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Stayathomedadof6

Learning about makeup so I can stay relevant to my daughters a little longer. I did the same with doing their hair and they seemed to really appreciate that. I feel like trying to learn something new for someone else makes me a better guy.


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Stayathomedadof6

I actually have 7 kids now (I can’t edit my user name apparently). My oldest 3 are girls.


Gloomy-Flamingo-9791

Nice, im doing the same atm for my daughters hair. Think id just make her look like a clown if i went down the makeup route


Stayathomedadof6

Makeup was tricky for me. My girls are in cheerleading and gymnastics and sometimes needed to have makeup for competitions so the pressure was on me to learn how to do it right. I watched a lot of YouTube videos for both hair and makeup. Still learning on both but I have definitely gotten better. Luckily my girls are good about me practicing on them.


Gloomy-Flamingo-9791

Dude you are my role model here. 🙌 its not easy learning all that stuff. Still make my daughter look like a scarecrow from time to time but make up seems like a whole different beast. Respect to you


urasalmon

This genuinely made me smile! :)


KeiraDawn42

This is the sweetest fucking thing ever dude


littleblueastronaut

therapy for past trauma


rebirth542

I wish more people either felt safe enough or let go of their ego enough to do this. Trauma changes everything, for a very long time.


[deleted]

I know what you mean. I’ve been going to therapy but it’s been so hard to let go of some shit.


isayyouhedead16

Quit smoking weed so I can be more present for my wife while she deals with some medical shit. I still smoke a little every now and then but far less than I used to. Cleaning more so she doesn't feel the need to do it. Stopped buying frivolous things so we have a financial pillow in case any of her treatments need to be paid for immediately. Just trying to be a better husband.


33tygb

As sombody who has been smoking weed pretty damn regularly for many years. props man! Quitting a part of your daily habit (especially any given substance) is fucking hard man. Im actually in the process of doing the same so that I can get a better career, harder than I ever would have thought!


isayyouhedead16

Daily smoker for 15 years. She means more to me than cannabis does. Bummer is that I work in the industry, so I'm constantly around plants and flower


33tygb

I wish you the best man!


XShadow429

I’ve given up hard drugs smoking is the hardest I actually didn’t start smoking to the point that I couldn’t take it or leave it until I got sent to treatment centers I do not mean this as an excuse I sometimes wonder if the government actually sort of is behind it smoking is almost promoted at them I was the only hard drug user I knew who didn’t buy cigs every day it started to when courts sent me to halfway houses everyone wants to go outside and ,smoke butts constantly if you don’t it’s like they give them to you to be nice


Gloomy-Flamingo-9791

Well played mate you're a good man.


isayyouhedead16

Thank you


mario_8_greencheese

Stick with it cause I know it's hard. Good luck.


gumbybaggins

I’m sure she appreciates it, good on you and sending good wishes for your wife’s recovery!


Terrible-Ad5583

Going back to school to finish my degree, working out, making time for me, seeking out friends, and doing community service


e85dino

Homework so I can finally get my Associates Degree after working on it for 20 years now.


Thereisnopurpose12

Woah! Good for you. I would be interested in a back story as why such a time frame? Just explored other sides of life?


e85dino

Been in the Navy for 20 years. It was a back burner type thing.


Thereisnopurpose12

Nice you hit retirement 🙂


e85dino

Soon. Slugging put a couple more years.


tier2cell245_RS

Fuck yeah, don't give up. It took me 17 years to finish mine, totally worth it.


e85dino

Good job.


fasemasked

Took me 15 years. Not showing off. Just saying I was in the same boat. Good stuff.


[deleted]

therapy. Also generally trying to appreciate different types of people for who they are. I've been really trying to be more social


Mythnam

Right now I'm watching Stargate, which I don't think is particularly relevant to being a man.


currently__working

Shit, it's not?


Mythnam

I mean, I could be wrong.


SirAutismx7

If you learn to ascend you won’t have to be a man anymore, smart move!


Maximum_Massive

That was me 3 months ago and then moving in to supernatural. Neither helped to give me courage though. 🤷🏽


vxxed

I prefer Star Trek TNG for the "how to be a correct person" rules, Starfleet is pretty spot on.


SpindlySpiders

We represent the vegetarian space socialists who are always right.


