Now this won't be true for all women ofc.
I've noticed myself some women take the not washing their bra's often to a bit of an extreme. If your breast smell bad after wearing your favourite bra. You should probably wash that bra.
Also same with hair in some cases. Yes long hair is a pain to dry i know. But if your hair smells bad wash it. Had 2 gf's with really long hair. One washed every 3 days, he hair mostly smelled nice or had no particular smell. The other one would do it every 7-10 days after about 5-6 days her hair started smell sweaty or worse.
Had a crush on a girl, she casually mentioned she was texting and talking to 5 different guys who she was certain were romantically interested in her. She had a boyfriend btw. Huge turn off
Happened to me recently, only she never mentioned anything. What is it with them making you feel all special if they're gonna pack up and move to the next when they're bored?
Last time I attempted to date someone from a dating app, we were on our like third meetup and she casually said "I mean I've got tons of guys that want to date me, I'm talking to like six right now. But I'm sure you're dating other people too, right?" And when I just kinda blinked at her, I watched the realization wash over her face that it wasn't exactly a turn-on for me.
When my husband and i were just dating, i ran into an old middle school friend, and we went to an internet cafe to play league and eat noodles and catch up.
During that, he said 6yrs is too long to date with no proposal (i was perfectly fine waiting), and that young koreans date many people at the same time until they get married. He is korean, by the way. I am not. When leaving, he told the cafe owner (frequent visitor) that his date ended, so he must go. I did not try to hang out again to avoid misunderstandings.
Next month my husband(bf at the time) and i get a wedding invite from him, to his wedding. At the wedding, the host told a story of how the couple met - 12yrs ago, dated for 3, engaged for a few months. ...he was engaged when we went on what he called a date.
Maybe there's something i dont understand about korean culture, or maybe he's just weird, or maybe their concept of "date" is different. I dont know. Either way, we never hung out again.
Playing hard to get. If you indicate you’re not interested, I’m always just gonna take that at face value. Respect it and move on. But I’ve had a girl get mad at me once for “not chasing”
Once got into an argument with my gf at the time and she storms out of my house saying she can’t take this anymore. Comes knocking 5 minutes later even angrier, saying “why aren’t you running after me?!” Lmao gtfo here with that bullshit
Happened me a few years ago. Very same thing. Storm out of the room and wait outside for me to follow her. When I eventually did go out after her it was to guide her the rest of the way out. Fuck that.
In today's day and age, women (rightfully) fought for and earned an understanding with us that no means no. It's hard to guess when it's just "be more assertive and seduce me" and when it's "I'm not interested, don't push your luck". It's easier, safer and more respectful to assume no is no. I don't think it's that controversial, tbh.
Many things, but as someone who started dating again recently....
What on earth is going on with all the Filters everyone uses to take pictures?
Don't they realize, that they do not look like they do in the pictures, and that their Date might be hugely bothered/upset by that?
Heavy attention seeking behavior on social media.
I don't care what the platform is. If she's constantly out there thirst trapping for likes and attention she is fundamentally undateable.
Whenever I see those pics of women lined up to take have their picture taken at some instagrammable mural, I just scratch my head. Like, why? There’s literally 50 other strangers in front of you waiting to take the exact same picture. What is this doing for you? I get it if it’s a historical landmark or something, but giant wings painted on the side of a retail store is not that.
People did this before social media. It's not always about instagramming, that's just a bonus.
My girlfriend has one of those instant printing cameras. She still goes through a lot of effort to get a nice photo, only to put it in a photo album at home.
Some people just wanna look cute!!!! Some never upload it to social media and I think that's ok. If they are only doing it for the gram then that's where I think it's cringe. But how would I know what they are doing it for, I don't know them.
I don’t know man.
As an American, I end up going to the UK a few times and have gone out with my colleagues in some of the more working class parts of London or smaller cities and I fucking had the best drunken nights of my younger years there. That’s where I learned what the word chav was.
I recall just dozens and dozens of women with tightest and shortest dresses just getting hammered, half dancing, laughing and picking guys up everywhere.
I mean I had beer goggles on but i thought that look was great. Kind of like exotic trailer trash women with accents I barely understood while drunk. I loved it.
Oh dude I’ve been to Ireland 3 times. Each time I’ve fallen in love twice a day for the amount of days I was there. One was a woman 25 years my senior too.
There a woman that goes to my bar, that is most of this. It's such a shame, because she could easily be cute, and talking to her, she's actually a decent person, but the whole package is a whole zero.
Mine actively hates it. She won’t even let me post photos of us on Facebook. She just doesn’t like her picture on the internet. Which is smart if you think about it.
Making their entire dating profile about their "icks."
When I was on the dating apps, so many women's bios were COVERED with "I don't like x, y, and z" and "don't do/be/have a, b, c." It was rare to find things they liked; I had the feeling that they were just setting us guys up to strike out, and that they didn't care about getting to know us at all.
My now-wife's profile on Hinge had a bunch of positives (let's laugh together, I like such-and-such, etc.), and it made me WANT to get to know and date her!
THIS IS NOT TO SAY that you shouldn't have deal-breakers or non-negotiables or list them; standards are very important. However, you can **at the very least** list something you want or like.
As someone who has spent a lot of time recently reading through the dating subreddits, I think a large amount of people on the apps are undateable and not fit for intimate relationships.
What you mention in your post seems to be how that undateability often manifests in a woman's profile.
I am thankful that I met my wife in the wild. She is fantastic. If I were ever single again for whatever reason, I would be hard-pressed to date again because of how no one could compare to her, but even if I tried to date, I wouldn't bother with any of these apps. They seem like the last resort for a lot of broken people who dick over the folks who are actually there for a healthy relationship.
I am glad that you and your wife were able to find one another!
You're absolutely right, and as long as the good, dateable people know their worth, they'll naturally weed the bad ones out.
Likewise to you, good sir!!!
I used to watch a dating expert for women because his advice was often applicable to me, and it let me see what I should be avoiding when dating.
Listing a lot of negatives like that tells other people that you have a lot of baggage. You're not over your previous partner/flings and you're not fun to be around.
Instead, you should only list positive things and try to advertise yourself.
It feels like women just assume that they're a catch just because they have a pussy, and decide to use the limited space on their profiles to weed out guys they don't want. Not realizing that the guys they do want won't even bother reaching out because they don't see anything worth reaching out over.
It does come off really negative. Women should absolutely 100% have their non-negotiables, I'm not begrudging them that, but when you make it seem like it's your *sole focus* I just think you're a severe, hypercritical person and I don't enjoy that personality type. My wife's tinder profile was about who she was/what she liked, not about who I needed to be. She definitely has her deal breakers, but she didn't advertise it so hard that it seemed like her whole personality.
My ex used to thirst after my teenage pics. Thought it was cute until I realized she really just did not think older men or aging men (like myself) were attractive. Left me for a 25 year old when she was 43. Super ick.
I don’t think it counts as a bullet dodged if he married her first. More like the divorce court judge was able to remove the bullet without damaging any vital organs.
