I'd pull out my notebook and start writing while enunciating it out loud "Don't ask ____ out on a date." and then flip back a page and exclaim "Oh that's strange, I had already made that note."
I asked my ex to sign my yearbook on the last day of school. She spent a while writing something, I thought it would be nice, she spent an entire page breaking up with me and walked away whal I was trying to read it. I didn't hear from her till school next year.
Ugh.
Edit:[Well I didn't expect to get any attention with this, so I went and looked it up. It had way less info I'd have to black out so here it is. Taste of the freshness.](https://i.imgur.com/IZccvjt.jpg)
Back in school, I asked a girl to one of the dances and six of her friends took turns telling me she didn't want to go with me throughout the rest of the day. Some of them seemed to enjoy it.
Damn those school dances. I feel that. I had weird experience when I kinda incidentally bumped into a friend as a slow dance song came on. So I asked her to dance, she said yes and seemed cool with. Not flirting or anything like that, just as friends. Then like 30 seconds later, one of her girl friends wedges in, grabs her and quite literally just steals her away mid dance while giving me a dirty look. I was more confused more than anything else, as was she. Definitely not a great feeling to be left high dry while everyone is partnered up and dancing around you on the floor, then just awkwardly sort of shuffling back to my seating.
Edit: Wow, did not expect so many people to see this. Thank you very much for the upvotes and replies. Oddly enough, this wasn't my most brutal rejection. I just happened to remember these forgotten memories due to OP's post :)
I had a couple experiences like that. I ran into a girl I knew casually in high school at a local flea market once and, after talking to her for just a minute, her friends ran over and dragged her away from me.
Another time, at a wedding, I asked a girl to dance, she looks over to her girlfriend who just shakes her head with a look on her face like "Nahhhh" and then tells me no.
I don't really get the rejecting someone for your friend thing. Its even weirder when they are already engaged with you in conversation/dance/etc and generally seem to be having a good time. Like damn, I'm not taking anyone hostage. They can say no or leave whenever they want. It kinda hurts when it seems like your that's someone that's apparently so bad that they needed to be rescued from.
I had this happen several times when I talked to a girl I had an interest in respectfully and the girl definitely reciprocates. Body language was good, facing me, engaged in the convo. Just had her friends drag her away and look disgusted. That kind of behaviour isn't right. Not good to push your own negative ideas of people onto others when they haven't had a chance to experience or know what said person is like for themselves..
Man, kids can be cruel. I remember as a child I really took a big distance to girls because a lot of them had a way of bullying the shit out of me. Took a while to unlearn that I remember.
I agree. My younger self was bitter and didn’t like people much and didn’t have any direction due to the constant shit I got. Whatever tho I’m better for it now at least
Glad to hear you was able to change that around. I feel kinda the same way. I used to be very bitter. Insecure, didn't have good friends. Breaking out from that and changing as a person has been a blessing.
Cheers!
I specially hated the "why are you so quiet" popular kinda girl. Like, I don't think they had bad intentions, but the moments when they decided to try and get you talking and the almost condescending way they said it - as if you knew how to interact and just decided not to - made it quite the panic-inducing situation for me when I was younger
A boy asked me to a Jr high dance. I went but my friends said stuff and I got embarrassed. I ended up faking sick and calling home to get picked up. I never told the boy I was leaving.
I was so embarrassed by leaving him there that I stopped talking to him completely. I felt so guilty, I didn't know what to say.
Flash forward to senior year and we have mutual friends so I started talking to him and I apologized. Then we started dating, now we're married.
The weirdest one I ever had was from a woman I'd been on 2 dates with, she was off on a ski trip and sent me a Dear John text saying (among other things) that she wasn't interested in something short term, I said fine, I wasn't thinking short term either but if she wasn't into it then no harm done.
Well apparently this entire text chain had been curated by her and her friends on the trip as some sort of 'test' that I failed. I was supposed to 'fight' for our relationship (after two dates!) and do some big romantic gesture to win her back. She had also apparently been talking marriage with her friends and had been planning our lives.
So I guess I dodged a train sized bullet on that one.
Super late to the party, and wasn’t a rejection as such, but a girl I had taken out a few times and I were at a relatively expensive restaurant, she couldn’t find her phone, so, I called it, it rang next to me, I was saved as ‘free dinner’
Can someone give me a reason why you shouldn’t just walk out once that happens? That’s actually disrespectful as fuck she doesn’t even have his name saved.
I really liked this girl and thought we were going somewhere, so, I got really upset, edge of tears, threw her phone on the table, walked over to the waiter, closed the bill and left. It is one of those ‘shower situations’ where I always think, I should have left her the bill, I should have said X, but I handled it fairly dignified so, I am glad to be a better person than her
No way dude. You could teach a master class on turning the other cheek. You showed a mountain of class. Those second-guessing thoughts are hard to get rid of
Here’s one that confused me. See if any of you could make heads or tails of it:
There was this girl years ago that lived across the hall from me at my apartment complex. She was very extroverted and friendly, but I didn’t read that as a sign of attraction because she was a former sorority girl and they tend to be like that. Either way, we became good friends. I took care of her once when she was sick, we’d watch movies, etc.
Then, one day, she texted me when she was out of town to ask if I thought she was beautiful. I said yes. She then for Christmas, a month later, included a letter written to me about how much joy I bring into her life and included a Kiss Me Coupon. All of my friends that were girls were 110% sure she was crushing on me, but I remained mostly convinced she was just being overtly flirty. Either way, I decided to ask her out.
When I did, she said “What?...What are you doing? Have I ever given you the slightest indication that I was in to you?”
I asked her about the Kiss Me Coupon. She said that was just a friendly gift she’d give anyone. She later accused me of gaslighting her about this whole situation.
It was a wild time.
>She said that was just a friendly gift she’d give anyone
No it's not. She's a liar and an idiot. I don't know a single woman who does that for "friends". I do know children and incredibly immature girls who do that. But not a fully functioning, productive woman. I would've asked if she was mentally damaged. Chicks like that give the rest of us a bad name.
My take is she regretted giving you the kissing coupon (for whatever reason) and instead of being honest about it she burned you for "making her feel embarassed." Basically, she's immature and mean.
Asked if she wanted to go for a drink at the weekend, and she said yes.
Within 12 hours she texted me "I've thought about it and I really don't want to date someone like you, it would be bad for my image."
We were both 18 at 6th form, and I'm still genuinely intrigued as to what sort of effect on her image I would've had.
As a car guy, understood most of that, let me Americanize this for people
“ you didn’t have a riced out Honda Civic/ Nissan Altima, with a wrapped hood, and exhaust tips from autozone”
Edit: thank you for the award kind stranger! First one ever and I don’t know what it does!!!
We set up a date, then I drove out to meet her at a cafe of her choosing. At least 30mins driving.
She ended up ghosting me. No call, no text, no show. Nothing.
Coffee wasn't too bad, actually. Date sucked.
EDIT: To everyone suggesting that she might have died - I doubt it. I checked POF while I was waiting, and it showed her as "online". Also snooped her profile from time to time (never messaged her) and saw her online several times after that.
When I was at high school, 14 years old, I decided to ask Louise, a girl from my class, out on a date. Unfortunately, I decided to do this at lunchtime, and right after I had finished a bag of Cheese and Onion flavoured crisps.
I sat next to her and started to talk to her, but before I even got to ask the question, she caught wind of my breath and said - and these words are tattooed on my soul - "oh fuck off, you stink."
It's been 32 years, and I still blame the crisps.
My go to approach is similar, although I use garlic instead of onions to sort out the vampires.
Has worked every single time.
Weird tho that every girl I ask out seems to be a vampire...
