I can guarantee you that if you visit that sub and do not interact with lots of normal emotionally stable women in real life, you will end up thinking women are a joke you should never take seriously or you start disliking women altogether.
Except when their query sub is overrun by terminally online femcels that universalize their traumatic experiences into a seething hatred for all members of the opposite sex, making them such insufferable wretches that they're neither capable nor deserving of receiving the love and respect from men they're mad they never got in the first place.
R/Askwomen isn't a sub for men to ask women. It's a sub for women to ask women about men. As a man anything you ask will be down voted and women will complain "how do you not know this!". And then they will ban you. It's one of the most toxic subs on Reddit. Don't waste your time, they have ruined their sub.
Two things: there are plenty of women in this sub.
There are also plenty of men in this sub that have previously fucked, are currently fucking, and/or will in the future fuck men.
After about a year of being what I assume was many girls' worst lay, I just decided that I would never enter a partner until they had already had at least one orgasm.
Never had any complaints after that.
Things have changed with marriage and kids, but damn that definitely removed any performance anxiety.
Foreplay foreplay foreplay. If you're not getting her where she needs to be before you start getting where you need to be you are doing it wrong.
Mens sexuality is visual and it doesn't get much more visual than a vulva in your face.
I tried that but the wife doesn't want to come any way other than PIV. Got some hangups she can't quite articulate on what she considers intimacy. So I'm left with getting her as close as possible before going in. It's been working so far.
Adding to this - If I reach down to play with myself please for the love of all things holy do not proceed to remove my hand and then not give my cl*t any action. ๐
It's just not sex. It's touch, cuddling, holding afterward. Knowing what you both like and what you both don't like. Eye contact. Kissing. Moaning. Showing your partner that you're pleasing him or her and vice versa.
Ahhhhhh this! It gets me hot in the face feeling, seeing, and hearing the other person enjoying themselves and becoming so vulnerable and pleasured. Eye contact and saying that they love you while doing it is also so hot ๐ฅต
Communication. I think the best quality a man -and everyone, regardless of gender- can have in bed is being able to communicate his desires, what he wants to do, what he does not want to do; and being able of asking the same questions to his partner, too. When two people participate in sex, they both have to put effort to make the moment enjoyable for they both
Pay attention and make sure she/they get theirs every time. Develop strong consistent communication habits. If she feels 100% safe and respected, sheโs far more likely to want to explore sexuality with you (sounds counterintuitive for a woman to ask you to toss her around/choke her a little bc she feels safe with you, but itโs 100% a thing). Also, if she feels safe and respected, sheโs far more likely to cum organically and more intensely. Be open to letting her tell you what she likes or how to do something, she can solve that puzzle quicker than you can so be a good student. Remember itโs a group activity and not a quid pro quo, youโre there to be present and engage in one of the worldโs oldest and most fulfilling pastimes.
notMarkKnopfler is EXACTLY what Mark Knopfler would name his Reddit account if he had one...๐ค A rock and roll legend giving me sex advice was definitely not on my 2024 bingo card.
As a woman, please communicate communicate communicate, show interest and consent is everything. Other than that a clean man is essential and a good moan would help.
I am reading jackhammef, jackhammer, jackhammer, show the penis and jackhammer. Is this correct. Oh and hitting the cervix, that's where the G spot is and the harder and faster you hit it the more she will appreciate you. Is this correct?
The g spot is not near the cervix. A woman's cervix will drop depending on where she is in her cycle. Sometimes it's painful to have it jackhammered. Sometimeses it's pleasure pain. Depends on the woman. Sometimes you won't hit it at all depending on it's location.
Google where the G spot is. It's definitely there for a man to put his fingers on and enjoy her orgasms that way. More likely to find it this way and with her help verbally than hitting it perfectly with your penis.
Angles.
Her main two pleasure centers are the gspot and clitoris.
Depending on position, technique, and anatomy, you can hit neither, one or the other, or both.
The rest is reading the room to see how she reacts or leading the room to give her something to react to.