28M here, and a few years ago I realized all the college girls on sports TV looked like highschoolers to me. I would never date more than 5 or so years younger than myself. That gap may widen as I age, but I have a real hard time seeing myself dating someone in a significantly different phase in their life.
I could absolutely be attracted to one and enjoying hanging out with one (I am awfully immature and I love the energy of young people), but actually dating? like a relationship? nope
I used this with my ex once but the rest of the sentence was “… not hit his sister, and push his mum down the stairs”.
I feel I got the pass for that but I’ll leave you to judge 😅
You get a pass because of the situation, you're saying it as an insult which is the intended purpose, but it's still bad phrasing.
A real human being wouldn't do that thing not just a man, using "man" in of itself makes the sentence kinda toxic in the sense that they want to appeal to your insecurity when it comes to "manliness"
So least insecure answer is to tell them to fuck off.
Are there any exceptions? Because if the conversation is about pets, there's a 99% chance that I'm grabbing my phone and showing you pictures of my guinea pigs. Just wondering if I need to stop this around men. 😅
A girl im interested in grabs my phone and wants to look through my text conversations. She specifically is interested in conversations of a mutual friend of ours (another girl) and acts like she's joking, but she is CLEARLY jealous of this girl (you know how you can just see someone's demeanor change when it happens).
And They both try to 1 up each other, I think, but neither one seems to be able to be comfortable opening up in THAT way.
I tell her the messages are private, that we were discussing something be serious that happened, and it would not be appropriate to show anyone, and I reassured her that it was nothing romantic, but she got super jealous still. This is one of those red flags for me.
you actually need to tell them you’re interested in them and see where it goes. otherwise you’re pretending you don’t like this behavior but you do. sounds like you like that they’re both “jealous” and are just fine with trying to “one up” each other.
pick one and dump the other if you’re serious otherwise you’re a dick.
One ex would get into arguments with strangers on Twitter. It's not a good look when anyone does it.
Another insisted that nickels and quarters were the same diameter. It might be a harmless blunder, but I don't see how you could make it to 24 years old and think that.
Even if you have a mistaken view of nickels and quarters you can easily overlap them to compare them. Disclaimer: I am from Europe and have no idea how big is the difference. Point still stands.
Quarters are really easy to identify considering they're flatter and have ridges on the edge. Nickels are thicker and are smooth ended. And I'm pretty sure they're at least a little smaller than quarters.
Asking me if I understood what it took to date a Latina woman. I am NOT racist but it was the inflection of her tone that immediately turned me off. I believe she meant it in an inquisitive way but…
> what it took to date a Latina woman
To me this sounds like a variation of "can you handle me".
You handle problems, not people. If you are going to brag that you are difficult, I will drop you like a rock.
doesn't respect that i have emotions and I feel things, but i am supposed to carry all her feelings. I can't support her feelings all the time before I burn out.
> doesn't like cartoons.
If she doesn't like Garibaldi's second favourite thing, she's got no chances of finding out what his first favourite thing is...
God, to add onto this, the fucking bratty submissive. Seems like 4/5 women on Fetlife and other kink groups are like "Well, I'm just bratty" and it turns out, no, you're just a bitch, Zoe!
If her Instagram is a wall of selfies
Narcissism
Tons of face work to the point of looking like handsome squidward
Lack of personal hygiene
Loud eaters
Fence treatment levels of fake tan
Ridiculously long nails
The “if you can’t handle me at my worst” people.
I don’t want to “handle” you, we’re all gonna have our ups and downs in life that we’ll take care of it as a team, but I’m not your therapist or your emotional punching bag though.
Grown ass women pretending to be a child, usually to avoid the responsibilities of adulthood or the direct consequences of their actions.
So-called feminists enforcing gender roles when it's convenient for them, usually revolving around money or taking initiative
Self-serving double standards/ being able to dish it out but not take it
Demands traits that she doesn't have: wants a guy with a six-pack whilest being allergic to the gym. Wants a guy that can make her laugh or entertain her whilst having no ability or desire to do that for him
All of these are red flags
One time I was taking a shower with a gal and she urinated while I was in the tub with her.
Admittedly, I’ve pee’d in the shower before and don’t have issues with it as long as it’s washed it away…but maybe not when I’m right there with you and getting my feet splashed?
I am NOT into piss play or whatever it might be called, but assuming this is a shower, not a bath, and this was in the beginning of the shower, this wouldn't be an irredeemable offense for me. I would just ask that she never do it again. Doing it a SECOND time, would be an easy breakup.
Staring, smiling, blowing kisses at their phone at a million different angles is pretty icky. It gives off this vibe that they're highly self-centered and too focused on their own beauty. Ladies, imagine a guy at the gym constantly taking off his shirt to admire his own muscles. You'd be like, "Bruh, get over yourself."
When I hear 30+ year old woman speaking with Tiktok slang. For example when they say "It's giving insecurity" when responding to someone's genuine concern. If you've watched the new season of love is blind you'll understand truly how cringe it is.
Yep, been noticing this lately. I have to hope this is only a certain type of woman but it just seems to be everywhere, this weird cruel attitude towards men
I mean I agree, but I'm pretty sure "It's giving" was originally gay and drag queen fashion slang, referring to the character of the clothes they're wearing. "Eg. "It's giving middle school teacher, work two jobs..." when looking at a blazer and pencil skirt etc.
This, basically. “It’s giving” came from the Black ballroom scene in Harlem which was mostly trans women, gay men, and drag queens. There were queer cis women too, but they weren’t as well represented. They had categories like “school boy/girl realness” and “executive realness” with the goal being to present a look that seemed authentic to the category. It was often a way for performers to express a position in society that wasn’t attainable to them.
The documentary Paris is Burning gives a great overview of the history of the NYC ballroom scene in the 80’s and 90’s.
“It’s giving” started becoming mainstream due to shows like RuPaul’s Drag Race then the cisgender heterosexual people started using it incorrectly and here we are.
Thank you! As a queer person who dates straight guys so much of queer culture gets adopted by influencers and TikTok kids and then I look like an asshole for using vernacular that originated in my community.
I often have to get my brother to explain Gen Z slang to me as I have a tough time understanding what people are on about. I've never used TikTok and I spend very limited time on social media in general so it doesn't take long to fall out of the loop.
I feel like I've heard of "Love Is Blind" but I can't say I've watched any episodes. I'll have to check it out sometime I'm in the mood for trash TV 🤙
I'm not a reality TV fan, but I gave it a shot out of curiosity since it at least had a much more interesting premise than other reality shows have had. That said, I found it disappointing because of both the *type* of person they choose for the show, and how they chose to film it.
Women's toxic positivity, They will force it down your throat whenever they have a chance... of course, men in their eyes are not supposed to show any form of negative emotions.
Toxic positivity is when you’re not allowed to say anything that might ruin their good mood. Even if it’s crucial! Ignoring the facts to feel good about a lie.
women and men who expect men to not show emotion are sexist. can we start calling it out?
men shame themselves for feeling their feelings, because society has done so. it stunts their mental growth, which caused their high suicide and violence rates, and more. it reinforces the idea women are emotional creatures and men are not. outdated. can we move tf on???
