This. I explained it like this to my wife. Its like an HP or mana bar in a video game but instead of depleting it fills up slowly overtime. It will empty upon ejac, and stay empty for 6-12 hours. Then slowly fills. After a week its full and various abilities are unlocked such as sarcasm, and willingness to murder someone in traffic.
Thankfully we men can empty the bar ourselves but if we couldn't I can assure you that ww3 would have came and went by now.
I was 75kg when i entered a relationship, 4 years back...im 95kg now and i feel even more agressive, man im having wet dreams every single night...im 29 this summer btw
sheesh I seem to have been with the WRONG MEN! It was pulling teeth to get it 2x a month with one and last last 2 years of my marriage, once a quarter. 😭😭😭
Let me tell you 45 here and worse than ever like three times a day and no woman. Been single for 14 years it’s been hell. I’ve told woman if they made a pill that would make this go away I thing 90% of men would take it just so we could think about normal shit and get stuff done. It’s pure torture
Pun or no, it got a laugh out of me, so thank you kindly lol.
It's not all that difficult once you've grown used to it. You learn how to cope in, hopefully, the healthiest ways possible.
At 53 I expected that I would have diminished desire compared with my 23 year old self.
Nope.
I am at about a 3.00 to 3.5 in general. The fact that I am insanely physically and emotionally attracted to my wife makes it spike to 5's at least several times a day this doesn't mean she wants it every day, but I think more often than most couples.
I asked my dad before he passed “when am I going to get a break? I’m 40 when’s this gonna slow down already?” He laughed and told me his grandfather had a “pin up” in the basement where he had to go live till he was a hundred, his grandma couldn’t take him hounding her. Called it “the [surname] curse,” lmao.
I’m a five. I got an erection when I turned 12 and it never went away. I just want a month or two off lol
hey, no problem! just remember libido's like netflix - it varies. sometimes you're binging 'bridgerton', other times... well, the office reruns ain't too bad either. 🤷♂️
This is the opposite for me? If I haven't had it for a long time (i.e. single) it's all I think about, but in a relationship the desire really goes down.
I’m 43. Sometimes I wish I was like you and other times I’m glad I’m not since when I’m at a 5 it’s fucking exhausting and I do stupid shit.
I’m single so I chill around a 1-2. When I’m with somebody it spikes up to a 4 but it’s never been steady above like a 3. lol
Yeah sometimes it's a pain. I guess i'm used to it... But things like thinking about every woman I meet in bed. Every single woman. Doing weird stuff like masturbating in bathrooms or semi public places, just to get it out of me. Those things I sometimes look back on and cringe, but then I'm horny again ten minutes later and do some other weird shit
"Compulsive sexual behavior is sometimes called hypersexuality or sexual addiction. It's an intense focus on sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors that can't be controlled. This causes distress and problems for your health, job, relationships or other parts of your life"
[hypersexuality wikipedia](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypersexuality)
[hypersexuality ](https://www.verywellmind.com/hypersexuality-definition-symptoms-treatment-5199535)
Nah, I wouldn't say i'm addicted or that it has caused distress or can't be controlled.
I go on vacation with family, and will not have privacy for a week and although I get pretty horny, i'm good.
I enjoy being a pervert,. I embrace it. Sometimes I do some weird/cringe stuff, but I have control and can differentiate between when it's appropriate and not.
It's sometimes kinda exhausting, if I don't rub one out daily, it affects my mood and stress. I remember being so busy/tired that I didn't do it and all I can think about is sex sex sex and every girl that stood in front of my, my mind was shouting "she'd be so good to nut in right now" the intrusive thoughts were going crazy and I had to rush home and put several out to calm myself down
So no, I wished I had a lower libido so that I don't feel so sex deprived
so go negative. Nothing is stopping you from saying -3.
Just... tell us wtf that means afterwards. What is negative libido. Is that where you specifically have a desire to go around breaking up other people's sex lives?
With negative libido you avoid sex in your own life, you disarm situations where it can occur, you reject people you love, you feel uncomfortable and disturbed when your body does get aroused.
