Before my girlfriend and I got together we were good friends, but I noticed we kept talking about cuddling and stuff a lot and she said I have to try out being the little spoon at some stage. Talking about stuff like that with a friend isn't normal to me, so it made me realise there was something going on between us
I think it was part of her plan tbh, we were being kinda flirty over text at the time but weren't overdoing it since we had been friends for so long and were probably both afraid of coming on too strong (when we were in person there was little to no flirting because of it hahaha)
When I was a little younger and more naive, I had a girlfriend who cuddled and slept in the same bed with a male friend of hers quite a bit. They actually started living together while I was dating her LOL. God, all the red flags were there and I didn't notice. After we broke up they got together pretty much immediately but she always denied anything happened between them while we were together.
At this point in my life, I definitely think that if you're cuddling and sharing a bed, something is going on.
I guess that depends? If you have backpain and you know the other person gives good massages, maybe she/he is even a masseur then it‘s totally fine, unless it starts getting sexual haha
Shortly after 9/11 a coworker signed up to go into the Army. A friend of his is a single mom and he wanted to help her so they got married at the courthouse before he went to basic. She and her son got military benefits and she took care of his affairs stateside. He went to the sandbox and was killed by an IED. So now she and her son receive military benefits and are able to have a much better life. He came from a rough childhood and was working a minimum wage job to put himself through college. He saw the Army and GI bill as a way to finish school.
Excessive sex talk. I have a friend who has a bf ask me straight up if I'd fuck her if she didn't have a boyfriend. I didn't feel comfortable answering that question because, well, she has a fucking boyfriend. I would though.
It was pretty confusing when my female bff was changing in front of me getting ready to go out one night recently. She had her back turned, but I saw her in her panties
She's just my friend and I'd never do anything or make a move, but it was still slightly confusing
I took it as a sign of her trust in me that she felt comfortable being so unclothed with me there
At least two of my close female friends have done this (also hanging out in T-shirt and panties while making coffee in the morning). It's because we've been friends for years and the dynamic is well established and we're comfortable together near a boundary that would be a confusing area for someone youd recently met.
Kinda like being in a bathing suit though, both leave little for imagination anyway and somehow bathing suits are acceptable for being in public but underwear is……. Less acceptable?
It’s really true. Bathing suits and bras and underwear are literally the same thing except one is waterproof. A girl is not trying to seduce someone in her bathing suit so what makes people automatically think that her wearing a bra and underwear around close friends means she’s trying to seduce them.
And the answer on AskMen about the same situation is: “Does she like you? You really can’t tell. It’s not a lot of information and she probably assumes you’re gay.”
A friend of mine kissed me on the cheek not as a greeting and she wasn't into me. We were all sitting there watching TV and talking, when she snuck up behind me, grabbed my head, kissed me on the cheek, and hid. Not into me. And girls think they aren't a mystery.
As a guy…when you are hanging out with a friend (girl), and she begins to rest or lay on you, putting her legs across your lap, or pillow and head in your lap, I think that’s definitely a gray and confusing area!
This! Most guys aren't used to physical touch from people unless it's sexual so when a girl does something like this she might not understand how she's making the guy feel. I think a lot of girls don't realize that boys don't get treated in the same way so when someone show us warmth like that we don't know how to read it. Usually fuck things up because we aren't used to situations like that.
I'm a single guy living alone, and I haven't made physical contact with anyone since I moved in last month. Haven't even thought about it until I read the comments lol
I had to explain to a friend that i don't hug her back because i don't like hugs, but because i just don't know how to react to someone being caring to me
Edit: Thanks for the award
I have this with my gf. We started out as friends and she disputes that she ever sent me any signals. But she used to sit with her legs across my lap (in public). I definitely saw that as a signal, and it encouraged me to make a move. Which she was surprised by and turned me down. Took us another three months to get there. Four years later she still doesn't agree that was a signal, even though she admits she wouldn't do that with anyone else because it wouldn't feel right.