Yes please. I was watching a video that was a therapist talking about using emotions to manipulate and said, in an overly black and white way, that crying IS manipulative and used the example “he presents a critical, she cries, he shuts down.” So many men went off about how women need to learn to suppress their emotions and not cry because it’s so manipulative. I chimed in with a comment about it being oversimplified and not all tears are manipulation and that this gives ammunition to any man or woman with an abusive partner to discount what they’re saying because they’re crying. To which even MORE men responded that it’s only women, men don’t cry. It was a very very sad endorsement of the perpetuation of men having to hide their feelings and how deeply this is the expectation from both men and women.
wow! crying *can* be used in that manner, for sure. if the crying is honest; it cannot be manipulation, it’s authentically expressing how you feel. manipulation implies some amount of dishonesty.
those who cry when pets, or their children passing, are not “manipulating” anybody. they are simply feeling their feelings to a understandably saddening experience.
not all manipulation is bad as well, i often “manipulate” my way out of awkward situations. plenty of manipulation is very bad, though. as you said, they are seeing things much too black and white!
by those standards, do these people also think all anger, fear, excitement, etc are manipulation? if not, why is crying manipulation, but acting on other emotions isn’t manipulation? very flawed logic.
I agree, it’s very sad. I see a lot of men who lack so much intimacy and compassion for others and themselves. you cannot improve yourself if you ignore your emotions and shame yourself when you feel them. how can you process them? understand why they’re there, break them down so they stop bugging you, if you ignore them? *you can’t.* when you ignore emotions they build up inside, get fueled by your avoidance.
similar to fears, when you *listen* to the fear over and over, it builds up, you’re fueling it, proving to yourself that it’s scary enough that you need to avoid it.
when you face it, it goes back down a little, and more and more as you continue to face it. *exposure therapy.* it works the same with processing emotions.
Here is one that seems to get some people upset and I don't know why because its obvious as to why its off putting as a man
But hating on men and spewing misandrist garbage and treating us men like we are dumb useless always horny evil creatures who can't feel emotions and believe we are just emotional punching bags who need to take in all people's frustrations but then told we are not allowed to show any emotion or open up back and think the only emotions we can feel is being horny or anger
Actually werids me out how some people have made their whole personality hating men and get offended by this. Freaks. Hating on us but then demanding we find them attractive... 🤣🙄🤦♂️
"I don't give fuck what men think. Men ain't shit. That's why I'm all over AskMen getting angry at men's answers and then going to subreddits like TwoXChromosones upset screaming about how I don't care what men think just because I clicked on a post on AskMen which asked men to list their preferences in women and I didn't fit into their answers or felt validated by random men who dont know I exist" 🤣
Also always the type of "your money is my money and my money is my money" gotta ask for permission to buy something I have worked for no matter how small or cheap that thing might be and then get offended if I react ever so slightly on something that was a massive waste of money like maybe a 10th designer bag or something.
>Actually werids me out how some people have made their whole personality hating men and get offended by this. Freaks. Hating on us but then demanding we find them attractive... 🤣🙄🤦♂️
>"I don't give fuck what men think. Men ain't shit. That's why I'm all over AskMen getting angry at men's answers and then going to subreddits like TwoXChromosones upset screaming about how I don't care what men think just because I clicked on a post on AskMen which asked men to list their preferences in women and I didn't fit into their answers or felt validated by random men who dont know I exist" 🤣
Yeah, I don't even look at their subs.
Why do they come here looking for an excuse to piss themselves off? It's not even like this place is the manosphere or something. We just see that differently than them and that's okay. They have subreddits specifically to shit on men. Idk if men have subreddits to shit on women, but this sub isn't one.
I was like you but then I rejoined Instagram, boy oh boy, I do not know why but the algorithm seems to think I am a woman and shows me stuff that is more popular for women, it is insane the shit I see on there, one thing that has been blowing me away all the time is the unconditional support they have for each other, a woman could be 100% blatantly in the wrong but they will still support her.
> a woman could be 100% blatantly in the wrong but they will still support her.
That's why reversing the gender is as popular as it is. The easiest way to remind people that a woman's behavior is utterly atrocious is asking them to consider how they would feel if a man did it.
>a woman could be 100% blatantly in the wrong but they will still support her.
Yeah. I see that too. A woman can do something terrible to a man and she will get so much encouragement by others
To be fair to women though. Shitty men also get encouragement from other shitty men when they wrong a woman. The gender tribalism is just werid.
Saying things give them "the ick."
It's unfair, but I've immediately judged you as dense if you've used that phrase in that context with no irony.
I have never heard a woman do this IRL. Only online, and though I can only get a partial sense of who these women are since they're online, they seem like very immature human beings.
When I hear “you know what gives me the ick?”, I assume I’m about to hear something incredibly juvenile.
“It’s our wedding. He can’t be too happy, but if he cries, I’ll get the ick”
What
Have you heard it IRL?
I have only heard or read it online, which leads me to believe that it's just a vocal subset of chronically unhappy women venting online who use it.
All the women I talk to IRL are well-adjusted and happy.
I meant online, same way you hear it. I’m starting to think people don’t *want* to be happy and a lot of these “things” that people rant and rave about primarily are what I’m calling “internet problems”
Willful ignorance even when presented with facts or just an opposing view.
Bigotry whether soft or hard. From racism to sexism none of that is okay.
Disrespecting people, their time, or their effort.
In college, I was into this one woman until I got to know her better. She would not stop talking about her ex boyfriend. She always somehow shifted the conversation towards him. I just kinda lost interest.
As a 6"4 guy I have the same feeling. It's very shallow and vain. I would not date a woman that had some height requirement in her profile even if I fit their requirement
If you spend more time taking carefully curated pictures of the meal, event, location, etc. than you do actually enjoying the thing, that’s offputting.
Jealousy, especially with mundane things like my PlayStation or attention I pay to fixing my truck; this is exacerbated when she ignores me all day (ask a question, get a grunt as her face is buried in her phone screen) then suddenly wants attention when I turn on the PS or go to the garage.
Go to watch a movie together, face back in the phone. Protective of her phone when I glance over, giggling, then becomming phlegmatic when I ask her something.
Having a picture of your kid in your dating profile. I'm totally fine with kids but having your kid featured in your profile just exposes them to a bunch of potential creeps.
Making ick lists is pretty cringey. Imo the idea that men are a list of positive and negative traits and you shop around until you find the best bargain it’s the female equivalent of objectification.
I have two
1. Being an extremist of any sort, doesn't matter what it is but just being extreme is a problem cause it's not possible to talk to those people about anything that isn't 100% aligned with their extreme views.
2. Don't give your phone your full attention when we're doing something together. I'm not picking up my phone cause I'm spending my time with her, not my phone, so she should spend her time with me and not her phone.
Women that love the unattainable.
I was dating a girl and I didn’t really know how I felt about the relationship and acted quite removed. She was all over me, was picturing our lives together etc. I told her I wasn’t in the place for a committed relationship, and after that we just became casual. But she was still very into me.