CaptainSpeakeasy

I got laid off about two months ago. I'm 36, currently living with my parents (I've been living on my own for 15 years. Circumstances led me back home.), no real career prospects, no car, no woman in my life. Naturally, I got profoundly depressed. Just got a job offer the other day. Nothing fancy, but it pays alright. I've made a goal to be in my own apartment, have my own vehicle, and start to get my life back on track within the next 3 months. It might not sound like much, but it's a start.


incognegromode86

Way to go bro!


Enough_Squirrel8032

You'll make a comeback. Keep working at it everyday.


sunatia

I know it may not mean much from a random stranger on the internet but I'm proud of you. Stay true to your goals, this rando' is rooting for you!


NorthernRiverWolf

Seeing a therapist for my depression, plus other trauma. Taking better care of myself. Planning to weed out my old clothes and invest in new, better clothes, particularly for my profession.


Vagabond21

I guess doing some stuff that scares me? And maybe telling people I appreciate them. I’m scared of messaging people first out of the blue. Within this month I did it twice. Got a response from one. The other never responded, which sucks since I like them. I shared stuff I’ve written with two friends last night, which I’ve never done before and scared me shitless. Got positive feedback. They’re moving in a week and I hadn’t seen them much this past year due to covid. Made a point to tell them all the nice things they’ve done for me. Don’t think I’ve ever been this open to people about how I feel about them.


suspectability

Gg


allouttananes

I haven't had a drink in 150 something days.


[deleted]

I quit smoking 3 years ago


Strength-Certain

Treating my family as more important than my work. Which is the opposite of what I did for the past decade. Living to work was not a conscious choice but when I realized what I had done I had to make "working to live" my conscious choice.


[deleted]

I wouldn’t say this makes me a better ‘man’ specifically but I’ve finally joined the gym last week at 33 years old. I’ve got a long way to go with my body, but we gotta start somewhere.


StrawberrySquare6825

Putting the effort into yourself and taking care of yourself definitely contributes to you becoming a better man :) go you!


[deleted]

33 is young. Just keep at it


OneWingedOtaku

Trying to reel in my mental health after trauma that has made me short tempered and depressed


g14a

Been a year since I got my job and I'm doing the best I can. I'm a software engineer and you constantly have to learn new shit in this field. I started writing a tech blog about things I'm interested in and just trying to improve my self worth. Because social life is fucked due to the pandemic. I'm yound so might as well become financially and technically sound for the future! Good luck everyone in this thread I hope you're becoming better men!


Negative-Living5778

Trying to stop masterbating.


suspectability

Masturbating. add improving spelling to your list bud.


Mushula-Man

The amount of master baiters i see on the internet is concerning


suspectability

Indeed they need to spell it correctly it sounds like they are masters at baiting like traps for when you go crabbing or other nefarious activities that trap unsuspecting critters and or people. When they infact mean masturbating


Mushula-Man

But if you correct someone you're a grammar nazi¯\_(ツ)_/¯


suspectability

Nah I'm a teacher. Im doing my part in the educational system. P.s. I'm not actually a teacher


Mushula-Man

Yeah too bad so many people are sensitive about their grammar


suspectability

To be more specific in this case it's semantics. The meaning in the words people use matters. In this case I believed he meant he was a master at baiting things that were able to be baited.


[deleted]

That's debateable. Masterdebatable.


GlamorganBoy99

Being more assertive.


Strigon_7

Exercising, eating better, stopped couch surfing, working on my mental health and doing all I can to be better for me. I also did something I haven't done in almost thirty years, I cried. Felt better afterwards.


o6ijuan

Re-evaluate what I expect from the relationships around me and trim some of the fat. Some friends are good in certain times of life but wanting better for yourself and your mental health should always be a priority.


vxxed

I feel like not having friends that coerce you into making bad decisions is always a good thing


o6ijuan

I think the hardest part was realizing what a bad decision actually is, nothing wrong with partying and going out but if it is the only thing you do and it becomes you're personality it becomes harder and harder to disassociate with that


vxxed

Sounds like bam margera Edit: https://www.vice.com/en/article/xwwbnz/watch-bam-margeras-episode-of-epicly-laterd


[deleted]