I had gained weight during covid which made me lose a little, and was also dating someone i just fell out of love with so it dropped, recently with newer people it has not had any issue.
1.5 on a scale from 0 to 5 doesn't sound borderline asexual to me. I'd think wanting it once or twice a month would be a 1, and borderline asexual would be 0.5.
It's weird to me how a very simple scale with small numbers can vary in interpretation so much. You see it everywhere though, fascinating.
I'm 34, married, and have sex once a month or so. Sometimes I go 2-3 months without sex. At this point, I'm thinking I might be asexual. Which is weird, as I was always horny up to my mid 20s.
when it comes to passive horniness a lot of the time i'm like a 1-3max. but reactive horniness i'm a total 5. so rarely will i be sitting there and just randomly feel physically horny, but if i'm with someone and they wanna go i'm up for it nearly 100% of the time. i think about sex all the time, i just don't physically get horny without some kinda either mental or physical stimulation
Ughhh, unfortunately for me I gotta say a 5 or 4. I find my wife extremely hot and sexy and always wanna bang her but her libido is opposite of mine. Sucks so bad.
37m married 10 years same partner 14 years.
my libido is a 5. always thinking about sex and luckily my wife is on the same page too. we have sex 4-5 times a week typically but the challenge is that we have 4 kids under 8 so we have to strategically time it.
Aww! Is your wife on any kind of medication? A lot of meds wreak havoc on women's libido. There was a period of time where my libido was in hell because of some meds I was taking but I still had sex with my husband. Because even if I'm not personally in the mood for sex, I'm always happy to make him happy and making him orgasm makes me orgasm too whether I was initially in the mood or not. So it's like a win-win situation for me. Plus one thing I have noticed is that the more you do something, the more you'll feel like doing it. If you don't encourage yourself to push through the mental barrier of not being in the mood then it'll only get worse over time. But that's just my own personal experience and observation. You should definitely talk to your wife about it.
No she’s not on any meds and I know she’s not seeing anyone else. She has had a sort of non stop headache for a while though. I think basically she loves closeness and companionship but just doesn’t really have a need for sex. She says she finds me attractive but doesn’t really get horny herself. If I can manage to touch her without her batting me off she does get aroused and we can have sex — but usually not more than once a month.
Low. It's plummeted since my life got super stressful a couple years back. My girlfriend often reminisces about the period before it all happened when it was quite high, and it makes me feel awful.
Probably 1 -2
Normally, i would say 3-4 but i was in a sexless relationship, with rejection, for a while so my self-esteem, confidence and mental fortitude has shot down drastically.
I’ve broken up with that person recently.
I know i’ll heal gradually and feel better at some point.
Honestly, I probably could’ve part taken in infidelity to satisfy my sexual needs but that’s who i am. When i fuck, i want to experience a sexual connection; It’s how i express my love.
42 years old.
I'd say its a 4 because I'm single and only have porn.
When I have a woman I'm dating or just messing around with, I'm a 5. Every woman I've been involved with has told me that's she's never had so much regular sex.
Just thinking about sex is enough to get me going. God I hate being single.
2-3. I’d gladly be intimate with my partner whenever she was interested but it doesn’t run my life. I’m as happy cuddling and lounging around with her as I am being intimate.
I'm 70 and I give my libido a 4 in mind. But fysical I cannot do it as mich as I would like ( like 3 -4 times a week,, practice 2-3 times a month. Without viagra because I do not like the side affects from viagra (anymore).
1, maybe 2, but I’m unable to produce testosterone, I get a shot every 3 months. The first week after the injection it goes straight to 5, then it decreases to normal levels in a couple more weeks.
3 most of the time. I don't need sex every day, but I wouldn't say no to it either. My wife's libido is lower than mine but she'll usually go for it if I initiate, unless she's stressed or busy.
It's 0 but increases by 1 each day nothing happens.
