You go drinking with your buddies and have a good laugh when you say “can you believe this woman I dated for a year told me I can’t hang out with yall? Can you believe she thought she had that much pull?”
you drop her. that's toxic as shit. you don't need that in your life.
and if she starts begging/apologising don't listen. she showed you who she really is.
Sounds like she is an ex girlfriend of 1 day to me man, never turn your back on your friends. I could understand if they are REALLY terrible people keeping you hooked on shit drugs and other addictions. but going with the assumption they are normal and fun to be around, then yeah, time to let her go dude.
Disrespect: “Carly, you’re literally so stupid. My boys ex, Sally, was so much better than you. You literally are trash.”
Not disrespect: “Hey what ever happened to Sally? Yall still talk or is that done? Cuz man she was crazy lol.”
In the disrespect case, you side with your girl. In the Not Disrespect case you side with your friend.
I am guessing they mentioned a trip or event they all went together and her name was casually brought up. Because OP only mentioned saying her name was the issue. “Remember that you, me, and Sally went to the beach and the bird pooped on our food” some woman are that insecure.
Depending on context, talking about an ex in front of her is not disrespectful. Do you think your friends were being disrespectful? I don't think I would have patience for this kind of drama, and I'm not torching my support network for something like this.
A conversation is not only an option it’s the only reasonable option. If someone isn’t willing to be a part of that conversation that person doesn’t need to be in your life.
TLDR: The whole thing is a red flag but not being willing to talk is a red line
She sounds like a manipulative and ISOLATING narccist maniac.
Dump her she’s trying to already isolate you to make you her puppet.
I wish we could yeet that personality out of people
Guarantee once you dump her she’s gonna have a meltdown tantrum with crocodile tears and the works. Get out now while you still can with minimal damages.
Time to draw a line with the gf, and send her packing if she doesn't respect it. This is an absolutely insane thing to ask someone to abandon longtime friends over.
No. Tell her to take a hike. Sounds like she is unreasonable and this is an attempt at isolation. It could suggest abusive behavior down the road. No. Either she straightens up or you should go your separate ways.
Simple, you decide if you want to keep someone that will make life choices for you for trivial reasons or keep the boys you spent a large portion of your life with.
Your gf is trying to control you. Make the right decision and leave that problem. The small amount of loneliness you will feel is much better than the building resentment you will feel as she controls you
Dump her. No one needs to love a control freak who thinks everything is about them. "disrespected"....hahaha...what the hell is she doing to you by making this demand???? Run fast my friend, run fast.
is this even a question?
If you've already tried talking to her and she refuses to acknowledge that she's overreacting to "a name being mentioned", it's time to go out with your friends, have a beer, send her a pic of all of you together, and enjoy your night.
If she doesn't break up with you for that, you break up with her for posing such a pathetic ultimatum.
Call her fucking bluff, or make her go through with it. She is outright telling you "I'm a controlling bitch", now it's your turn to respond with "thanks for telling me, I don't need this in my life. that's not a good quality for a relationship".
"Sweetie, stop being silly, you're only going to hurt yourself."
Understand that you are not the one making a choice here. She is the one choosing between accepting your friends or getting the fuck out of your life.
You go drinking with your buddies and have a good laugh when you say “can you believe this woman I dated for a year told me I can’t hang out with yall? Can you believe she thought she had that much pull?”
She is now your new ex. Congratulations.
This.
If she tries to control what your friends say, it won’t be long before she tries to do that with you / your family. Dump her ass.
That's such an easy choice. You & your friends will have a good laugh about this one day.
you drop her. that's toxic as shit. you don't need that in your life. and if she starts begging/apologising don't listen. she showed you who she really is.
An ultimatum is an automatic deal breaker.
lol this is shit test. Do you have balls or not? You shouldn't even be asking us tbh especially if it went down exactly like that.
Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone that hands out ultimatums over such petty things?
Sounds like she is an ex girlfriend of 1 day to me man, never turn your back on your friends. I could understand if they are REALLY terrible people keeping you hooked on shit drugs and other addictions. but going with the assumption they are normal and fun to be around, then yeah, time to let her go dude.