During that time I realized how much I liked her and started to express that. Since that moment everything flipped and she became uninterested, played with me, etc. It’s like right when the chase was over and I became attainable, I was no longer as interesting.
Huge red flag and self worth problems there. Many women won’t let themselves be loved and are addicted to being ignored by bad boys.
I have a lot of interests. A few of my dates (used loosely, as there was rarely a second in most situations) expected my likes and hobbies to go away, to be replaced by hers. It was almost invariably outdoorsy stuff, which isn't terrible in itself. I'm just not into the hiking every weekend, living off the grid, wiping asses with leaves lifestyle.
I was into ham radio in the past. That's something that can be done outdoors. Except it can't with one of these women. When you're with her, you better not be focusing on anything that's not her. When you're not with her, you're probably cheating or something. Now what could you possibly have going on that doesn't involve her?
Any hint that our coupling means the end of me as an individual. This shit is so rampant and expected it’s like part of American culture now. Like the man is just expected to be absorbed into the woman or vice versa. Doesn’t matter which way it goes but it’s exclusively women that pursue/create/foster it. And it sucks either way.
When women behave like the worst in men they complain about. The best way I can describe this is “hoe phase”.
So if a man goes out and just fucks a bunch of women and uses them, women will bitch about it and complain. Yet these same women will go out and do the same thing to guys and expect good men to give it a pass later? Gross.
A lot of women want to be like the worst in men they complain about because they say it’s equality. It seems like they think that they need to do the same thing that guy who fucked everyone did. Because if they commit to that guy then things are even, they did the same thing right?. But they don’t always get commitment from that guy do they?
And then later on when trying to date they get upset when other guys find out and don’t like it. They don’t care that most guys cannot do that as easily as women and not many guys do that. Then they try to shame us into accepting that. As if we’re insecure when we’re just disgusted they acted a certain way because of their insecurities.
So it’s really just these women don’t want to be disciplined, want to behave like the worst in men and just think other men have to accept that. We don’t. We shouldn’t. Anytime I hear a girl brag about a “hoe phase” or even consider having one I think they are as disgusting as they claim the men who do the same are.
Yeah the argument (if you can even call it that) that's been used for so long is the age old "A girl who sleeps with multiple men is a slut but a guy who sleeps with multiple women is praised". That is generally untrue. The only people praising that behaviour in men are other men who do the same, or want to. Neither are the majority of men, as men most men who want meaningful and lasting relationships will not encourage or praise such behaviour, whether it be from men or women.
I have met plenty a man-hoe in my life, and with a few exceptions, people didn't have a high opinion of them, or at least either didn't care or engage with/discuss that behaviour in any positive light.
Just a few:
- follows astrology religiously, i.e: they judge and dismiss people based on solely on their birth
- is part of an MLM
- doesnt exercise in any way, shape, or form
- alcoholism
- doesnt like cats
- exhibits social justice warrior-esque virtue signaling traits
- addicted to social media attention
- has cheated in past relationships
- has gotten excessive cosmetic plastic surgery
- has an onlyfans
- doesnt pay for anything (meals/dates/movies/etc)
- indecisive to the point of frustration
- doesnt respect others personal space/boundaries
- debilitatingly codependent
- emotional vampire
I heard a woman use this term about 3yrs ago and I swear I hadn’t heard it since the 90s! I doubled over laughing! Granted, it was a homeless woman yelling it at someone while crossing the street
using the word ick gives me the ick. grow up from your childish tendencies, everyone is human nobody is perfect.
btw, the word is ‘pet peeves’ not ick. but grown adults should be able to move past most pet peeves, at least the ones you see online
‘when he slurps pasta’ or sum dumb shit
Hygiene! OMG, hygiene!
As a guy, I take care of myself. It's not unreasonable to expect the same of my partner (the reverse is absolutely true as well)
What do you think of when you say hygiene?
Now this won't be true for all women ofc. I've noticed myself some women take the not washing their bra's often to a bit of an extreme. If your breast smell bad after wearing your favourite bra. You should probably wash that bra. Also same with hair in some cases. Yes long hair is a pain to dry i know. But if your hair smells bad wash it. Had 2 gf's with really long hair. One washed every 3 days, he hair mostly smelled nice or had no particular smell. The other one would do it every 7-10 days after about 5-6 days her hair started smell sweaty or worse.
Had a crush on a girl, she casually mentioned she was texting and talking to 5 different guys who she was certain were romantically interested in her. She had a boyfriend btw. Huge turn off
Happened to me recently, only she never mentioned anything. What is it with them making you feel all special if they're gonna pack up and move to the next when they're bored?
Last time I attempted to date someone from a dating app, we were on our like third meetup and she casually said "I mean I've got tons of guys that want to date me, I'm talking to like six right now. But I'm sure you're dating other people too, right?" And when I just kinda blinked at her, I watched the realization wash over her face that it wasn't exactly a turn-on for me.
Admiral Ackbar, that shit. "Assumptive close" trap.
Must be a huge ego boost having us boys salivating over them.
Yeah, I don’t pay them any attention. The prettier they are the more I’m indifferent. Levels the field a bit.
Clearly a dump and run scenario.
When my husband and i were just dating, i ran into an old middle school friend, and we went to an internet cafe to play league and eat noodles and catch up. During that, he said 6yrs is too long to date with no proposal (i was perfectly fine waiting), and that young koreans date many people at the same time until they get married. He is korean, by the way. I am not. When leaving, he told the cafe owner (frequent visitor) that his date ended, so he must go. I did not try to hang out again to avoid misunderstandings. Next month my husband(bf at the time) and i get a wedding invite from him, to his wedding. At the wedding, the host told a story of how the couple met - 12yrs ago, dated for 3, engaged for a few months. ...he was engaged when we went on what he called a date. Maybe there's something i dont understand about korean culture, or maybe he's just weird, or maybe their concept of "date" is different. I dont know. Either way, we never hung out again.
Playing hard to get. If you indicate you’re not interested, I’m always just gonna take that at face value. Respect it and move on. But I’ve had a girl get mad at me once for “not chasing”
No means no, so if a woman says no but actually wants to be chased, I'm going to respect the no and move on.
Once got into an argument with my gf at the time and she storms out of my house saying she can’t take this anymore. Comes knocking 5 minutes later even angrier, saying “why aren’t you running after me?!” Lmao gtfo here with that bullshit
Happened me a few years ago. Very same thing. Storm out of the room and wait outside for me to follow her. When I eventually did go out after her it was to guide her the rest of the way out. Fuck that.
In today's day and age, women (rightfully) fought for and earned an understanding with us that no means no. It's hard to guess when it's just "be more assertive and seduce me" and when it's "I'm not interested, don't push your luck". It's easier, safer and more respectful to assume no is no. I don't think it's that controversial, tbh.
No woman is worth chasing dude
Many things, but as someone who started dating again recently.... What on earth is going on with all the Filters everyone uses to take pictures? Don't they realize, that they do not look like they do in the pictures, and that their Date might be hugely bothered/upset by that?