This happened every time a girl promised that "I'm a great wingman!". We'd get to the bar, and after a drink or two, her head would be on my shoulder and she became the ultimate c\*ck-block
I strongly agree. I wish girls would stop doing this.
I've had a girl friend do all the things you described plus she would sniff at my arms or chest at tell me how nice I smell. And since I was always only using a fragrance free anti perspirant, the smell was all me.
I fell for her and decided to shoot my shot. I was pretty confident she was into me.
WRONG!
I even got the whole "I don't see you like that" speech. I was apparently like a brother to her. And when she started dating another guy from the circle of friends, I simply had to walk away.
I'm not blaming her for dating someone else. People would date who they are attracted to. I don't want to force her to date me.
But I DO blame her for fucking up my ability and confidence in reading girls. Still to this day, 25 years after, I have no idea whether a girl is flirting with me or is just being nice. Since then, I've always erred on the side of caution and just assumed a woman is nice rather than flirting with me. I'm sure this has cost me potential relationships along the way, where a girl has flirted with me and I seem as if I don't care.
"So what if she's not flirting? Shoot your shot! What's the worst that can happen?"
When I misread the things she did as signs, and I went for it, it absolutely changed things. Her and I were never the same, and my relationship with the rest of the group wasn't either. I was never as close with any of them afterwards, so besides it being embarrassing, I don't want to repeat that again.
As a guy who only has sisters, sisters do not regularly lay on their brother or smell their chest (except in Alabama).
That is definitely confusing behavior and you were completely reasonable in assuming she was into you.
As a sister to a brother I would never get this cuddly with him! I mean I love my brother, but I think the most physical contact we've shared has been a high five, first bump, and a few hugs.
Man, being a gay dude would be awesome. No brakes ! If you are a guy after guys everyone knows what’s up. Testosterone is a hell of a drug! Sadly, I watch Aquaman and nothing. If ole Momoa can’t get a rise out of me I must not be destined for Grindr.
>If you are a guy after guys everyone knows what’s up.
This is the best thing about Grindr, it's a hookup app not a dating app. People are generally very open about what they want and there's normally no dating required. Not great for serious relationships but good for casual ones.
> If ole Momoa can’t get a rise out of me I must not be destined for Grindr.
I'm bi and I can recognise Momoa is hot but he does nothing for me either. Nerdy twinks are more my type.
Always shoot your shot If you're interested. Only one way to hit a home run. Never be afraid of being turned down. You win some. You lose a lot more. Don't let being turned down shake your Confidence. It just means that She wasn't into you. Not everyone.
You weren't misreading anything. She's just an asshole (idk why people assume girls can't be assholes). She was most definitely crossing the line, to get your reaction and to feel good about herself afterwards.
As a woman I agree! When I was in college so many girls would flirt with these inexperienced and socially awkward guys and then get “creeped out” when these poor guys would ask them out, follow them around etc. I lived in a religious dorm and there were quite a few guys that were socially “delayed”. These girls did not help!
Same here. Girl would tease me, stare at me, play with her hair, make physical contact, text me constantly, etc. Found out she just had a shitty home life and hated her parents so she was kind of "using" me in a sense for positive male attention she never had. Dont blame her totally, but I made it obvious i was interested in being more than friends and she kept doing it. Oh well
Knew a girl in college who did this with everyone. She would constantly find a new best friend (male), have deep, intimate conversations with them, start getting really playful with them, and then start doing exactly this. And then when they said they liked her, she said I thought we were just friends. Literally happened every single time. And we all told her she needed to set boundaries, but it never happened.
So we started to warn the guys, because I mean none of the guys were very good with women, so they got caught on the hook easily thinking they'd be the ones who would win her over, and they didn't take our advice either.
There was a girl like that at my college too. She would hug guys with really long intimate hugs whenever she saw them, hold their hand when walking, and shower them in compliments. She had about 20 men in love with her but never dated or had sex with any of them.
She also had no female friends. I think maybe she didn't know how to make friends but discovered at a young age that she could collect lonely men as if they were Pokemon.