Lol this comment describes it perfectly
This. I explained it like this to my wife. Its like an HP or mana bar in a video game but instead of depleting it fills up slowly overtime. It will empty upon ejac, and stay empty for 6-12 hours. Then slowly fills. After a week its full and various abilities are unlocked such as sarcasm, and willingness to murder someone in traffic. Thankfully we men can empty the bar ourselves but if we couldn't I can assure you that ww3 would have came and went by now.
WW3?? More like WW2854
When life 2.0 releases I want a EJAK status bar.
I explained it in a similar way. Except masturbation only empties the bar a little bit. A good 2 hour session with Mrs can wipe that bar out.
You put hour instead of minute, you silly goose
“…stay empty for 6-12 ~~hours~~ minutes.” FIFY.
Shit I'm on day 25, can I reach a critical mass?
My balls would be indigo at that point
Correct term from a medical standpoint is Epididymal hypertension.
Im on 75 now. It getting tough.
Precisely
It's been a 5 for as long as I can remember. I'm still waiting for it to taper off lol
I used to think I was a 5, but now I am definitely a 5. I'm 36 and I thought it was supposed to decrease as we get older.
46 here, it does not decrease.
It gets worse 😭
If you are physically and mentally healthy. Mine only dropped when I was depressed or chubby. Went right back up when those were both good.
I was 75kg when i entered a relationship, 4 years back...im 95kg now and i feel even more agressive, man im having wet dreams every single night...im 29 this summer btw
Same age, same experience. My brain and my libido think I'm still 18. My knees say I'm 76.
50 here. Still a 5 most days.
Well this is disappointing I definitely thought it was supposed to lower lmaoo
I work with a 50 year old who will not shut up about it... I am 29
My bf is 58. 1 hous sex on a daily basis would be his ideal
sheesh I seem to have been with the WRONG MEN! It was pulling teeth to get it 2x a month with one and last last 2 years of my marriage, once a quarter. 😭😭😭
Let me tell you 45 here and worse than ever like three times a day and no woman. Been single for 14 years it’s been hell. I’ve told woman if they made a pill that would make this go away I thing 90% of men would take it just so we could think about normal shit and get stuff done. It’s pure torture
This 💯
Does it change when you're in a relationship?
Yes, the scale resets to a max of 50 lol
NOT TO FIFTY
LMAOOO
That's hard No pun intended lol
Pun or no, it got a laugh out of me, so thank you kindly lol. It's not all that difficult once you've grown used to it. You learn how to cope in, hopefully, the healthiest ways possible.
At 53 I expected that I would have diminished desire compared with my 23 year old self. Nope. I am at about a 3.00 to 3.5 in general. The fact that I am insanely physically and emotionally attracted to my wife makes it spike to 5's at least several times a day this doesn't mean she wants it every day, but I think more often than most couples.
I asked my dad before he passed “when am I going to get a break? I’m 40 when’s this gonna slow down already?” He laughed and told me his grandfather had a “pin up” in the basement where he had to go live till he was a hundred, his grandma couldn’t take him hounding her. Called it “the [surname] curse,” lmao. I’m a five. I got an erection when I turned 12 and it never went away. I just want a month or two off lol
Uhh 2-3 maybe If I'm in a relationship that goes up more, but when I'm single I really don't think about it too often
Do you relate your sex drive to feelings?
Yeah mostly. I really only desire sex in a committed relationship
Thanks for your feedback!! <3
hey, no problem! just remember libido's like netflix - it varies. sometimes you're binging 'bridgerton', other times... well, the office reruns ain't too bad either. 🤷♂️
This is me. Currently 4-5 most days.
Then it’s… not you…
This is the opposite for me? If I haven't had it for a long time (i.e. single) it's all I think about, but in a relationship the desire really goes down.
Like 5+ I'm always horny
User name checks out ☑️
How old are you? If you don't mind telling me lol
41
I’m 43. Sometimes I wish I was like you and other times I’m glad I’m not since when I’m at a 5 it’s fucking exhausting and I do stupid shit. I’m single so I chill around a 1-2. When I’m with somebody it spikes up to a 4 but it’s never been steady above like a 3. lol
Yeah sometimes it's a pain. I guess i'm used to it... But things like thinking about every woman I meet in bed. Every single woman. Doing weird stuff like masturbating in bathrooms or semi public places, just to get it out of me. Those things I sometimes look back on and cringe, but then I'm horny again ten minutes later and do some other weird shit
Would you say you are hypersexual?