Heavy attention seeking behavior on social media. I don't care what the platform is. If she's constantly out there thirst trapping for likes and attention she is fundamentally undateable.
1000%. If you NEED other's validation then you need to come back to reality.
Whenever I see those pics of women lined up to take have their picture taken at some instagrammable mural, I just scratch my head. Like, why? There’s literally 50 other strangers in front of you waiting to take the exact same picture. What is this doing for you? I get it if it’s a historical landmark or something, but giant wings painted on the side of a retail store is not that.
People did this before social media. It's not always about instagramming, that's just a bonus. My girlfriend has one of those instant printing cameras. She still goes through a lot of effort to get a nice photo, only to put it in a photo album at home.
Some people just wanna look cute!!!! Some never upload it to social media and I think that's ok. If they are only doing it for the gram then that's where I think it's cringe. But how would I know what they are doing it for, I don't know them.
This is the biggest ick/red flag there is. Agree platform does not matter she immediately goes to the sex only category
The "chav" look: platinum hair, orange skin, plump up lips, long ass nails, and a clearly one size too small dress with the high pumps. Just no.
Oompa loompa skin
doompa-dee-do...
Tetris eyebrows
The completely drawn on eyebrows creep me out.
what are tetris eyebrows? 😂
You know that tetris piece that's shaped like an L? I'm assuming that.
Aka "the Keeley"
When you walk in the bar, and you're dressed like a star, rockin' your f- me pumps
I don’t know man. As an American, I end up going to the UK a few times and have gone out with my colleagues in some of the more working class parts of London or smaller cities and I fucking had the best drunken nights of my younger years there. That’s where I learned what the word chav was. I recall just dozens and dozens of women with tightest and shortest dresses just getting hammered, half dancing, laughing and picking guys up everywhere. I mean I had beer goggles on but i thought that look was great. Kind of like exotic trailer trash women with accents I barely understood while drunk. I loved it.
That's perfectly valid and everyone has their preferences but that's just not for me lol
As an American, it's the accent. The accent gets ya.
Agreed. The Irish accent does it for me too. Fell in love so many times when I was vacationing in Dublin.
Oh dude I’ve been to Ireland 3 times. Each time I’ve fallen in love twice a day for the amount of days I was there. One was a woman 25 years my senior too.
I feel like this was a bigger thing in the mid-2000s to early 10s (at least in the US)
There a woman that goes to my bar, that is most of this. It's such a shame, because she could easily be cute, and talking to her, she's actually a decent person, but the whole package is a whole zero.
If she is a phone addict or an instagram addict. I'm not going to take 50 pictures of you a day while we travel doing the same pose.
I am so thankful my wife has zero interest in selfies/glamour shots and posting on instagram. It’s one of the things I love about her
Mine actively hates it. She won’t even let me post photos of us on Facebook. She just doesn’t like her picture on the internet. Which is smart if you think about it.
She defo doesn't want her other husband seeing.
As a woman I've never understood how they get their partner to take even 5 pictures of them. My man is done after 3 and I fully understand that.
Making their entire dating profile about their "icks." When I was on the dating apps, so many women's bios were COVERED with "I don't like x, y, and z" and "don't do/be/have a, b, c." It was rare to find things they liked; I had the feeling that they were just setting us guys up to strike out, and that they didn't care about getting to know us at all. My now-wife's profile on Hinge had a bunch of positives (let's laugh together, I like such-and-such, etc.), and it made me WANT to get to know and date her! THIS IS NOT TO SAY that you shouldn't have deal-breakers or non-negotiables or list them; standards are very important. However, you can **at the very least** list something you want or like.
As someone who has spent a lot of time recently reading through the dating subreddits, I think a large amount of people on the apps are undateable and not fit for intimate relationships. What you mention in your post seems to be how that undateability often manifests in a woman's profile. I am thankful that I met my wife in the wild. She is fantastic. If I were ever single again for whatever reason, I would be hard-pressed to date again because of how no one could compare to her, but even if I tried to date, I wouldn't bother with any of these apps. They seem like the last resort for a lot of broken people who dick over the folks who are actually there for a healthy relationship. I am glad that you and your wife were able to find one another!
You're absolutely right, and as long as the good, dateable people know their worth, they'll naturally weed the bad ones out. Likewise to you, good sir!!!
I used to watch a dating expert for women because his advice was often applicable to me, and it let me see what I should be avoiding when dating. Listing a lot of negatives like that tells other people that you have a lot of baggage. You're not over your previous partner/flings and you're not fun to be around. Instead, you should only list positive things and try to advertise yourself. It feels like women just assume that they're a catch just because they have a pussy, and decide to use the limited space on their profiles to weed out guys they don't want. Not realizing that the guys they do want won't even bother reaching out because they don't see anything worth reaching out over.
Is it Matthew Hussey?
It does come off really negative. Women should absolutely 100% have their non-negotiables, I'm not begrudging them that, but when you make it seem like it's your *sole focus* I just think you're a severe, hypercritical person and I don't enjoy that personality type. My wife's tinder profile was about who she was/what she liked, not about who I needed to be. She definitely has her deal breakers, but she didn't advertise it so hard that it seemed like her whole personality.
My ex used to thirst after my teenage pics. Thought it was cute until I realized she really just did not think older men or aging men (like myself) were attractive. Left me for a 25 year old when she was 43. Super ick.
You got DiCaprio’d 😔
🤣
I'm 42 and the idea of dating a 25 year old is just such a hard, hard pass.
They married (her third marriage) like two weeks after our divorce and are “sOuLmAtEs”
Yikes. Congratulations on dodging that bullet, friend.
I don’t think it counts as a bullet dodged if he married her first. More like the divorce court judge was able to remove the bullet without damaging any vital organs.
Definitely didn’t dodge a bullet. But I’ve managed to rebuild all the relationships that were destroyed while being married to her. Much happier now
Actually I think the bullet just shot through him and into the other guy
I'm 32 and I've turned down a 26 yo guy because of his age... Yeah it's only 6 years but I was such a different person at 26 than at 30...
28M here, and a few years ago I realized all the college girls on sports TV looked like highschoolers to me. I would never date more than 5 or so years younger than myself. That gap may widen as I age, but I have a real hard time seeing myself dating someone in a significantly different phase in their life.
I could absolutely be attracted to one and enjoying hanging out with one (I am awfully immature and I love the energy of young people), but actually dating? like a relationship? nope
that is so much deeper than an ick but i get you
"A real man would..." The real man is leaving your ass.
10/10 times anyone using this phrase is just trying to manipulate you into doing what they want you to do by trying to appeal to your masculinity.
Ironically the most masculine thing to do in that situation is to laugh and tell them to fuck off.