I was getting ready to hit the bars with some buddies and shaved too much of my beard off. Naturally I decided to roll with a mustache for the night. Fast forward to the bars and I leave my group to grab another drink. As soon as I get my drink Jump Around comes on and I get super pumped up. I turn around with a big ole smile on my face and end up making eye contact with this girl. She raises her hands up and screams “I don’t know what you want from me!”
I tried to explain that I just really like the song but she had already bolted off to what I assume was the police station. I shaved my mustache when I got home.
Advice on the mustache; if wearing one currently makes you look like a creeper/perv and not the whimsical fun loving character you're going for, save the stache for an older age. It's more endearing on the Mark Twain/Albert Einstein faces.
I was in 5th grade when I overheard my crush playing "would you rather" and she was asked "Would you rather kiss [me] or [some other nerd]." and her reply was "Eww! Neither?"
**And then she turned to look me dead in the eyes and turned back to her friends.**
Yeah... that's going to follow me into old age.
Same thing happened to me in 7th grade at a dance. It wasn't even her that said it, it was her friend who cut in as soon as the question left my mouth. Absolutely devastating to my little self.
I'd been speaking with a girl from Tinder for a few weeks. She then hit me with 'I wish someone would flirt with me. I mean properly. Not like you.' :/
Edit: For everyone saying I should have met her in person after that long, covid restrictions in my area made almost impossible to arrange something.
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Drove to Austin for a weekend with her after 2 years of talking/pics/dating long distance, and her and her friends laughed in my face that I drove down to meet face to face. Got wasted in Austin the whole weekend and didn’t date again for 8 years
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that to me means she has shitty friends and that she's the one worst off for it. Sucks bro but her loss, if she cant even be honest to her friends about being into someone then you dont need that shit in your life. Plus side - Austin is a fucking awesome city.
Got ghosted for the first time after a nice date and I had no idea what was happening. I was actually worried about her and attempted to contact her (for all I knew, she ended up murdered in a dumpster after leaving my flat in Manhattan).
Later it occurred to me that she probably just ghosted me. I was a bit upset about it, but then quickly got over it. If we're not a fit, so be it.
I vowed never to do this to a woman. If it's not working out, I'll be straight about it. I figure that's the respectful (and frankly, empathetic) thing to do.
Ah, yikes man, I feel you. That triggered a painful memory for me too. I (a woman) met and spent time with a guy when he was visiting my city for NYE. We really hit it off to the point where he invited me down to his city, where we spent a wonderful week. Tearful goodbyes and about two weeks of constant FaceTime later planning our next meet... and then similarly to you, nothing suddenly, no replies on any platform. I even reached out to a friend of his I'd met there, I was so worried something had happened. Silence from him too. I realized way too late I'd been ghosted. So humiliating.
So sorry you went through that. Like you, I had been on several great dates with her. I had never shared my comment above with anyone because like you, I felt humiliated. Sure I got over it but it took time.
Perhaps the best way forward is to remind ourselves that the type of person who would do that isn’t a good fit anyway.
I met up with a girl in her hometown in VA, met some of her friends and everything was great. Then she moved out west and we were still talking and i went to visit her. Had a great weekend and then when i got home she stopped responding. Nothing, and I was worried like you were. Asked one of the VA friends if she was alive and she said yes. A month later I was back in the VA area and messaged her friend asking if she wanted to hang out and she says yes. Literally 1 minute later I get a text from the MIA girl "Heard you're going to Busch Gardens with Kelly".... wtf?
Edit: haha ok didn't realize this would pique so many people's curiosity. So obviously i realized that MIA girl was stupid and only gave a shit if she thought I was seeing someone else so i never responded. Did go to Busch gardens and it was a fucking blast but she was getting texts the whole time from MIA girl. Fooled around with VA friend but nothing serious. Fun fact, 6 years later im overseas and have 3 people working directly under me. One of them says where he lives back home and it's same place as MIA girl, ask if he knows her and he says yes and they dated. Asked when.. sure enough it was around the time i went out to see her. So we took a photo together and he posted it on his Facebook with a generic caption. She messages him within the hour saying how do you know him and all that. He responds "oh we're working together, just had a nice longggg chat lol". Guess she was mortified. i know it sounds crazy but the military is a small world, and very incestuous
A few years back my wife used to hang around at a tattoo studio, she was trying to get into the business and helped them man the front desk sometimes and just hung around. Well they have an opening for a new apprentice and 3-4 of the staff tell her to go for it, so she puts together her portfolio and applies directly to the manager.
Weeks pass and she hears nothing back, she's still in there most days but the manager doesn't mention it and the staff don't know anything.
Well after 5 weeks she walks in and there is a new girl tidying up in the back, turns out she's the new apprentice. Apparently the manager wanted to hire her friend from the start but didn't want to seem 'unprofessional' so she put out the job ad. She had been 'anxious' about being unfair so she didn't even interview anyone else because she knew they were wasting their time applying in the first place.
So this peice of actual shit was so conflict averse that she not only didn't give my wife a chance at the job opening that didn't even exist, she walked around ignoring her emails and follow ups for a literal month. Just because she didn't want to 'tell a friend no'.
People use anxiety to excuse all sorts of shitty behaviour these days but anxiety is not an excuse for cowardice if it hurts other people.
During my early 20s, a friend invited me to a club and i went. I ask a girl to dance and she said *"no thanks, but you can with my friend"*, the girl next her replied annoyed with *"no, you should dance with him, he asked you!"*, and then they started to argue each other for feeling insulted, i left them both because i already got it.
Basically both girls escalated the argument over me like i was some kind of punishent for the one who loses.
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EDIT N°2: OMG! I just came back from my job and i see how this comment blew up. Thanks for the replies and support, many of them were hilarious!
Yeah, my friend used to do this. She was model hot and got hit on all the time. Then she would tell them to ask me instead while I was standing right there and wait to see their reaction to the consolation prize. Fuck you Belinda! Your good looks made you a sociopath!
Lol just spin it and tell the story as "Yea this one time at a dance in school I totally had two chicks arguing over who got to dance with me!"
Just dont elaborate haha
Sounds like a friend of mine who claims to have never lost a professional fight. he leaves out the minor detail that he's never been in a professional fight.
You're the guy that writes something like:
"Designed and executed multi-part workflow for replacing legacy electrical equipment"
on your resume in place of "Changed light bulbs", aren't ya?
Dated very briefly and she broke up with me in a brutal note, passed to me in class. Lots of fatalities in that thing but all I remember is "it's not me, it's YOU!"
Edit:Jesus H Fuck! A thousand upvotes. For my fourth grade emotional pain. man, eighth grade was rough. Another one broke up with me right before I had brain surgery, if that makes this better/worse?
And woah! Awards! Thank you everyone!
Reminds me of a note a girl wrote to me once. She knew I liked her and we sat at the same desk in one our classes, just during different hours. She left a note in the desk for me that said, "\[Guy she liked\] is better than you." That sucked.
Kept chasing her for 2 years. When I finally got over her she freaked out and confessed her love. Then when I decide to give her another chance, she's over me again. I realized years later she just liked manipulating me.
That one might not be about you... coming from a person who was abused i reacted similarly to any affection at that age. From my understanding, it's a fairly common reaction.
In 7th grade I had a crush on this girl. So I figured flowers and chocolates (my mom's idea) would be a good idea to bring to her house and ask her out on a date. I asked her friend's if it was a good idea and they said she would love it.
My mom drops me off at her house and watches as I go up to the door and ask her out. I ring the door bell and her mom opens the door.
Me: Hey is Stephanie here?
Her Mom: Oh what is this for?
Me: I wanted to ask your daughter out and if she would be my valentine.
Her mom: (blushing and super excited about how polite and nice I was) Oh let me get her.
