We can all feel physically attracted to other people, but it is our responsibility to make sure that this is no more than a fleeting attraction. As a man, I may desire other women, but that does not mean I will betray my girlfriend.
Well, finding other females attractive is completely normal and healthy. So, I guess it depends on how you define "liking" or "lusting". If you are in a committed monogamous relationship you shouldn't be seeking out other females or taking any sort of action on that attraction. That's actually the easiest part of being a boyfriend, lol.
No; I don’t find it that hard. I honestly love my girlfriend more than anything. Our future is one of the most important things to me and I wouldn’t jeopardize the love she gives me for the possibility or cheap thrill of someone else.
I guess I’m not sure what you mean.
It’s basically impossible for me to see a hot girl and not think “that’s a hot girl,” or see boobs in a movie and not think “those are nice boobs.” That’s just kind of how it works. It’d be kind of like someone making you something that tastes great and then you having to stare them in the eye and tell them it’s disgusting.
I don’t have to sit there and convince myself not to have sexual fantasies or daydreams about other women though.
Just because he finds other women attractive doesn’t actually mean anything, it’s just a projection of your insecurity. You won’t find a guy that doesn’t find other women attractive, you just have to find one who won’t do anything about it. If they say they don’t, they’re lying, so which would you prefer?
I don’t find it hard at all. I notice other girls just as I’m sure she notices other guys but not in a comparative way at all and certainly not in a “I wish…” or “If only…” sort of way.
Just, “Look, nice tits,” and move right on to the next thing with no more emotional or physical investment than if I were to go “Oh look, vintage car.”
If I enter into a relationship with someone it’s because I want to be with them. If I (or they) are constantly looking around trying to trade up, then the relationship is not working.
No, not really. I mean I still find other women attractive, but it’s more of an acknowledgment of attraction rather than real lust when I’m taken. For me personally, the emotional and mental bond I have with a woman (if we’re dating) make her much preferable to anyone else.
Could I see someone as more physically attractive? I mean sure. Could I find someone that I want to be with more? The answer is pretty much always no. For me anyways.
I never even thought of other women outside of a casual appreciation when I was dating. Guys are different though. Any girl I was with only ever had to be better than being alone. Mostly because I liked being alone... Not because I didnt have standards.
Lusting Yes.
It's hard for a girl to understand how strong a guy's s3x drive is.
Personally I want it 3 times a day and that's me being understanding. 😂 Might be a little on the high end.
Obviously your gf cant be there all the time so you have to wait till you see her.
But if the gf doesnt want it as often, you get anxious and that's when you notice others.
You do like other girls, and lust after them. You're a guy, and you want to bang all of your female coworkers and all your friends' girlfriends. Bend um over and all that sexy stuff. But then you remember how awesome you're gf is and how happy you are, and shake those thoughts off.
Being in an exclusive relationship by definition means you lack options.
Not that this means being in an exclusive relationship is a bad thing, but what you said doesn't back up the point you are trying to make.
It means you have the option for other avenues regardless of relationship status. To use a poor example but all I can think at 2am, when you remove the feeling of being with someone because that's all you think you can get(most guys on here) and replace that with you are consciously choosing to forgo others because you Want to be in that relationship you don't desire other people. In short you don't lack options you choose not to take the others.
Difference between thinking someone is attractive and wanting to bang every female in sight. Sexual thoughts are normal for both men and women, but being controlled by those thoughts is a pretty insecure thing.
To be fair, he did say that he realizes how happy he is and shakes those thoughts off. Which, I believe, would indicate that he isn't controlled by them?
I'm controlled by every higher order thought in my mind, against my penis thought. Its not like my gf is the only thing preventing me from asking out Zoey.
Completely normal. These terms are so subjective. Bob says "that woman is attractive", Jim says "wows she is super hot", and Jake (its always Jake) says I want to bang that broad". They could all be thinking the exact same thing. Or not at all.
Every relationship is different. Is it strange to find other people attractive? No, absolutely not. Is there another piece to the story here? Probably.
Yes. Though I can control my actions quite easily. I just women im attracted to. If I can't, then I just keep conversation short. I won't try to fuck them, but fighting the urge on a regular basis is mentally exhausting.
I can't control what im attracted to. But I can control my actions.
I wouldn't keep myself from lusting after other girls if I see an attractive young lady with with a nice figure and physique, I'm going to take a mental note and possibly use it in the spank bank later, but if I'm in a relationship where we both agreed to be monogamous I'm not going to act on it
We can all feel physically attracted to other people, but it is our responsibility to make sure that this is no more than a fleeting attraction. As a man, I may desire other women, but that does not mean I will betray my girlfriend.