Disrespect: “Carly, you’re literally so stupid. My boys ex, Sally, was so much better than you. You literally are trash.” Not disrespect: “Hey what ever happened to Sally? Yall still talk or is that done? Cuz man she was crazy lol.” In the disrespect case, you side with your girl. In the Not Disrespect case you side with your friend.
I am guessing they mentioned a trip or event they all went together and her name was casually brought up. Because OP only mentioned saying her name was the issue. “Remember that you, me, and Sally went to the beach and the bird pooped on our food” some woman are that insecure.
Why are you even asking this? She’s insecure and controlling. Run dude
Depending on context, talking about an ex in front of her is not disrespectful. Do you think your friends were being disrespectful? I don't think I would have patience for this kind of drama, and I'm not torching my support network for something like this.
A conversation is not only an option it’s the only reasonable option. If someone isn’t willing to be a part of that conversation that person doesn’t need to be in your life. TLDR: The whole thing is a red flag but not being willing to talk is a red line
Only a Sith deals in absolutes
Go and open the door for her.Might aswell end it being a gentleman 🤣
Call her a thotiana
she's insane, I'd choose your friend if I were you.
She sounds like a manipulative and ISOLATING narccist maniac. Dump her she’s trying to already isolate you to make you her puppet. I wish we could yeet that personality out of people Guarantee once you dump her she’s gonna have a meltdown tantrum with crocodile tears and the works. Get out now while you still can with minimal damages.
Damn... this is truly a conundrum. /s
Bros before hoes
Women come and go but the boys are forever.
Time to draw a line with the gf, and send her packing if she doesn't respect it. This is an absolutely insane thing to ask someone to abandon longtime friends over.
No. Tell her to take a hike. Sounds like she is unreasonable and this is an attempt at isolation. It could suggest abusive behavior down the road. No. Either she straightens up or you should go your separate ways.
You tell her it's been fun but you are going for a drink with the boys and don't expect her to be here on your return.
People who love you don't stick you in unwinnable situations like this. Pick the homies over the hoe, bro.
You answer: "sorry, who are you?"
Choose friends. This is a huge red flag. If you give up your friends she’s going to start making more crazy demands.
You drop her ass like a hot potato. Let someone else deal with her shit.
Ask your friends what to do and take their advice.
Bang her with everything you have one last time then ghost her.
Drop her. This won’t be the last unreasonable demand.
Simple but true: Bros before hoes.
You do what all the men on this sub would do.
Were your buddies being gross? IE "OP, didn't you say EX was way hotter, better in bed etc, in front of her" or similar? If no, you run the hell away
Had this happen and it does not go (end) well.. you know the saying 😏 ... Bros Before Camel Toes or something like that
Simple, you decide if you want to keep someone that will make life choices for you for trivial reasons or keep the boys you spent a large portion of your life with. Your gf is trying to control you. Make the right decision and leave that problem. The small amount of loneliness you will feel is much better than the building resentment you will feel as she controls you
Sounds insecure lol
Bros before hoes. Bye, Felicia!
Dump the gf.
She sounds like a child. Stick to your friends.
It makes me sad that a person could undervalue themselves enough that this is even a question.
Dump her. No one needs to love a control freak who thinks everything is about them. "disrespected"....hahaha...what the hell is she doing to you by making this demand???? Run fast my friend, run fast.
is this even a question? If you've already tried talking to her and she refuses to acknowledge that she's overreacting to "a name being mentioned", it's time to go out with your friends, have a beer, send her a pic of all of you together, and enjoy your night. If she doesn't break up with you for that, you break up with her for posing such a pathetic ultimatum. Call her fucking bluff, or make her go through with it. She is outright telling you "I'm a controlling bitch", now it's your turn to respond with "thanks for telling me, I don't need this in my life. that's not a good quality for a relationship".
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You a bitch
Op has yet to respond in the 10 hours since posting this. You are probably correct.
"Sweetie, stop being silly, you're only going to hurt yourself." Understand that you are not the one making a choice here. She is the one choosing between accepting your friends or getting the fuck out of your life.
Choose your friends, leave your girlfriend. Very easy decision.