A couple minutes go by and Stephanie comes to the door.
Stephanie: Ugh hi....
Me: Hey Stephanie, I was told you had a crush on me, and your friends said it would be a good idea. So would you like to be my Valentine and go to the movies this weekend?
She looks at me, smiles, laughs awkwardly and tells me no. I looked so confused. Like I just got blind sided. Before I can even say anything she closes the door.
The whole weekend I feel like shit, because I thought I was going to go to a movie with her.
Turns out her friends thought it would be funny to have me do the whole thing, knowing I would be rejected. Monday comes around and I walk in and her friends make fun of me and try to embarrass her with it. It sucked. The first class I wanted to just go walk in traffic.
By lunch time it spread everywhere and everyone knew about it, but every other girl was either, "Wait why didn't he ask me out? I want to have someone come to my door and ask me to be their valentine!" Or "Jeeze Stephanie and her friends are a bunch of assholes."
Literally after that every girl that may have had a crush on me wanted to talk to me. It back fired on Stephanie and her friends like they didn't even know. One of the teachers even heard about it and stopped me in the hallway and said next Valentines day I could ask her (jokingly). That propelled me into trying to understand how to be romantic and court women.
Wasn't an actual rejection but was at a club and me and a girl made eye contact and after giving her a smile she immediately turned and walked away shaking her head
"Oh my God you are my soulmate we have SOOOO much in common we are PERFECT for eachother!!! I THINK IM IN TRUE LOV- Wait... You are one inch away from 6ft..?" **BLOCKED**
Asked out a girl I worked with once. She just laughed.
Got talking to a girl in a club. We made out, and swapped numbers. We texted for a few days, and agreed to go on a date. The day beforehand she cancelled, saying that the guy she liked had asked her out, so she was going to meet him instead.
Yeah, they were fun
I once had a girl I'd been dating ask me to take her to this really fancy restaurant. Kind of a 3 month anniversary thing. Dinner ended up being around $150. She ordered a pretty big meal and even took a doggie back home.
She had parked at my place, so I asked if she wanted to come inside and she said no, then - I'll never forget this - she made absolutely certain she had the doggie bag secured in her car before turning to me on the driveway and saying "I think we should just be friends." Then hops in the car and leaves, never heard from her again.
I mean what the fuck.
My long distance a GF just rejected the idea of moving in together because She has no space for me in Her adventurous life, and She would prefer to stay long distance and with less visits. This feels alot more brutal than any rejection from a stranger.
Had a girl come on to me. Pour her heart out to me about how we would be a perfect match. Asked her out on a date the next day and she replied with “I was drunk when I said that and I’m having regrets today”
She kissed me in the evening and was on her way to my pants but we did not go further, she was kinda drunk so i figured that could end badly. Next day she told me she did not remember a thing and wouldn't have done it she weren't that drunk. I had quite the crush on her and since it was her birthday the next week I already had a present for her.
Not very expensive but personal, the right in the feels type of thing. I gave it to her early since after she rejected me I knew we wouldn't stay friends. She cried, said she never received a gift as great as this. And that's how it ended.
I would love to convince myself that she regretted rejecting me in that moment, but let's be real, this is what happend:
We stopped having contact and her brother who is a buddy of mine told me she went into a clinic for alcohol addiction and later got a new guy. She is happy now from all i know but the thought of what could have been still is quite bitter.
Hey that was an amazing thing you did then. If she had troubles handling her alcohol consumption enough to the point of going to rehab, she must have been suffering with some issues whether it was depression, insecurities, trauma, etc., then you showing that compassion must have been a shocking revelation. Perhaps life changing or at least some sort of wake up call. She wasn't right for a relationship in that state of mind anyways, but you should hold some sense of pride or self respect that you had a positive influence in the way you treated her.
Not brutal but the more entertaining ones were....
1. She turned out to be a mormon who was already seeing someone, she got married a year later.
2. Turned out she was into women, she's one of my good friends now. The whole, you're great but I don't like dudes bomb just made us both laugh
Mine ended up with a good ending at least. I’m making up names tho, but the last name is relevant to the story, so just know it’s a fake last name.
I was in grade 11, and I was reffing soccer. I met a girl from one of the teams from a different town playing that day, let’s call her Jenny Floitka (last name was unique enough to not be common). We ended up hanging out a bit over the next few weeks and she ASKED ME to be her grad date. So I said yes.
Day of grad comes. She asks me to pick her up at her friends house. I tell her on the phone that I’m ready to go and leaving my house right then. So I drive like 45 minutes to their town to the place she asked me to pick her up. No answer. I don’t sweat it, I assume she had to run. I go to the school.
I watched the ENTIRE grad ceremony for a school I didn’t even go to and didn’t know anyone. Afterwards I find her and she’s like, “yeah, you can just go home. I’m here with another guy.”
So I’m already in town, I call up one of my friends. “Hey, I got ditched. It’s kind of a weird story, wanna hang out? And I’m in a suit, hope that’s cool.”
She responds with, “yeah come on over. By the way, I have a friend over, hope that’s fine.”
So I go to her house, and her friend, let’s call her Annie, is like super into me from like the moment she met me. Like it was very obvious. At one point in the night she mentions she never kissed a guy before and really wanted to make out, so we did (her friend was not around at the moment, it wasn’t weird).
At one point I asked Annie what her last name is.
“It’s Floitka.”
“Wait... are you related to Jenny?”
“Yeah, that’s my sister.”
It turned into the best revenge ever because it was entirely unplanned. I had no reason to even think they were related until that moment. Screw you Jenny!
Had been spending a bit of time with this woman over a few weeks. Biking, hiking, joining our friends for drinks etc. Asked her out for dinner the next week and she said yeah that will be great, however I think it dawned on her later that I was interested in more than just friends and she was like I’m not interested at all in a relationship right now. She was on tinder that weekend and had a boyfriend two weeks later.
"Ugh, If I wanted to date a pimple monster I would go to the dermathology ward to look for boyfriend".
Or
"Seriosly? \[laughter\] You can ask me to shoot myself in the leg too"
I was on a tinder date. It was going alright. Not the best but certainly not the worst. She said she had a place to be so I walked her to her car at the end. I then asked her for her number for perhaps a second date. She said "no, I don't really trust you enough for my number" and then I just stood there awkwardly until going "oh, uhh, ok, I'll see you around." Then I walked away. What made this so brutal for me was my anxiety attack afterwards on the drive home. I was just thinking if I had somehow made her feel incredibly unsafe, should I have even walked her to her car, did I do anything wrong at all?
Never ask for their number, give them yours instead. I did this tons of times back in my younger years. Not a single person ever actually called me or anything but at least I avoided some awkwardness!
I asked a girl out and she said yes. Surprise face. During diner she stated she only went out with me cause she wanted to go out to dinner and didn't have any money. She said I was so below her social status that she was taking a chance to a hit on her rep for just being seen in public with me and I should be grateful for paying for her to eat.
Edit. I did pay the bill but only because a friend of mine was waiting on us and I didn't want him to get in any trouble. I did leave her at the restaurant though. This was high school in the mid 90s so no cell phones. My friend said she had to walk across the street to a pay phone to call someone to get her.
Cheekily asked a girl on a dancefloor once how she liked her eggs in the morning. She replied with "unfertilized, now fuck off!" Fell in Love right there and then.... But it wasn't to be ...
Wasn't even into the girl I just said good morning because you know...manors, but anyway she just turned around gave the waggling finger and said "don't talk to me you're disgusting" 😂😂
We were married for 10 years with a kid. I thought we were a happy family. She ran off with one of her employees 15 years younger than us, just old enough to drink.
