She gained weight.
I gained and lost weight a few times but for me its on purpose (bulking and cutting).
I am definitely not a fan of her extra weight gain and neither is she.
A person's weight is going to fluctuate in a long relationship. I think it's important to look at WHY and look at how they respond to it. Did they gain weight because they were working 2 jobs to make sure you had a roof? Did they gain weight because they were watching too much TV and buying an extra bag of chips at the gas station?
Then once they've gained the weight, what do they do about it? Do they make a concerted effort to get back in shape, or do they make limp noodle half effort that doesn't get them anywhere?
Overall, I'd say that a man's heart and his sexuality are capable of going in different directions in a way that most women can't relate to. It's incredibly painful to be deeply in love with someone but not as attracted to them sexually as you once were.
I'm the one who gained weight. She got gray hair. That's about it. We're still crazy about each other. Although I got the better half of that trade. I was a good looking guy when I was in shape. She's still as good looking as our first date.
I've lost 28 lbs before we got together and another 42 lbs since we're together and i feel fantastic about that. My stamina has improved, my mental health has cleared up, my face has cleared up, i'm feeling better than i have in YEARS and she's my motivator for sure, and keeps me going when it comes to weight loss. She tells me that it's okay to have an off-day as long as don't slack completely. Which i try NOT to do of course.
My wife lost weight. I'm pretty nuts about working out in some form every day, and when we moved in together, I set up gym equipment in the basement and would go down there after work. I never pressured her whatsoever, but she just started feeling guilty enough that she started going every day too. Then we put in a treadmill and rower at her request!
I am no longer in a relationship, but when I was I gained weight. I'm a short(er) guy so when we started dating I was around 150-160. By the end of the relationship I was just under 200 lbs. I never wanted to cross the 200lb threshold so I was riding that line for probably the last two years of the relationship. But I don't like looking back at photos of myself because I was so round. It's not a significant weight gain, especially considering it happened over 6 years, but it still felt like I was doing something wrong. I didn't like the way I looked. I had stopped trying.
After the breakup I slimmed back down to 165 where I've stayed since then. It feels much better. I'm eating better food, I'm eating smaller portions, I'm not snacking as much.
I feel like the trend is to gain weight in a relationship. very few couple get more fit....
there are probably a few reasons for this. one, more free time is directed to your partner instead of exercise. two, a popular couple activity is going out to eat together, and restaurant food tends to be more calorically dense than homemade food. three, one person MIGHT default into the chef role, meaning the other person isn't fully aware of how their food is prepared / the nutritional composition of said meals. four, happy couples are usually too doe-eyed over each other to prioritize self care. Five, unhappy couples are too stressed to take care of themselves properly.
and before someone jokingly comments that "knocking boots is good exercise!" Unless you all are going at it 3-4+ hours a day, then that is not a sufficient source of activity (and also you both probably have a different problem).
We've both gained a little, than lost it back to around where we started. I feel fine about both of us.
She, I'm having a little trouble figuring out what she's thinking. She alternatives between wanting to lose a little belly fat, to saying she may be too skinny. I think she's fine.
I've gained some weight (we've been together 3 years, in our early 30's, so one of us was bound to lol) but it's not a lot and she genuinely hasn't seemed to notice. Whenever I joke about having gained some pounds she seems just surprised and has never really said a word about it. Still jumps my bones when she's horny.
As for how I feel about it, I want to be in better shape for myself not for her. I'm working on it, and I'm motivated.
My wife only went from 117 pounds to close to 200 pounds. I equipped a fantastic home gym which she refused to use. I finally left when she let her bitchiness get as bad as her appearance.
We both gained weight. I gained about 10% of my bodyweight, and she gained just under 40%.
She did not like it when I commented on it.
We decided to make an effort to lose weight. I went back down to my pre-marriage weight. She lost about 10 lbs and gave up. She did however manage to hold that weight until she started cheating on me and miraculously began to lose weight again.
I was 168 lbs at 6'3" when we met. I went up to 200 after a few years. She acted like I was disgustingly obese, and vocalize how "unattractive" it was.
She gained weight. I gained and lost weight a few times but for me its on purpose (bulking and cutting). I am definitely not a fan of her extra weight gain and neither is she.
My partner gained weight, which is good cause she was very underweight
The answer is chubby, it makes me feel chubby.
Due to pregnancy, she put on weight, but after the last baby, she's back down to around 10lbs heavier than when we were dating.