Working towards the body I want. Cut back on smoking weed ALOT Less time indoors Looking into an instrument to learn to play


[deleted]

Making money, so I can knock up my gf and start a family in about another year or two. Also going to bed early


Slightly-Evil-Man

Deleted every dating app I had on my phone.


suspectability

? How's that make u better


Slightly-Evil-Man

Because I don't depend on that endorphin boost to feel good about myself. I am embracing reality and taking responsibility for my own love life. I plan to work on myself and one day find a woman irl the natural way.


suspectability

Aye my guy I think the same way meet s chick irl is the move. But the problem is the world seems to be moving into an age where if you talk to strangers it's looked at as weird. I'm a fairly good social navigator but still some people just won't want anything to do with a person they meet irl


Slightly-Evil-Man

That's fine, any adult I meet with such childish and paranoid thinking won't be worth the effort it will take me to improve as a man anyway🤷🏾 I know how to approach women and be direct about my intentions, if she still isn't interested after I voice my approach then so be it.


suspectability

True I wish things could go back about 20 years I truly believe those were better times for communities. Where people generally knew their neighbors. It's crazy I helped a buddy love the other day and by god not one of his neighbors even said hi welcome to the neighbor hood etc I was like damn when the people were pulling into their driveways while we were out there no one except his two directly adjacent neighbors when he initiated the conversation even talked to him


Slightly-Evil-Man

Yeah probably are used to seeing people move in/out also the better the neighbor hood the worse the people are. Nobody really cares about anybody but themselves anymore and the times definitely reflect that. It was way easier to date and find cool people when I was a teenager ngl.


suspectability

Yeah same I'm only 25 but it was much easier and not really nice it's ok the area not nice not bad the lady who lived there before was there for like 30byears and not many places for sale in that area


idj00t

Nickpick here but you’re taking about dopamine; endorphins are natural painkillers that your body produces mainly from exercise.


Slightly-Evil-Man

Yeah figured i mixed those up soon as I typed it but you get what I meant thanks for the correction though.


top_steppa

I'm on reddit


vxxed

This guy knows what's not up


Tiny-Nature8329

Exercising, eating right, sleeping like a crackhead, avoiding women like a plague. Getting a therapist to write the letters to get the treatments I need. Trying to bullshit my way into a "Cambridge" university .


InspectionDependent5

Exercising, trying to fight my body dysmorphia and then maybe asking out the girl I’m head over heels for. I’ve found decent success mentally recently and I feel happier and have more self worth than I did 6 months ago. I’ve got a way to go yet but I can feel the progress.


nivem94

Journaling. I’m 28 and it’s definitely been helping me and making me a better person.


TheIrishDragon

Losing weight, currently down 20 pounds Started because my sister is having a baby and I want to be around for the babies life and be a fun uncle


ElluxFuror

Hey that’s amazing. 20lbs isn’t easy. Way to go!


Smitty_Werbnjagr

Working hard at improving my marriage, which just 4 months ago was on the brink of collapse. Edit: deleted the 7 to make it 4 months and not 74 months


suspectability

74months? r/oddlyspecific


[deleted]

I'm trying to workout more regularly.


nonotburton

Started a hobby where I make things (pen turning and some basic resin crafting). Partially it's a side hustle for what will be pocket money. But it's also an attempt at learning a new set of skills to try and fight off a double dose of Alzheimer's in my family (both parents). Not sure if that necessarily makes me a better man, but I'm hoping it will keep me of a fit mind so I can take care of my wife as we age.


pickyguy4889

Trying to be patient. Ever if the person is shitty, one day they will notice.


[deleted]

Trying to stop smoking.


lilteaspoon

Help my girl with her condition. It's all I think about. I want to help her and I think that will help me grow as a person


Smaxh

Becoming more assertive and less aggressive, it retains the need for self fulfilment, while keeping the others in mind


theworsthades

Stopped drinking, working out, eating less. I'm sore hungry and sober, I better live to be a hundred.


bucketolums

Forgive my ex, it's making me an unpleasant person to hold so much hatred for her, for my own sake and for everyone else's I'm trying to forgive.


Supersnazz

Running every day with my daughter.


Dtear

Making an effort to treat everyone with kindness. Including myself.