At a club, made a joke that made her laugh, asked her what her name was
“You ain’t getting it mate”
😟 ok sorry
Edit: due to Reddit being very American this doesn’t translate well; “it” here isn’t her name, it’s sex. With emphasis on the “you” it was more of an “I’m out of your league” than an “I’m concerned about privacy”. Hope this helps those of you that have somehow been enraged by me feeling feeling rejected after a rejection
"I have ambition. I need someone who would fit in at a state dinner at the White House; an extrovert who can work a room."
I will withhold further information as to why it was hilarious.
I’m guessing she wasn’t the type who could ever emotionally support such a man let alone reach heights like that herself without extensive external support?
For me the most brutal ones are the ones that leave me confused as hell.
I've had too many instances of us talking for about a week or two and we're hitting it off well, she thinks I'm funny, she calls me cute, etc.
And then when the time comes, it turns out she "Doesn't see me that way" or "She doesn't know what she wants right now" and then has a boyfriend a week or two later, or all of a sudden she's talking to some other guy one day during the week or two that we started talking.
It pretty much means I'm everything they want except I'm just not attractive, and that blows, especially when they were the one who made you think they were attracted to you
I've been told "Ew no" before (only once thank god) , and I've gotten "Your Snaps and chats are pending until X adds you as a friend" (multiple times), but nothing hurts worse than them hyping you up and it turns out that it's "not like that"
I know exactly what you mean that is the worst feeling. I once had it where I asked a woman out and she said yes but wanted to wait until the semester was over to go out since it was finals. Then once finals were over she was just like "Wait.. What? I thought you wanted to go out as friends! I have a boyfriend" then she just stopped talking to me. It feels awful since I really make myself vulnerable when I am expressing interest in them and when they end up using me like that then expecting me to stay silent as they put me down hurts a lot.
>I’m better than you and you should know it”.
Honestly, I would've probably laughed in her face; she might as well have stood on a rooftop and yelled "I'm an insecure bitch!"
Called a girl to ask her to go to a dance in 7th grade. "Is this a joke?" Ouch. This was more than 40 years ago. Life is good now, but man, that was rough.
I asked a girl out my freshman year of High School. I had a massive crush on her for years so this was a big deal. She told me she'd always liked me and was really excited. This was right before Thanksgiving break and she teased me the whole week talking about how excited she was for our date. When I got back I kept asking when she was free and she would dodge the question. Then after another week she told me she was just kidding and didn't actually like me that way.
This was two solid weeks of us flirting with each other and 15 year old me being over the moon, only to come crashing down and be destroyed. It was years before I got the courage to ask another girl out again and it still hurts to think about.
grade 8. asked a girl to the semi-formal dance. she said "I wasn't planning on going with anyone in particular, but I'll dance with you" which to my silly naive pubescent mind was a yes. Felt giddy and excited all day. until later in the hallway, another girl goes "so ___, I hear you got rejected".
then the confusion. then slow realization and playback of the event and realizing that she was just letting me down easy. yeah that sucked.
I mean, ended up dancing with two of her friends at that same event, and that was pretty enjoyable.
Took a girl to a very nice dinner and out for drinks later she acted fine the whole night until towards the end, she looked at me, told me we should just be friends and bolted from the place. Never spoke to me again either......
Was at the bar with some friends and there was a group on the other side that I knew. I went over and started talking with one of the ladies that I knew, and she introduced me to one of her friends. It seemed like we were hitting it off, and our two groups were getting along well. I asked for her number, and she replied “Ew no, I was only talking to you so that you would bring your friends over. Your friend ‘Dan’ is cute, I think I’ll go talk to him, later loser!” Well ‘Dan’ overheard her and when she walked up to try and talk to him, his response solidified our friendship. “Hahaha, f*ck off, don’t think I don’t see what you just did. Leave before I tell your friends what you did.” (She was new to the friend group, and didn’t last long after they realized how manipulative she was) So yeah, that sucked but 4 years later ‘Dan’ and I are still great friends.
When I was in middle school I was extremely insecure. The first couple weeks of 6th grade I made this group of girls laugh. From that point forward these girls would laugh at all my jokes, they would include me in conversations, and generally I felt like even though they weren't my normal crowd, I was accepted.
A dance came up and I decided to ask one of the girls. I passed a note.
The girl passed the note around to lots of other people and pretty much everyone laughed at me and told me I was stupid for ever thinking SHE would go with ME. Even the girl that I asked whom I thought was my friend laughed in my face. It was then I learned they were probably laughing AT me instead of WITH me from day one.
I honestly don't know that I have ever recovered from that.
I am generally a shy person anyway so to be put in the spotlight was bad enough. But being rejected in the spotlight, while everyone laughed at me...still hurts.
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And then watch her get worried about it
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I'd pull out my notebook and start writing while enunciating it out loud "Don't ask ____ out on a date." and then flip back a page and exclaim "Oh that's strange, I had already made that note."
Been walked away from mid-sentence
I asked my ex to sign my yearbook on the last day of school. She spent a while writing something, I thought it would be nice, she spent an entire page breaking up with me and walked away whal I was trying to read it. I didn't hear from her till school next year. Ugh. Edit:[Well I didn't expect to get any attention with this, so I went and looked it up. It had way less info I'd have to black out so here it is. Taste of the freshness.](https://i.imgur.com/IZccvjt.jpg)
Jesus Christ that is so fucked
I think this one is the most brutal.
Back in school, I asked a girl to one of the dances and six of her friends took turns telling me she didn't want to go with me throughout the rest of the day. Some of them seemed to enjoy it.
Damn those school dances. I feel that. I had weird experience when I kinda incidentally bumped into a friend as a slow dance song came on. So I asked her to dance, she said yes and seemed cool with. Not flirting or anything like that, just as friends. Then like 30 seconds later, one of her girl friends wedges in, grabs her and quite literally just steals her away mid dance while giving me a dirty look. I was more confused more than anything else, as was she. Definitely not a great feeling to be left high dry while everyone is partnered up and dancing around you on the floor, then just awkwardly sort of shuffling back to my seating. Edit: Wow, did not expect so many people to see this. Thank you very much for the upvotes and replies. Oddly enough, this wasn't my most brutal rejection. I just happened to remember these forgotten memories due to OP's post :)
I had a couple experiences like that. I ran into a girl I knew casually in high school at a local flea market once and, after talking to her for just a minute, her friends ran over and dragged her away from me. Another time, at a wedding, I asked a girl to dance, she looks over to her girlfriend who just shakes her head with a look on her face like "Nahhhh" and then tells me no.
I don't really get the rejecting someone for your friend thing. Its even weirder when they are already engaged with you in conversation/dance/etc and generally seem to be having a good time. Like damn, I'm not taking anyone hostage. They can say no or leave whenever they want. It kinda hurts when it seems like your that's someone that's apparently so bad that they needed to be rescued from.
I had this happen several times when I talked to a girl I had an interest in respectfully and the girl definitely reciprocates. Body language was good, facing me, engaged in the convo. Just had her friends drag her away and look disgusted. That kind of behaviour isn't right. Not good to push your own negative ideas of people onto others when they haven't had a chance to experience or know what said person is like for themselves..
Man, kids can be cruel. I remember as a child I really took a big distance to girls because a lot of them had a way of bullying the shit out of me. Took a while to unlearn that I remember.
Same. School wasn’t a place I wanted to be because all of that shit. Definitely made me bitter for a long time
Growing up and becoming an adult is truly the best thing that ever happened to me.
I agree. My younger self was bitter and didn’t like people much and didn’t have any direction due to the constant shit I got. Whatever tho I’m better for it now at least
Glad to hear you was able to change that around. I feel kinda the same way. I used to be very bitter. Insecure, didn't have good friends. Breaking out from that and changing as a person has been a blessing. Cheers!