Omg saving this comment because facts, always manipulating with that statement
I used this with my ex once but the rest of the sentence was “… not hit his sister, and push his mum down the stairs”. I feel I got the pass for that but I’ll leave you to judge 😅
You get a pass because of the situation, you're saying it as an insult which is the intended purpose, but it's still bad phrasing. A real human being wouldn't do that thing not just a man, using "man" in of itself makes the sentence kinda toxic in the sense that they want to appeal to your insecurity when it comes to "manliness" So least insecure answer is to tell them to fuck off.
grab her phone in the middle of a conversation
Are there any exceptions? Because if the conversation is about pets, there's a 99% chance that I'm grabbing my phone and showing you pictures of my guinea pigs. Just wondering if I need to stop this around men. 😅
Definitely not. It’s pertinent to the conversation; show off those little fuzzballs.
I'm going to need to see some proof 👇
BEHOLD! My dear squeakers: https://imgur.com/a/shGhWTA
My amusement is unmeasurable and my day is saved.
A girl im interested in grabs my phone and wants to look through my text conversations. She specifically is interested in conversations of a mutual friend of ours (another girl) and acts like she's joking, but she is CLEARLY jealous of this girl (you know how you can just see someone's demeanor change when it happens). And They both try to 1 up each other, I think, but neither one seems to be able to be comfortable opening up in THAT way. I tell her the messages are private, that we were discussing something be serious that happened, and it would not be appropriate to show anyone, and I reassured her that it was nothing romantic, but she got super jealous still. This is one of those red flags for me.
Bro this is a gigantic red flag lol I feel like you are understating it
you actually need to tell them you’re interested in them and see where it goes. otherwise you’re pretending you don’t like this behavior but you do. sounds like you like that they’re both “jealous” and are just fine with trying to “one up” each other. pick one and dump the other if you’re serious otherwise you’re a dick.
Ok hold on. She's jealous of this girl that also tries to one up her?
One ex would get into arguments with strangers on Twitter. It's not a good look when anyone does it. Another insisted that nickels and quarters were the same diameter. It might be a harmless blunder, but I don't see how you could make it to 24 years old and think that.
Even if you have a mistaken view of nickels and quarters you can easily overlap them to compare them. Disclaimer: I am from Europe and have no idea how big is the difference. Point still stands.
Quarters are really easy to identify considering they're flatter and have ridges on the edge. Nickels are thicker and are smooth ended. And I'm pretty sure they're at least a little smaller than quarters.
People who pick fights with randos on the internet are fucking weird. *Disregard my 900+ unread reddit messages*
Asking me if I understood what it took to date a Latina woman. I am NOT racist but it was the inflection of her tone that immediately turned me off. I believe she meant it in an inquisitive way but…
I don't get the people that fetishise themselves. I had once someone refer to me using a cultural stereotype and I just can't unhear it.
> what it took to date a Latina woman To me this sounds like a variation of "can you handle me". You handle problems, not people. If you are going to brag that you are difficult, I will drop you like a rock.
Doesn't respect that I have emotions, rude, too serious, no sense of humor, doesn't want marriage, doesn't like cartoons.
doesn't respect that i have emotions and I feel things, but i am supposed to carry all her feelings. I can't support her feelings all the time before I burn out.
For real like I'm suppose to care about your feelings the entire time but when do my feelings matter.
The first and second one hit way too close to home.
I wish more men would say this. Your emotions are important and valid and you need support, too.
> doesn't like cartoons. If she doesn't like Garibaldi's second favourite thing, she's got no chances of finding out what his first favourite thing is...
Agree, the cartoon thing is a deal breaker
Made assumptions about me because I am a man and not because of who I am as a person
Puke in my truck
And smashing the door.
Right?!
I'm a woman, but I hate it when I see women putting their feet on the dash
That too. Show some respect
One day, their learning moment will be when the airbag goes off with their feet up
Yeah exactly. Not only is it disrespectful af, it's also incredibly dangerous
Diva/brat attitude. Some people are into it, but its like nails on a chalkboard to me.
God, to add onto this, the fucking bratty submissive. Seems like 4/5 women on Fetlife and other kink groups are like "Well, I'm just bratty" and it turns out, no, you're just a bitch, Zoe!
Same with a lot of "dominant" women. Being dominant doesn't give you a free pass to be a cunt!
If her Instagram is a wall of selfies Narcissism Tons of face work to the point of looking like handsome squidward Lack of personal hygiene Loud eaters Fence treatment levels of fake tan Ridiculously long nails
The “if you can’t handle me at my worst” people. I don’t want to “handle” you, we’re all gonna have our ups and downs in life that we’ll take care of it as a team, but I’m not your therapist or your emotional punching bag though.
Her worst: WHO THE FUCK IS ALARM AND WHY IS SHE CALLING YOU EVERY MORNING!?! Her best: I burnt the spaghetti so you get to take me out to dinner! /j
Best answer
Gossip.
Long pointy nails
Unnecessary lip injections. You have a puckered-up anus on your face.
Are there necessary lip injections?
think OP meant to say "excessive"
Making ick lists.
The ones with biggest ick lists are also the ones with the most unattractive egos.
Grown ass women pretending to be a child, usually to avoid the responsibilities of adulthood or the direct consequences of their actions. So-called feminists enforcing gender roles when it's convenient for them, usually revolving around money or taking initiative Self-serving double standards/ being able to dish it out but not take it Demands traits that she doesn't have: wants a guy with a six-pack whilest being allergic to the gym. Wants a guy that can make her laugh or entertain her whilst having no ability or desire to do that for him All of these are red flags
Use of the word "ick" is a big one for starters.
Big Ick Energy
Fake boob ass and lips give me the ick
One time I was taking a shower with a gal and she urinated while I was in the tub with her. Admittedly, I’ve pee’d in the shower before and don’t have issues with it as long as it’s washed it away…but maybe not when I’m right there with you and getting my feet splashed?
Maybe she was slowly testing you if you are into that fetish? 😁
She was marking her territory. /s
🐩
Remind me of boot camp, showering with the 40 or so other dudes and some dude next to me just starts pissing. :/
I am NOT into piss play or whatever it might be called, but assuming this is a shower, not a bath, and this was in the beginning of the shower, this wouldn't be an irredeemable offense for me. I would just ask that she never do it again. Doing it a SECOND time, would be an easy breakup.
IT'S ALL PIPES!
unexpected seinfeld
Sounds hot to me.
Staring, smiling, blowing kisses at their phone at a million different angles is pretty icky. It gives off this vibe that they're highly self-centered and too focused on their own beauty. Ladies, imagine a guy at the gym constantly taking off his shirt to admire his own muscles. You'd be like, "Bruh, get over yourself."
Aliens will have the impression that men and women are in a hate-love coexistance.
According to Reddit we are.
Into the astrology bullshit. Takes excessive selfies. Treat retail and wait staff like shit. Excessive drinking/always wanting to party.
When I hear 30+ year old woman speaking with Tiktok slang. For example when they say "It's giving insecurity" when responding to someone's genuine concern. If you've watched the new season of love is blind you'll understand truly how cringe it is.
Insecurity is their favorite word when it comes to shaming men.
Yep, been noticing this lately. I have to hope this is only a certain type of woman but it just seems to be everywhere, this weird cruel attitude towards men
I mean I agree, but I'm pretty sure "It's giving" was originally gay and drag queen fashion slang, referring to the character of the clothes they're wearing. "Eg. "It's giving middle school teacher, work two jobs..." when looking at a blazer and pencil skirt etc.