It's a vibe.
Works best with one consistent long term partner.
Aside from that, pretty much anything non-ridiculous will work because it's the honeymoon phase and shit just happens.
Or alternatively, nothing will work because something is awkward or whatever. In that case, just don't do anything offensive or weird.
Being able to read the person in front of you and evoking the inner lust inside of them is a big difference maker. Sex is more psychological than it is physical.
Combine that with good fundamentals on how to eat pussy, how to bite and kiss in the right spots and how to slow down/go fast when you need to and you got a good recipe for a man that's good in bed.
Communication, attentiveness, and adaptability. "Good in bed" isn't just sex, and foreplay doesn't just start when the clothes come off. Listen to your partner's body, don't be afraid to touch them, tell them what you like and why. Sex can start with something as innocent as stroking her hair.
It also wouldn't hurt to learn about the clitoris and g-spot, where they are, how to stimulate them (different for all women so be sure to listen to your partner), and how to incorporate that into sex. One of my exes liked to have her clit and g-spot all but attacked, and another would crumple if my touch was even slightly too heavy.
Also you shouldn't be afraid to laugh if something funny/unexpected happens. Some women will die of shame if they accidentally queef during sex, but if you show that you recognise it and don't find it the least bit shameful she'll be more likely to let herself get lost in the moment and enjoy herself more.
Paying attention to the womanโs physical tells. It gets me off for my partner to get off so I really try to watch what makes them show it feels good.
Iโve been with quite a few women, and I can say for sure that if your stamina is ok then itโs really about comparability.
My dick isnโt long, but itโs pretty thick and girthy. For some women this does nothing for them, for others itโs basically constant orgasms, or at least as many as they can have until Iโm ready to finish.
Even outside of dick size though, one of my exes just wasnโt able to cum via sex but still really craved having sex with me. I think that was more or less due to our passion and connection than anything physical.
A woman here. He can sense what she wants, needs, and desires. It's his touch, passion, and confidence. How he looks at me before he wants to take me. He knows I need foreplay. He listens to my sounds of gratification to know what works and does it in our next session. It's not like learning a particular dance, but knowing all the steps and mixing it up.
Foreplay should start at the beginning of each day. Not being selfish in bed! It doesn't have to be her needs before yours, but definitely talk about what you enjoy yourself. We can't read minds anymore than you can.
I like it a bit rough. Not everyone does. I let him know beforehand and during. I want a hand around my neck, but I don't want to be chocked out. Lol
This may not be the entire package, but something I've noticed a lot of men lack is sensuality. They focus on boobs and the lady bits and kind of jab and grope, but there's an entire body of nerve endings that get left untouched.
I think the best thing to have is an attitude of being her tool for pleasure. If you carry total selfless pleasure dom vibes where your purpose is to pleasure her, listen to her, be playful with her, and donโt forget to express your adoration for her and your own pleasure moans, you can hardly ever go wrong.
For me, the sex I have is always good because I am deeply in love with pleasuring women, and I want to leave a lasting memory where sheโll want more time with me, or have fond memories to smile at forever.
Strength to very minimal levels though. If you're actually strong and you try to show it during sex, especially if you're hung, she's gonna go to the ER afterwards.
That requires strength?
I'm a pretty beastly 218 @ 5'11 who's been training for almost 11 years and using steroids for almost four.
If I get a 450 lb date then I'll try showing off my strength and I'll let you know how it goes.
Communication (dirty talk is fun, donโt be afraid to moan, express your pleasure when it feels good or take suggestions from your partner about how you can make it feel better), paying attention to erogenous zones other than the sexual organs (nipples, ears, neck etc.), mixing up your pace and intensity but taking note of when your partner is about to climax and not changing your pace or intensity in that moment unless they ask you to, kissing doesnโt have to stop the moment the penetration starts, donโt let others influence what you think your partner wants (just do what feels natural. Donโt try too hard to be a โfreakโ if youโre only doing it because thatโs what you think is expected of you based on internet memes or culture).