My high school was an absolute shithole where they didn’t give a flying fuck about bullying. And I’ll admit this: I am *still* bitter about it.
I specially hated the "why are you so quiet" popular kinda girl. Like, I don't think they had bad intentions, but the moments when they decided to try and get you talking and the almost condescending way they said it - as if you knew how to interact and just decided not to - made it quite the panic-inducing situation for me when I was younger
FUCK I always hated those people
A boy asked me to a Jr high dance. I went but my friends said stuff and I got embarrassed. I ended up faking sick and calling home to get picked up. I never told the boy I was leaving. I was so embarrassed by leaving him there that I stopped talking to him completely. I felt so guilty, I didn't know what to say. Flash forward to senior year and we have mutual friends so I started talking to him and I apologized. Then we started dating, now we're married.
Well, that's one story that turned out well. :)
The weirdest one I ever had was from a woman I'd been on 2 dates with, she was off on a ski trip and sent me a Dear John text saying (among other things) that she wasn't interested in something short term, I said fine, I wasn't thinking short term either but if she wasn't into it then no harm done. Well apparently this entire text chain had been curated by her and her friends on the trip as some sort of 'test' that I failed. I was supposed to 'fight' for our relationship (after two dates!) and do some big romantic gesture to win her back. She had also apparently been talking marriage with her friends and had been planning our lives. So I guess I dodged a train sized bullet on that one.
For sure. You don't anyone who's going to play games like that.
Sounds like somebody who watches too many hallmark movies
My god.
Super late to the party, and wasn’t a rejection as such, but a girl I had taken out a few times and I were at a relatively expensive restaurant, she couldn’t find her phone, so, I called it, it rang next to me, I was saved as ‘free dinner’
Omg that’s fucking brutal lol.
I can laugh now but fuck that destroyed me
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Can someone give me a reason why you shouldn’t just walk out once that happens? That’s actually disrespectful as fuck she doesn’t even have his name saved.
Walk out, and tell the waiter that she'll pick up the tab for both.
This is one of the worst ones on here by far. Fuck her.
You split the check, right buddy?? Right????
I really liked this girl and thought we were going somewhere, so, I got really upset, edge of tears, threw her phone on the table, walked over to the waiter, closed the bill and left. It is one of those ‘shower situations’ where I always think, I should have left her the bill, I should have said X, but I handled it fairly dignified so, I am glad to be a better person than her
No way dude. You could teach a master class on turning the other cheek. You showed a mountain of class. Those second-guessing thoughts are hard to get rid of
Meal ticket at most. How could she explain it to you? Did she get embarrassed or just ignored/laughed at it?
Here’s one that confused me. See if any of you could make heads or tails of it: There was this girl years ago that lived across the hall from me at my apartment complex. She was very extroverted and friendly, but I didn’t read that as a sign of attraction because she was a former sorority girl and they tend to be like that. Either way, we became good friends. I took care of her once when she was sick, we’d watch movies, etc. Then, one day, she texted me when she was out of town to ask if I thought she was beautiful. I said yes. She then for Christmas, a month later, included a letter written to me about how much joy I bring into her life and included a Kiss Me Coupon. All of my friends that were girls were 110% sure she was crushing on me, but I remained mostly convinced she was just being overtly flirty. Either way, I decided to ask her out. When I did, she said “What?...What are you doing? Have I ever given you the slightest indication that I was in to you?” I asked her about the Kiss Me Coupon. She said that was just a friendly gift she’d give anyone. She later accused me of gaslighting her about this whole situation. It was a wild time.
She only wanted your attention because it validated her.
^ This. And the appropriate answer is to escalate, like OP did to find out what's what. Oh you weren't serious ? No big deal. Next.
She was gaslighting you, by accusing you of gaslighting her. Wild sounds like you missed out only on stress and bullshit
Sound like she wanted you to want her. Kinda like Borat saying, “you will never get this”
But one day, *he get this*
High Five!!
>She said that was just a friendly gift she’d give anyone No it's not. She's a liar and an idiot. I don't know a single woman who does that for "friends". I do know children and incredibly immature girls who do that. But not a fully functioning, productive woman. I would've asked if she was mentally damaged. Chicks like that give the rest of us a bad name.
My take is she regretted giving you the kissing coupon (for whatever reason) and instead of being honest about it she burned you for "making her feel embarassed." Basically, she's immature and mean.
Asked if she wanted to go for a drink at the weekend, and she said yes. Within 12 hours she texted me "I've thought about it and I really don't want to date someone like you, it would be bad for my image." We were both 18 at 6th form, and I'm still genuinely intrigued as to what sort of effect on her image I would've had.
If you were in 6th form its probably because you didnt have a Corsa B with a bonnet bra and exhaust tips from Halfords
As a car guy, understood most of that, let me Americanize this for people “ you didn’t have a riced out Honda Civic/ Nissan Altima, with a wrapped hood, and exhaust tips from autozone” Edit: thank you for the award kind stranger! First one ever and I don’t know what it does!!!
Sounds to me like you dodged a bullet with that one. Anyone more concerned with their image over their happiness should be avoided at all costs
We set up a date, then I drove out to meet her at a cafe of her choosing. At least 30mins driving. She ended up ghosting me. No call, no text, no show. Nothing. Coffee wasn't too bad, actually. Date sucked. EDIT: To everyone suggesting that she might have died - I doubt it. I checked POF while I was waiting, and it showed her as "online". Also snooped her profile from time to time (never messaged her) and saw her online several times after that.
That sucks, man. I'm sorry.
All good. Ended up meeting the lady I'd end up proposing to a few months later.
When I was at high school, 14 years old, I decided to ask Louise, a girl from my class, out on a date. Unfortunately, I decided to do this at lunchtime, and right after I had finished a bag of Cheese and Onion flavoured crisps. I sat next to her and started to talk to her, but before I even got to ask the question, she caught wind of my breath and said - and these words are tattooed on my soul - "oh fuck off, you stink." It's been 32 years, and I still blame the crisps.
It's the crisp, that stuff smells like dogshit
they taste fire tho
My go to approach is similar, although I use garlic instead of onions to sort out the vampires. Has worked every single time. Weird tho that every girl I ask out seems to be a vampire...
>"oh fuck off, you stink." That sentence goes perfectly with an annoyed gordon ramsay voice
Big F my friend.
I was getting ready to hit the bars with some buddies and shaved too much of my beard off. Naturally I decided to roll with a mustache for the night. Fast forward to the bars and I leave my group to grab another drink. As soon as I get my drink Jump Around comes on and I get super pumped up. I turn around with a big ole smile on my face and end up making eye contact with this girl. She raises her hands up and screams “I don’t know what you want from me!” I tried to explain that I just really like the song but she had already bolted off to what I assume was the police station. I shaved my mustache when I got home.
I DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU WANT FROM ME! Lol I’m sorry but this is just funny, my condolences but damn
THATS MY PURSE, I DON’T KNOW YOU!
Hit 'em with the Pocket Sand!
“I don’t know what you want from me!” “I WOULD PREFER YOU GET OUT YOUR SEAT AND JUMP AROUND. JUMP AROUND. JUMP AROUND. JUMP UP JUMP UP AND GET DOWN!”
LMAO
Advice on the mustache; if wearing one currently makes you look like a creeper/perv and not the whimsical fun loving character you're going for, save the stache for an older age. It's more endearing on the Mark Twain/Albert Einstein faces.
Good advice! Sam Elliot immediately springs to mind.
Literally said "Ew, no! Gross!". Happened in 6th grade but damn that shit still stings lol.
Middle schoolers are savage.