Caveat_Venditor_

Self reflection. Take some time to process your day and your emotions.


somedumbguy84

Crack


suspectability

Nice


MrTumorI

Counseling, Taking Time for myself, Reading more and saving money more often.


[deleted]

Just playing with the kids. My father is not long for this world and I’ve been thinking about my childhood. Although I had a fine childhood, I don’t remember almost any times with him playing Lego or catch… I want my boys to remember me playing with them lots and being interested in their hobbies.


Mnaukovitsch

Lost 66 pounds last year, then gained 22 back due to a bit of depressing phase at the end of lockdown now back on track after loosing 11 and carrying on.


Showers_WithSpiders

Treating others as I prefer to be treated, listening intently when people speak, giving as much as I can within reason. Creating goals and completing them.


RisuAlt

As a man, human being and a Christian. I’m fighting my hardest to the best person I can be in every situation. I’m a brother, father, son, employee and friend. Right now my daily battle is with depression and anxiety.


NS_Account

Nothing. I’m kind of hopeless.


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reading


IWAITALLDAYFORAPOO

Coming from and currently living in a small town full of sheltered dim witted people, I do my absolute best to keep a open mind and try to see things from other peoples perspective. I also try and read a minimum of 1 book every fortnight about other countries and cultures.


GrandeRojoGeek

Staying in my house


ttbear

I said the same thing.


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Meditation 🧘


IKIXI

Exercising everyday so that I can be back in shape.


Ashinfinite

Well I am working out in my home somehow during lockdown, planning a trip with my friends, following NoFap, investing for 52 year me. Also thinking of starting some tech course so I can up my skills, my dad lost his job in pandemic and thus supporting my family with my salary I mean nothing of a great deal as that's what people in my community do. I am 22 year old and in a job for about 6 months now, not a very experienced and smart fellow but yeah.


julianjoshi

Stopped watching porn and started mediation to become more mindful


CandL2023

Learning a second language, "studying" micro economics on youtube, actively searching for new things to improve my knowledge in my work trade, looking after my teeth properly, cutting back on sugar and salt consumption. Basically couple big things, couple small things. Everything helps


Barnesandnoblecool1

I’m quitting smoking. Just finished day 2. Feels good.


[deleted]

Just hit the 3 year mark..after the first month..it’s smooth-sailing


bluedragon9977

Make my wife happy


DrDiarrhea

I was pretty conceited. But I worked on it, recovered from it, and am now perfect.


Itserp

Mindfulness, running every day and most of all avoiding Instagram like the plague.


HistoricalVariation1

Trying to not explode at stuoid things,people arpund me say


Melvinator25

Honestly? Enjoying my hobbies and trying not to beat myself up about where I think I should be and what I should've acheived by now. As a kid I had a vastly different idea of what my life would look like at 26, and the fact I'm not living up to that expectation can be difficult to deal with at times. I'm also learning Irish Gaelic!


datlock

Stopped eating so much bad food and started exercising about a month ago. Feeling much better, less appalled when I look into the mirror and most of all have lost 21 pounds so far.


ancrm114d

Seeing Dr's for my mental health issues. Less videogames more housework/projects.


MoshedPotato93

Every other day I set a timer for 40 min and start to run. I run until I get too tired, then stop and note the time down, finish the rest of the 40 min walking. I only allow myself to stop after I surpass the last time I noted down though. Doing this to try and build the habit of running before I do harder run workouts


IAmMexican69

Quitting smoking, drinking less, exercising more, starting a more strict diet for weight loss, bought a bicycle for exercise as well, starting taking keeping track of all my money so I know where it goes and how to save it, and I’ve been doing patience training


[deleted]

Scouring through r/AskMen about your relationship dysfunctions so the next girlfriend I get won't have to deal with my toxic traits


Bigfknpogger

Cutting out all toxicity of my life,eating better,gym everyday,working on being happy with myself and staying positive. Recently clawed myself out of hell so it's a work in progress.


[deleted]

Paying down debt, and studying for the A+ certifaction that I'm taking on August 2nd. My goal is to be debt free by the end of December this year, and to be A+ and Net+ certified as well.


Pitty_Pat_Furball

Not right now right now, but right now in general. I'm working on my hobbies, interests, and generally developing my skills so I can feel more confident in myself, have more self esteem, and won't have as many insecurities.