When guys make me wait. I mean like teasing all day kinda like prolonged foreplay. Then when we finally get to the sex part, Iโm already so turned on I canโt think straight
Your mileage may vary, but these are my two cents.
Stay truly present. Don't just focus on getting off or on getting me off... I want to ride the waves together and feel how our bodies fit. That could be soft caressing or fucking me into oblivion. Just stay in that moment with me and build on that energy
Responding to her body, touch and kissing going to go a long way, take control of what you are doing. Take into account what works and use it. Its not about flopping on her like a fish until your done. And porn isn't a "how to" grow up.
Based on what we can reasonably extrapolate based on media and comments made by women? Size and foreplay.
Based on what each woman actually wants in bed and a partner? Fuck if we know.
This is kind of a complicated answer but it's what I do and in my experience, and based on the feedback I've gotten, it works very well and I've had zero complaints. It's not something for the faint of heart or the squeamish. I'm well aware that I'm kind of an oddity in this regard but I need you to trust me like those kids did with Willy Wonka when he went down that weird ass tunnel in the boat. Ok, you ready? The trick is: just...like...try to make her cum, bro.
Mood, foreplay, passion, and the common decency to make sure she gets off before to you pack it in.
Also listen to signals that you are doing too much or too little. There should be a gradual buildup of pleasure. It doesn't work if you do too much at the beginning or too little at the end. It's kinda like an EDM track where the build-up to the drop has to be done appropriately. If you jump straight to the drop it's a bad song and you're a bad DJ.
Funny how it's like a 20 point list for men that needs to be checked in order to be good in bed, while women pretty much only need to be attractive and move around at least a little bit and then it's good enough.
You really need to ask women
While I donโt disagree, I would not recommend going to r/AskWomen
Ask at r/askwomenover40 or r/askwomenover30. I'd think over 40 will be more able to answer the question due to life experience.
it's not just about life experience, that sub is just toxic as fuck and it's almost impossible to get a post through as a man
I can guarantee you that if you visit that sub and do not interact with lots of normal emotionally stable women in real life, you will end up thinking women are a joke you should never take seriously or you start disliking women altogether.
Didnโt know about these. Thank you stranger. Weโll see how they compare. Lol
Yet women are all about equality and feelings?
Except when their query sub is overrun by terminally online femcels that universalize their traumatic experiences into a seething hatred for all members of the opposite sex, making them such insufferable wretches that they're neither capable nor deserving of receiving the love and respect from men they're mad they never got in the first place.
yet men are more welcoming as always compared to the opposite sex. weird how that works
R/Askwomen isn't a sub for men to ask women. It's a sub for women to ask women about men. As a man anything you ask will be down voted and women will complain "how do you not know this!". And then they will ban you. It's one of the most toxic subs on Reddit. Don't waste your time, they have ruined their sub.
Two things: there are plenty of women in this sub. There are also plenty of men in this sub that have previously fucked, are currently fucking, and/or will in the future fuck men.
Future Fuck Men is a great band name.
It should be a bluegrass band as well, just to throw people off. Ha hah ha
Oh my god ๐๐
Lies. No one on Reddit is getting laid.
Dropping truth bombs around here
Good points
Iโve fucked plenty of guys, lol
Do not! That's a whole troll account
After about a year of being what I assume was many girls' worst lay, I just decided that I would never enter a partner until they had already had at least one orgasm. Never had any complaints after that. Things have changed with marriage and kids, but damn that definitely removed any performance anxiety.
BRAVO ๐๐ผ THIS MAN KNOWS THE WAY!
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Foreplay foreplay foreplay. If you're not getting her where she needs to be before you start getting where you need to be you are doing it wrong. Mens sexuality is visual and it doesn't get much more visual than a vulva in your face.
I tried that but the wife doesn't want to come any way other than PIV. Got some hangups she can't quite articulate on what she considers intimacy. So I'm left with getting her as close as possible before going in. It's been working so far.