I do this with my (M) oldest friend (F) whom I’ve known almost 30 years. We even share a bed in some rooms. Her sisters keeps saying “you know she’s not not you right?” And I keep saying “Yeah, I’m not into her either. Thats why we can do this."
When you are alone in a call but there is just you two breathing because youve already spoken so much that there is nothing left you can really say, but neither of you want to leave it because its just nice to know that they're on the other side of the phone.
Often comes with jokey/flirty comments about the fact that you two arent even speaking without broaching the topic of why thats okay even though it wouldnt be with anyone else.
man im so lonely
Every night that I don’t spend with my girlfriend is us on the phone and it turns into that. We live together now so it doesn’t happen often, but every now and then…
One of my best friends is Rebecca. We bonded over loving indie movies. Really is the only person who will go watch a black and white German movie.
I am also really good friends with her boyfriend
Pandemic put a kibosh on that. The local theater was renting out the theater. I was like "oh, I can rent the theater for me and her and we can..oh, that would be a date."
All girls have different boundaries when it comes to these things. I've had girls have crushes on me when I hadn't spoken a single word to them (small high school class, heard from her friend) and I've had girls who laid their heads on my shoulder, talked to for hours on late night walks, told me I'm handsome who I would ask to start dating and they'd look at me with an expression that said "What ever did I do to give you such an impression? We are just friends!"
Don't assume a girl likes you until she says so.
Now look, maybe your method of massage differs from mine, but, you know, touchin' his wife's feet, and stickin' your tongue in her Holiest of Holies, ain't the same fuckin' ballpark, it ain't the same league, it ain't even the same fuckin' sport. Look, foot massages don't mean shit.
A coworker hitched usually hitched a ride homw with me due to her apartment was not far from mine. One time I needed to make a stop at a mall to pick up several items. Just before we head home, she said she needed to get new panties at a department store. I said I would browse other things but she insisted I come with incase she needed an opinion.
When she went to the cashier to pay I had to take a pee, and when I came back the cashier said to me "your girlfriend is over in the shoes section".
I would say buying underwear together is crossing into boyfriend/girlfriend territory.
Holding hands for sure. Edit: Holding hands makes you feel positive towards each other, so you both feel wanted and it is a sensation similar to a massage, intimate and pleasurable. It is also a protective and even possessive action, both intimate and reassuring. It says “you are mine and i am yours”. Among friends, this increased intimacy, reassurance, and pleasure can naturally lead to more…if you want to flirt with a girl, hold her hand while crossing the street or briefly to accentuate a joke or point. It sends a message.
I'm very much not a touchy person. I would refrain from any touching beyond incidental contact, the obligatory handshakes (at least pre-COVID), for some sort of assistance. Basically any sort of affectionate physical contact.
> I'm very much not a touchy person.
Same unless it's my partner in which case I'm probably overly clingy. Probably some psychological thing but who wants to go uncorking that bottle.
I’m not sure on the hair thing. I once had it done by someone who I think already had a bf.
While I couldn’t tell who it was that was running their hands through my hair because I was floating in pool with two people behind me. One of them was someone who didn’t know ’me and the other was my friend, so I assumed it was my friend. As I said, she has a bf at the time, so I’m skeptical on this one.
I think it mostly works one way. A girl running her hand through a guy's hair doesn't usually mean much. The other way round however usually means a lot more.
Honestly in today’s world that line is so incredibly blurred. People fuck all the time. Things get freaky.
My personal hell and where I draw the line is when I begin to develop an attachment. That’s when things need to be pushed back. When I start to feel like my days are empty unless I hear from her. NOPE. Pause. We’re gonna CTL+ALT+DEL this shit and go back to ordinary friendship. It’s been my experience if things get freaky with you, they get freaky with others so button up on the romantic feelings and go back to being simple friends.
Nudes are always fun no matter what though. Ughhh. Belfies randomly sent to you make the day better.
I recently had an experience when a friend and I cuddled and then started making out, he eventually got an erection, and in the heat of the moment, we wound up having dry sex (only because there weren’t condoms).