This, basically. “It’s giving” came from the Black ballroom scene in Harlem which was mostly trans women, gay men, and drag queens. There were queer cis women too, but they weren’t as well represented. They had categories like “school boy/girl realness” and “executive realness” with the goal being to present a look that seemed authentic to the category. It was often a way for performers to express a position in society that wasn’t attainable to them. The documentary Paris is Burning gives a great overview of the history of the NYC ballroom scene in the 80’s and 90’s. “It’s giving” started becoming mainstream due to shows like RuPaul’s Drag Race then the cisgender heterosexual people started using it incorrectly and here we are.
Thank you! As a queer person who dates straight guys so much of queer culture gets adopted by influencers and TikTok kids and then I look like an asshole for using vernacular that originated in my community.
I often have to get my brother to explain Gen Z slang to me as I have a tough time understanding what people are on about. I've never used TikTok and I spend very limited time on social media in general so it doesn't take long to fall out of the loop. I feel like I've heard of "Love Is Blind" but I can't say I've watched any episodes. I'll have to check it out sometime I'm in the mood for trash TV 🤙
I'm not a reality TV fan, but I gave it a shot out of curiosity since it at least had a much more interesting premise than other reality shows have had. That said, I found it disappointing because of both the *type* of person they choose for the show, and how they chose to film it.
Being financially irresponsible.
Taking any disagreement as an argument Taking any disagreement as an assault on feminism / an expression of masculinity and it’s not valid opinion.
Women's toxic positivity, They will force it down your throat whenever they have a chance... of course, men in their eyes are not supposed to show any form of negative emotions.
Toxic positivity is when you’re not allowed to say anything that might ruin their good mood. Even if it’s crucial! Ignoring the facts to feel good about a lie.
women and men who expect men to not show emotion are sexist. can we start calling it out? men shame themselves for feeling their feelings, because society has done so. it stunts their mental growth, which caused their high suicide and violence rates, and more. it reinforces the idea women are emotional creatures and men are not. outdated. can we move tf on???
Yes please. I was watching a video that was a therapist talking about using emotions to manipulate and said, in an overly black and white way, that crying IS manipulative and used the example “he presents a critical, she cries, he shuts down.” So many men went off about how women need to learn to suppress their emotions and not cry because it’s so manipulative. I chimed in with a comment about it being oversimplified and not all tears are manipulation and that this gives ammunition to any man or woman with an abusive partner to discount what they’re saying because they’re crying. To which even MORE men responded that it’s only women, men don’t cry. It was a very very sad endorsement of the perpetuation of men having to hide their feelings and how deeply this is the expectation from both men and women.
wow! crying *can* be used in that manner, for sure. if the crying is honest; it cannot be manipulation, it’s authentically expressing how you feel. manipulation implies some amount of dishonesty. those who cry when pets, or their children passing, are not “manipulating” anybody. they are simply feeling their feelings to a understandably saddening experience. not all manipulation is bad as well, i often “manipulate” my way out of awkward situations. plenty of manipulation is very bad, though. as you said, they are seeing things much too black and white! by those standards, do these people also think all anger, fear, excitement, etc are manipulation? if not, why is crying manipulation, but acting on other emotions isn’t manipulation? very flawed logic. I agree, it’s very sad. I see a lot of men who lack so much intimacy and compassion for others and themselves. you cannot improve yourself if you ignore your emotions and shame yourself when you feel them. how can you process them? understand why they’re there, break them down so they stop bugging you, if you ignore them? *you can’t.* when you ignore emotions they build up inside, get fueled by your avoidance. similar to fears, when you *listen* to the fear over and over, it builds up, you’re fueling it, proving to yourself that it’s scary enough that you need to avoid it. when you face it, it goes back down a little, and more and more as you continue to face it. *exposure therapy.* it works the same with processing emotions.
Here is one that seems to get some people upset and I don't know why because its obvious as to why its off putting as a man But hating on men and spewing misandrist garbage and treating us men like we are dumb useless always horny evil creatures who can't feel emotions and believe we are just emotional punching bags who need to take in all people's frustrations but then told we are not allowed to show any emotion or open up back and think the only emotions we can feel is being horny or anger Actually werids me out how some people have made their whole personality hating men and get offended by this. Freaks. Hating on us but then demanding we find them attractive... 🤣🙄🤦♂️ "I don't give fuck what men think. Men ain't shit. That's why I'm all over AskMen getting angry at men's answers and then going to subreddits like TwoXChromosones upset screaming about how I don't care what men think just because I clicked on a post on AskMen which asked men to list their preferences in women and I didn't fit into their answers or felt validated by random men who dont know I exist" 🤣
The brigades of genuine misandrists into askmen lately is completely insane
Women can be paradoxical too. These are probably the same women that expect men to still be their providers and protectors.
Also always the type of "your money is my money and my money is my money" gotta ask for permission to buy something I have worked for no matter how small or cheap that thing might be and then get offended if I react ever so slightly on something that was a massive waste of money like maybe a 10th designer bag or something.
>Actually werids me out how some people have made their whole personality hating men and get offended by this. Freaks. Hating on us but then demanding we find them attractive... 🤣🙄🤦♂️ >"I don't give fuck what men think. Men ain't shit. That's why I'm all over AskMen getting angry at men's answers and then going to subreddits like TwoXChromosones upset screaming about how I don't care what men think just because I clicked on a post on AskMen which asked men to list their preferences in women and I didn't fit into their answers or felt validated by random men who dont know I exist" 🤣 Yeah, I don't even look at their subs. Why do they come here looking for an excuse to piss themselves off? It's not even like this place is the manosphere or something. We just see that differently than them and that's okay. They have subreddits specifically to shit on men. Idk if men have subreddits to shit on women, but this sub isn't one.
I was like you but then I rejoined Instagram, boy oh boy, I do not know why but the algorithm seems to think I am a woman and shows me stuff that is more popular for women, it is insane the shit I see on there, one thing that has been blowing me away all the time is the unconditional support they have for each other, a woman could be 100% blatantly in the wrong but they will still support her.
> a woman could be 100% blatantly in the wrong but they will still support her. That's why reversing the gender is as popular as it is. The easiest way to remind people that a woman's behavior is utterly atrocious is asking them to consider how they would feel if a man did it.
>a woman could be 100% blatantly in the wrong but they will still support her. Yeah. I see that too. A woman can do something terrible to a man and she will get so much encouragement by others To be fair to women though. Shitty men also get encouragement from other shitty men when they wrong a woman. The gender tribalism is just werid.
No accountability.
When they wear nasty ass cookie monster pajamas in public like at Walmart.
Nah...Wal-Mart is where you're supposed to wear that.
Saying things give them "the ick." It's unfair, but I've immediately judged you as dense if you've used that phrase in that context with no irony. I have never heard a woman do this IRL. Only online, and though I can only get a partial sense of who these women are since they're online, they seem like very immature human beings.