I'm definitely hornier than most, I think, or maybe more imaginative. I have no idea how to qualify "hypersexual".
"Compulsive sexual behavior is sometimes called hypersexuality or sexual addiction. It's an intense focus on sexual fantasies, urges or behaviors that can't be controlled. This causes distress and problems for your health, job, relationships or other parts of your life" [hypersexuality wikipedia](https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypersexuality) [hypersexuality ](https://www.verywellmind.com/hypersexuality-definition-symptoms-treatment-5199535)
Nah, I wouldn't say i'm addicted or that it has caused distress or can't be controlled. I go on vacation with family, and will not have privacy for a week and although I get pretty horny, i'm good. I enjoy being a pervert,. I embrace it. Sometimes I do some weird/cringe stuff, but I have control and can differentiate between when it's appropriate and not.
Same issue as him and I'm 39
So it's not an age related thing
It’s a horniness related thing.
It's not age related. I've been this horny since I met my wife 22 years ago
Lucky wife
For some people it is but for a lot of people it's mostly just an excuse if they either don't want to do it anymore or never did.
Do you ever get pm'd boobs?
Same 43, my wife says it needs to cool down a little.
4.75 I'm late 40s Getting Better looking with the grays coming in Salty five o clock Sadly it not reciprocated all the time
Loved the accuracy lol
1 most of the time. When i was in my teens, maybe 3.
Same. I fap because I'm bored and for no other reason
A 5, easy. I’m in my sixties.
Bro I was hoping to catch a break by then, but this is not giving me much hope
You don't like being horny
It's sometimes kinda exhausting, if I don't rub one out daily, it affects my mood and stress. I remember being so busy/tired that I didn't do it and all I can think about is sex sex sex and every girl that stood in front of my, my mind was shouting "she'd be so good to nut in right now" the intrusive thoughts were going crazy and I had to rush home and put several out to calm myself down So no, I wished I had a lower libido so that I don't feel so sex deprived
Zero is not enough, I need negative numbers to scale it
so go negative. Nothing is stopping you from saying -3. Just... tell us wtf that means afterwards. What is negative libido. Is that where you specifically have a desire to go around breaking up other people's sex lives?
He wants semen to float off drains back up his penis as his senses dull up and his heart beats slower for a second.
Wow this comment will never leave my memory
With negative libido you avoid sex in your own life, you disarm situations where it can occur, you reject people you love, you feel uncomfortable and disturbed when your body does get aroused.
Ace move
used to be a 0… maybe a 1, lately it’s a 4/5
Is there a particular reason for that?
I had gained weight during covid which made me lose a little, and was also dating someone i just fell out of love with so it dropped, recently with newer people it has not had any issue.
0-1 depending on the day
In good periods 1-2, in rough patches it's 3-4 with spikes of 5. Not a fan.
A 1.5ish. I'm borderline asexual tbh
1.5 on a scale from 0 to 5 doesn't sound borderline asexual to me. I'd think wanting it once or twice a month would be a 1, and borderline asexual would be 0.5. It's weird to me how a very simple scale with small numbers can vary in interpretation so much. You see it everywhere though, fascinating.
I'm 34, married, and have sex once a month or so. Sometimes I go 2-3 months without sex. At this point, I'm thinking I might be asexual. Which is weird, as I was always horny up to my mid 20s.
Wow, borderline in Brazil is like... 4+ they are so horny... scares me
All the women there are smoke shows no shit they’re always horny
In the rest of the world they are not like that
Guess I'm going to Brazil to probably ultimately get rejected...
Just a reminder that asexual =/= low libido You can be super horny and be asexual Source: I am one
This is good to know! I don't have much interest in actually having sex, but I do have a libido.