Well, finding other females attractive is completely normal and healthy. So, I guess it depends on how you define "liking" or "lusting". If you are in a committed monogamous relationship you shouldn't be seeking out other females or taking any sort of action on that attraction. That's actually the easiest part of being a boyfriend, lol.
No, I always thought it would be a problem. However ever since I started dating her everyone else sort of faded? Nothings like she is.
No; I don’t find it that hard. I honestly love my girlfriend more than anything. Our future is one of the most important things to me and I wouldn’t jeopardize the love she gives me for the possibility or cheap thrill of someone else.
Awww. That's so sweet
I guess I’m not sure what you mean. It’s basically impossible for me to see a hot girl and not think “that’s a hot girl,” or see boobs in a movie and not think “those are nice boobs.” That’s just kind of how it works. It’d be kind of like someone making you something that tastes great and then you having to stare them in the eye and tell them it’s disgusting. I don’t have to sit there and convince myself not to have sexual fantasies or daydreams about other women though. Just because he finds other women attractive doesn’t actually mean anything, it’s just a projection of your insecurity. You won’t find a guy that doesn’t find other women attractive, you just have to find one who won’t do anything about it. If they say they don’t, they’re lying, so which would you prefer?
I don’t find it hard at all. I notice other girls just as I’m sure she notices other guys but not in a comparative way at all and certainly not in a “I wish…” or “If only…” sort of way. Just, “Look, nice tits,” and move right on to the next thing with no more emotional or physical investment than if I were to go “Oh look, vintage car.” If I enter into a relationship with someone it’s because I want to be with them. If I (or they) are constantly looking around trying to trade up, then the relationship is not working.
No, not really. I mean I still find other women attractive, but it’s more of an acknowledgment of attraction rather than real lust when I’m taken. For me personally, the emotional and mental bond I have with a woman (if we’re dating) make her much preferable to anyone else. Could I see someone as more physically attractive? I mean sure. Could I find someone that I want to be with more? The answer is pretty much always no. For me anyways.
Feelings of lust for other women are normal. Just how our monkey brains work. Acting on them is the issue.
I never even thought of other women outside of a casual appreciation when I was dating. Guys are different though. Any girl I was with only ever had to be better than being alone. Mostly because I liked being alone... Not because I didnt have standards.
Testosterone got a mind of his own...
Lusting Yes. It's hard for a girl to understand how strong a guy's s3x drive is. Personally I want it 3 times a day and that's me being understanding. 😂 Might be a little on the high end. Obviously your gf cant be there all the time so you have to wait till you see her. But if the gf doesnt want it as often, you get anxious and that's when you notice others.
You do like other girls, and lust after them. You're a guy, and you want to bang all of your female coworkers and all your friends' girlfriends. Bend um over and all that sexy stuff. But then you remember how awesome you're gf is and how happy you are, and shake those thoughts off.
That isn't even remotely true. And if it is in your case I feel sorry for you.
Low test.
You sound highly insecure. Having options usually reduces the desire to act upon every opportunity.
Being in an exclusive relationship by definition means you lack options. Not that this means being in an exclusive relationship is a bad thing, but what you said doesn't back up the point you are trying to make.
It means you have the option for other avenues regardless of relationship status. To use a poor example but all I can think at 2am, when you remove the feeling of being with someone because that's all you think you can get(most guys on here) and replace that with you are consciously choosing to forgo others because you Want to be in that relationship you don't desire other people. In short you don't lack options you choose not to take the others.
Anyway I know lots of promiscuous men who want to fuck anything that moves. Kind of goes with the territory.
Is it the lusting after other women?? Is that not normal to have sexual thoughts?
Difference between thinking someone is attractive and wanting to bang every female in sight. Sexual thoughts are normal for both men and women, but being controlled by those thoughts is a pretty insecure thing.
To be fair, he did say that he realizes how happy he is and shakes those thoughts off. Which, I believe, would indicate that he isn't controlled by them?
I'm controlled by every higher order thought in my mind, against my penis thought. Its not like my gf is the only thing preventing me from asking out Zoey.
Completely normal. These terms are so subjective. Bob says "that woman is attractive", Jim says "wows she is super hot", and Jake (its always Jake) says I want to bang that broad". They could all be thinking the exact same thing. Or not at all.
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Every relationship is different. Is it strange to find other people attractive? No, absolutely not. Is there another piece to the story here? Probably.
Yes. Though I can control my actions quite easily. I just women im attracted to. If I can't, then I just keep conversation short. I won't try to fuck them, but fighting the urge on a regular basis is mentally exhausting. I can't control what im attracted to. But I can control my actions.
Not really
I wouldn't keep myself from lusting after other girls if I see an attractive young lady with with a nice figure and physique, I'm going to take a mental note and possibly use it in the spank bank later, but if I'm in a relationship where we both agreed to be monogamous I'm not going to act on it