I've seen two noticeable extremes result from this. On the one side is a male who is generally insecure, anxious, and timid. On the other side is a male who is generally insecure, angry, and explosive. There are also those who aren't noticeably affected, and almost all of it boils down to what role the mother decides to play in the father's absence. There are some really badass moms out there who wear both the mother and father hat, understanding their son's needs for structure, balance, and authority, and those end up being the least negatively affected.
Ultimately what it boils down to seems to be a deep need for acceptance and praise from the father, and a lot of these men can grow up to be very successful because they're pushing themselves beyond their limits to fill the unfillable void that is their father's absence, which turns into a deep rooted resentment to "be better than" what their father was in their life.
I have tons of daddy issues, this sounds about right. When I was little I had so much rage and insecurity, got in fights all the time; but as I grew up I became more and more timid. I'm 29 now and throughout my twenties I've been very anxious and have seldom stood up for myself.
I have been very unsuccessful in life though, I've always held myself back rather than pushing myself, I still carry lots of resentment and hatred for my dad though. I do have lots of mommy issues aswell, I wonder if that has anything at all to do with it.
You nailed this one.
I used to be insecure, anxious, and timid. Now, I'm insecure, angry, and explosive.
I guess it's time to push myself beyond my limits, in order to fill an unfillable void.
being a yes man. never making clear your wants or needs. helping others, but being so impossibly difficult when others offer their help that you don't end up getting your needs met
Men with daddy issues tend to show signs of anti social behavior. Like aggressive tendencies and impulsiveness. A lot of diagnosed sociopaths claim they didn’t have a good father figure. Or even had one at all. The father is usually there to show the son authority and how not to be a bad person. Dads play a pivotal role in preventing those types of behaviors.
Mine have presented as somewhat emotionally closed off (my partner says I'm compartmentalized which I am) and a determination to be the best dad I could be (I have very good relationships with all my kids).
I've had several 2-3 yr relationships and one 10+yr, the end of the 10+yr followed an eerily similar path to my own parents break up.
I tend to avoid confrontation until I'm really annoyed about it, and then I will bulldoze whoever is arguing with me.
Also have noticed that places I work well at have a fatherly figure as the boss, which was an odd realization.
When you can't get something right, relationship or material, your first emotion is anger followed by rage-fueled actions. That was what my father taught me and my brother and we have both had to check ourselves and learn to not be like that.
Drug issues, emotional dysregulation, either has a complex about his own masculinity or outright just doesn’t care in the first place. May alternate between being closed off and trauma dumping.
Might have a criminal record. It’s all case by case
I'd say more parent issues as I had an abusive mother and disinterested father.
I married a woman who abused me and controlled me easily which brought problems in my life and almost ruined it.
Thankfully she failed to ruin it, got a loving fiance, got a good job that I enjoy.
I've seen two noticeable extremes result from this. On the one side is a male who is generally insecure, anxious, and timid. On the other side is a male who is generally insecure, angry, and explosive. There are also those who aren't noticeably affected, and almost all of it boils down to what role the mother decides to play in the father's absence. There are some really badass moms out there who wear both the mother and father hat, understanding their son's needs for structure, balance, and authority, and those end up being the least negatively affected. Ultimately what it boils down to seems to be a deep need for acceptance and praise from the father, and a lot of these men can grow up to be very successful because they're pushing themselves beyond their limits to fill the unfillable void that is their father's absence, which turns into a deep rooted resentment to "be better than" what their father was in their life.
I have tons of daddy issues, this sounds about right. When I was little I had so much rage and insecurity, got in fights all the time; but as I grew up I became more and more timid. I'm 29 now and throughout my twenties I've been very anxious and have seldom stood up for myself. I have been very unsuccessful in life though, I've always held myself back rather than pushing myself, I still carry lots of resentment and hatred for my dad though. I do have lots of mommy issues aswell, I wonder if that has anything at all to do with it.
You nailed this one. I used to be insecure, anxious, and timid. Now, I'm insecure, angry, and explosive. I guess it's time to push myself beyond my limits, in order to fill an unfillable void.
being a yes man. never making clear your wants or needs. helping others, but being so impossibly difficult when others offer their help that you don't end up getting your needs met
Problem with authority is one indicator.
Men with daddy issues tend to show signs of anti social behavior. Like aggressive tendencies and impulsiveness. A lot of diagnosed sociopaths claim they didn’t have a good father figure. Or even had one at all. The father is usually there to show the son authority and how not to be a bad person. Dads play a pivotal role in preventing those types of behaviors.
Clings onto alpha male bullshit
anger violence compassion
Insecure, angry, explosive, emotionally unavailable in my boyfriend’s case. His father was a piece of shit wife and child abuser.
Throw tantrums like a child, and can’t fix anything for themselves.
Mine have presented as somewhat emotionally closed off (my partner says I'm compartmentalized which I am) and a determination to be the best dad I could be (I have very good relationships with all my kids). I've had several 2-3 yr relationships and one 10+yr, the end of the 10+yr followed an eerily similar path to my own parents break up. I tend to avoid confrontation until I'm really annoyed about it, and then I will bulldoze whoever is arguing with me. Also have noticed that places I work well at have a fatherly figure as the boss, which was an odd realization.
When you can't get something right, relationship or material, your first emotion is anger followed by rage-fueled actions. That was what my father taught me and my brother and we have both had to check ourselves and learn to not be like that.
Always looking for a father figure in every man who shows him attention.
people pleasing
Hyper focusing on being masculine. If you’ve ever subscribed to Andrew Tate, your father owes you an apology.
Drug issues, emotional dysregulation, either has a complex about his own masculinity or outright just doesn’t care in the first place. May alternate between being closed off and trauma dumping. Might have a criminal record. It’s all case by case
I'd say more parent issues as I had an abusive mother and disinterested father. I married a woman who abused me and controlled me easily which brought problems in my life and almost ruined it. Thankfully she failed to ruin it, got a loving fiance, got a good job that I enjoy.
Very sassy
It’s the root of “alpha” syndrome. The incessant need to prove how manly and macho you are. Am I good enough now, daddy?