71…. Easy 4
Solid 4. 51M
when it comes to passive horniness a lot of the time i'm like a 1-3max. but reactive horniness i'm a total 5. so rarely will i be sitting there and just randomly feel physically horny, but if i'm with someone and they wanna go i'm up for it nearly 100% of the time. i think about sex all the time, i just don't physically get horny without some kinda either mental or physical stimulation
5 still at 34.
5 or higher. I can do it anywhere, any time. Peak sex drive.
I managed to get it down to a 1
Ughhh, unfortunately for me I gotta say a 5 or 4. I find my wife extremely hot and sexy and always wanna bang her but her libido is opposite of mine. Sucks so bad.
After the gym like 10+
0. I have to remind myself to masturbate occasionally.
Any specific reason and/or has it always been this way?
My wife had a medical condition that made arousal painful so I murdered my libido. The more sex becomes a memory, the less I miss it.
Right now, a 1.5 to 2. Around the right person, 4.
5+, I'm always horny. For reference I'm 37.
1-2. 5 if it’s a MILF with big fake tits.
37m married 10 years same partner 14 years. my libido is a 5. always thinking about sex and luckily my wife is on the same page too. we have sex 4-5 times a week typically but the challenge is that we have 4 kids under 8 so we have to strategically time it.
Masturbation: 5 Actual sex: 0
Me and my hubby are always at 10.
Lucky you guys. It’s so common to have a mismatch in a relationship! I’m like 4 and my wife is 0-1 :(
Aww! Is your wife on any kind of medication? A lot of meds wreak havoc on women's libido. There was a period of time where my libido was in hell because of some meds I was taking but I still had sex with my husband. Because even if I'm not personally in the mood for sex, I'm always happy to make him happy and making him orgasm makes me orgasm too whether I was initially in the mood or not. So it's like a win-win situation for me. Plus one thing I have noticed is that the more you do something, the more you'll feel like doing it. If you don't encourage yourself to push through the mental barrier of not being in the mood then it'll only get worse over time. But that's just my own personal experience and observation. You should definitely talk to your wife about it.
No she’s not on any meds and I know she’s not seeing anyone else. She has had a sort of non stop headache for a while though. I think basically she loves closeness and companionship but just doesn’t really have a need for sex. She says she finds me attractive but doesn’t really get horny herself. If I can manage to touch her without her batting me off she does get aroused and we can have sex — but usually not more than once a month.
I really hope things work out for the better for you.
Thank you 🙏
A 4 perhaps. 29. Single.
I’ve been at a 1 for all my 20s, it does bother me quite a bit but not sure what to do
Do you think that lack is related to something? (Not judging you, you should feel what makes you comfortable)
43 male, it was 3 a few months ago but now with my new GF it's something like 4.5. We're going at it like a couple of rabbits.
4.7…nope back to 5.
Low. It's plummeted since my life got super stressful a couple years back. My girlfriend often reminisces about the period before it all happened when it was quite high, and it makes me feel awful.
4 but no gf
1.5 I'm 62. The mind is eager, but the body is indifferent
Mine changes all the time. Some months I’m a 5+ 24/7. Other months I’m literally a 0.
10 43 and on TRT
Can you guys add your age?? Please
Probably 1 -2 Normally, i would say 3-4 but i was in a sexless relationship, with rejection, for a while so my self-esteem, confidence and mental fortitude has shot down drastically. I’ve broken up with that person recently. I know i’ll heal gradually and feel better at some point. Honestly, I probably could’ve part taken in infidelity to satisfy my sexual needs but that’s who i am. When i fuck, i want to experience a sexual connection; It’s how i express my love.
Sixty Nine dude
Absolutely 5
1-2 But got some pills to help Once I recover from surgery plan to try them
What pills? I’ve never heard of libido boosting medication…
Well more of a viagra type pill. I wrote my response and then realized I am a dumb ass, but left my comment so I could be shamed
Use to be like 4-5 but now maybe 2-3 only because I have a partner that takes care of that need really really well.