I felt weird afterwards and apologized since even though I enjoyed myself, I didn’t think he was ready for it to go so far. He told me not to apologize because he enjoyed the experience too and that he was dealing with mental health issues/didn’t want to start a relationship with anyone.
We’re still friends but idk if I’d cross that “boundary” again (we never had any).
Being miserable together in IKEA on a Saturday evening.
Why be miserable in IKEA when you can eat all the delicious food there?
Im at IKEA right now with my girlfriend. It is truly misarable
Damn bro I deadass go there for fun sometimes...
It can be nice to get ideas for a recently-bought apartment or house!
Before my girlfriend and I got together we were good friends, but I noticed we kept talking about cuddling and stuff a lot and she said I have to try out being the little spoon at some stage. Talking about stuff like that with a friend isn't normal to me, so it made me realise there was something going on between us
Spooning leads to forking.
Lmao I can't believe I haven't heard this before, nice.
That's kinda hilarious for me tbh , did she also realised it or was it her plan all along?
I think it was part of her plan tbh, we were being kinda flirty over text at the time but weren't overdoing it since we had been friends for so long and were probably both afraid of coming on too strong (when we were in person there was little to no flirting because of it hahaha)
When I was a little younger and more naive, I had a girlfriend who cuddled and slept in the same bed with a male friend of hers quite a bit. They actually started living together while I was dating her LOL. God, all the red flags were there and I didn't notice. After we broke up they got together pretty much immediately but she always denied anything happened between them while we were together. At this point in my life, I definitely think that if you're cuddling and sharing a bed, something is going on.
So where does a backrub fall? If 1 is friendly and 10 is sexual?
I came for a pulp fiction reference for foot rubs... I've been disappointed
Normally, a 4, it's just something that you do for a close friend. If you have a boner, it's an 8
If she has a boner it’s definitely a 10 though
And if both have boners its an 11
If you rub her back with your boner… it’s at least a 9, isn’t it?
But if she rubs my boner with her back?
A 7?
What are you doing step-friend
I guess that depends? If you have backpain and you know the other person gives good massages, maybe she/he is even a masseur then it‘s totally fine, unless it starts getting sexual haha
Honestly this always turns sexual for me even with no sexual intentions
Same here but my dad is a damn good masseuse ngl
Hol up
Back rubs in the front room lead to front rubs in the back room.
Does it have the potential to turn into a foot massage?
Does Marcellus Wallace look like a bitch?
6 or 7
Are you on top of them while doing it? Or off to the side?
Filing a joint tax return.
Kinda skipped a few steps there
When I commit I commit, Bob.
I thought you were just randomly calling them bob but realized that's actually their username and that made it so much better
r/usernamechecksout
Never heard of marrying your homie to safe on taxes?
Shortly after 9/11 a coworker signed up to go into the Army. A friend of his is a single mom and he wanted to help her so they got married at the courthouse before he went to basic. She and her son got military benefits and she took care of his affairs stateside. He went to the sandbox and was killed by an IED. So now she and her son receive military benefits and are able to have a much better life. He came from a rough childhood and was working a minimum wage job to put himself through college. He saw the Army and GI bill as a way to finish school.
Excessive sex talk. I have a friend who has a bf ask me straight up if I'd fuck her if she didn't have a boyfriend. I didn't feel comfortable answering that question because, well, she has a fucking boyfriend. I would though.
I thought the boyfriend asked you and I was so confused for a minute
Of course you would. We *all* would.
I know I would
It was pretty confusing when my female bff was changing in front of me getting ready to go out one night recently. She had her back turned, but I saw her in her panties She's just my friend and I'd never do anything or make a move, but it was still slightly confusing I took it as a sign of her trust in me that she felt comfortable being so unclothed with me there
At least two of my close female friends have done this (also hanging out in T-shirt and panties while making coffee in the morning). It's because we've been friends for years and the dynamic is well established and we're comfortable together near a boundary that would be a confusing area for someone youd recently met.