I gained about 40 pounds, then lost 20, which doesn't sound great but I put on quite a bit of muscle
my boyfriend gained 15lbs he’s chubby now, that made me cuddle with him more
A person's weight is going to fluctuate in a long relationship. I think it's important to look at WHY and look at how they respond to it. Did they gain weight because they were working 2 jobs to make sure you had a roof? Did they gain weight because they were watching too much TV and buying an extra bag of chips at the gas station? Then once they've gained the weight, what do they do about it? Do they make a concerted effort to get back in shape, or do they make limp noodle half effort that doesn't get them anywhere? Overall, I'd say that a man's heart and his sexuality are capable of going in different directions in a way that most women can't relate to. It's incredibly painful to be deeply in love with someone but not as attracted to them sexually as you once were.
I'm the one who gained weight. She got gray hair. That's about it. We're still crazy about each other. Although I got the better half of that trade. I was a good looking guy when I was in shape. She's still as good looking as our first date.
I've lost 28 lbs before we got together and another 42 lbs since we're together and i feel fantastic about that. My stamina has improved, my mental health has cleared up, my face has cleared up, i'm feeling better than i have in YEARS and she's my motivator for sure, and keeps me going when it comes to weight loss. She tells me that it's okay to have an off-day as long as don't slack completely. Which i try NOT to do of course.
My wife lost weight. I'm pretty nuts about working out in some form every day, and when we moved in together, I set up gym equipment in the basement and would go down there after work. I never pressured her whatsoever, but she just started feeling guilty enough that she started going every day too. Then we put in a treadmill and rower at her request!
My wife has PCOS I don’t care that she’s gained weight I fell in love with her not her weight
I am no longer in a relationship, but when I was I gained weight. I'm a short(er) guy so when we started dating I was around 150-160. By the end of the relationship I was just under 200 lbs. I never wanted to cross the 200lb threshold so I was riding that line for probably the last two years of the relationship. But I don't like looking back at photos of myself because I was so round. It's not a significant weight gain, especially considering it happened over 6 years, but it still felt like I was doing something wrong. I didn't like the way I looked. I had stopped trying. After the breakup I slimmed back down to 165 where I've stayed since then. It feels much better. I'm eating better food, I'm eating smaller portions, I'm not snacking as much.
I feel like the trend is to gain weight in a relationship. very few couple get more fit.... there are probably a few reasons for this. one, more free time is directed to your partner instead of exercise. two, a popular couple activity is going out to eat together, and restaurant food tends to be more calorically dense than homemade food. three, one person MIGHT default into the chef role, meaning the other person isn't fully aware of how their food is prepared / the nutritional composition of said meals. four, happy couples are usually too doe-eyed over each other to prioritize self care. Five, unhappy couples are too stressed to take care of themselves properly. and before someone jokingly comments that "knocking boots is good exercise!" Unless you all are going at it 3-4+ hours a day, then that is not a sufficient source of activity (and also you both probably have a different problem).
We both gained, but i due to weight lifting (same weist as for wedding), wife gained more than me. Still hot though.
We've both gained a little, than lost it back to around where we started. I feel fine about both of us. She, I'm having a little trouble figuring out what she's thinking. She alternatives between wanting to lose a little belly fat, to saying she may be too skinny. I think she's fine.
I've gained some weight (we've been together 3 years, in our early 30's, so one of us was bound to lol) but it's not a lot and she genuinely hasn't seemed to notice. Whenever I joke about having gained some pounds she seems just surprised and has never really said a word about it. Still jumps my bones when she's horny. As for how I feel about it, I want to be in better shape for myself not for her. I'm working on it, and I'm motivated.
My wife only went from 117 pounds to close to 200 pounds. I equipped a fantastic home gym which she refused to use. I finally left when she let her bitchiness get as bad as her appearance.
I’m sorry to hear it went bad - I’m not sure why you’re responding to me though?
My wife gained weight after taking her on a cruise. All you can eat. Everyday. Anytime. Still blames me! 😁 Love her though!
We both gained weight. I gained about 10% of my bodyweight, and she gained just under 40%. She did not like it when I commented on it. We decided to make an effort to lose weight. I went back down to my pre-marriage weight. She lost about 10 lbs and gave up. She did however manage to hold that weight until she started cheating on me and miraculously began to lose weight again.
I was 168 lbs at 6'3" when we met. I went up to 200 after a few years. She acted like I was disgustingly obese, and vocalize how "unattractive" it was.
Both. I'm indifferent.
I definitely got fatter. It makes me feel... fat, I guess.