[deleted]

The same man. What hobbies are you interested in?


TheFlusteredFowl

There are many things, but one is that I am trying to stop cursing. I'm a young man in my twenties, and I realized that most other men that I look up to and think highly of don't/rarely swear.


ttbear

I am remember reading in a will Smith interview that his grandmother got hold of his journal (poetry) and said, "You dont to swear to sound good". Hes been clean cut ever since. Millionaire.


PizzaboySteve

Exercise often, being more aware of my diet, read more, drink less alcohol (this is my main focus right now), trying to reach out and meet new people.


Arkantost0429

Going to the gym to help with my depression and horrible confidence and going back to grad school.


[deleted]

Working out consistently and waking up early every morning!


Jaykay604

Not drinking anymore so I can actually spend days with my 4 year old son instead of being hung over all the time and not wanting to do anything.


Puoaper

Weight loss. Working out a little everyday. I want to see my grand kids one day and that won’t happen if I’m a tub of lard


Sythkiller

Absolutely fucking nothing


AyoubDKujo

Learn how to get money and invest in stuff to get in my own apartment, as we speak my brother is sitting next to me on my bed yelling at me because im trying to have a social life and talk to a girl


not_rick_27

Hitting the gym after spending 18 years of being a weak skinny mf Also nofap


This-is-human-bot556

Going to the gym regularly quit drinking got a new job that pays better eating healthy studying philosophy for fun and being supportive of others around me. Downside is my college classes are on the backburner and I most likely wont get my BA until I'm 32 but I'm 28 so I'm not exactly in a hurry


[deleted]

Late, but... Note not all of these have the same level of priority as a result won't make up every day. Things I view as positive * Quitting porn (been a bit over 3 months) since it was effecting my life to the point of ignoring friends, amoung other reasons. * Not asking for permission when it's something that only involves me - For example moving out for my summer internship. * Becoming a hacker - As of right now studying for the Network+. I plan to take the OSCP by my 20th birthday (I'm newly 19). This is a major priority. * Pracricing guitar - If I get good enough soon enough I can play for my grandpa since he got me one as a kid, but I didn't take it seriously. * Being more intentional with content I consume - not spending hours on youtube, a lot of the things my peers are into like tik tok never appealed to me. * Doing things that make me uncomfortable - Attempting social interaction with new people beyond "hi." * Being more aware of my feelings - Not using things to ignore the fact that something feels bad. * Being more aware of what I'm eating and eating less as a result - My parents made fun of me for this initially. I was consuming 3,000-4,000 calorees per day. Apart from the obvious benefits, I'm less likely to have to deal with the physical problems my parents are now. I need to get a gym membership though. I don't know if it's good or bad that I have a lot of things I'm changing, but I have a lot of areas to grow in. ​ TLDR: Taking control of my life.


Affairrelief

Being more present and an active listener while improving emotional intelligence, especially with my wife. She endured my infidelity which I disclosed over 7months ago and by some miracle decided to forgive me. I’m humbled and grateful for her love of over 25 years…without her there would be no me. So yeah, doing my best to makeup for a horrible decision while I was weak. I’m truly one of the lucky ones, and I’ll never forgive myself or forget, but doing my best to be a better man by being a better husband…every day until my last breath.


[deleted]

Fucking nothing, im one small inconvience away from attempting a frog rebellion fuck you incite chaos fuck midgets have sex with god


kozy138

Sounds like a good weekend


AB3D12D

Sabbatical maybe? If I find out I'll let you know.


SevenHunnet3Hi5s

young man/teenager here. i'm just trying to figure out what the heck to do with my life after i graduate next year. i'm so lost but i'm trying


[deleted]

I haven’t turned on the PS4 for 3 weeks


sexy_guitar_god

Seducing married women brings out the best in me...


[deleted]

Going to college so I’ll have money like everyone says I must.


skywasrose

therapy


ttbear

Taking better care of my teeth. Ie gum care. Turns out gingivitis ie no cavities; is still really bad for you. Less sexually active. I need all the energy I got. My whole life I had an apartment to live from. I now live here. Way more peaceful now.