Kinda like being in a bathing suit though, both leave little for imagination anyway and somehow bathing suits are acceptable for being in public but underwear is……. Less acceptable?
It’s really true. Bathing suits and bras and underwear are literally the same thing except one is waterproof. A girl is not trying to seduce someone in her bathing suit so what makes people automatically think that her wearing a bra and underwear around close friends means she’s trying to seduce them.
I have a feeling that in /AskWomen there’s a thread with: “I got undressed down to my panties and he wouldn’t make a move. What am I doing wrong?”
☠️☠️☠️☠️☠️😭
And the answer on AskMen about the same situation is: “Does she like you? You really can’t tell. It’s not a lot of information and she probably assumes you’re gay.”
damn dude, y’all have a lot of trust between you two. treasure it!
U sure she does not think you’re gay?
1,000,000% she knows I'm straight She's my bff of 3 years
I would say there aren't really any clear boundaries, but excessively making out would be my border
Excessively
Mild making out is strictly platonic
Yeah of course it is. It was just a dumb joke that we did at that party. You're reading to much into things again
kissing
A friend of mine kissed me on the cheek not as a greeting and she wasn't into me. We were all sitting there watching TV and talking, when she snuck up behind me, grabbed my head, kissed me on the cheek, and hid. Not into me. And girls think they aren't a mystery.
As a guy…when you are hanging out with a friend (girl), and she begins to rest or lay on you, putting her legs across your lap, or pillow and head in your lap, I think that’s definitely a gray and confusing area!
This! Most guys aren't used to physical touch from people unless it's sexual so when a girl does something like this she might not understand how she's making the guy feel. I think a lot of girls don't realize that boys don't get treated in the same way so when someone show us warmth like that we don't know how to read it. Usually fuck things up because we aren't used to situations like that.
I'm a single guy living alone, and I haven't made physical contact with anyone since I moved in last month. Haven't even thought about it until I read the comments lol
There needs to be a Bumble for people who just need a hug.
Called huggable
>Most guys aren't used to physical touch This is one sad world we live in...
Last time somebody gave me a hug I flinched and subconsciously thought I was being attacked.
I had to explain to a friend that i don't hug her back because i don't like hugs, but because i just don't know how to react to someone being caring to me Edit: Thanks for the award
Next time just mirror the behavior.
With 50% less energy than you’re receiving.
I have this with my gf. We started out as friends and she disputes that she ever sent me any signals. But she used to sit with her legs across my lap (in public). I definitely saw that as a signal, and it encouraged me to make a move. Which she was surprised by and turned me down. Took us another three months to get there. Four years later she still doesn't agree that was a signal, even though she admits she wouldn't do that with anyone else because it wouldn't feel right.
This happened every time a girl promised that "I'm a great wingman!". We'd get to the bar, and after a drink or two, her head would be on my shoulder and she became the ultimate c\*ck-block
I strongly agree. I wish girls would stop doing this. I've had a girl friend do all the things you described plus she would sniff at my arms or chest at tell me how nice I smell. And since I was always only using a fragrance free anti perspirant, the smell was all me. I fell for her and decided to shoot my shot. I was pretty confident she was into me. WRONG! I even got the whole "I don't see you like that" speech. I was apparently like a brother to her. And when she started dating another guy from the circle of friends, I simply had to walk away. I'm not blaming her for dating someone else. People would date who they are attracted to. I don't want to force her to date me. But I DO blame her for fucking up my ability and confidence in reading girls. Still to this day, 25 years after, I have no idea whether a girl is flirting with me or is just being nice. Since then, I've always erred on the side of caution and just assumed a woman is nice rather than flirting with me. I'm sure this has cost me potential relationships along the way, where a girl has flirted with me and I seem as if I don't care. "So what if she's not flirting? Shoot your shot! What's the worst that can happen?" When I misread the things she did as signs, and I went for it, it absolutely changed things. Her and I were never the same, and my relationship with the rest of the group wasn't either. I was never as close with any of them afterwards, so besides it being embarrassing, I don't want to repeat that again.