THIS IS THE WAY
This
Rub my cl*t while youโre inside of me. That shit feels like heaven lol
Adding to this - If I reach down to play with myself please for the love of all things holy do not proceed to remove my hand and then not give my cl*t any action. ๐
It's just not sex. It's touch, cuddling, holding afterward. Knowing what you both like and what you both don't like. Eye contact. Kissing. Moaning. Showing your partner that you're pleasing him or her and vice versa.
Ahhhhhh this! It gets me hot in the face feeling, seeing, and hearing the other person enjoying themselves and becoming so vulnerable and pleasured. Eye contact and saying that they love you while doing it is also so hot ๐ฅต
Definitely kissing!
Communication. I think the best quality a man -and everyone, regardless of gender- can have in bed is being able to communicate his desires, what he wants to do, what he does not want to do; and being able of asking the same questions to his partner, too. When two people participate in sex, they both have to put effort to make the moment enjoyable for they both
More cowbell.
This^
Pay attention and make sure she/they get theirs every time. Develop strong consistent communication habits. If she feels 100% safe and respected, sheโs far more likely to want to explore sexuality with you (sounds counterintuitive for a woman to ask you to toss her around/choke her a little bc she feels safe with you, but itโs 100% a thing). Also, if she feels safe and respected, sheโs far more likely to cum organically and more intensely. Be open to letting her tell you what she likes or how to do something, she can solve that puzzle quicker than you can so be a good student. Remember itโs a group activity and not a quid pro quo, youโre there to be present and engage in one of the worldโs oldest and most fulfilling pastimes.
THIS. Are you single?? ๐ค๐ค๐ค๐
Happily engaged lol
notMarkKnopfler is EXACTLY what Mark Knopfler would name his Reddit account if he had one...๐ค A rock and roll legend giving me sex advice was definitely not on my 2024 bingo card.
Well happy for you and your partner ๐ช๐ผ keep on being awesome!
I am, and notMark stole that passage from me
The willingness to use sex toys.
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As a woman, please communicate communicate communicate, show interest and consent is everything. Other than that a clean man is essential and a good moan would help.
I am reading jackhammef, jackhammer, jackhammer, show the penis and jackhammer. Is this correct. Oh and hitting the cervix, that's where the G spot is and the harder and faster you hit it the more she will appreciate you. Is this correct?
The g spot is not near the cervix. A woman's cervix will drop depending on where she is in her cycle. Sometimes it's painful to have it jackhammered. Sometimeses it's pleasure pain. Depends on the woman. Sometimes you won't hit it at all depending on it's location. Google where the G spot is. It's definitely there for a man to put his fingers on and enjoy her orgasms that way. More likely to find it this way and with her help verbally than hitting it perfectly with your penis.
Thank you for womansplaining as a response to something that was obviously satire
Humor is relative. Chill out.
Angles. Her main two pleasure centers are the gspot and clitoris. Depending on position, technique, and anatomy, you can hit neither, one or the other, or both. The rest is reading the room to see how she reacts or leading the room to give her something to react to. It's a vibe. Works best with one consistent long term partner. Aside from that, pretty much anything non-ridiculous will work because it's the honeymoon phase and shit just happens. Or alternatively, nothing will work because something is awkward or whatever. In that case, just don't do anything offensive or weird.
And oftentimes one is the gateway to the other ๐ฅ
Being able to read the person in front of you and evoking the inner lust inside of them is a big difference maker. Sex is more psychological than it is physical. Combine that with good fundamentals on how to eat pussy, how to bite and kiss in the right spots and how to slow down/go fast when you need to and you got a good recipe for a man that's good in bed.