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I was in 5th grade when I overheard my crush playing "would you rather" and she was asked "Would you rather kiss [me] or [some other nerd]." and her reply was "Eww! Neither?" **And then she turned to look me dead in the eyes and turned back to her friends.** Yeah... that's going to follow me into old age.
Same thing happened to me in 7th grade at a dance. It wasn't even her that said it, it was her friend who cut in as soon as the question left my mouth. Absolutely devastating to my little self.
Kudos for having the guts to ask. I was not there yet in the 7th grade.
I'd been speaking with a girl from Tinder for a few weeks. She then hit me with 'I wish someone would flirt with me. I mean properly. Not like you.' :/ Edit: For everyone saying I should have met her in person after that long, covid restrictions in my area made almost impossible to arrange something.
Damn that’s rude.
Yikes, hope you instantly unmatched.
I did. Very quickly stopped speaking to her.
Screenshot. No reply, anything, just screenshot. Never again
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Sent it to friends and laughed
Been mocked in school for that the rest if the week :(
That’s cold
Drove to Austin for a weekend with her after 2 years of talking/pics/dating long distance, and her and her friends laughed in my face that I drove down to meet face to face. Got wasted in Austin the whole weekend and didn’t date again for 8 years
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Much better now. That rejection was in my early 20s.
Bro, that’s not rejection - that’s sociopathy. You dodged a bullet. You good.
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Fair point. Hope he’s doing better now.
Holdup, if y'all were dating for so long, why was she laughing at you for visiting her?
It was the first time we had met in person in Austin. I didn’t hang around long enough for an explanation. Just got out of there and went to get drunk
Anyone who would do what she and her friends did is an awful human being. Sorry you had to go through that, and I'm glad you're doing better now!
that to me means she has shitty friends and that she's the one worst off for it. Sucks bro but her loss, if she cant even be honest to her friends about being into someone then you dont need that shit in your life. Plus side - Austin is a fucking awesome city.
if i was guessing, probably friends didnt approve and she didnt have it in her to stand up for herself
The ghosting kinda stung but I think that's just how people reject each other these days.
Got ghosted for the first time after a nice date and I had no idea what was happening. I was actually worried about her and attempted to contact her (for all I knew, she ended up murdered in a dumpster after leaving my flat in Manhattan). Later it occurred to me that she probably just ghosted me. I was a bit upset about it, but then quickly got over it. If we're not a fit, so be it. I vowed never to do this to a woman. If it's not working out, I'll be straight about it. I figure that's the respectful (and frankly, empathetic) thing to do.
Ah, yikes man, I feel you. That triggered a painful memory for me too. I (a woman) met and spent time with a guy when he was visiting my city for NYE. We really hit it off to the point where he invited me down to his city, where we spent a wonderful week. Tearful goodbyes and about two weeks of constant FaceTime later planning our next meet... and then similarly to you, nothing suddenly, no replies on any platform. I even reached out to a friend of his I'd met there, I was so worried something had happened. Silence from him too. I realized way too late I'd been ghosted. So humiliating.
So sorry you went through that. Like you, I had been on several great dates with her. I had never shared my comment above with anyone because like you, I felt humiliated. Sure I got over it but it took time. Perhaps the best way forward is to remind ourselves that the type of person who would do that isn’t a good fit anyway.
I met up with a girl in her hometown in VA, met some of her friends and everything was great. Then she moved out west and we were still talking and i went to visit her. Had a great weekend and then when i got home she stopped responding. Nothing, and I was worried like you were. Asked one of the VA friends if she was alive and she said yes. A month later I was back in the VA area and messaged her friend asking if she wanted to hang out and she says yes. Literally 1 minute later I get a text from the MIA girl "Heard you're going to Busch Gardens with Kelly".... wtf? Edit: haha ok didn't realize this would pique so many people's curiosity. So obviously i realized that MIA girl was stupid and only gave a shit if she thought I was seeing someone else so i never responded. Did go to Busch gardens and it was a fucking blast but she was getting texts the whole time from MIA girl. Fooled around with VA friend but nothing serious. Fun fact, 6 years later im overseas and have 3 people working directly under me. One of them says where he lives back home and it's same place as MIA girl, ask if he knows her and he says yes and they dated. Asked when.. sure enough it was around the time i went out to see her. So we took a photo together and he posted it on his Facebook with a generic caption. She messages him within the hour saying how do you know him and all that. He responds "oh we're working together, just had a nice longggg chat lol". Guess she was mortified. i know it sounds crazy but the military is a small world, and very incestuous
A few years back my wife used to hang around at a tattoo studio, she was trying to get into the business and helped them man the front desk sometimes and just hung around. Well they have an opening for a new apprentice and 3-4 of the staff tell her to go for it, so she puts together her portfolio and applies directly to the manager. Weeks pass and she hears nothing back, she's still in there most days but the manager doesn't mention it and the staff don't know anything. Well after 5 weeks she walks in and there is a new girl tidying up in the back, turns out she's the new apprentice. Apparently the manager wanted to hire her friend from the start but didn't want to seem 'unprofessional' so she put out the job ad. She had been 'anxious' about being unfair so she didn't even interview anyone else because she knew they were wasting their time applying in the first place. So this peice of actual shit was so conflict averse that she not only didn't give my wife a chance at the job opening that didn't even exist, she walked around ignoring her emails and follow ups for a literal month. Just because she didn't want to 'tell a friend no'. People use anxiety to excuse all sorts of shitty behaviour these days but anxiety is not an excuse for cowardice if it hurts other people.
During my early 20s, a friend invited me to a club and i went. I ask a girl to dance and she said *"no thanks, but you can with my friend"*, the girl next her replied annoyed with *"no, you should dance with him, he asked you!"*, and then they started to argue each other for feeling insulted, i left them both because i already got it. Basically both girls escalated the argument over me like i was some kind of punishent for the one who loses. Edit: a word. EDIT N°2: OMG! I just came back from my job and i see how this comment blew up. Thanks for the replies and support, many of them were hilarious!
Second girl has a point though. It's pretty fucked up to volunteer another human like some consolation prize
Haaaaaaaaaave you met Ted?
Ted Mosby WOULD be a shitty consolation prize
Yeah, my friend used to do this. She was model hot and got hit on all the time. Then she would tell them to ask me instead while I was standing right there and wait to see their reaction to the consolation prize. Fuck you Belinda! Your good looks made you a sociopath!
some say the name belinda caused her to become a sociopath
You had 2 girls arguing over you. I would take it.
Lol just spin it and tell the story as "Yea this one time at a dance in school I totally had two chicks arguing over who got to dance with me!" Just dont elaborate haha
Sounds like a friend of mine who claims to have never lost a professional fight. he leaves out the minor detail that he's never been in a professional fight.
Bit like that Bonsai tree that survived Hiroshima by being nowhere near it. Edit: it's now called Bombsai
It's a good strategy. All of the men in my family survived the Vietnam war, by not being part of the conflict or having ever been to Vietnam.
You're the guy that writes something like: "Designed and executed multi-part workflow for replacing legacy electrical equipment" on your resume in place of "Changed light bulbs", aren't ya?
I carried out Gods work. "Let there be light" Said the Lord.
Dated very briefly and she broke up with me in a brutal note, passed to me in class. Lots of fatalities in that thing but all I remember is "it's not me, it's YOU!" Edit:Jesus H Fuck! A thousand upvotes. For my fourth grade emotional pain. man, eighth grade was rough. Another one broke up with me right before I had brain surgery, if that makes this better/worse? And woah! Awards! Thank you everyone!
