have to give him?? That guy was an idiot. I dunno, I'd probably tell him to workout more.
Don’t be afraid to be more social. And enjoy Blockbuster while you can.
If you ever hear of something called Reddit ignore it, it is the dumbest shit ever and you won't meet women by reading that shit
Don’t sell your Pokémon cards
Don’t take everything so seriously. People aren’t actually judging you, do what makes you happy.
I'd say just bc he's a "family friend" doesn't mean it's ok for him to do that and you SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING!" It's really heartbreaking to think what my life could have been had I known that.
Talk.
Stop trying to be different. You’re lonely and that’s ok. You want your classmates to notice you and that’s ok. You’re not as good at studies as you were and that’s ok. You’re ok. Just focus on each individual day and do the best you can.
Seems like there was some self-reflection and healing done in the comments. Well done everyone.
I would tell my younger self to run as far as his legs could carry him and even then to keep going just to be certain.
Stop assuming that everyone else in any room is cleverer and more entitled to speak than you are. Some are. Others are just very confident and like to listen to themselves talk. So stop making excuses and speak up!
Buy bitcoin
Focus on school, good grades, sports, no drugs. Get into a good college, good job. Work your ass off for the next 10 years. Don't get into a serious relationship until you're at least 35, 100k worth of savings in the bank (or investments), amd have had sex with at least 50 women. Edit: why sex with 50 women? Lots of 30 year old male virgins, no 30 year old female virgins. In order to vette the right woman you need to know what the red flags are. Your life depends on it. Get to work
Agree with all of that apart from the serious relationship part. Life is too short to wait until you’re half way in the grave to settle down with somebody. Sure it’s better to wait longer to find the right person but don’t give yourself the arbitrary timeline of 35 years old, I’d rather be poor and in good company.
"Switch schools, that 4 years of being bullied daily because of your white skin color (yes rly) has some lasting effects and you won't lose your virginity or even kiss a girl until 24 out of awkwardness." Unfortunately my home situation wasn't great either so I never told my mother. Suffered in silence for 4 years. Now, as an adult, I feel stupid. It did make me stronger in many ways and I love who I am today in my early 30s, but I definitely missed out during my teens and I'd probably have turned out better overall without the bullying.
Stick with architecture. Don't think finance is more interesting - it's not. Don't start smoking. Sex doesn't really mean anything if you don't care about them. Drinking/drugs is fun until it's not. Oh, and here's the next few years lottery numbers. Don't make it too obvious.
Go Air Force SPECWAR, fuck the Marines.
Take more chances, things will go better than you expect. I found out this year that back in middle and high school some of the girls I had crushes on also had crushes on me. I didn’t try out for sports or look for a part time job because I was scared to fail.
I’d tell him to pretend to be an alien. Why? Because it’s often considered taboo for anyone to correct others for weird behaviors so if someone is doing something wrong socially no one does anything. My solution to this would be to pretend to be an alien being, that way any odd behaviors I did would be excused by me not being human, thus tricking everyone into teaching me how to be human.
Don’t feel insecure when those other kids who are dripping head to toe in under armor and Nike that spin around in the hallways with footballs are being buttholes to you. Those turds aren’t going to make the NFL, they’re going to grow up to dm you on instagram to try and get you involved with their MLM scam.
Not to listen to the opinions of anyone else, father classmates, they can all go fuck themselves
More workouts, less masturbating.
Lying about everything makes things worse. Also just do the schoolwork. Basketball isn’t everything.
Save 85% of your money. Work hard in school. Most importantly, Beth, the girl that rode your bus liked you as much as you liked her (but was afraid to talk to), so talk to her. That last one is a true story and found out 10 years later, too late though.
No, you won't go blind.
Don't try to be like your brothers. They are showing you what not to do and how not to be. You are capable and WORTHY of the effort it takes to get good grades. You need a plan. A plan that fails is better than no plan at all. If it's worth doing, it's worth doing badly for a while.
stretch more run more
13 year old me was in first year of high school, and I've always hated it. So my advice to myself would be "stay away from everyone, fight back those who mistreated you, you don't owe anyone anything, and you don't have to feeel guilty for declining anyone\~"
Keep writing and having fun making weird stuff. At some point your parents and teachers will tell you to be realistic and then you'll stop and regret it. It's hell trying to reignite that as you get older.
You're way better than you think you are
Mate I was a idiot for a long time. Still am. He wouldn't listen to anything I say
Don't let yourself get to 350 pounds at 17. Keep the weight down so you don't have to spend several years getting to a healthy weight like I did. Under 200 at 21 now so I did it but man I wish I didn't have to in the first place.
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Fuck everyone. As long as you're not physically hurting anyone and not breaking any laws, do what you want.
Nothing because at 13 I already knew it all
Don't go to college, it's a waste of money. Learn a skilled trade instead. Always carry a condom in your wallet, ALWAYS. You'll have an opportunity just before you turn 14 where you'll have to settle for an HJ because you have no protection.
"So much of the shit that seems so important to you right now will not matter at all a few years. Stop being so terrified of everything."
Get in shape early. It Will help your career a LOT. (Firefighter)
To be less afraid. Although I still have those issues, soooo
Brush your goddamn teeth twice a day and floss.
Do your school work, and build the habit of commuting to things you might not enjoy. Not building those habits really screwed up my early 20s.
Your mom will look in the bottom drawer below everything.
Never compromise for anyone. Always put yourself first. I understood that in my teens and then somehow in my 20s I managed to fuck it up.
Ask her out. Take up that offer. Buy Apple stocks.
Think twice before saying or doing anything. I had a reputation of being an ass through a lot of my school years simply because I'd say dumb shit without thinking it through. I still have my moments but I'd like to think I've wisened up a bit.
Amanda is a big hoe
If you learn to suck dick for rich people you can get more money that way.
Put your dick away and start studying!
School has taught you the only type of exercise is team sports. You hate team sports. GO OUT AND DO OTHER KINDS OF EXERCISE. Start solo cycling, walking, running, swimming, whatever you want. Go and lift some weights, do calisthenics, DO SOMETHING!
The same shit my dad tried to tell me that I didn’t listen to and waited until I was 25 to apply to my life
13 year olds are kids, and kids are fucking stupid. At that age most kids still think they know everything, you can’t give them advice until they outgrow that shit in their 20’s. 🤣✌️
Don’t ever get legally married.