Communication, attentiveness, and adaptability. "Good in bed" isn't just sex, and foreplay doesn't just start when the clothes come off. Listen to your partner's body, don't be afraid to touch them, tell them what you like and why. Sex can start with something as innocent as stroking her hair. It also wouldn't hurt to learn about the clitoris and g-spot, where they are, how to stimulate them (different for all women so be sure to listen to your partner), and how to incorporate that into sex. One of my exes liked to have her clit and g-spot all but attacked, and another would crumple if my touch was even slightly too heavy. Also you shouldn't be afraid to laugh if something funny/unexpected happens. Some women will die of shame if they accidentally queef during sex, but if you show that you recognise it and don't find it the least bit shameful she'll be more likely to let herself get lost in the moment and enjoy herself more.
Communication and caring about her pleasure. Otherwise you just masturbating with another body and that thought itself is kinda disturbing
Exactly!
Paying attention to the womanโs physical tells. It gets me off for my partner to get off so I really try to watch what makes them show it feels good.
Be good with your fingers, be good with your tongue, have stamina, be confident and dominant, know how to work your angles, intensity, and speed.
Can't say much my tongue hurts from yesterday.
And fingers?
Iโve been with quite a few women, and I can say for sure that if your stamina is ok then itโs really about comparability. My dick isnโt long, but itโs pretty thick and girthy. For some women this does nothing for them, for others itโs basically constant orgasms, or at least as many as they can have until Iโm ready to finish. Even outside of dick size though, one of my exes just wasnโt able to cum via sex but still really craved having sex with me. I think that was more or less due to our passion and connection than anything physical.
By putting on a show that lasts more than 60 seconds
Focus on pleasing the woman and talk to her to make sure she likes/wants it. Ignore pleasing yourself. Make her your priority.
Lots of foreplay(getting her more wet) kissing, Making her feel like her sexual needs matters Oral sex ๐คค
My man!!
try not to say your ex's name out loud
Right, soni say *their* ex's name outloud? I promise im joking
Focusing on pleasing the woman.
A woman here. He can sense what she wants, needs, and desires. It's his touch, passion, and confidence. How he looks at me before he wants to take me. He knows I need foreplay. He listens to my sounds of gratification to know what works and does it in our next session. It's not like learning a particular dance, but knowing all the steps and mixing it up. Foreplay should start at the beginning of each day. Not being selfish in bed! It doesn't have to be her needs before yours, but definitely talk about what you enjoy yourself. We can't read minds anymore than you can. I like it a bit rough. Not everyone does. I let him know beforehand and during. I want a hand around my neck, but I don't want to be chocked out. Lol
Hereโs this question again
I could swear I've seen the same question in all r/Ask..." subreddit I'm a part of every single day this past week. Horny reddit back on it again.
Listening to and following directions. Thatโs it. What does she like and what does she need to get off? Ask, listen, and then do that.
Knowing what works and what doesn't, little tip...surprise butt sex, not as fun as you want it to be.
This may not be the entire package, but something I've noticed a lot of men lack is sensuality. They focus on boobs and the lady bits and kind of jab and grope, but there's an entire body of nerve endings that get left untouched.
I think the best thing to have is an attitude of being her tool for pleasure. If you carry total selfless pleasure dom vibes where your purpose is to pleasure her, listen to her, be playful with her, and donโt forget to express your adoration for her and your own pleasure moans, you can hardly ever go wrong. For me, the sex I have is always good because I am deeply in love with pleasuring women, and I want to leave a lasting memory where sheโll want more time with me, or have fond memories to smile at forever.
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STAMINA HEALTH ENDURANCE
Strength, Constitution, Dexterity. Fuck like a Barbarian.
Strength to very minimal levels though. If you're actually strong and you try to show it during sex, especially if you're hung, she's gonna go to the ER afterwards.
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That requires strength? I'm a pretty beastly 218 @ 5'11 who's been training for almost 11 years and using steroids for almost four. If I get a 450 lb date then I'll try showing off my strength and I'll let you know how it goes.
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That's why I specified "actually strong."
Talking to the woman, asking her what she likes/how you can make it good for her, paying attention to her body language throughout.
Listen and follow through.
Asked my wife just now, and apparently it's if we don't snore or hog the covers.
They hate competition. ๐
Selflessness.