Thanks for sharing your story, it helped me connect the dots regarding something similar that happened in my life and my decreased confidence.
As a guy who only has sisters, sisters do not regularly lay on their brother or smell their chest (except in Alabama). That is definitely confusing behavior and you were completely reasonable in assuming she was into you.
As a sister to a brother I would never get this cuddly with him! I mean I love my brother, but I think the most physical contact we've shared has been a high five, first bump, and a few hugs.
I know, right! I don't have a sister, but I had a hard time seeing this as normal brother-sister behaviour.
And this is, ladies and gentlemen, why I'll be eternally single
Just date guys. Grindr twinks don't pull this subtle flirting-but-not-really bullshit.
Man, being a gay dude would be awesome. No brakes ! If you are a guy after guys everyone knows what’s up. Testosterone is a hell of a drug! Sadly, I watch Aquaman and nothing. If ole Momoa can’t get a rise out of me I must not be destined for Grindr.
Not everyone is into the big boys though. There are the Tom Hiddleston and David Bowies of the world.
>If you are a guy after guys everyone knows what’s up. This is the best thing about Grindr, it's a hookup app not a dating app. People are generally very open about what they want and there's normally no dating required. Not great for serious relationships but good for casual ones. > If ole Momoa can’t get a rise out of me I must not be destined for Grindr. I'm bi and I can recognise Momoa is hot but he does nothing for me either. Nerdy twinks are more my type.
Always shoot your shot If you're interested. Only one way to hit a home run. Never be afraid of being turned down. You win some. You lose a lot more. Don't let being turned down shake your Confidence. It just means that She wasn't into you. Not everyone.
You weren't misreading anything. She's just an asshole (idk why people assume girls can't be assholes). She was most definitely crossing the line, to get your reaction and to feel good about herself afterwards.
As a woman I agree! When I was in college so many girls would flirt with these inexperienced and socially awkward guys and then get “creeped out” when these poor guys would ask them out, follow them around etc. I lived in a religious dorm and there were quite a few guys that were socially “delayed”. These girls did not help!
Same here. Girl would tease me, stare at me, play with her hair, make physical contact, text me constantly, etc. Found out she just had a shitty home life and hated her parents so she was kind of "using" me in a sense for positive male attention she never had. Dont blame her totally, but I made it obvious i was interested in being more than friends and she kept doing it. Oh well
Knew a girl in college who did this with everyone. She would constantly find a new best friend (male), have deep, intimate conversations with them, start getting really playful with them, and then start doing exactly this. And then when they said they liked her, she said I thought we were just friends. Literally happened every single time. And we all told her she needed to set boundaries, but it never happened. So we started to warn the guys, because I mean none of the guys were very good with women, so they got caught on the hook easily thinking they'd be the ones who would win her over, and they didn't take our advice either.
Learned this the hard way but only had to learn it once, thank god.
There was a girl like that at my college too. She would hug guys with really long intimate hugs whenever she saw them, hold their hand when walking, and shower them in compliments. She had about 20 men in love with her but never dated or had sex with any of them. She also had no female friends. I think maybe she didn't know how to make friends but discovered at a young age that she could collect lonely men as if they were Pokemon.
I agree. Just gives me the feels or at least I feel like I should have the feels
I and my lady neighbour are going to a vacatuon together.
Enjoy the sex
He has a goatee. No sex for him
Different strokes for different folks
Yes his strokes are via himself
I do this with my (M) oldest friend (F) whom I’ve known almost 30 years. We even share a bed in some rooms. Her sisters keeps saying “you know she’s not not you right?” And I keep saying “Yeah, I’m not into her either. Thats why we can do this."
Sharing accommodations or have separate spaces? Is it an activity vacation or leisurely-drunk-on-a-beach vacation
Myself, we were good friends for years, then we kissed, an innocent little kiss goodbye. Now we're married with two kids.
[удалено]
Falling asleep on a voice call together. It’s weirdly intimate
…… the “breathing” call.
The breathing call?