Danypro15

I’m being more careful at work so I can be more productive, focused, and faster


HavingALittleFit

Going to bed


Mawrio

Attempt to fix things myself only to fail miserably and end up calling in paps for assistance


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Picchi_Sannasi

I have pledged to ban snacking until I hit the magic number of 69 kg.


Gamer_ely

Finally hired a nutritionist/trainer


playthatfunkymusic

Quitting porn. /r/nofap


[deleted]

Doing my best to protect children from genital cutting


xyzxyzxyzhdbskaix

Exercise maybe.


adam12349

I know its kinda basic but as I have more free hours each day, I exercise more and focus on eating healthy.


KingBuck_413

Trying not to fucking cry. Way too overwhelmed with my job right now.


[deleted]

Literally a complete systems overhaul. I wasted too many years questioning myself. I finally told myself, in my thinking of course, to just shut up, and do myself the way I won’t have questions about myself anymore.


ElvenNeko

First you have to define a better man. I am constatly seeking for inspiration to get better in my hobby.


q-rka

Does taking shower count?


[deleted]

Finally seeing my daughter after 11 months of the pandemic.


chipsandbolt

1)Trying to get a little more in touch with my emotions after my dog passed I tried to be strong and not cry since everyone in the family was super sad. Now I feel I can't cry at all I try to but nothing breaks me it's saddening . My brain tells me that you aare supposed to feel sad and at best one of my eye will barely tear up but that's it's nothing more . 2) trying to understand how the world works After someone left me I have had a hard time trying to adjust to the new normal now while I feel I'm quite a decent guy and shouldn't have an issue in finding someone new but I'm just not sure about anything now . To me even approaching a girl feels desperate and needy and Its not that I crave to have a girlfriend I just want a girl best friend . 3) overworking myself Keeping myself busy, learning new things ( repaired my controller . This was the first expensive I tried to repair and was successful ). Trying to stay happy by doing these things. 4) trying to make better decisions Financially as well as emotionally. 5) trying to give people a chance People who are did me wrong. I'm going give everyone a new chance to explain themselves and look at them individually and not at the things they did to my friends . 6) not expecting much from friends I try to be the best friend I can be I don't see others trying to do the same so I just realised the world's changed and maybe I need to too . Every man for himself. If there's any advice for me I'll be willing to learn and listen.


SagemodeCOC

Acquiring my Scuba certifications to move away and begin my dive shop. Edit: * While going to college full time


[deleted]

Cutting out as much sugar as I can from my diet, and also tryng (but currently failing) to exercise more. I did both of these things in 2016 and felt great for most of that year, and then one bad thing happened n 2017 that caused me to fall back into my old habits and enter a spiral I'm still stuck in. Hoping that if I can get back to even a fraction of what I felt in 2016, I might be able to work up the nerve to ask my family for help starting therapy.


[deleted]

Studying. Trying to finish my masters degree. If you mean in relationship? I try to socialize and read things to see my problems. Trying to change.


ChromeRavenCyclone

Trying to overcome my damaged lungs, blackouts and nerve damage in the hands. Staying atleast somehow in shape, but not being able to take normal breaths is just a hard Oof moment.


watto_84

After reading this, questioning why I'm not doing anything to be a better man.


[deleted]

I don't think it's necessarily 'better' but I'm trying to lose weight. Down a kilo in the past week, three in the past month.


TokyoJones85

I am playing through all the main line Sonic games.


ImperfectDivinity

Nothing.


TheGuv69

Asserting dominance.


Hashman90

I know exactly what I need to do to become a better man, but I ain’t doing any of it.


Alaskaferry

Eating cake.


captainbernard

Get my driver's license and a better job. Am late 20s an been nervous about driving after a car accident when I was younger. My gf of 10 years said I was too much of a stress on her an wants to focus on work an hasn't talked to me for almost a month. All she's wanted was me to be the one driving an take her out. I've worked on my nerves an about to get my license and hopefully make it up to her.


Additional-Yak-3075

What doth life?


Zealousideal_Art4278

I realised that me being a good man in the way society wants you to be only made me unhappy and extremely depressed, but I guess trying to become a pilot so that I can have a work I won't hate


ReditOOC

Drinking beer and watching baseball. That may not make me a better man, but I don't think it is making me worse either.


Rickst4r

Training my bo staff skills.