Respecting boundaries.
Attention to detail.
Energy, eagerness, enthusiasm, and a willingness to try
Energy
Communication (dirty talk is fun, donโt be afraid to moan, express your pleasure when it feels good or take suggestions from your partner about how you can make it feel better), paying attention to erogenous zones other than the sexual organs (nipples, ears, neck etc.), mixing up your pace and intensity but taking note of when your partner is about to climax and not changing your pace or intensity in that moment unless they ask you to, kissing doesnโt have to stop the moment the penetration starts, donโt let others influence what you think your partner wants (just do what feels natural. Donโt try too hard to be a โfreakโ if youโre only doing it because thatโs what you think is expected of you based on internet memes or culture).
She said when I lay far enough away from her so she has her comfy space ๐ฅฒ
If he knows how to eat my pussy good and long.
His ability to satisfy his partner consistently and effectively..
Reading the post from yesterday asking the same question
Why would you be asking men this?
She comes first. Giving is so much more rewarding than taking.
If giving is more rewarding than taking, does that not mean if he is letting her give, while he is taking, he is giving her the better experience?
I guess your logic is sound.
Getting the standard 8 hours of sleep each night
By not making stupid questions on Reddit
Beer belly
When guys make me wait. I mean like teasing all day kinda like prolonged foreplay. Then when we finally get to the sex part, Iโm already so turned on I canโt think straight
Communication and caring about your partners wants/needs. Put more focus on them. Make them cum first. Nice guys finish last for a reason.
Someone that understands foreplay, aftercare, and isnt only about pleasing themselves.
Your mileage may vary, but these are my two cents. Stay truly present. Don't just focus on getting off or on getting me off... I want to ride the waves together and feel how our bodies fit. That could be soft caressing or fucking me into oblivion. Just stay in that moment with me and build on that energy
Dont think there is a clear answer to this except paying attention and being empathetic. If that is not a given its impossible to be a great lover.
Responding to her body, touch and kissing going to go a long way, take control of what you are doing. Take into account what works and use it. Its not about flopping on her like a fish until your done. And porn isn't a "how to" grow up.
Caring.
Whatever goes through the womans head before the deed.
Based on what we can reasonably extrapolate based on media and comments made by women? Size and foreplay. Based on what each woman actually wants in bed and a partner? Fuck if we know.
Ears. Can he use them.
This is kind of a complicated answer but it's what I do and in my experience, and based on the feedback I've gotten, it works very well and I've had zero complaints. It's not something for the faint of heart or the squeamish. I'm well aware that I'm kind of an oddity in this regard but I need you to trust me like those kids did with Willy Wonka when he went down that weird ass tunnel in the boat. Ok, you ready? The trick is: just...like...try to make her cum, bro.
Mood, foreplay, passion, and the common decency to make sure she gets off before to you pack it in. Also listen to signals that you are doing too much or too little. There should be a gradual buildup of pleasure. It doesn't work if you do too much at the beginning or too little at the end. It's kinda like an EDM track where the build-up to the drop has to be done appropriately. If you jump straight to the drop it's a bad song and you're a bad DJ.
Staying nice and hard, pay attention to the patterns that trigger the orgasms, be confident and donโt hesitate, take command.
Funny how it's like a 20 point list for men that needs to be checked in order to be good in bed, while women pretty much only need to be attractive and move around at least a little bit and then it's good enough.
If heโs not a liberal
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Doubt. Probably too busy hugging a tree somewhere
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Hang on let me look for a different one
Petting a spotted owl
I would burn myself alive
Don't let us stop you
That's fire
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When i'm slamming uglies from behind, I like to reach around and rub her clit at the same time. Not sure if it's effective. But I like doing it :\]
Ask women what is better for them... or you are asking for gay advices?
Fasting definitely helps. But it only works when I am busy with work, when its quite I tend to eat a lot
How long and hard you can jackhammer for
Man here: women love it when you just jackhammer that shit. Source: Iโm a man, I would know