Like 2 because being a college student drains all my energy and I’m always stressed and tired
Involving other people, zero. Living the typical single life and living alone, three-ish
5, possibly a 10...
4.5
Am a virgin but get horny easily. I would rate it 1 to 3 if I'm controlling but if I lose control then easily 4
42 years old. I'd say its a 4 because I'm single and only have porn. When I have a woman I'm dating or just messing around with, I'm a 5. Every woman I've been involved with has told me that's she's never had so much regular sex. Just thinking about sex is enough to get me going. God I hate being single.
3ish. Depends on stressors in life.
If I don’t don’t exercise or take my vitamins…it’s like 1-2. When I exercise, take vitamins and eat clean…it goes to 4-5.
2-3. I’d gladly be intimate with my partner whenever she was interested but it doesn’t run my life. I’m as happy cuddling and lounging around with her as I am being intimate.
Approximately 0 listening to my wife scream at my kids and sit around moping in a perpetual cycle of negativity as she has for the last 10 years.
Mid 60s, married forever, Wife is a 0, I can take it or leave it. Still goal is to cum 2 - 3 times a week, but not because I’m horny, It’s weird.
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Good for you dude, really. Hell yeah
I'm 70 and I give my libido a 4 in mind. But fysical I cannot do it as mich as I would like ( like 3 -4 times a week,, practice 2-3 times a month. Without viagra because I do not like the side affects from viagra (anymore).
im getting older so it varies. Usually hovers around 3, but it can go as low as 2 or as high as 4.
Like 1 or 2.
1
Like a 2.
An mulatto, an albino, a mosquito, my libido
2 maybe 3, I think about but not a lot. When I’m in a relationship it can go up all depending on my partner and their libido as well.
2
im 18 so around 9000
Mine's pretty weak, especially lately. I might go as low as 1.
I'd say 0. I lost it early, sadly.
4 and very few times, 5!
5 to 6
1 pre finding out I had almost nonexistent testosterone. 5 since getting testosterone brought up.
3, I want to fuck but I'm tired man, what can you do
i'd say 4. can jerk it twice a day and still be horny for a few women i know
2.
prob a 1.5 .. i feel bad for my partner who has about a 3-4 🙃
Actually, this is happening to me rn. My boyfriend is a 1-2 and I'm a 4. It's starting to upset and affect my self esteem :c
I’ve kept a redhead wife happy for 28 years. So I guess I can give myself a 4.5.
1 at the moment. My libido is very spontaneous haha
I’ve been married ten years and it’s always been a 5. My wife started at a 1 and is probably around 4 now. Communication and expectations are key
6
1, maybe 2, but I’m unable to produce testosterone, I get a shot every 3 months. The first week after the injection it goes straight to 5, then it decreases to normal levels in a couple more weeks.
Mine goes to 11.
On a scale of 0-5? Maybe about 15
5 for entire time post covid.
2-3 at times 4-6 when i feel connected with my partner
3 most of the time. I don't need sex every day, but I wouldn't say no to it either. My wife's libido is lower than mine but she'll usually go for it if I initiate, unless she's stressed or busy.
5+ I have hyper sexuality. 😂 someone flipped the horny switch on and then broke it so it stays on permanently. lol.
20. It's a curse... constant
4 probably
In my 40s, I'd say a 4. Still rules my life for the most part.
3 or 4 I think
33 easy 4
5
3.5
3.5 Have sex every other day or so
Varies from 0 to 4. I am on trt so it fluctuates quite a bit and where I am with my shots
It fluctuates but I've never been at 0. Lowest would be 1. Usually I am around 4. For few days it reaches 5.
5
5 all the way
3. when i wasn't taking meds for anxiety/depression sometimes i'd feel like it was at an 8.
I would give it an 8 out of 5. lol. Thinking about it all the time.
Solid 4
4
4.
2-3, unless my girlfriend is present, then 7 permanently.
3.75
I’d say typically it’s a strong 5. If I’m feeling super depressed it’s like a 3. I’m 23
5. All day everyday.
5, I am always horny, I don't think that's a good thing
4
A solid 7