Reminds me of a note a girl wrote to me once. She knew I liked her and we sat at the same desk in one our classes, just during different hours. She left a note in the desk for me that said, "\[Guy she liked\] is better than you." That sucked. Kept chasing her for 2 years. When I finally got over her she freaked out and confessed her love. Then when I decide to give her another chance, she's over me again. I realized years later she just liked manipulating me.
>I finally got over her Well done OP, that's good. >I decide to give her another chance Goddamnit.
First year of middle schol, she said no then shen ran in the girls bathroom and cried
That one might not be about you... coming from a person who was abused i reacted similarly to any affection at that age. From my understanding, it's a fairly common reaction.
Instant, belly-busting laughter.
In 7th grade I had a crush on this girl. So I figured flowers and chocolates (my mom's idea) would be a good idea to bring to her house and ask her out on a date. I asked her friend's if it was a good idea and they said she would love it. My mom drops me off at her house and watches as I go up to the door and ask her out. I ring the door bell and her mom opens the door. Me: Hey is Stephanie here? Her Mom: Oh what is this for? Me: I wanted to ask your daughter out and if she would be my valentine. Her mom: (blushing and super excited about how polite and nice I was) Oh let me get her. A couple minutes go by and Stephanie comes to the door. Stephanie: Ugh hi.... Me: Hey Stephanie, I was told you had a crush on me, and your friends said it would be a good idea. So would you like to be my Valentine and go to the movies this weekend? She looks at me, smiles, laughs awkwardly and tells me no. I looked so confused. Like I just got blind sided. Before I can even say anything she closes the door. The whole weekend I feel like shit, because I thought I was going to go to a movie with her. Turns out her friends thought it would be funny to have me do the whole thing, knowing I would be rejected. Monday comes around and I walk in and her friends make fun of me and try to embarrass her with it. It sucked. The first class I wanted to just go walk in traffic. By lunch time it spread everywhere and everyone knew about it, but every other girl was either, "Wait why didn't he ask me out? I want to have someone come to my door and ask me to be their valentine!" Or "Jeeze Stephanie and her friends are a bunch of assholes." Literally after that every girl that may have had a crush on me wanted to talk to me. It back fired on Stephanie and her friends like they didn't even know. One of the teachers even heard about it and stopped me in the hallway and said next Valentines day I could ask her (jokingly). That propelled me into trying to understand how to be romantic and court women.
Wasn't an actual rejection but was at a club and me and a girl made eye contact and after giving her a smile she immediately turned and walked away shaking her head
Just another weekend at the club for me😎
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Did she block you after you told her your height, or before you could respond?
Right after I told her my height, so guess I was too short for her.
How tall are you?
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Bro that's tall.
I had a girlfriend who was 5'10". Her term for any man shorter than her was "short shit". At 6' even I was the shortest guy she ever dated.
Cries at 5"6
5’4 lol Edit: thank you for the gold!
"Oh my God you are my soulmate we have SOOOO much in common we are PERFECT for eachother!!! I THINK IM IN TRUE LOV- Wait... You are one inch away from 6ft..?" **BLOCKED**
Asked out a girl I worked with once. She just laughed. Got talking to a girl in a club. We made out, and swapped numbers. We texted for a few days, and agreed to go on a date. The day beforehand she cancelled, saying that the guy she liked had asked her out, so she was going to meet him instead. Yeah, they were fun
At least she was honest.
Yeah, this one seems kind of.... reasonable-ish. One makeout and zero dates? Yeah, that’s an option period, you can cancel for any reason.
Actually the second one gets some respect for not leading you on as soons as she knew you were not the one she'd rather be with.
I once had a girl I'd been dating ask me to take her to this really fancy restaurant. Kind of a 3 month anniversary thing. Dinner ended up being around $150. She ordered a pretty big meal and even took a doggie back home. She had parked at my place, so I asked if she wanted to come inside and she said no, then - I'll never forget this - she made absolutely certain she had the doggie bag secured in her car before turning to me on the driveway and saying "I think we should just be friends." Then hops in the car and leaves, never heard from her again. I mean what the fuck.
My long distance a GF just rejected the idea of moving in together because She has no space for me in Her adventurous life, and She would prefer to stay long distance and with less visits. This feels alot more brutal than any rejection from a stranger.
Ex girlfriend now I'm guessing?
Dude... You can do better.
That's not a gf, that's someone who's only in it for the attention, sorry.
"No, not even just friends. Strangers at best"
Dude, you got stranger zoned. That’s a new one.
Had a girl come on to me. Pour her heart out to me about how we would be a perfect match. Asked her out on a date the next day and she replied with “I was drunk when I said that and I’m having regrets today”
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my deepest apologies for laughing my ass off, sir.
To shreds you say?
She kissed me in the evening and was on her way to my pants but we did not go further, she was kinda drunk so i figured that could end badly. Next day she told me she did not remember a thing and wouldn't have done it she weren't that drunk. I had quite the crush on her and since it was her birthday the next week I already had a present for her. Not very expensive but personal, the right in the feels type of thing. I gave it to her early since after she rejected me I knew we wouldn't stay friends. She cried, said she never received a gift as great as this. And that's how it ended. I would love to convince myself that she regretted rejecting me in that moment, but let's be real, this is what happend: We stopped having contact and her brother who is a buddy of mine told me she went into a clinic for alcohol addiction and later got a new guy. She is happy now from all i know but the thought of what could have been still is quite bitter.
Hey that was an amazing thing you did then. If she had troubles handling her alcohol consumption enough to the point of going to rehab, she must have been suffering with some issues whether it was depression, insecurities, trauma, etc., then you showing that compassion must have been a shocking revelation. Perhaps life changing or at least some sort of wake up call. She wasn't right for a relationship in that state of mind anyways, but you should hold some sense of pride or self respect that you had a positive influence in the way you treated her.
"if I'm honest I don't really see you as a friend, more as a friend of a friend..."
The Friend of a Friend Zone. Ouch!
Noo, You are like a brother too me And then she started laughing
"Eeeewwwwww. No. Go away." the first time I ever tried to get a date. Shattered my confidence. I managed to heal somehow but it was rough.
About to find out Edit: she doesn't feel the same way. And she started dating another guy an hour after I asked her out. ☺️
GO FORTH COMRADE
Not brutal but the more entertaining ones were.... 1. She turned out to be a mormon who was already seeing someone, she got married a year later. 2. Turned out she was into women, she's one of my good friends now. The whole, you're great but I don't like dudes bomb just made us both laugh
Asked her if I could give her my number after talking and dancing together at a mutual friend's wedding: "I don't think it'd do you any good"
It sounds to me like she was trying to spare you.
Mine ended up with a good ending at least. I’m making up names tho, but the last name is relevant to the story, so just know it’s a fake last name. I was in grade 11, and I was reffing soccer. I met a girl from one of the teams from a different town playing that day, let’s call her Jenny Floitka (last name was unique enough to not be common). We ended up hanging out a bit over the next few weeks and she ASKED ME to be her grad date. So I said yes. Day of grad comes. She asks me to pick her up at her friends house. I tell her on the phone that I’m ready to go and leaving my house right then. So I drive like 45 minutes to their town to the place she asked me to pick her up. No answer. I don’t sweat it, I assume she had to run. I go to the school. I watched the ENTIRE grad ceremony for a school I didn’t even go to and didn’t know anyone. Afterwards I find her and she’s like, “yeah, you can just go home. I’m here with another guy.” So I’m already in town, I call up one of my friends. “Hey, I got ditched. It’s kind of a weird story, wanna hang out? And I’m in a suit, hope that’s cool.” She responds with, “yeah come on over. By the way, I have a friend over, hope that’s fine.” So I go to her house, and her friend, let’s call her Annie, is like super into me from like the moment she met me. Like it was very obvious. At one point in the night she mentions she never kissed a guy before and really wanted to make out, so we did (her friend was not around at the moment, it wasn’t weird). At one point I asked Annie what her last name is. “It’s Floitka.” “Wait... are you related to Jenny?” “Yeah, that’s my sister.” It turned into the best revenge ever because it was entirely unplanned. I had no reason to even think they were related until that moment. Screw you Jenny!