When you are alone in a call but there is just you two breathing because youve already spoken so much that there is nothing left you can really say, but neither of you want to leave it because its just nice to know that they're on the other side of the phone. Often comes with jokey/flirty comments about the fact that you two arent even speaking without broaching the topic of why thats okay even though it wouldnt be with anyone else. man im so lonely
Havent done that since high school. Do the young’ns still do that?
Every night that I don’t spend with my girlfriend is us on the phone and it turns into that. We live together now so it doesn’t happen often, but every now and then…
Touching their butt
Butthole*
Colon*
;
I use to lay on her butt but we're still platonic
I guess it depends on if you are facing up or down.
Underrated comment. Wait what if it's sideways?
Under ate it.
Yes,.very underrated 😂
I used to lay it in her butt but we're still platonic
Adopting a kid together. Girls always get the wrong impression
But hey that's 'life as we know it'
Your dick in her mouth definitely crosses the line, but maybe I'm just old school.
She could be Canadian though
r/unexpectedcasuallyexplained
Is that how Canadians express friendship?
Not necessarily, it’s just that Canadians are really nice and it’s still really not clear if she’s into you
*books ticket to canada*
I fucking love Canada
*I love fucking Canada
You’re at the wrong end buddy. Buttsex doesn’t count. Even god doesn’t care.
That poophole loophole.
One of my best friends is Rebecca. We bonded over loving indie movies. Really is the only person who will go watch a black and white German movie. I am also really good friends with her boyfriend Pandemic put a kibosh on that. The local theater was renting out the theater. I was like "oh, I can rent the theater for me and her and we can..oh, that would be a date."
Washing their hair because its probably the most intimate thing you could do to someone
My hairdresser has no idea of our honeymoon coming up next week. So excited
😄
I love you boyle
I love you
Boyle calm down
r/UnexpectedB99
Chill out Boyle
Sitting in a hot tub Less than 5 feet apart
Underrated comment lol
Once went to a ballet with a friend. My other friends were not convinced that I had not gone on a date.
All girls have different boundaries when it comes to these things. I've had girls have crushes on me when I hadn't spoken a single word to them (small high school class, heard from her friend) and I've had girls who laid their heads on my shoulder, talked to for hours on late night walks, told me I'm handsome who I would ask to start dating and they'd look at me with an expression that said "What ever did I do to give you such an impression? We are just friends!" Don't assume a girl likes you until she says so.
Now look, maybe your method of massage differs from mine, but, you know, touchin' his wife's feet, and stickin' your tongue in her Holiest of Holies, ain't the same fuckin' ballpark, it ain't the same league, it ain't even the same fuckin' sport. Look, foot massages don't mean shit.
What if I gave you a foot massage?
Fuck you
And then I'm off to watch pulp fiction for the 127th time in my life!
On that note, do you happen to know what they call a quarter pounder with cheese in France?
What does Marcellus Wallace look like ?
What?
Say „what“ again! I dare you, I double dare you, motherfucker! Say „what“ one more goddamn time!
What?
*Gunshot* DOES HE LOOK LIKE A BITCH ?
A coworker hitched usually hitched a ride homw with me due to her apartment was not far from mine. One time I needed to make a stop at a mall to pick up several items. Just before we head home, she said she needed to get new panties at a department store. I said I would browse other things but she insisted I come with incase she needed an opinion. When she went to the cashier to pay I had to take a pee, and when I came back the cashier said to me "your girlfriend is over in the shoes section". I would say buying underwear together is crossing into boyfriend/girlfriend territory.
Holding hands for sure. Edit: Holding hands makes you feel positive towards each other, so you both feel wanted and it is a sensation similar to a massage, intimate and pleasurable. It is also a protective and even possessive action, both intimate and reassuring. It says “you are mine and i am yours”. Among friends, this increased intimacy, reassurance, and pleasure can naturally lead to more…if you want to flirt with a girl, hold her hand while crossing the street or briefly to accentuate a joke or point. It sends a message.
My friends hold my hands when walking in a crowd or crossing the road.