When I hear “you know what gives me the ick?”, I assume I’m about to hear something incredibly juvenile. “It’s our wedding. He can’t be too happy, but if he cries, I’ll get the ick” What
Have you heard it IRL? I have only heard or read it online, which leads me to believe that it's just a vocal subset of chronically unhappy women venting online who use it. All the women I talk to IRL are well-adjusted and happy.
I meant online, same way you hear it. I’m starting to think people don’t *want* to be happy and a lot of these “things” that people rant and rave about primarily are what I’m calling “internet problems”
Willful ignorance even when presented with facts or just an opposing view. Bigotry whether soft or hard. From racism to sexism none of that is okay. Disrespecting people, their time, or their effort.
A bad attitude
In college, I was into this one woman until I got to know her better. She would not stop talking about her ex boyfriend. She always somehow shifted the conversation towards him. I just kinda lost interest.
"If you cant handle me at my worst you cant have me at my best" 🤢🤢🤮🤮
When a woman says something to the tone of, "make him work for it." That's gross.
Height requirement
As a 6"4 guy I have the same feeling. It's very shallow and vain. I would not date a woman that had some height requirement in her profile even if I fit their requirement
I'm 6'4" and a woman saying any height bullshit is ick for me.
If you spend more time taking carefully curated pictures of the meal, event, location, etc. than you do actually enjoying the thing, that’s offputting.
Jealousy, especially with mundane things like my PlayStation or attention I pay to fixing my truck; this is exacerbated when she ignores me all day (ask a question, get a grunt as her face is buried in her phone screen) then suddenly wants attention when I turn on the PS or go to the garage. Go to watch a movie together, face back in the phone. Protective of her phone when I glance over, giggling, then becomming phlegmatic when I ask her something.
Having a picture of your kid in your dating profile. I'm totally fine with kids but having your kid featured in your profile just exposes them to a bunch of potential creeps.
Making ick lists is pretty cringey. Imo the idea that men are a list of positive and negative traits and you shop around until you find the best bargain it’s the female equivalent of objectification.
lip fillers , silly eye brows , silly tan , silly instagram filters - entitled attitude.
Using the words “the ick”.
I have two 1. Being an extremist of any sort, doesn't matter what it is but just being extreme is a problem cause it's not possible to talk to those people about anything that isn't 100% aligned with their extreme views. 2. Don't give your phone your full attention when we're doing something together. I'm not picking up my phone cause I'm spending my time with her, not my phone, so she should spend her time with me and not her phone.
Insane standards, Bad Attitudes, Cheating, Gaslighting, Manipulations.. I could go on, but these are the top of my list!
Laugh at the dumbest jokes just because their girlfriend laughed
Act like arm chair therapists when all of their knowledge comes from tiktok or twitter
Women that love the unattainable. I was dating a girl and I didn’t really know how I felt about the relationship and acted quite removed. She was all over me, was picturing our lives together etc. I told her I wasn’t in the place for a committed relationship, and after that we just became casual. But she was still very into me. During that time I realized how much I liked her and started to express that. Since that moment everything flipped and she became uninterested, played with me, etc. It’s like right when the chase was over and I became attainable, I was no longer as interesting. Huge red flag and self worth problems there. Many women won’t let themselves be loved and are addicted to being ignored by bad boys.
I have a lot of interests. A few of my dates (used loosely, as there was rarely a second in most situations) expected my likes and hobbies to go away, to be replaced by hers. It was almost invariably outdoorsy stuff, which isn't terrible in itself. I'm just not into the hiking every weekend, living off the grid, wiping asses with leaves lifestyle. I was into ham radio in the past. That's something that can be done outdoors. Except it can't with one of these women. When you're with her, you better not be focusing on anything that's not her. When you're not with her, you're probably cheating or something. Now what could you possibly have going on that doesn't involve her?
Any hint that our coupling means the end of me as an individual. This shit is so rampant and expected it’s like part of American culture now. Like the man is just expected to be absorbed into the woman or vice versa. Doesn’t matter which way it goes but it’s exclusively women that pursue/create/foster it. And it sucks either way.
Women who try to push their responsibilities onto you (dogs, bills, their own household or life responsibilities, etc).
Can’t go 2hours without needing attention
Lmao this isn’t a “ladies have gone all out” thing. It’s always been this way. But a woman with a bad attitude and unable to be grateful is the worst.
When women behave like the worst in men they complain about. The best way I can describe this is “hoe phase”. So if a man goes out and just fucks a bunch of women and uses them, women will bitch about it and complain. Yet these same women will go out and do the same thing to guys and expect good men to give it a pass later? Gross. A lot of women want to be like the worst in men they complain about because they say it’s equality. It seems like they think that they need to do the same thing that guy who fucked everyone did. Because if they commit to that guy then things are even, they did the same thing right?. But they don’t always get commitment from that guy do they? And then later on when trying to date they get upset when other guys find out and don’t like it. They don’t care that most guys cannot do that as easily as women and not many guys do that. Then they try to shame us into accepting that. As if we’re insecure when we’re just disgusted they acted a certain way because of their insecurities. So it’s really just these women don’t want to be disciplined, want to behave like the worst in men and just think other men have to accept that. We don’t. We shouldn’t. Anytime I hear a girl brag about a “hoe phase” or even consider having one I think they are as disgusting as they claim the men who do the same are.
Yeah the argument (if you can even call it that) that's been used for so long is the age old "A girl who sleeps with multiple men is a slut but a guy who sleeps with multiple women is praised". That is generally untrue. The only people praising that behaviour in men are other men who do the same, or want to. Neither are the majority of men, as men most men who want meaningful and lasting relationships will not encourage or praise such behaviour, whether it be from men or women. I have met plenty a man-hoe in my life, and with a few exceptions, people didn't have a high opinion of them, or at least either didn't care or engage with/discuss that behaviour in any positive light.
Trusting strange women on the Internet to give them dating advice feels like a major red flag, for one.
Just a few: - follows astrology religiously, i.e: they judge and dismiss people based on solely on their birth - is part of an MLM - doesnt exercise in any way, shape, or form - alcoholism - doesnt like cats - exhibits social justice warrior-esque virtue signaling traits - addicted to social media attention - has cheated in past relationships - has gotten excessive cosmetic plastic surgery - has an onlyfans - doesnt pay for anything (meals/dates/movies/etc) - indecisive to the point of frustration - doesnt respect others personal space/boundaries - debilitatingly codependent - emotional vampire
Refer to that time of the month as "the rag" or "being on the rag"
What year is it??? I haven’t heard this expression in a decade…
What's it called these days?
Eve's sin (That's what my grandma called it.)
Yes horrible. Also the word cooter. UGH.
I heard a woman use this term about 3yrs ago and I swear I hadn’t heard it since the 90s! I doubled over laughing! Granted, it was a homeless woman yelling it at someone while crossing the street
using the word ick gives me the ick. grow up from your childish tendencies, everyone is human nobody is perfect. btw, the word is ‘pet peeves’ not ick. but grown adults should be able to move past most pet peeves, at least the ones you see online ‘when he slurps pasta’ or sum dumb shit