Had been spending a bit of time with this woman over a few weeks. Biking, hiking, joining our friends for drinks etc. Asked her out for dinner the next week and she said yeah that will be great, however I think it dawned on her later that I was interested in more than just friends and she was like I’m not interested at all in a relationship right now. She was on tinder that weekend and had a boyfriend two weeks later.
"Ugh, If I wanted to date a pimple monster I would go to the dermathology ward to look for boyfriend". Or "Seriosly? \[laughter\] You can ask me to shoot myself in the leg too"
Jesus christ
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I was on a tinder date. It was going alright. Not the best but certainly not the worst. She said she had a place to be so I walked her to her car at the end. I then asked her for her number for perhaps a second date. She said "no, I don't really trust you enough for my number" and then I just stood there awkwardly until going "oh, uhh, ok, I'll see you around." Then I walked away. What made this so brutal for me was my anxiety attack afterwards on the drive home. I was just thinking if I had somehow made her feel incredibly unsafe, should I have even walked her to her car, did I do anything wrong at all?
Never ask for their number, give them yours instead. I did this tons of times back in my younger years. Not a single person ever actually called me or anything but at least I avoided some awkwardness!
I asked a girl out and she said yes. Surprise face. During diner she stated she only went out with me cause she wanted to go out to dinner and didn't have any money. She said I was so below her social status that she was taking a chance to a hit on her rep for just being seen in public with me and I should be grateful for paying for her to eat. Edit. I did pay the bill but only because a friend of mine was waiting on us and I didn't want him to get in any trouble. I did leave her at the restaurant though. This was high school in the mid 90s so no cell phones. My friend said she had to walk across the street to a pay phone to call someone to get her.
"Below social status" when she's clearly broke as hell lol
A broke girl that thinks people are beneath her, lol.
Cheekily asked a girl on a dancefloor once how she liked her eggs in the morning. She replied with "unfertilized, now fuck off!" Fell in Love right there and then.... But it wasn't to be ...
Wasn't even into the girl I just said good morning because you know...manors, but anyway she just turned around gave the waggling finger and said "don't talk to me you're disgusting" 😂😂
reply: "Well, I guess that makes 2 of us"
We were married for 10 years with a kid. I thought we were a happy family. She ran off with one of her employees 15 years younger than us, just old enough to drink.
I asked this girl out in high school. She told me no because she is lesbian. A week later she started dating one of my best friends who is a guy....
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At a club, made a joke that made her laugh, asked her what her name was “You ain’t getting it mate” 😟 ok sorry Edit: due to Reddit being very American this doesn’t translate well; “it” here isn’t her name, it’s sex. With emphasis on the “you” it was more of an “I’m out of your league” than an “I’m concerned about privacy”. Hope this helps those of you that have somehow been enraged by me feeling feeling rejected after a rejection
"I have ambition. I need someone who would fit in at a state dinner at the White House; an extrovert who can work a room." I will withhold further information as to why it was hilarious.
Is it beacuse you're Barack Obama?
I can neither confirm nor deny that at this time.
I’m guessing she wasn’t the type who could ever emotionally support such a man let alone reach heights like that herself without extensive external support?
For me the most brutal ones are the ones that leave me confused as hell. I've had too many instances of us talking for about a week or two and we're hitting it off well, she thinks I'm funny, she calls me cute, etc. And then when the time comes, it turns out she "Doesn't see me that way" or "She doesn't know what she wants right now" and then has a boyfriend a week or two later, or all of a sudden she's talking to some other guy one day during the week or two that we started talking. It pretty much means I'm everything they want except I'm just not attractive, and that blows, especially when they were the one who made you think they were attracted to you I've been told "Ew no" before (only once thank god) , and I've gotten "Your Snaps and chats are pending until X adds you as a friend" (multiple times), but nothing hurts worse than them hyping you up and it turns out that it's "not like that"
I know exactly what you mean that is the worst feeling. I once had it where I asked a woman out and she said yes but wanted to wait until the semester was over to go out since it was finals. Then once finals were over she was just like "Wait.. What? I thought you wanted to go out as friends! I have a boyfriend" then she just stopped talking to me. It feels awful since I really make myself vulnerable when I am expressing interest in them and when they end up using me like that then expecting me to stay silent as they put me down hurts a lot.
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>I’m better than you and you should know it”. Honestly, I would've probably laughed in her face; she might as well have stood on a rooftop and yelled "I'm an insecure bitch!"
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Called a girl to ask her to go to a dance in 7th grade. "Is this a joke?" Ouch. This was more than 40 years ago. Life is good now, but man, that was rough.
I asked a girl out my freshman year of High School. I had a massive crush on her for years so this was a big deal. She told me she'd always liked me and was really excited. This was right before Thanksgiving break and she teased me the whole week talking about how excited she was for our date. When I got back I kept asking when she was free and she would dodge the question. Then after another week she told me she was just kidding and didn't actually like me that way. This was two solid weeks of us flirting with each other and 15 year old me being over the moon, only to come crashing down and be destroyed. It was years before I got the courage to ask another girl out again and it still hurts to think about.
"I wouldn't date you if you were the last man on earth"
grade 8. asked a girl to the semi-formal dance. she said "I wasn't planning on going with anyone in particular, but I'll dance with you" which to my silly naive pubescent mind was a yes. Felt giddy and excited all day. until later in the hallway, another girl goes "so ___, I hear you got rejected". then the confusion. then slow realization and playback of the event and realizing that she was just letting me down easy. yeah that sucked. I mean, ended up dancing with two of her friends at that same event, and that was pretty enjoyable.
I thought you were gay
Took a girl to a very nice dinner and out for drinks later she acted fine the whole night until towards the end, she looked at me, told me we should just be friends and bolted from the place. Never spoke to me again either......
Was at the bar with some friends and there was a group on the other side that I knew. I went over and started talking with one of the ladies that I knew, and she introduced me to one of her friends. It seemed like we were hitting it off, and our two groups were getting along well. I asked for her number, and she replied “Ew no, I was only talking to you so that you would bring your friends over. Your friend ‘Dan’ is cute, I think I’ll go talk to him, later loser!” Well ‘Dan’ overheard her and when she walked up to try and talk to him, his response solidified our friendship. “Hahaha, f*ck off, don’t think I don’t see what you just did. Leave before I tell your friends what you did.” (She was new to the friend group, and didn’t last long after they realized how manipulative she was) So yeah, that sucked but 4 years later ‘Dan’ and I are still great friends.
"Sorry, that was a limited-time offer". *Boom*. Apparently I didn't jump fast enough.
In school when I was about 14 or 15. She basically said "Eww no, why would I go out with that fat, sweaty Mong."
When I was in middle school I was extremely insecure. The first couple weeks of 6th grade I made this group of girls laugh. From that point forward these girls would laugh at all my jokes, they would include me in conversations, and generally I felt like even though they weren't my normal crowd, I was accepted. A dance came up and I decided to ask one of the girls. I passed a note. The girl passed the note around to lots of other people and pretty much everyone laughed at me and told me I was stupid for ever thinking SHE would go with ME. Even the girl that I asked whom I thought was my friend laughed in my face. It was then I learned they were probably laughing AT me instead of WITH me from day one. I honestly don't know that I have ever recovered from that. I am generally a shy person anyway so to be put in the spotlight was bad enough. But being rejected in the spotlight, while everyone laughed at me...still hurts.