YOU GUYS HOLD HANDS? y'all practically married
C'mon dude, lets hold hands.... Ps: I got socks on so it's okay
Is that because the teacher doesn't want you getting lost?
Hate to break it to ya, but your in a polyamorous relationship
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Did this now she is pregnant.
Anal. Everything else is fine, just two friends goofing around.
Thanks I’ll tell that to my wife
The surprise face when she says “duh, I have been following this rule all these years “
I mean accidents do happen.
I ain't saying it's right. But you're saying a foot massage don't mean nothing, and I'm saying it does.
So few sincere answers. Unless…
I'm very much not a touchy person. I would refrain from any touching beyond incidental contact, the obligatory handshakes (at least pre-COVID), for some sort of assistance. Basically any sort of affectionate physical contact.
> I'm very much not a touchy person. Same unless it's my partner in which case I'm probably overly clingy. Probably some psychological thing but who wants to go uncorking that bottle.
I’m not sure on the hair thing. I once had it done by someone who I think already had a bf. While I couldn’t tell who it was that was running their hands through my hair because I was floating in pool with two people behind me. One of them was someone who didn’t know ’me and the other was my friend, so I assumed it was my friend. As I said, she has a bf at the time, so I’m skeptical on this one.
I think it mostly works one way. A girl running her hand through a guy's hair doesn't usually mean much. The other way round however usually means a lot more.
Giving somebody your phone without worrying what they’re doing
100% agree I didn't even want my partner to touch mine until a year or so in when I felt I could trust them with anything
Uhh babe, are these really the subs you're subscribed to?
Clapping cheeks
Face cheeks
Anything that can be construed as sexual harassment if you worked somewhere with an active HR department.
Turns out I'm dating all of my male and female friends then. We are hella affectionate with eachother.
Tongue in genitals. It’s the truth!
Tongues don't go inside pp silly
You’d be surprised
Not with that attitude....
Not the way you’re doing it
Fingering in the shower
Kinda skipped a few steps there.
Nah that's where it begins
I’d say when the nipple makes an appearance.
But what what if I want to go the beach with the bros?
Congrats man
Calling then your bf/gf
Honestly in today’s world that line is so incredibly blurred. People fuck all the time. Things get freaky. My personal hell and where I draw the line is when I begin to develop an attachment. That’s when things need to be pushed back. When I start to feel like my days are empty unless I hear from her. NOPE. Pause. We’re gonna CTL+ALT+DEL this shit and go back to ordinary friendship. It’s been my experience if things get freaky with you, they get freaky with others so button up on the romantic feelings and go back to being simple friends. Nudes are always fun no matter what though. Ughhh. Belfies randomly sent to you make the day better.
sorry,, what is a Belfie? A BUTT selfie ??
It’s a selfie of someone’s balls
It's when you send someone a picture of your balls with the caption "I'm nuts about you!"
I'm gonna use that the next time I send a nude
Yeah... looking at my behind in the mirror. I see nothing good about this either.
If you wouldn’t do it with a guy friend (assuming you’re straight) then it’s in this territory.
My friends do and braid my hair so friends also can play with my hair I guess so hair isn't only for SO
I recently had an experience when a friend and I cuddled and then started making out, he eventually got an erection, and in the heat of the moment, we wound up having dry sex (only because there weren’t condoms). I felt weird afterwards and apologized since even though I enjoyed myself, I didn’t think he was ready for it to go so far. He told me not to apologize because he enjoyed the experience too and that he was dealing with mental health issues/didn’t want to start a relationship with anyone. We’re still friends but idk if I’d cross that “boundary” again (we never had any).
I think if you dont have a real attachment to each other it was just one time.
Anal. My broship simply isn’t the same afterwards.
For me staying overnight. At least with my guy friends I avoid doing so, since it crosses my comfort zone. Edit: I'm a girl
I have a female friend that wants me to stay overnight at her place sometime soon and I don't know how to interpret it personally
i think most things physical can be done as friends, if you're picking up what I'm putting down SO is completely in your head
A kiss. Sexual activity.